My girlfriend just got diagnosed as bi polar and doesn't want to take her meds. Wat do /b/?
pic unrelated
Have her smoke some weed instead faggot.
What meds?
>>769200461
Yep, that sounds like something a bipolar person would do.
Is she type 1 or 2?
put meds in butt
>>769200856
>put meds in bennis
>cum in butt
>>769200461
fuckin bail. right now
It's not a death sentence if she doesn't take them.
Alot of bi polar folks are well functioning without meds.
For sure if she can't manage help her see a therapist and watch for substance abuse as that's common.
Hope she has a creative outlet since that's where many a manic folk shine with such extreme emotional highs and lows.
If you cared really I'd say be understanding communicative and honest with her.
My mother is bipolar, I'm amazed my father managed to stay so many years with her. I would probably abandon ship, sad but true
>>769200461
dump her, thats fucking nuts, and she wants to drag you along with her.. you dont need that bullshit
Good luck m8
>>769200583
she smoked weed, then had a manic episode.doc said it was weed induced
>>769201115
IT FUCKING IS
>>769201502
I want to, but I also really do love her, and am afraid she will be alone forever if I don't stay.
>>769200461
Hammer
Smash
Face
>>769201115
I'm bipolar, and I can definitely say while it is a tradeoff, being medicated is better. At the peak on my symptoms I can't function at all, being medicated worst case I just unmotivatedly trudge through the day.
>>769201115
I'm trying to be understanding with her, but her mood swings are brutal,when she get angry she is fucking awful.she feels like she doesn't need them and doesn't realize when she is getting manic
>>769202635
one of her main objections is the weight gain shes experienced on Depakote.
>>769202818
I lost 20 lbs on depakote and latuda. She is being a lazy cunt.
>>769202760
Right alot of un intended side effects of meds can really make things worse than better.
If she's unmanageable ask her to see a therapist. Theres a possibility she can learn coping techniques and understand her condition in a way that doesn't further it's terrible cycles and gives her control of it. Though some people myself included need to lose everything to become aware of ourselves.
>>769203206
ive been on messageboards and some people get weight gain, and some get weight loss.she is from an old school family and she and her mother don't believe in meds really,and that hasn't changed since the diagnosis. she took enogh to get out of her episode and then quit
>>769201215
I just noticed, that I've never met a male with bi-polar disorder.
>>769203447
that's what I'm afraid of and want her to avoid,but she is totally blind to it unfrtunately
>>769203516
We exist I can totally confirm this.
Probably less prone to see help or admit our deficiencies for sure.
>>769203516
There are men with bipolar disorder but ya I think its way more common in women and especially in america. You inbred and then the inbred ones with bipolar have babies and bipolars with bipolars have babies and all have bipolar endless cycle
>>769203725
Seeing as how you're one. Do you get the impression, it's being abused among women, to get special treatment?
I know it sounds ignorant and cold hearted, but most of the bi-polar women I've met, acted like spoilt children on a sugar rush. Sounds like the perfect condition to front, if you want to be free of any responsibility and be able to do and say whatever you want.
>>769203785
Ugh, don't get me started on children being taught the faults of their parents, as if it was normal.
Brother I've been right where you are. Make her take her meds or leave her. My ex refused to take hers and I woke up one day to her standing over the bed with a fuckin straight razor. She acted like she was just messing around but I think she was thinking about killing me. I acted like I wasn't pissed but I carefully planned my quick exit from that shit. She went to visit her mom for a few days and I fuckin got my essentials and left. I called her and told her I'm gone. She threatened to kill herself. She didn't,but I did hear that she went to prison for a year for cutting someone.
>>769204147
I don't think many women fake being bi polar, but at the same time my gf does act like a selfish child, but idk if that the bi polar or her
>>769203632
It's a sad truth,the blindness. That bottom can take a long time to hit and until it really hits just like me she may not see it. I feel for you anon. It's a tough place to be in to love someone who can't see their own self destruction. You can leave her and maybe she'll understand one day or maybe she'll hate you and disregard your words. You could stay but if you do I genuinely recommend you demand she sees a therapist and make her realize her problems are yours too. The difference is you can leave her problems and she cant.
>>769204262
that's what I'm leaning towards,she has nt been receptive to it so far.
Bipolar sex Is the best sex. I've always heard don't stick your dick in crazy but dayumm. I don't ever tell women my real name.
>>769200461
Have your other girlfriend take them
>>769203516
Knew a bipolar guy back in the day. He's a normal guy now though. Wife. Kids. Not sure if he's still on meds or not.
Meanwhile, my bipolar ex is still bonkers.
Enjoy dating two girls at once that don't mind being in a love triangle
>>769204509
you speak the truth. the one benefit of when she was in maic mode was that she wanted to fuck like 5 times a day and wanted ro watch hardcore porn while we fucked,the kind of shit I didn't tell her I watch lol
>>769204147
I mean toxic people ecspecially in our victim coddling society don't see a reason to fix themselves if their illness exonerates them of their actions and words. I'm sure some people are just immature bitches fronting too.
>>769204691
I cant grab a beer at the bar on the way home from work before she flips out on me for not calling,let alone having a girl on the side haha
>>769204147
Almost all american look the same almost all have similar hair facial features and its because your inbred its fact your parents love fucking sisters brothers cousins everyone in family
>>769204448
Honestly depends on how much you wanna be with her?
>>769204731
Yep. I was with this one chick who wanted to watch lesbian porn and then bukkake shit
>>769204731
The highs and lows my dude they're real as hell.
At least from my perspective it's best to learn to minimize the lows and ride those highs when they come. The problem with meds I guess is your more level and you get neither. I can understand say the ultimatum of forced drugging not going over very well. Would you be ok with that ultimatum on you ecspecially being as clearly unaware as she is now?
>>769205295
she definitely will not be receptive to that idea, I want to wait until she is evened out before I begn that covnersation
>>769205652
Forced medication by way of ultimatum isn't a good idea. People don't take well to that no matter what illness they do or do not lack it's just to easy to see as an affront of character.
However as I've stated the ultimatum of therapy is a great middle ground for many reasons. It's less an attack than forced medication. It can allow her to learn without making her destitute to pills which im sure she fears as any person would, and conversely it can open the door to better perceptions of the future of medications from her perspective if it truly can't be managed otherwise.
You still state your willingness to leave if there is no change or even attempt. Which means you tried if that itself is important to you, y'know because love is a thing.
>>769201215
fucking this man. my mom is bipolar and my parents did good to keep it hidden most of me and my siblings lives. eventually she started smoking and drinking, quit her job per the advice of her therapist, and has become a full blown alcoholic. now she gets shit faced on her down days and my father has to come home and deal with it. on her manic days she's sober and it's like she's a completely different person. it's pure hell and i don't know how my father has endured it. it's terrible to say, but i feel my mother would be better off dead because she just spends her days drinking all day and watching tv. she has no hobbies, no friends, no ambitions, and is just miserable all the time.
>>769206957
Comfort can really hamper any need to change or ambition to better oneself for sure. That doesn't just apply to bi polar folk either. Though she sounds like my now deceased best friends mother and I can see why you feel that way about her. I know he did.
>>769200461
Dating an unstable bi-polar chick sucks. If she doesn't take care of her self she'll probably end up fucking you over. I've been there. It sucks. Don't let her drag you down if she doesn't want to take care of herself. You just end up busting your ass trying to help her, only to get thrown away.
Good luck OP
My wife is Bipolar and I can tell you it's a fucking headache. When she's manic I pretty much just stay out of her way and fuck her as much as I can. When she's depressed I practically have to get her dressed for work. My biggest issue is we're talking about having kids and she wants to stop her meds for her pregnancy, but the last time she tried lowering her dosage the cops got called by the neighbor and I had to drive in from out of town to sit in the ER with her. Now that we're married and live together I'm afraid she'll get one of my guns and hurt herself.
Truth be told, I love her and wouldn't trade her for anything. Plus, sticking your dick in crazy is a lot of fun if you can handle the consequences.
>>769200461
Type 1 or 2, OP? It's important.
OP. My bf is currently across the country with a manic hookup & refusing to speak to me. Just giving me little clues that he's still alive, while the manic hookup chick is over the fucking moon happy. Because that's what bipolar (1 in his case) mania can do to others. He went off his meds in April because he was sick of being depressed & then he fucking blasted off.
I love him, will never give up on him, but holy fuck this is hard. If you love her enough & can put up with this, it often takes some time following initial diagnosis for them to sort things out, get the right med cocktail & make a plan for the next episode.
It's not their fault. Not wanting to take meds is a symptom of the disorder. Not having insight into their condition. A symptom. She needs your love & patience. But if you can't do it, it's understandable too.
>>769205652
This is the only thing you can do. Wait for euthymia. Good luck.
>>769210220
You're a strong person. I thank you as one manic man for another.
>>769210800
Thanks for saying that. Really. I've never felt so alone in my life. He's won't talk to me because I got him hospitalized. It's his 4th hospitalization in a year, since his initial diagnosis.
& if you feel alone too, I hope you will know that there are people like me out there. That love boundlessly. He's fucking killing me. But it's not his fault. I know he's still in there. I will wait.
>>769200461
Either leave her or get used to dealing with bullshit.
>>769211323
I know they exist. I had someone like that. I drove her away. I don't blame her for leaving. Though it does bring me grief.
I've never been hospitalized but I am (was) a drunk and had been arrested several times and did get caught attempting to neck myself so I probably should've been.
Though I differ, I recognize these as my faults. Those actions were me at my worst but still me. Gotta accept it. I hope you find peace as does he.
>>769200583
Ex was bipolar and used weed to not hurt people. It's ironic they sent her to prison from probation cause she didn't stop smoking weed so they put her in prison and made her take stronger drugs so she doesn't hurt nobody.
>>769202331
weed induced yeah sure
>>769211985
How did you drive her away?
>>769212824
I would say things to hurt her when I drank/ blacked out. I would do crazy shit she'd have to deal with and apologize for and didnt recognize it until it was too late. That subconscious space is unfortunately occupied by a desire to self sabotage because of the guilt of many things I have done in my life, the deep belief I didn't deserve the happiness she had given to me.
>>769213292
You have type II?
I'm watching the little clues just now. He's awake, at 4AM where he is. He's doing things that would indicate he's ramping up for another acute manic/psychotic break. & the manic hookup doesn't seem as happy.
I wish I could reach out to him. But he really seemed to need his space.
>>769213545
>>769213545
Yes. Though the drinking really exacerbates my hypomania to what could be considered absolute mania. (See botched suicide from delusions of not being able to escape).
I wish I could help you with insight but I'm not sure what another man wants? Or recognizes? Or how one expresses their kettle about to boil over?
Why would he need space from you?
>>769200949
is that 6ix9ine
>>769214168
Because I broke his trust by contacting his bff & fam & psych hospital to work with cops & cops where he was to make sure they knew he's having an episode. So he could be safe. They were well informed when they found him. The moment he got his phone back, he told me not to text anymore. I told him I loved him & would be there no matter what.
That's why space :(
>>769214497
>>769214497
Well taking ones freedom for the security of knowing he's safe I can see as quite a transgression if not still understandable objectively. Ecspecially with police involved and their involvement could've spelled his death. I'm guessing therapy hasn't done him well assuming he's tried it? Or perhaps he's decided he's above it?
Wish I could give you the right answers to help your mind to ease.
What was he doing/trying to do?
>>769214966
He hasn't done much therapy. He had run away from his manic hookup & was wandering the streets looking for a delusion. This year's mania was very different from last year. This year he was talking about violent things. Last year he was pretty happy & psychotic. This time he was angry & I was terrified he was going to attack someone/get shot. That's why I sounded alarm. I've been questioning if I was wrong here though. What do you think?
>>769215443
I think you did the right thing. It's always a pain in the ass to do something like that but it's still the right thing.
I'm the guy who posted previously about his wife having bipolar. I remember being miles away from home talking to her on the phone while the cops were opening her door. I didn't know if the cops were really there or she war delusional, so I told her to give the phone to the cops so I could talk to them. I managed to talk them down from hauling her away in an ambulance and letting her call a friend to take her to the hospital. Like I said, it's a pain in the ass and you know just as well as I do that you can't fix them.
>>769215710
Thank you so so much for replying. I needed to hear that. I hope he will forgive me, when he is well. Yeah, I know I can't fix. I learned the hard way, after trying so hard. Does your wife have type 1 as well?
>>769215971
I don't actually know which one she has. I'm pretty sure it's type 1 since if she goes off her meds at all she gets delusions about people watching her and stuff.
>>769215443
What delusion is he looking for? Is it completely far gone from reality?
I mean from what little you've told me it seems as though his attachment to reality is deteriorating? Are you sure he doesn't have type 1? Wild delusions completely detached from reality for extended weeks ? Or does he abuse drugs or alcohol in a way like I did that just make him batshit ?
I don't think you were wrong if it was serious as you say and I hate the idea of someone freedoms being taken too.
>>769216197
Yeah, 1 is severe mania & depression. 2 is hypomania & severe depression.
I need to go to bed now. Thank you both for the kind words, & g'luck to all of us.
>>769216249
He was looking for a hacker group active in the 90s. He called me to ask me to direct me to them. Then when I couldn't angrily asked for an Apple store. Which he went to a lot last year. So. Very gone. He is very much type 1.
It was that serious, so. Thanks for saying I wasn't wrong. G'night for reals <3
>>769216394
I really genuinely hope the best of luck to you and him. Expressing these things and listening somehow makes me feel as though I've let Alyssa know my thoughts though she may never hear them. Thank you.
I am a bipolar who just recently went off their mess. I had to. I wasn’t even the same person. I was just on a low on the time but I didn’t care. They make you not care about anything. I am managing mine by keeping busy, exercise, right diet. I have a support system. If meds become a necessity, I do not object using them to stable me. But I really have no desire to go back on them.
>>769200461
It's easy: either she takes the meds or you should gtfo. As fast as possible. If the diagnosis stands true she is suffering from an illness and refusing treatment is just plain stupid. There are plenty of possible combinations of drugs she could try to keep the side effects as bearable as possible. If she straight up doesn't even want to try she is just a lazy cunt and her stupid believes are held in higher regard than those of all the medfags who spend years and years in school learning that shit. That makes her not only a lazy cunt with an illness that is going to effect you in a big way but also a smartass hoe full of herself.
>>769200461
Bail or convince her to take them. I've known many bipolar people in my life, including my ex and my mother. They need their medication. They're barely human without it.
>>769200461
Don't listen occidental meds. They are trashy garbage. There is simple way to cure this and other mental pblm, it's fucking easy .. Stop live in this fucking dommed society, u are actually living in a world at the image of sodom and gohmor. Everyone has brain pblm cause of this. (To make it short : u have to live the way jesus did)
>>769202470
>I want to, but I also really do love her, and am afraid she will be alone forever if I don't stay.
found your photo.
Also, anyone who has been there will tell you:
>GET THE FUCK OUT NOW!!!!!!
>GET THE FUCK OUT NOW!!!!!!
>GET THE FUCK OUT NOW!!!!!!
People with bipolar only make your life harder. They're like aggressive children that turn into forgetful old people, and vice versa. It's horrible and frustrating, you'll spend years copping abuse from them that they'll forget about or act like they're always the victim.
>>769200461
hit her
>>769217680
>It's easy: either she takes the meds or you should gtfo.
nope. heres exactly what will happen:
-she'll take her meds
>she'll feel better, so
>she'll stop taking her meds
>things will get out of control so
>she'll take her meds again/be hospitalized
>she'll feel better so
>she'll stop taking her meds
rinse, repeat
>>769217975
This is truth!
She'll eventually threaten you with promises of suicide.
>>769204811
Married to a bipolar girl. Her commitment to me is that she takes steps to control it. If she can't do that she's not committed and I'll leaver her. You don't get a medal for putting up with this shit.