What do? >be 22 >girlfriend 19 >been together for 9
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What do?
>be 22
>girlfriend 19
>been together for 9 months
>she is in the Army (mandatory service)
>she decided she wants to be a commander, which means I will see her for few hours once a week for half a year, she just told me "I have a talk with my officer on Tuesday and I'll tell him I want to go to the try outs"
>she didn't even ask whether it is okay with me that we will barely see each other for half a year
>she also mentioned few times that after her service she wants to fly abroad for half a year, she didn't ask me whether I even want to join her or if I even want to be abroad for half a year
I feel like she puts herself first when it comes to this relationship and I always put both of us first
I really love her and I know she loves me too but she keeps doing stuff that makes me feel like I'm not even in 2nd place
for example
>she lives far from me, so she always comes to my house since she is serving the military base which is really close to where I live
>she begs that I will come to her house on friday
>I go to her, thinking I'm going to sleep at her house and go home sometime on Saturday
>she tells me she's going at night to a party with her friends (girls)
>I tell her that it is really annoying since I drove to her house and planned on sleeping and she never told me she's going to that party
>she's not cancelling her plans but tells me she knows she made a mistake and she should have cancelled it before and that I should have slept at he house but its too late to cancel
thoughts?.
>>768928410
You let her drag you down, she doesn't let you get in the way of her dream and goals. You are the bitch in Tue relationship
>>768928522
you say these are her dreams but being a commander there is first of all literally shit
second of all she didn't want to be a commander 3 months ago it just popped to her head and because she puts me 2nd place after her she immediately goes for it without giving a fuck about what I think
Communicate this to your gf, /b/ can't help except to convince you that your gf is somehow a whore or you're somehow a cuck.
>>768928410
You're getting cucked, relationships in the military don't work.
Forget relationships in the military. They can work just fine. It's long distance relationships that is the problem here. Long distance sucks, it sucks having to just chat online or get the odd phonecall from the person you love, it really does...
>>768928645
I told her that and she said she thought I would be more supportive, I told her I am supportive but the fact that she doesn't give a fuck about my opinion to be asking me what I think about the commanding is an issue
I mean all outcomes are shitty right now
>she still goes commanding and I realize she actually puts me second and we are not in the same mindset as to what a relationship should look like
>she doesn't go commanding because of me and she will always remind me that I'm destroying her dreams or some stupid shit
>>768928873
I'm not going to do a long distance relationship, I'm clingy and I know it is a problem so if I have to find a girl who is also clingy I will do it
if she thinks she can go abroad to half a year and I will just wait for her at home she is definitely wrong
AMERICA First, boyfriend second
>>768929055
>mandatory service
>>768929055
does that sound like America to you?
>>768928899
if she's deadset on doing that, then it's up to you to decide whether you want to date somebody who does that. Sounds like she's not really considering her partner when she makes choices on long-term things, which I would definitely feel disrespected about. If I were you, and she was 100% going to both do the military thing and the travelling thing, I'd just save myself a year and breakup. Would suck a whole lot, but I believe it would be better long-term, considering I hate long-distance relationships. I'm not you though. Who knows, you might be able to come to a compromise or someshit.
Women that are overly focused on there careers are often not the best. Might sound sexist but whatever. I think you'd be happier with a more traditional type of girl. I have also heard that people with careers such as Police Officers or Army often end up getting a partner who has the same type of job as them.
>>768929148
I will not do long distance no matter what, I don't care how much I love her. if she is far away she is not my girlfriend
in terms of commanding, do you think that I should severely explain to her how much it had me upset that she didn't even consult with me but tell her that I do want her to go do it so that she will be happy?
but tell her that I will not do long term relationship and if she plans on flying for half a year that I will not be supporting it and we will have to break up?
thanks
She's not that bothered about you. Explain that you're looking for more commitment and move on.
Then again, we could also say that maybe you are disrespecting her but not letting her do what she wants and live her dreams as a commander.
But it sounds like that's just not going to work for you so maybe it's best for you two to just mutually decide to let it go and wish each other the best or something.
You need to have a talk about it without each other regardless, full stop. Not much more we can say about it here. Up to you two.
>>768928410
It's the IDF isn't it?
>if she is far away she is not my girlfriend
then why are you even making this thread?
Just wanna vent?
>>768929292
So basically, if she goes she is no longer your girlfriend. What about if she stays?
And if there is no possiblity of her staying then as I said why even make the thread lol.
You'll either break up or she will have to forgo her career. Either way one of you will be unhappy so yeah sorry b/ro looks like your just gonna have to move on.
Use the recovery time to work on yourself and channel any negative emotions into something positive like lifting weights.
Cheers. not gtfo
>>768929337
I'm talking about flying abroad not the commanding, we're still not there
>>768929398
whatever, point still stands
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>>768929436
Finally, a sensible response.
>>768929420
I could decide that I will endure this half year seeing her once a week to let her fulfill what she suddenly claims is her "dream" but put my foot down on the flying abroad
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>>768929398
I haven't seen a sorrier display of athleticism since Seamus Durheflitty got japped by Jansen "Koreatown Express" Tinselkanse down at Shantzburg Community Park - what the fuck is the matter with you?
>>768929255
As much as it sucks to do this to someone, you need to give her an ultimatum
Either she is committed to you, or she is committed to telling people to shoot brown people for their oil
Ask her which one matters more and you'll have the answer as to whether or not to stay with her.
>>768929718
Show some fucking respect - >>768929490
>>768929255
I reckon you should explain to her how you might be looking for something more serious than what she's looking for in this relationship. Express to her just how much it hurts you that she's making really serious decisions without so much as notifying you about them until after she's decided. She'll probably tell you that it's her choice - and she's right - but that doesn't mean you shouldn't have a say in it. It's your relationship too, and what she's doing is having a big impact on it. Make sure to tell her that the conversation you guys are having is NOT so that she changes her mind, but just telling her that it hurt you, and you will probably break things off if it continues as planned. Explain that you don't want to guilt her into anything, but that you're looking for something other than what she's looking for in the relationship, and so if she does go through with this then you're probably out.
>>768928410
>I feel like she puts herself first when it comes to this relationship and I always put both of us first
She is right and you're wrong.
>thoughts?.
You're both young and you're supposed to live your lives now.
>>768929735
Noe
You know what you should do instead OP?
>>768929750
>>768929754
Pay attention, fuckwits - >>768929490
>>768929490
wtf are you even trying to say??
>>768928410
Sabotage her birth control. Get her pregnant with nigger cum.
>>768929877
What's he's trying to say is that this is now a spiderman thread.
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>>768929877
I'm trying to say that's what you get when you trifle with a superior physical specimen like Jansen, he shits himself at least twice daily and all that energy not going into controlling bowel movements is channeled into pure strength
>>768929958
Fuck off.
race mixing is bad mkay
>>768929875
>>768929975
She won't be commanding shit with a niglet.
why don't you just join the military and you guys can travel together <3333333
>>768929975
I'm actually trying to help you. All you need to do to make my plan work is obtain nigger cum. Try using your mouth faggot.
>>768930162
hmm lets see who is known for promoting race mixing again...?
Yeah that's right.
There is only one red allowed in this thread
>>768928410
Don't cheat but start getting close to another girl. She obviously doesn't want you. End it when you have some potential prospects. No one deserves to be treated like that.
>>768928625
>you say these are her dreams but being a commander there is first of all literally shit
Not to her apparently. Let her go. You're only getting in her way.
>>768928410
hahahahahahaahahaahhahahahaha FAGGOT
you're one of those obsessive fags cause you hardly get any, right? fucking manlet bitch. kill yourself
>>768929436
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agreed
>>768928410
My gf is all over me. We live an hour away so I see her on my time. Shits perfect. Your dick sounds small and she just keeps it in a cage because she doesn't have time to find another one/she finds lots of other ones
>>768930646
sure
This thread is obviously fake. There’s no such rank as commander in the army you dumb fuck and if she’s trying to get promoted as an officer that means she 1) already is an officer which you need a Bach degree for and since she’s only 19 doubt she has one. Or 2) she finished her first enlistment but again only 19. You’re either the worst boyfriend alive and don’t listen to a damn word your girl says or you’re doing an awful job of trolling /b/. Next time get your facts straight. Oh and what the fuck is mandatory service? There’s no fucking draft you moron.
>>768930137
Gtfo you troll
>>768928410תגיד לה שהיא אישה טיפשה
>>768930974
You know there are other armies in the world other than the US.
Jews, Greeks, South Koreans do mandatory service. I think Singapore may also but not 100% and too lazy to google.
Also there are plenty of armed forces where you do not require a degree.
But I agree OP is trolling and retarded.
>>768930974
Took the words out of my mouth
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>>768931107
Fuck other countries. America should have bombed everyone into submission before the whole world got nukes. I say bring back the 40’s when America was great. Ally with Hitler and take over the damn globe!
>>768931733
I like your style but this is kinda a generic /b/ autistic rant that kinda relates to the thread but not really.
But thank you for your input.
