Hello /b/, I need some advice. My wife got fat, how do I convince her to lose some weight with me?
Story time:
> Be me
> Meet GF when she is 19 - hot as hell little J girl. Had a bit of curve, but not fat.
> Travel with her, live in EU with her.
> I'm running 10k a day at that stage and eating like crazy. She's eating the same amount and not moving.
> Over the span of 10 years GF puts on 20 kgs
> Still the most amazing person I've ever met and hey, boobs.
> Wife her up because she's the love of my life.
> Have a kid the year after and she adds on another 5kg or so.
> She's now 80-something kgs (for a little Japanese girl, that's a lot).
> Being that much overweight is hurting her body image, hormone balance, mood and sex drive terribly. She hates being naked.
I've never called her 'fat' or used derogatory terms.
I've tried discussing it openly that perhaps she would feel better about her body if she was to shed some weight.
I've tried the 'let's exercise and be awesome energetic parents together for our kids' angle.
I've lost a lot of muscle and put on a bit too currently @ 23~24 BMI. She's mid 30s BMI
So, how do I convince her to lose some weight with me? and how do you who have kids find time to exercise?
(I asked this on /fit/ but didn't get much traction so I'm asking here too.)
Bumping with asian girls.
Moar
>>768642178
maybe start working together and say YOU want to go on diet and you want to start eating healthy? thats all i got anon, but please bump with asian girls
>>768642326
Roger that.
option one is make it a health issue
option two is to say it makes her unsexy, which is harsh and you look like a hypocrite if you've let yourself go a bit too
option three is to start lifting and tighten up and shame her into losing weight by proxy
>>768642021
Sorry bro but that's a one way street. If she isn't taking any initiative after speaking to her reasonably then you're doomed. I've seen this shit with so many women and they've never improved.
>>768642021
Post pics
>>768642021
You both deserve to be fat and die :0 especially since she has spawn a hapa. Minght as well try and life before you sudoku.
>>768644821
Yeah, na about posting pics. But I'm encoding some webms of my fav. JAV to keep the thread alive.
Wow it shouldn't be this hard to webm.
>>768642021
Change dieting habbits. Eat a 500 caloric deficit. I know it's hard to make asian women not eat, it's basically the most important thing to them and their culture. But damnit, buy her a mirror so she can count the folds on her fat belly.
Finally got this webm shit working.
In exchange for advice I offer the best JAV I have.
>>768645201
I agree, unless you post pics op. Jav bbw harem is ebin
Moar
JAV bump
>>768649864
why are the japanese so awful with their hands? is it due to radiation from american bombs?
You coward.
Make her gain more weight, and cherish her body.
>>768650070
LoL. She's amazingly beautiful right now; my favorite person in the whole world.
The only problem is her poor body image and hormone issues from being fat means she doesn't have the sex drive she used to.
I'm cherishing my hand mostly these days.
>>768649982
I will swap you sauce for thoughtful advice.
>>768650070
Beta fuck
>>768644267
I'm in the same boat as OP. Mine is vietnamese in her 40s now.
She used to be damn hot in her 20s and I had the best sex ever until she hit 30 and got pregnant. She has 15kg more than when we met. I'm not a into sports but I take care of what I eat and try to have minimum exercises. She eat as much as me, sometimes even more and she looks more and more like a landwhale.
I tried every way to convince her to loose weight. She lost maybe 10kg during a couple of diets but she got all the fat back because she's just fucking eating loads of food.
I'm sorry OP, but I agree with anon, if she lacks this level of self esteem that prevents her to become a whale, she will never get thin again.
If you're good looking, you'd be better off getting another woman.
>>768650486
thats a guy by the way
>>768650409
And therein lies the problem. I love her, I've got a kid with her. (Who is the best little thing in the world, honestly!).
So I don't really want to leave her.
I mean hell, it would improve her life too if I could convince her to take care of herself.
Sorry to hear about your Vietnamese landwhale. I hope you find something better to use your harpoon on.
Bumping with more JAV
And more
By far my favorite sex position
Why am I even making these
>>768650707
I understand OP, but anyway one day your desire will fade and so your love for her. I loved her when she started getting fat, but I'm getting sick of it. You will more and more compare the nice little chicks with their cleavages and amazing butts and you will get more and more disgusted by your wife.
Sad but true.
Myself, I got a Chinese christmas cake gf, and she put on weight in the past year; after being petite and tiny for the years I've known her prior.
Her libido only went up. It's great.
>>768642021
>wife
You lost the moment you said I do.
>>768651053
I guess I need to work on my fitness then. Whichever way it goes I will be prepared.
>>768651135
Yeah, it goes up for the first 10kgs hey, the next 15 aren't so kind - when you start tipping into obesity your hormone balance goes wonky.
>>768651217
I never understood how mice could be so stupid, until I did. It's a trap, boys.
>>768651559
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>>768651596
this is hot
>>768651715
>>768651889
Delete Facebook, diet, hit the gym.
>>768651226
>Yeah, it goes up for the first 10kgs hey, the next 15 aren't so kind - when you start tipping into obesity your hormone balance goes wonky.
This. At the beginning, big boobs are great but when you can't see the limit between her butt and her thigh fat becomes a turn off
>>768642021
Man I'm in the same boat. I love food, I eat a shitton but I also workout as much as I can and I run a lot, and I'm very active during work. My girl is not but still eats the same amount of food. I've tried it all, easing her into a healthy lifestyle, working out together, even going vegan with her, shit doesn't last more than a week. If she doesn't want to improve, it will never happen. Women are stubborn as fuck when it comes to working out. Lots of my buddies girls are the same way. Once they get comfortable, they stop caring. She spends hours on insta looking at models and shit and then complains all day she doesn't look like that but makes no effort at all.
How old is the kid and how involved is she as a parent?
Get the kid into physical and easily shared hobbies and she gets a natural way to get active
Climbing, hiking, running, canoeing etc are all things she can do with your spawn
>you're beautiful hun but I want our kid to grow up healthy
>>768654288
Kid is 2 years old - I take her walking around town every day, kick a ball, play with the ducks etc. But being 2 she has the range of a first gen electric car. Not good for exercise.
>>768653722
Yeah... she's comfortable and doesn't care. I guess if you like it at its current weight don't put a ring on it.
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>>768655154
That's the end folks. Hope you enjoyed.
>>768655307
give us sauce
>>768642021
Think more misogynistic. Much more. Women are like kids, you can't just say hey I wish you would lose a little more weight. Think about your values. She's just going to feel bad for a bit and then probably eat some more because she's feeling unhappy and insecure. You also don't ask if she would like to go on a diet that puts the burden on her and then if it fails she feels she's going to get blamed. The issue here isn't whether she wants to be thin or not sure she would like to be but she's a woman and has no real idea how to get from here to there and it seems scary and hard.
The only correct path here is for you to go on a diet. You are now on a diet. You don't lecture her about it at any point but you will openly go through all the correct actions for doing a diet where she can see them. Plan it out. Figure out what your macros and deficit will be. Take your starting weight, measure as you go and etc. Ask her to help cook healthy food that will allow you to do YOUR diet. Bring her recipes for YOUR diet and work together to learn how to make them. Don't insist she eat your diet food if she wants something else or has a bunch of cookies that's fine. At every step, show don't tell. The important thing is she will see first hand exactly how a diet works, how to do one and the results. Drop about 15-20 pounds then wait. I guarantee she will ask to do your next diet with you.
>>768642021
Start taking her on walks, then longer walks, then jogs, then runs, then go to the gym. It's all about baby steps OP
sauce
>>768642326
This is horseshit. People say this shit all the time, friends, psychologists, social workers, all of them - and it's complete and utter horseshit.
"Be a good example to your woman, lead her with your actions, and she will be with you and follow your lead." I have been doing this for YEARS with my wife who just puts my fine and energetic actions in the bank and continues to be a lazy piece of shit herself.
If she won't do it for herself, she won't do it for anybody. Not you, not your kids.
Fuck the whore, dump her ass, and start enjoying your life again. She's not worth your pain.
>>768644267
SO MUCH THIS
Dont have much to say about it cause I havent had many girls and I'm young but, pretty much the same thing happened to my parents, dad dumped mom, now dad is happy to live again, while mom is now 50% crying 50% " meh idc, i can eat what I want now " eh.
>>768657565
Scorpion and the frog my nigga. You aren't going to get her to go against her nature no matter what kind of example you put on. Your bad for marrying her if you resent who she is though.
>>768658003
Lol I actually resent my wife for totally different reasons. She's skinny, super hot, works on herself very hard in the physical sense.
But she never grew up. In the decade we've been married, I've matured a lot and she has remained very juvenile.
Not OP obv
>>768642021
Appreciate. I know it's personal preference but there's no greater fuck than w/ a heavier girl. If she goes in top she'll take you so hard and deep you won't ever question it again.
>>768658174
Whatever you say, Tyrone.
>>768657057
I was going to post this! Most women are very insecure so when they see your belly disappear in a somewhat sixpack she believes there is still hope for her. Also in the summer go to beaches and outdoor stuff, take your shirt off and keep her reminded you look great. Even tell her some girls are flirting with you and give you compliments.
>>768642021
If you used to run 10k a day and now your BMI is 24, you really don’t have a lot of room to complain, let’s start there. In your head, you’re still fit and all but a 24 BMI says otherwise.
As for her, you basically gave up any ground to insist when you chose to marry her _after_ she’d put on the weight.
If she really is miserable because of it but won’t get off her ass on her own the only reasonable angle you have is psychology. Make it clear you need her to have a much better sense of self because it is impacting the quality of your marriage and then pray she actually does something on her own.
Meanwhile get off _your_ fat aging ass and get back into shape. I’m 45 and have always been tall and thin. Recently got honest and lost a stone I’d let creep in over the past 15 years or so and it has been amazing to watch the impact it had on my wife. She basically can’t keep her clothes on and we’re acting like newly weds again. Maybe if you motivate her to care by showing you care.
But honestly you done goofed by not dealing with it early on and then letting yourself go.
>>768650933
same, it blows my brain every time
>>768651596
Dude what's her name?