Ask a complete social failure anything.
> 35 year old
> kissless virgin
> no friends
> bad relationship with parents
> minimum wage job
> chronic illness
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>>768372002
Why didnt you go to University?
>>768373684
I did. For a long time. But I have problems finding a job in my field.
>>768373781
Whats your field?
>>768373802
Molecular biology.
>>768373816
How much do you weight?
18 yo kissless virgin here,
any advice to not end up the same way ?
>>768374020
Start talking to girls....
>>768374096
How to do the talking when I'm practically scum of humanity and a 4
>>768374020
Find a prostitute. Break the ice and you won’t be so scared
>>768373918
70 kg at 180 cm.
>>768374142
Start talking to ugly/unpopular girls, most girls at my highschool where 4 or less
>>768374173
Ye, that should do it. But he earns minimum wage, so only trash tear is available for him
>>768374208
Dude I got girls when is was 176 cm and 88 kg, with no friends....
>>768374456
You probably had a good personality. Looks don't matter that much actually.
>>768374498
I just learned talking to girls from yt vids, it is really easy
>>768372002
do you work out?
What illness do you have?
What caused your relationship to go sour with your parents? Are they married?
>>768374608
any link to those videos ?
>>768374142
>Hot girls > hot guys > ugly guys > ugly girls
Fat girls are so fucking needy
I'm kissles Virgin myself but I send away a fat thot that tried to sit on my lap only this week
Granted I'm no 4 but more of a 7 but If you lower your standards some whale will want the d
>am autist and want girl I have feelings for and no thot - that's where it gets hard
>>768374020
>18
Go to college
or
talk to your friends who are in college
attend parties and go to clubs function etc
practice talking to women you don't know fuck a few of them if you can
don't wait until you'rre older it gets harder and harder to meet women as you age.
18 is prime just go get it
>>768374741
Just type in yt, how to talk to girls, how to ask girls on dates, how to keep a conversation going. Most channels/vids will help you out alot.
>>768374619
>do you work out?
I do work out. 1h hour gym every second day in addition to some regular climbing / bouldering and cardio. Very unhappy with the results after 2 years (pic releated). I have huge problems putting on muscle (or weight in general).
>What illness do you have?
Crohn's.
>What caused your relationship to go sour with your parents? Are they married?
They are married. My parents (and my whole family) are lower middle class at best. I was the first in my family to graduate university, but in the end, I am the one of my cousins who is in the worst state career wise.
>>768374835
I've made the experience the prime is in your early 20's
For some reason 18 y/o girls see something in you that just isn't there
I lost my virginity at 14, how are you guys having so much trouble? You must be doing something wrong?
>>768372002
will you record your suicide?
I'm a 21 yr old virgin, job opportunitynin real estate, but sits all day doing nothing. Going to attend college, never giving up hope
>>768375014
Also I vape
>>768375014
What is the thing about real estate? What is the fun in it?
>>768374878
Your body is not the problem cunt
>>768375064
No it isn't. It is shit nevertheless.
>>768375061
Not the same guy
>money
>>768375061
You get paid far to much money to put up a house onto a website which the owner could do perfectly fine himself
>>768375189
Most real estate buisnesses where I live don't make any money
>>768375219
Where are you from? because in my area real estate doesn't do well
>>768375061
I don't enjoy it much not that I work at all my father just own a real estate company
>>768375300
Nice to hear
>>768375320
What study do you follow?
>>768375300
Uk mate, mostly flash cunts who work in real estate although I know what your talking about, met many a man in real estate with a £40 suit on
>>768374878
You do look good, keep going. #nohomo
Crohn's is such a shitty disease, my boss has the same, and you can't really get rid of it. He's always on the potty, but that might be because of his philippino wife...
You're still not telling us WHY the relations hip is bad. Them being lower middle class does not constitute a bad relationship. How do you act around them? Are you around them at all? A lone child?
>>768375463
About how much do you earn as real estate agent?
>>768375434
Management so that I finished some kind of college
How do you distinguish burn-out from depression?
Not OP, just thought I'd ask it here so I don't have to make a thread for it
>>768374878
If you're struggling to get enough calories you could try mixing powdered milk with milk, it's pretty tasty and cheap way to get extra cals.
>>768375746
You earn nothing
You much money you get depends on how much estates you sell but you have next to no work with it
*how much
>>768375782
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/depression/signs-and-symptoms
>>768375961
Can I save enough cash to build an appartment building?
>>768375961
I understand that, but what is the average you get for a house?
>>768374856
>but if you find the shit ones instead, tough luck kid!
>>768376108
3% but some take more
>>768376229
So for a house that is worth 100K you get 3k
>>768376108
5% of the house value for taking 5 pictures and putting them online
Okay /b/, since your parents didn't teach you how to be happy, healthy, and not a loser, here is the secret path:
1) Get 8 hours of sleep (or 8 hours in bed trying to sleep) every night. Wake up around the same time every day. No screens.
2) Get at least 20 minutes of sunlight and fresh air. Every day.
3) Cut out the junk food. You eat too much sugar and refined grains and fried shit. Eat vegetables, every day.
4) Drink water. Plenty, every day. Stop drinking soda and energy drinks.
5) Cut out your addictive nonsense. Stop smoking, drinking, drugging, and jacking off to porn all day.
6) Exercise every day. It doesn't have to be intense if you can't make yourself do that. Stretch and go for a walk, if that's all you can do. Do some pushups and situps, whatever. But do it every day, at the same time if possible.
7) Go where people are. Talk to them, even if you're bad at it to start. Do this at least once a week. At work/school/stores doesn't count. This is purely social.
8) Stop lying. This includes telling false stories, obviously. But it also includes saying things with the primary intention of manipulating people or gaining status, even if they are true stories. This also includes lying to yourself.
9) Don't play video games for more time than you spend reading (books, not 4chan) each week.
10) If you are not in a meaningful job - take a shitty job in a field you find interesting. Then show up every day, work hard, get to know your bosses and co-workers, and apply for promotions (even ones you don't think you'll get).
In a year, your life will still be shit, but it will be miles better. In a few years, you'll wonder how you used to be such a loser. Keep a journal if you want to see exactly how things are improving. There's more advice from an old man, if anyone's interested.
>>768374878
Dude you look fine. Pretty good bodywise actually. You could easily get pussy if you tired.
If you need friends lemme know anon
>>768376108
>>768376100
You have to know, you will be scum.
In ten or twenty years old people will understand that your whole trade is made superabundant through 3 simple websites and you will be a 35 y/o looser without friends and without any valuable skill
>>768372002
Who's your favorite philosopher?
>>768374878
Fitness wise, you look good. Judging by this, I'd say your biggest problem is self esteem. Confidence will take you far, and you seem to be lacking that.
>>768376527
I don't know where you are talking about.
>>768376358
I have a degree in something I hate (only choose to do it because what I initially wanted to study is said to worth jackshit)
I have a quite monotonous job, which is unrelated to my degree.
I don't have goals, I'm stuck between procrastination and the feel to improve, while not going anywhere in life and feel anxious most of the time, if not hopeless. Life moves really fast, and I just don't know what to do.
>>768376614
>I don't know where you are talking about.
>where you talking about
>where
>>768375912
Already consuming shitloads of whey.
>>768376528
Bernard Williams.
>>768376542
I'm confidence in regards to stuff I can be confident about. Else, it just delusion.
>>768376358
OP here. I have nearly all that covered (and had for years). My life is still shit.
What about joining the French legion? Is that an option to consider?
>>768376872
No. Chronic illness.
>>768376527
What do you do?
>>768376738
What* are you talking about
Why haven't you killed yourself yet?
>>768376960
Electrical engineering, specialising in energy right now
>>768376405
I tried. And an above average body only goes so far.
>>768372002
Ever tried suicide?
>>768376973
Immoscout, immonet24 and so on
Everyone can sell easily without a broker and the only thing brokers do these days is using the same websites
>>768377098
Well luckily I am not a broker....
>>768377146
Don't become one
>>768377035
If it is the only thing you got then yes, girls don't like guy who only have one "great" thing about them. try to get great in other subjects as well
>>768377186
How things are going for me now, I am probably going to be an engineer
>>768377228
Nice
>>768377193
What subjects?
>>768376649
>I don't have goals
In my experience, this is usually the result of a weak life philosophy. People who have no personal story concerning what life is about end up having no highest priorities. With no highest priority, people have nothing to aim for, and just drift.
Read people who talk about ethics and the purpose of life. Even people you disagree with. This is just to get you thinking about it. I recommend authors like Nietzsche, Evola, Kant, and even Jordan Peterson. Whoever, just as long as its interesting and on topic. Keep a journal of your thoughts, because it will help you organize and remember your thoughts. Use logic to help you keep your path straight, but logic will not give you the end goal. You'll have to aim at what feels meaningful to you, as soon as you dig it out of the chaotic mess of yourself, then develop your ideas around that.
>I'm stuck between procrastination and the feel to improve
I went through something like that in my early 20s. I kept getting bursts of motivation to do 20 things to fix my life, eventually lost my gusto, and then drop everything for a time, only to start again next time motivation hit me. I realized that motivation is inconsistent, and if I kept relying on it, I'd ride the ups and downs but average out in the same place year after year.
The way I fixed it is pretty simple. I picked one small habit, the one easiest action I knew I could make myself do every day if I didn't have a ton of other things to do. Then I focused on just adding that to my day for a month. Since it was so simple, I was consistent, and it became habit. The next month, I did the same thing with the next simplest action on the list. It seemed like it was incredibly slow, but by the end of the year, my routine had 12 healthy, productive patterns that it didn't have before. And they all felt like habit, so I didn't have to rely on motivation to strike.
Do you prefer x or y?
>>768372002
May I call you Giovanni Schneider Mitsukawa Guedes?
>>768372002
Wh6 don't you pay for sex like a normal loser
>>768377527
>Nietzsche, Evola, Kant, and even Jordan Peterson
>Putting Evola and Jordan Peterson with Kant
>>768377666
Yes.
>>768377858
Because I am an abnormal loser.
>>768377925
>Putting Evola and Jordan Peterson with Kant
You misunderstand. I'm not saying they're comparable, or even that I agree with any of them. The point is to consider other people's thoughts on ethics and purpose, as a starting point to develop your own perspectives on what you should be doing.
This is useful even if you're listening to someone who is making a bad argument that you fully disagree with and disrespect - as long as they are addressing a thorough number of issues in detail.
>>768377527
>having weak life philosophy
yes that is me. There are a shitton of things that keep me down, my past (bunch of regrets, guilt), my present (can't seem to become independent from family), and my future scares me. And I'm not 16 anymore, to have to to wonder
>You'll have to aim at what feels meaningful to you
Thought I had one thing (drawing), but it starts to fade, and I get scared whenever I have to hold a pencil. Even though I sometimes like the end results, the scribbles.
>bursts of motivation
FUCK, the EXACT term is going on in my head for a while now (even though I'm not a native english speaker), because I took a step back and realized that I do literally what you just described (i.e. relying on motivation, which is fleeting)
So I said okay, I need DISCIPLINE, instead of motivation. But I keep falling back to do nothing, and essentially running away from hard work, which makes me feel like a bitch. Sometimes I feel like I can't do it alone. I might need a mentor.
Thanks for your answers wiseman, will try to write down my goals and everything that's needed to get out of this emotional hellhole once and for all.
>>768378180
to have time* to wonder
>>768376358
>Don't play video games for more time than you spend reading (books, not 4chan) each week.
kek
>>768378180
Good luck, my friend.
As a side note - if you get back in to drawing, I have a book to recommend.
I am no artist, but I draw regularly because of the book Drawing From the Right Side of the Brain, by Betty Edwards. It teaches drawing, not purely in terms of technique, but in terms of the mental perspective that an artist develops. Reading that book has changed a lot of my perceptions about the physical world, and I've continued to practice drawing as a habit for years, just as a sort of meditation to keep my mind functioning in a fuller way. It might be interesting to read, if you continue drawing.
>>768378718
Yep, I'm familiar with this one :) Thanks again
>>768373684
What's the point of going to uni?
>>768378180
ur just a lazy cunt and you need a boot up the ass
>>768379642
studying and improving thinking skills duh
>>768379793
I work my ass off at my job, so even though I have low self esteem, I wouldn't call myself lazy.
I have to wake up at 4am. every morning to get to work, and I literally can't get home sooner that 7 pm, and by that time I'm so exhausted that I just go to sleep, maybe eat something beforehand.
>inb4 boo-hoo welcome to adult life
I know that this is how it works for a lot of people, but you do get tired of it and you just have to let it all out. In my case at least.
>>768380010
you see now you are stuck. You rely on a job that doesn't help you go any further and instead of adding something small in-between that can help you get a better job with better pay and better working times, you just "bite through". That's not hard work, that's comfort. You're comfortable where you are and people use people like you to do their dirty work while they earn the real money. Think about that and consider doing a programming course.
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>>768377527
evola and Jordan Peterson are some of the most boring reads I've ever had the courtesy of experiencing. Self-improvement is a billion dollar industry and you now see why new age things sell so fast. It's all marketing, as is that New Thought movement that talks about a magnetic gaze that you get from staring at a dot. It's wishful thinking bs the lot and people believe and abide by it, because they want it so much they experience a confirmation bias. The same with controversial, politically incorrect reads.
>>768380717
There's definitely truth to what you are saying.
Don't know about you, but aside from this work-schedule I have, I have to put up with a family that has done little to nothing to improve their situation, but complain a lot, and this environment is just so fucking toxic. It's draining. I am most definitely not comfortable where I am ( I get what you are saying, you mean things are not uncomfotable enough for me to change, but that's just not true. I do admit that I'm weak-willed, and I suffer because of that everyday)
>consider doing a programming course
I already went through 4 yrs of uni, studying something I never gave 2 shits about, exactly for the reason you're suggesting me to go and try programming.
I know it's probably worth it, you can get good money with it, but I don't think I could pull it off again (i.e. learning something just to get money, and not liking in, and on top of that, be bad at it).
>>768381246
thats your prob lol
i knew this one girl who came to an unfamiliar country all alone, managed to get herself a house, is studying, is working and built a quality social circle like within the first year. Not to mention that she had a family thing like you.
This goes 100% against the notion that guys on this site hold about women(roastie, weak, manipulative etc), but if she could pull it off, then you need to play your cards right and get degrees in places that have market, cut off the family that's putting you down and build yourself up.
You can stop working hard once you stop complaining about yourself.
>>768376741
That's not how confidence works.
Confidence is confidence in your ability to tackle new tasks and challenges, things by definition you cannot know beforehand how competent you are.
If you restrict yourself to only those things that you've done, you'll never progress.
>>768381871
>thats your prob lol
I know that. Worth noting, that I took a week off from work, to study for my master's entrance exam, which is next week.. Again, not a field I'm interested in, but 'has market"
>>768381932
I'm generally open to try new things. Especially since I am usually pretty good at them.
But approaching women (or social interaction in general) is not a new thing for me, and I know that I am bad at that my many, many hours of experience.
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>>768379642
I don't talk to people who did not go to University, so I wont answer
>>768372002
When will you become an hero? If there's a god, he probably hates you
>>768373816
hahaha
>>768372002
Sad mate
>>768374778
Dude. I'm told I'm a 7-8 also. The extremely fat and ugly chicks fucking flock to me. The fat ones believe they can shake their "curve" and it'll make me want to fuck them. Ugly girls have no self esteem usually, so I'm nice to them and some have nice bodies I lowered my standards once though for a fatter chick because I was extremely horny on a tinder date and I felt so disgusted that I'm never gonna do that again. Head is good, but you feel disgusted getting it
