Serious post.
I need some advice.
>dated this girl since high school
>2 years plus another 3 years off and on
>after coming back from college, we’re going strong
>great sex and tons of fun hanging out
>one night we’re watching Rick & Morty, I fall asleep
>I wake up in the middle of the night, she’s getting dressed crying
>I ask her what’s wrong, she tells me she went through my messages on my Mac
>flirting with some random chick back in college, never went anywhere
>I try calming her down and finally do
>she lets it go, but apparently doesn’t because she breaks up with me for it later
>come later and we’re eating dinner with my parents, she walks out of the restaurant early
>posts on Instagram she’s single
>didn’t know, but a friend told me later on
>that night when I took her home, she left me
There’s much more to this. Bump if interested because I really need help.
>>768069976
just leave her be. she's a hedache
Tell her what she means to you.
>>768069976
Bitch has major trust issues if she's rifling through your shit while you're asleep.
Dump her, only spells trouble.
Be glad she revealed her fucked up psychi now, and not after you knocked her up
>>768069976
I once had a psycho bitch GF, and kicked her to the curb.
>>768069976
Ya. Ur fine. Nothings wrong with u. Its her. Right? Its always her
>>768070309
I’ve betrayed her before. I regret it now, obviously. But I do love her.
>>768070531
I’ve done things to betray her trust.
But she’s betrayed mine as well. We’re both shitty people. But I love her with all of my heart. I’ll finish the story.
Bump for rest of the story.
What I do when I feel bad like shit is listening to some good old depressive black metal like Silencer, Wedard, Forgotten Tom.
>>768070631
>>768070607
there is no salvaging this the longer you cling to it the more time both of you will waste. Let it go move on and start fresh and hopefully you will have learned by losing this one you really care about not to be a fuckhead in the future....but people rarely change so I'm not going to hold my breath.
Good luck, you'll need it.
>>768069976
>fast forward and here comes a concert that she had planned to go to with me months in advance
>she still plans to
>we go and we stay at a hotel together
>the first night, we have a really deep conversation and then sleep together
>I couldn’t believe it
>In the convo, she mentioned that she was talking to a guy, trying to move on, but he told her he loved her and she bailed
>this tore me to shreds
>I was so upset and pissed off, I didn’t even know what to say
>the conversation lightened up a bit and I expressed my concern and love for her
>later that night is when we ended up sleeping together
>I stayed up a while longer than her and started thinking about what she had said about that guy
>I decided to check her phone and I found messages.
>Ongoing messages.
>I found a lot I would much rather have not found.
>she had been fucking around with this guy almost immediately after she left me
>she’s nineteen and the guys like, I don’t know fucking 26 or 27
>after questioning whether I should, I finally decided to message him back saying “If you thought something was between you guys, you should reconsider. I just slept with her.”
>I sat at the edge of the bed just waiting
>and waiting
>>768071286
That’s a great viewpoint, but I’m willing to waste the next few years of my life trying to get her back because she’s fucking worth it.
>>768071317
Ok lol after fuckin' up once you definitely fucked up there. Say goodbye to the one you truely loved.
>>768071317
#1 you're just as fucked up and shitty as she is.
#2 you're a moron.
#3 see this: >>768071286
#4 you both have issues are insecure with yourselves and need someone else in order to feel validated.
>>768071317
OOF
>>768070936
Thanks. I’ll check it out.
>>768071532
You’re absolutely right. But I want this to work, I don’t care how shitty her and I are.
youre a pathetic faggot.
kill yourself
I’ll proceed with the story
>>768071669
I’m planning on it. That’s why I need help.
>>768069976
>another 3 years off and on
She's jealous and you weren't even full time? Not a good sign, not a good sign at all.
>>768071419
You think she is worth it. I guarantee you it is not, now even if it ever was. After what has happened between you and her there has been irreparable damage to whatever you two had. You built a ship to wreck, successfully wrecked it, don't bother trying to salvage it, it will always be leaking and you will constantly be bailing water and one day it WILL sink on you. Best to abandon ship now.
>>768071712
Okay here is a pro tip: just remember its down the road not across the street.
>>768071317
>she finally finds the message I sent him
>”You’re insane” she says
>and then just comes and hugs me
>she pulls me back to the bed and tells me that now she needs to make a decision
>I sit silent
>she lists her choices
>says she can leave him and try with me, which is obviously what I’ve wanted even in spite of her lying to me
>says she can leave me and try and fix things with him which disgusts me that she would even consider
>says that she can leave us both and just start fresh
>obviously the odds aren’t in my favor
>later that day, despite how angry I was with her, we make each other happy so easily and we end up making love again
>we go to the concert and have a fucking fantastic time and later that night we go downtown and see all kinda of amazing things together
>it was a day to fucking live for, despite the negatives
>we’re back at the hotel and we just sleep that night, nothing else
>the next morning we drive back home, holding hands the entire 8 hours, listening to our favorite music, talking
>almost home, I ask her if she wants to come over
>”Sure, but we’re not going to have sex”
>>768071715
Could you elaborate?
>>768071806
What does that mean?
>>768072289
you said you were going to kill yourself, it means when you slit your wrists you do it down the arm not across...
jesus christ you're retarded.
>>768071737
I feel like I have nothing else to live for, man. I want things to work between us. If I could spend just one more day out of the rest of my life with her and fucking die, I’d be content with that, do you understand?
>>768072452
Nice. Do you have any actual advice?
>>768072186
like many anons before me said
its all over ,
grab your balls and find another crazy gf
>>768072186
>I’m completely fine with what she wishes, but I’m also confused
>I don’t know why she would have to voice that in advance, like setting up ground rules
>later she comes over and we talk. I ask her why
>she says she hadn’t made a decision
>I’m fucking shook. I genuinely thought she did. We acted like a fucking couple for the last 24 hours and what, it was all for fucking show?
>she tells me that she told him that we had sex and he was mildly upset about it
>I don’t understand how the fuck she would still want to be with him at that point
>she’s like a fucking goddess to me and he doesn’t even fucking love her. He hardly seemed moved at the fact that she fucked another guy.
>I told her that I can’t deal with it. I told her I can’t live with her being with someone else. She told me that she can’t live with me being gone. She told me that if I get my life together in 2 years and get us a place to live, she’d be with me. She’d marry me. The fucking dream. But meanwhile, she’s still with this fucking guy.
>how the fuck am I supposed to agree with that deal
>I love her.
>I don’t know how to deal with this and that’s why I’ve come to you, /b
>just tell me what I can do to fix this
>please
>>768069976
Whoa when did Thanos fuse with Guy Fieri?
>>768070119
This.
>But I already know your answer
>Which is why coming here was a mistake
You all agree that I should leave her, which I would too if I didn’t love her so fucking much.
>>768072992
Boy that juice is not worth the squeeze, you need to abandon ship for your own sanity. Plenty more fish in the sea. Find a couple easy women and fuck them then casually look for a relationship. It will find you
>>768073393
To me, it is. I don’t care about sex. I care about her. I care about a life with her. I don’t care about anything else.
It’s either her or death. And I want us to work.
>>768073469
>I don’t care about anything else.
Then why the fuck are you on /b/ asking for advice at all. She's crazy, inconstant, possibly a gold-digger, god knows what else. Lots of people telling you to look for greener pastures and you just keep reiterating you're going to stay.
I'm out.
>>768073721
P.S. Don't have children.
>>768073721
How the fuck am I supposed to stay if she doesn’t want to be with me right now.
Okay. Let me just explain that I understand you guys agree that I SHOULD MOVE ON, but I’m hoping you all could supplement a solution that allows me to BE WITH HER.
>>768074086
Despite how fucked up it is
>>768069976
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>>768073962
Silly rabbit, trix are for kids!
You're being played m8
>>768074183
Yeah, I realize that’s a possibility but she’s also incredibly indecisive. But she promised me that and she’s always stuck to her promises. She truly means that.
>>768074183
It’s also incredibly unlikely since she doesn’t want me to die. She broke down in tears when I told her that I probably am going to end it.
>>768072992
tell her you are not going to be a little bitch. It is either him or me, but I am not going to play into your hypergamous games. You cannot be fucking around while I'm at my worst only to come up used when I am at my best. Dont be a beta cuck and play into her games. She wants the best of both worlds, which isnt fair to you
>>768074606
Do you really think that will work?
>>768069976
Sorry, but move on. For your sake. You don't want the memory of begging haunting you. If she can't move past this, imagine how she will react to real problems. Here's a great body pic to remind you how much is out there if you try. Or not.
>>768074606
I’ve been pressing her about making a decision, but not aggressively. The times I have, she’s said something like “I want something simple” or “I just want to be happy” and then when I criticize her for being disingenuous, she tells me it’s because she doesn’t know what she wants and I’m forcing an answer out of her
>>768074915
You have to assert your dominance. If she does not agree, cut off contact. She will be back within a week if not
>>768074955
This is a serious problem. She has tremendous trust issues because of me. I threw that all away, but I forgot to tie up that one little loose-end and it bit me in the ass.
>>768075109
She hardly even responds to me, that wouldn’t do anything. She has the upper hand here.
But she loves me and cares about me very much. She just doesn’t want me to hurt her again which I have countless times. (I don’t hit her, chill the fuck out.)
>>768075253
stop putting the pussy on the pedestal dude, you are fucking disgusting. She wants to create a world where she can fuck the alpha and then move in with the beta when its all done. Dont be that guy
>>768075215
*threw that all away:stopped flirting with chicks when I get lonely
>>768072992
my very recent, like 6 hours ago ex used to set ground rules all the fucking time.
>>768074429
Lemme lay it out for you cos you're still young enough to fall for girls bs games.
She's spent time with you cementing your bond bit of fucky fucky and you probably paid for everything.
Tells you about this other guy and you basically confess your undying love and that you'll die before losing her blah blah.
So she knows youre not going anywhere, so she doesn't have to make a decision because you're chasing so hard she knows shes won.
This other guy is like meh, whateva and she's going to chase him and keep you on the hook.
Girls like the challenge, the thrill of the chase, the hunt, youre already caught. So she can probably do whatever the fuck she wants and youll still be there, so thats what she'll do. Soundsnlike that's what she's BEEN doing for the last few years.
Your a friend, wallet and fucktoy, you're her side bitch while she shops around.
Up to you if you're into that game or not, the nly way for you to win her is to go fuck someone else and be all meh to her so she can chase.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Abrn8aVQ76Q
Good luck m8
>>768075356
Fuck you. Our sex isn’t just fucking you dumb shit. It’s not about sex you fucking singular piece of shit.
>>768075215
Then move on. Look, too many guys marry this type of woman for a myriad of resonses. All eventually come to lament them, and/or vice versa. Cut your losses, learn from your mistakes, get back out there and don't let this be your defining moments. More sexytyme to show you you ALWAYS have choices.
>>768069976
she seems to be too complicated, leave her for good
>>768075451
See that would work if I was the one that paid for everything. I barely just got my first actual job and haven’t even started yet. Is this still applicable?
>>768072992
You gotta real mess on your hands leave her alone and go find someone else. Love or not she's playing with you
>>768075677
I accept that as a possibility.
>>768074086
Dude if she doesn't want to be with you then what magical solution could we /b/ come up with? Come on man quit being a sissy
>>768075543
*reasons*
