Why do I wish I was a lesbian, /b/?
I'm a straight male with a straight gf, obviously lesbians turn me on but it's beyond that. I don't think I'm trans, I don't exactly feel or act like a girl even though I'm generally a bit more feminine than masculine.
I've pretended to be a lesbian online, which felt nice, and often just imagine myself being one in fantasies, including in 'normal' fantasies like with the gf.
I'm confused, bros. What the fuck is up? Why do I feel like I should be a lesbian so much?
You're Trans in denial. You're Trans in denial. You happen to be a transsexual person in denial. You are in denial that you are currently a transsexual person and possibly have always been a transsexual person. You may be in denial that you're a transsexual person because you're very transsexual and in very much denial did I mention you're in denial
But I really don't think so. If I were to be a woman, I certainly wouldn't be a pretty one. Nor would I want to go through the effort of putting on makeup and shit every day. I don't really want to be a girl, and I don't really feel like I should be a girl. It's a strange feeling I have but I'm 95% certain that I'm not transgender
>But hey, that's what somebody in denial would say, right?
I openly find some men attractive, but I'd never actually do anything physical with one. I'd consider myself very slightly bi on the spectrum, but idk what that has to do with the whole lesbian thing. If I were a lesbian, I wouldn't be attracted to dudes.
personally i feel exactly the same way, i definitely would consider myself trans but i don't make efforts to change my outward appearance that much since it's a pain in the ass. but yeah id also basically call myself a huge titless dyke with a dick
>i know eating pussy dont make you a lesbian
>but i like eating pussy a lot
You're projecting yourself onto a "lesbian" because that the closest of a concept you can take a grasp on - a dyke-ish behaviour with attraction to both sexes, but lack of experience, thus no validation. Been through that. Be honest with your urges.
That makes sense, but I'm confused, are you saying I'm trans or just a confused boy? I have experience with the female sex, but only with the gf really. A thing that happens a lot is me seeing lesbians I know, one in particular, and just imagining I were her. Makes me feel great, I dunno why. The projection thing makes sense to me but I'm not sure what that would imply about my psyche
>be honest with your urges
Nah fuck that, dude. Trapping on /b/ has right fucked my brain up. The more you give the thoughts credence the more dysphoria sets in.
Fuck that shit. Escape while you can OP. Not fucking with you, RUN FROM /b/ MY DUDE.
>are you saying I'm trans
Obviously not, that's a mental illness, whereas being not so hetero is an everyday business for many men. You're projecting yourself as a lesbian because you like girls, but hate being forced by society to be a male archetype, that is a "macho" everyone expects you to be, is that correct?
I'm not trans and I'm not going trans. I'm just trying to figure out what's up with my head. I wouldn't be one of those people who wastes their money on a sex change operation only to realize I didn't actually want it and was just hypnotized by traps, and kill myself. I'm a guy who has some weird thoughts, just trying to have some /b/tards play therapist with me
Yeah I guess that makes sense. I guess I just feel that society doesn't want people like me subconsciously, and am trying to fit myself into a category? Fuck my brain for being such a cuck if that's the case
Anon, it's clear to me that other anon is correct about the denial. This >>767806773 is sincere fucking advice. It's gender dysphoria and denial.
Just get out dude. Don't try to find a solution to this just get away. The hole is too hard to climb out of once you fall in.
Close this goddamn thread and begin cognitive behavioral therapy every time you get these feelings.
Well, being on /b/, I'm about to get crucified: I don't think being trans is a mental disorder, so even if I was I wouldn't seek medical therapy. Honestly, other anon's theory makes a lot more sense than the 'trans in denial' one
Guilt (over being a weirdo) and lack of self-integration withing a fabric of reality (you don't know who you are, what/who you should seek, how people perceive you etc).
Once you realize who you really are and just keep being you, you'll find pride and confidence, you'll feel much better. Even though you're on a bi spectrum, doesn't mean that you have to date guys - you're free to fuck who the hell you want, and most importantly, BEHAVE how the fuck you want. To me, that's freedom, not a debilitation.
No, OP, this is not what’s going on. I’ve been in a very similar position. This is your problem: you like girls, and are curious as to what the other side of sex experiences, am I correct? You have watched a lot of normal porn, and it doesn’t cut it for you. Now you get off to fantasies of being a woman, having sex with a woman, because you don’t like men. Does that sound accurate?
Both styles of porn are attractive to me, and I feel fine having both types of fantasies. It's not exactly that I'm slowly transitioning from straight male to wannabe-dyke mentally, just that part of me feels comfortable in the lesbian identification I guess. I don't identify as a lesbian though
I agree with you on the last point, which is exactly why I said my brain's being a cuck if that's the case. I really do want to be my own person, and I know that I can be a more feminine male. So I don't know why my brain would be pushing me off that path to a more "conventional" one
Let me clarify: You are straight. You have a history of overusing porn. You fantasize about what being a woman is like, and what having sex as a woman is like. However, you are straight, so your sexual fantasizes as a woman only involve other women. Sound accurate?
I'm gonna break this down for you one time.
Gender dysphoria fucks you up. Bad. I'm saying you could be leading yourself down a road of a lifetime of anxiety and stress. The negatives come from society/family, not hurr it's a mental disorder. And I wasn't suggesting you seek professional help- cognitive behavioral therapy can be practiced at home with almost any subject.
You don't have to believe us, but
>Honestly, other anon's theory makes a lot more sense than the 'trans in denial' one
Screams denial to me. You're obviously trying to find any solution that isn't 'trans in denial'. Both that anon and myself did the same thing for a long time and it's why we can spot it.
No I haven't and no that isn't what I want being on the spectrum. Technically, we're all on the spectrum to some degree, and honestly I'd probably only count myself as like 5-10% bi since my only attraction to men is just physical and from a distance. Like I said before, I actively do not want physical contact with a man
I don’t mean that is happening to you mentally, just that porn addiction makes you seek out strange new fantasies, as a drug addict seeks harder drugs. It’s a dopamine rush, the bigger the better. You wouldn’t lose interest in straight sex, just gain a new unwanted interest.
I know several lesbians irl, I know they aren't all fuckin models. That's the same thing as thinking women in general would look like pornstars. Hell, the one I know irl that I mentioned picturing myself as isn't ugly but she isn't exactly Scarlett Johansen
It was a meme bro. As for an actual reply, I genuinely believe that I'm not trans in denial and I don't believe I'm wandering toward that path. I appreciate your concern, but I really don't think that's what's going on. Thanks for trying to come up with a solution, but I'm sure it's not anything crazy serious to worry about
>Why do I wish I was a lesbian, /b/?
>I've pretended to be a lesbian online
>Why do I feel like I should be a lesbian so much?
>I genuinely believe that I'm not trans in denial
>I'm not sure what denial means though
I’ve tried to help you out, OP. I’d like your opinion, at least. Read my other post. You are having these fantasizes because of your excessive porn usage. I’m not saying quit porn to stop them, but scale it back tremendously. Try only having sexual experiences with your gf. They’ll go away eventually. Unless you don’t want them gone. In which case, fuck off because you never wanted help.
OP hasn't even admitted he has a porn problem dude. You're on like step 5 of the stages of grief and he's still on stage 1.
You have a great fucking point, learn to communicate with morons lol.
FUCK gender. It's just another way to label people, segregate them and discriminate against groups (which is inherently wrong).
Once you get past gender and can like/be attracted to people based on who they are rather than whether they own a penis or a vagina, you will be much better off.