Im an asexual femanon, I dont get horny and nothing turns me on. Recently Im dating a boy and I feel Im falling in love with him, he likes me back and wants to have sex with me. Frankly Im really afraid (18yo virgin) but I want him to stay with me and the only way to do this is to force myself. Are there any presons with such problem as I have? Should tell him about my sexuality or not? Is it difficult to do this?
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Knock yourself out with a date rape drug and let him have his way.
>>767727686
Nobody is asexual.
You really sick.get help.
Tits or GTFO
Just be up front and honest about it. Forcing yourself into something you're not comfortable with will make you miserable. If he really cares about you, he'll be cool with it.
>>767727686
why are you calling it "forcing" yourself? if you are asexual, you just dont feel aroused while having sex, so whats so bad in letting him have his way for those more or less 20min?
>>767727686
What does YLYL mean?
>>767727686
GF has vaginismus she told me from the start, we happy couple, and finely after maybe a year she decided to try and do something about her condition
Also tits with timestamp or gtfo
Btw, even if he understand, you can't ask of him to not want to have sex, and if you two can't do it, he'll end up looking for it elsewhere.
>>767727686
TITS OR GTFO
>>767727686
Are asexuals an official part of the LGBT? As in do they get a cut of the U.N. funding for basically being voluntary celibates?
>>767727686
Forcing yourself = you don't like him sexually and shouldn't be in a romantic relationship with him. Even if you do have some condion like asexuality... he can't bear it and you shouldn't do it.
>>767727686
Did Reddit kick you out of their forms so you came here seeking for answers? Tits or GTFO!
Well if you really love him why don't you try having sex with him. It might cure your faggotry, you never know.
>>767727686
Tits or GTFO
Learn the fucking rules you stupid retarded cunt
Ahh look at all the new fags who didn’t say “Tits or GTFO”
You new fags also need to fuck off, but OP especially
>>767727686
You're asexual you say. So do you cut your leg of to make a baby?
>>767727686
Just get that dick in you, and I'm sure you'll feel better. Just try it.
This. Also TITS OR GTFO
>>767728227
u gtfo
>>767727686
Maybe you just try it out, maybe you like it then.
My current gf was like you... She said she dont have fun and dont need sex, but now she likes and want it very often. ;)
this entire thread makes me cringe the fuck out
if you're "asexual" you're simply a fucking boring ass idiot
Tits or gtfo
Also i reccomend you try it, it might change your perspective. Asexuality is usually a really strong hormone imbalance and sometimes getting dicked is a nice reset to get the circutry rolling again. You may want to talk to your primary doctor too. Contrary to homo/bisexuality it's not a preference. It's an illness.
Newfags, learn the fucking rules
This is n anonymous site, there is no need to declare yourself a femanon, unless you are cashing in on your femanoninity in order to get attention from the wizard council of /b
G.I.R.L= guy in real life
So either it’s a catfish baiting thirsty faggots , or it’s an actual femanon attention whore.
The only way to prove they’re the former is “Tits or GTFO”
/b gets OC tits, and the attention whore gets the attention they crave.
Any retard who comments on this thread with ANYTHING other than “tits or gtfo” is a confirmed cancer and should kill themselves
>>767730354
This guy gets it
Boys that age just want to get their dick wet. I'm borderline A-sexual and sometimes I feel the same. But back then, I would have done or said anything to get to that point.
It's up to you what you want to do, but simply put, almost no one that age will feel or understand your circumstance.
If you really are A-sexual, then you would realise that the person who is pressuring you for sex is years off mental maturity. He will grow and he will change and what he says now will have no weight in what he says in 2 years time.
What you do now, will be nothing but a partial memory for your future self.
>>767730220
>It's not a preference. It's an illness.
It can be either. I was asexual due to illness (brain lesion). I've met people who were asexual for no explainable reason other than preference. This is the general consensus in the medical community. There are quacks who think like you but they're not the majority.
>>767727686
Tits or gtfo
>>767730577
Theres a difference between "preference" as in "wow sex is fucked up from a psychosocial perspective so I chose not to have it" and prefererence as in "I was born without the ability to have sexual attraction to anyone or any thing and i've never been aroused in my life." The latter is absolutely an illness. The former means you're a sociopath.
>>767730354
Well said!
>>767730850
You're very uninformed. By preference I don't mean a choice or anything that can be controlled in one's psychology. Being asexual could begin from birth, or puberty, or even later in life. Many times it's off and on, because sexual preference can be fluid. Two people with exactly the same symptoms could differ in their view of the condition though. One might consider it an illness, while the other considers it an orientation. The primary difference is what's know as personal distress. Also your idea of a sociopath is pretty fucked. Sociopothy exists on a spectrum and rarely entails anything about sex specifically.
>>767727686
OP, you are not asexual, such a thing does not exist. You have a pronounced hormone imbalance and don't know it. I absolutely guarantee that a knowledgeable endocrinologist would fix this issue in a split second and it would change your life.
>>767727686
Just open yo fucking legs and let him enjoy da wey.
>>767727974
>he'll be cool with it.
>Implying a man will be ok without having sex.
>>767727686
GET drunk , works every time
>>767727686
Not a big deal, just tell him.
Honestly though, if this is something he wants, if your intentions are to never have sex while you're with him, you should do him a favor and move on regardless of how much you love the dude. It's not fair to either of you.
>>767728127
Could you go into detail about what was going on and what she did?
>>767727686
You just want to friendzone him.
>>767727686
>never had sex
>i don't like sex
>>767731459
See thats the thing about an illness sven... it doesnt matter if you CONSIDER it an illness or not. If there is a biological process underlying it it's a disease. It doesnt matter how much talk of spectrum and preference you want to interject into the discussion, that doesn't change the chemicals.
>>767727686
just suck his dick alot and beg for facials
>>767727816
This
>>767727686
You should really work on communicating these things with him. Also to my surprise people don't understand what the hymen is, and how first time sex hurts and fucking sucks for women.
It's also extremely likely you aren't genuinely asexual especially considering "sex" is one of the most ancient and core parts of the brain, try not eating and keep easy food around and see how long you last.
Do not let the first time sex stuff break you down. Yes the first time will be painful, you have a low tolerance to disgust and it will be traumatizing especially if things don't go properly and they most likely will not. But do your best to offset these negativeness, be brave, and stick with it. You will be rewarded.
And please be brave enough to communicate with him, if you love him enough to let him put his penis into your vagina he should love you enough to have you put your words into his ears. THIS WORKS BOTH WAYS BTW**
>>767727816
>nobody is asexual
kys, I am asexual and I kinda feel OP.
>>767727686
>force myself.
Sounds more like sexual aversion disorder when you say that sort of stuff. Asexual means you're just uninterested and there's no personal distress relating to sex. If your lack of a sex drive bothers you or if you're actively avoiding sex then you should talk to a doctor about it. Ignore all the people pretending to understand your body better than you do, they don't know shit. I just know what I went through when dealing with asexuality, and the things I learned from the people I met in that struggle. Sexuality can be complicated and for some people it takes a lot longer to understand. The reasons could be physical, mental, or even knowable. In any case, I recommend you discuss it with your bf too. Communication is more important than sex.
>>767731949
>it doesnt matter if you CONSIDER it an illness or not
According to DSM diagnostic criteria it certainly does matter if you experience personal distress. Please educate yourself before spewing ignorance.
>>767732152
>I am asexual
>telling anyone else to kill themselves
That's ironic
>>767732429
Ok, I'll correct myself.
Have kids and then kys, dumbass.
>>767731849
this/10
>>767727686
>18yo
>think you're asexual
Bitch, you don't know a THING about your sexuality at this point. You're still a baby
That said, asexuality isn't real. If there were any genetic component to not wanting sex it would disappear from society in a single generation (because they wouldn't breed). Furthermore the explosion in asexual tendencies recently goes well beyond anything that could be expected genetically or epigenetically.
Instead what's happening is people were indoctrined by school, media, etc. to think that sex is evil. It's mass public brainwashing convincing people that they don't want sex. This, coupled with new forms of entertainment (always-on cellphones, new vidya, etc) that distract us and provide outlets other than sex.
No one is born asexual. No one is "just asexual". No one is genetically inclined to be asexual. No one is unable to help being asexual. If you aren't interested in sex, there's a reason and there's a cure.
>>767732152
You have underlying mental issues
Get help
>>767732530
Here, you seem to be having trouble. YOU should kill YOURself. Breeding is the last thing you should do. Remove yourself, your inferior DNA, and any future spawn from the gene pool.
>>767727686
>dating
>THEN you feel like you're falling in love
if you didnt feel like you were falling in love before you started dating, why'd you say yes?
just let him do you lol
Kill ur self faggot, i thank god youll never breed with your defective ass genes Fuck you
>>767732728
You don't know how the girls and dudes fall in love differently, don't you?
>>767732803
Fk, It was supposed to say 'do you?' at the end.
>>767727686
>>767728127
This. I had an ex who had this and she had basically no sex drive and only 3-4 periods a year because of it. Her cunt was too tight for her to have enjoyable sex and at age 26 she'd never had an orgasm in her life until we used a Hitachi wand.
Go see a Vag Doctor, there's medication to boost your hormones. My ex had to take medicine to bring on her periods and when she did she got somewhat of a normal sex drive back.
>>767727686
tits or go back to tumblr where you belongs
>>767727686
Sure, there are others with your condition. Doesn't make you a bad person or anything. And yeah you should definitely tell him. However it's really unlikely that any normal man will be OK with not having sex. You should be prepared for the possibility that he'll break up with you.
>>767732224
Yo are being willfully ignorant Seirgio. We're not talking about personal distress as part of diagnostic criteria. That's checklist diagnosing for psychologists without medical licenses. We are talking about underlying metabolic and hormonal abnormalities. Read up on the neuroendocrine changes in people with HSDD and the hormonal assays that are used to diagnose them.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5776161/
Naturally that doesn't completely apply to voluntary celibates who do it for psychosocial reasons but still masturbate twice a week. Those people are in fact sociopaths.
ITT: b valiantly demonstrates some spine against recalcitrant self-decclared femanon who does not post tits and timestamp
also.. newfags and cancerboys wank off and talk to the man-meat-mountain faux femanon anyways.....disgusting
TITS OR GET THE FUCK FUCKING OUT FUCKAnON!!!!!!
>>767733135
>We are talking about underlying metabolic and hormonal abnormalities.
No, you are. A large number of people have no biological indicators that would suggest a cause for their low sexual desire. For these people there are still diagnosis that make sense, such as sexual avoidance disorder. These rely on the notion of personal distress - a common factor in many medical diagnostics. And yes, psychology is still considered medical. Every state has it's own licensing requirements for psychologists. Unless you're familiar with them all and also a practicing licensed medical professional, I could care less about your opinion.
Just call him sweet daAAAAaaaAAAddy
>>767727686
Tits. Or. Get. The. Fuck. Out.
>>767727686
Yeah, you need to put that out there early. If you want to wait, that's fine, it's your body, but sex is an integral part to most relationships until marriage.
>>767727686
I have a friend with the same problem as you. The way she solved it was simply by changing her outlook on the act itself. No, changing her outlook didn't suddenly make her able to soak herself for him; but she isn't forcing herself because she went from seeing it as a chore/something she'd be forced to do to something she can do to make her man happy, which gave her a sense of satisfaction( that actually has lead to her getting mildly damp on occasion even though she has no interest or desire in having sex. )
My advice: Talk to him about your problems, get a good water-based lubricant, and give it that college-try. Maybe after a month or two, when you both have somewhat explored your sexuality as a couple, you will have a new outlook or the means to take some time to think and change your outlook.
>>767733135
>Celibates who do it for psychosocial reasons but still masturbate twice a week. Those people are in fact sociopaths.
I can name three known sexual disorders that fit this description and have nothing to do with sociopathy. Also there is no diagnostic criteria for sociopothy, it's not a medical condition. You're spewing more bs than anyone in this thread.
>>767727686
Hi, cis white male here with an asexual gf. My gf wanted me in the same manner so she forced herself to have sex with me enough times to rope me in and get the gf title and now she has stopped and announced the asexual aspect. It's a major issue and we are marching towards hate and a breakup.
Don't lead this guy on, be upfront. The only thing worse than having a gf who doesn't want to fuck is having one that does fuck only for you while they get no pleasure.
>>767730354
Some people do no understand the rule.
I cringe when someone posts something that suggests they might be female and people chimp out raging for tits... in this case, yes, declaring you are a femanon was not needed. So I agree with the rule.
>>767727686
Start by getting professional help, you have a mental disorder and it cant be treated.
>>767727686
TITS OR GTFO
>>767733978
>get help
>you can't be cured
Why make a problem out of it? Just roll on with your existence and don't care.
>>767727775
OP is probably some LGBT cancerous mental illnesss, OP would just end up saying that the guy raped her.
>>767734284
>>767734224
Jesus christ you faggots stop encouraging OP.
TITS OR GTFO
>>767733473
Sexual aversion disorder is classified as a stress (panic) disorder which have their own progile of neurotransmittor abnormality, namely abnormal levels of GABA. Beyond that , obviously there is a difference between a rape survivor who avoids sex or a woman who has (real) panic attacks at the thought of a sexual encounter, and an 18 year old who has no sexual desire. As I've been saying though, both those groups have underlying neuroendocrine abnormalities. I don't know what your angle or agenda is but you can't deny that.
>be me
>be 27 y/o male
>be at a big party
>get a little lightheaded
>just a little
>me and my friends are having fun, as usual
>suddenly, I remembered
>my duty as a male
>shout 'PENIS' to attract attention
>'my dick is so big...'
>the people are getting curious, I let the tension sit in for a while
>'that I can penetrate!'
>I smile, as I grab the plastic cup from the table and throw it away
>I reach for a cucumber, I always have a cucumber or two ready for these occasions
>like a fucking champion, I stretch my hand way up and wave a little bit, holding a cucumber
>'look at my dong!'
>I hold the cucumber with my right hand right over the crotch, so it looks like it's my oversized and erect penis
>I get on the table and start to jump a little bit
>the other hand is doing lassos over my head
>a little bit of silly dancing to lighten the mood
>cucumber bounces up and down
>I look at people faces to see if they are laughing
>they are
>proud.png
>I squat and start throwing stuff off the table with my green willy furiously
>nothing is safe; plates will be broken
>girls are getting wet
>I take a deep breath and open up my legs, a true man's squat
>'IIIIIIII DOOMIINAAAAAtEEEE!'
>I shriek at the top of my lungs, as my face turns red and my veins turn very visible
>all the males applaud me and all the females are smiling
>mission acomplished, I reminded them that I'm an adult with a penis
>been doing this ritual since I was 13
>I'll get along with alot of males that will call me 'the well-socializing spirit'
>their favourite brother-in-law and their kids favourite uncle
>I'll have a loving wife and some kids
>what about you?
>You will never be a successful mr Penis like me
>>767734569
>>767734569
CHECKED AND KEKED
>>767727686
Does physical contact not get you horny either? Does stroking your own clit not do anything for your body, even if it doesn't effect your mind?
>>767727686
Have you tried chicks?
>>767727686
Watch Bojack Horseman.
>>767734569
>underlying neuroendocrine abnormalities
Abnormalities aren't necessarily the result of illness. My angle is that you can cause a lot of damage to a patient by needlessly telling them they are sick. I'm speaking of cases where there is no evidence to suggest illness. I told the OP to see a doctor to make sure because identifying illness is absolutely first priority, but so is not causing needless harm. For all you and I know she does have a panic disorder, it's impossible to discern from her small post. It's even harder to discern underlying metabolic and hormonal abnormalities.
>>767727686
Yea you had some kind of trauma and you repressed it and then your idiot friends or the idiot articles you've read have convinced you your sexual repression is actually human asexual behavior
>inb4 "what trauma there's no trauma "
>>767735160
Here's something your dad should of taught you.
Stop being a little bitch or neck yourself, for the greater good of mankind
>>767735571
My mother's was a medical doctor, she taught me how shitty it is to deal with a medical professional with 0 bedside manner. My father was a public defense attorney, he taught me to care about even the scum of the earth. You're the one lacking lessons boy.
>>767735160
Abnormalities are illness you goalpost-shifting idiot. You are in over your head here. All im saying is there is probably treatment availible to this girl who clearly, to use your metric, has some distress about her sexuality. And you come on here and splerg out
>THERE'S NOTHING WRONG SWEETIE YOU'RE FINE JUST THE WAY YOU ARE DON'T LET THEM TELL YOU YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOU'RE PERFECTLY NORMAL
This girl came here asking for advice, not your ego-stroking validation. I am fucking sick of people like you interjecting themselves into medicine with your self-righteous self-validating bullshit that stops people from getting help. Find a job at social services to be useless at and stay off /b/.
>>767727686
I encourage you to give it a go. My ex is asexual, but when it came down to it she begged for some dick in her pussy. Even called me daddy. Still claims to be asexual by the way, can't make this stuff up. Bitch even wanted to be tied up. Made me plenty of sandwiches. She was crazy in a good way, but also in a bad way. Glad we parted.
Anyway good luck Anon, I encourage you to go take a shower together and go feel each other up. Get him to go to town on you. If you arent getting any orgasms something's probably wrong (biologically), so in that case anyway show tits or gtfo
>>767735160
>she
did you immediately demand tits ? NO
did you remain silent until TITS were STAMPED and produced ? NO
did you demand tits after none were produced on demand ? NO
you can't b social, but you dispense sanctimony and don't demand tits ? PICTURE OF YOUR SOCK-PUPPET SOCK or GTFO!!!!
fuckin' cancerboy
>>767735918
>mother was a ((medical doctor))
>father was a ((public defense attorney))
Like fucking poetry. Every fucking time. I should have sniffed you out a mile away.
>>767735949
>This girl came here asking for advice
without posting tits, so not a validated girl
guy in real life...this is he 'net
if you can't demand tits and stamp, just go hang out in a trap thread, at least they honestly impersonate women.
TITS OR GTFO!
>>767736365
To be fair i did demand tits in my first post but the thread got a bit derailed with stupidity
Asexual is fake as fuck and you should just kill yourself
>>767736456
and you stood your ground and refused to go along with it ? NO
this is how armies get routed, a few cowards fail their discipline (and run) then all those on the margin of integrity fail thiers.....
next thing you know the whole army is getting buttfucked by virtual traps and sock puppets!
TITS OR GTFO BITCH!!!!
spiderman time, by my watch.
>>767736679
That was pretty cringe. Just sayin'.
>>767727686
BE HONEST, you are a male, and you don't want to reveal the D.
POST TITS AND TIMESTAMP, or quit LARPING and GTFO!!!!
>>767735949
>Abnormalities are illness
Being this ignorant. I'm not shifting goal posts, I'm stating fact. Most people have abnormalities, most abnormalities are not illness.
>there is probably treatment availible to this girl
At least we agree on something.
>asking for advice, not your ego-stroking validation
And I gave her sound advice: Seek a doctor, no one here knows shit about your body. You're the one pretending to know what's wrong with her.
>Find a job at social services
No thanks, linguistics and AI is my shit. It's sad that you need someone to tell you about yours.
>>767736190
Mother was raped and had a child at 14. Father grew up in a shack without electricity or water, sharing a bed with his 6 sisters. They were both poorer than poor. I'm proud of their accomplishments, and fuck your for assuming you know shit about them or anyone.
>>767736822
not resisting femanon-impersonators is pretty cringe fmv, Anon.
it looks that way cuz few are doing it...what is unusual is strange/weird...and when you feel shame you project it onto the weird thing, hence 'cringe'
Mirror time, Mr Weasel.
>>767727686
Hey op,
On the off chance you're not just fucking with us, have you considered polyamory? My wife isn't asexual, but I do have a much higher sex drive than her. Thete was mutual attraction between me and a mutual friend of ours, now I'm her master, she's my puppygirl slave who knows my wife out ranks her, and all three of us are very happy.
>>767736964
Ok this was a god tier troll job. You had us going until
>my mother was raped and my father grew up in a shack
Oy vey, such adversity
Sidenote, it seems like you know nothing about medicine and just looked up the DSM to be a virtue-signalling faggot.
Protip:
>I have cancer
>I don't know I have cancer
>I still have cancer
Or
>I have diabetes
>doesn't bother me, I still eat whatever I want
>I still have diabetes
Lack of distress is not an appropriate measure for health
>>767727686
>Are there any presons with such problem as I have?
Nope but I had problems figuring out my sexuality until recently
>Should tell him about my sexuality or not?
I think you should get some help, perhaps you can see a doctor and they will prescribe you with something or you might need some hormonal change. It is possible that an asexual can become sexual at one point in their life, in the same way that people can change personality or habits. You should tell your boyfriend about your feelings towards sex though
>>767728046
I think it means You Lie You Lose well thats what it says in the bible! Remember anon jesus died for you and he loves you!
>>767732595
Exactly
>>767732595
>If you aren't interested in sex, there's a reason and there's a cure.
This.
>>767737467
It's a pretty crazy story right? My mother's trailer trash, my father's a redneck. They both grew up in abusive homes. Met each other in elementary school, were separated in middle school. They met again in college and got married. It's a good story, partly because it's so hard to believe.
> you know nothing about medicine and just looked up the DSM to be a virtue-signalling faggot.
I apparently know more than you when it comes to psychology. Here you go listing disorders that aren't applicable. I can't tell if you're trying to strawman or if you're actually this dumb. Here's a good one for you: Pedophilia. I think we can both agree that this is an illness? Well guess what, diagnostic criteria says there must be distress to quality.
>>767727686
Try aphrodisiacs, if that doesn't get you in the mood nothing well.
>>767737999
checked
>>767737999
what does distress to quality mean in regards to pedos?
>>767727686
Hey, ask he to lick your pussy before you fuck, it will surely turn you on
>>767737276
fucking degenerates
>>767738985
>distress to qualify*
It says that a pedo who does not act on their attractions and feels no distress having them does not meet the criteria for pedophilia as a diagnosis. Distress is thus a key element of the diagnosis.
>>767730354
Then you're cancer lmao
>>767737999
You're not hearing me. You're not hearing anything. Diagnostic criteria is based on symptoms. Distress is a symptom, not an underlying disease process. The biological disease process is what is (theoretically) treatable. Pedophilia, for instance, is thought to be caused by a number of structural brain abnormalities. Most of them are developed in utero bit can develop later on. For instance, pedophiles have double the rate of head injuries as non pedophiles (psychosocial and environmental factors). Read this.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4478390/
Your inability to diferentiate distress as a symptom from inderlying disease processes makes you a brainlet. Have you ever heard a doctor (not a psych) say someones diagnosis was distress or pain or thirst? Of course not. Those are symptoms, and ALL symptoms are the result of biologic abnormality.
tits of gtfo
>>767739185
Doesn't that just leave open our diagnostic methods being malformed?
Cause that's odd that they'd be like "oh, you wanna fuck kids but you're chill not doing so" and "naw, they're not a pedo".
>>767727686
If you want to keep the guy, it's the only way unfortunately. He'll lose interest in you if you don't give it up. It's how men are wired.
>>767739479
We're also wired to lie are ass off just to get what we want
>>767727686
just try it you will love it and love him
>>767737999
>>767739362
And you should also probably point out to the lurkers that liking kids but not being in distress doesnt mean that a person isn't ill. It means they have pedophilic disorder instead of pedophilia. THAT'S a strawman.
>>767727686
You're leading some poor guy on when you're broken.
Either fix yourself or come clean, guys need sex in relationships
>>767739658
I was reading it, kinda funny cause I fell down stairs when I was younger.
>>767727686
You should seek out a therapist or a counselor. People here will just tell you "tits or GTFO."
Also, tits or GTFO.
>>767727686
Unless you produce by binary fusion or budding, you're not asexual. You're just retarded.
>>767739810
Do you feel bad when you fiddle kids? If you do you're a pedophile but if you're cool with it you are just pedophillic
>>767739362
>distress is a symptom
That's my point. I never said it was an underlying disease process. It's a symptom that's relevant in that case of asexuality too. If it's present the person isn't considered asexual. In fact there is no official diagnostic criteria for asexuality, it's existence is debatable. There are however things that present similarly that I was advising the OP to be aware of. They must be ruled out before asexuality can be considered.
>>767739613
And for you children at home, the very article linked in opposition states "the sexual preference itself cannot be considered a mental disorder similar."
>>767739410
Pedophilia is considered a disorder. If there are no negative symptoms it's not a disorder and it's not pedophilia.
>>767739613
Kek, so I have a pedophillic disease that's not pedophillia. Fml, still sucks.
Anything on unwiring the brain to think less like this?
>>767740054
Don't do that because I'm terrified of the law, it's wrong & don't care that I'm not having sex with them.
>>767740067
So, thinking about wanting to fuq kids isn't a negative symptoms?
>>767740242
Appending into this.
>>767740353
I'm open to the idea that I'm using these words wrong, btw.
>>767740067
>>767740353
>So, thinking about wanting to fuq kids isn't a negative symptoms?
Correct, as long as the person doesn't act on it and they aren't bothered by the thoughts.
>>767727686
women arent meant to enjoy sex anyway
>>767740353
Are you sick or something?
Ofcourse its not.
>>767740452
The way we categorize things as bizarre.
>>767740452
How much of a difference is there between being distressed by something versus being bothered by something?
Also, what are the characteristics of being too distressed?
TITS OR GTFO
>>767740511
Tell me about it. I can't blame the physician assistant I've been talking to for being ignorant, there's a lot to know, and he's not gone through much education.
>>767732152
Unless your under 20 or over 60 you have probably got a chemical imbalance.
>>767740714
Fucking STT fuqin earin me wrong.
>>767740753
No clue, I just find it odd that we're splitting hairs between wanting to fuck kids while being distressed as one thing while wanting to fuck kids while not being distressed as another.
I just didn't think that there would be a difference is most of it, I guess.
>>767740714
distress is an aversive state in which a person is unable to completely adapt to stressors and their resulting stress and shows maladaptive behaviors.
>doi:10.17226/154
In the clinic, distress is a patient reported outcome that has a huge impact on patient's quality of life. To assess patient distress, a Hospital Anxiety and Depression Scale (HADS) questionnaire is most commonly used. The score from the HADS questionnaire guides a clinician to recommend lifestyle modifications or further assessment for mental disorders like depression.
>doi.org/10.1017%2FS0033291712002930
>>767740908
Thinking about fucking kids and wanting to fuck kids aren't the same thing. Healthy people can have crazy fantasies, it doesn't mean anything is wrong with them. That said, if those crazy fantasies are causing the person stress/anxiety, then it's a problem for them and thus a disorder.
>>767740067
>distress is the determinate of illness
>I never said distress is a disease process
My dude you simply don't know how diagnostics work and youre backtracking
>>767741104
Where do I land if I fap to loli but wish I wasn't attracted to minors?
>>767727816
this. it’s genetically stupid. you weren’t socialised properly before you hit the age of 4 i bet.
>>767732951
LET THERE BE LIGHT
not op.
thank you anon
>>767741377
You apparently don't understand diagnostics in psychology. Better go hit the books.
>>767730517
kys
>>767727686
There is but only one cure 4 you, trust The BBC
>>767741393
There's a word for that too, it's called an ego-dystonic sexual orientation.
>>767741706
Unless OP is British, why would they trust the BBC?
>>767741821
YOU ARE THE NIGGEREST
ikr.
>>767741821
to unlock all the pleasure stimulating areas the proper equipment and a couple of peculiar biochemical reactions are required
>>767741737
Well, I'd agree to that but the only think that I can think of when it comes to an idealized self-image is me being dead because I couldn't hurt anyone then nor does it, to my knowledge, cause anxiety. Do I still fit?
>>767742080
Eh, the right drugs do the same thing.
>>767742080
In the top part of the diagram you got there it says nigger seed goes right into the womb, but its not supposed to???
>>767742080
There's some serious bad anatomy going on in that pic for it to work as bait. Fucking somebody's cervix would be extremely painful. Hitting it varies from person to person but actually pushing it open and fucking it would be as painful if not more painful than having a baby. Fix your pic lel
anon is confused about sex. People are being so harsh. you just need to explore your sexuality and learn what you enjoy, you really arent asexual you just need some experience, relax, have fun in this special part of your life. Get some good tongue action. I bet theres not a woman alive that doesnt love that.
>>767727686
Asexuals don't exist.
>>767742277
BBC is the best natural good-drug dispenser, highly addictive
>>767742205
Again, I'm more afraid of the law in the fact that it's wrong. There is a little bit of self-preservation happening here.
>>767742333
checked but all white bois be like:
>anything above 3 inches will hurt her cervix!
>size don't matter - technique matters! [tips fedora, unsheaths katana, double jumps away]
>>767742442
Kek
My sides
BBC is full of drigs, maybe that's why they end up in jail
>>767730354
Let's talk about that spacing.
>>767742205
The idealized self image in your case is not being attracted to children. If you cannot accept yourself for who you are you are ego-dystonic.
>>767742732
So, as long as I accepting myself as someone who A) has to change and B) should keep learning, I've got that ego-dystonic thing? Cause I could be okay with that.
>>767733473
Actually psychology is not considered medical.
Psychiatry is considered medical, because you have to go to medical school. You have to do the same shit in medical school that every other doctors besides dentists and podiatrists do. I had not 4 but 5 years of medical school after college for psychiatry. You do not have to go to medical school to be a psychologist. Psychologists do not prescribe medication or have a fundamental knowledge for chemistry or anatomy other than things they googled.
The more you know.
>>767728046
It means you lick you lose so don't be a faggot or you will not be accepted in Jeus' eyes
>>767727686
Tits and GTFO
>>767727686
Just expalian, it's pretty clear you've been together for a while without doing it
>>767742888
>has to change
Yup, that's it in a nutshell. Someone with a healthy sense of self would accept their attractions for what they are, not try to change them. Unless you're under the age of 18 you'll probably always be attracted to children. What's important is dealing with those attractions in a healthy way and not acting on them. That said, there are worse things in the world than being ego-dystonic, you do you.
>>767743069
Thanks for the tip
>physician's assistant
lol
>>767727686
discover your sexuality with the real man
>>767741661
Asexuality is an illness
>NOT UNLESS THEY'RE DISTRESSED. DISTRESS MAKES IT AN ILLNESS
Actually illness is determined by biologic process not symptomology. Asexuals have biologic abnormalities
>NOT ALL OF THEM HERES SOME EXAMPLES OF ASEXUALS WHO DONT HAVE BIOLOGIC ABNORMALITIES
Actually all of those have biologic abnormalities. Here, take a gander at the literature that says so
>YEAH BUT THIS OTHER PSYCHOLOGICAL ILLNESS REQUIRES A CLINICIAN TO SEMANTICALLY DOCUMENT DISTRESS TO QUALIFY THE DIAGNOSIS OTHERWISE THEY DONT HAVE AN ILLNESS CHECK MATE
But actually if they don't report distress symptoms they fall under a different semantic classification of mental illness and they still have underlying neuroendocrine abnormalities. Here, take a gander at the literature on those neuroendocrine abnormalities. Stop using distress as your determinate of illness it's just a symptom
>YEAH DISTRESS IS A SYMPTOM THATS WHAT I SAID HAHA WHY ARE YOU SO IGNORANT
stop hiding behind semantics. Asexuals all have neuroendocrine abnormalities and are therefor A) Ill and B) potentially treatable. That's the bottom line. Distress has nothing to do with that fact.
>>767732595
But why does there have to be a cure if the person is ok with it and isn't harming anyone? If you're asexual/uninterested by sex and someone wants to date you then just be honest. If they sperg out like the "I am am always horny so anyone that isn't doesn't really exist" types on here then move on. If it bothers you, then look into doctors and hormones and shit. If it doesn't bother you do whatever you do like.
ITT people so given into their sexual urges and so convinced that everyone must be like them for really real they get triggered by people who claim not to have any.
>>767743944
distress doesn't make it an illness, distress is a symptom of an illness that is presenting instead of asexuality. How many times do I have to explain the diagnostic procedure to you? It's relevant to the point about biological abnormalities too. In the case of neurotransmitters there is no clear diagnosis. In the case of hormonal imbalance on the other hand there is, and this would also rule out asexuality.
You then claimed distress wasn't used in diagnostic criteria and I refuted that claim with an example where it clearly is used in diagnostic criteria (pedophilia).
I do think it's funny you say I'm "hiding" behind semantics. I'm not, I'm just using them correctly. How would I know though, I'm just a linguist.
>>767744476
Asexuality literally doesnt exist as a diagnosis though, you literally have no clue what you're talking about. I also didnt once say distress isnt used in diagnostic criteria, i said it's not a determinant of illness. Just because someone is asymptomatic doesnt mean they arent ill. Symptomatic criteria are the definition of semantics and you are very much hiding behind them
>>767744888
>Asexuality literally doesnt exist as a diagnosis though
Did I not explain that already? Oh yes, I did
>>767740067
>In fact there is no official diagnostic criteria for asexuality, it's existence is debatable.
At this point I don't think you even know why you're arguing with me. I made my point, you just don't want to acknowledge that you put OPs well being at risk by assuming too much with limited medical knowledge.
>>767732595
A. She'll develop some sexual interest later
or
B. She will stay this way
So either way, why does it matter to anyone but her? If it bothers her and she wants to try to find a way to have a sex drive then she should do that. If she is fine with it and doesn't want that added complication to her life, and is content as she is, then she shouldn't do anything more than be honest and up front.
This really isn't that hard and having all these self appointed experts on what exists and what doesn't, what she should want or shouldn't, whether she's ill or just uninterested for other reasons, it's all a massive circle jerk of people who can't see beyond what they feel. This isn't faggotry or about pizza or cutting off your dick or anything degenerate; no one is trying to get someone else to do something and no one is attention whoring it. This is nothing, and the only thing you owe anyone is to be upfront about it if they are romantically interested and you reciprocate that romantic interest.
>>767727686
Maybe you're not asexual. Maybe you're just fat, in denial and afraid of sex?
>>767745194
>In fact, there is no diagnostic criteria for asexuality, its existence is debatable
>It's relevant to the point about biological abnormalities too. In the case of neurotransmitters there is no clear diagnosis. In the case of hormonal imbalance on the other hand there is, and this would also rule out asexuality.
>rule out asexuality
>rule out a diagnosis of asexuality
>a diagnosis of asexuality
>a diagnosis
Ok fella
At any rate, i told the girl to go to the doctor because she has a neuroendocrine imbalance, which she certainly does if she truly has no desire for sexual activity. Just like I already outlined for you. Keep wrestling with your words until you prove me wrong though.
>>767745626
maybe you should conceal your projection a little better?
>>767745731
Without sex you'll die alone anyway.
>>767745805
still not subtle enough
>>767745666
Checked
Also bub, I said asexuality's existence is debated. That doesn't mean there aren't licensed medical professionals who believe it exists. Those that do first rule out other possibilities as I've stated. There are no words to wrestle with, I'm paraphrasing articles written by people far more knowledgeable than us both.
Also let me copy your original post: >>767730220
>i reccomend you try it
>Asexuality is usually a really strong hormone imbalance and sometimes getting dicked is a nice reset
>You may want to talk to your primary doctor too.
Remember how we talked about the potential of it being a panic disorder, or anything else really, since you know next to nothing about this person? You gave dangerous advice and then said "maybe talk to a doctor". You then asserted:
>It's an illness
When that is clearly debatable.
>>767741664
Fuck off
>>767730517
This is the best advice in the thread so far. Do what you think you should do. Unless you're a mental case, it really will be nothing more than a small memory in a couple years, since you are young. I did some weird shit in my early 20's, but am not anything like I used to be nowadays
Kill yourself disgusting whore
>>767746116
manlet begone
>>767727686
I don't understand what's so difficult. If sex isn't a thought then having it to maintain a relationship is like mowing the yard. Sucks but you do it because you have to. What the hell is there to be afraid of?
>>767745666
Also may I point out that you're getting in a pretty big huff over a small issue on 4chan. I'm only just losing my virginity today, it's pretty ironic you're arguing with me about this.
>>767727686
Just remember that if even after telling him the truth (which you should) he insists on having sex even if you want, you can safely dump the fucker for prioritizing his feelings over yours.
>>767727686
bait
>>767729785
It's called budding, I believe.
>>767727686
you're not "asexual", you have either some form of depression or a mental block against sex. get therapy.
Just blow him. Its better than sex anyways.
>>767731677
this
>>767730354
My man!
>>767730354
finally
>>767727686
nobody wants to have sex with someone whose forcing themselves to do it unless they have serious mental imbalances
>>767727686
Use loob.
/tread
>>767732119
>Also to my surprise people don't understand what the hymen is, and how first time sex hurts and fucking sucks for women.
women get aroused from pain and orgasm during childbirth
you know nothing
>>767749048
are you kidding?
if they're not being forced then how is it even rape?
>>767727686
I knew a woman who was a lesbian. She was married to a woman, and she had completely lost interest in men. During sex, she needed to use lube.
Yet somehow, she fell in love with me. She hadn't been with a guy in about 20 years, and had never been in love with a guy. Ever.
Now, we fuck nightly. I get her wet. She likes my dick. And she is truly in love with me, as I am with her. These are all facts that surprised the hell out of her.
Oh yeah, and we're both 40, so it's not some youthful indecision bullshit either.
All I'm saying is crossing your arms, going "harrumph", and declaring you don't want sex ever, the end, may be a bit premature. You might want to get your low or nonexistent sex drive looked at. It's not like you have to have sex or anything. Do wtfever you want. But it might be a symptom of something bigger that's wrong with you medically.
I mean, if you're a proud member of the "ace" community and you don't care that the vast, overwhelming majority of guys will want to have sex, then so your own thing. But the simple, biological reality of human sexuality will be working against you.
>>767732595
>If there were any genetic component to not wanting sex it would disappear from society in a single generation (because they wouldn't breed).
You know nothing about biology and should stop talking. You're probably an art major or math autist.
Show tits you fucking fag
>>767727686
>asexuel
>fear of falling in love
most asex. ppl are misanthropes or autists.
>>767727686
Honest truth is that the moment you lose your virginity you loose most of your value on the marriage market. There are men out there that pay hundreds of thousands of dollars to take a girl's virginity. Be honest about your lack of sex drive but tell him that once you are married you will allow him to fuck you. If you want to loose your virginity now, at least get rich doing it.
