>first year in college
>really enjoy it, way better than high school
>working part-time in tesco
>don't like it, but almost 4€/h is good for where I live
>next semester I want to find a job closer to my school, so I wouldn't have to come home that often, want to be more independent
>real problem is me being an introvert /even tho somehow I ended up with a lot of fem-friends now in college/
>3 guys from my class tried to talk to me and text me
>I took few hours to respond to the texts, then I mostly left them on seen, way to make it all awkward
>never had a boyfriend
>keep rejecting guys bc I think it's not gonna work, we don't have much in common, don't like their personality etc... basically I haven't found a guy that is good enough for me /yeah I know how awful it sounds but I want to be honest/
>last time a guy tried to kiss me /at a party where I didn't even wanted to go/ I said something like "ehhh no...", left, and the next day when he send me friend request and message if I wanna go out, I just ignored him
>younger sister is in relationship, now my fam is like "what about you, is there anyone? ;))" and I'm afraid there will never be anyone - not because I would want a bf - because it's just normal for people to find someone, live with them and have a family
So yeah, a bit of a rant... I just want to know, is there someone that had/have the same kind of problem, like is it possible to change or am I hopeless case and it will always be like "omg you are smart, you look good, how is it possible you still single?" and I will end up with bunch of cats and rats - but happy, bc as I said, I don't actually need relationship. My life philosophy is, that you should be happy by yourself and if you need another person to be happy, you are doing something wrong. Its more about what people expect and tbh, it is a bit weird when you are 20 and you haven't even been on a date
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Married fag here
Ya it's possible for everyone. You just need to find the right person. It takes time OP. As much as being single is good there is great joy in binding with another person
dont worry about finding a partner right now, dont get strapped down and just enjoy life and be free
you're young and you're only young once in life
id suggest having fun, lots of sex, one night stands and all sorts of stuff. Try everything trust me its awesome. gotta try out all the dicks to know which one you love the best
you can settle down in your middle to late 30s, for now just let and enjoy yourself :)
get over the whole "nobody is good enough for me" thing, it's more about your own barriers than about their shortcomings. i don't mean to sound harsh but i did the whole high standards thing for a while and honestly it's just you being closed off
give people a chance, you don't know yourself yet, being so young and all, let alone anyone else
stakes are really low, so just do what you feel, make mistakes, try your best to keep an open mind
life is good, hope everyone's havin a good night
I am curious why you asked OP...
I've been married 12 years. We got married right out of HS and went to school together. I became an attorney and she went eh medical route.
I may be able to offer some sound advise
> I don't actually need relationship.
that's fine. might be that you never do, might be that at some point you'll find somebody you're really into and have no clue how to react to being genuinely into somebody.
I know attractive, normal girls who didn't have a boyfriend until their late 20's. I know some just never found somebody that they really liked until then.
I also know a few in their 30's who're still dateless. some are probably just happy alone, some are probably just socially fucked in a non obvious way.
>if you need another person to be happy, you are doing something wrong
we're social creatures, assuming you're not atypical you need other people to be happy.
Not getting into relationships just for the sake of it is a good choice, but you still need human interaction. dating is just another expression of that.
It's possible, you are still young. No offense but you clearly have some growing up still to do. You will undoubtedly change as you get older. Just do me a favor and don't lead any guys on until you know what you want. You'll be fine, also, can I see dem tittays?
I guess you're right, but I'm not sure about the one night stands part
I don't want to get married or have kids rn, so settling down at my 30's seems like a good idea, but I'm not sure if I'm gonna find some decent guy then, I mean, most of them are gonna be married, divorced or with kids and stuff
>be attention whore
>post tits on 4chan for attention
cunt i dont care what you fucking do. You wanna lose your V-card so bad? go talk to some muslims/africans and get gangraped by them.
>My life philosophy is, that you should be happy by yourself and if you need another person to be happy, you are doing something wrong.
Your life philosophy....at age 20.....how quaint.....
>Its more about what people expect and tbh, it is a bit weird when you are 20 and you haven't even been on a date
talk to me when this is the case for you at age 30
I wouldn't stress that. Th real question is are you running from potential relationships or are they just not finding you? There is a very natural and human need to attach to someone of the opposite sex. If nothing has found you just wait. If you avoiding it think on why that is and make changes. Avoiding possible relationships can be a sign of something deeper going on (nothing wrong though)
the "not good enough"part is probably my biggest problem, but I want to have many things in common with the person I'm going to spend my life with. From not-eating-meat to at least similar interests
But I will try to give them chance
trust me you'll find a decent guy
you look like you're a catch and you'll have no problems finding a man who loves you deeply
however you don't want the burden and responsibility so early in your life so yeah, late 30s or even 40s if you're lucky
stay mad because you dont get pussy faggots
dont listen to these 2 incels, they are just mad they dont get any girls, have fun with sex its 2018. dont get slut shamed guys who truly love you wont care about your past
Hes trolling you retarded bitch. If you do that you will end up a lonely suicidal cat lady with STD's
Hes giving you the female advice equivalent of delete system 32 and kill yourself.
this is not true, I truly loved my ex but I could not look past her being a complete whore. It still hurts me to this day but I can't be with her. Literally its like a mental block and I can't even find her attractive anymore, despite her definitely being my type.
yeah you're one of the few rare men who apparently think its ok to control women and own them as property, its 2018 not 1950s
stop fucking slut shaming and accept her past you disgusting incel
Im man, accepting your lifes philosophy. I mostly reject women and have found my ways of being happy by myself. Being now in relationship is just extra, i like her company. She's like a really good friend and can has sex with her, its fine.
Ok problem found.
OP look do not build your life around you own ideals. That is an ill-lived life.
Ok my wife is totally different from me. We are equally intelligent. But I am more charismatic, well spoken, emotionally stable, and aggressive. She is more independent, organized, and motivated than me.
She is a liberal- I am conservative. She is a vegetarian, I am not. The differences attract us to one another and allow to us to fix one another's flaws.
The idea isn't to find someone similar (or the same) to yourself. The idea is to find someone who is your equal.
it happens, my dating life dropped off about 5 years ago and never picked back up, sometimes it just feels like you're waiting for something that probably isn't going to happen
>I don't want to get married or have kids rn, so settling down at my 30's seems like a good idea
goddamn women are tragically fucking dumb arent they?
Hey dipshit! When your i your 30's no one will WANT to settle down with you anymore. The only men who will marry you are the ones who cant do better than an over the hill bitch in her 30's, in other words, the short fat bald bug eyed losers who you dont fucking want. Tall attractive men either never get married period or they settle down early with a girl who is about the age you are RIGHT NOW. If you want a successfully and handsome man as your husband you need to be looking at men in their late 20's and early 30's with established career tracks and you need to be looking at them RIGHT FUCKING NOW!
I wish i could slap this stupid cunt through the computer screen i really do.
listen to this OP, you only live once have fun and let loose
if you're worried about the future know this, men who care about how many sexual partners you have are NOT worth your time. honestly.
shut the fuck up, women are not objects you own you disgusting shit lord
No fucking way /b/ro. Sorry she is the mother of my children. Not posting her tits on /b/
I would see why that is. There is nothing wrong with being single. You are young after all. Just be careful you do not develop and unhealthy detachment from others. It can be lonely
>shut the fuck up, women are not objects you own you disgusting shit lord
Cant tell if this is an ALT Righter trolling by pretending to be a feminist whore or if its an actual mentally retarded feminist whore from tumbler whos apparently found her way onto /b/ to look up child porn.
I had no interest in girls romantically for a long time. I would talk to them, but as soon as I got close to them I'd bail because I didn't want that shit, I just wasn't in to them that way. Met a girl, hated her, then a few months later we started dating. She was pretty, but I still didn't want to be in a relationship, I just figured I would go for it for a change.
Took 3 months before I realised how much I liked her, at 7 years later we're still together, so it's not all that bad. Don't go fucking people for no reason though, because the standards you have will slip and you are far more likely to settle for a shit guy.
Not a virgin. Am married. Have two kids. Guess how old my wife was when i married her? 21 :3
Guess what i would say to a used up whore in her 30's if she proposed marriage or any kind of relationship? lol get lost skank.
Not OP, but I'm curious what 'leading on' constitutes of.
In HS I never saw people hitting on each other too much - there were a few couples, but that's it; girls had just as hard a time getting an SO as boys. Everybody was good friends though; it was ok for guys to have female friends without furter expectations (tbh there were quite a few rejections from guys after some girl tried to hit on them; they aren't gay for now they have straight relationships).
Fast forward to shitty university. Suddenly talking to a guy can be seen as 'leading on' and 'giving signals'. I was used to being treated as a human instead of a fuckobject and didn't change my behavior at first. I did not even have a habit of hugging people - but cheerfully saying 'hey', talking about work/just chatting was something that I did to all people regardless of gender. But some saw this as 'leading on' and 'being flirty'.
It all hit me like a brick wall after a very rude attempt at physical contact by one of the people I treated friendly (like I would anyone else - male or female). I felt quite terrible and humiliated for being dumb and not adapting to the 'common ways'.
Now I have strict rules: talk to males about strictly work-related things, don't smile too much, absolutely no laughter.
Tl;dr I'm interested in what 'leading on' is constituted of in your opinion.
OP, where are you from? By the sounds of it it's Ireland except I can't imagine Tesco paying €4 and hour here, more like €9? So if you're from Ireland drop an instagram name or something maybe we could meet up some time
This man gets it. Too many spergs who are either taking it seriously or know its a troll and who are trying to whiteknights and save the retarded college thot from destroying her life. People used to play along man.
Yeh, no worries, will come.. I was also a late bloomer, despite people saying I was handsome.. although compared to you I really wanted, I was just too shy due to a minor "defect" on my body.. in the mid 20's it just started by itself, meeting girls I just went well along with right away, without great efforts or the good ole' flirting-game. I guess that's what you call having a good chemistry with each other. That kind of broke a curse and my girls counter just went up crazy once I got that ball rolling..
So yea, it will come
I feel you op. I have basically the same thing going on. I rejected two girls in the past month, and neither were bad people and weren't ugly either.. i just can't imagine myself being able to make an effort like maintaining a relationship at all
If you want to settle down at any point, you are more likely to do it at a younger age. People that have had a lot of sexual experience and the 'social freedom', then decide to settle in their 30's-40's typically find it more difficult. If you want the freedom, go for it and keep it. If you do want to settle down, it will happen naturally with somebody you like at a younger age, it is not a rush and is no stress.
what do you do for fun? i've decided not to have kids so i dont look for someone else but if you could find someone to just chill with it probably wouldnt be that bad. I'm also an introvert and fill my time with games and chilling on discord with friends.
Hi! Few things to start off with =) 1. Yes I replied because you're a female, 'tis and awesome thing to see! 2. I'm Brian 3. Don't be intimidated, but I'm not a stereotypical guy. If anything, I'll be the one in the kitchen =D.
late but, everyone in this thread is retarded
>just fuck a bunch of guys lol
literally your whole greentext is just normal, as long as youre happy thats cool, you dont need to focus on relationships, just live your life how you want to and eventually youll find someone you like. nothing to worry about atm, you arent on the path to becoming a cat lady yet
But are you interesting? Sounds like you don't have a lot going on in that department.
My criteria for my SO were that I have to like his character (for me it was the feeling that if everything went to shit and we had to leave with nothing but clothes on our back, that's the person I'd want by my side) and that he is interesting.
It took around half a year of being friends and doing activities together before I was 100% sure I can't live without him and that if I miss my chance, I'm gonna regret it till the end of my life.
But to have high standards you've got to match them too. If you're a boring slob and want a charismatic prince Charming, that's not gonna work.
>So, I found who was behind of it...
i love these white knight memes keep them coming
they only show how much of a misogynist person you are which of course equals INCEL AS FUCK
i know you cant get sexual release with the opposite sex but dont restrict other people such as OP too just because you're miserable
i know misery loves company, so stay with other INCELS YOU FUCKING RETARDS
How is this a problem? Too many guys hit on you? Then you treat every guy who is nice to you like trash good job you entitled slut. You'll be fat single and have 3 kids in 5 years don't even worry about it.
Thanks, it just came from nowhere despite the fact I felt I was actively avoiding it at that point. I guess my point is that talking to people is good, even if it's just standard responses, chances are one of them will be interesting and make you feel less disconnected. You can talk to people without being romantically interested.
there are things that I'm interested in and I can spend hours talking about them, but I guess the people that I'm surrounded with don't share them, I guess it's because of where I live, it's difficult to find the few that actually have the same or similar interests
What are those things? You may just be looking in the wrong places. Put yourself in a position to meet likeminded people. You are less likely to find an introvert in to geology at a house party.
Exactly your philosophy, you dont NEED someone to make you happy, but when you find the right person who you can share both your happiness with each other go for it... u dont NEED to find anyone etc
You're lying to yourself otherwise you wouldn't be posting on her seeking validation for you bring how you are. Humans are social by nature and nobody is gonna change that. You just sound like a scared judgmental little girl that will one day be sweet talked by some as whole and have a while new reason to hate men. You're not new, edgy, or a whatever the fuck you think you are. You're just another femnazi putting up a front. Good luck with the bs.
Try debating. It's great, quite a lot of interesting people there.
Also try specific clubs - if you're in law or other social sciences, try moot courts or MUN, if in other fields, find other specialized clubs or activities.
Specialised conferences (if you are in a scientific field) are great.
You can try volunteering.
Dancing is a poor choice because of the number of sluts and guys looking for sluts and the gender ratio.
Exchange and exchange students is another poor choice. It's mostly for ONS and nobody gives a crap about the exchange students from Eastern Europe anyway.
In general applying to various specialised programs - such as a research project or debates - is great. Try some activities out of your comfort zone that will aid you in your further life - for example, I was terrified of public speaking, so I joined the debate club (and, surprisingly, didn't suck at it) - I knew I'd need public speaking skills in various situations later in my life.
Don't make the search for an SO your main focal point, but sitting at a computer and talking to your pets isn't gonna help. Do the things that you like and that are useful and you might meet someone, but if you don't, you'll still be better off than before.
scrolled through entire thread and did not see tits, only newfags, newfags white knighting giving undeserved attention to an attention whore who did not provide tits
>son im disapoint
You'll find some introverts get dragged out by their other friend(s), so shit that isn't as daunting as a party are likely. They probably won't approach you though, they'd rather sit to the side. But I'm sure you have museums, libraries or places they can go. Meeting people off the internet is tough because most introverts do just want to stay at home on the internet and avoid local stuff. I feel your pain, I didn't meet anybody that was slightly odd until I started working in retail. But even then sometimes I wouldn't see them for weeks. And I can't approach people to talk, despite being able to hold a conversation I just feel uncomfortable talking to people.
See if your college/uni has any groups for shit you're interested in. I always avoided them, but I didn't want to meet people at the time so they might be helpful. It's different in the UK to most places in the world though.
Problem is, detecting 'flirting', especially for Aspies or people who've never paid too much attention to HS drama, is hard to detect.
Is laughing at their joke flirting? Is attending an event together or joining an activity flirting? Is chatting online about things people normally talk about with their friends flirting? The line is really blurred on these things: someone with no interest in the female might see them as normal, someone who has ulterior motives will think that's 'leading on'.
Where's the line?
Stay jealous. How were the five faps you had today?
fickin millennials responding to his whiny cunt who dont show tits, kys
The UK needs to stop trying to be like the US, but your fucked culture is tainting people here. Thing is, I've been the the US and it wasn't bad at all, just that the media you push out is fucked.
at 20 you are still very young. Let some time pass. Although I´m a guy I was very much like you in my early twenties. I rejected a couple pretty girls because it just didn't feel right at the time, I wanted someone else or being afraid because they had so much more experience than me.
I just wasn´t ready, even though thinking back I regret not having fucked each and every one of them.
Eventually I just decided to take the jump and go all the way with a chick I rather randomly met at a club. Ended up in a relationship that taught me most things worth knowing about sex and that it´s a mistake not breaking up quickly after you realize you don´t actually make for a good and happy couple.
You´re right about other people not being able or responsible for making you happy, but you will find that cuddling and sex are nice things and sharing stuff with your partner can also be a fun activity (if it is the right one).
Eventually your horniness will just take over. Some people just take longer.
My current gf only lost her virginity at 25 for very similar reasons to you.
I had to teach her a lot, which was annoying but worth it. Now she´s turned into a cockhungry slut.
and here I thought you'd help a fellow autist. Well, I guess not all of them are friendly - I guess it depends on the severity of their ailment.
Guys can be platonic friends with girls. I have several female friends that are just another person to me. This is when people jump in with "OH YOU"RE JUST FRIENZONED" or some shit but the reality is I wouldn't want to date any of them. Friends is cool but I see how they treat their BFs and don't want any of that.
HAHAHAHAHAHAA Well done that's a new one.
I did date one for a bit but we figured out that while we were great friends we sucked as bf/gf. We still hang out and play games sometimes.
To the OP. Unless you're getting like "crazy dude" vibes you might as well try some dates. Get some experience so when you do find prince perfect you're well prepared to woo him.
We'll see about that but for now I'm quite happy with her.
Regarding losing your virginity: Dont wait for true love. Find someone who has a bit of experience and who you can trust and who's able to gently take the lead. It makes for lot less awkward sex than when you both are virgins even though you might initially feel more secure if it is new for both of you.
Awkward teenager sex is not the best one and those first times between two noobs always are awkward teenager sex, no matter how old they are.
That's an interesting way to interpret my advice. My interpretation was that she might find out she really likes a guy after getting to know him better. First impressions can be problematic under even fairly ideal situations.
Don't fall for the meme. Being able to give yourself to someone you truly love is great, don't waste that. Learning everything isn't that hard when you're willing, but you can't unhave sex.
I had sex with two men and that's one too much.
The older I get the more petty and fruitless people in their 20s seem. Their relationship and courting problems are mere blips on the radar of life.
OP. It's great you have all these dudes texting you and shit, but you are overthinking it. Honestly, just focus on what makes you happy and try not to step on anyone's feelings while doing what you want to do.
Don't look to far into relationships, because I can guarantee these guys texting and pursuing you aren't either. But, that's the gamble, one of them might be 'the one', so it's important to make sure you have a good time with guys you just want to fuck around with.
My honest opinion though, travel, figure out a career, and keep in good contact with close friends and spend time with them, the chads texting you and shit can come later.
there was at least one guy that was actually decent, but now he is dating my sister, so yeah, thats also pretty weird.
So yeah, I will probably keep doing what makes me happy, I would like to travel more and finding new - better - job seems like the best thing to do rn
Words of a dude who got gonorrhea because he was a whore when he was younger. It was a huge wake up call because while that STD was easily treated the next might not be.
To me "prime pussy" isn't very fun when it's attached to a moron or just someone I generally cannot stand.
keep saving yourself buddy. itll happen one day
Sex is meaningless, as is the number of people you fuck.
What counts is whether or not you have fun doing it. If you´re fine fucking only one person ever, then do that. But don´t let people tell you what the correct number is or make you feel like you're a slut.
Sex only means something if you don´t use contraceptives. Otherwise it really doesn´t matter how many people have stuck their peepee into you. People who make you feel bad about this have just a very weird world-view and are probably really insecure about themselves, especially if it is a man.
As to learning everything: Unless your partner has A LOT more experience than you, learning everything is impossible with just one partner.
How do you know what you like if you haven't tried it? How do you know which kind of sex you like? How do you know your sex is good if you haven't tried different partners? Sex is VERY different with different people. They smell different, behave different, look different and react differently to different things.
Try them out. You´re young and you live in the most liberal period ever, you have the opportunity to use technology to have the fun of sex without any of the consequences. Use this opportunity.
This post is too good for this board.
>this thread is whats wrong with /b/ today
Just look at all this beta normies giving this slut attention without her posting even 1 nude.
If this was old /b/ this slut would have been nude by now. With objects in her ass.
Disgustingly pathetic faggs.
OP dont get mad because this.
Wizard reporting here. I didnt got on any relation until recently, and on these moment, kissless virgin wizard.
There's no any problem if you didn't get on a relation on your 20's. There's a lot of time to this.
Think on you. If you need a relation, then, search for it. If you're ok as you're now, then, wait for a later time.
Most important thing: Sex aren't nothing. Sex are another aspect of love, nothing more. Don't allow /b/ to get on you mind the idea of sex is required. You can get engaged on a relation and didn't have sex until some months later. Probably, here, all people told you they have sex on first night, and, also, probably that's a lie. If you love the other person, you didn't need only sex with him / her.
Have fun here thinking you are edgy in here. At least we still have the "secret eden" where all the old faggs and basement dwellers when. where fun is still allowed and oc memes and nudes are fresh.
Enjoy this data mining, censored, cesspool
Uhhh..... keep clam
it's all peer pressure
Just do things that make you happy.
But there's a limit to it thou
if you cross a certain age than you are gonna get ugly loser fags only.
you are young so you shouldn't be worried for now at least.
The destructive liberal agenda of 'limitless interpretations' attempts to dissociate any physical phenomena from meaning. To them art is devoid of one defined meaning, the human behaviour is belittled to the physical actions without significance, anything anyone does is claimed to be equally important, all gender differences are claimed to be a myth of the conservative demons.
Well, humans aren't animals and can't act like it. A life devoid of meaning is empty, it's not a coincidence that people with depression or suicidal thoughts can describe life as 'pointless' or 'meaningless' - as conscious beings we tend to assign meaning to things and that process is important.
Living as a slave to your primitive instincts is a quick path to mental deterioration. Not being able to have principles and live according to them, not being self-disciplined leads to a mess.
Sex for humans is more than flesh rubbing because we can't remove our private parts and let them do their job apart from the brain. A great deal of decisions, thoughts and self perceptions lead to sex. Your sexual history can tell a great deal about your personality. So it's only healthy a man would want somebody who doesn't throw themselves around - who sees giving themselves as an important act, not merely a commodity like bread or soap.
Sex involves hormones forming, expectations arising; sex can lead to pregnancy or disease, it impacts the way we think and act. So assigning zero meaning to it seems irresponsible.
yeah I know, now guys are interested and I don't want any form of relationship, but like 10 years later I'm gonna realize that I want someone and kids and stuff, but it's just gonna be even more difficult to find someone decent with similar interest and without kids or something
>sex can lead to pregnancy or disease,
Use fucking condoms.
Feel free to look for virgins or dismiss the potential love of your life for having had one partner too many. You´re right that the experiences shape your personality, but I think that is positive unless you got raped or had any other bad experiences.
Mostly it teaches people that Sex isn´t that hard to get, that there is not "the one" and that there is more than one person that will like them so that they won't stay with someone just because they're afraid they won't find someone better.
Personally, I wouldn't want someone to stay with me just for that reason so it is not of concern to me how many people they fucked.
I didn't mean meaninglessness of sex like in the postmodern approach. I meant that there are, compared to 50 years ago, very little consequences if you use basic precautions like condoms. The reasons Sex needed to be controlled so tightly by society are gone, which is why it doesn't need to be controlled anymore.
It's not that hard honey
if you are young beautiful educated women
with good qualities.
You're gonna get so many men.
But if you are worrying about the future
than go ahead and start dating dudes and it's not that bad if you're with a good guy.
And if it's your 1st lover than the breakup is gonna be heart breaking but later you will get used to it.
And i don't think college peeps takes the relationship thing very seriously. Nowadays.
just do what you want and be happy.
hey OP wanna join my harem? pic related it’s mfw looking at your tits
Time to bring this back on track.
TITS OR GTFO
SHARPIE IN POOPER.
I'll explain in simple terms: anything that's widely offered is cheap, while the same thing that's in limited supply is expensive. For example, lobster: it was dirt cheap and eaten by servants along the coastline because it was in abundance; once it got transported into the mainland in small quantities, it became a luxury because it was so hard to obtain.
This is a primitive simplification, but the general idea is the same - anything given away freely has significantly lower value or no value at all, and people, due to their nature, have a tendency to assign value to things and regard things according to that assigned value.
I am with the love of my life for five years already. I regret having someone before him.
There mostly is 'the one' - especially now that a person with principles and personal morale is hard to find, when everything and everyone is disposable.
The amount of people fucked isn't the only deciding factor - but it's good when it's not a negative one. For example, you might still love someone who has lost their leg, but it would be very nice if they still had it.
Tell me, do you never get jealous? Are you liberated from the feeling of guilt or self consciousness sometimes? These are some of the simplest things that are associated with sex. You can't run away from that no matter how many times you claim to yourself that you are liberated. You don't necessarily feel these or other specifically negative emotions - but you can't deny the impact sex has on you and your psyche. State and society have no place in regulating an individual's morale, but the individual should have a responsible attitude himself.
sooo, thanks everyone for posts :)
I guess I will keep doing what makes me happy, maybe I will give someone a chance, but I don't think I'm going to actively try to find someone
I see many couples around me that are together just to "pass the time" or were together only because they didn't want to be single (don't get me wrong, maybe they really were in love at that time, but it didn't last long)
also sorry to disappoint if you were expecting some nudes
You are not making any sense,you know that?
Nothing goes into caring for kids, consulting someone about something, but these things are services and are paid for.
Sex is also a commodity - look at the vast market filled with porn, strippers and prostitutes.
If your SO has sex with other people and you find out, do you just brush it off or do you feel bad about it and maybe break off the relationship? If it's 'just sex', why would you feel bad? She just wanted 'a completely different dick' after all.
No worries, you will find him.. as for men, is way more difficult. I wish 3 women text me and give opportunity to build a relationship. Age 30, still no women gives a fuck of me; I'm not beautiful, but decent thus
Back tovmy initial question idiot. You were comparing casual sex to bread and soap.
If you ever made bread from scratch it takes just as much effort and passion from farming the grain to baking the bread.
Do you have a job? Are you interesting? Ar you responsible? Do you take reasonable care of yourself (not obese, good hygiene, fitting clothes)?
If the answer to one of these questions is 'no', work on it. If you have no job, that shows lack of responsibility and makes you a burden. If you aren't interesting, how can you start a conversation with a woman and keep her entertained? Writing 'are you free this weekend' when you barely know each other is a pass and comes off as desperate - they should want to be around you in the first place. If you aren't responsible, fear commitment and don't keep your work you lack the essential qualities of a man and are basically useless to a woman - this might not be important if you're just looking to score free pussy. If you don't take care of yourself, no matter how interesting and fun you are, no woman will want to step over the boundary of friendship because that's simply disgusting.
It's more like 'would you rather eat bread that comes in a generic grey packet that comes for a quarter apiece or artisan bread that comes wrapped in a nice package and is white and fluffy with an ever so crispy crust'.
You are slightly retarded.
S stym sa tazko presadis aj u nas aj v zahranici... ak nechces do 50ky robit v Tescu tak by som zmenil odbor alebo isiel prec zo SK. Ak sa chces o tom porozpravat kludne mi napis, rad poradim. [email protected]
Tuto mentalitu a rozmyslanie by si si mala cim skor vyhodit z hlavy. Preco by si mala nieco robit fulltime ked mozes robit za take iste alebo lepsie peniaze nieco za kratsiu pracovnu dobu a venovat sa viac casu sebe..
U mna je to napriklad tak, ze nemam vobec stanovenu pracovnu dobu, mozem robit odkialkolvek na notebooku a hlavny je len deadline projektov
there was one guy, I was like 16 when I had a crush on him.. And he actually wrote me a message on fb when I had a birthday or something, I was like 18
He wanted to talk
But I wasn't interested anymore
For me it's always the same.
I do not find my gf, they somehow find me.
All my friends are ppl staying at home mostly, playing vidya.
And I am not a bit better than my friends.
I go out to work, shopping groceries etc. and that's pretty much it.
But even I have had a few relationships.
For me it seems that there are 2 things that need to happen to automagically get a gf:
1. do not search for a relationship, they can smell that
2. be okay with yourself and what you do
Nobody notices me until I'm happy with the way I am and what I do.
I just radiate this feeling of self-complacency and others seem to notice it and therefore me more often.
Other people start talking to me more, even though I didn't change anything.
And hell, if you think you need to have a relationship because of "being normal", then get off /b/ this instant.
ked si najdes hobby, ktore ti zaraba a je kreativne tak si vyhrala v zivote.. Niekedy je pre teba najlepsie rozhodnutie to posledne na co by si si spomenula, nikdy nevies. Ja osobne som dropol vysku, lebo ma to jednoducho nebavilo a nenaplnalo. Treba si zivot uzivat a nie ho prezivat, na Slovensku to vidim hlavne - ludia ziju od vyplaty k vyplate, robia od 9 do 5, neurobia nic naviac a potom su nestastni a cuduju sa preco nemaju peniaze a pekny zivot. Samozrejme, nie je vsetko o peniazoch, z penazi nikdy nebudes stastna ale urobia ti zivot jednoduchsim.
I think I already said it in here before, high standards are probably my biggest problem. It's not even about money or appearance, but about similar interests (I wouldn't be able to live with someone who eats meat or doesn't have similar music taste, it's something I can talk about for hours) , I guess I would want to date my male-clone or something
you've never been in a relationship and you are trying to tell us your "philosophy" on relationships, that's pretty rich. is it normal for you to have a "philosophy" on something you've never done before?
mna praveze vyska celkom bavi, nezerie to tolko casu ako som si myslela, stiham popri tom este aj dost dalsich veci, takze vnutorne som momentalne dost spokojna, nejak vela sice nezarobim, ale zas je to lepsie ako nic
uvidim, ak sa naskytne nieco zaujimave, nemala by som problem skoncit s vyskou, inak by ma bavilo prekladatelstvo, mozno si dam este nejaky jazyk
pripadne dokoncim tu anglictinu a este sa vratim k ekonomike, co som mala na strednej
nechavam tomu dost volny priebeh
not op, but my parents were like that - "halves of a whole" - and they were a horrible, unhappy marriage, always arguing who was worth more, staying together only because they couldn't function on their own.
Perhaps it's an extreme example, but it at least proves that you need to achieve self sufficiency on your own, and not hope for your partner to "fix you".
Seriously this, there are too many 30 year old hags desperate for a relationship once they realize that stability and a family id what they truly want. Some nigger will fuck you and leave you with a baby, miserable and pathetic.
this bitch sounds like me.
you're just scared, thats all what this is about. give it some more time and you'll grow over it.
I'm 27 now, and i used to be exactly like that when i was 19-23.
Well, if you stopped liking him when he showed interest in you (not saying you did, just grasping at straws) that would make it definitive...
When yo watch porn/fantasize/whatever, do you enjoy femdom/dislike maledom? Doesn't even have to be cliche BDSM, even just subtle stuff.
Personally i have this combination of domineering personality and social ineptitude, and it sounds a little like your problems:
I don't know how to confidently pursue women, but when the tables are turned and they show interest, i clam up, expecting my independence endangered.
wow so much anger from this community of thirsty neckbirds lol
just ignore all of the haters OP, they are all insecure little boys that don't know how to talk to a woman.
Do me a favor and reject all of the adds that you are receiving now because honestly, it's most likely not going to end well, they will harass you and bully you but I won't let that happen.
Add me on skype (hitman90001)
you can use my shoulder to cry on or we can just talk about life heh.. :P
Good philosophy. Just be patient and give people a fair chance if they seem decent. You'll find someon just let it happen and don't go looking for it.
I have the same philosophy. Getting married soon.
Fuck off roastie
>not good enough for me
>i want a relationship
>iam happy without a relationship
>>"omg you are smart, you look good, how is it possible you still single?"
Your personality is shit, you are only good for the tits
Thats why you can't find anyone
I don't get why being with someone needs to be such a hard thing to do. Just find someone chill and detached that u can just talk to have sex and go out with, that's pretty much all a relationship is.
*Like is not that complicated. You get up you go to work, you eat 3 meals, you take one good shit and you go back to bed.*
Fuck off already, we don't need to hear your stupid ass "problems". I'm on antidepressant and I tried to kill myself twice because my life is a fuckin mess. I only blame myself for this situation, I don't go on the internet looking for attentions because "I'm so smart and sexy full of friends and loads of guys try to fuck me but only ripped models can touch me". I dont even know what's your problem. This thread is full of retarded who never seen a pussy before. Fuck off.
i wouldn't say that disproves it, sort of like guys being turned off by focus on the male porn star, and most femdom porn probably focuses on the women, to cater to male audience.
I have no idea if there even is such a thing as femdom targeted at women. I'm out of ideas, but don't dismiss the thought, personally i came a long way from vanilla, to BDSM, then back to vanilla (with subtle emotional dynamics). Sexual preferences are hard to nail down.
Can anyone recommend a good book to read to help fix myself or something?
I just wanted to know what people think about it or if they have personal experience with something similar
You can also make a new thread about your "messed up" life and maybe people will give you new POV's or something
>SO.O He is behind of it??
looked it up, well, I don't think I have low self-esteem and I don't really avoid work or school.. But the point like not enjoying interactions with people is accurate
It might be also because I'm introvert
OP I dont know what to tell you.
>omg you are smart
if you gotta believe that, youre not.
>philosophy is, that you should be happy by yourself
nice philosophy, thing is that for most humans (such as myself) they feel that they suffer throught life and i havent found a cure. Is it my Environment, my mental weakness, my biology/psychology ? I dont care. I just need a way to find peace. If you can have it, fine. But
>you are doing something wrong
is an insult.
I mean yeah, i am doing EVERYTHING wrong(in my estimation). But who are you to tell me that ?
>it is a bit weird when you are 20 and you haven't even been on a date
I am weird then. But maybe im just anxious and shy as ive been my entire life ? Maybe my childhood and genetics formed a psyche which led to this ? Not saying that i couldnt do something about it if i really wanted. But why ? I dont really want a relationship now since im not even stable on my own.
>is it possible to change
> I hopeless case
sorry what ?
If youre happy youre not a "hopeless case". If youre happy with life you dont have to do anything whatsoever. What is the problem there ?
TBH I dont really see the point of your post...
Hit the Gym /b/ro
I'm still fat, but going to the gym is helping me with having something to do and, it is a great confidence boost after you notice results.
And for fucks sake, go fuck a hooker man and do it until you feel like you can fuck a woman properly, which is a great confidence boost as well
I'm 28 yo, working for AAA video games, in a relationship for almost 3 years now.
Yes now I think exactly like you in the first post. We don't need a partner to be happy. Love is true and it's the best thing in the world but I love so much people... why stay with one for life? Because everybody is doing the same? Yeah it's bullshit. I love my gf as much as all my friends, family and the person who hold the door for me. And i'm convince that the world could be a better place if ppl realized that. Be happy by your own, respect the others whatever they want to do (murder and shit , no thx) and AFTER help the lost one to find his way to happiness and love. But please don't expect a gf or bf will resolved your problems! They are not there for that!
exactly, I don't want someone just to feel "complete" and hope they will guarantee my happiness. After all, we should be responsible for our own lives and make the best out of them.
>You don't like women that are more promiscuous than you? You're an incel that can't even fathom how dated your thoughts are. Disgusting
OOR maybe he just doesn't want to be with a potentially unfaithful girl who decided "eh i've had a ton of dick now. i'll just settle for this guy since he's convenient"
I don't see how people could help you. What's your problem? You can't find a bf because everybody sucks? Keep looking for him. Or maybe it's fear from rejection (not your case). It's like impossible to tell.
Yo im 21 and maybe im just not experienced enough. But Id like to imagine living with a wife until the end of my life and to resolve problems together/be there for each other.
Dont know, maybe there are not many people out there nowadays who feel that way.
there are few, but it's hard to find them
and you don't just go around telling people you want relationship that serious, that you can imagine them to be your wife/husband
So it's hard to tell what the other person expects
You sound like a spoiled brat who doesn't deserve love even if you were to go looking for it. Take your tits out of your fucking shirt the next time you want to splatter your drool over a mans website. Attention cunt.
used to be a whore. Fucked different people all the time. Then I tried to settle down. HAd a few toxic relationships and said fuck it to all that shit.
Honestly, don't worry too much about relationships. Yeah, your family will bother you about "isn't it time you found someone and settled down" but if it aint gonna make you happy then there isn't any point to it.
I'm 29, fairly certain I'll never date again and I honestly couldn't be happier about it.
Being single is the best. No one to worry about, no one telling you what you can and cant do, no having to remember ANOTHER persons birthday, spending money on gifts and dates.
yeah this right here , im 22 male and single, only had one relationship when i was 16 .... , my family call me weirdo , they call me outcast , anti social because of one reason , because I dont have a girlfriend , my grandmother had kids when she was 16 , she is so depressed because of me , she tells me im cursed just because i dont have a girlfriend, my mother call me a sick minded weirdo because i dont have a girlfriend, they tell me people at my age they go fuck around they go to party fuck 10 girls a week while im single .... to be honest ! FUCK THEM ! FUCK THEIR OPINION! Do what makes you happy, thats what matters! My life makes me happy I WILL NEVER DO what others tell me (unless you know , they beat me up or something) but thats not possible because i live in freedom , I act how I want, by not breaking the law, i live my life the way i want to live it and not because others tell me how to live it.
I wonder if the toxic relationships all had something in common, hmmmm. I'll be over here laughing when you hit the wall btw.
...you sound like a real bitch tbh.
Go have some fucking fun in your life. A few dates with someone who isnt a multimillionaire cross fit trainer / ceo is fine.
You bitches always want a 12/10 but off nothing besides a snob ass argument and being triggered 3 times a day.
Ffs go gay and leave us alone please
You say that from your point of view, when an homeless sees a employee passing by he immediately thinks about how lucky he is, because he has everything, a stable work, friends, a wife who loves him. But the employee in the meantime is thinking about his boss, who has just bought a new car, has tons of money and 2 beautiful kids, all things that the employee colud never has, because his wife is infertile and he doesn't earn so much money. Just be happy with what you have, watch everything as an opportunity and don't focalize on the bad thing in your life, think about the good ones, or you'll never be happy.
thats what my family is asking me, why I dont have a bf, if Im seeing anyone... its annoying and its only gonna be worse
some of my classmates from HS already have children and stuff, which is not helping