Hey /b/, how do I manipulate my girlfriend into wanting sex? We have been together for 8 years now and she decided that she does not need sex any longer two years ago. I have tried everything that is ethically sound.
you don't need to manipulate. You are friendzoned, you need to confront her with and look for the real reason. If the romance part is over (which after 8 years is quite normal) you have to get it out there that you need that part of a healthy relationship.
It is out there. All cards on the table. We h ave communicated for hours upon hours. She doe not believe that needs and interest can be changed over time and with the appropriate measures. Thank you for the input.
>I want to manipulate her into it.
Literally impossible unless you use drugs. Even if you find something to blackmail her with, it will not be satisfying sex. Seriously, just break up with her or say you are going to soon because you don't want a sexless relationship. She will have to make a choice. Also she might start desiring sex once she realizes you're gonna leave her.
Man the fuck up.
Explain it to her that as a man you have sexual needs and her denying yours is fucked up. Explain that sex is a normal part of a relationship that helps with bonding and intimacy. Tell her this decision is not OK with you and offer to go to couples counselling to help work through with the issue.
And in answer to a question I know is coming up "What if she doesn't want to do any of these things?" the answer is simple. Curb the bitch, if she's not willing to listen or even lift a finger to meet your emotional and relationship needs you're better off getting rid of her and finding another woman.
Alright, I'll tell you the story of how my last relationship went - quite similar.
>be together for 6 years
>sex quite rare if any at all
>bring this up sometimes, fight over it, same as you, nothing works
>she falls in love for her superior at work
>she confesses this to me early on
>somehow turn it into full blown cuckolding
>she's wet all the time, we fuck plenty
fastforward a bit and she's ready to fuck this guy
>they have sex somewhere without me
>they do it again another day
>our relationship suffers horribly
>she regrets everything
>our sex life returns to the 'before-cuck-time'
>break up with her
>she says she loves me yadda yadda
>we have sex a few more times
guess she was desperate to keep me
>break up anyway on christmass eve last year
until this day the best decision I ever made.
If she doesn't want to fuck you anymore then she's found someone else.
Sorry but part of a healthy relationship is sexual attraction...if that's gone then kiss it goodbye.
No one who was once a normal sexual being just suddenly wake up and say "I never want to have sex again and I'll make sure my partner doesn't either!"
Sorry that's not the way it works...shes getting dick elsewhere but is riding your coat tails for financial and emotional support.
I'm not a dude btw so I'm not just some angry faggot spewing shit out of their ass
>2 years of no sex
HAHAHAHA are you fucking kidding me? This has to be a troll
If my gf didn't put out for 2 months, I'd be onto the next one
Hell, even at 2 weeks there better be a damn good reason like she was in a car accident or something
To explain a little further:
My ex was looking for something somewhere else and she got that excitement from her superior. Your relationship is suffering the same, either she is looking for something else or you are.
Bring it up or break it up, time will force one of these 2 anyway
Yea, right now I kind of wished that I broke it off a year earlier and spared myself a lot of pain.
On the other hand:
>we bought an apartment, she bought my half of it
It was way ovepriced, so I guess I got paid plenty for my suffering
Ok then she wants you around as emotional support.
And it doesn't matter if it happened slowly or not she doesn't want to fuck you because she's not interested in you anymore.
Also your trolling fucking sucks...no one is this retarded
As a man you have to draw clear boundaries. She should respect your opinion just as much as you respect hers.
No, she bought my 50%, she owns it now, I got paid. When we bought it in the first place it was too expensive for us, she paid me plenty, the place will never sell for the price we paid at first.
I dodged a bullet here.
There is no manipulating.
You're only hope is showing interest in other women and maybe her selfishness might kick and and she might throw you the pussy as bait to reel you back in
What if you throw this back her direction?
>"can you take out the trash/cook something/...?"
I respect your question, but I am unable to do it.
or: "let's trade chores for sex"
Thanks, it's the only positive thing to come out of that relationship, apart from a different mindset towards women now.
And trust me, next time something like that were to happen I will
>I'm not a dude btw so I'm not just some angry faggot spewing shit out of their ass
not him but even as a girl you might lack experience. After 4 or 8 or 12 years the sex is no longer the same.
Its not rape if you're in s relationship and you don't unwantedly impregnate her. Rape her till she leaves and apart from this work on yourself and look for something better. I bet she's ugly and fat as fuck which kills sex drive compared to if she's thin. If you love her massive breakthrough doses of psychaxelics and strict diet and exercise together, if she wants to be coddled into it go with earlier advise fuck it. 8 years you sound stagnant as a motherfuxk m8
She probably just dosnt have fellings for you anymore (as hard as that sounds) and is waiting for you to break up with her so she dosnt have to.
Women dont suddenly not want sex... They just suddenly dont want it with you.
You can try all you like to be romantic, a better lover ect ect, but if thats not you its not going to work. It be better for both of you to start fresh.
>And trust me, next time something like that were to happen I will
how old were you when you accepted that situation?
and you, get a girl on the side. She doesn't need to know. And if she gets to know it, it's all her fault. Come on.
Lol I've been in my relationship for 5 years close to 6 and we fuck at LEAST once a week.
It's been like that since day one with us.
We love each other and can't get enough of eachother.
26, and yea, I get it though. But it was an extremely toxic relationship for me. I'm glad for it to end. I'm now dating a cockstarved asian chick.
Have you tried making her jealous?
>go to gym
>get eyeballed by the ladies
"had fun at the gym today, 3 women were clearly undressing me with their eyes, it felt good"
Am I weird that I disagree?
Like granted I can't imagine saying no to my bf at all but even if I did and meant it and he still went ahead and did it the feeling a I'd have after would be similar to a "i told you not to eat me leftovers but you did anyway" kind of feeling...like I'm annoyed but not crying or thinking it was rape.
He's my bf and my vagina is his as much as it is mine. I've given him custody of it.
Now if we couldn't do it for a while due to medical reasons then that's a different story.
try reconnecting with her emotionally. have a fight. make her understand there is an actual possibility you are leaving her. take a trip somewhere together but do it somewhere new and in a form that is completely new to both of you. ask her if she has any deep dark fantasies. thats all i got right now.
if you have half a brain you can find the good videos on youtube on how to deal with this.