I'm now in my 30s and after a string of failed relationships I've come to the conclusion that me and females just don't get on. I don't particularly want to turn into a bitter old misogynist though. Wat do.
So many people think the other people are the problem when in reality it's probably you.
I mean these girls probably had some decent relationships before you (not all relationships have to crash and burn)
But if you, the same person has had the same issues with women over and over then it's you that's the issue.
If you want that to change take a moment to focus on your self and less time trying to find another girl
We're nearing the end of it all, because once you see the truth no sane person would ever want what was promised to you when you were young. Love, romance, affection, these are tools and cards to be played by your opponent, and your opponent is everyone. Their motives vary but they are always selfish first, even when they seem like they aren't. You can hope and dream as I do of humility and dignity, hope that there is a woman out there with something good inside. All I've found so far is rot and decay
guys who turn misogynist because they just cant get on with girls are so fucking pathetic, they probably also wouldnt get on with a guy either if they tried. stop blaming women for your social incompetence.
You need a more honest relationship with women, anon.
I'm not socially incompetent. I possibly attract crazy women though. Not quite sure how to weed out the normal ones because when I think I've found one they surprise me by going slightly psycho on me.
Just admit to yourself that women's evolutionary prerogative is so far out of line with their modern representation, narrative and actual rights that society is effectively ill with it. It's not women themselves, this is designed to destroy us, to lower our birthrate and to confuse our culture by destroying the family structure. Our lives will be spent fighting this off so what's left of the west can carry on when it's over. Until then every woman is either going to be a slutty child or an insecure psychopath who wants to plan your life for you so that her own life can be 'perfect'. And all of them are going to cheat because they aren't being provided with a real reason not to. Eventually it will reach the point where men are mocked as too sensitive for being angry that a woman cheats, this will be the high water mark, this will break the camel's back.
My dude, how the fuck do you get all this? I've long held these very same beliefs and can completely say it is in fact a broken system in which nothing I do seems to have an effect.
Retire early and laugh at the whiny, validation seeking dumb bitches. Maybe?
Hey OP, women have just gone feral due to no guidance since most fathers are non existent or simply broken boys. It's just the way they are.
true, western women are the worst, thats why western society is the most degenerate of them all. lets all move to countries where women are literal slaves, life is so much better there :)
Nice try, but I mean that all reason to have a family has been removed.
Though the demand for 50% representation in governance by females does scare me since it realistically means an 80% leftist representation in government. I do wish women would have less faddish opinions but you have to keep in mind they've been subjected to a fear-building campaign from the cradle by compromised institutions that are supposed to be protecting them. The western woman has been extensively manipulated to drive herself and the women around her into a childless, materialistic unhappiness.
1. You will have to hang around with yourself until you die, so try to become an interesting person by and for yourself. As long as you rely on a relationship to be happy, you will never be truly at peace.
2. Most people are trash (not just women). Just accept that w/o judgement. If you find a good person, invest your time in them. If you find someone is selfish and not worth your time, be frank about it and consider ending it.
3. You can manipulate yourself to be a good person by having/keeping good persons around you and getting rid of toxic ones. Groups of likeminded persons attract other likeminded ones.
4. I don't know how your relationships usually started. I found the most succesfull ones are the ones which start out as a vanilla friendship and turn into a relationship later. It seems to me, that many people don't take their time to really get to know each other.
5. Our childhood and parents have a huge impact on our love life. We usually tend to prefer a partner that reminds us of our (opposite sex) parent and then instinctively project our the burried conflicts we have with our parents on our partner, respectively try to solve them with our parnter instead with our parents or with ourselves. So think about your childhood. Identify old conflicts and habits you got from your parents when you where little and check if they have an effect on you today (do a mindmap or something).
females are so easily manipulated in my experience they want to talk about themselves and are most of the time narcissists you'll just have to come the realization that they just don't care about what you're experiencing or doing. I usually do alright because I ask questions and feign interest. It's like pretending to have similar interests as someone who's rich because having a rich friend is a benefit to you. So pretending to have interests in a girl you want to smash, leads to you smashin then? idk maybe im misinterpreting your problem
you have to create an imagination for empathy... try to imagine the world they have grown up in and what they see and how they process life. They didn't grow up with a penis, they didn't grow up thinking and interacting with people at all the same way you did... of course this varies depending on race and family in accordance with the girl....hope this helps
OP here. I don't mind women being selfish, I made peace with that a long time ago. I just can't seem to do right for doing wrong in relationships and fairly minor issues seem to turn into massive problems. Just can't be arsed anymore but I don't wanna turn into a miserable git.
I'm in the same boat as you, no matter what we do for them it's never enough and when we ask for a little give and take theirs a kick off. I've dated lasses and women and there is always underlying childishness that exists in them. I thought I'd finally snagged one who could stand on her own two feet (Ran a her own business that wasn't a hair dressers) had a bank account larger than mine and.... Caught her cheating on me. Her excuse? It was just a little bit of fun. Yet when I hung out with my bro (She's a timber feller like me) She'd kick off.
So or the time being I've given up. I'm happiest when i'm 40ft up with a chainsaw in one hand. I can see some times why our granda's and dads used to hit them. Sounds terrible but that's where it's at with me and i've given up. Happier on my own.
OP here again. Funnily enough my latest one is a hairdresser. But she's well into her 30s so I was hoping for a bit of maturity, but she's been moody af for weeks and when I asked her why, she exploded at me and started bringing up things like the fact that I didn't spend enough time with her on her birthday 2 years ago. I thought I'd left this kind of shit behind at school and it pisses me off. I told her a few home truths about herself and she couldn't believe I'd got the audacity to criticise her.
Not all women are like that.
I've been with my wife for twenty years, and we were best friends for four years before that. She's wonderful, supportive, smart, thoughtful, awesome and generous in sex...
Maybe I just hit the lottery.
this could be the key in my opinion .... nowadays I think about it a lot tho ..... everytime i walk around in the city i see these pretty ,hot bitches, with so ugly, unattractive , zero guys. I just wonder how ??? How can they get those pretty girls and I cant ? Those girl literally perfect, they got good bodies, ass tits and face , and the guy next to them looks like zero shit , still they look like they in totally love, letting the guy touch their ass while kissing him passionately ... unreal ! Last time walking home ... saw this perfect 30 something milf , total fuckable bitch, with a younger 20 something guy, they guy was literally 1 head shorter then her and they were kissing and loving each other next to their car .... how is that ? How can that loser looking idiot get a hot perfect pornstar ava adams material milf ? I just seriously dont understand . But I have an idea ..... Women power is in their look , in their body .... so it means they must have a weakness and its their mind ... the way they thinking ..... So , to make them like you , you have to just think like them , you have to like what they like etc .... everything they like and do , you have to do the same , besacially FAKE IT ..... you have to fake everything and then you have a chance with these women YOU HAVE TO MANIPULATE THEIR SMALL STUPID SIMPLE BRAINS , in this situation you are just a foreign spy trying to make progress and you have to do the job well , you have to fake everything to get these women , BASICALLY PLAYING MIND GAMES WITH THEM , ITS ALL ABOUT MANIPULATION AND MIND CONTROLL. This is what I think.
lying - faking - manipulating - pretending ! Basically everything what a sucessfull foreign spy would do to get in these women mind (and later in their vagina) . All you have to do is lying to them , then you can get them !
My wife and i started out hating each other. at one point she literally stabbed me in the face. but, we moved past that, found out that her bf, my best friend at the time, was telling her that i was stealing shit from them when he was actually pawning it to feed his oxy addiction. once that got straightened out, we became friends, then really good friends, then fuck buddies then we got engaged because we spent all our time together gaming and fucking anyways. 5 years on and 4 years of marriage, best decision of my life. yeah, we argue occassionally, but shes my best friend at the end of the day. it helps that she occassionally brings home a gf to play with.
Dude, just fuck whores and keep a few good buddies. Drug shareware cheaper but, higher risk. Also, if you don't like drugs then that's another downfall. I have the same problem I'm just not concerned with it yet. Never get married and if you do, don't ever get a divorce. I do t half my shit with anyone. Uh, I don't really have any other answer. Oh, fucking buy a bitch man. Yeah, that'll work.
In complete denial about life.
Cant figure out why you go for crazy women.
I dont know any sane ppl that go for crazy women.
Why did u come here looking for help, just to turn down that help? Sounds kinda like something a crazy person would do
Are you one of my exes? Because this is exactly the kind of passive-aggressive nit picking that I'm talking about.
And no I don't have low self esteem. I don't consciously go after crazy women.
Just because you don't get on with women doesn't mean you have to become a bitter old misogynist.
I came to the same realization. I just can't do relationships, I'm too much of a broken asshole. I'm working on getting better at that, but for now I'm just not getting into new relationships.
Doesn't mean I hate women. Just means I'm kind of a shitty person. Self-reflection and realization work wonders.
Accept that they are just a certain way, accept that you are also just a certain way. Accept that even though you like them and want to be with them, you'll probably always be at odds with them. Oh and I guess just try to fuck them without all the relationship shit.
The problem here is that you shouldn't really have to try. You're a self-absorbed twat so thinking about others doesn't come naturally to you. Doesn't matter how hard you try to do the right things, to treat your partners with respect and kindness, or whatever else you're trying to do, you're going to fail every once in a while because you're not consciously thinking about that shit all the time.
Work out your kinks, get to the point where that stuff comes naturally, and you won't have these issues anymore.
>You're a self-absorbed twat so thinking about others doesn't come naturally to you.
Yeah as far as blanket statements go, that's horseshit. Aside from my job she was the center piece of everything I did, missed out on sleep to see her, money was never an issue, there was always holidays and I took care of her, not that she needed looking after, she was her own woman.
She had it all, sure there were days I couldn't make 100% effort because work takes it's toll, but she never got less than she deserved. All I asked for in return is not to come home to find her getting finger banged on the sofa I bought.
Typical response from a woman, it's the mans fault. Fuck you.
dude, for real. Women are crazy
The amount of failed relationships i had because of insane behavior, bipolarity, narcisism, over dramatic hoes, it is crazy man
Personaly I think i'm better by myself, and maybe so do you
I'm a dude in a similar situation as you, not a woman.
I should take it back. YOU do have to be a bitter old misogynist, because you are completely incapable of recognizing how fucked in the head you are. Throw racist, egomaniacal narcissist on top of it, because I can already tell that you think you're in the top 1% of IQs and try to Chad your way through life.
I'm about to be 28 in 11 days. Was madly in love with a girl and we were together for almost 2 years (coworkers). Before this , never had a relationship last more than 3-4 months.
We were on the cusp of getting engaged, I asked her in like November and she said she wanted to. New year comes around and she tells me she is "moving on" or whatever that means. First time in my life I've ever suffered "heart broke" and it's the worst thing in the world I've ever experienced. Not even losing my mom when I was 19 to a drunk driver felt this bad. Because as bad as that was , you expect to lose your parents even if it is tragic. It never crossed my mind the entire time we were together that maybe she doesn't love me as much as I love her.
We are still amicable though as we were work together but I still love her. I know I have to move on but it fucking sucks.
I'm not really that concerned about having kids but I feel like I want to have the kids thing going on before I'm 35 ish. I don't want to be raising teenagers into my 50s.
Life is rough m8s.
>less time trying to find another girl
Girls are attracted by the kind of man you are, the kind of life you have and the kind of people you hangout with . They want to imagine the kind of moments they will have with you as a boyfriend, the parties, the activities ...
In a word, they want to know if it will be fun or boring to be with you.
A man desperately looking for a relationship is not something exciting for girls.
Enjoy life, have fun and then you will meet a girl that looks for a man like you.
>1. You will have to hang around with yourself until you die, so try to become an interesting person by and for yourself. As long as you rely on a relationship to be happy, you will never be truly at peace.
If you have one only thing to remember about this thread, that's this point
You're crazy. We all get our hearts toyed with and ripped up a little from time to time, but if my Mum died it would destroy my by comparison. Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks, your mum is your mum.
some women will just be irrevocably insecure because of how they were brought up. if they had a bad relationship with their father then they can end up taking that out on the next important man in their life, namely, you.
my ex did not understand that i could not put her first in my life 24 hours a day, that I had obligations at work and with a sick family member. so she had to go.
just work on making yourself happy and secure and then find someone else who's the same.
That's toxic man. Better she parts ways and tells me her true feelings than like other chicks and cheat or lie or treat their SO like shit.
I mean it was rough but I don't know. I think losing my mom was kind of like a shock. I probably still haven't fully felt the full grief of it. But I thought I found a life partner and when realized it wasn't so and that the love was mostly one sided , it just made me feel like absolute shit and still kind of does. I can live with my mom being gone because even with how bad it was, it still makes sense in life. I miss her but at least I got to be raised by her and she groomed me to be successful and happy.
But it just doesn't compute with the break up. 2 years where I thought we were both happy and had our lives ahead of us and now I have to start back at Point A. I'm sure I'll figure it out though. At least I'm fortunate enough to not really suffer from negative thoughts like others. I keep myself busy with hobbies and just going to be more time to be all about me and make myself stronger.
>brings home a gf to play with
>ex bf had an oxy addiction
>literally stabbed you in the face
Holy shit, next you'll tell us she has pink hair and tattoos or some shit.
>SO.o...HE was behind of it