Phoebe. Fell in love, great friendship ended recently when I told her how I feel. will never talk to her again.
Rachel... cheated on her when we were “on a break”. She didn’t see it the same way and we broke up. Eventually we had a kid and got married some time later, but I haven’t seen her in quite a while
Yeah sounds fucked hen you put it like that lol. idk dude we were really close to begin with because he would go weeks without talking to her(shes in a different state) so she would end up talking to me a lot. was a typical friendzone situation which i was cool with because i didnt want to fuck their relationship up. however, since they've broken up(and even while they were dating sometimes) hes been denying that it was ever a "real" relationship, which has shwon me the type of person he is. I was essentially the shoulder to cry on but more recently shes been really flirting, even asking me to do shit like read her bedtime stories to sleep and talk about our future together. I'm probably just seeing shit the way i wish it would happen but idk
She hurt me...she hurt me good, as did her/our other two (now, former) friends. It's taken me nearly two years to recover.
We weren't even in a relationship, rather, it's more to do with my hobbies, future, etc. She fucked me up good.
Jacky, beautiful beautiful girl always wanted her since I was 14 currently 18 she's really the perfect girl for me she's my type we get along and we like being around eachother but she won't take me seriously in a romantic way I've been in a multiple relationships thought out those four years and am still in one but FUCK I'd leave me current girl for Jacky she's just who I really am after
I don't know her name, but she sells me melon bread at a nearby Asian-owned supermarket's bakery (she herself is Asian). She's very cute, and there is definitely some chemistry there, though I think she might be in high school....
I'm scared to death I'm overwhelming her ;-;
I've never loved an irl girl so much, but I think I'm scaring her away T^T
beautiful, amazing, absolutely fell for me, i fell for her, and i ended it because she had family problems and her friends told me that breaking up with her was the only solution. Now that same "friend" hates me for breaking up with her
We were talking every day for months and I felt a connection with them I’ve never felt with anyone else. I fell in love hard and they told me they felt the same only to tell me that they slept with someone else and that I was essentially nothing more than a ‘possibility’. Then made me out to be the bad guy when I got upset and has proceeded to ignore me ever since. It’s been two months and I can’t forget them.
Met her 3 years ago. Beautiful, funny, loving. She also literally saved my life. We've been together ever since and she's shown me the true meaning of love.
Our only issue is that I want to fuck other girls. I honestly dont know how to turn it off. I'm fucked up.
shit like this is what leads to long term anger and depression.
it's why we're happy in high school and miserable as adults.
it's what makes our future selves nostalgic for better times.
harden your heart and walk foward, bury the pain and live anon.
Adorable. Cunning. Caring.
Still dream about her often a year later, and I'll always love her. Stupidly texted her while I was wasted and said some dumb ass things. Haven't talked since, and probably never will again.
Thanks mate, that’s good advice. I’ve been trying, but it’s been really hard to try and put them off my mind considering how things ended. Still holding out for when it gets easier though and hoping I’ll find that kind of connection again.
Anytime anon. This is the kind of situation that changes you (building character or whatever). It's a difficult lesson, but even if you lay down and die life won't stop kicking. Life is war, there's conflict and beauty in everything. You'll make it through this, just not as your old self.
Autumn, hardly even spoke to her the first time that we met at a party but our friends encouraged us to date and we really hit it off. Kind of overweight but very cute, long auburn hair and gorgeous icy blue eyes, so easy to make laugh. I was a stupid young guy and was afraid to commit, ended the relationship even though there were serious feelings between the both of us. Now she’s in college, dating some hillbilly footballer that actually seems to be better than me. We would always lay in her bed in her basement and mess around, watch movies and cuddle and now I get to relive that in my dreams sometimes
Kristen. Broke up months ago but still can't get her off my mind. I've never loved a girl as much as I loved her
I observed it. She would show me text conversations where he literally didnt answer for two weeks. We would hang out and she'd text him and I'd see him look at the name, chuckle, and then not answer. He led her on for months making her think he actually cared. He did this with another mutual friend but not to the same extent. And now that they're not together, he goes around offering to show our other friends her nudes like a fucking asshole
Damn, sounds pretty fucked.
Well if you pursue her then you must know there's a chance it'll fuck up you and your best friend's friendship. And maybe it's a red flag that she stayed in an emotionally abusive relationship but you can be the judge of that
>she read my long feels text
>long feels text
Did you send her an unwanted long feels paragraph
Because don't do that. There's definitely better, less uncomfortable ways to express your feelings
1.) Your a bold motherfucker, thats good
2.) It's better than not sending anything and wondering "what if" for the next 10 years
3.) She could just be processing it all, don't panic yet
4.) Just act calm. Act down to earth and like you don't give a shit but let your words be honest and calm. Girls like a level head.
5.) Follow up with her, see if she feels anything at all about it. If she doesn't then take this advice: >>767516255
Yea I've played the scenario in my head multiple times. My only thing is though if he didn't care enough about her when he was actually with her, why would he care if I got with her? At that point he's just being a controlling little shit.
Priscilla, met her at work. The most loving and positive person I've met
Because he trusted you, bro code dictates you talk to him about it first, you're just doing things for yourself though. Had that done to me recently, not a good feeling, and now i don't have a friend. And i don't trust much anymore atm. You're fucking garbage dude
Good point. Might be more related to control than caring, and he might be jealous, or have expectations that friends don't date friends' exes.
Really depends on how serious they were and how much time has passed though
Almost sounds like you don't even like this guy?
If you say so dude. He obviously didn't care for her so I feel no obligation to tell him about our POTENTIAL relationship. And unless you did half the shit he did to her i wouldn't compare your situation to mine
I'veknown the dude for 6 years now. He was my first real friend, but seeing how he treated this girl really bothered me and mande me see a whole new side of him, especially since hes still going around showing off her nudes and talking shit
Not sure I full understand how that makes me a garbage person unless you're implying that because im friends with him i also an asshole. I've know himfor years and only recently have i started to notice this behavior. IMO. hes always been the pretty boy so girls have always thrown themselves at him, therefore he doesnt feel the need to emotionally involve himself in them because to him its like honey to a bee
It's not like you're a shitty person for violating "bro code". You don't have to be friends with him if you don't want to. But at least bring it up with him before you pursue her out of respect for such a long friendship.
Whatever you do, if you decide to pursue her, be prepared to lose him (and potentially her) as friends.
And watch for the red flags other anons are bringing up
I mean tbh, I love the dude to death but if he's gonna treat her like shit and not care for her, then decide to get mad if she's found somebody who does, than maybe losing him as a friend isn't the worst thing. By no means am i trying for that but if it happens then i'll just have to move on. And definitley ive noticed some red flags about her staying with assholes.
if anything it might make him reflect on his actions. who knows, maybe he's acting like an ass because something deep is hurting him. animals lash out when in pain, people are no different anon.
but hell yeah go for the girl, pick up those pieces, be there.
Shes my best friend, like literally the closest friend i have. Im her best friend too, she tells me all the time. And she knows i love her, she felt the same way once, but when she finally told me it was too late. We were both taken and werent in the position to make it work. When we werent, it was different. Her feelings changed. And though we have never been closer, i feel so far from her tbh :(
Friends since third grade, I finally got a gf senior year of high school and after I left for college she called me and told me she had feelings for me. It's been two years since and we barely say a word to eachother anymore, I've tried to get us to meet up when I'm home but she said she couldn't since a new game was coming out that night. I miss my best friend...
Thanks for the different pov dude. The two of us planned on going to visit her this summer. She still wants me to come regardless of their breakup and even offered to pay for my ticket and opened up her house for me to sleep in. I'm known to overthink everythign when it comes to girls but this seems different this time. Now I sound like a bitch kek
Zalia. I call her Z.
Knew back during freshman year of high. Close friends and all that crap. Helped her with a few relationships and she helped me with some. Junior year comes and she says she has feeling for me. I turned her down because the military life is a cruel mistress and I left that summer and I believe that distant relationships are a total sham. We still talk time to time but it isn’t the same.
I’m about to start my senior year of college and she’s still doing her own thing miles and miles away. Making plans to go back once I graduate to see old friends and her mostly. Maybe I can work some magic and she can be mine but I highly doubt that’s gonna happen. Missed my chance and I don’t deserve another one. Fuuuuuck me.
Your not a bitch, your a normal person who still gives a damn.
Most people have sad backstories, get deeply hurt, and receive no help or closure. They end up bitter and don't care about others. Other people get deeply hurt and think "i don't want anyone else to feel this way" and try to help.
Be the second one, see if you can uncover why he's hurting. No one's just cruel because they legitimately enjoy it, everyone's got something churning under the surface.
I have faith in you anon.
Jessica. She wants to have a kid but the thought scares me to death.
I couldn't live a life on my own terms so I don't try and trap her in a relationship. If she would just be with me and not expect a child then it would be perfect.
I understand her biological clock though. I understand that we can never be together because I couldn't give her what she wants.
I met her through 4chan too. How odd.
He's told me some things about why he is the way he is but anytime i'd bring up the way he treats her he'd just simply ignore it. He told me once that since his dog died(october last year) he stopped giving a shit about things. But thats no excuse to take it out on somebody you claim to love.
There's only a few of us in life anon, trying to catch all of the fallen before they slip through the cracks.
that sounds like it could be part of the reason, maybe something psychological is going on with him. he might be at the age where depression sets in (around 18/19 sometimes 20). that shit kills, hopefully you can save him before he damns himself to anger though.
Allison. I've known her for almost 10 years now and have had feelings for her for almost that long. She *had* feelings for me at one point but I was too much of a dumbass to make a move. Now when I finally got the balls to tell her how I felt she just kinda awkwardly changed the subject and we slowly stopped talking to each other.
Kek same but try 6 months. I only got my oneitis out of my mind cause i started dating her, fell in love and then she dumped me after 2 years. Im back to a dark place . can't do anything about it so just hoping something kills me.
Adélaïde. I have had a crush on her the moment I have seen her. This was 9 years ago. We have been friends all that time. Fuck I don’t want to talk about it but if there was a dream girl for me, that’s her.
Lily. We were best friends for 3 years while we dated. She moved, I fell into a depression during our LDR (I was lonley during the week and only saw her on weekends), our sex life went down hill, i agreed to let her sleep with someone under the rules that she had to give me a picture, she couldn't drink, smoke weed or stay the night...she broke all those rules. I told her that I was disappointed because she had all the fun while I stayed up all night worried about her. We went on a break (but still talked/hung out on weekends because I have no one) she eventually told me she made friends with a guy and started crushing on him, she went to the movies with him, a movie I had wanted to see for a long time with her, she kept hooking up with her fuck buddy then she stopped talking to me. It's been a year and a half, I haven't had sex or wanted to date since. I'm still heart broken and think about her everyday. I still wonder if that fuck buddy was her crush or not, either way I haven't been happy since.
I've fallen in love with a few women. Rejected once but feel sadness when seeing someone I would like to pursue a future with. Every day I stray further from hope in a relationship period.
some people respond to deep pain by causing deep pain. it's sad to watch, and they just make the problem worse. sometimes people change anon....
I had a girl that was a year older than me, saw me getting picked on my freshman year, and pulled me aside. Over two years she taught me how to fight, and win, and we got into a band together.
She always dated douche bags, and even when she started selling weed I stuck by her. She was a tom boy, blonde hair short in a beanie hat, smoker, and was mentally and emotionally tough as nails.
The drugs got to her, she slipped through the cracks, she ended up basically as a retarded thot.
The last time i saw her she was making out with one dude while jacking off another, i never saw her again.
The person that made me who I am died, and to deal with that I became a raging asshole and tore down everything around me. Everyone got hurt.
Point is, you never know what's going on behind the scenes. People get turned into monsters, the least we can do is reach out.
I'm at a year and a half. Waiting for the day that I can kill myself or fall into a lucky streak again and find happiness in something or someone else. I hate my ex yet I have this lingering love for her...wish I had a gun to be honest
We both necame irrelevant in each other's life once the situation at hand was over, and we had to go back to our lives.
I am sure she was atracted to my confident and assertive exterior, but once I tried to open up it was a turn off. She wanted someone to help her with her shit, yet she didn't wanted to even bother with someone else's problems. I felt like I wasn't enough for her, but now I am improving myself everyday, yet I am certainly not doing it for myself, but to prove her wrong, and deep inside I just want her to give me another chance.
I should just move on.
For me it’s definitely a feeling like I need to love someone, someone to put that energy into and since my ex broke up with me I’ve had no where to put that energy. It’s frustrating, depressing and dreadful.
and before anyone says anything yeah i was that weak. but my story is also a testament to how strong she used to be. we once hung out and she said she wouldn't stop throwing punches until i threw one back, i broke her nose after a while, she was proud.
god damn don't drink and post you bring up dark shit
thank you for sharing anon. If he ever decides to actually give me a straight answer then i'll absolutely be there to listen, but until then, im more focused on protecting her
Emily. We dated for years and now I'm with someone else but I'll never feel the same about anyone ever again. I never thought I would fall In love the first time but now I know I never will again.
All we can do is hold on and try to improve ourselves I guess. It's hard though.. I miss the sense of confidence a lover brings, the sense of hopefullness and pride. I need to learn how to trust again, that's for sure
She was my first and the only girl I've ever dated seriously since then who wasn't abusive, obsessive, or both. It's been four years since we broke up every time I find myself single I think of her
I definitely felt like I didn’t appreciate the relationship enough. I let it get to normal for me and that is what led it to it’s downfall(that and her being a bitch).
Just gotta take these relationships as life lessons and build on what we’ve learned. That’s easy to say but executing it is the hardest part. Just focus on that self improvement.
Michelle. Married to an asshole who she can't stand but her faith won't let her leave. She definitively ended our 8 month relationship this morning. But i already know I'll survive this. I'll never stop loving her though.