Anyone here got Borderline Personality Disorder or a related mental disorder? How does it effect you and how did you get diagnosed?
>>751599284
My gf does and she's moody af. Real question is, who the he'll is this blonde goddess?!
>>751599284
I hate BPD people with a passion.
>>751599790
just stay away from them.
it's a weird combination of it not being their fault, but them intentionally being assholes at the same time. you can't win. just keep away once you've learned to identify them.
>>751599284
my ex-wife did. She left a month ago - there was nothing I could do to help her/prevent it. Just don't even get involved with them. Abandon hope all ye who enter.
>>751599284
Autism
Church lady suggested to set up a social security appt for me and I didn't know what it was. Simple psych eval got me autism/bux.
Biggest mistake of my life, hiring autists is not acceptable to any business and these faggots keep finding out I have it when they ask me disability questions that I can't legally lie about.
>$3900 a year after rent
Life turned out fucking retarded for me. And I'm sick of my couch.
>>751600039
best advice I've heard yet. you can't fix them. therapy is fucking worthless. they'll stab you just to see how sharp their knife is.
>>751600366
Worst part is my wife, as she was moving out, didn't blame me. And I quote "you did nothing wrong. you're perfect. You lived with me and accepted me for who I was. I just don't love you anymore."
>>751599284
I am a male with diagnosed BPD, it doesn't affect my life much anymore. I have my anxiety under control but I'm depressed a lot of the time interspersed with some happy periods.
It mainly doesn't affect my life as I've stopped pursuing romantic relationships after the last few
My best friend is diagnosed borderline with paranoid schizophrenia thrown in. It’s hell. But I can’t give up on her...I can’t be the one to abandon her...fuck, it’s gonna kill me.
>>751599284
http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/education/grammar/affect-versus-effect
Now fuck off, illiterate retard.
Anyone ever had luck with DBT?
The trick is to get them to go and keep going I guess?
I'm able to make executive decisions that hurts those who don't deserve the gain.
>>751600704
>I can’t be the one to abandon her...
save yourself. you can't help her.
>>751600339
I know that feel man.
>>751600817
But I remember when she was better. And I don’t care about myself. So, yeah. I’d probably give her the gun to kill me in my sleep if it meant it would make her better. Probably means there’s something wrong with me but whatever.
>>751600704
weird. in the same situation pretty much. she is my ex, she lives with me because she cant hold a job. both diagnoses. I love her and I want her to be ok.
>>751600804
my ex does do it and says it helps. i think youre right, its getting them to keep going.
Paranoid schizophrenia here. Been pretty well under control for a year or so now. Gave up drinking because it was bringing that shit back to the surface.
>>751600911
are you me?
>>751600704
>the attention whore cunt that I'm white knighting for has completely friendzoned me but I want to pretend to have some self respect...
Just fucking stop. You're literally enabling her behavior.
>>751599284
Apparently I was diagnosed with a mild case after starting DBT. I kinda don't see it but who knows.
>>751600912
I got my friend to go. I took her every week to her one on one and to her group sessions. She got better. Then she decided it wasn’t worth her time anymore. Now she’s worse than ever, in and out of mental hospitals, constantly attracting the attention of law enforcement, fucking homeless people, you name it.
Fuck.
>>751600911
Look up son's of alcoholics syndrome. Like me, you fit right into the profile.
>>751600923
Good on you, anon. It's always great to hear that someone's schizophrenia (or other severe disorders) is in remission.
>>751601041
thats shitty, sorry to hear that. its tough to watch and feel so helpless.
>>751600912
What’s it like to have her live with you? Because mine is the same way. Can’t hold a job or do anything worthwhile. It’s been costing me a fortune keeping her off the streets and at this point I would just open my home to her. But that’s probably a huge threat to me too.
Does having you around as someone who supports her on a reliable basis help her at all?
BPD here. We will take anyone down to the hole if they even try to understand or help us. Only we can make the decision, and it's very hard.
>>751600804
I have some experience with DBT. It hasn't helped me personally very much, but I've seen it have a positive impact on people I care about, including people with BPD. So I would recommend it if you or someone you care about is borderline.
>>751600339
I have a nagging suspicion that I’m autistic but if this stops you from getting jobs
Fuck it I’ll live my whole life never finding out
>>751600985
You could put it that way, yeah. Some of us aren’t that bitter, yet. Hope for the future and all that.
>>751599284
I have rapid cycling bipolar disorder, this condition became clear to me when I was around 8 and my emotional outbursts where extreme. At 28, I was officially diagnosed, the miracle is I made it through college (a great struggle) and have yet to commit a serious crime. Everyday, I still have to work at holding back urges to lash out at the world and suicide has been something I've considered since I was 8. When you have problems like bipolar disorder, extended family members tend to make it harder by their rude remarks and insensitivity. If I were born with down syndrome, something people could see; then they'd most likely have had more patience with me. So BPD has ruined the quality of my life. I was in a relationship with a woman with BPD and we had some fucking intense sex. But we would fight too much and it always got physical. Otherwise, most women become afraid of me or get weirded out when they learn about my condition.
>>751601081
https://www.searidgealcoholrehab.com/article-adult-children-of-alcoholics.php
holy shit. holy shit. holy fuck me shit.
shit.
I'm not the guy who you replied to but fuck me i've never heard of this.
>>751599284
My gf has that. It can be a pain in the ass sometimes, but it is worth it.
>>751601081
Damn man. Not that anon but it explains a lot of things over the years. Thanks for the suggestion.
Bipolarfag here. I was diagnosed when I was 17 after an emergency intervention that put me in a crisis unit and I've been under psychiatric care since. It's been a rough road, but now I'm in my second year of college. I'm struggling, but D stands for Diploma. This will fly in your undergrad, but if you're going for a six/eight year degree then you're fucked.
I still self harm, although in an unusual way. Instead of cutting or burning, I stop studying, I stop going to class, and I stop showing up at my part time job. I'm not even doing anything fun when I skip, I just try to sleep as much as I can. I'm working on that though, and it's getting better.
I sincerely hope that everyone in this thread recovers from their mental disabilities. You all deserve to live a happy life, no matter what you may think at the time.
>>751601183
its really hard sometimes. about a month ago, she threw a glass pipe at me, I drunkenly (and regrettably) called the cops. that was our third interaction with the cops that week. it was bad. weve been good as friends since then.
I feel like it comes in waves, but I do believe me being around is better than her homeless, alone on the streets getting into who knows what. i feel you on the financial strain bro. im a nurse, her illness hits me right in the feels because I do love her and I cant give up on her. while its probably damaging on me, ill take the abuse if it means she will get better down the road.
>>751601362
>>751601375
Guys, my BPD wife therapist told me about it. She was aboslutely right. We're drawn to them. We can't help it. We want to fix those we can't fix.
I'm working through this now. I have a bunch of books I can recommend, but please, please, listen to me. There's a life beyond your SO. There's so much more the world can offer you. You deserve more.
>>751601022
Fuck I reread some shit about BPD and I fit right in.
ooooohhhh sister / brother anon
Schizophrenia +Hypersexuality + Paranoia - Since i was 14 more or less
How does it effect you and how did you get diagnosed?
My life is basically really fucked up: Tweens and Teen yrs in and out of Care Centers , tarnish reputation for life in my Hometown (reason i leave as soon as i could)
Endless line of people in and out of my bed (a friend /roomie is helping me be good by kicking out any shady visitors , not much but it is a start)
I get Blocked in the middle of shopping and spend atleast 1 hr in the floor scratching my knees until they bleed if not stop by someone (i try to always be with someone i trust)
i got irritable bowel syndrome, does that count?
>>751601539
>There's a life beyond your SO
heh. i seem to have problems having one of those. can't seem to entertain the idea.
>>751601539
I'll take a book recommendation, anon. thanks.
>>751601535
Yeah. She’s been physically abusive to the point where she left bruises and drew blood but I managed even then to avoid calling the cops. Last thing she needs is jail. This person reduces me to a pathetic mess but...I love her more than anything and remembering what kind of a great person she was is what keeps me around.
I also dealt with my mom being diagnosed with schizophrenia about ten years ago. And she was a big nutcase. Wiccan schizophrenic. What a joke. Anyway, my mom got better, which gives me hope for my friend.
>>751601785
thats awesome your mom got better, glad to hear that. and yeah, ive been choked, struck, screamed at for hours.
....when we were together, the sex was very intense. very awesome. but it was making her too paranoid, constantly checking my phone. 100% sure I was cheating on her, when I absolutely never would.
>>751599284
I got BPD and it sucks balls tbh
>>751601270
Look. I'm trying desperately to help you.
I married a girl like that.
She was smoking hot, fun to be around, etc. etc.
Now she's divorcing me and taking my house.
Listen to me! Get away from that crazy bitch. The sex and the fun might be nice for now, might even be nice for a couple years. But eventually you'll let your guard down and then she'll stab you in the back.
Instead of wasting all that time with a crazy bitch that's only using you and doesn't give two fucking shits about you go find a humble girl that will cook and clean for you and knows her place. I'm telling you that crazy bitch is merely using you: eventually she'll get bored of you or she'll latch onto someone who has more money or power or looks or drugs or whatever. You'll have feelings for her, of course-- THAT'S HOW THE MANIPULATION WORKS. THAT'S HOW THESE PSYCHO CUNTS MAKE THEIR LIVING. So when she does eventually ditch you it'll hurt a lot.
No cunt is nice to fuck after age forty. And forty comes much sooner than you think.
If you plan on living 'till you're 70+ you need to be thinking about who you want to actually grow old with.
My dreams were betrayed, tortured to death, and died in agony.
Don't condemn your dreams to the same fate.
>>751601516
Sup anon, I self harm that way too. Doing it right now. I've refused to recognize it as self harm until lately, but that's also the only good explanation for acting this way. I guess after years of cutting and burning that just ignoring my responsibilities seems so innocuous. Thanks, I needed to see that. I should go start studying for this exam I have tomorrow.
Btw, congrats on staying in school. It's fucking hard to deal with mental illness and academics at the same time.
I have BPD. I am pretty much a monster.
I am a nice person when you first meet me. People seem to be drawn to me, they tell me I am great.
I tell them about my past, they can't see it they say. There is no way that was your fault, you're too nice.
One of two things will happen then.
Either I have the willpower to deal with the loneliness and ghost on the new friend, or I try to keep the friendship and watch as my fear of abandonment slowly pushes the person away and then burns the bridge behind them.
I wish I was dead.
>>751601992
LOL mine freaks out at the sight of a cell phone. Says she can feel the cellular waves. I know there are people like that out there, so who knows.
The sex is out of this world, yeah. Easily the best lay I’ve ever had. Really the first woman I’ve ever wanted to cum inside for the purpose of making another human. Luckily I haven’t gone that route, a rare case where I don’t think with my dick.
Now I get to hear about how she fucked strangers in a homeless shelter. I just wanted something better for her than that. Oh well...
Yeah, a girl with this really fucked me up recently. Avoid avoid.
>>751601651
Spotted the dumb cunt attention whore parasite.
I hope you fucking get over yourself before you're old and used up and no longer fuckable... no wait. No I don't. I hope you wind up a complete fucking wreck and homeless on the street.
No job because you spent all your time fucking around and doing drugs and alcohol etc. instead of learning how to be useful.
No friends because you used them and abused them and mooched off them until they were sick of your drama and your bullshit.
No family because you did the same to them many years ago.
No place to stay because you always wasted everyone's time and hung out with losers who didn't mind wasting time with you.
I hope this scares some fucking sense into you, fucking selfish arrogant cunt.
What's unrequited love like for someone with BPD?
>>751602335
yep. they deserve better. unfortunately some humans can only take so much, I can understand why most people in here are saying GTFO. its actually her birthday at midnight. i got her a few things. they are sick people, not bad people.
>>751602651
do they really feel love? I think it's something else.
Shit, after reading all of this storis i realize how easy i have it with my BPD gf.
I'm living with her and yeah, she can be a real bitch without any fucking reason, but she can be really romantic.
I have to admit that I almost broke up with her in a couple of times, but talking, therapy and medication sure makes life way easier with her, although sometimes i feel like getting away from all of this and just stay single for the rest of my life. I don't know, it's complicated. I sure love her, but it can be reaally hard to live with her
>>751602794
BPD isn't psychopathy you mong
>>751602252
Your fear of abandonment isn't pushing people away.
It's your narcissism, arrogance, selfishness, and just plain bat shit crazy behavior.
And I know your little secret too. You LIKE acting like a crazy retard. You get off on it, it's exhilarating, isn't it?
It's like scratching an itch isn't it? It sucks so bad... but then just giving in to it feels so good doesn't it?
It's you. It's not "bawww muh brain dun made me do it" No. It's you. YOU are the one doing it.
It's not your fear of abandonment. It's YOU and the way you act. It's the bullshit you say, the drama you cause, you stupid decisions you make. YOU. Not your fear.
>>751602673
That’s nice anon. Yeah everyone has told me to run away, and understandably so. Family, old friends, none of them will deal with her. I hope she enjoys the gifts. Mine did not. She told me she was shoplifting food one time so I sent her like a 100lb box of food via FedEx (I was in another state at the time). She refused the package, said sorry later...oh well...
>>751603023
damn. thats rough. is she doing any better now?
>>751602893
>I'm living with her and yeah, she can be a real bitch without any fucking reason, but she can be really romantic.
That's called manipulation, fool.
The "romantic" bit is like BDSM aftercare. She's bribing you so that she can use you as a punching bag or as a step-n-fetch-it or as a piggy bank or a couch to crash on or whatever.
>>751599284
My wife does.
I told her to get help.
Instead she got railed by niggers for like a year.
You really gotta hit rock bottom and end up in the ER sometimes.
>>751603151
Nope. Disappeared after some run in with her family and the cops a few days ago. The family is one of those types who think that the more money you throw at the problem, the easier it is to fix. Haven’t heard from her in two days, which means she’s off on another crazy bender or in custody somewhere. So far, no info in the court system so it’s not that.
>>751602673
Yes, but they will make YOU bad people in the end.
Every. Time.
There is no 'saving' them; I think the best a BPD girl can do is to end up with a slightly volatile/violent man (so he can hold his own boundaries) who is VERY low in neuroticism, to the point of near psychopathy - but still has just enough empathy to show some kindness and perseverance to her from time to time.
Loooots more BPD girls than there are guys like that, though.
>>751599934
this, my sister has bpd. shes horrible man. she has a daughter, and i feel so bad for the kid.
On top of all that she smoked during pregnancy so my niece was born missing fingers..i hate my sister, and there is no saving her.
>>751603005
I used to be arrogant, until I realized I was a worthless waste of breath.
If I got off on causing drama I probably wouldn't be alone as much as I am. I rarely let anyone in because I know how I am.
I live alone, haven't had a boyfriend in years. I work from home, have my groceries delivered.
When I do meet someone it's online, makes it easy to ghost when I feel the BPD rearing it's ugly head.
Sometimes I don't ghost, but that has become rarer as time has gone by.
If not for my sister, who tries to be in my life, I would kill myself.
I know I am a monster. I don't like hurting people, but I do. So I deserve to be alone.
>>751599284
SAUCE?
>>751603388
ah damn I got ya. hope you hear from her soon and shes safe.
>>751603229
hHMM most likely. She does that when she wants something done. Something she could easily do, but, since I'm living with her, it's surely easy to make me go do stuff. We've been working on that, actually. Thank god she has rich parents who can afford her medication and therapy.
>>751603462
maybe im that guy then?
>>751603655
literally 2 clicks away, you stupid spoonfed faggot
No help for that personality disorder. I know... professional in the field. Worst clients and people you will ever meet. Date one and you are guaranteed to get a false DV charge or false rape charge. No sense of empathy or remorse.
>>751603492
shit man, i get that. It's really hard to talk sense into them, even if it´s something obviously bad like smoking through pregnancy
>>751603560
Post tits, feet, ass and pussy.
My ex was diagnosed with BPD, Bipolar disorder, PTSD, institutionalization and God knows what else. I love her, but she broke it off with me and her family to go get therapy and rebuild her life. We keep in contact, but we're both moving on. She's seeing a therapist every week and they are now discussing medications. She's got a long road ahead and I really hope she finds happiness someday.
>>751603462
Riffing on that, I actually knew a dude once who knowingly had a relationship with a BPD girl. He was very canny and intelligent (so he could parse out how and when she was manipulating him), was very capable of being an asshole if needed, and was VIOLENTLY dominant in bed - but had a bit of a heart too.
He lived with her on weekends, basically. And apart the rest of the time. It seemed to work, though there was frequent drama, which he was stressed by but not as much as most dudes would be.
Probably about as close to a functional relationship you'll get with a full-blown BPD girl.
>>751600911
Ahahahahahahaha faggot
>>751602617
what , why would you say that ?
I have a job , im no longer live with my parents
I have few but very very close friends
My family is close but we have a difficult relationship for many reasons
I have a place to stay since i earn good money with my collage degree
And very few things scares me anymore , after you have been thru the shit i have , you loose those kind of feelings
My ex has BPD and shes pregnant with our son. I know its mine.
Sex was great but she'd constantly try pushing me away. She was very extreme. Everything wad black and white to her. We broke up and got together I dont know how many tines because she was a cunt and she'd manipulate me back to her with guilt.
Found out she was pregnant and things got worse. Id work night shifts, come home at 5am to her waiting to fight with me. I had to do everything around the house and bring her with my everywhere or else she'd break down.
Eventually I decides that I cant raise a child with this woman and its not my job to babysit/parent her. I kicked her out of my house. Shes now saying how I'll never get to see my son and how he'll learn all about how I never wanted him. But I have a 100k a year job and she delivers pizzas. She has no idea the legal battle coming her way. My son will not be raised by a monster.
Worst part is I HATE her. But its half not her fault. Shes sick. But I hate the way she treated and emotionally abused me.
>>751603984
That's my fucking relationship with my GF right now, holy shit.
>>751603791
Ah, yes, the 'shit rationalization to avoid uncomfortable truths' approach. I know it well.
No, almost certainly you are not. Run.
And, even if you are, the resulting dynamic is not GOOD. It's still pretty poor. Just the least poor possible with a BPD.
>>751603974
...
Did you see her actually talking to her therapist?
Did you actually read the label on her pills and watch her take them?
Did you look through her phone and read her texts etc.?
No?
She's not doing any of that shit. She's a fucking lying, manipulative, psycho and she cut off all contact with her family so that she doesn't have to deal with people who truly know her and can see through her bullshit.
She still maintains loose ties with you so that she has a useful fool to fall back on and crash on your couch if shit goes bad for her (and it's always one new disaster after the next with her, isn't it?)
She's not going to therapy. She's trying to sell a sob story to a gullible retard to try and get some pills out of it... probably adderall or some shit.
If she were trying to actually get better why would she ditch all the people in her life who actually care about her?
No. She's just chasing drugs and more gullible fools to leech off of.
BPD is not treated with meds. It is a personality disorder entrenched and learned in her family of origin. Much like antisocial per disorder. Bipolar can be treated by meds. Axis I vs Axis II. My advice as a professional is to cut all ties with a BPD woman and document everything via email and text if you have to battle th m in court. You will be portrayed as an abuser physically and mentally.
>>751604027
Based on your spelling and grammar I can tell that you're just a pathetic tweenager larping as a poor misunderstood lost waif just tryin' to do bettuh in duh big bad worl'
Grow up and fuck off, faggot. Emo is passe these days and you just look stupid.
>>751604182
Good on you, this will give you a time for the craziest fucking sex you will ever have.
Just remember, maintaining something like this is like maintaining an athletic career. Someday, you will get tired.
Know how you will get out when that day comes, safely.
>>751604052
Good job, anon.
Ruin the bitch.
Next time keep your eyes open and avoid such cunts in the first place, eh?
They are very hard to spot right away. Can hide the really obvious signs till you enjoy the sex ....
>>751601711
>>751601769
I haven't fogotten about you anons. "Silent Sons: A book for and about men" and "How to break your addiction to a person: when - and why- love doesn't work".
Both give a lot of perspective.
>>751604626
This is my third language , so not sorry for any errors
You are just a hater and a troll , so good bye
My ex-wife had it, mixed with regular depression. Shit was bad, man. Real bad.
This is a handy chart I made to help people out, some of you might have seen it before here.
>>751604052
you need to get a paternity test before you lawyer up on her ass. i know you think you're 100% sure the kid is yours because you "know every move she makes and there's no way i wouldn't know"... but you don't.
they are that good
no matter how on top and locked down you think you have this situation - she's better. they literally plan their moves years in advance sometimes and this could all be a part of her scheme.
are you even sure she's actually pregnant? short of personally going to (and sitting in) her gyno appt, the only evidence you could possibly believe would be the weight gain, and even then who knows. i'm telling you dude, you need to question everything with these bitches.
>>751605160
This. Totally this. My BPD ex pulled a fake pregnancy on me several times. Never true. I blew my load into her enough to think she’s infertile. I’m not, I have kids now.
>>751605117
This is actually pretty spot on.
Or she was on birth control and lied. They lie about everything... manipulation is their drug.
What do you guys tell your friends and family when they say to ditch the BPD bitch?
>>751605436
Thanks.
And my advice on how to deal with it: just step away. Don't think about payback, revenge, messing her up, whatever. Make it as quiet, stress-free as possible. You might need to give up on a lot of things, but it is worth it. Salvage whatever you can from yourself, and push everything else into the past.
For those of you who cut ties? How did you do it and stick to it?
Why do you have to tell friends and family anything ? Codependency will attract borderlines. Fix that too.
>>751605923
Ex wife with BPD left me. Cut ties. Its easy becuase i'm so fucking mad at her. I hate her, but it's whatever. I'm killing it on tinder. Focus on yourself.
Go No Contact, move on. I dont even know you but you deserve better.
Cut off all contact with them and block all their numbers and emails. Burn all the shit that reminds you them. If you fuck up and attract another repeat those steps.
>>751605978
In my case, I share what I’m dealing with with my friends and family because it helps me to cope. And they all say to get rid of her and I don’t really have a good answer as to why not other than that she used to not be this way
How can I fix myself as a girl with BPD, PTSD and Depression? I don't want to be a cunt and genuinely fix this shit.
>>751605923
Me (>>751605117) again:
Just walk away. Be as polite as possible, and only communicate in a polite, rational and simple way for bureaucratic things. Cover your back in case some insane legal shit happens. Otherwise, just erase her from your life.
Treat it like a professional arrangement. Block off your emotions and move on. Let it go. Anger, frustration, nothing will help you. The sooner your break any connection tying her to you, the faster you can move on to a normal life.
Sounds codependent... perhaps you enjoy the ‘dance’ and chaos? If you came from a chaotic house you will love the games of a BPD woman.
>>751606105
Me (>>751605117) again.
Go to a doctor, take pills, they work. They won't cure, BPD has no cure, but they will help manage it. I admire your intention, and that makes a huge difference. Try to be straightforward as possible when you can, and talk about your condition. There is no shame in it, it isn't because you're a bad person, it's just the way your brain works physically.
Can you blame someone missing a leg for not being able to run?
>>751606267
Codependency often evolves naturally from trying to help the other person, and having a bit of hero syndrome.
Great picture description of personality disorders. Throw in avoidant/dependent and that covers the craziest of women.
I have multiple personality disorder if that helps? It's fucking Shitty having it, too. I hate it.
Ok... so BPD isn’t s mental illness ... it is not how the ‘brain works physically ‘. It is a learned system of behaviours. If one is genuine about change (few BPD are introspective enough) then cognitive behavioural therapy could help. Outcomes are poor because the client eventually hates the therapist too. And codependent personalities are in need of therapy as well ... nothing natural about being someone’s punching bag for years whether that is a spouse or parent or friend or sibling. Set boundaries and move away from that abuse.
Is a relationship with a bpd girl who takes therapy and medications possible in the long run? She's been throwing me hints of marriage, but i'm not sure. We've been together for 6 months and i think everything is okay, for now...
Being at peace and healthy involves being alone at times. Lots worse things in life than being alone.
>>751606475
I currently take Sertraline and Fluoxotine, along with some B12 supplements to balance out my moods and depressive dips- but my family can't afford therapy right now. I'm underage, so I can't afford it myself as well. Are there any free resources I can use to help? I've gotten to the point where I feel like I'm a massive burden to those around me, and I'm really trying to fix myself. I'm currently looking into very specific strains of marijuana that can sedate my moods, and I've heard it has success with BPD patients. Any thoughts?
With a BPD woman actions speak louder than words. Time will tell. See if she can go a week or a month without a melt down. Then 3 to 6 months with meds and therapy. If not I’d move on now.
>>751599284
Knew a chic with it, absolute nutcase! New EVERYTHING cos she read it in a book, couldnt survive 5 mins without meds, pushed her bloke to try killing himself. In short, stay the fuck away from anyone with it
>>751607110
Same poster here btw, sorry if I mispelled my medication- I'm not allowed to administer it myself
>>751600689
>It mainly doesn't affect my life as I've stopped pursuing romantic relationships after the last few
This so much. Male diagnosed with it as well. Life was terrible in relationships, I don't know why. It's better if I keep people at arms length. I don't have many friends, but it's better for everyone else that way.
Seroquil and lamictal are better for depression. Seems people are mixing BPD with depression in this thread. They can coexist which makes treatment outcomes even tougher but depression or bipolar alone are readily treated with meds. Borderline personality disorder is not treated with meds typically. Not by any professional I know anyway. I think the rebound off thc as a treatment would make BPD worse... ie... the hangover would aggravate BPD.
>>751607110
Physical activity can help, seriously. People (but not doctors) underestimate the positive impact of physical activity on mental health. It relieves stress in a regular basis, reducing the number and impact of episodes, doing a rage run in the morning, and then wasting away a punching bag does wonders. Besides the stress, it also releases endorphins helping uplift your mood, if done in a regular basis it creates routine and stability. And it also teaches self control and motivation.
If you're serious about it, start working out every single day, in the morning, until the rest of your life.
Make it your holy mission: you'll never skip a single day.
So that's the first thing: work out.
The second one is actually harder: talk about it. Talk to your close friends, describe how you're feeling each day. Talk to yourself. Keep a diary and write down your feelings. Learn to identify them, think back how you felt in the past, in the day before. All of that will help you build resilience and control.
>>751607080
>6 months.
No way dude. Don’t do that.
Eh. Working out does help serotonin levels but if you have a depressive disorder you need an SSRI to utilise the serotonin.... talk to a therapist not your friends... unless you want to eventually push friends away? Paid help is there to hear the horrible stuff.
>>751607912
Duh, of course she should talk to a therapist, before anything. But she specifically asked for additional options since she can't afford it.
And you don't need an SRRI to utilise the serotonin, just to boost it. So increasing the level already helps a lot.
>>751607080
at first i laughed out loud at this post, but then i thought about how much it reminds me of my dumb ass 10 years ago. 6 months isn't NEARLY enough to see what she will be like. trust me. the mask doesn't come off until you've been "housebroken" so to speak.
you probably won't even get to see the real her until after the wedding, even if the engagement is 2 years long. if you have even a hint of a backbone she will wait until the law has it's shackles on you before she starts to really fuck with your mind - because once you're married she owns you and she knows it.
Duh ? Eat a dick junior therapist. Every community has a nonprofit mental health Center. Fees are on a sliding scale. Poverty level pays like 3 an hour. She can afford it. What has worked for you can actually be the key to make another suicide... working out is one of 20things someone in need should do. Now. Fuck off to bed so you don’t miss the first period of middle,school tomorrow.
Most say they an hour too... which is the BPD woman... she really doesn’t want to work to get better. They historically quit treatment too. They know more than the therapist.
My ex of five years has BPD. Stumbling onto this thread has shaken up some memories, so I have a few comments:
>>751599934
You're right. You can't help, you just learn to take pain you know you don't deserve.
>>751601371
I'm sorry, I don't subscribe to this. It started tame, but just got worse.
>>751601992
You're right, my ex was the best lay I've ever had by a long shot. It was that which made it difficult to finally cut her out of my life (as pathetic as that seems, but unless you've experienced it...). And she constantly checked my cell phones (even called unsaved numbers from the history to interrogate), checked my email, followed me when I didn't know, opened my mail if it wasn't from a utility...
>>751602794
This is not a ridiculous question. She claimed she loved me, but it felt more like a dependence sometimes.
>>751604876
Yes, it was hard to see at first. I think they have more control than they let on, but only long enough to reel somebody in. Once their claws have got you, the cloak drops and you see them for who they really are.
>>751605117
THIS is 100% fucking true. I can't even describe how amazingly accurate such a simple image could be to describe BPD. The only thing I'd change is that the highs are higher and lows are lower when compared to the others. At least I feel so.
I don't know how to be nice about it; I pity those of you who have BPD. I don't know how I got through those five years and swore I'd never, EVER, go through that again. She was physically and emotionally abusive, never accepted fault, always had to control everything, never trusted me or anyone, always accused me of anything that happened, I could never do anything right... In terms of life experience, being with her was like being with 15 women from across the spectrum. It damaged me, but I think I came out stronger because of it. It's made me appreciate my wife now more than I ever could.
All I can say is get the hell out and don't look back. Ever. Just fucking run.
The nonprofit mental health Centers have all the young eager new graduates too.... 3$ an hour is worth the investment.
>>751608206
Ok, i'm legit scared now. I might dump her if she gets crazy on me. I won't wait until she does scary bpd stuff
>>751599284
I was diagnosed schizo in the ward. Basically I know I'm not me, perhaps a dissociation,... I don't see doctors. If needed I can change into other roles. Also, I can have visions and summon voices , though when I was in the ward I had little control.
>>751607110
that other guy is spot on - exercise is your first line defense for something like BPD. not sure about the weed but it would have to be better than the anti depressants i would think, those things are brutal and they steal your soul. but don't like stop taking your meds or anything lol.
honestly you've already accomplished the most difficult part (in my opinion anyway) which is actually realizing, acknowledging and accepting the fact that you have BPD. that's an extremely hard think for most boderlines to do because nothing is ever their fault. you are lucky you were able to identify it while you were young, you might actually be able achieve some semblance of a normal life
Congrats schizo ! How does that relate to BPD in women ? Go see a doctor and take your meds. Noncompliance is no excuse for voices to be summoned.
Married 17 years to BPD/Bipolar wife. Heres the last year tracking her mood hoping to find a pattern. The only thing for certain is when she's way up and things going well, it's going to suck bad in a few days. When things are at their worst it's usually 3 days or so then improves. Green = Way up. Blank is unremarkable. Yellow - irritable. Orange - most would consider total bitch. Red - unwinnable, rude and short and miserable to be arournd. Irrational, leaves messes behind her, stupid absent minded behavior and usually paranoid. If she knew I tracked her mood for a year she would flip her lid then be suspicious of anything I did on a computer for years thinking I was tracking her mood.
>>751609207
Summary here shows description of types of BPD. Absolutely accurate.
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61982.0
>>751608662
I'm the chart guy. Agreed on your point, the highs are higher and lows are lower. I never saw someone as shining and happy as a person with BPD, they shine as the brightest stars.
But then they sink to the darkest depths of the world. And it is dark...
>>751608798
man i wish i could say don't worry too much about it but after what i went through i just can't. the only advice i could give to you, based on my experience, is to always have an alibi. if you get into a fight that just kinda came out of nowhere or you feel like it's blown out of proportion then you might wanna have your phone camera/mic on just in case. maybe hide it in your pocket or whatever.
>>751608798
Dude, I'm telling you, there is no happy ending for you with her, and I'm not trying to be a dick or anything. In those five years with my ex, I read all the articles, threads, papers, everything... and then tried it all with her, so therapy, medication, patience, breathing exercises, regular exercise, team sports... whatever you can think of. The only times we "got along" was when I was most miserable. I know it's hard, but you absolutely need to let her go, and now. Just don't look back. I'm not sure what kind of guy you are, and if you have trouble with women, I can understand why you might be reluctant, but I swear, I'd rather be single for the rest of my life then to go back to my ex. I'm telling you, it's that bad. Fucking run like you're being chased by your nightmare. Because if you seriously knew what you were dealing with, it would be her chasing you. Fucking run.
>>751599284
My crazy ex had BPD, was so FUCKING crazy.
AMA
If you are looking for some quick advice, GTFO NOW.
No, they don't get better, they get worse.
>>751605160
Yeah her belly is pre big. Due in February.
Id love for her to have cheated on me and to have an out... but she never left my side. She was too scared of new people.
>>751609207
welp, bravo for you to stay 17 years
Feb this year must have been like heaven for you i guess, oh and june sort of
Bitch needs a therapist not a personal trainer. She will fuck the personal trainer and blame you for suggesting it in the first place. Working out as a solution is an offensive oversimplification for any disorder much less the darkness of BPD.
>>751609176
Fuck meds. Im cool. I don't take drugs. .. I take care of my brain now. Lilly and their propill brigade (naami?) Is such a joke,. Though yeah some people sketch too far and need brain tranquilizers too bring them back to earth
>>751609636
Yeah, I do love her and am fortunate she tries hard to be a good mom and is most of the time, not wanting to repeat what her parents were.
At her best she's amazing, at worst it's living hell and her state has nothing to do with me or external factors.
>>751609489
Ok, i'll take that advice. We've only have had discussions and some "eh" fights, but I'm really scared i might make a bad decision based on her good days. I might need therapy too>>751609497
the human brain is such complicated and weird, also super fascinating
is there a good, guarantee way to control BPD without turning the person into a complete emotionless state?
>>751609466
I know, man. And it made it so hard. Those highs were like nothing I've ever experienced since, even with my wife now (which she knows and understands). But the lows were just so, exactly how you said... dark. When you average it all out, it's just inexplicably bad. I really wanted to help her heal, to get better, and not abandon her like everyone did in her past, but for people with BPD, it's an impossible task.
I spoke to a friend who described his experience as reaching in to quicksand to help, but she pulls you in and down. And not down in a way to save herself, but just because she wants to be able to have a better view of something completely irrelevant that's just out of view. And you are easy to stand on.
>>751609990
No way. And if shrink throws wrong drugs at them look out. Zoloft was a disaster for my wife. So was lithium.
There's no logic, no cure, no way to smooth it all out and YOU CANNOT FIX THEM period. I'm a "fixer" who seeks out broken people that I want to help and tended to push away healthy people who would have been good for me. I can't fix her and know that 100% now. But you can have a good life. Try to avoid alcohol, depressants, drugs, laziness. Exercise and good sleep schedules help.
Bipolar 1 and schizotypal. I'm a really handsome guy, good paying job, in shape, interesting person etc. All is well on outside. But I'm a rapant alcoholic and sex addict. The worst part of it all, is despite all of my positive qualities it doesn't mean jack shit because girls don't like crazy self loathing dickheads. I cannot keep personal relationships for my life, and when I do manage to hold on to one for a little I inevitably sabotage it.
I had a psychotic episode at school, got diagnosed 4 years ago at 17. Started having hallucinations, was gonna off self etc. Everything that was building up for the past couple of years kind of came out all at once. Diagnoses was quick, grandmother was bipolar, mom is bipolar, 3 out of my 9 uncles and aunts are bipolar, cousin is bipolar etc.
>>751609621
>but she never left my side. She was too scared of new people.
dude... unless you are literally with her 24hrs a day, 7 days/week - and i mean 24hrs out of the day and 7 days/week - you can't be 100% sure. i know it sounds overblown and dramatic but it's the truth. 24/7/365
>>751600509
Dude, I feel you. Same happened here after almost 10 years of on/off crazy. As well as "I told you I would hurt you 1 day". Emotionless divorce proceedings, etc.
>>751609979
Yes, GTFO now and don't feel ashamed about getting therapy. I needed it because she just crushed me. It took years to get back to being okay again, so don't put yourself through it. I know I keep saying it, and I'm not trying to be harsh, but fucking run.
>>751609990
No. Not a chance. I'm not trying to claim myself as an expert here, so I'm speaking completely from untrained experience. As far as I'm concerned, there is absolutely nothing that can be done to make a BPD person into a state that's remotely tolerable. They either medicate to the point that they're an off-white painted wall that you're not allowed to touch (and certainly will never touch you), or they're the last graph posted by this guy >>751605117 (but with more extreme peaks).
>>751610236
>Diagnoses was quick, grandmother was bipolar, mom is bipolar, 3 out of my 9 uncles and aunts are bipolar, cousin is bipolar etc.
jesus christ, this is like one of those guaranteed lottery nobody want to win
>>751610062
Chart guy here again. And it got worse. For the first few years, it would be a couple episodes per month, and they started happening weekly, then a few times a week, then daily, to the point that there wasn't anything from the happy moments left, except when she would wake up in the middle of the night as the sweetest, most loving person for a few minutes before sleeping again (she wouldn't even remember it, she was a bit of a sleep walker).
For a while I actually looked forward to being waken up in the middle of the night by her talking, despite the toll that the lack of sleep took on my. Those were the happiest moments of my day. It was her, pure her.
And then even those moments were filled with darkness. She would fight with me randomly in her sleep. Scream at me. And then it was darkness 24/7. From that day on, it felt to me as if she had died, the woman I loved, married and spent almost 17 years of my life had ceased to exist.
CBT shows some positive outcomes. Journaling the A-activating event, B-belief behind it, C-consequence of belief.... if consequence is negative then they must D-dispute the belief and thus have a positive E- emotion from the belief. I just simplified therapy and journaling.... once they get good at the sequence it becomes automatic in their mind and rather than a journal process of 10 min they ideally do it rapidly in their head. Most healthy people do this naturally but don’t know it.
>>751600509
>>751610241
That fucking hurts
>been with a BPD gf before.
General Anxiety Disorder.
>Can't go upstairs if it isn't carpeted
>Can't be in big open buildings
>Can't be in a room with harsh lighting
>Can't be in a room with little color variation
>Can't smoke much pot or else I get severe anxiety attacks
Haven't felt alive since Christmas 2014. Currently on meds, but they don't do much. Right now I vape with high amounts of nicotine. Mix 6mg and 18mg. Might make it easier if I just get 12mg, but it helps with calming myself down a lot.
But I lived with s BPD for 12 years so take my cbt input for what’s its worth. I’d get out now rather than do 12 years again. I’m a wreck.
>>751610806
why that particular timeline, chirstmas 2014?
>>751610633
Ugh, it pains me to read your stories but I can somewhat relate.
I remember her waking me in the middle of the night a few times over those years, claiming she had a nightmare in which I cheated on her... then she'd proceed to treat me like it actually happened in real life.
I've never been a cheater, but I tell you all, it sucks to be treated like one.
>>751607663
Sound advice.
Do faggots actually reply to their own posts here? ‘Sound advice’.... about their own post. BPD women have come to the right place if they are lurking on this thread. Fucking nuts.
>>751599284
>instagram thot
>vegan
Fucking dropped
>>751611295
sound advice
>>751611484
if you have to pick between the 2, and i emphasis on HAVE TO : would you rather get into a relationship with a vegan that will impose that on you or would you rather get into a relationship with a BPD?
no lifelong, let say 5 or 10 years relationship max
>>751611036
>Wake up, Christmas Morning
>ohboy.png
>Look around, still fuckin dark
>Try and move, can't
>ohfuck.png
>Literally cannot move my body
>Suddenly I see this big ass pink blob walk in my room
>It just rolls toward me
>Sweating Bullets
>Blob disappears
>I can move finally
>Did I just die and come back?
It's called Sleep Parylisis. Your body is still asleep but your brain hasn't yet woken up. I guess while I had that I also had a panic attack. After that I didn't feel grounded. I kept having an out of body experience. Still happens to this day. Another date was June 11th, 2015. First panic attack. I'll tell you about that one if you want.
Reading this thread crushes me because it basically confirms that my BPD friend will never come back again and be the friend I made ten years ago.
>>751611716
Is bpd well managed?
>>751611716
Thanks for the (You) guess I'll give this a think.
This anon >>751611900 brings up an important question.
The problem I have with the question is
>vegan that will impose that on you
bitch ain't doing a god damn thing to change my mind about that
>>751600804
I know DBT very well. People with BPD need to have the right mindset for approaching therapy. DBT teaches mindfulness for a specific reason. Basically to help BPD people to recognize their insecurities and emotional outbursts and to accept that they're there without acting on them. Basically to process the intense emotions they normally cannot. Most of the skills involve recognizing and naming urges, emotions and others. Then they move onto skills designed to help regulate these urges and emotions. Meanwhile they are also learning interpersonal effectiveness skills to be able to communicate without turning into emotional wrecks (look at the skill DEAR MAN). They also work on distress tolerance for when their emotions spike, or are too stressful to be processed effectively.
Source: Work in a mental health facility that utilizes DBT with 80% BPD population for 3 years while in grad school for counseling.
>>751611900
Dating somebody with "well managed" BPD is like jumping off the 38th floor of a building instead of the 40th.
Wife has borderline. She's a nice girl but it completely fucks with her life, shit self confidence and anxiety make it super hard to handle any kind of conflict, she can't work and is depressed a lot of the time. Her mom died when she was very young, and her dad gaslit her to pretend it didn't happen and molested her. Our relationship has ups and downs, when she's doing well its fine, but if she gets in her own head she gets insecure and can take it out on me with somewhat abusive behavior. She's sexually abused me, she's guilt tripped me about doing hobbies, she has tantrums and gets sad and happy. She's been improving over the last few years though, most of the issue has been financial problems causing too much strain. She's wonderful in bed but can sometimes not be into anything because of what happened with her dad. Other times she's all over me though.
>>751612090
Dating somebody with "well managed" BPD is like jumping off the 38th floor of a building instead of the 40th.
Sign me up then
>>751612229
>this entire post
It's like being the permanent baby sitter of a sexually mature adult with the mind set of a fucking 4 yr old.
I don't care what the question is anymore, suicide is preferable to this shit.
>>751612054
yeah the impose part is kinda lame i guess
basically the gist of it is would you be a vegan for 5 years with another vegan chick or to live with a BPD chick for 5 years
i guess imma make the question a bit easier, let say the BPD is "managed" so it is not daily, and the vegan bitch let you each meat twice a month
>>751611864
The biggest thing is that they're the same person you once knew, but the diagnosis itself causes them to go even crazier. Like it's a personality disorder, it generally doesn't just appear, just like your personality wasn't formed in a day. But, once diagnosed, it's like people with BPD have something to blame for all the stupid things they say and do. The biggest problem with the medical model is that people take the label the doc gives them, and they run with it.
>>751612402
I guess BPD then?
>the vegan bitch let you each meat twice a month
>let
But in all seriousness, like I stated here >>751612394, suicide is preferable.
>>751600509
holy shit those are the exact words from my bpd ex-fiance. I feel that bro
I’ll take vegan for 100Alex.
>>751612394
It feels that way sometimes. From what I can tell the common thread seems to be childhood emotional neglect+trauma,so the way I'm looking at it is I'm basically having to teach an adult how to properly process their emotions for the first time after 23 years of not knowing how to.
>>751612702
Vegan is the right choice. You gotta eat shitty food, but at least you aren't emotionally manipulated daily. You can have fun with a vegan. BPD chicks will freak out on you for blinking wrong, tell you to leave, then call you crying to come back. I Hate You Don't Leave Me is supposed to be a good book on the subject.
>>751612761
Not your job mate. Find a specialist or something. Naturally, it might be time to move on if she isn't willing to help herself.
>>751599284
BPD is awful. The people with it are not salvageable. If you ever think you can help/fix/change someone with it, they will sabotage your plans, gaslight you, and manipulate the shit out fo you. They should be wiped from the planet.
>>751600704
>I can’t be the one to abandon her...fuck, it’s gonna kill me.
No. Stop. You are already being manipualted, shes making you feel shitty. Escape, change your locks, phone number, move, get the fuck away from these people.
>>751612229
I fucking posts like this. I fucking love them.
How fucking awesome is she if every fucking sentence where you say something nice about here there is a "but" and followed by something that realistically, individually is a deal breaker in a new relationship. There is so many fucking sentences of actual th ked up shit in there too with no "but" followed by some thing crazy amazing.
Do yourself a fucking favor and pump then dump. You can get all that she gives you in a functional adult without the abuse. Her being abused doesn't give her the right to abuse you, intentional or not. She needs fucking therapy for a lot of years and you need a spine.
Check out Maggie Esteps ‘I’m an emotional idiot’. Comical first hand insight by a woman with BPD. Poetry.
>>751613270
Agree, get out. The last thing you need is to be murdered by an emotionally unstable person who's hearing voices.
>>751613149
Well at this point she's actually getting better, most of that other stuff happened before I told her I wouldn't put up with her shit if I was the only one in the relationship trying to keep her alive. Now she's pretty much functioning outside of working, and she still volunteers a couple times a week so she's doing something. She's also going to regular appointments and stopped self harm and started positive self-talking. It's a hard climb but I can defs say it's more good than bad.
>>751613341
"Pump then Dump - a single man's guide to sleeping with BPD women"
bpd girl in HS *could not* kiss me & instead had me finger her & bite her, i didnt truly recognize it @ the time but that was a major sign right? She was apparently out of a breakup at the time & really unstable in hindsight. I really fucking miss her though. so beautiful & vibrant. fuck
>>751599284
BPD was one of the things I was diagnosed with during my succession of protective holds for self harm and suicide attempts.
It makes me an absolute cunt to deal with. So I just try to be schizoid when talking to people. But if I get stressed and someone is stressing me out, I bring up suicide constantly and use it as a weapon to argue with.
Sometimes even calling people just so they hear the wind of the canyon I threaten to jump from or the cocking of a gun pressed to my head.
Doesn't even have to be anything major that sparks that.
Needless to say, I try to avoid human connection as much as possible.
>>751613545
Oh Fuck no. If you're already with one you pump then dump. But never EVER stick your dick in crazy. Doesn't matter if you plan on bouncing. Don't fucking do it. I speak from experience when I say don't so that and don't ever date bpd. Don't go near it. Fucking cut it out of your life
>>751613514
Good on ya cunt
>>751613341
Like I said in my other post, she used to do all that shit, then I told her I was gone if she didn't start working on herself. Now she's doing better, taking pills, going to therapy, and not hurting herself or me. If she starts to throw a tantrum or get too caught up I just have to remind her and she shuts the fuck up now. Yeah, she was shitty, and I definitely had every right to leave, and she knows that. I just didn't, and for better or worse I think she's improved as a person.
Gotta have a sense of humour. Life is a comedy not a tragedy.... the BPD would like you to believe otherwise. Enjoy the sex and move on.
>>751613703
And there's chapter 1. Thanks anon
>>751613861
I thought that but then I realized she only did it so I wouldn't leave and not because she genuinely thought she needed to get better. Once the threat of me leaving was diminished she was back to her psychotic ways.
My situation is complicated. My psychiatrist explains it as two consciences crammed into one brain. It's not quite a personality but behaviorally it is quite similar. I've had him since I was a child and it's still not gone. Not a daily struggle but when it does act up I can feel my mind split into two and it's like I'm listening to two conversations at once but the intensity is increased tenfold.
>>751614045
I mean that's well and good, if she's lying then time will prove that, it's really no skin off of my nose. If she's not actually doing it then I'm gone, but she's been improving for like 2 or so years since it happened and she's still going strong.
>>751614241
Wise Mind that shit. Find the balance between Emotional and Logical minds. Use mindfulness to learn to differentiate.
>>751605923
Therapy, talking to yourself and writing events down on paper and reading them out loud and viewing them from the 3rd person.
It's normal for the human mind to reconnect with the good times and memories but you have to remember, majority if not all of their actions against you and towards you are by THEIR CHOICE.
As in, they will get off on your pain, it heals their wounds as a child.
You really have to allow yourself to grow away from them and not check up on them.
Broke up with mine unbelievable mentally destructive breakup in 2014, just got over it with a year of therapy after I was tired of viewing her shit on social media.
Learn they are sick, are choosing not to get better, are choosing not to take the necessary steps to grow, mature and heal for you or the relationship, these are damaged selfish girls anon.
The book, "Letting Go" really helped, it's a little Buddhist, but man, with the first chapter I was viewing everything she did from a new light.
Keep up your mindfulness and Godspeed brother.
>>751614352
I can actually have full conversations with him. He comes out in drawings. It's usually how we communicate with each other. For a while we had found a common ground to be with each other and not overwhelm the other but after a serious disassociative episode involving psychedelics my limbic system "reset" him and he's been a pain my ass. I'm definitely better than I was though.
>>751614367
Glad you made it through. Good advice
>>751614367
from David R. Hawkins?
his books are good
>>751614560
Full conversation with your "other mind"? If so you got more than BPD. BPD should be described in layman's terms as somebody that feels more intensely to the point it inhibits relationships and functioning. Not somebody who hears voices.
>>751614241
My wife dissociates similarly, she just sections off pieces of her personality and they sort of switch out as she needs them.
My gf has bipolar, think meds are making her worse, any recommendations? Also, fucking sucks that I can't get good care for her..her current doctor doesn't give a fuck, just threw pills at her and almost increased her dose 3, just want her to get better.
>>751599284
Im diagnosed with borderline personality
Costs me a few jobs and friendships because i’m explosive, it got diagnosed when i was 16 combined with PTSD & ADHD
It affects me on a daily since its hard not to hop on the negative spiral
>>751614927
Honestly this is why I feel bad for people with mental health problems, the two people I know with BPD both have shit doctors that I've physically seen make appointments for them and then claim later they didnt. They don't listen to anything the people say about their symptoms and just push whatever pill is popular for them to push so they can get their paycheck. It's not an excuse, but I can see why someone would have a hard time dealing with shit like that
I dated a girl with BPD for 7 years because of mind blowingly good sex, mutual drug use and no self respect. It was the darkest period of my life. Mostly the relationship was codependent bullshit with her constantly lying and manipulating. True evil is a bitch who has BPD. If you encounter one, run. Her disorder will try to steal your soul. I am not exaggerating. It really is that bad. They are monsters
>>751615243
Meant for
>>751615006
>>751599284
Avoidant over here, which is just about the most pathetic disorder to have. Feels like the lamest collection of symptoms that keep me from living a full life, from experiencing fulfilling relationships.
>>751614591
Yes, Hawkins.
>>751614743
Not quite BPD. My mental health team is unsure what to call it, but we're familiar with what's going on and have been working for about 3 years to take care of it. Just taking my meds and smoking pot. It calms down typically, but I have episodes every now and then. It's normal for me.
>>751614743
I'm sorry to hear. It's a terrifying experience.
>>751601362
can relate to a few of the points but not all. Only a handful. Dad was an alcoholic but not a bad one. Just the one that drinks after work to be happy.
>>751602168
>/thread
>>751606256
5 star post
>>751599284
Thanks for the thread guys it helped me realize a lot about a past relationship I'm still trying to get over. Realized I couldn't have helped the situation by reading all of this. And though i had the nagging suspicion it pretty much just drove the point home, my ex has bpd. Ive cut off all communication 3 months ago. Going to make sure it stays that way.
