hey, Anonymous! welcome to the After-Hours Bar. Grab a stool and take your coat off, won’t you? Let’s see what we’ve got on tap tonight:
>Advice
>Conversation
>Happy Thoughts
thank you for stopping by, have a wonderful night, and please remember that you are loved. <3
Jill a cute
>>751592667
Hi there!
>>751592667
>you are loved
You liar.
Ever have any weird dreams? Want some of mine?
>>751592667
I wanna brake up with my BF, but I can't bring myself to do it. He loves me to much. I just want to fuck girls now. And we have problems.
I'm so lonely I'm honestly considering spending my holiday money and paychecks to buy a hotel room and an escort for a night just so I can have someone to be intimate with.
>>751593215
No thanks
>>751593298
Sounds like a good idea do you have enough money?
>>751593093
evening, anon.
>>751593164
hey, having a good night so far?
>>751593211
I love you.
>>751593215
I don't really have dreams, but sure.
>>751593241
mm... I get that. prioritizing the feelings of someone else over your own. I've done it before, myself. but in the long term, would you really want to be with someone you don't want to be with, just for their happiness? it's noble as hell, but at the end of the day, a relationship really only works when both parties are happy with where they are.
>>751593298
I mean... you could.
>>751593093
there is truth in this statement
>>751593241
It's far more cruel to both of you to suffer a relationship you may grow to resent. If you haven't you need to talk with him about your worries for the relationship. If you let it go to the point you become resentful of the relationship or cheat on him it will be more painful for both of you.
>>751593298
family or friends to spend time with at all? (Just want to make sure you're loneliness hasn't kept you from asking out of fear of rejection).
>>751593241
Be honest she will understand
>>751592667
my birthdays soon and my issue is that i need an addicting game to play on that day for 24 hours any ideas?
>>751593298
Are there no family or friends around?
>>751593447
So far so good, Jill! How bout you?
>>751593493
Hi!
>>751593524
Binding of isaac
>>751593298
buy a prostitute then you wont be lonely
>>751593298
I've actually done that. If I may ask where ya from, ever slept with anyone?
>>751593447
>I love you.
How many lies are you going to tell me tonight?
>>751593443
Well if I save up my next 4 checks and factor in any Christmas/Birthday money I get, I could easily afford a $300 hotel room and a $500-$1000 escort.
>>751593493
I have plenty of family and friends, but I miss having someone to be intimate with. I miss affection. I miss feeling a woman's body against mine as we lie in bed. I miss that warmth.
>>751593596
Literally what I just said i was going to do.
>>751593630
I live outside Chicago (Aurora), and yes I have slept with a handful of women.
I'm constantly rationalizing living but also that makes me want to die more.
>>751593772
relatable either kill yourself, or suck it up and do something with your life. Any unexplored dreams? Like becoming a singer or some shit just go after them because our lives dont matter so even if you fuck up who cares.
>>751593721
I dunno how it is in the states but in the uk $500 gets you rather a lot in some places, be aware you may spend £70 worth and waste the rest though.
>>751593493
I already have been cheating for 2 months now. 3rd time. He has no idea.
>>751593524
I honestly don't play enough games to answer this. maybe marathon the Deus Ex games?
>>751593573
achy, slept a lot. but I'm doing alright so far. sorting my Calibre and Plex libraries to kill time, mostly.
>>751593656
so far it's at zero!
>>751593721
ayyy, Aurora's a nice town. I knew a qt from there a while back.
>>751593772
you can always take solace in the fact that all of us are going to die in the end, so you may as well find a way to occupy the time until it happens. gives you an opportunity to try and make the world a little less shitty for others.
>>751593721
i used to live in elgin, auroras nice
>>751594009
then you aren't happy in the relationship, and you're already doing something that will hurt him when he finds out. why are you trying to not hurt him by staying with him?
>>751593953
I tend to overestimate my budget when I plan things. Helps to save a bit of money and always be pleasantly surprised when I have some left over.
>>751594063
>>751594116
Aurora is pretty nice. I was born here, moved away when I was little, and ended up moving back here.
>>751594063
>so far it's at zero!
Three by my count.
>>751593721
I won't chide you for choice. It's yours to make. Just know that's a lot of money. You could do a lot with that much money you may find some value in. Not withstanding you could take a few girls out on dates with that much and look for something more long term.
>>751593772
this >>751594063
If one knows what a terrible place the world can be they can find value in making it less so for others. That being the case. What is it you value that you are missing in your life?
>>751594009
Then it's time to call it quits. There is no way to not hurt him at this point. Give him the opportunity to have someone else that can be happy with him, and give yourself this opportunity as well.
>>751594185
It's good to have some spare but I meant waste in the sense after you cum in under an hour you still have the whole night and well if you font get on with her that well... though at that price obviously many girls are accomadating.
>>751594312
Oh that won't be a problem. Thanks to my hyper-active sex drive I could easily cum 4 times in the few hours I pay for her company.
>>751592667
GIVE ME SIX POUNDS OF TUNA
>>751594209
agree to disagree, then.
>>751594422
there are three things on tap tonight, anon. look at the menu again, please.
>>751594185
im temporarily living in des moines so im kinda missing Illinois mostly because iowa doesnt really have anything remarkable other then this burger place called zombie burger downtown
>>751594419
Hahah Im glad, but urm it's more to do with how you feel about it than how much stamina you have.
>>751594474
GIVE ME SIX POUNDS OF ADVICE
My gf got a breast reduction against my wishes. It sucks...
>>751594552
I got a buddy who lives in Iowa. He's head of security at the casino in Clinton. Been there a few times. But yeah, Iowa seems kinda desolate.
>>751594552
Come home, back to that same old place, sweet home Chicago.
>>751594744
how big were her tits before?
>>751594290
a healthy emotional/romantic connection
>>751594767
its quite lame but i guess its not the worst place on earth
>>751594810
They were G's
it feels good to be running from the devil
>>751594744
Dump her then.
She clearly doesn't value your wishes.
>>751594422
Chek'd
How bout a nice cup of coffee instead. I just made a pot.
>>751594744
I mean, she's the one who has to live with them. might suck for you, but it could help her out in everyday life.
>>751594894
Jesus, why did you want her to keep those?
What's the new size post reduction?
>>751594894
maybe too big but there is never too big you should disown that fucking thot
>>751594999
Check'd
They're just D's now
>>751594552
>>751595353
thicccccc malts
>>751595462
You bet!
I need advice, a girl that I have liked for the past three years and has be come one of my best friends, the problem is that she has always wanted to make everyone happy. I asked her out last year and after she said no I was pretty deppresed, she heard about it and felt awful. Recently another guy asked her out who she doesn’t like, but, fearing what happened to me would happen to him she said yes. After I discovered she hasn’t talked to me at all other then when she doesn’t have a choice not to but I don’t know what to do to get her to talk to me anymore.
>>751596030
just send her a message and say hey. it sounds like a shitty situation, but you got your answer on how she views you romantically, and holding onto that is just going to continue to hurt you. let it go and try to focus on just being her friend now.
>>751596030
You can't make someone talk to you. If she cares about you, she'll say something eventually and hopefully you can turn that into a conversation. All you can really do is keep the lines of communication open.
I finished the final round of interviews for an insurance account manager position at a huge firm in my hometown. It would be my first big boy job out of college. I've been looking since may and money is starting to get tight.
They said they would let me know if I got the position today, but I never heard anything.
Did they decide to just not tell me I didn't get it? or is it more likely they are behind schedule and haven't decided yet. My interview went super well so I can't imagine they would ghost me but it's got me stressed
>>751596030
You might want to move on. Next girl you meet, don't wait so long before you ask her out. And definitely don't let her become "one of your best friends "!
>>751596646
both of them are completely possible, but it's always better to err on the side of caution for a few more days. just wait and see if they contact you.
>>751596646
Keep looking. Your full time job now is to find a job. Keep looking until someone hires you, regardless of how well the interview went.
>>751592667
Keep up the good work. You're important.
Can I get a drink or something?
>>751596646
Cute pupper!
>>751597095
no, I'm not.
>>751597101
hell if I know. check your fridge?
itt retarded niggers
Does it ever get better?
>>751597151
I checked
All I found was disappointment
>>751597151
You are to me though.
>>751597101
Sure. How bout a strawberry shake?
>>751597187
the only person that can choose to make it better is yourself.
>>751597201
I'd suggest sticking your head under the sink and drinking some water, then.
or use a glass. that may be easier.
>>751597203
thanks, anon.
>>751597187
Yes.
>>751597379
Can I get advice?
>>751597496
of course you can.
>>751597571
Thank you. I feel I'm a really shitty friend to a bunch of people because I'm a bit messed up but I don't know how to be better. Do you know what I should do?
>>751597379
thanks
everytime i go out with my friend she gets really drunk and endup crashing in my house , i have cum in her mouth , ass and tits , many times already
>>751597731
do they think you're a shitty friend, or is this just what you think? I'd argue I'm a pretty bad friend too, but I can grab a couple people who would tell me otherwise. just because you think that you are doesn't mean it's true.
>>751597853
I mean... is she okay with you doing that? that's kinda creepy otherwise.
>>751597853
That's literally sexual assault.
It's been a long time...
Hello, there, everyone.
>>751597960
she says she doent mind but the next morning doesnt remember anything , that is why i haven fuck her yet
>>751597960
I don't know how to ask them, but I'm pretty sure they would agree.
>>751598067
Hello!
hello thread
Hey fags, how do i cure anxeity and stop being a beta cuck?
>>751598244
xanax
I don't know what to do. There's somebody that I'm close with. Like really close. Like mutually we consider each other to be family close. And they've done so much for me over the relatively short amount of time that we've known each other that I've slowly found myself growing attached to them and I want to take it one step beyond. But I know because of their aspirations, distance, and not wanting to subject them to the same agonizing pain they went through with the last person they were with again, I know that it can never be the case. I just want to say how I feel, but I'm terrified of the action permanently altering our relationship. And even if I did, the knowledge that the one person who I've cared about more than anyone I can remember being forever out of my reach will just eat me away inside. Try and make sense of that mess, because I barely can.
>>751598293
i already take Sertraline, or as u americucks call it "zoloft" shit aint workin :/
Hi anons, I've been feeling empty and unsatisfied with life since i almost got brutally killed by a random drug addict recently, any tips besides kys?Also have a nice day!
>>751598425
you misunderstand
the advice was to use benzodiazepines, not get a perscription
>>751598122
I'd feel pretty sketched out about engaging in a sexual activity with someone who wouldn't remember any of it. that seems like a bad idea.
>>751598180
but wouldn't you potentially just be telling yourself that? it's entirely possible that you have low self-value and you're telling yourself this to justify it.
>>751598244
honestly, I just faked it for a long time until it seemed normal to me.
>>751598379
just be happy to call them your friend. it sucks, knowing you won't get to be with them, but... it's best to just let it go. trust me.
>>751598552
be happy that you're still alive, mostly. I took a lot of therapy to stop feeling empty for my issues, maybe it's something to consider.
>>751598425
start standing up for yourself and try to achieve your goals.
>>751598216
>>751598207
Hi there, how ya doin'?
Uhm, well, I have just realized that all my life I have been a really stupid person because I ignored everyone and just tried to focus in myself, but now... It's really hard for me to find a real life friend, even talk to someone...
>>751598650
I've been told I'm a bit tough on myself at times. What do you purpose as a solution?
>>751598650
I'm suing him but its taking too long and also it made me lose 3 months of my life and it is causing me to get overwhelmed, but i guess being alive is good since i still have a shot at archiving my goals in life.Still I want to kill that coward but law says i cant
>>751598793
it just takes practice anon, all good things take time
>>751598650
>honestly, I just faked it for a long time until it seemed normal to me.
eh fair enough,
how u fags doin anyways? any fellow britbongs?
>>751598650
>trust me.
Have you gone through the same?
>>751598650
she does get in my bed instead of the sofa\bed , and tease me with her ass until i ask her in i can cum on her.....but since she doesnt remember i do feel bad about it , but i also are drunkish when it happen
I've been trying to get it off with this girl who is my downstairs neighbour for a few weeks now, and it seemed only natural, because she's also a complete failure in human relationships and lonely and she's hot af.
Now I'm hearing very intense fucking coming from the floor. And my dick is hard. Not my proudest moment.
>>751592667
Very relaxing thread the world is getting scary
specially lootboxes they're everywhere
>>751599150
amen
>>751598849
what I was told to do, to stop hating myself so much, was to write things down. I have a list in the beginning of my journal/schedule planner, that I keep adding to that's supposed to be things I like about myself.
I was told to aim for 100, and I think I'm at 17 right now. but that's more than I thought I had when I started.
>>751598946
then the best you can do is hope that the justice system does its job, and try to redirect your thoughts onto the rest of your life.
>>751599032
doing okay. tired, but that's a constant thing.
>>751599061
I have, yeah.
>>751599079
the best solution I can think of is to talk about it when you're both sober. make sure that she's alright with it, and make sure that you are as well. alcohol is a really hard thing to deal with, given how it tends to lower inhibitions, so it's a bit awkward.
>>751599111
wouldn't hurt to just ask her out for coffee or something anyway, would it? obviously not right now, though.
>>751598793
if you're from eu i can be your pal
My grades keep slipping because of this girl I fell for, and I won't ever have her. What do I do? Move on? Ignore her? I can't do either, we're friends and all my friends hang out with her. Help
>>751598793
Well, you're here now. You can relax, and enjoy the company of everyone in this thread.
>>751599558
pedo
>>751599150
What's a lootbox?
>>751599556
if you're certain you won't be with her, then yeah. move on. it sucks, but it's what happens. go back to trying to be just friends, as much as it sucks.
>>751599663
stop posting pedophile faggot
>>751599497
And that will help me be a better friend?
>>751599497
(justice system anon here) I'll try...Its just that everything was already hard and now its worse, doesnt help that i'm always the strong one(will or otherwise) in my friend/gf/family etc relationships. I just feel lonely on a emotional level.
>>751592667
d-dont tell me what to do y-you fucken idiot!
>>751599686
You see I've moved on several times, they all happened over the summer. But every year for the the past 5 years it keeps happening. And I'm sick of it
Post more Jill. Dorothy and Stella also gladly accepted.
>>751599663
Im talking about EA fisting its customers in the ass and the community just taking it
>>751599497
she has a boyfriend tho , and we are really close , like cuddle waching netflix and such , we kind of see each other as bff kind of , i dont really like her as a gf but she is really hot
I'm honestly at a lost in life rn. My gf just broke up with me after 2+ years dating. For the past 3 months or so I've just felt suicidal and I just have have no idea what to do. I was gonna start fire school in Jan but I was thinking all last night and today on just joining the navy. I just need to get away from everything. I know eventually I'll get over her but it's just tough, I feel inlove with her our freshman year of high school and we became best friends sophomore year. We stayed best friends all thruout high school and started dating the second year out. I just love her so much, and I just can't stand to be here in the same town and feeling so helpless and knowing that I won't be able to fix it. So my no fast now is just to join the navy and get as far away as possible and finally make something of myself where I can be proud of myself and my parents can be proud.
Hey Jill are you ok lovely?
Might as well
So right now, I’m in school and doing wonderfully. And inb4 newfag!!1!1!11, I mean college. It’s still school.
Anyways, I’m in shhool and doing very well with my current grade progress, in my second year. However, despite being in a positive state, I just feel... Empty. Like, I don’t really have much (positive) emotions when it comes to most situations. I don’t have a relationship, but that’s mainly because I don’t >do< relationships. They’re extremely distracting and I’d rather do without. I have friends that I converse with normally— even on a daily basis— yet I still feel Empty.
Why, /b/?
>>751599748
it might not help you be a better friend, no. but if you think that you're a bad person because you hate yourself, then learning to hate yourself a little less will make it easier to determine if you're mischaracterizing yourself.
>>751599807
it's okay to not always be the strong one, and let yourself be vulnerable with those people now and then.
have you considered seeing a therapist? I know that money would be tight, especially during a legal battle, but your insurance co. may be able to recommend a local one that they cover, and there are some offices that work on a sliding payscale for those who would otherwise struggle to afford it.
>>751599854
like I said, it really sucks. but it happens. just because you fall for someone doesn't mean that they fall for you, and you can't make them.
>>751600103
yeah, I didn't say it was going to be an easy situation. I've had awkward conversations with a friend before to figure out what was going on between us. it's never something to look forward to, but it's better to have the clarity.
>>751600160
I mean... I would take a bit more time to think about it, make sure it's what you want to do. but if you think that it's what's best for you, a few years in the military is a decent way to refocus your life. I hope you figure out what you want to do, anon.
>>751600333
I'd joke and say "welcome to being in college", but honestly that's one of the most obvious things that I noticed as my depression worsened. it's possible you are, possible you aren't. what do you do other than study and go to class? anything to try and fill that void?
>>751600609
Thank you for the advice. I'll try even if I can't think of anything. Thank you Jill.
>>751600609
Thanks for talking OP, I'll see you later
>>751600160
Life goes on my man I feel this way too sometimes its inevitable getting down in the dumps but you can't be negative all the time that's how you get into that self hating death spiral act positive do something to get your mind off things and your mind will no longer be so clouded
>>751600609
Thank you anon, I just feel like I'm on a time crunch on choosing some sort of career. And I honestly have no idea what I want to do, still. I'm figuring at least this way I'll have an income, I'll be traveling and at the end of if all I can go to school for free. I kind of just feel like it's my last resort before I end up doing something dumb with my life.
>>751600609
Well, aside from college and friends, I’m in one club, and when I’m not involved with that, I just laze around surfing the internet. Nothing much else to do, really.
>>751600812
Thanks man I appreciate it. I haven't really told anyone how I feel just because I don't want to seem like more of a burden thenni already think I am. I'm thinking getting away for some years might just be what I need. But I guess I'll find out
Hi
>>751599497
How close were you two? How long did it take for those feelings to subside? Is there anything that you did to make the process smoother? Are you still friends with them? I'm sorry if I'm asking a lot, but I need any kind of advice right now.
Please, first off, I'm a oldfag and I don't need a kid talking for me, I can do that by myself, thanks. Second, all of you are fat, retarded, no-lifes who spend every second of their day looking at stupid ass pictures. You are everything bad in the world. Honestly, have any of you ever gotten any pussy? I mean, I guess it's fun making fun of minorities because of your own insecurities, but you all take to a whole new level. This is even worse than jerking off to pictures on facebook. Don't be a stranger. Just hit me with your best shot. I'm pretty much perfect. I have a college degree in gender studies and diversity studies. What do you do with your life, other than making racist jokes on an anonym image board? I also get straight A's, and have a banging hot girlfriend (She just blew me; Shit was SO cash). You are all faggots who should just kill yourselves. Third, I'm honestly shocked at the current state of this website. Yeah, we made racist jokes sometimes, but it was all fun, right? At the end of the day, we all voted for Obama, we all supported gay marriage, and we all opposed racist conservative christians. But now? Our entire fucking site is subverted because of fucking nazis. The internet is OUR platform. the LIBERAL platform. Racism, sexism, misogyny, were all confirmed to be left in the past because millenials are the most left-wing generation of all time. So why in the FUCK, do we still have to deal with nazis IN TWENTY-FUCKING-SEVENTEEN? Despite how much you wanna cry about how it's just a conspiracy and a boogeyman, Russian hackers ARE real, and this site is proof. We went from one of the most liberal sites in the world to supporting Orange Fucking Hitler? Nah, that's not normal progression because people only get more liberal with age, just like how you get smarter with age. Threads like these just show that we need MUCH more strict moderation around here. I'm sick of all of this shit. All this and I'm an 18 year old still in high school.
>>751597239
Can I have a vanilla shake?
I like your pants.
>>751601156
nice copypasta
stealing it thx
>>751600864
there's nothing wrong with doing something dumb. a lot of people aren't sure what they want to do for a long time, go back to college later in life, or end up working in a different career than their education was. maybe military service will provide you with a direction that you hadn't even considered yet.
>>751600926
have you considered pushing yourself to be more active in the club, or pursuing a hobby? I tend to find myself holding a defeatist attitude about myself when I stop actively doing things.
>>751601130
she's my best friend in the world. feelings are still there and we both know it, but I just do what I can to focus on being happy with what I have. it still sucks a lot.
>>751601156
:ok_hand:
>>751600999
Just make sure you've put enough thought into such a decision its pretty huge it'll shape who you are for the rest of your life good look, anon
>>751601334
It's a mix of 4. So it's probably super inconsistent. Mixing them up is good for bait though.
Someone stole my eggs
help me
Whenever I cross the street I always stare at the driver closest to me. I don't know why, I just do.
I don't understand how women manage to do anything other than have sex all day. All I can think about when I'm around women is how much I'd like to fuck them, every five seconds its like fuckfuckfuckfuck.
>>751601559
If women never said no I would literally fuck myself to death. There is no off button.
>>751601488
Same jew took every egg or were their multiple? (Jews)
>>751601488
eggs are like a dollar for a dozen, anon. go get more.
>>751601488
Say with me!
Swiper, no swiping!
>>751601386
>feelings are still there and we both know it
I think that's a major problem with me. Is that I just don't know if he does. I feel like I'd feel a little better if at least that bit was open between us instead of something that would have to come as an admission on my end.
>>751601548
I also feel really embarrassed after doing it as well, how do I stop this habit?
>>751592667
hey jill, why are you such a fegget?
Hey, is the bar still open? I just need some happy thoughts...
>>751601857
does it really matter? if you feel like the best thing to do is move on, you're going to be struggling against those feelings either way. without him knowing, it spares both of you the awkwardness of "oh yeah I had a crush on you for weeks/months/years".
>>751601386
I hear you anon, and that's what I'm honestly hoping for. Just to lead me I to something I may of never considered. I never even really wanted to join the military but at my time in life right now it just seems like the best option for me. I'm just tired of everything and feeling like nothing. It's like you said, I'm hoping the years in out, I'll be able to just refocus and just be able to restart essentially.
>>751601941
Embrace it if they don't stare back they're a beta
>>751602023
Jeez, what'd she ever do to you?
-SouthPaw
>>751592667
I live alone in a very small, studio apartment. I have a job that I hate, that barely keeps me afloat as it is.
I've always wanted a significant other, but I'm simply too shy to ask anyone out. I have friends, but they would sooner hang out with almost anybody else. I try to be kind to everyone I meet, but I rarely have anything in common with other people, due to my niche interests. This has caused me a great deal of sadness and loneliness. Is it too much to ask for unconditional love? Are my longings too antiquated for my own good?
>>751601413
Thank you anon, I'm just tired of feeling like not much. I just need a huge change that I'm not even remotely use too. And in hopes that it just changes my life and mind for the better
>>751602089
good luck, hon.
>>751602166
don't respond.
>>751602197
unconditional love doesn't exist, in my opinion.
>>751602048
Believe me, there is no moving on. If things were to end between us, then I think that I would legitimately be broken without a clue of how to even begin fixing myself. And I don't know. I'm a very socially awkward person with one of my top fears being loneliness and ultimately spending the rest of my life that way. And when the person who could very well break all of that is right there, you just wish you could say something. But I can't. And those feelings are going to haunt me.
>>751602440
Any way not to become more retarded from hearing my classmates speak?
Im giving up
Y E S my children behold
>>751602440
aight, i guess ill just give up
>>751592667
Whisky neat please. Doesnt matter what
>>751602802
you can't put all of your eggs into one basket like this, anon. it's okay that you love them, it's okay that it isn't going to work out. but letting so much hinge on their reciprocated feelings is a good way to get hurt all the time.
not saying it's easy, but I'm speaking from experience.
>>751602807
what's retarded about what they say?
I just want to vent quickly, I don't need a response. I feel like I'm a piece of shit, just for existing. I try to be nice but I nobody notices, and then everybody yells at me for being a fuck up. I think that they're right, I'm fucking awful. Everything I do is a screw up.
uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhh.......
>>751602879
Don't give up yet, there are people like you out here in the world. People who want to find people like you, like themselves. Just keep looking, you'll find somebody, I promise.
-SouthPaw
Fag like you make 4chan great again
>>751603109
I live in a very liberal neighbourhood and my god everyone gets offended so easy typical sjw stuff really
>>751603248
Mein got
>>751602879
I mean, it's still possible to find someone, anon. I'm just saying that there are always going to be conditions to love and to a relationship. what makes them work is having the ability to compromise with one another.
>>751603154
I get that. I feel the same way, a lot of the time.
>>751603371
nah.
>>751603519
what kind of stuff do they get offended at? I'll admit I find some things like that annoying at times, too, but I think there's a healthy balance to strike between respecting other people's opinions and just hoping they grow a thicker skin.
Ok, if we're still on. I want to let go of looking for a significant other and find happiness by myself, but I always remember the time spent with a girl that liked me but didnt want to commit because of distance and I want to feel that way again(also keep getting "haha anon you're a virgin" shit) but I only keep making bad decisions because of that and it makes me feel worse about myself time after time. What do?
>>751603772
The thing is anon they don't want to have a conversation if you don't agree your out your not allowed to have a second opinion
>>751603109
I just don't know what to do. I know the kind of person they are. They're someone who doesn't even have to think about dying alone. They're sociable, they've got game. Everything that I'm not. It just feels like my one chance is slipping me by. I just don't know if it's right to say it's okay that it isn't going to work out.
>>751603960
that... was a bit of a run-on sentence. the best that you can do is try focusing on having meaningful relationships with friends, and finding things you like about yourself to make you happy.
>>751604165
and that's the "hoping they grow a thicker skin" part. it's not healthy to say all dissenting opinions are wrong. without your ideas challenged, they don't gain a chance to grow stronger. I guess the best you can do is just deal with it, and find like-minded people where you can, so at least you aren't all alone.
>>751604242
it is okay, though. you're still here right now, right?
>>751604242
Why would it not be?
>>751604585
Thanks OP, for whatever it's worth
Hey, are you okay? I'm not sure why, but I get the feeling that you're stressed...
suicide is painless
I might be making friends with someone but all I can think about is cutting contact with her and disappearing.
I guess I'm just not comfortable with friendship anymore.
>>751605272
It brings on many changes
>>751593298
I think escorts get Christmas off too.
>>751605272
>>751605347
man, I remember watching MASH with my friend's dad. good times.
>>751605280
why's that?
>>751604585
I can have a convo but its them that don't and that's an issue. Im not exactly lookin for advice cause there's not much I can do about it because im outnumbered and they don't care about other opinions. It is what is I guess thx anon gn
>>751605570
night. hope they start being a little more open to opposing views soon.
>>751605569
>why's that?
I haven't had a friend in years, on purpose. I broke off a lot of relationships and I can say with some confidence that at least a few of those people still wish they had me around. But I went crazy and needed to isolate myself from the world. And I just feel like a terrible friend because of the things I did and don't really believe I should be allowed to make more friends now.
Plus, as I spend more time with her, I feel more and more like I just can't live up to the obligations of friendship anymore after all my years of isolation. It seems to me that the best thing for everyone is if I go back to my isolation.
>>751605272
MASH theme song appearance is always good.
>>751606001
I mean, I feel that way too, at times. I've got a few people that call me out on my self-imposed isolation and are responsible for helping me out in the past, that drag me out when I try to close back up. what makes you think you aren't allowed to have friends? that's a silly rule to put on yourself.
>>751592667
Jill, why are you such a fegget?
Hmm. I'll have a chocolate shake, thank you.
Hmm hmm. Do you mind listening to me? I have a friend I've entered business into, only about 5k at worst, including value of the goods that were bought. Problem is that my friend's business practices are just BAD. He doesn't tell me about what sells, nor makes an effort for it. Money comes in, money goes out, so I don't have any evidence that he's straight up cheating me, but it's really bothersome. I have anger issues, and while I have been as patient as I can, I just want my share to be bought out. He's not against it, just delaying. There are other things I've invested in with others that haven't paid off. He's been my friend for over a decade. This sort of treatment is nothing new, but the problem is that it's frustrating to me because of the money issue.
I'm a pretty solitary guy. Even thought he is a terrible friend, he is the first real friend to really stick with me over the years, and forgive my angry out bursts. I do my best to control them, but I've only recently done some therapy on it, which has helped immensely. I joke that I can't lift as much as I used to because I don't have the anger behind it, darn therapist. I don't want to lose him, but I fear that this is just what it's going to come to. In fact, if he does pay out, I think I'll leave anyway,
I wrote my second novel, a fantasy story about kids saving their dad from Oberon, King of Fairies, and he barely reacted. Other things too. A girl I was talking too has also ignored me. Well, we ain't talking again. No point in a girl who doesn't believe in you. My new writers friends celebrated with me, but they live in other time zones. I've lived a life of coldness and loneliness. Only God has kept me from suicide. I'm afraid to take a step towards that again. Life's good to me, so I'm not in any danger of that right now, but it's the metaphor, in a way. Thanks for listening.
>>751606238
>what makes you think you aren't allowed to have friends?
I'm kind of a bad friend. Or at least, I have been in the past.
As a rule, I don't really allow people to have second chances. I don't think it would be okay to make myself an exception to that rule. The only reason I can stand by that rule is because it applies to me as well.
>>751606419
that sounds rough. I guess the best you could do would be asking him to keep you a bit better filled in, and it's up to him to do that.
>>751606690
that's a bit of a silly rule. everyone fucks up now and then, it's part of being human.
>>751606957
>everyone fucks up now and then, it's part of being human.
They can fuck up on their own time. I appreciate the rule because it sets a high standard.
The problem is that people would say it's impossibly high but I'm willing to live with that.
Jill ist süß
>>751607260
I guess that's up to you, in the end. hope it works out okay.
>>751607581
I think I've already decided to leave. It saddens me but it's what has to be done, probably.
I have nothing left in the tank. I'm at 0% . I haven't seen my dear mom in months. I have zero friends by no fault of my own, they a just scattered to their own adventures and futures. Life just seems so empty. One of my best friends and former girlfriend is gone never to be seen again. She was so much fun and ment so so much to me, now gone.I am a Christian but so what. Eternal life then what. I also so much stress in my life. It seem like the ride never ends. When ever I have a gilmer of hope someone comes along and snuffs it out. I can't take it much longer. I have no future no friends and no hope. Yet everything seems so surreal. Its been like this for most of the year. I can't do this anymore.
Any advice for me?
>>751592667
Bit of a long past couple of weeks but I'm getting by. Nice to know that others are out there and do care. Thank you.
you are terrible at helping people.
is it wrong to say no to someone who needs you because you dont want to kiss someones ass you hate, this fucker is always in my way and i refuse to have anything to do with him.
>>751607978
use social media to at least kind of keep in touch with the friends that are out doing other things, try to find people a little more local to spend time with. I know that it sucks being alone, and I'm sorry.
>>751608104
I hope it gets better soon.
>>751608235
a C+ effort is better than no effort at all.
>>751608290
that's a tough question to answer. I do my best to separate the need from the person, to prevent that kind of bias. what would you be saying no to?
>>751607978
Go and visit your mom.
>>751608454
Ill make it quick and short, so bassically a family member who has been dependent on me for about years now, ive been watching over her doing things for her etc etc, so bassically we want to move away and do what we want, but her jack ass son whos older then i am is such a fucking mentally ill jack ass, and a schizoprenic makes my life hell for about 4-8 months, off and on about this and that, so present day we have our apartment and she wants me to drive with him and her for 6 hours right after thanks giving, shes too retarded to see i hate him.
>>751608914
you're totally allowed to say no, sure. you could also just, yknow, listen to the radio in the car instead of talking. that's how I deal with car rides with people I dislike.
>>751609223
its not that easy, he brings up the most retarded shit to get kicks out of it and piss us both off. He accuses us of shit im not even there with them i left her alone with him because i dont have to do jack, but she still lives him for some god awful reason, and just erases her mind of the terrible abuse hes done. It brings me to a seething rage of how i get treated like this and forced to still do things with her and she doesnt care.
>>751593241
Just say you're off out with the girls, fuck said girls till you got it outa your system then come back and use your extensive sex knowledge to please your bf. In the meantime he'll appreciate the time apart to game and wank! Wish my mrs would fuck off and do some chicks, I'd watch!
I need some advice. I'm not good at sexy talk. I decided to give it a try and sent my dick to this girl i've been seeing since she always sends me nudes. How can I continue this?
>>751610092
hell if I know. I don't even know how to initiate that.
>>751610231
Fuck
I'm so incredibly tired.
I am uncapable of holding a job
Im uncapable of managing money
Im uncapable of social interactions
Incapable of getting out of bed yet incapable of going to sleep.
Incapable and tired. Sp very tired
>>751610363
>uncapable
no wonder
>>751610363
Those are signs of clinical depression. Pls see a doctor.
>>751592667
Hi, im kinda stuck right now between college and work and its kinda messing me up. not to mention im lonely as fuck. what should i do?
>>751610548
I can be somewhat happy in certain scenarios though. Im just sick of my existance overall. So sick of not being able to do the things i need/want to do, because i constantly choose the easy/lazy route/copout, even though i know ill hate myself even more.
>>751593211
We love you anon.
t. anon
>>751592667
Hey jill
>>751610792
how's it messing you up? falling behind, getting overloaded, not having time for other things? you need to choose between asking for a bit mroe time off from work, or cutting a class or two in the future. it's a delicate balance to make work.
>>751610885
depression doesn't just mean you're always sad, it can be very very frequent.
>>751610092
C'mon, at least one of you had to be good at this type of stuff. Help a /b/ro out
>>751610792
>>751611318
I dont have time to do anything any more :| i wake up and go straight to work within ten minutes of being awake and then i work for 6-8 hours a day at a grocery store, then i do wahtever i need to do for school weather thats going in, studding, or homework then fall back asleep. I wish i had at least someone to talk to or spend time with. my only friend is at basic training rn and i miss socializing with people i like. :\ i feel like Ive kinda lost myself ya know?
>>751611661
I feel you, yeah. how much longer will it be like this? you get some kind of holiday break from school sometime?
>>751611863
I sure wish i got a holiday break :| i have to write like four essays this week alone. then i work all week every day except thanksgiving for about 7ish hours. ive been trying to find a better job with more flexible hours because of school but even then i dont know how to fix my social problems, i had tons of people to talk to in high school but they all left. i think the semester ends in December sometime but im not really sure. after that im jumping into my next semester online which isolates me even worse. my only real free time consists of ether studding or drinking and coming on this board, or both. :\
>>751592667
Frend am bored talk me
>>751612316
I meant December, yeah.
my honest advice would be to find a constructive hobby that you spend at least a bit of time on. cut some time away from here, write or doodle or learn a bit of piano. something that allows you to see a bit of progress as time passes.
>>751612781
i use to play a bit with photoshop (pic related) i guess i could get back into that. thanks anon!
>>751612781
what is a constructive hobby that you would recommend to everyone
