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>>711124130
i'm pissed of at something she did when she was single. she was single at the time so i have no reason to be mad but she always told me she loved me (before we were going out) and then she goes and does that. man..
>>711124430
What did she do?
She's a virgin and she's scared of my dick since it's too big for her (it's 20cm)
Also she seems scared of letting me touch her.
Christ almighty i just want to eat you out, just let me do it.
>>711124548
sucked her mum's friend's cock
>>711124584
You do sound scary. I recommend caution because if you don't stop your shit, you will lose her.
Learn to inspire security, or you won't last long with women.
>>711124632
That's a hell of a complicated blowjob. 3 relationships ruined in one swift blowjob.
>>711124716
tell me about it
>>711124130
She was abusive and awful and I cant stop thinking about her
>>711124745
Can you forgive her?
Was this during a break you had or really just before you were together?
>>711124832
>Can you forgive her
this was before we were together. but to be fair. i told her i loved her too (before we were together) and then ended up fucking my friend.
>>711124825
You probably can. Occupy your mind with other things. Be here and ask other people about their problems, I swear it will help to focus on other people's problems.
>>711124659
I'm everything but scary believe me, i'm a skeleton manlet who for some weird reason stumbled into her one day.
It's just that for some weird fucking reason i cannot feel pleasure if i'm not giving pleasure to the other person.
So it got to the point that she gave me a handjob and i couldn't even cum because i was just sitting there doing nothing since she didn't want me to do anything.
I don't like being served like that, i don't like it at all.
>>711124130
does LDR really work? my gf had to go back to her home country to study for 4 years
>>711124941
So what is the problem? You did the same, you should see her actions something to help you not be guilty.
I am actually just out of a relationship.
She was one of the most boring people I had close to me.
Love it.
>>711125082
that's the thing, i don't understand what the problem is. i have no reason to be hurt but it just does. she really regrets though and was crying when she told me about it.
>>711125039
I understand. To be fair, I don't think most women out there could make me come by hand alone. It takes a lot of skills and even then, the psychological part isn't on them.
Just explain that. I call it the Xmas Syndrome: you can't enjoy opening your damn presents because people are staring, waiting for your reaction.
>>711124130
>be me, 17
>know this girl throughout the years online
>be friends, talk on/off
>such a perfect girl and i knew it
>i get out of my shitty relationship
>talk to her daily, watch movies with her
>we end up talking about relationships
>getting to know our preferences etc
>oh fuck everything was so mutual
>fast forward a year later of arguing,
>she was always worrying about my ex online girlfriends and couldn't get over the fact it was over between them, just always mentioned them, not that i was cheating
>anyways
>i fly to ohio from florida to start my life with her it was a few months after i turned 18 and she was just turning 16 at the time so i wasn't that scared
>we 4-5 months real life now
>we only had one bad physical fight
>after a lot more arguing constantly she breaks up with me instead of fighting through it
>i begged her all night even made myself sound suicidal without even being direct about it still nope, shes serious about leaving me
>now in ohio single and lonely needing more pussy (she took my virginity)
>>711125065
It can, yes. I met my fiancée on /b/ and we spent 2 years in an LDR before moving out together. It's been almost 7 years total. If the right people are in, yes.
>>711125214
What bothers you? The idea of another man's cock in her mouth? That's understandable. But think of it this way: it's in the past, it's not now. It's infinitely better than a dick in her mouth in the future or right now.
>>711125229
That sucks. What did you argue about?
>>711125215
I intend to do that
We meet up this friday and i'll try to explain her that i don't like it if she does that and then i'll see.
I wonder what will happen after that, it's not like i want to fuck her right away, i know she's a virgin and i'll take my time.
But christ i'd like to do something, anything.
>>711125299
how do i fight the urge when i need to fuck? i don't want to cheat on her but man fighting the urge not to fuck is hard for me
>>711124130
I love her so much, but she is one of the most boring sexual partners I've ever had. I'm actively trying to cheat on her but I keep stopping myself before I meet someone. Now I'm convinced that she's not the problem, I am. My own sex drive is driving me up the damn wall and I can't help myself. I want to fuck other women too; why can't I just be satisfied with her?
Girl from work recently broke up with her bf who also works there. We start spending time together, cuddling and watching Netflix, lots of kissing, seem happy to be around each other. She tells me she doesn't like me like that, that I'm just good company. Continues talking with her ex.
Can't get her off my mind.
Been with my gf for 4 years. Her first year in college there was a point where a guy in her dorm texted me claiming they'd been fucking. She claims he's crazy, and wants to date her or some bullshit so I let it slide. There's details that tell me she did cheat and it kills me when I think about it still because she probably walks around just thinking about how guliable I am. She's probably proud that she got away with it and got her little phase out of the way. The problem now is that I constantly find myself distrusting her. I feel cheated because she's the only girl I've fucked and I thought I was her first and only and then this dude comes in. I feel like he may have been better and she isn't pleased with me.
>>711125513
Don't put yourself in situations where you may meet someone.
>>711125383
>The idea of another man's cock in her mouth?
exactly
> it's in the past
we've already established that now we're together as a couple so it's a fresh start for us i suppose
>>711125539
Can't you just masturbate and keep your loved one?
Or maybe stop masturbating and being so horny that anything she does will seem like the best stuff ever
>>711125539
If she's boring, take charge. Choose what you do, etc. Many women are like this and actually enjoy that. Just enjoy being the dominant one, and go crazy.
As to wanting to fuck other women, you're biologically designed for it, so that's why. I recommend focusing on fapping daily to ease the urge.
>>711125612
kinda hard when my friend invites me to drink in her (female) friend's house who i know for fact, wants to fuck me
>I got separated from my wife.
>Met my current GF
>We build relationship and she moves in
>My kids like her
>Turns out she's on meds, gets angry easily (Just like my ex, the angry part, not the meds part)
>I don't want to do this anymore
>I'm in to deep now.
>But she has a tight pussy and fucks like an animal
>We do get along better than me and my ex did
>I still don't want to do this anymore.
>>711125541
>Can't get her off my mind.
>>711125553
>There's details that tell me she did cheat
I'm gonna need those details.
I was with this chick a year ago and we weren't actually serious or official but we were about to be, we always texted but she never wanted to meet me unless it was in the club. We ended it because she kissed a few guys, one right in front of me. We started texting again a few months later now and we kissed but idunno what to do pls help bros
>>711125880
This just killed me inside
>>711125640
Dumb fact but might help: after 3 years, most of your body is a new biological entity. Her mouth is literally a new mouth. The body renews itself and most cells are completely new, except for some brain ones, I think.
Hope that helps.
>>711125039
This.
I get off from knowing I get my gf off. I can't sit there and be pleasures without touching her and making her feel good. Why is this? I physically dominate her and should be able to reap my rewards but I can't. Why?
>>711125752
>kinda hard when my friend invites me to drink in her (female) friend's house who i know for fact, wants to fuck me
Indeed. Which would you regret most: fucking her and maybe losing your girlfriend, or living with the guilt, or not fucking her?
>tfw no gf
>>711125871
Don't let the anger reach you. I tend to think women get angry in order to get a reaction from you, like children do. If you become impassive to it, it won't work anymore. Don't be reached. Let it go.
>>711126024
you know what? that actually made me feel slightly better lol
>>711126116
i'd rather not fuck her and keep my current gf. she's far more beautiful than my friend's friend but she's a virgin who isn't ready for sex. but on the flip side, my firend's friend is an animal who faps on omegle, done porn nd she even told me she recorded her ex-bf sucking off another dude
>>711126007
Sorry bro. I do this to help healing.
How do you know when she is being serious with you or just leading you on for conversation :/ I hate myself for even talking to her but I love her more than anything
>>711125985
Tell her you want a real relationship with her, and ask her if she wants that too. You have to be clear. How she responds is on her.
>>711125229
>ex online girlfriends
>online girlfriends
>girlfriends
>>711124130
We've slowed down to having sex only about once every 10 days. She hasn't really given me a good excuse as to why either.
She said she loved me, middway through sex, I said it back. Afterwards she promised to to leave me if I don't leave her. But she sometimes becomes so cold when I don't see her in person. Tbh the biggest problem is I can't cum when fucking. When I lost my virginity it took more than an hour and I still didn't get anywhere, still felt A+ tho.
>>711126052
Because you feel like you're failing if she doesn't enjoy it too.
That's why.
The trick is this: the less you care about how she enjoys it, the more she will enjoy it, for the same reason you can't enjoy her focusing on you alone. It's not hot.
Women tend to enjoy being lusted after, getting pounded wildly, because it makes them feel like you just can't fucking resist their hotness and have to fuck like a damn animal. That's their turn on.
>>711126201
I'm glad it did. Useful trick, pass it around.
>>711126377
>i'd rather not fuck her and keep my current gf.
Then do that. She sounds like trouble and you will regret it, I guarantee.
>>711126417
>How do you know when she is being serious with you or just leading you on for conversation :/
In doubt, ask.
>>711126507
Could be she lost interest or was never that sexual to begin with. Did you get fat? Did she?
Something must have changed.
>>711126525
Elaborate on the coldness.
>>711126628
i'll just rub one out before going somewhere where there will be girls. and maybe do something to reduce my libido
>>711126862
Good idea. Another idea: don't shower, keep a smegma-covered cock you'd be too ashamed to whip out for Harambe.
I have a 4chan pass and I still get ads? What gives...
>>711126921
also you can suck the stink in from your hand when you are masturbating
>>711126797
I ask her how her day went and she just replies with one word answers, occasionally she'll be back 30 mins later or so and she'll be fine, usual fun lovely Pol. I just keep over thinking if I've done something wrong, I should probably just relax and remember what she said
>>711126921
well my pubes are like the amazon rainforest (since i'll not be getting action anytime soon) so i'll be too ashamed to whip that out anyway
>>711126998
>>711127064
I know the deal. Chances are you overanalyse and she's just doing other things at the same time. It feels like coldness but it may not be, especially if she is never that way in person. In person is how she really is; with a phone or computer, that's just how it comes across.
Relax indeed.
>>711127064
>just replies with one word answers
that's just what girls are like. they can't hold a conversation to save their life. always expect us to interrogate them
>>711126564
I guess that's pretty accurate because every time we have sex, I always have to make sure it was good for her. She always loves it and assures me it's fantastic but I always defeat myself because I always try to outdo myself.
I've always been this way sexually if I have to be the best and it always has to be my best performance. I don't finish until the girl can't take anymore. I'll never understand why I'm like this and it ruins sex for me.
>>711127215
Please don't muck up a cool thread if you can.
>>711124130
ever since i stopped being in relationships i stopped having problems
get smart
>>711124130
i feel like i will lose her for her "dream boy" (six pack, big muscles, tattoos) which, i have none of
>>711127205
>>711127188
Ok thanks my dudes, If i get time tonight I might return with a few photos, but your help means a lot all the same.
>>711124130
I find that I have a really hard time relating to stupid people who post memes that read, "SHARE YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS"
Not having one
>>711127250
>, I always have to make sure it was good for her. She always loves it and assures me it's fantastic but I always defeat myself because I always try to outdo myself.
Don't do that. It'll put pressure on her and she won't enjoy that.
I don't always give my woman an orgasm, in fact, she gives it to herself when she does, and often, she doesn't come at all, but she enjoys getting pounded. She isn't unhappy, and if she wants to come, she can.
>I've always been this way sexually if I have to be the best and it always has to be my best performance. I don't finish until the girl can't take anymore. I'll never understand why I'm like this and it ruins sex for me.
Short answer: you're insecure. Insecurity is not sexy. Don't see sex as a performance. See it as a dance between you and another person. There's no contest, you're both here to have intimate fun and feel things. It doesn't matter if you make her come hard or not at all. In fact, the less you care, the better you'll both enjoy sex.
Why are you insecure?
My girlfriend broke up with me after 2 years yesterday. Talked to her today and she wouldn't even look at me. Considering joining the US Army. Fucking blows. I could envision my whole life with her and she throws it all away for no reason at all. Even told her I'd marry her and have kids with her, got her away from her antidepressants and meth. Took care of her family and gave it my all, working a minimum wage job to buy her makeup and clothes, to keep her happy. Last weekend I met an old buddy of mine and she didn't like the fact I drank a couple beer with him without telling her. No clue what to do
>>711127338
Then start working out. Do Starting Strength.
Introduction to Barbell Training
https://youtu.be/7HRqB30lxmo?list=PLcQezwqoDs7ECX54FS0Lnkcn47AL5a5-L
Deadlift
https://youtu.be/4AObAU-EcYE?list=PLcQezwqoDs7ECX54FS0Lnkcn47AL5a5-L
Overhead Press
https://youtu.be/CnBmiBqp-AI?list=PLcQezwqoDs7ECX54FS0Lnkcn47AL5a5-L
Bench Press
https://youtu.be/4T9UQ4FBVXI?list=PLcQezwqoDs7ECX54FS0Lnkcn47AL5a5-L
Power Clean
https://youtu.be/wIB_X2N6020?list=PLcQezwqoDs7ECX54FS0Lnkcn47AL5a5-L
>>711127349
I do but if you're a pedo just give up on the "little girl". She doesn't love you.
>>711127538
i have been working out. got ok-ish muscle but not what i would consider big
I am 29 and my gf is 23. I am not sexually attracted to her anymore. I really love her, but I am just not into her physically. We live together so it would be hard for me to just leave. Is it wrong to just not want to have sex with my gf?
>>711127393
Nothing stupid about it. I'm interested in hearing about people's relationship problems. I find that more satisfying than the shit threads we have on /b/ lately.
I have a harder time with stupid people who take time to post in a thread they don't like. Do us both a favour and do something you actually like.
>>711127450
My impression: she used a bullshit reason to act on something she's been wanting to do for a while. You should ask her for the real reason, it's the least she can do.
>>711124130
I can't maintain one
>>711127626
It's not wrong if it's OK with her. You can't force sexual attraction. Maybe she can work out and improve.
What is it that makes you unattracted to her? Is it her personality or her body?
>>711124130
>fwb for more than 1 year has a boyfriend since last week
>both knew from the beginning that we'd stop as soon as one of us finds a partner
>now I need to find a new fwb, or actually a gf (first)
perhaps the next one wont be a tranny
>>711125229
If you having girl problems I feel bad for you son
I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one
HIT ME!
UGHH
>>711127773
It's not like that, our relationship has been this giant swing of moods. She'd break up with me over some stupid shit and I'd crawl right up to her door and beg for forgiveness because I love her so much, plus I don't want to be alone. I know it's kind of gay saying that but I used to get picked on alot because I'm an American living in Germany and in school they would be really mean and shit. After my parents separated I moved to my dads and met her. Used to do alot of stupid shit together, I went to a different school and we started missing eachother. Now we are both 18 and go to the same class again. She doesn't want to talk a single word with me about anything..
>parents are divorced since i were like 3 years old.
>never have had a christmas without stress and bitching of my parents why i wont celebreate it with my dad/ my mom
>gf of 5 years refuses to celebrate christmas with me alone and just wants to spend the night with her own parents and me
>her parents are pretty dumb which makes it very hard to just spend an evening with them
>i have to chose between 3 partys now and just realised i will never have a nice and relaxing christmas till our parents are dead and it bothers me more then it should do
>therideneverends.jpeg
>>711127874
Muh niggah!
>>711127450
>antidepressants and meth
>she didn't like the fact I drank a couple beer with him without telling her
let it be
you'll be better off without her
>>711127851
She really just not that good at it. I have been with alot of women and had multiple relationships, where she has only had one bf before we met. They dated for 7 years so it was the whole high school romance thing for them. She is really inexperienced and not very adventurous sexually. I have tried talking to her about it and we have tried different things in bed, but it always seems like it's a task for her to do anything but lay there like a starfish.
The other night I was fapping and she walked in and caught me. She got right pissed off and hasn't really said anything since then. I'm pretty content not having sex with her, but I don't think it's fair for her to get pissed at me for fapping. It's not like I was cheating
>>711124130
My girlfriend beats me when she doesnt find shit she likes. Started when she found pictures of exs and shit twice on my phone. I was okay with i fucked up and deserved. After she would get mad that i was talking to certain girls. Some i messed around with but was cool with and others i didnt do anything with and she beat me again. Last time which was about 2 weeks ago she found porn on my phone. I get im a fucktard for doing it and getting caught but fuck did she make me intolerable of her now. I want to leave her but we have a kid together and im scared of losing. I know i can do better off but fuck im scared since we've been together for a while now.
>>711128254
Oh yeah ive also lost most of my friends because she never lets me go out or do anything in my free time because she thinks im going to cheat. Ive lost 2 this last year who meant a lot to me and after that ive been bitter as well.
>>711128110
Try leaving her alone. Maybe she'll come back to you. If she's so used to you coming back to her, leaving you isn't a worry, even if she wants you still.
>>711126187
Thanks bro
>>711128136
Go with her dumb parents and indulge them. Dumb people can be good people if you try. Just don't expect them to be who they aren't and you'll have a nice Christmas.
>>711127446
I'm just an insecure person. I always need to feel like I'm doing something right by someone or making someone laugh or feel good. I'm a people pleaser. If I'm not making someone feel good about themselves or getting a laugh from friends, I feel depressed or defeated for some reason.
And if I don't make my lady cum then she won't do it because she's as vanilla as a folder. I'm her first everything and I guess it's cuz she had a hard time trusting guys. But she completely trusts me and is enamored with me. She's definiately the one but she's just so boring lol
>>711128229
Yeah, I get frequent sex but still fap, it's a different kind of fun. Sounds like she doesn't fap, however, so probably she has a low sex drive.
>>711128425
Thank you sir. Will give it time. How long do you think is appropriate?
>>711128254
Porn on your phone is fine. Invading your privacy is not. She needs to be told her limits. Add a password to your phone, you're being made a bitch. Stand for yourself, brother.
>>711128335
She has serious issues. Talk it out, she probably got cheated on before.
>>711128458
Welcome.
>>711128652
I think you might be right. She got mad because she was in the next room while I was doing it, and I could have gone and had sex with her.
>>711128551
You find self worth in what others think of you. It's dangerous for yourself, but I understand this pattern very well.
Try this: start with her, make her come by hand or mouth, then have YOUR fun. 99% chances she'll enjoy your turn a lot too, especially if you go nuts.
>>711128706
>Thank you sir. Will give it time. How long do you think is appropriate?
I'm tempted to say until she gives you a sign.
>>711128748
Ive put my foot down and we might end up separating.
>>711128788
I think it was her past relationship. Her ex use to cheat on her and treat her like shit until I came in the picture
>>711129023
Women who don't understand fapping will assume that you fap INSTEAD of sexing her. You have to explain that this isn't how it works.
>>711129119
>I think it was her past relationship. Her ex use to cheat on her and treat her like shit until I came in the picture
As I thought. Make sure to explain you aren't him, you're you, and she has to separate the two.
Women mix up everything when it comes to feelings.
Make sure to bump.
>>711129030
It's hard for me to find the balance between "go nuts" and being considerate. Because I could cum within the first few seconds if I chose to. Or I could last a couple hours. I wish I knew when an appropriate time to cum would be but I just go off of when she's too sore.
>>711124130
It's fucking perfect and I am actually thinking about marrying her it it continues like this for an another whole year.
Which, belive it or not, is a problem.
I hate when every girl I'm "talking" to curves me for a nigger. It really fucking sucks tbh
>>711129806
Friend, here's what my woman loves: when I fuck her however I want, at the speed I want, and she especially loves when I seem to lose control and just want to fuck her hard until I come. The feeling that she cannot be resisted is a huge turn on to her. Thus, I can come within 2 minutes or less of intense pounding and she gets a load in and a massive grin on her face.
Don't just come when she's too sore, that's sad. You need some passion in this bitch!
>>711129907
>Which, belive it or not, is a problem.
Why?
>>711129192
She just feels like what ive done is cheating. Ive never physically cheated on her and wouldn't have the balls to. Its like she's stuck on this image of me and won't ever change it
>>711130204
She needs to realise things can't improve unless she gets a fresh point of view.
>>711130072
Since I was 12 I was always on the road. Travelling place to place and seeing things. I wasn't one to be tied down. I love it.
But I'll be damned if she isn't the perfect woman for me.
I don't think I'm good enough
>>711130371
Don't waste it, friend. Not everyone gets to have that chance even once. Count your blessings and don't waste any.
>>711130377
Then get better until you feel adequate to yourself.
Chances are you just need to experience your own worth.
>>711130377
You aren't
>>711130623
>Reddit comes to 4chan and acts all meanie and tough
Always gives me a chuckle.
>>711124130
I don't have a relationship. I feel like I don't deserve to be loved or have any happiness. My mother really fucked up my head when I a kid. I also have a small penis and I've always been ashamed to let anyone see it
>>711130497
How do I do that? Most days I feel like I just plug myself in, and unplug at the end. No substance, just white noise and frustration.
My girl, just fuck with one of my best friend, and i fucking hate her, i broke with her, but later she starts to look at me, and apologize.....i forgive her but, for be honest i can't be with her again my hearth its broken /b/
>>711130846
I'm sure you deserve a relationship. Remember you aren't alone in your problems, lots of other people have similar problems and feel the same; you just all hide it and nobody knows.
Penis size isn't all that. I have a huge cock and still women won't come because of it. You flick the bean in most cases, so don't worry.
>>711130863
You need to become the person you know you could be. Start working out. Working on your body is very gratifying, direct results.
>>711130946
Tough situation.
Let time heal, decide later.
>>711130377
I know I'm not good enough. I'm think I was an accident who was never meant to be born, I wasn't in the original blue prints of the world
I can't get off when we're together. Otherwise, we're good.
>>711131108
You need to get some self-esteem. Some of the best things in life come from accidents.
>>711124130
>be me
>with a girl for 1 year now
>girl loved me for like 9 years
>girl is 21
>no appartment
>no degree
>very old parents
>shy as fuck
>clumsy
>dont really know how to interact /w ppl
>but incredibly good in bed
>tried hard to make her confortable
>didnt succeed
>tried to let her meet new friends
>5/10 success
>lives 6hours away from me
>failed to get a lot of jobs
>idk why but i feel like dumping her
>ever felt like this? or been in this position?
She forgot about me, i didn't
>>711131454
Feel like you're carrying everything in the relationship?
Give her some time. I'm curious, describe her more.
>>711131486
Put yourself out there, distract yourself by being in the company of others and replace those thoughts and wishes with new ones. Remove memorabilia and start over.
>>711130052
I mean it's intense throughout the whole thing. I can slam her the whole time and I mean there's no relenting or anything like that. She has to stop me because it gets to the point of where it feels too good and she calls it like a too intense of a tickle.
So it's not that it's not passionate. I mean I rub my hands up and down her body, I lightly duck on her tiddies, I flick the mean like a paper football (not literally but I'm good at it), and when I feel like I'm going to cum too early, I pull out and wrap her legs around my head and eat her pussy like a horse and she's my feedbag. It's just that I feel like I have to maximize pleasure for maximum time.
>>711131107
Yes /b/ro but i make my desicion, i can't be with her again, i really love her....but i think the best choise is let her go
>>711131605
>21
>is into a lot of art stuff
>drawing painting singing
>doesnt feel like making it a job
>last child of her brotherhood
>3 daughters 2 brothers
>they are around 40
>parents are around 80
>girl is almost only going out with her sister's childs
>not going out much when im not with her
>she's petite
>long black hair that sometimes mask half her face
>can stay silent for a whole restaurant time when with some friends if i dont interact with her
>always answer questions others ask in the shortest way possible
>absolutely not the case when with me alone
and yes feels like it.
>>711132195
She sounds depressed, possibly very anxious.
Fell in love with a girl i'm fooling around. Biggest problem is she has a boyfriend. Makes me feel like an asshole on so many levels because the dude is a pretty cool guy, but she won't stop coming after my dick and I don't have the will power to say no. The worst part is that she acts like she's in love with me, she's even said that she is before, but she just won't leave the guy.
>>711132457
Why won't she leave him?
>>711124130
Dating three girls, one is a 2 hour drive away. I have two businesses in town and one with the girl 2 hours away. I'm stretched thin. But I still want to date new people.
>>711132457
Biggest thing I've taken away in life; If she fucks around with her guy now, she'll fuck around with you. Don't fall for the pussy magic. Shits evil, man.
>>711132515
I asked once and she refused to give me a straight answer. She knows she's not happy with him clearly if she feels the desire to cheat, but just won't move on.
>>711132812
>I asked once and she refused to give me a straight answer.
Weird.
>>711132706
This.
>>711132706
I've thought about that before. The current bf puts alot of trust into her, and that's something I think I'd really struggle with. Hell I do it now when she's around other guys who arent her bf anyway
>>711132347
May be anxious yeah, cant seem to do anything great to cheer her up
>>711133001
If she suffers from anxiety, she doesn't need getting cheered up, she needs assurance.
>>711133273
And I bet that can't come from me right ?
>>711133571
It can. I don't know how you handle her, so I can't tell. But I can tell you speak French, and might be French, so you're off to a bad start.
>>711133649
damn it
>>711133899
Do things with her where she can evolve and improve. People can change. She can learn to go beyond her introversion. Show her articles about introversion, just so she knows she isn't some weirdo.
You have to help her with her confidence, but it can be done.
It feels like I can't do anything without being judged by her and her friends, and that there's always some issue with one of us that I have to work out before we can just move on and talk about something else. It can even be really minor shit, but I have this tendency to fixate on things, which ends up just fucking everything even further into oblivion.
>be me
>19
>22 year old asian qt literal 10/10 is hopelessly in love and dependent on me
>been together since april
>everything perfect in terms of non-sexual things
>the problem is I'm a submissive sissy girly idiot
>only get off in girl clothes fucking myself and rubbing myself through panties
>she is totally submissive and just wants to be my fucktoy and doll 24/7
>would do literally anything I told her, calls me daddy, she's my little girl etc etc
>once tried to tell her what I was into but she is definitely NOT into treating me like a girl
I just wish I was into normal shit... fuck. If I was into what normal guys are I would be in such a good position, bleh.
>>711134307
This shouldn't be discussed with her friends.
>>711134397
I am in love with her absolutely, romantically and emotionally, just sexuality is a mess... It's really been eating away at me these past few months
>>711134397
A lot of men are subs too, I hear.
>>711134515
It'd be worse the other way around, though.
Been dating an Asian girl for 1 1/2 years, I'm 27 shes 35. I've dated a lot of girls and I've never been with someone so well matched and who loves me so much and makes me want to be a better person. The problem is shes stuck in a shitty barista job, has no money, and is getting depressed about not having a Canadian education which stops her from getting a real job (she has a degree in korea). I'm at school and i'm bettering my situation and that makes her self-hatred compound...
>>711130052
Am I just too much of a sexual elitist? How do I become more selfish?
>>711134447
I don't do that, and she doesn't try to start anything in front of them, either. Thankfully.
Another thing is that we're both pretty jealous, which inevitably adds to the stuff that I get really focused on.
>>711134615
Encourage her to get a degree by correspondence. I'm sure there are things she can do.
>>711134651
You learn to let go and be an animal.
>>711124130
she is whore and crazy as fuck when she gets angry
Her and I split up for a 2 week period in late Sept. In those 2 weeks she was doing nothing but getting fucked up at her friend's house. Her friend was fucking her best friend at the time. She was hanging with a shit load of faggot ass dudes and probably fucked one of them, but won't admit it. I was sitting at home every night with our daughter for those weeks.
Her and I are back together now, but I feel like she's keeping something from me. She had the faggy dude who her best friend was fucking (her best friend also drugged and raped him) take pictures at our daughter's first birthday party. We went to pick the pictures up this past weekend and i thought were just dropping a flash drive off, but she ran in there with him, so i decided to follow.
We were reviewing the pictures when i saw 2 pictures they had taken together. In one she was resting her head on his shoulder with her eyes closed and smiling. It killed me inside. She never wants to take pictures like that with me. She looked so happy. He looks at her the same way i do and it makes me want to fucking kill him.
I break my fucking back for her and our daughter and i can't even be given the decency of feeling secure. I hate myself. Ive tried ending it a few times, once by hanging myself in the back of my van when the seats were removed. As i fell unconscious, the seatbelt came unraveled. I had it wrapped 4 times around my neck and just laid forward. She doesn't know it was because of her. I feel like i might slip up and try again.
>bitch keep filing restraining orders and don't realize I don't give a fuck violation after violation. Somebody should tell her paper ain't bulletproof
>>711135923
Damn dude, hardcore. Don't give up, OK? Just don't give up. There are better people out there. You can find someone else.
I don't know how to tell you this any better: don't give up. There are things to live for.
>>711128425
Had a gf kinda did the same thing. Stopped when I did this. Now we hardly ever fight and when we do its short.
>>711136493
You stopped contacting her and she then came back to you?
>>711136645
This, I want a response.
>>711136294
I'm stuck. I have a child with her. She lost her job and now I'm taking care of money along with her parents. Her dad doesn't even live with her, her mom, and i, but he still helps pay for the house. I stay because if i left, I'd be homeless, which means my daughter would be too.
I love her so much. I've tried so hard to be everything i can be for her. I have a fucking career now and when her and i first met, i was working at a yogurt shop. I always bent over backwards for her. I always got her the best gifts, i fuck her until i feel her pussy squeeze me from cumming, i feed her and take her everywhere. I did everything for her and all she did was find things i did wrong. She continuously beat me into an emotional pulp and i continued to take it. She broke me in so many ways, ways that i never knew i was breakable.
Her and i met on a mutual friends facebook status as gay as that is. We started talking and one day she called me scared and had nowhere to go. Her dad tried to kill her and i put her up in a hotel for the night so she could figure out a plan of action for when he got out of jail.
I'm a diesel mechanic, and sometimes i have to run out and get parts. Some of our suppliers are 2 min from my house, so i stop by occasionally on a run. A lot of the time, i hope I'll find someone else there so i can finally know for sure but also to remind her that i can show up at any time.
I fucking love her and i hate myself for it.
I can't trust her but I want to
>>711136645
Pretty much. When she gets pissy I let her rant a bit, usually by text. Then I tell her to piss off til she cops on to herself and stops being childish. At first she would drag it out but once she realised I really was sick of her break up/get back together shit and had one foot out the door she calmed the fuck down. Had a few since but the time between lessens to nothing now. Its a game to her. Thing is, you get to make the rules and teach them to her.
>>711137489
Damn, that's a load.
I think you can improve the situation a lot by standing for yourself more, which I think she'd also like, if not right away, later.
Perhaps try to slowly get used to the idea that you're breaking up with her, even if you don't. I'm not sure what to advise you. I can only give you my anon love.
>>711137585
Why can't you?
>>711137625
Interesting.
I had my first and probably only ever "love at first sight" moment with my (ex?) girlfriend as of a year and a half ago, when 3 months ago, she suddenly stopped wanting to have sex, and stopped leaving her house entirely other than for work, and occasionally going out with her mom. She stopped being loving and affectionate, but won't break up with me. I've begged and pleaded for her to tell me if she doesn't want to be with me anymore so I can end it, but she just keeps me hanging on to the situation by telling me she just needs time, she just has depression, or this excuse or this excuse, yadda yadda.
We just got out of an argument over text because she broke like five promises of how she was going to fix things, after I pleaded for her to do them. She was crying super hard during the conversation, and we both figured out how to fix things. I did my part, as usual, but as she does, the day after we commit to fixing things, she just doesn't do what she said and seemingly forgets.
A couple months ago, I broke up with her, and expressed clear intent that we would still be together, but she would have to make the effort to come see me, and show she cares since she's always so cold. After a few arguments few weeks ago, I briefly mentioned to a friend who asked about her on Facebook that she and I weren't together. Technically true, given the fact that I broke up with her, then we got in a REALLY bad argument about her breaking more promises. Today after another argument, she said "We're done, you've already been telling your friends we aren't together and this is too much."
Now I'm flipping the fuck out. I love this girl, and I know I'll never have another love at first sight moment, knowing that a person is the one. There's something special about her, and she's perfect outside of this crazy mental breakdown she's had that she refuses to get therapy for. I still want to be with her, and she swears up and down that she wants to be with me. I'm at a loss. What do?
>>711137781
I did stand for myself when i broke up with her in late september. I was physically weak. I couldnt mutter the phrase because it hurt so bad to say.
I'm from a broken home and i don't want my daughter to grow up that way. She needs her parents, both of them. I'm fucking sobbing at work, I'm so broken.
>>711138300
Talk to her. Get her back.
>>711138345
Damn bro. I feel for you.
>>711138678
How? Everything I say and do has no effect on her after it's said... I've even gotten therapy to fix the couple problems she says I have. I give her everything. I tell her how beautiful she is every day, I love her unconditionally... I just feels like she's in a mental coma, and I don't know what else to do... I know I'm a pussy, but I cry every single day about her. : (
>>711124130
I don't and have never had one...it's a pretty fucking big problem
>>711138898
I'm very interested in your case.
Was she abused as a child?
>>711138735
I've never felt so empty.
I'm so close to ending it. I can't do that to my mom either. I think about it every day. It consumes me. It's killing me to live at this point.
I dont have a license, a job and I don't go to school. Maybe once I remedy that I can find a nice girl that I can keep around until she gets bored.
It really sucks when girls flirt with you only to get boyfriends right afterwards, or flirt with you when they have boyfriends. Just makes me feel like a piece of shit, which is weird because I always fantasize about stealing someone's girl, but I can't bring myself to do it.
>>711139015
Learn to breathe with your diaphragm (honestly, do) and focus your thoughts on other things. Get busy. Work out, run, etc.
>>711124130
Ain't got one. There's the fucking problem.
>>711139000
Mentally, yes. The phone conversation I mentioned that we had, I talked to her about how her childhood has turned our relationship into torture, and how it all relates. I studied a lot about this, and it fits perfectly for her case.
She's 22 and still lives with her mentally abusive mother.
>>711139365
Tell me more.
Did you somehow make her feel things she once felt before in a different context from different people?
>>711139225
I play music when i can. My daughter has strong interest in percussion and shes only 1. She gets mad if i drum without her.
Every time i see her it kills me, though. She looks so much like her mom.
I love her, but it's killing me. Ive given so much of me to her. I feel like she's going to leave me for someone better. Its not fair, shes mine and she bled me dry.
Pic related, us like 2 years ago. I see those photos now and it kills me because i wish she was still happy even if it means im not. Thats how it was for a while. I just want her to be happy because of me.
>>711139681
Yes, love. She has a horrific home life in which her parents never really gave her attention or love once she hit a certain age, since they were so busy fighting and abusing each other. She was sleeping over at my house one night when she legitimately had to leave at 3:00 A.M. because her mom texted her, saying "You need to come home, your dad pushed your sister, and I threw plates at him and hurt him" or something.
RecentlyI asked her about her depression, and how previous boyfriends dealt with it, since I was at a loss as to what to do to help her, she said "They didn't deal with it. As soon as I got like this, they left. You're the only one who has ever stuck around."
So, this is a slightly recurring thing, she said once every few years that lasts anywhere from a few weeks, to months, to a year.
>Go to school see nice girl
>She is in my friend circl
>met a few times at partys and she sat on my lap
>She talks openly about past sexual relationships
>recently been taking time to answer my texts
>her friedn told me shes into someone else
> /b/ help me out is her friend lying, what should i do?
>>711139900
It's time to stop bleeding for her. Love yourself now. You will be much happier with someone else, the way things are now. Don't worry, all this "she's the one" stuff is an illusion, there are plenty of women you may love out there, and they will love you right back.
>>711140000
>that lasts anywhere from a few weeks, to months, to a year.
Quads of the gods. Stick around, I'm very, very interested in all this.
How does her coldness express itself? Does she snap more easily at you? Is less patient? Seems angry at you permanently? Rejects touch?
>>711140267
I cant just leave her again. I need her to slip up and give me a reason to.
>>711139900
Hey man, I know it's not much, talking to a random stranger, but I'm going through a ton of shit too. Sometimes talking to someone is enough to set you on the right path. Skype is [email protected] if you wanna talk about it.
Was fapping.. got jizz on my t shirt.
>be me, 7 months ago
>lonely, playing Destiny
>join clan to raid because can't do it solo
>join into their group chat
>super cool dudes there
>welcomes me, we banter, having good time
>finally join raid with them
>Holy shit
>bamboozled
>super cool guy is actual super cool grill
>try to act cool
>fail
>try to make joke
>fail
>overall just a failure
>but grill is nice
>she laughs at shit joke
>she makes me feel comfortable
Not something I feel too often
Imma go ahead and interject here to try to emphasize this. this girl was like 11/10. Like genuinely perfect. Funny, beautiful, actually enjoyed my company, just really rare traits that had a very genuine feel to them.
>there's this one guy that I don't like though
>call him cod fag
>plays rap music and cod through mic
>constantly yells faggot and other shit
>mfw rap music ain't even good
>overall just a bit of a shit
>but I'm passive so I don't say anything
Cont inbound
>>711125039
Fucking yes
>>711140491
This guy is why I still believe in people, and this place.
Not the guy you were talking to, but I'm OP, and your action here made me teary-eyed. I'm proud of you.
>>711140000
Does it get better if you distance yourself too? Or does it make it worse?
>>711140395
The problem is our communication. She has some mental hangup about talking on the phone, and seeing her in person is almost impossible. She only lives 30 minutes away, but she's embarrassed of her living situation with her parents since they recently had to move into a shithole, so she won't let me come over, every time we make plans, she cancels due to crippling depression that won't allow her to leave the house, and so all we have left is to text. Which, as you know, is HORRIBLE for communication.
This is related due to the fact that it dehumanizes both of us, so she does snap easily, isn't patient, and always seems on the verge of being angry. One little thing sets her off. She legitimately lives her life on the mental edge of sanity because of her home life. In person, she does not do these things. She's not nearly as touchy as she used to be, but when we go to the movies or something, she kisses me, and lays on me and acts sweet.
It's almost like when we see each other, which is roughly once every 3 weeks or so at this rate, she comes out of her shell and is capable of being happy.
>>711140732
>7 months later
>aka 2 weeks ago
>grill and me are friends
>Imma go in for the kill
>msg her, tell her I want to talk
>get in voice chat
>basically spill the beans about how she's great and I have a crush and all that shit
>find out she lives halfway across the country
>neither of us in economic conditions to move
>decide to stay friends for now
>still intended on moving over after college doe
>1 week later
>grill is super excited bout something
>hear through other channels the news
>Holy shit
>cod fag is gonna move to grill
>like same city
>and he asked her out
>and she said yes
>basically go into depressed downward spiral
>therapist asks what's wrong
>can't explain this shit
>stop eating
>barely sleep
>overall just a really shitty situation
>3 days later
>aka now
>have recovered somewhat
>come to grips with the fact she's happier elsewhere
>if she's happy I'm happy
I just really don't know what to make of this. I really want to ask her about it, but I'm afraid I'll only fuck up my situation more. worst part is I'm not mad at them. I can't be mad at grill, and cod fag, although a bit of a shitter, ain't that bad of a guy. mainly just mad at myself for fucking up something that could've been beautiful.
>>711140738
Thanks man, good lookin' out. I just hope I can help other people feel better about their bad situation, or avoid feeling how I do right now. I recently talked to a woman over skype whose marriage was going off the rails, and hopefully it helped her. I just wanna help people : (
>>711140828
Not all is lost then. Do your best and keep doing it.
Some guy has told her he saw me cheating. It wasn't me. The thing is he isn't totally untrue, he is so adamant he saw it, meaning he saw someone do it and thinks it was me. She doesn't know what to believe
>>711140931
Ask her why she told you about this knowing you had feelings for her.
>>711124130
>Be fagfag
>Live in small Christian town
>Westboro Baptist type people
>Not open to anyone
>Find lad who according to my gaydar is also a fag.
>He asks me out
>I go along with it
>We had a good date
>The problem is I was nervous as hell the entire time thinking "What if someone finds me with this faggot? What will i do?"
>End up leaving early
>Felt like shit for bailing on him.
>>711140765
She tries to talk to me a bit more for a few days, then when she realizes that I'm not wanting to talk to her, I think she gets self-conscious and just leaves it alone. She has really low self esteem because of her family. It kills me to see.
>>711141032
I do that too, but not on skype because I'm too shy, but it'd help more, I'm sure.
Keep doing it, you're a good person. You're gold.
>>711141149
She didn't tell me. My other friend mentioned it.
Does anybody else's girlfriend flat out deny they're wrong even if you put evidence in their face?
>>711141150
Tell him.
>>711141238
Are you sure it's true, then?
>meet girl in game 4 years ago
>she's perfect in every way
>plan to meet up but can never afford because poorfag
>things are great between us
>find out she was asking other guys for nudes
>stay with her and end up forgiving her like a beta cuck because I'd known her for so long and she meant everything to me
>things keep going downhill
>I don't trust her and constantly need to be a faggot asking where she is/what she's doing
>first love bullshit with insecurity.jpeg
>things keep getting worse
>we break up
>find out a while later she started dating some other dude online a day after we broke up
>I beg her back like a worthless faggot cuck
>she tells me to fuck off
>I fuck off
>I forget her
>I move on
>she comes back to me
>begs me back
>reject her and feel amazing about it
>few days pass
>I start remembering our good times
>beg her back again
>get told to fuck off again
>a week or two later she shows me pictures of her with the other guy
>they fucking met after 3 months
>I get pissed and blackmail her as revenge
>she deletes all contact, changes number and everything
>haven't heard from her since
I know I'm being a cuck. I just can't get this bitch out of my mind. I'm convinced she's a psychopath. There's a few more, slightly irrelevant details to the story if anyone wants them.
>>711141254
Most women disregard logid if logic doesn't side with them.
But don't get it wrong: they know.
Just let it sink in and argue no more, for they know. Knowing that YOU know that they know will hit the point home very hard for them.
>>711141396
I think the blackmail is where you done goofed.
If she showed you pics of her and her new guy, she still wanted you, most likely.
Chances are you're better off without her, though.
I'm bored of her and want to end it but i dont want hurt her she is a nice girl
>>711141038
But every other conversation is on the brink of us really ending it. All my friends tell me to be done with it, that given what she's done for so ridiculously long, (she's always been bad with cancelling plans due to 100 random excuses that may or may not be true) that I should leave and find someone else who will actually love me.
>>711141291
Tell him what? That i felt like shit the whole time? That I'm a paranoid person in general? That I'm sorry for bailing on him? I've done the latter already.
>>711141607
OK, just making sure he understands what happened.
>>711141135
Hold her hands, look her in the eyes, and promise her it was not you and that you would never do that. Inform her that she should have more reason to believe you (Assuming you've never betrayed her), and that you will do anything to prove it to her if possible.
>>711141578
Me too...me too. It sucks
>>711141223
Thanks, friend, I really appreciate it. Having a nightmare of a time the last few weeks, and I'm just glad someone sees I'm not a total piece of shit... Thanks buddy.
Me and him aren't together, but it seems like he's implying heavily that he wants to, but he keeps having one night stands with other people. He kissed me on the cheek recently, but I don't think it meant anything. I'm fairly certain I have strong feelings for him, but I'd rather not tell him if he keeps getting with other people.
>>711141254
Yes. Literally every single time. Screenshots of proof of what they say, whatever. Never matters.
>>711141765
Of course you aren't a piece of shit, total or otherwise. You're a pretty cool guy.
I'm also sure I won't be the only one to see your worth, be confident. You have every right to be confident.
>>711141569
I know I'm better off without her. She's a psycho, but that just makes me more attracted to her, and I think it's because she's exactly like my mother.
She even lies to her new bf, as I recently discovered before she deleted all contact info. I hacked her and saw how she lied to him and manipulated him. Pretended to "test" him by talking to other guys and getting caught. That's the same bullshit she fed me. She even told me that she fucked this new guy and he took her virginity. After I hacked her, I found out that wasn't the case at all. I saw him asking for nudes even after they'd met and she said "in the right time". I don't even know why I'm attracted to her, but like I said it must be something to do with my mother being the same way.
>>711141328
Yep. They're both very open about it.
>>711125039
I'm in the same boat, brother. I couldn't have put it better myself
>>711141968
You want revenge on your mother by fucking someone who can stand for her, that way it's not even incest and you get to jizz victory into your mom.
I suggest dealing with mom issues on their own and not mixing with your love life.
This lady is insane, stay away.
>>711141958
I usually am really confident, probably like a 6.5-7/10 looking guy, but man... Women have a way of ruining you...
>>711124130
I have a high sex drive, and gf doesn't because of medication and scarring in pussy. Not going into detail about scarring.
Every time we try, she claims that it hurts too much, or she starts having a panic attack
>>711142271
>scarring in pussy.
'Splain.
>>711142116
Good advice. You're totally right about that as well. I used to have serious affection problems for my mom when 16. I stole her panties and jerked into them, and a few times I actually listened to her getting fucked and jerked off to her moans. Any idea how to deal with that shit? I think it all started when I was about 5 when she dressed me up like a little girl using her bra and panties.
>>711124130
she's put on weight and lost all libido
but, she's making one hell of a career for herself, pays for us to go on lots of holidays and is smitten by me
but while she's accumlating stuff, i just wanna keep possessions to a minimum, live pretty nomadically ( i used to move wherever i wanted a lot) and have a fucking sex life again.
oh and she cheated on me last year.
the fuck am i doing
>>711141793
Bumping because I need help
>>711142339
We had a kid, something didn't heal right. That's all the detail you get
>Me and this girl get really close
>Talk and snap all the time
>Constantly around each other
>Flirt all the time
>Very touchy
>About to ask her out
>Friend tells me she fucked this other guy and started dating him
>Dreams crushed
what problems?
mangina world problems?
tranny world problems?
lgb world problems?
ain't no time for problems.
>>711142423
I'd suggest understanding her. If she's a psychopath, you need to read about it; once you get it, it'll be easier to handle.
>>711142475
>oh and she cheated on me last year.
I want story.
>>711142339
Aside from the sex bit, we're fucking perfect for each other.
No pun intended
>>711142524
>We had a kid, something didn't heal right. That's all the detail you get
I'll guess the rest: the hole was too small, they had to cut the taint, between vadge and anus. Now you can never pound her hard ever again.
I fucked up
>>711142749
away for work in different country, one night stand
>>711142826
Haha, I can barely finger her without her wincing in pain. It's genuine, I can see tears forming in her eyes
>>711142475
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Right now you are a cheap whore staying with someone for material gain. Dump the dead weight and get some pussy. Or, you know, talk to her about this stuff.
>>711142697
See I already completely understand it because I've been exposed to it my whole life. But that's what arouses me more. It's a vicious circle. Maybe if I found someone the complete opposite and developed feelings for them it would help?
Me and him aren't together, but it seems like he's implying heavily that he wants to, but he keeps having one night stands with other people. He kissed me on the cheek recently, but I don't think it meant anything. I'm fairly certain I have strong feelings for him, but I'd rather not tell him if he keeps getting with other people.
>>711143076
>See I already completely understand it because I've been exposed to it my whole life
Don't think that. You've used muscles your whole life and couldn't explain much about them, same goes with your entire body and countless psychological processes. Read the damn book, I insist.
You need to see a partner as a person, not as a way to get at your mother. It's that simple.
>>711143054
yeah i know i'm just riding it out for personal gain, boo fucking hoo, just wondering how long i can ride this wave for before i crack
>>711143239
Well, better to get off before you crack rather than after. Also, don't get your panties in a twist, slut
>>711143207
That makes sense. I'm gonna take your advice and read it and start treating women with more respect. Anything that gets me over this is worth it.
>>711143518
Recommended reading:
>The Road Less Traveled
>The People of the Lie
By M. Scot Peck. Very interesting stuff from a psychiatrist. You won't regret it.
I never wanted to hurt her. She trusted me and felt like she was able to tell me anything, but I was still able to fuck that up. The only person that made me feel like I actually meant something to someone is now sorry that she told me so much. I feel terrible because I told myself that I wouldn't hurt her because she has been through too much already and needs people that helps her smile. I have never hated myself as much as I do right now
>>711142986
It happened to me too. I had our first daughter together (c-sec) and I was fine, we went back to raunchy fucking... I got pregnant a few months later with our second daughter. I almost had her vaginally but it ended in emergency c-sec. It fucked me up pretty bad (lot of things happened, some medically illegal). It left me with a fucked up vagina and PTSD.
Everything literally felt like sandpaper in my vagina, I would scream in agony just from something small going in (finger/vibe). Things didn't get better til my doctor put me on Premarin. It took a while but it made it A LOT more tolerable. After the medication ran it's course, I got anti-anxieties to help with my tensing up (from fear of the pain I used to feel) as well as the PTSD and it solved the problem. Now that I'm no longer on the anti-anxiety medication, my vagina is getting useless again.
You should really encourage her to talk openly and honestly to her OB/GYN about the situation. She might need hormones to fix her vagina and maybe something else if she's going through postpartum depression/anxiety about sex.
>>711144220
What did you, friend?
>>711143166
I don't kiss even my closest female friends on the cheek and I don't know anyone who does. Unless you're French, I'm pretty sure it meant something.
I think that was his half-assed way of letting you know he wants to smash. I might be wrong, but if he's out there chasing tail regardless, I'd guess he won't be asking you on a date anytime soon unless you make it pretty damn obvious that it's the only way he's getting in your pants
>>711143606
Saved for later. Another thing is I don't feel like I can relate to anyone except online, probably because I spend most of my time on a computer, but even around others I feel detached, and in worst cases I feel like reality is fake, where I'm in a simulation or a coma, which I think is because I'm very egotistical and get bored easily so my imagination makes up weird scenarios like that. It doesn't help that I smoked weed since the age of 11 until I was 17 (was also my mother that gave me weed). But I imagine life with another person and I can't bare it. I can't live with women, but I'm fine when living with guys. If I were gay it would be good, but I know for a fact I'm not. It's like I can't develop emotional relationships with women at all, and I struggle to do so with men, but I see other people being happy around each other and I want that. I want to enjoy spending time with people.
Honestly my issue is that I have none.
>>711124130
I have no problem with my relationship. Everything has been going smooth for 4 years.
>>711144609
I'm the guy who wrote to you lots, write me: [email protected]
I'm considering becoming a psychologist, I'd like to help as a friend to see how things go and if this is my true calling. I'd like to help, too.
When I wanna play extreme jenga bitch always knocks down the tower
>>711124130
I lost my one true love last year. we always had lots of fun. we where co-workers, lovers, and she would go with me anywhere. Everyday, she would do this thing, to get me in the mood, but now its almost impossible jerk off without thinking about her. Ironically, the day she left me was the same day she and i was sent to the hospital for that saw accident. Thank god she has a sister, but i dont think it will be the same.
>>711144370
I am not too sure but I feel like it's a collection of different things about me. First it happened because she was saying how some guys at her work were hitting at her but I tried to be a funny edge lord and said some off-handed joke about it (not too sure what I said). This was during dinner and after I walked her to her apartment and it felt long and quiet. As for the other problems with myself, I'm not the best when it comes to expressing my emotions and am terrible with words so everything I'll try to say in a serious manner would just come out autistic
Fucked an Arab chick. Got caught. Broke up. Had a drug related minor stroke. She came back. Heroin. Unemployment. Etc.
Things are getting back on track for me now, but I don't love her, and she's head over fucking heels for me... I don't know wether to try work on the relationship or to just let her go (saving her any future hurt from me, which is almost guaranteed. I'm a fuck-up)
>>711144984
I sent you a message from mor***********[email protected]
>>711145368
Take things slow, and try to get to know her. No sex if avoidable. Get to know her as a person, and that's it. If you're still not feelin' her as a person, move on.
>>711145517
Got it, will get in touch another day, take care!
i love my abusive, drunk, cheating ex too much. grown to close to her, understand her too much to even relate to a nice or even normal girl.
>>711145702
Was your mom the same?
No sex with wife since conception of the baby.
Daughter is 6 month old now.
We love eachother, we talked about it. But she has "no more interest in sex" for now.
Welp...
>>711145590
Alright thanks. Hope to hear from you soon.
Threads dying but what the hell.
I dated a childhood friend of mine. We've known each other since we were eleven, went to the same middle school and high school, and live about ten minutes from each other.
A couple years after we graduated she got in a car accident and injured her brain. I had been working shit jobs, doing drugs, and going on 4chan. I had no friends and looked like a homeless person, but I visited her in the hospital. A few months later she got out of the hospital and contacted me, and we became best friends fairly quickly. We were best friends for almost a year before we fell in love.
Fast forward another year and a half to now. Less than a month ago she broke up with me. She told me I was holding her back from becoming the person she wanted to be. I'm so confused and hurt. She still says I'm her best friend, we've always been good to each other and worked out our problems. I don't understand people, I just want to curl up in a ball.
I also want to ask anyone here of how can they make a girl feel like she is a wonderful person and is special. Especially when said girl is self-deprecating/self-hating and has had many events in her life that has made her become like this
>>711145866
That is so unreasonable. How did she get to that point?
>6 years of relation.
>she have too many ex boyfriends in her town.
>life together
>no anal fucking becase she "fells bad about that"
>>711145953
>I also want to ask anyone here of how can they make a girl feel like she is a wonderful person and is special.
You tell her.
>>711145987
Her lady parts made a baby and now using them for pleasure makes her feel like a pedo.
>>711146269
Fuck off, imposter
Finding a relationship
>>711146372
WHAT IS HAPPENING?
>>711146642
You're newfag is showing
He lives in India, I live in the US. We hardly talk, and he only comes around when he needs to rub one out or when he needs help with a college report. He says he misses me and that he tries to talk to me as often as he can, but I don't particularly believe him. I just don't know what to do, I love him but I don't want to watch another relationship fall apart because of a lack of communication
gf doesn't know how to please a man
is that simple
I can't fuck anyone but her, because I have to be loyal (and I will), but on the other hand she isn't able to satisfy my needs, while I satify her whenever she wants. Talked about it, she says I'm just too complicated and that she is shy (I'm just asking for an orgasm, I don't know why shyness is a thing here). I fear I'll end up breaking with her, sex is important in a relationship.
Also she is kinda violent sometimes, hit me 3-4 times, but talked a lot about that times and promised me not to do it again.
I love her, but she needs to change, at least those two things.
>>711145987
> Lost ~30 kg on 2 years. No medical shit.
> BOOM pregnant (has we wanted)
> Gain 25 kg
> We are kind of effraid, so no sex during pregnancy
> She's prudish has hell, so everytime we go to the gyne, it's an ordeal
> She give birth (in pain, no medecine, low platelet) to the most wonderfull and perfect baby in the world
> Can't loose weight
> Can't accept her new body
(Sorry, not english)
>>711146827
>He lives in India, I live in the US.
Your first mistake. I recommend looking for someone else right away.
>>711145207
She sounds like she's been in an abusive relationship/saw one up close. You should have a talk with her about how cagey she is around you before you start putting all of this on your shoulders. Make a sudden movement and get her to flinch if you have to in order to start the conversation. As long as it ends with you telling her that you're sorry if you ever did anything to make her think that you might be like that
Fear isn't necessarily a rational thing. You might not be particularly intimidating, but she could still attach that fear to you very easily just because you're a male.
-not the guy you were replying to btw
>>711146697
ive been here since 4 more years asshole
>>711146874
Is she responsive at all if you try to do anything sexual at all? It seems odd that sexual stuff just... wouldn't sound appealing at all.
>>711146269
Maybe you're right, she is effraid to go to the gynecologists to see if "all is good".
>>711147236
It happens to women. They feel disgusted when the thing that brought their beloved baby has to do with fucking.
>>711147180
I tried it. But I can't do anything if she's not ok 100%.
How can I explain... I can't ne in the mood if she do the starfish or if she reluctant.
Last time : sunday morning, baby asleep, caress her back, soulders, her front, begin to fondle her lightly, she's ok... and she freeze.
Stop. Ask her if she's ok, if she want I continue. Answer is "Sorry, I'm not feeling ok..." and she was in a sad mood for two days, telling me she cant bring me what I want and she's sorry.
I love her. And I hate the fact that the sex is a problem in our couple...
I mean... we work, we got money, a house, a fucking perfect baby (she smile, she's awake, she's beautiful), we love eachother, life is great.
>>711147446
I can't blame her. It was intense. I had never see her in so much pain for so long.
Nightmare fuel.
>>711148054
Best advice I can give, is make sure she's actually happy in life in the general sense. People (especially women) don't generally want sex if they have a sad or stressful life. Take some time to get to know what is going on in her every day life, and see if there's something going on that you might not be aware of.
If there is nothing wrong with her after you talk to her a bunch of times, just be more physical with her in general. As in, give more hugs, kisses, hold hands, cuddle on the couch together, things like that.
>>711146874
>>711146874
She doesn't want sex because she doesn't feel sexy. Getting "fat" can do that to a girl all on it's own, but she's also recovering from a pretty severe vaginal blowout and on top of that, since you have a 6mo, I'm sure she's constantly running on about 3 hours of sleep as well. Maybe you are too, and that's why you haven't been making her feel as sexy as you used to.
Give the kid to a grandma or aunt or something so she can have a day off to sleep in and spend hours in a hot bath eating chocolate and drinking wine, maybe start with a massage and work your way up to it slowly while you tell her how much you love what the pregnancy did for her ass and tits.
Lots of women shut down like that after having a kid. Just keep treating her like you're trying to woo her all over again and she'll come around soon enough. Once you've built her confidence back up, she'll be back to her old self
Damn, it feels good to see that I'm not alone with a sex related problem but I feel you guys :
>With gf since 2years and stuff
>First 6 months was fun, sex often, trying new things, buying toys.....
>She started bleeding after each intercourse
>Libido going down, really down. Starts getting back in depression
> Finds solution for bleeding problem but not for the libido
> Now we just barely fucks. She never ever ask for it, Everytime I go to cuddle, lie down with her she keeps pushing me.
> She knows I want it, she sometimes apologyze for it but still no change.
> Also gained weight, not sure if this is relevant tho.
>>711148376
You don't know my wife.
She's not physical, It's me.
She don't need hugs. It's me.
Maybe I'm the pussy in our couple.
She get promoted at her job (assistant store manager in a library), she love that, she's good at it, she's is protective as fuck with our baby...
Only thing bad is how she feel with herself.
And I can't help her (and I tried, believe me).
>accidentally ghosted my boyfriend
All I need to do is log on...
>>711149020
I feel you so much man
>>711149020
Then it sounds to me that she needs some sort of counselling. It is not reasonable to expect someone to live without love and contact.
>>711148960
Actually, it's a good advice I needed to read. Thank you Anon.
Only thing hard... Get her in distance with our daughter without her feeling like a bad mother (yep, problem with her own mother when she was kid...)
>>711126024
Replying to a 4 hour old post, but shit. Thanks anon, used to feel like shit about my ex hearing dumb shit she did when she was single ages before we got together. This dumb thing actually helped. Thankyou.
>>711124130
i'm pissed off at my cat for shitting on my clothes and clawing my hands fucking hell
>>711148970
I'm the previous sex problem Anon.
Been there. The problem was doing too much thing too intense too fast.
We were effraid of sex.
Time to break the ice with talking, going vanilla and kiss in bed like it was the first time.
>>711124130
my GF is a fat lying pig who never learns anything from experience and also my bestfriend hate her
>>711149275
Maybe you're right, she was talking about going to a psychologist for us.
>>711149250
*bro hug* no homo
>>711149581
Why you stay with her?
>>711149569
>effraid
>afraid
there you go
>>711149701
YES. GO TO A PSYCHOLOGIST.
Save your marriage, friend. I have been trying for ages to get my girlfriend to go to one, since she has deep emotional issues that can't be solved by anything else, and it is hell seeing her go through what she's going through. She and I haven't had sex in nearly 5 months because of it.
Take the initiative to find out when your wife is busy, and set the appointment up yourself. Trust me. Do it NOW if possible.
