Ask a p-psychologist anything.
I'm h-here for you, Anonymous.
A psychologist cannot prescribe medicine.
Click the X!
Why did your boss laugh at you?
Because you don't know how to deal with your problems properly; you need to be more mindful of how things affect you so you can learn how to deal with them in an appropriate manner.
Why does she hate your sister?
Good to know.
*hugs tightly* Sorry. That's one thing I can't do.
Sounds like he's an asshole; ignore him, he isn't worth the brain cells you'd strain thinking about it.
You got a compliment; savor it. They don't always come easy.
Click the little X at the top right. All there is to it.
Okay. Doesn't seem like a reason to hate someone, but okay. Why do you love her?
When you make them better. The world doesn't care; you do. So roll up your sleeves and get to work. I'll support you as best I can.
Meant, not meant, what is the difference? The point, at the end of it all, is how you feel about it, how you react, how you take it.
I have almost died due to giving zero shits about my own personal safety, and a lack of self preservation instincts.
I was told that's not good.
Suicide doesn't make anything better. All it does is spread the pain around.
Wish it was under better circumstances, but welcome back.
This problem doesn't come from no where; it comes from your inability to deal. If you can't handle it on your own, contact a doctor; there are treatments for this.
Sounds like a bad case.
Obviously not if they started laughing. Probably because the idea of "charming" is so incongruent with your personality, it made it funny. So find out why and work on that.
Are you rude, or short with people? Do you ever try to make idle small talk?
Or maybe it's the opposite. Do you try too hard?
Okay. Anything else you'd like to get off your chest?
Exercising does nothing for anxiety. Have you tried going to a doctor?
Just a reminder that you aren't a psychologist if you don't have a license. You're a fraud.
are employed as a psychologist? (i'm acquiring information, not being hostile)
how long was your schooling, and did you have to go to med school?
How do I motivate myself to get out of my routine?
>Wake up at 4am
>Do some push ups and crunches
>Go to work from 6am to 3pm
>Come home to sleep
>Wake up and eat dinner
>Go back to bed after some television
I'm so exhausted all the time and it's showing at my work. Rather than up and quit I'm actively trying to get fired (in case it wasn't obvious I work retail).
My days off are few and far between and on them I don't do anything. I've tried getting into running but I'm too tired to do it anymore.
On the contrary, if you are overweight and exercise to get skinnier, your self image will improve and anxiety will decline. Lifting weights and getting aesthetic helps even more.
Why d-don't you?
Have you discussed it with her?
You answered your own question: molestation causes this.
Glad you got that off your chest.
Not currently. No, I did not go to med school.
Look. She talks to you, she doesn't talk to you, in either case something changes and you can do nothing about it.
What you CAN do about it is change how you react to it. You need to learn to live independently of this, to be your own person. Even in a lasting long relationship, it's important to be yourself and to be independent.
I know it's hard Anonymous. But you need to work on it, for your own sake.
Empathy. I definitely....definitely understand that.
As for the religious question, I don't know.
If only that were true.
Let me ask you this: why haven't you quit?
Why so? It is very easy to be "normal," basically. You just talk about current events, smile when you talk to people, and boom.
Unless you have certain mannerisms that are annoying to people.
It's certainly not for intellectual purposes.
Don't have one sorry.
its like my emotional range has two settings off or turbo
99% of the time I am neither happy or sad just calmly neutral
but then something or someone pokes a hole in me and I'm literally knocked down by the emotion
its embarrassing as much as debilitating
do you plan on entering into a psychological type job?
How do I prevent myself from being affected by this while retaining empathetic qualities? My best friends mom died not long ago and I can feel his pain whenever I see him but I can't do anything to help him. Why is this even a human trait? I guess I just have a hard time accepting the ubiquity of suffering
Because I feel like a failure. I majored in philosophy in college, got honors in it, since then I've
>moved in with gf that was hated by my family
>got cheated on and kicked out by gf
>currently living with my relatives
Everyone else in my family is successful or at least making strides to being it. I on the other hand took the first job I could get instead of traveling (something I've always wanted to do) because my family said to get a job.
I have no idea what I want to do for a career and have given up on my goals and dreams.
I'm sorry if this is too much Anon.
what is the best drug and why is it klonopin and liquor?
How does it feel to give people advice they won't really take to heart because of the fact a personal connection hasn't been established through a one-time, online communication?
You shouldn't, but that's your choice.
I currently sort of do; I use psychology to help make financial models.
It can't be turned off. I'm sorry, I'm so so sorry. But it just doesn't work like that.
Suffering is everywhere; it's one of the only constants. But it happens because we lose attachments...and those attachments are worth it.
It just doesn't seem so at the time we lose them.
So you think that taking a shitty job is going to help you not feel like a failure? Tell me, what do you WANT to do with your life? What drives you? What makes you get up in the morning?
What makes you want to live?
That's why I post my email.
You say that, but people seem to be quite adept at binding and attaching themselves to things.
Well dude, I also have very controversial views, but you get no where displaying them firmly to everyone else. All you will accomplish is ridicule and judgment. You have to abide by social norms if you want to make an impact in life, although defending your opinion seems honorable. It's counterproductive.
>You shouldn't, but that's your choice.
Well i only say it because ive talked to many people and feel better about it, and I don't see it as a problem anymore. I only asked because it can be considered a peculiar case, and if you were looking to learn, i was bored enough to share.
>That's why I post my email.
on /b/? please tell me i'm misunderstanding
psychologists and psychiatrists are basically cops. Their priority is making sure you can get to work everyday, and so you can raise a family.
“Ruin your fucking self before they do. Otherwise they'll screw you because you're a nobody. They'll keep you alive but you'll have to crawl and say "thank-you" for every bone they throw. You might as well stay drunk or shoot junk and be a crazy fucker. If the rich guys want to play with you, make them get their hands dirty. Send them away gagging, or sobbing if they're soft-hearted. You'll be left alone if you're frightening, and dead you're free!”
If you are fine, then I am fine. <4
I think that sort of logic is self defeating; there is no real practical difference between "I can't leave because of all these attachments" and "I won't leave because of all these attachments".
What matters is that often, people are NOT free.
Feel free to spam me; I've seen it all. I'm here to help, and that's just what I'll do.
It's my honor.
What was it?
Yeah, that's not at all what we are. Sorry you feel that way though.
None of my dreams are normal. I get up in the morning because I have to because earning money is nice.
If I had it my way I would be a martial arts master and live in the woods. Or a hero that saves other people.
Practically, I like to edit stuff, like papers. And read.
But I live because... I do? I don't want to kill myself but living isn't great either. I get up because I have to get up.
Oh? We have people like that. Police officers, fire fighters, doctors, EMTs, social workers. If you want to be a hero, go be a hero.
What's stopping you?
Why are you hung up on her?
I can't and I won't are different things. If you can't, it implies it's not possible. If you won't, it implies it is possible, but you refuse.
If I tell someone to stick their hand in a fire, despite the fact that it is a poor decision and will affect them negatively, they are free to make that decision. Such is life. The key is finding out what the best decision is to make.
No, i'll be honest here, im 17, and my parents think nothing of it. I even told them what i think caused it, since it's only been going on since a specific date. They won't take me to a doctor, as of now.
you may be a nobody to a psyche, but it's still their job to unfuck you. Turns out if they treat you and it fails because of their inability to do their job right it's still their ass, malpractice doesn't stop at the OR, bruh
of course you're cops, read some Althusser or some Foucault. you serve bourgeois interests when common sense is just the common sense is just the dominant ideology which is the ideology of the dominant class. Maybe read some Baudrillard or Fredric Jameson. You help people as much as a manager helps their employees.
I guess I'll have to come to terms with that kind of perception.
I have talked 4 dear friends down from suicide in the last 2 years, and every time it felt like I was circling the drain myself. Normally, I'm pretty passive.
How would you suggest I use empathy in a constructive way that won't eventually kill me?
Yeah, then you have it easy. Eat more. Buy protein shakes or powder, and start lifting weights. When you are confident and proud of your body, the momentum tends to make the rest a hell of a lot easier.
The drive was to prove others wrong. Those others now think well of me. Now I feel incomplete and shamed cause I didn't feel I did anything great. Nothing drives me to get better now.
Has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like?
At what age did you abandon your global view of helping humanity and turn to helping those in closer spatial proximity to simply sustain your livelihood and help a few passersby?
>Why are you hung up on her?
(I'm in my 2nd year of College ATM) Well, she was a grade below me, but we're pretty close to the same age. We're both complete autist dorks, but she's pretty and blonde. I had the dumbest, playground crush on her and she kinda pretended to tolerate it. Behind my back (for reasons I don't understand) she told people I was a stalker and shit...
I understand why she didn't like me. I'm fairly ugly, really scrawny, and awkward... but I don't get why she denied saying this stuff to my face for so long. I mean, if you want me to go away, why not just say "Go away dweeb" and get on with it?
Comrades, my father died very suddenly a few days ago. My feelings eroded away a long time ago. I didn't shed a single tear at his funeral, and I haven't cried or felt anything for a long time. My mom is clearly starting to notice, and she's started snooping and is starting to see how broken I am. Is there any way to get the feelings back? What should I do, my friends?
who is it that can make it through academic politics? but the majority of the work is sucking up to profs and test writing - that is 99.9% of becoming a psychologist/psychiatist entails. Who do you think makes it through that? Normies thats who.
Are you seriously going to let a normie control your life?
Go to a doctor anyway, or an ER. You need help.
Yeah, again, sorry you think that way. Don't need to read anything to know what I've seen with my own eyes, lived through. But thanks anyway.
What I've found...is that such a high amount of empathy is a blessing and a curse. The only way out is through; you have to use it, do what you can to help others, and find people to support you when the damage done to you is so much that you can't possibly stand another second.
Build a support network, Anonymous...and be the person you needed when you almost fell in the drain, for others.
That or become a social worker.
I posted my address before; this isn't nothing.
I listed a LOT of jobs man.
Outliving every doctor who ever treated you, dying with your family and loved ones surrounding you and a dog on your lap.
You need to work for you, not for others, Anonymous.
functioning member of society. that is what the police do. they make sure you are a functioning member of society. that is what politicians do, social workers, teachers, soldiers.
exactly my point, and Foucault's. psychologists are the ideological state apparatus serving capitalism.
*laughs softly* I never had such a view.
I was never, even as a little girl, conceited enough to think I could change the world, to heal the masses, to set right the wrongs.
But...I've never been so selfish as to think to only help those I care about, those I could see, those that looked me in the eye and begged.
I always wanted to help a whole mountain full of people, a whole community full of people....a whole /b/ full of people. That's enough for me. To help people here, in this place that is so helpless and hopeless, full of hate and anger.
If I can pick up just one person a thread, that's enough for me.
honestly, if you wanted to control people, vulnerable people, why didn't you just become a soldier or a cop? it would have saved you a ton of money and time.
I mean, your way is sneaky as fuck, which makes it twice as disgusting too
some people have shit happen that they can't get around, so they see a psyche if they're fortunate enough. yeah, it'd be nice if we could all just fucking deal with it but when your head's so fucked up that you can't function maybe you should seek some help. so to answer your question they enable nonfunctional people to operate at something resembling a nominal capacity.
What if I don't have most of that? Do you think it's selfish of you to say that I should keep existing instead of ceasing to exist and making it stop? I literally wouldn't hurt anyone. I don't have anyone. I seem to be treatment resistant as well. At which point do you think euthanasia is appropriate for mental illness? Also does anyone know where a friend of mine can get Nembutal?
*wraps her arms tightly around you* I love you Anonymous. I'm so so sorry for your loss. If there is anything I can do to help, please, ask it of me.
That's not even close to how psychology works.
Firefighter it is then.
Wow you are dumb.
If you don't want them, don't have them.
You'll be around your whole life.
I don't wish to control people. Mostly because people are most interesting when free.
*squeezes tight* I love you, Anonymous. Even if no one else in the whole world does.
What mental illness?
Not even sure what this is replying to.
I think I know of people I could depend on, yes. I do feel quite fulfilled when I see these friends still breathing, that much is certain. Do you believe there is such a thing as an Empath?
Quasi-related: is it good/ethical for people like me to pursue romantic relationships, or will I burden someone to the point of damaging them?
That's the fucking secondary level problem of psychiatrists/psychologists that OP will dismiss and not be able to cover b/c they're dumb as fuck; and that's individualizing tragedy.
See the psychs make everything about you, everything was your individual problem and mistake, something that happened to you, that is neoliberal or latecapitalist logic, it's a naive and atomizing perspective that serves bourgeois interests.
someone with half a brain would look to root problems, not just 'fixing the person it fucked up so they can get back to work'
starting to make sense?
My boyfriend of 3 years left me (because he lost feelIngs for me apparently) but wanted to remain friends. I want him back more than anything. We hang out regularly and enjoy each others company, and lately he's been telling me he misses me, but needs 'time'. We shared our first kiss in nearly 2 months a couple days ago, because HE asked if he could kiss me. I don't know what to do, or if he is trying to slowly get back into things with me. We had a good life together, we're young and we were living together, I think our comfortability scared him. Do you think there's hope for us?
Interesting, OP. I appreciate your perspective. The original mindset I described is how I see myself now. You sound like someone who came from a mediocre background but always had a strong sense of empathy because you understood pain and wanted to do anything to help limit the pain of others. Is that anywhere close?
if it isn't transparent to you by now, this whole thread is a sick game of bait by OP to gain some kind of power over you.
this word fucked you, don't let someone play around with it for their own enjoyment.
It's my pleasure.
Bipolar is a hell of a disease, but there are tons of treatments, and many experimental ones in the pipe. What are you currently on, what have you taken before, and what non-medicine psychology treatments are you in?
Not really, and that's not my field. Sorry. Ethics is something you should ask a mathematician about.
No, it'll be exactly the same length. One life time. That's all anyone gets.
Some people live more in 20 years than others do in 80; it's up to you to decide what to do with the time you are given.
That's also not what psychologists do; you've clearly never heard of a social psych have you?
Free as in liberty, not as in beer.
Not at all. I learned empathy; it wasn't innate.
Before I was Alice, I was quite lacking of compassion and empathy.
Now, even after all the compassion fatigue I've had in the last five years, I still feel that empathy welling up inside me....
There's always hope; it all depends on him. You need a frank discussion.
What power do I gain, again?
How do I cure social anxiety. When I'm in social situations alone, I have nothing to say and really awkward if I can even get anything out of my mouth. If I had always been like this it might've not been such a big deal but when I was a kid, I always wanted to be the comedian, I was loud and there wasn't anyone who could've stopped me from talking. Then suddenly I just can't think of anything to say or am awkward in general and because of that I've slowly started to hate myself for it if that makes sense.
Quick question, what if the root of the problem is you? Maybe it's the way you think?
Take individuals suffering from social anxiety for example. They may fear being judged in public and this may prevent them from engaging in social activities.
Treatment would involve challenging their negative thought processes and behaviors
You mention getting to the root of the problem like it's an easy thing. News flash it rarely ever is
You need to go to a doctor if it is that bad. CBT can be very helpful with this sort of thing but it is not possible to do it on your own.
There is no Alice3. I'm the only Alice there is, currently. Call me whatever you want.
Sorry, I must have missed it. I'm not in a good place right now, let me check it out.
I think she didn't want to appear as if she was bitchy or antagonistic towards you, but had to somehow deflect the perceived social harm of being in contact with you.
Look, high school is a big fucking box they jam a bunch of almost adults in with no real structure. The power structures and complex interplays that develop are all bullshit; you need to let it go and accept that fundamental fact.
I know it hurts, I know this is not in any way going to ease that pain. But it is the truth.
i double majored in social psychology. all my colleagues now work in advertising, PR, hr - you know kind of like you.
'free as in liberty' is complete nonsense, say something that means something.
of course you are gaining power over these poor people, you get to tell them how to act, you have a trickier power over them than most politicians, b/c they thnk you're helping them, that is the best kind of power.
honestly you need to stop this, i bet it is harming yourself
I'm not working in any of those areas, so....
Yeah, and not a single word misplaced either.
Neurons live longer than seven years.
So, I suspect I am a sociopath (or psychopath, since getting a clear distinction on the internet seems impossible), or at least blunted affect.
>I don't think I seem terribly narcissistic, but some of my friends say I am arrogant, so there's that
>I can be pretty manipulative, though I generally don't need to be
>I am not emotional at all, most of the time. I am clinically depressed though, so that might explain it.
So, what's the deal OP? Is this something I should talk through with a qualified mental health person, or what?
for starters, people are self-centered that's how self preservation works, and so if somebody got their brain box all jacked up and traumatized and shit, yeah it's "something that happened to them". it's not the call of the psyche to determine whether they're right or wrong, Additionally what exactly is the issue with making it so that someone who's had a legitimate life impairing trauma to be made able to attempt to lead a normal life thereafter. Lastly why does this have to involve obtuse political terms, it's people yes, the individual person seeking help of for their own benefit, not some agenda set fourth by a political party that doesn't exist
I recently realized I'm a fucking ass hole and I've driven everyone out of my life and made everyone hate me. Even I hate me, I just feel like I can't control it, and I'm scum, and I know it, I want to kill myself.
This question may be off topic, but should I call the manager of a place a few days after I turn in a job application? I'm trying to find something to do this summer and I'm tired of being broke.
Yes. You should absolutely talk to a qualified mental health person, and tell them your symptoms. But I doubt you have either of those illnesses.
So do better?
Yeah, three to seven days is reasonable.
I did. Two of them, in fact.
What's yours again?
Today I realize that I pretty much fail in the last 5 years of my life.
I waste precious time seeking a dream of being an artist in a country that don't really care abbout art.
Now, I give up on my dream and will start to make sushi in the city fair.
The actual feeling is a big mass of disappointment and unbelieving.
I'm abbout to make 27yo this 10 of July, and don't have a single coin in my wallet.
What should I do?
Im no beta and im out going, extovert friendly and not too weird. I have a group of friends but... im never anyones. Best friend. Girls talk to me but never see ne as a possible boyfriend. This has been botheringme for a long while.
i forgot to say this last part
>starting to make sense?
Neither. The neurons slowly fail, with memories fading and becoming distorted. Dying isn't always a quick process.
Why don't you seek your dream outside the country?
of course the root of the problem isn't you. you never had free will, get into some social constructivism, you were shaped by latecapitalism, allowing this 'doctor' to 'treat you' only helps you engage further into latecapitalism, and you cannot exist in latecapitalism without becoming fragmented and alienated from your 'speciesbeing' (gattungswesen)
if you truly have wrong thinking, swapping your wrong thinking for fitting into postmodernism is a damn shame, and not a great path, as OP is trying to push you
At your service.
I'm lonely, and want to meet someone, but act totally different around girls i dont know, and no matter how hard i try nobody seems to like me. I'm beginning to think that theres always going to be someone better than me...
Yeah, that's also not what I am trying to do.
Stop putting words in my mouth.
No, mostly because it is ineffective against alcoholism and it is only mildly effective for depression. Go to a doctor.
i obsess really hard over things sometimes, and not just like "omg i can't stop playing overwatch" or some shit
like i can't sleep because i think about it, or i ignore everything because i think about it, or i go out of my way to indulge whatever it is i'm obsessing about, i compulsively spend all of my money or time or whatever about it and jeopardize my relationships and grades
(it's not overwatch, that was an example)
and i find myself doing irrational things thinking it'll somehow sway something to happen in my favor (i got really intensely involved in cultic rituals and did some bullshit blood cursing garbage thinking i could subliminally make someone i have intense feelings for pay attention to me)
like i know it's dumb, kind of like people know horoscopes are mostly vague bullshit, but i can't help myself
it's not as easy as "well just find something to take your mind off it" because it like bites at the back of my head all the time
it used to be just anxiety and suicidal thoughts, and my family dr put me on lexapro, but it still crops up -- it just doesn't go as far as me attempting suicide to end the compulsions or hiding in my room for weeks
the fuck do i do about this?
Nice blonde pics... Is my attraction to blondes possibly a biological urge to get that physical trait passed on in my gene pool? My father was blond, but I'm brown haired.
and is the aformentioned email a way to contact you for other stuff?
omigod shut up with the latecapitalism bullshit. just go and wear your tinfoil hat and sit in the basement where the feds (that i'm sure you're convinced are after you) can't find you
I don't seek my dream outside the country because I don't have conditions do move. I don't have money, and my family is busy with my brother.
The fucker just had a unwanted child with the major bitch in the entire fucking world.
Now he's sucking all my parents money.
I don't have resources to move...
Chemistry huh? Isn't that just applied physics? Sorry, I'm all the way at the top in C.S., so it's hard to hear you "softer" sciences from way up here; be sure to speak up.
Yes, just send me an email.
Currently? I'm mostly trying to post.
Oh? No way to take loans? This is your dream after all; are you really going to throw it away that easily?
I know the difference quite well, but okay.
I'm scared to go to a doctor, only my closest friend knows about the self harm and only a little about how shitty I feel.
I'm afraid a doctor would put me in a hospital or something even though I don't think it's that bad, and I don't want to be that person.
Isn't there anything I can do on my own to feel better?
People dont seem to like me; looks, the way I act, talk, etc. I've tried being a different person with mixed results, but ultimately I didn't like myself while I was pretending to be a different me.
If she's still alive, I will.
...you won't be put into a hospital for something like this. Most of the first world nations have had their mental health budget gutted in the last 20 years. Everything is out patient now.
What sort of person are you, and what sort of person are you pretending to be?
NEVER tell a doctor the truth. that is rule #1. they will fuck up your life.
things to never tell a psychiatrist/psychologist/doctor:
- you've enjoyed/abused any drug legal or otherwise
- you've thought about selfharm/committed selfharm
- you're extremely depressed
- you've considered suicide
- you have no hope.
I've genuinely wondered what's wrong with me because when I'm nearing orgasm I find it pleasurable for a woman to sit on my face and pee in my mouth. After it is over and I've climaxed I usually regret that and wish that the gf and I didn't do that I vow that to be the last time, but then a week later I'm ready to do it again and it seems like the biggest turn on ever.
Help... what's wrong with me doc?! I can never tell a real doc in person about this issue. It's too far "out there".
Thanks, I'll think about it. For now, I'll try to deal with it myself since I really don't have an access to a psychologist right now but I'll keep it in mind. I'll read what I can about cognitive behavioral therapy and the methods commonly used to treat social anxiety.
>I've already gone over the whole being suicidal part. I'm not doing that as long as a single person in this world knows I exist.
Hi Alice long time no see i hope you are doing great. Everything is awesome with the girlfriend she told me she love me first so I told her back and made love couple times in my car even though I rather do it in a bed but she won't go to hotels and I've yet to introduce her to my family and same with her family.
Im a normie, i dress normal, I have a group of friends but im never first choice. I have friends that are girls but theire never interested in me and i dont consider myself to be ugly. What wrong with me OP?
I'm not throwing my dream away so easily... I fucking fight for it in the least 5 damned years!...
I'm giving up on my dreams because I'm tired of failing!
I can't take loans because I don't have a bank account... Because I don't have money... They never let me oppen one.
So which of you should I listen to?
I don't know if I'm depressed, I don't know how to identify that in myself.
But the other things are definitely present.
The last thing I want is for other people to worry about me. I don't want to tell anyone that I'm not okay because I'm not worth that trouble.
Yeah, those are exactly things you SHOULD tell a doctor, because they are the ones most able to help you with it.
This is fucking awful advice that could literally result in someone ending their life. I hope you can bear that on your conscious; I couldn't.
Then I'll be sure to keep the knowledge of your existence till the day I die. Deal?
Glad things are going well for you <4
None; being an asshole isn't a medical disorder.
Then how much do you need to open one?
I'll send it to you as soon as I cover my medical bills. Then you can get out a loan and try at your dream one last time.
I got this girl I work with, she's about 10 years older than me. Pretty much tells me on a daily basis she wants to fuck me silly. She's got real cute features, would probably be a solid 8/10 if she weren't chubby.
Get the help you need, Anonymous.
Isolated, socialy stunted.
Helpful/desireable in some regard
Just one that isnt always alone(no meme intended), and make enemies it seems for no reason.
...what do you want to do?
And it makes you feel....bad...to be helpful?
I don't know what I need. I never thought it was much of a problem, but I figure if I feel the need to hide it it's something I need to address sooner or later.
It's just terrifying man, I don't talk about my feelings because I auto-cry whenever I do.
Every day, every fucking day I crave for the dame of my dreams. I want to feel her loving embrace, her warm lips pressed against mine, and her gorgeous curvature. Her breasts are that of a ripe fruit, succulent and radiant under the rays of the glistening sun. Whenever she walks by, her perfume fills the air; beneath that camouflage lies a sweet womanly scent that compliments her choice of fragrance. Her pussy... So tempting... Just when I thought my urge to bone couldn't grow anymore; I heard it. A sound of beauty. A sound of tranquility. I heard the shlicking of her wet cunt from the next apartment over, her moans rattled through my erect cock; but, that wasn't what got me horny. It was what she masturbated to. It took me so long to find it. Every night for the past two weeks, she watched this video.........
with regards to the people not worrying about you thing. you're pretty much fucked, unless everyone you know it missing a major portion of their brains, someone is going to worry about you. it's going to happen, and that's not really a bad thing.
I told my doctor i started drinking again, he was mad. Apparently zoloft and campral are ineffective if you're drinkig heavily? .. I shouldve told him long ago ;-; .. Also waiting for my psych now, but probably what you said.. They're going to reevaluate me now
I just know how it is to worry about someone even when you have your own shit to work out.
And I don't want anybody I care about to not tell me something in their life because they're too worried about me.
the reason you don't tell a doc those things are:
- they'll be stingy with drugs you might actually need, their #1 priority is looking after themselves, therefore if they think you might abuse a drug (even if it is a laughable connection) they'll play it safe and won't give you what you need.
- if you tell them you are suicidal/majorly depressed they may take action which will make it so you cannot cross international borders b/c you WILL have a record (this has happened)
- they may lock you up or phone the police at a later date if they misinterpret something and get a hint you are an heroing, you DO NOT want police at your door, shit can go bad through untrained cops.
- if they think you drink they will often withold your access to needed drugs and programs with select enrolment until you've stopped drinking.
>...what do you want to do?
In a sick way I enjoy the attention and the desire. Been single for a few years now without much luck.
Honestly, as much as I waste my time by my own choices, I don't want someone else to waste my time. I don't want to be weighed down by someone else's problems right now.
As for the sex; the standard I hold myself to says "absolutely not." The "yes man" in me says, "why the fuck not?"
Inpatient hospitalization is really not as bad as it is in the movies, in most cases you'll be out in less than a week
Of course this may depend on a number of different factors such as the severity
*wraps her arms around you* I know it's hard. I know. It's hard every time, and it never gets easier. But facing our fears, embracing them and understanding them and moving PAST them is how we grow as people.
I know it's hard. I'm sorry, I'm so so sorry. If I could do it for you, I would. But I can't. You need to, for your own good. I hope you can do it, Anonymous.
Yep. You need to talk to your doctor more, Daggy. I love you man.
You gonna back down on your dream when someone is offering you a hand up? Or will you give it one more swing before the bell?
The choice is yours. Email me if you decide you want another shot. Just remember, not everyone gets a second chance, Anonymous.
You think helping people makes you a doormat?
Unemployed veteran that stopped looking for work months ago. Depressed and can't focus on shit..i havent been able to read a book in months. I only hear half of my conversations (like tuning in on a radio but the channel keeps moving)
I would have offed myself a long time ago, but I have too many family and friends that it would hurt. (Thoughts on digging a deep hole in a forrest, stuffing a pipe bomb into side of hole, lay in hole, lite pipe bomb, shoot self)
Average time in in patient is less than 5 days.
Illegal things, not always. Threat to others, that's determined by the doctor themselves. There is a lot of leeway and discretion involved.
Remember, such laws are there to protect...everyone...involved. They may not always be well written, but that doesn't mean the basic idea isn't sound.
I'm sorry to hear that sir. Have you been to a doctor about the depression?
You are going to get someone killed; stop giving such awful advice.
I guess I'd just be very careful. Not really sure man..
I have extreme vivid nightmares whenever anything in my environment changes. Hospitalization would be terrifying.
Thank you anon, you are wonderful. I'll see how far the 5-HTP takes me and try to cut back on the drinking and see if that helps.
I really appreciate it my friend, hopefully I can work through it.
like i said, not i psyche but, i too have people that a care about (in spite of my own best efforts). but how can you expect people to confide in you if you won't confide in them? they want to feel like you care too and nothing tells a person you trust/care about them than "hey man, I'm in a bad way. Can we talk?"
it really really sucks. the most serious things you need help with there is almost no one to go to.
in some ways there is a positive out of that, you can bring those thoughts to yourself, and start asking yourself about them, it can feel really empowering knowing the choices you;re going to make are goign to be mostly influenced by yourself when it comes down to it.
- drug interactions are real, and they are aware that most people will sue the shit out of them every chance they get
- again, they are liable
- that's why you be as clear as possible in what you tell them, also if you're an heroing do you really care if police are coming?
- again, drug interactions
That's the thing, they confide in me regardless. It's just got to be the way I am, because people have always leaned on me for as long as I can remember.
I just recently told my friend about the nightmares I have, it was a very vulnerable feeling that I didn't like very much. Not sure if I'll do that again.
Alright, I moved 7 times before age 9, and it's fucked me up socially, just a lack of experience in social situations. I miss a lot other people see then think less of me for missing. I've turned a few girls away on accident because I was blind as a bat in seeing the hints they left for me. Just general social retardation. Any way to relearn faster?
You can go to someone. A doctor.
How can I help?
This triggers me
Those are not not even spaghetti-0s, those are baked beans
I'm not hurting anyone, I'm offering people more truth, so when they go through this shit they aren't going to feel betrayed.
yes just be careful.
another tip: if you call those anonymous helplines and are truly talking suicide they will start shifting towards trying to identify your location and bring in campus security/police to apprehend you. if you really are suicidal, fucking let that happen, but if you don't want to be detained just be aware.
You really DO mean it.............
Man........ I don't even know what to say...
I'm a completely stranger to you. You don't even know if I'm a good artist or not. You just don't care, because you just sincerely want to help me...
I must be honest to you... I didn't expect for that.
Well... I WILL take your hand in this one.
But for my honor, I will not accept your money. On the other hand, I will accept your good will.
You really cheer me up anon... I'm for real here.
I didn't expect nothing tonight. In my head I will just come to see the chan and unburden myself till sleep. But you really change that.
You really made my night better.
Now I just want to be your friend... Trully.
No idea how you can help, I'm just posting in a thread.
This is just something that will built up in over time till i finally snap and see someone for help, or the obvious worse.
Exercise can help anxiety.
I mean is there ever really a situation where an upkick in endorphins is a bad thing? Exercise makes your brain release happy chemicals. Being happy is bretty good for anxiety.
>up to the doctors themselves
And how can you determine a doctor who will help from one who will put you away? You can't without mincing words, which will harm your own healing process.
You are deliberately telling people not to do the very thing they need to do when they need to do it. It's unethical and leads to deaths; I've seen it more than once.
*laughs softly* Take the money too, friend <4
I'm not great, thus why I haven't been on.
...endorphines and adrenaline can CAUSE panic attacks. So, yes?
Again, no. "Put you away?" In patient is not prison.
i feel super alien from other people and it scares me and crushes me, knowing i will always be isolated in some form from others
i want to die because i feel like a tree dying in a desert somewhere that no one cares about, and i want to do good things but i am so small and unnoticeable, and i scare people by how intensely i cling to their presence
i want to die but i'm even afraid of it being twice as lonely when i do that
i keep having intense delusions about my relationships with other people and reality and it's preventing me from moving forward in life like i'm supposed to
Last round guys; I'm about to fall asleep. I'll fight it with everything I have, but this is the last call for Alicehol.
Email me at [email protected] if you need anything from me when I'm not around.
With all the love in the world,
understandable. unless they are simply seeking attention the people who lean on you probably also felt vulnerable, and yeah it sucks, but they did it. Think of it as they prioritized a way of recovery (or whatever) over feeling secure about themselves. All this being said, if these are people who come to you while not being willing to reciprocate should you do the same, i recommend you rid yourself of them. I refuse to tell you how to live your life, I am not qualified to do so, but I believe in removal and mitigation of toxic elements in ones life. If something external to me becomes bad for me, or degrades the quality of my life (chosen vices notwithstanding) then i will attempt to remove myself from it.
Thanks my kind Anon. But I can't accept the money.
But I promess to you! I WILL try one more time! And I will do it not just for me... But for you!
I will remember you good will tonight!
I will collect some money from my actual non dreaming job to fund my dream and let this forsaken country forever.
Can I send a message to your e-mail? I want to add you in my facebook.
So, I dated this chick for over 2 years. One day she just cuts everything off, doesn't give me an answer as to why, she just broke it off with me.
I try asking why twice, she just blows me off.
Catharsis was not reached.
Fast forward 2 years after break-up.
>>Be in college.
>>Have a girlfriend.
>>I constantly wish that my girlfriend was my ex.
>>It's gotten to the point that she has noticed I am unhappy.
>>She asks me about it, saying how from the way I talk, I sounded like I was happier when I was with my ex than I am with her now.
>>It's true, but I don't dare admit that to her.
>>Sex life is great with current gf but I don't think I'm truly happy.
>>I care for my current gf, but I'm not in love with her like I was my ex.
>>This issue has gotten bad enough I'm talking about it on 4chan: the most welcoming of places.
I'm looking for advice, probably in the wrong place, but I can't really talk about this anywhere else. My friends thought I was a bit crazy after the break up. I lost 15lbs, didn't socialize, didn't eat, and just sat in my room playing guitar, writing love songs for a woman who would never hear them. I'm emotionally fucked up, so I just try to hide all my feelings. I've never been emotional, but that break up broke me and I don't know how to fix myself. Booze and sex don't help, and my current gf is just there because I enjoy sex.
I understand I should be over all this after 2 years, but I'm still hurting like I did the first month of the break up. I've just gotten better at hiding it.
The answer is obvious: All doctors and psychologists, therapists, and psychiatrists. That's....why they are what they are.
You are either a troll or completely misinformed about how in patient works. Either way, your actions can harm others; be more ethical.
Ask your doctor to lower your dosage.
Absolutely, but I don't have facebook sorry <4
Yes. Synthetic drugs from a doctor and lots of therapy.
I have to choose between to girls. One is the girl of my dreams, perfect in every way but she doesn't live in my country, I am talking to her through fb right now. The other is one of my best friends, she is amazing but not as pretty as the first one. The thing that scares me is that she was in a relationship with one of my mates and it ended badly. She seemes to be very interested in me though
Again, no. Adrenaline can cause panic attacks and anxiety. A doctor should advise someone on these matters, not someone with no education in how these systems work.
So you'd rather be dependent on an herb? What exactly is the difference again?
Go to a doctor.
to be fair he did it after he caught me wearing my moms panties and skirt, he gave me the talk them like took out his dick and yeah it got sexual, hot as fuck now that i think about it tho
I think they just have a greater comfort in talking about their feelings. I've gone out of my way to stay out from under microscopes, so when any attention is on me I can't really handle it.
I don't think they're toxic people, they're my friends and they know I care. And I know they care as well, I iust don't know how to get to a point where I can talk about things without tears or stupid jokes.
My friend does want to help, but I think he saw how uncomfortable it made me and doesn't want to cause that again. He was pretty persistent even past the attempts to derail the conversation.
Then you need to lower your dose. All there is to it. Amphetamines can cause psychosis and you are clearly getting it.
Alright guys. Time for me to pass out.
Again, love you all. [email protected] if you need me.
as someone else that suffered from anxiety, nothing helped besides medication
everything i attempted to do was like going off the high dive again and again and again, and i wore myself into the dirt with the fear and nerves
i started medication, a low dose, and that at least let me tackle the smaller issues first without panicking
from there it's just building steps forward
other things: take it easy on the caffeine, really try to get 8 hours of sleep, and funnily enough try a low carb (not NO carb, just a little lower than usual) diet
-klonopin is a lifesaver when it comes to anxiety. it might make your anxiety absolutely disappear. it is wayy better than booze.
it depends if you just feel anxious all the time, or if its more in social situations i guess tho, in terms of what you should do next.
That's not true.
I do have anxiety too. I even have some bad times with the panic atacks.
Not all your problems can be solved with medicine.
I just get slowly better relaxing myself.
I moved away from the city I'm living. I changed my routine.
Everything can be better if you leave everything that's bottering you behind. Go to a calmer place to meditate abbout everything and resolve your problems slowly. Very very slowly.
Just take your time.
I'd say for me it's all the time, only a few situations when i dont feel anxious, like when im with friends, or... yeah thats about it. I'm even anxious right now. All im doing is browsing 4chan and watching netflix. It's terrible.
Have you ever heard of behavioral psychology actually working? I have OCD and they tell me the only way to work on it is with a behavioral psychologist. Is it going to be a waste of money?
prozac at first, but i also have depression
if you have depression or suicidal thoughts/tendencies i suggest avoiding prozac, especially if you're under 30
i was put on klonopin for a bit, but that just made me sleep all day
lexapro is what i'm on now, it has the least amount of negative side effects -- still struggle with sleep, but that's less anxiety more depression
Well... I guess nothing can be done abbout it.
Then I want you to sleep very well tonight. Knowing that you really help me to have a little hope in my drams. Just one more time.
Sometimes... I guy just need to hear that somebody cares.
the way i look at it either you'll talk it out or you won't and that's your call. i will never blame someone for withholding potentially compromising information or avoiding attention, i been there. As far as the tears and joking, if that's what it takes then do it if, your friend is worthwhile he'll understand, so let him pry. When you're ready to talk you will, make sure homeboy's around when it happens.
When I was 5 I was afraid of the dark. I didn't even know what immersion therapy was, but I ended up locking myself in my grandmother's basement with a pillow and a blanket and spent the night under a pool table. Once I woke up and realized I was safe, I was never scared of the dark.
I don't know how it would work with OCD, but I would say a professional would be better than 5 year old nathan :D
*kisses your cheek* I care. My name is Alice, though.
I don't have any depression luckily. In fact, most everything is going great in my life at the moment.The only thing that's not is that i'm quite lonely. I have friends, but no one special. The fact that I have anxiety while being happy makes it even more confusing for me. Also, i havent been professionaly diagnosed, but i'm certain i have anxiety, because of what I have been describing to people on this thread.
I see a lot of people ITT talking about anxiety/panic attacks and after 25 years of this shit, 3 sisters with this shit, a mother and a grandmother with this shit the only trick I have available for you is:
Distract yourself immediately. It's a downward spiral, as we all know. You get some momentum and you lose control of your thoughts and feelings. But as soon as you recognize that you're going down this path, get someone to talk to you about random bullshit. My friends usually tell me about their day, or stupid bullshit that happened at work, anything to break that train of thought I was just having. Because if you let it run wild, it'll just take over and you won't be able to stop it.
general anxiety is tough. something like social anxiety is way easier cause you can do exposure therapy or cbt.
it'll be hard on your liver and expensive and hard to get klonopin for all the time. if i were you i'd look into the chemicals they give for long term stuff, things like effexor, pristiq, zoloft.
i take 2mg of klonopin every single day, and drink most days, but i dont plan to live especially long, and OP thnks im an asshole lol.
you might want to experiment with breathing and counting your breaths to see how it feels, exercise is always great and can do as much as any drug, skip coffee and smoking,
ive often had the feeling somethign was wrong or someone was mad at me all day everyday even when that didnt exist. something i used was to be grounded with a hobby. that way when my identity feels shaky and i feel nervous like something is wrong, i'll remember at least i have that part of my identity working on something.
I know your feeling abbout this. Believe me.
In my case... Every fucking thing was bottering me.
The pressure was too much for me to handle.
The search for job... My relashionship... My parents... My girlfriend parents... My actual living place... Everything.
I finish quickly everything I need to finish and run away as far as I can.
I come to the city where I was born, in a little calm city. I calm myself up and begin to pay more attention to myself.
That helped me. I hope it helps you.
Yeah, thanks to the people on this thread, i have a lot of advice i can use to try and help myself. With most of my problems, i almost always rely on others as a whole. I don't have very much money, but this is high on my list of priorities, so maybe I can give up somethings for medication, or try lifting again, even though it didnt help last time. And I totally relate to that last part, i often feel like i've done something wrong when i haven't.
Due to a stupid desire of mine to push my limits I have gotten myself into a situation where I'm the dumbest guy in my field of study including my acquaintances. I think I've lost an objective view on my worth and my self-esteem has been plumeting eversince. Any idea what I can do?