My girlfriend wants to wait till marriage to have sex, which is about 2-3 years away in our case. I don't like that at all and I think an important part of our relationship is simply missing. We do other sexual things like oral and hand stuff, but not penetration.
What does /b/ think I should do? I'm really happy with her emotionally, but this lack of sex leaves me longing for more, both physically and the emotional bond that forms when you fuck someone you truly love. I feel as though our relationship is incomplete right now.
Btw we're both virgins, if that makes a difference
If shes sucking you off and swallowing, enjoy that while it lasts because that goes away quickly once you get married. Cramming your cock in her honey hole is great and all, but what I would give for a solid BJ once in a while.
You're being bullshitted and played by her man. Tell her that she shouldn't be dating if she doesn't want to have sex and if she does want to date she should explicitly tell people this on her first few dates. I assume she told you month(s) into your relationship.
I went through this with my gf OP and now we have sex all the time if you need any questions ask me.
Lack of sex is only the beginning. OP, if you've talked to her about this whole "emotional bond" thing and she still refuses to have sex, dump her. It'll save you years of your life as well as a very costly divorce. Ignore all these "cuck" posters.
just wait bro. it's worth it. Nothing is different from hand oral anal or vaginal its all about you getting off once and a while and if that's happening don't push it.
Where the fuck do you live? What the fuck is with this mentality of not having sex before marriage.
Get her super drunk and finger her to see if she's still a virgin. I think you'll be in for a suprise.
>never trust the devil spawn aka woman
I told her if she actually intended to get married then it wouldn't matter, and that I was committed to having a lasting relationship and having sex was part of the commitment for me.
I also said that I was missing something I wanted for a relationship and that it wasn't going to work out properly if she wanted to wait.
This guy is a cuck and he's lying
i should have specified. "THE ONE" meaning the one being reciprocated. if she's just your one, but you're not hers, then it won't work.
then again, if she really saw you as "THE ONE" too, she wouldn't be able to deny you. she'd be all over you.
Then DUMP HER, you're still just a baby. She any kind of penetrative sex... You are a MAN. A man has needs. Our sexuality is just about the strongest force within us. If she does not satisfy your needs, you will turn to something else that does, whether it be food, emotional support, sexual relief, etc. The same goes the other way around. You are looking at irreconcilable differences between the two of you. Remember, "a good wife never lets his husband leave the house hungry or horny".
She's not the one. I've been in a relationship with one of these pseudo prudes before. This kind of thing is grounds to consider her crazy. Never fuck/relationship a crazy girl.
Jesus christ you're either a fucking beta cuck or a gr8 b8.
>knowing her family..she's a virgin
I almost choked on my snickers. 404 this b8 thred. Finger the bitch or kys. Better safe than sorry. You're wasting years for some selfish cunt that tries to prove something that has no fucking value in our days
It's all mental. You think you need sex because you see sex. Monkey see monkey do.
Do you love this girl? Is she worth waiting for, aside from not putting out?
Then mindfuck yourself out of caring about sex dude.
Afraid that if you don't do it before marriage that after you're married your sexual kinks will clash?
Don't. If you end up marrying this girl and she is willing to suck your dick at will why do you think fucking would be different?
I would tease her asshole a little every once and a while maybe she will let you fuck her ass, mine did.
To answer the same question that keeps getting posted, she doesn't care about being abstinent, she cares about saving penetration till marriage. She's excited by the idea and wants it to be something she looks forward to as part of her wedding night.
She says that she'll feel cheated out of a magical wedding night if it's just more of the same. Like the night rolls around and we have sex like we always do, rather than experiencing something new
Call me a cuck if you want but I had the same situation as you, EXACTLY THE SAME.
I forced the issue and we fucked, and we are still together. But it literally changed nothing, i didn't feel different or better or more secure or any of the shit you may be hoping fucking will do.
Let her suck your dick like a firehose bro, don't fucking let your animal instincts command you.
For all you fucking know she could have already lost her virginity. Make her spread that gash wide so you can see it for yourself. You're gonna have a surprize on your wedding night when you find her loose as a sand bucket.
>you deserve your cuck fate
>we have sex like we always do, rather than experiencing something new
well shit son, that's what nipple clamps and kong vibrators are for. you can have normal sex now and surprise her on her wedding night.
That's funny considering first time vaginal penetration is painful and in general not enjoyable for most women. She better get herself a dildo and start breaking it in a couple weeks in advance if she wants the first time to be any good.
I've told her that as well. She knows it won't be enjoyable, and that it will probably be more of an awkward night than a magical one, but she still chooses to have that because "it's new"
It's the same thing. You have needs she ignores. It isn't about abstinence, or virginity. It's about the fact that she refuses to have sex. Think about for a minute... Your wedding night gets there and you go to put it in. She tells you to stop because it hurts too much. You'll live the rest of your life without sex. And yes, sex for first time almost always hurts them. Remember only about 25% of women have a G spot. Also, only about 5-20% of women reach orgasm through penetration.
And then you will have a wedding party and unless you have money flowing out of your ears to pay to someone who would take care of organizing everything, you both will be so exhausted on your wedding night that having sex is the last thing you'd want to do. Especially if it is your first time and should be really memorable and amazing.
Your gf is living in a fantasy world, OP.
She's saying you're the one but holding back anon. You're willing to put everything into the relationship but she's not. If she wanted to she could break up tomorrow and not be phased by it at all. What has she said the reason is for not wanting to have sex?
This guy is a cuck. I felt shit when I was in a relationship and not having sex. I would occasionally feel like I'd been nurtured or leashed when we were messing around but I "wasn't allowed" to put it in. It also felt really shit when I got hit on because I felt it should be within my right to bring a bitch home and fuck her, since my gf wasn't providing something I wanted. NOT having sex in a relationship is NOT healthy, especially if she's teasing. Anyone telling you that "busting a nut is busting a nut" is an idiot.
I gotta go, but >>684129340
I didn't say we aren't sexually active. She is cool with me fucking her ass is all. And dude, in 10 years you'll be married or you won't be and all this stupid shit you're blasting /b/ with will feel so fucking far away.
Anyways man do what you want. I couldn't stop myself from forcing it on her and you probably won't either. But I'm just telling you, the morning after, you won't be feeling 100% better. See ya.
Losing your virginity as a girl is not an enjoyable experience. It will hurt and she will cry and if you try to go too far she's going to think sex is terrible and not want to do it again. On top of that it takes a lot of time both to comfortably take someones virginity and also get accustomed to what they enjoy from sex. It's as much of a step in getting to know someone as sharing intimate personal knowledge with each other and don't let anyone fool you into thinking it isn't.
For me and my gf we spent about a month penetrating her, a little bit at a time, to going into full swing for about 5 minutes at a time and going through in which positions she felt most comfortable and how long it took her to be wet enough for sex.
Today we have a healthy sexual relationship and I know everything from how much foreplay she wants to how long she can I can hit her cervix for before it becomes too much pain for her.
>Btw we're both virgins, if that makes a difference
It does make a big difference. If you're both virgins then you can't miss what you never had.
>this lack of sex leaves me longing for more, both physically and the emotional bond that forms when you fuck someone you truly love
you don't know it, virgin. stop reading cosmo faggot. "this lack of sex" aka your life and everything you know? you talk about sex and making love like you know shit about it, which you don't.
Wait till marriage 2-3 years of not fucking wont make a difference. you're already a cuck that never had his dick touched so might as well invest in a bitch that is as incompetent as you are in the subject. Not to mention the upside that she doesn't have miles of dick in her odometer.
endure it and shut the fuck up. The way you stand you will most likely wont be able to convince any other woman to fuck you since you're such a loser that even the woman that loves you isn't willing to do it either.