I'm well off on my own, but you wanna know what I feel /b/
I feel useless, A friend of mine is >>684124461
And I can't help them.
Like how does someone just forget how to love after 2 months lol
mine was 2 years, went on exchange and POOF!
how long was yours?
I'm over it, got together with a girl that was hotter and smarter, then another that was hotter and smarter, and now i'm on my third.
you'll get over it too
It's only been a year since I've known her but we've been like in on-and-off relationships ever since, I rejected 2 other girls that actually wanted to be with me for this woman, and now she can't even see herself being with me anymore, I just want to get over her and be done, I don't think I'll ever even get just 1 more girl to like me
You can you will. You have to move on though. Just got out of a two year and it sucks man. Start focusing on things you like. All I do is play dark souls work out and cook anymore. Try not to get shit faced with friends. Time slowly to fucking slowly helps. Focus on you and just cut contact
It's because they don't know what love it. It wasn't love in the first place. It was just puppy love. Women love the idea of love so they throw it around because it makes them feel good. But actual love stays when things get hard, and it don't give up.
Don't believe girls when they say they love you. Only believe them when they show it. And don't say it back until you know it.
I've been trying but I just can't bring myself up to it, I need to motivate myself but I just don't have anything to do it.
Distracting myself with le funny may mays XD doesn't help as much as it did when I was just lonely, I didn't know it hurt more to lose love than to never have it
But we tried so many times, if it was puppy love then we would have been done after the first time, but it continued man.
It's a picture of a guy waiting for death. Not literally waiting for a train to hit him.
Do you have aspergers?
So like ive been really close friends with this girl for literally too much of my short pathetic life. About 15/19years, literally two peas in a pod. Everyone made jokes that wed get married and have kids and stuff. The sad thing is i really could see it, like picture a life with her, its weird because at the same time i know she cant see me in a romantic light. Been a bit of an asshole to her because idk how to express my emotions, she called me out on it and i explained to her like "dude im dumb in love with you, and im just trying to get over it." i was being an ass to herhjust to create a little distance. She replied with "okay. I feel you dude." that was a couple weeks ago and i havent heard anything from her since, it hurts /b/, it hurts bad.
>Unrequited love just a fancy word for friendzoned
Probably a shitty story for you all to read, but I wanted to share what's fucked me the past month and a half
>19 guy who's never had a relationship before
>Actively alone, and it's pretty much a state of norm for me at this point
>Although still wishing to have a girlfriend as I don't think any girl has truly loved me before. Vise versa.
>Part of it is probably due to confidence
>I've lived in a household where my Dad would constantly make it seem like I was a bad person for not helping him with his home business
>Turned myself into someone who would never stand up for myself, rather just laugh off insults I received from other students and etc
>Too socially fucked to try picking up a girl in person, so I turn to online dating
>Find a girl
>Cute, puts work into every reply she makes, sounds kind, and just seems like a fucking angel
>A month and a bit passes and we decide to meet up
>She lives an hour away, but I have no problem with it
>On the train trip to see her and I'm constantly happy and excited, something I haven't felt in quite some time
>I meet her
>Everything I expected, pretty much a reflection of myself
>Laughing at everything, happy to be in my company, and has that same social awkwardness as me
>It goes great, so we meet up again the next week
>Take her around my town, have coffee, movies, some drinks
>First legitimate kiss
>Incredible feeling to have, even though I was a bit drunk
>Wave her from the train and I come back home the happiest I've ever been
>The next few days I talk to her for a while and she says she can't see me next week as she's staying with her Grandparents
>Doesn't bother me much
>Midway through the week she upgrades the status to she can't see me until the end of the month as she has an important interview she has to study for
>At this point I'm breaking down a little bit, but I think to myself "better late than never, she's the greatest girl I've met, I can wait"
>3 weeks pass
>Her interview is over and I'm expecting to hang out again
>Ask her out on another date..
>Brothers going away party, so postponed another few days
>My smile is cracking, but she still seems legitimately excited to see me, so I'm not too phased
>Next day passes
>Everything blows up in my face
>She says she's been accepted into the defense force earlier than expected, (The interview she was studying for).
>The job that was offered is at the end of next month, and I won't see her again afterwards
>I just feel weak
>Every feeling I expressed, and all the happiness I've felt the past month seemed to be draining away
>I put on a brave smile and express that even if it's for a small time, I'll just be happy that she wants to spend some of that time with me
>She's happy to, and "plans to come up to meet me again"
>Next few days pass and I've noticed the messages spacing apart a bit
>Tells me that she won't be able to see me until a weeks time because her brother is going away and doesn't want to leave him
>Apologizes for dragging me along
>Accept the apology as the messages continue to space apart
>A week passes
>Only one message each day
>I've thought about her every day for a month and a half
>Everyday I've messaged her
>She hasn't messaged me back today..
>Or the day before
>What did I say?
>What did I not say?
>She was going to hang out with me again right?
>Before she leaves for good?
>When you inject so much time and love into someone or something just to have it blow up in your face.
Those are the moments that hurt the most.
We've all been there, good luck with it.
>so be me, introvert
>known a girl for 11 years
>moved to another place, haven't seen her for 7 years
>finally met 2 years ago
>writing, meeting as often as we can
>wanting to tell her that I live her but I can't, fuckin introvertism
>she's propably dating my friend
>I still love her
>haven't told her yet
So Anons, I fuckin fucked up. Just want her to be happy..
don't be too pushy, you'll regret it
the advice i'd give to you based on my experiences - give her freedome
although it could be that she wants you to be pushy just to make sure that you really want it
however i don't think i'm the most reliable advisor with my paranoid personality disorder lmao
>Be me, 19
>Literally fucked up every relationship with any girl I've had interest in
>Parents express their 'worries' for me frequently because my 16 year old sister has a partner and I don't
>Tried to have someone but family didn't like her
>Now I just fuck her every now and again
>Found another who distanced herself
>had one I still can't stop thinking about
>Had one who left to live in Scotland
>Lack any motivation to do damn near anything
>Lost almost all friends
>Pre much just want to an hero and get it over with
I don't even know why I want to die, I just don't really see the appeal in living
I still appreciate the advice for it.
I probably was pushy, but honestly it was the only way to get her on those dates in the first place..
Then again, who the fuck knows what goes through a girls mind when she doesn't reply back.
might've posted this the other day
am still confused about her
>meet girl online
>text for a month back n forth
>decide to meet up
>very pretty girl
>same kind of humor
>spends 3 days at my house
>we have a lot of fun, go to the movies, friends party, sex
>continue to meet up for the next 5 months
>just before christmas tells me she cant do it anymore
>gets back together with her ex
>3 months pass without any form of contact
>slowly start texting again
>i get "i've missed you in my life" messages
>some more of those kind of texts
>ask her if she'*s happy
>she says overall yes
i asked her why she's still so unsure about how she decided
she told me she "isn't unsure" and buts two texts with "it was beautiful with you" after that
what is up with this girl, besides obviously trying to either get me to tell her i want her back or keeping me on the back burner?
If you put distance towards a girl, she'll want you back. That's just how it works.
They crave what they don't have.
If she's "unsure" about how she feels about then her only motivation for contacting you is only because you've distanced yourself.
I cant be fucked to do a greentext story rn, but only recently my grandfather passed away from a 5 year battle with Alzheimers and some other shit...
pretty much I tried my hardest to help him, I tried so fucking hard to put more and more good memories of me before he passes away... and too see him on his death bed, not knowing who anyone was, only to know me, my mum and my gran made me feel so fucking happy... that was the last day I saw him alive... I wish I could of said one last fucking good bye... I want him to see my fiance' who fell pregnant 2 days after his passing, i want to see him there for my wedding.
fucking Christ i miss him...
Backup plan sounds like . She may get back with you but as soon as it gets anything other than great she's gonna bounce. Had the same shit happen with my ex wife and the second time was pure pain worse than the first time she left. Anyway, if u wanna try be my guest but be very VERY cautious and pay close attention to any red flags.
that disease is beyond cruel, i cant fucking imagine how it would feel to forget everything, to forget absolutely everything, forever repeating the same day forever questioning whats happening, who certain people are you've known for your entire life and to never realise who tehy actually are... to ahve your precious memories swept away so quickly by such a cruel disease, to make your family watch and suffer as they slowly watch the person you once were disappear as time passes.
>dating a beautiful woman for 3 years, serious for 2 years
>she is an exchange student from poland
>she is from a fairly poor family, all money being spent on her university degree
>i helped her with her schooling, tuition, assignments, thesis, and would send her money to eat when she couldn't afford
>i was like her guardian angel
>get engaged this past September with a lavish trip
>she goes back to poland to finish her degree
>everything seems to be going fine, still in love, still writing love letters, still talking daily
>she gets an internship and meets a muslim man (i found this out later) in december
>communication starts breaking down in late january/early february
>after i send her last chapter of the thesis to her, she cuts off all contact suddenly for 10 days on Valentine's day
>try contacting her mom, force her to get back to me
>10 days later, she breaks up THROUGH EMAIL
>1 week after break-up she calls me out of the blue
>"anon i think we've been having these problems because there is someone else i want to be with. don't ever try contacting me again"
>fast-forward 1 week later, ex's new muslim boyfriend mails me back the gifts i sent
>i take the love letters (that i written for her) that she and her bf sent back to me and watch them burn with my two best buddies looking on
pic related. the love letters over the years that i had written for her.
nah, it's not the sex what i'm clinging onto, it's her, the way i could talk to her freely, the easiness between us
every other girl has tits and a pussy, but she had more then that to offer
ITT: a bunch o whining pussies who cant deal with the facts of life. If you were smart, youd see that theres no borders in life, and that you could do anything you want thats physically possible.
Youre all stuck, frozen in what you feel is important, nowhere to go but up and down. Get your head out of your ass and start living life, you only have one.
Ask yourself this; is what youre doing right now, what you want to remember in the future as your past life? Im guessing no, so start changing shit. Are you mice or men? Do you controll your life? Do the drugs controll your life? Does your insecurities? Does you parents? Does your gf/bf? Does anyone but you? No, its all in your hands, so start using them.
>hear about contest to win Xbox 1
>can have up to 4 people to a team
>dad, mom, and sister enlist with me
>take place on multiple days
>"First to find X today gets the most points!"
>having great time with family
>air men come to our door after a day at the park
>brother has died in an on base shooting
>mom starts crying
>dad comforts her
>I can't believe it
>run out door with tears down my face
>go to bridge
>write out last words
>"Hey anon, just wanted to text you and say I'm alright. There was a shooting on base but it wasn't in my area. Didn't know if you saw the news or not. Can't wait to see you when you come for graduation!"
there is nothing wrong with you in the sense that you are mad or crazy, you just suppress your emotions. you started this at an age where you couldn't handle those emotions and you just continued doing so even now at an age where you could handle them.
nigger she played you, and then she dropped you for her ex. how do you think how truthful she was when she talked about her "hobbies and interests"? dude she just acted like she likes you because she needed someone. she didn't like you, she is just unhappy to the point where nobody can fulfull her needs anymore, thats why she goes back and forth between you and her ex.
you don't do it consciously, thats where you need the shrink. you started it as a child and then it just went on in your life, and now it slowly erodes your life away cus you can't feel anything anymore, may it be good or bad feelings.
I dont anymore, since I am alone all the time.
no she just told you what you wanted to hear. think about it, wasn't it a bit too perfect with her? she laughs at every dumb joke you make, she likes everything you like? wasn't it all a bit too perfect to be true
>do you want to hang out later today? It's okay if you don't want to just tell me :^)
>What's your favorite animal?
>after talking it ends in lol, she doesn't even ask what my favorite animal is ;(
Is not about who hurt you, but why did you think it was gonna be different?
thats indeed a red flag you fucking idiot, god damn how stupid can you be? she totally played you. she just wanted to see if you are better than her ex, and as soon as she saw you are just a human too she went back to him because he finally managed to make her feel so bad about the breakup that she went back to him just to not feel the guilt anymore.
looks like i still have something on me thats better than her ex, if she keeps texting me
>because he finally managed to make her feel so bad about the breakup that she went back to him just to not feel the guilt anymore.
well, in this i agree with you here, she did feel guilty for breaking up with him, but imo, it will end sooner or later, once again.
This is not cool anon. Why did you expose me to this?
ok here is my final verdict: she wanted to be away from him and tells you what you want to hear because she needs somebody and that somebody was you, out of pure luck. then her ex keeps texting guilt into her underdeveloped brain until she regrets what she did and finally gets back to him. now guess what she regrets now? you are right, she regrets getting back to him becaus he is still an abusive asshole, and thats why she needs to get away from him again... and the circle is complete
Meh. why are people saddened by this? how pathetic do you have to be to be able to relate to this? have gf now, but even before i did, i never felt lonely. even when i'm on my own. hell, i like spending lots of time alone
she didn't have contact you know of you idiot, and you don't know shit. she lies to you all the fucking time, she is not honest. she just needs SOMEONE, not YOU. sorry anon if you feel special cus she picked you as her saviour, but its all made up and nobody can really save her. beside a therapist maybe.
This describes my situation fairly well. To be honest im sort of praying for something like this to happen to me.
bahwahahahahaha...well yea kinda..
HAHAHA but loool, /b/ is full of ppl who feel nothing [well more like one constant depression] anyway, so it doesnt matter
but until a few 1-2 years ago, i really could hardly give a fuck for oooh no one say he/she loves you,, like i thought thats retarded, not like its a big thing.. then i got a job, and there was that girl, i could actually talk with
well she has a husband and all,, im not creepy or anything, [and neither have a girlfriend obviously or being super hot] but, i dunno, she is kinda sweet, and sometimes i imagine if she would say that that would feel awesome...
but then again... if she dont well big thing, i guess it could be worse, its just stay the same as before.. buuut ye, i can understand some ppl would like it, or dont like it not being said
Not sure what sort of music you're into but these always give me feels.
Most feely song I've ever heard though was "Amazing Grace"; might seem cheesy to Americans but where I live in Northern England I always thought of it as an old Scots hymn like "Abide with me" or "Only remebered"
>Cousin and his father (a man who I was close to but not directly related) die within a space of a few weeks
>cousin dies of brain tumour
>His Father dies of aspetosis a few weeks later
>Have Methodist funeral
>both times brightly lit church
>Female vicar who knew them both tells stories
>Tell story of my cousin putting his brother down a well to get his car keys and getting stuck
>Everyone laughs and stifles back the tears
>Beautiful atmosphere of happiness and joy topped off with "Oh lord Abide with me"
>Grandpas show falls apart on wya out everyone laughs
>Go up on the moorland to bury him
>talks about what David (cousins father) did in his life
>Friends at the cricket club
>old squaddies for his nation service days
>Same friendly atmosphere of happiness and sadness, celebrating life more than mourning death
>Three old women 65-80 years
>Stiffle to the front as sun shines through
>Sing Amazing grace with numerous imperfections and voice cracks
>We all stumbble out of the church to bury him beside his son
Till this day never been moved like that by man nor music.
she's stupid as fuck. do you really want to be with a personan that identify herself with that "I suck at loving, I'm not right, sorry for doing this to you, I guess I'm not made for love"
Do this favor to you and leave her already, she will be fine listening my chemical romance and feeling bad about herself... again. Because this is the catch, she will do it again, she will try to ruin everything to play again that pity character that she loves to act.