25 yr old Clinical Psychologist here to help. Free advice /b/, i'm bored go!
>>682820224
>25 yr old Clinical Psychologist
so basically you just started, go learn something and then come back
Do you think browsing 4chan is inherently detrimental to one's mental health?
>>682820224
cant talk to girls i dont know ... have a go
>>682820224
I was molested when I was 10 and I have been a sex maniac my whole life. How would you treat me.
>>682820696
chemical castration
>>682820444
yes. You already have to be damaged to come here.
>>682820529
just stalk them in a non-intimidating way. In time a soft bond will be established.
>>682820396
I've already commited 12 people into the permanent psychiatric ward.
>>682820224
Alright why do I keep fucking women that have bf or husbands? Not trying to bang taken chic's but it just keeps happening
>>682820986
>chemical castration
You are not very good at what you do.
>>682820224
How can i over come my social anxiety? It's pretty severe. I have been living in my bedroom for 6 years, i don't go outside. Ever.
>>682820986
I'm having trouble taking this seriously
>>682820986
how to start the conversation then , i have no clue
>>682820224
I started seeing a woman 3 months ago.
Since then, we have fallen in love.
Since falling in love, I have started overthinking things I do around her, and feeling apologetic for them.
I'm not like this outside of our relationship, and she has given me no reason to feel this way, that I am aware of.
I think I have deep feelings of fear of her leaving me for some shortcoming, and I can't take another one of those.
What do I do to stop feeling this way?
I'm trying to be conscious about everything I say, but sometimes I slip and say something, like "sorry" for something that I'm not really sorry for. I think it's more that I want to gauge her reaction all of the time to things that I'm unsure of.
This is a weak issue, I know, but any help would be good.
>>682820995
you probably have a gene defect on your y-chromosome. It produces a subgroup of pheromones that attract females that are already in a relationship.
You can mask that by spraying yourself with two bottles of axe body spray per day.
No married woman will come close to you when you do that.
>>682820224
How do i get over my anxiety. Everytime i go outside i sweat like a maniac and i walk funny because i feel watched and judged. How do i get past this torture? I can't even go on a date without looking like a twitchy wreck. I am the most calm and balanced person while i'm indoors or at home, but when i go in public i die inside.
>>682820444
it depends - the constant refreshing and search for instant gratification laughs and positive emotions - yes, kills attention span and ability to form functional relationships. the casual browsing and having a laugh no.
>>682820529
only child? go to a mixed school? level of intelligence and attractiveness? give me more bro...
>>682820696
whats wrong with being a sex maniac? it it disrupting your life in any way?
>>682820986
pretending to be OP is a dickmove
>>682820995
sense of forbidden fruit and underlying feeling of this is wrong is exciting and powerful. a wonderful release from the mundane vanilla relationships
>>682821289
Kek I will try that
>>682821167
why not? what is it you are afraid of?
>>682820224
How do you deal with a gf that has a hostile dependency problem?
>>682821218
She's dominating you subconsciously. You are not aware of it. try to observe her for behaviour that secretly orders you around. her body language will tell a lot about that.
>>682821396
>whats wrong with being a sex maniac? it it disrupting your life in any way?
Other than the fact that I have fucked 3 dozen whores in countless brothels and spend way too much time looking at porn, no.
>>682821396
2 childs i am number 1, studying master 2nd year , not the most popular kid , but nut ugly at all
>>682821580
She is middle eastern and waits on me hand and foot.
I determine everything, and whatever I determine is fine by her.
I can't imagine anything she does is ordering me around.
I will observe with this in mind though, just in case.
>>682821331
the key to this is literally something you find everyday on 4chan, and that is that nobody gives a fuck about you, and you shouldnt give a fuck about anybody else. simple as that. nobody is watching or judging you, because they are too busy worrying about what everyone thinks of them. be who you are. proud and unafraid. if some people dont like that let them, karma will get them back eventually.
>>682821396
>>682821396
>pretending to be OP is a dickmove
stop pretending you are me.
if you want to give advice go to >>>/adv/
>>682821517
be as friendly as you can. smile every time she shouts at you for example.
>>682821331
Pull your chin on your chest, flail your arms like a windmill and scream WOLOLOLOWLOLOLOLO when you step outside.
>>682821687
so then why aren't you popular do you think? too quiet? not funny? not kind?
>>682821840
Oh, okay. I guess I'll just have to ramp up my reading on stoic philosophy and try not to end up all passive aggressive towards her. Thanks, doc.
>>682821829
Thanks, it really helps.
>>682820224
tits?
>>682822019
How does that help?
I have social anxiety, and this is every layman's response.
> just ignore it
That's not possible with legit social anxiety. That's why it is an issue.
>>682821396
Thanks is there a tell or something that should take notice if a chic has a boyfriend or husband?
>>682821493
I got jumped by my areas "hard cunt" him and 10 of his friends. Put me in the hospital for awhile, didn't go out the first couple of years for fear of seeing them again. Now i think i am just scared to socialize period. I slide my money under the door and tell the pizza guy to leave it at the door, same with groceries and anything else i need..
>>682820986
>I've already commited 12 people into the permanent psychiatric ward.
>See, this makes me a good psychiatrist
>>682821984
i am kinda shy , i have friends but , i havent got anny girls in my class for 6 years now so its hard for me to make contact
>>682822134
OP will deliver
>>682822227
he's not saying ignore it, its the frame of min you need to overcome dipshit
>>682822276
just back off before I have you committed, too.
I got friends at the cyberpolice.
I have Borderline Personality Disorder.
Should I just kill myself?
>>682822227
Dunno man, i'm hanging on to every breadcrumb of hope. Summer's almost here, a girl asked me out, and i feel like i'm going to spontaneously combust everytime i go out. It's frustrating.
>>682822019
>>682822227
He's right, it doesn't help. You have to treat the underlying issues, like, do you think too much of how others perceive you? Do you believe you are less than others? Is it just that you don't have social experience? Etc.
>>682822433
Yes, and how you overcome it should be the answer, not
> get over it
but
> how
>dipshit
>>682820224
How can I possibly improve my life experience (get fit, find a rewarding career, etc.) when I'm constantly aware of my lack of agency (i.e. that free will is an illusion)? I'm essentially watching my life and I feel powerless to make any kind of significant, positive change.
>>682822456
no.
>>682820224
im in a serious relationship and im very happy and in love, but somtimes is till get horny from other girls I meet. Ill regret breaking up with her just to get some ass, but I might get anxious being with her and not getting any other ass. Do i cheat? Do i fap? what do i do
>>682822433
That might be quite difficult for anyone harboring, y'know, a mental illness.
>>682822590
You know how I am FINALLY getting by?
Drugs. RX SSRI + 1 other
I take Lexapro & Wellbutrin
I feel like a new fucking person.
I have absolutely NO abnormal anxiety now.
I can go right up to any person at any time, or even a group, and just start talking to them with no fear, very little jittery feeling, nothing like this.
I feel like I was given a new life to begin again at 35.
I had dealt with this for the past 15 years.
It slowly grew until last year I finally had enough, and decided that I couldn't overcome it by myself.
The counseling, however, was useless.
>>682820986
>just stalk them in a non-intimidating way. In time a soft bond will be established
TOPKEK
>>682822650
Yes, i do overthink everything.
No, i don't think that way about myself or others, but i am a bit aware about how i walk. It's nothing wrong about my walk, but i feel like it's forced, it's weird. Like it's not my walk. And the hands...i always have a backpack with me, always empty so i can keep it around me, i don't know what to do with my hands.
the girl im most interested in is a massive bitch who depresses everyone she is around by being intoxicatingly nice then suddenly cold and angry
Insults bother me a ton. I care a lot what people think cause. I sometimes obsess over insults from the past and can't help but imagining really hurting the person who insulted me or even killing them. I'm afraid that one day I'll hurt someone and end up in jail over some petty insult.
How can I let go of this anger?
I believe I have mild social anxiety and aspergers too if that means anything.
Ive been bullied from age 14 - 15 , kinda traumatised me and ever since ive been a loner and find it difficult to form social connections and have major trust issue's.
What would your advice be?
>>682820224
Is it a good idea to take psychological advice from some random person making empty claims on 4chan?
>>682823122
Never tried any medication, but i tried alcohol before going out. It's a bit better when i feel dizzy.
>>682823422
I'll take anything at this point
i bite my lips and inside my mouth, my fingernails and constantly wiggle, shake my leg or something.
>>682823448
I drank before social encounters religiously before I had enough of that. It's taxing. Then, I just didn't go out anymore. Then the symptoms increased. Then I became depressed. Then I got into bad drugs. Then everything got worse. Then I gave up. Then I did what I should have done all along, and went to get medicated by a doctor.
>>682820224
so i am having a problem taking myself to the next level. i have started two companies by myself, both are still new, and i have a few customers, but they are not profitable yet. i think i set myself for failure on purpose, not sure why, i have big dreams. i see these other "clueless" business men making more money and business than me, i know i can kick their ass, but when push comes to shove, i just dont. I dont know, i am thinking of joining the scientologist or some shit to get business
I tripped acid and ever since I see this man "Sir Lethal" in my head and he talks to me and I think he created the universe as a torture device for me. I get in these weird periods where I feel "connected" to him and everyone seems evil and out to get me. Whats wrong and how do I turn back to normal
>>682823708
Stop doing acid, start working out and drink tea at least once every 3 days.
>>682823896
I've stopped doing drugs. Why the working out and tea drinking?
>>682820224
>3 years of relationship
>she lost her drive for sex like completely
>what do?
>>682823241
she might have european twoface syndrome.
Just ignore it.
>>682823243
Learn to verbally insult back. Let your anger out with words. Be a master of insults and destroy their self-confidence.
>>682823365
Join the boyscouts
>>682823422
no. see my answers so far.
>>682823625
try lollipops or pacifiers.
>>682823683
perseverance is the key for successful businesses. stop comparing yourself with the failures of other people. seek positive synergy through the harmony inside the nature of economy.
>>682823708
stop acid is good advice. get tested for schizophrenic disorder or psychosis.
It seems the real OP left the thread.
Anyone wishes some more bullshit answers that make kinda sense?
>>682823969
Working out reduces stress and making and drinking tea will clear your head for a while. Replace the tea with whatever makes you feel comfortable.
I'm afraid of flying, but in a few weeks I have to fly for 3 hours (vacation)
I managed to obtain Ativan 10x2.5mg - how much should I (6'2", 240lbs) take to stop all anxiety?
How will it feels after I took a pill?
>>682824306
how did you obtain those pills?
you should have obtained them from a licensed M.D. who could have answered all those questions.
Ask a pharmacist.
Why did you waste your time with that degree? Do you think you're doing medicine or science?
>>682822792
Still this, OP. How does one cope with the understanding that free will is an illusion when their life feels insubstantial and unrewarding?
>>682824138
>perseverance is the key for successful businesses. stop comparing yourself with the failures of other people. seek positive synergy through the harmony inside the nature of economy.
thanks
>>682824138
>no. see my answers so far.
are all of them "don't listen to me, i have no idea what i'm doing"?
>>682820224
OK so I'm married I'm 32 sexlife is weak because my wife has feminine issues causes pain in her overys so I masterbate daily problem is I seem to gravitate twords the 16-20 group but disgusted by anything younger would never do anything in real life should I worry?
Why do people think psychology is a valid science?i
>>682824463
How can that be an understanding? It is another illusion. And what does it hinder you from doing?
I'm never satisfied with anything except for the occasional drive through the night or some of my friendships. I have this insatiable hunger to better myself and the people around me. Unfortunately, it upsets people that I'm constantly trying to change things. It does cause over analysis as well, which can lead to some anxiety and it affects my sleep. Any advice to help me relax a bit?
>>682824463
age old advice.
you only get out what you put in.
stop avoiding endeavours that could bring a reward because you are afraid you have no control over the outcome ("no free will"). Because if you follow that pattern you will enter a self-fullfilling prophecy.
>>682824582
kinda. But I try to make sense when it sounds serious.
>>682824749
Clarify? You jerk off to pics and vids of that age group? As long as you stay out of illegal zone I see no problem. Don't act on it in real life though.
>>682824940
What makes a science valid in your eyes?
I may be cured if you show your tits doc
>>682825153
Well part of that age group is illegal 16 17
>>682825126
Just relax
>>682820224
BP-1 /w psychotic features here.
Besides keeping up with the meds and cbt, anything I can do to improve my situation?
Also how does it feel to steal alice's thunder?
>>682820224
How can I stop myself from doing nothing at work? All I do is browse FB and /b/ all day. Even though my job has the potential to make me lots of money, I feel no motivation to do it, because it's cold calling and requires lots of prep and to actually think about what I'm talking about, rather than just veg and absorb information.
Seriously.
Help me.
My co-workers make 250G a year, and I could be too, but all I'm doing is vegging like a fucking moron.
hello mr psyche.
how do i cure paranoia
and no i dont smoke weed, clean for 3 months now.
>>682825126
Stop trying to change over people because that is not your problem.
Offer help if they ask for it but don't push it.
Concentrate on yourself.
>>682825291
this is me. Just took it now. I swear.
>>682825339
Do they have to be nude for your fapping pleasure?
>>682825479
seek a real life professional.
Your course sounds good so far.
Usually generic advice like taking care of diet and excercising helps. Meditation and long walks, too.
>>682825640
Just realise why you are "vegging".
Do you actually like that job? What would happen if you pulled yourself together and succeeded? Is the prep part the most difficult one? Is that why you avoid it. Then git gud at it.
>>682820224
rape?
>>682820396
first post, best post
>>682826237
Bullshit
>>682826237
Sometimes nude sometimes just finding their sexuality lip biting, bekini, down blouse
>>682826237
I'm vegging because I'm lazy. Because I like learning more than doing. I like thinking of new ideas, being creative, etc.
When I do repetitive task work (like in the office) I feel like I'm wasting my time. I enjoy my job, and I like my co-workers, I just don't feel like I'm at my full potential, and to me, the money isn't worth the creative restriction imposed on me.
>>682820224
sometimes a see like "ghost" or some shit like that behind doors or in the middle of the hall but like 0.1 sec of this "ghost"
I've had issues trying to interact with people, trust people and make new friends/chit chat.
I used to be able to and just get by but im sure it has to do with the greentext true story:
>>be me march 2nd this year
>>come home from work
>>have conversation about work with mom
>>mom is a disabled nurse, on all kinds of pain meds with a habit of 3-5 32 oz glasses of 4-5 fingers of vodka w/ ginger ale. (pic related, its an exact copy of the glass)
>>conversation gets heated as expected
>>she condescends me as per usual, undermining and belittling anything i have to say about anything
>>I lose my shit, say stuff I didn't want to
>>she fires back with something just as hurtful.
>>I call my best friend since elementary school and cry/vent
>>anoncalmthefuckdownshesdrunk&loaded.jpg
>>I calm down
>>hear noise that makes my blood run cold
>>sound of a shotgun being loaded, then racked.
>>walk into room my mom is loading her 20 ga. shotgun. laying in her lap pointed at the wall.
>>mom whats with the shotgun?
>> "go away!"
>>ask again, she rotates the shotgun to her right side on her lap, barrel now pointed in my direction.
>>ask ahain
>>"GET THE FUCK OUT!!"
>>friend still on phone in pocket
>>all a blur, but a got the shotgun out of her hand. She squeezed the trigger during the midst of this and my friend said he heard her pull the tirgger.... I think he was right.
>>piece of shit step dad gets in the middle not understanding the whole situation and takes the shotgun. takes her side...
>>I call the cops, next 3 days police escort and got all my shit out.
>> I moved out and have not spoken to them in 2 months now.
I feel inept to getting into a relationship and I have considered just a FWB who is trustworthy but I dont know whats wrong with me, am I PTSD??
Where are you from OP?
>>682826360
what part is bullshit?
>>682826483
well after a certain age you can't really tell how old they are. Just pretend that some 18 year olds are 16. Imagine the girl in this pic is 17.
>>682826535
That working through that boring part is what brings those other guys those 250g
You have to decide if it's worth it to you.
but you have to put in grunt work in every job no matter how creative it is.
>>682826565
>>682826334
seek professional help.
>>682826824
hey that's a really serious problem. I'm not OP. and can't you give any meaningful advice.
Please copy your post verbatim to >>>/adv/
there are more serious people there than me.
If you have the means seek professional counsel.
>>682827434
swedish micronesia.
>>682820224
Dear 25 year old with very little life experience,go fuck off until you've lived some life,nugget.
>>682827484
i'm a lil afraid of that, "ghost" guy here, and it's not the only one i see sometines... and i think i have some kind of "TOC" too
>>682827639
OP has left the thread some time ago.
All that's left is me Dr. Bullshit.
MODS please shut this thread down
>>682827939
you could have some form of psychosis. seek professional counsel. stay off of any drugs.
If you have proper medication take that or seek it from an official source.
I'M OUT.
>>682821149
Nah, they're either trolling/not actuallytrained to be a psych.
>>682821331
I also have social anxiety, and although it's often recommended that you do more of what makes you anxious in order to grow used to it(liketalking to people, for example), if it's happening every day and the intrusive thoughts have yet to diminish through exposure, discussing the history leading to the onset of said anxiety with an impartial individual (read: not family/friends) can help you get insight and form effective coping tactics. behavioral therapy is the single most effective treatment for agoraphobia. Until then, focus on deep breathing when overwhelmed.
>>682823243
Does asking yourself why that situation made you angry help you at all? Have you tried to view actions/situations from another point of view? maybe if you change your mental focus when encountering those feelings hostility-by switching between thinking about it and not thinking about it you can adjust the input of information and in that way modulate your emotional response. Try to release pent up anger through a hobby or exercise.
>>682823422
Whoever it is, they are not trying to help anyone.
>>682827484
decent /b/ros still exist, thanks anyways. ill take that advice.
>>682828336
Thank you! Deep breathing it is.
God-tier movie recommendations anyone?
>>682821396
are your initials ad? are you based in the north island?
>>682820224
i was 4 weeks in the psychiatry station, suffering from mental ocd in form similar to PTSD and depression with repressed aggression
i suffered my whole live but the last 6 years in total fucked mode, i learned to live with it only to get it crushed again because of stupid docs and eggheads messing with my mind now
"you need to go with your problems to free yourself!"
i told that bitch that my mind was focused on pictures of her getting strangled and her dead naked body squished in a closet but she insisted that i should let my guard down...
i collapsed from the extreme stress of repressing it
after 4 weeks i left them and told them they made me sicker than i was before but they actually just laughed
so my question, should i repress everything and isolate me or should i really let my thoughts loose? because shit would go down if i do im pretty sure
>>682823232
I don't normally come out of lurking but holy shit I really can relate to you. I have to look in the reflection of windows to see if I look funny while I walk, if I get a funny look I start to think that It's because I am walking weird or something about me is odd. And of course the hands, wtf do I do with them? I just end up letting them hang there like some sort of monkey.
>>682823232
>>682830033
Snap makes 3. Tamazepam helped coming offf zanax almost made me kms
>>682830033
Exactly. I need to carry something, anything. If i go outside empty handed i start to sweat even more. I usually rip off the small tree branches or pick up a leaf and keep it in my hand. If i hear people laughing i feel like i'm the target of their laughter, even though that's probably not true. Probably.
>>682830849
>>682831005
How do you guys deal with getting hair cuts, I can't fucking deal with having to stare at myself in the mirror, it's so awkward I feel like I look odd just fucking staring around the place.
>>682831866
The same person has cut my hair for most of my life, he's good. I'm a narcissists I find that part easy.
>>682832681
>>682831866 (You)
I am not uncomfortable with how I look, I am pretty attractive and could have a one night stand at any time I'd want to. I can stare at my reflection in my flat for hours, it's fine I like the way I look. But when I'm out and about it becomes an insecurity and that stops me from going out on dates ect.
>>682827484
I think part of it is the excitement that they are under age
>>682831866
I ask my brother to cut my hair. Never went to a barber in my life