Ask a p-psychologist anything!
I'm h-here for you, Anonymous...
I fell for someone who doesn't feel the same way about me.
How to get over her asap? It bothers me almost all the time.
I've been talking to a girl recently and she is all I can think about. If I'm not talking to her or with her it doesn't let me get anything done. It consumes me. No matter what I do, it gnaws at me in the back of my mind.
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>>682138806
You can't; the only real solution is time.
What are your hobbies, Anonymous? Might be a time to dive into them.
>>682138916
You tell her you like her and go from there.
>>682138806
Stop talking to your mom.
`he he ,
i always realy feel the need to kill people who annoy me,
like at the moment a girl 17 years old is sow annoying as fuck that i just want to stap hear 20 times you know..
is this normale for people to have, this is not a joke btw.
>>682139061
>What are your hobbies
I don't really have many hobbies. I study and work 7 days a week. On my free nights I get drunk.
I want to love and/or be loved. Problem is I have fantasized about love for so long my unrealistic expectations are hindering me. Do I stand a chance or just abandon all delusions of control and live my life alone?
>>682139270
Sounds like you've got more problems than just a girl; you are using her as a proxy problem.
Here's my question Anonymous: What do you want to do with your life?
>>682139247
EdGy
>>682139400
Why are those the only two options you think exist?
>>682138602
Any reason for this afternoon thread, Alice?
>>682139503
I just woke up from programming all night, so I figured I'd run a thread while in the shower.
Why, any problem?
>>682138602
Hello psychologist I came to you last week or week about me and my gf and how it feels like we were having intimacy issues not sex of course but affection wise. Well after the talk we had after the movies she is becoming more intimacy and last night blew me away by having a intimacy kiss that lasted a while and ended with french kiss that took me off guard completely and wasn't prepared for it. Just wanted to say thank you for advice and can't wait for next week for my birthday being with her.
>>682139405
>Sounds like you've got more problems than just a girl
I do but she made me forget about them. On the days I saw her I didn't feel like killing myself anymore.
>What do you want to do with your life?
I have a plan but the endgame is to help other people.
>>682139802
*smiles* Glad to have been of assistance, Anonymous.
>>682139842
So you fully admit that you are using her to cover your actual problems? That's a terrible way to live; help yourself before helping others.
Seek medical attention; you can't fill that void with other people forever. Get help before it consumes you.
>>682138602
okay, serious question:
>be me
>have gf
>gf gets pregnant
>homemade abortion (in poland abortions are illegal)
>break up
>me start drinking
>2 suicidal atemps
>3 years passes
>have a new gf
>have job
>why the hell I keep thinking about my exgf?
what could I do, p-psychologist?
I can't eat in pulbic
>>682138602
How do I tell the difference between depression and low-T?
>>682140059
You keep thinking about her because it was a huge traumatic experience that you feel both guilt, relief, and guilt over relief over.
Have you told anyone? Have you gone to a doctor or psych? You need someone to help you through this, Anonymous.
>>682140060
Is this a question? Yes you can; just put the food in your mouth and chew. Do you mean you have a phobia over it, or a physical disorder?
>>682140189
...there is no difference. Low T can cause depression.
>>682140189
Do you have manboobs?
Yes: Low-T
No: Depression
I often lie to people to make then think I'm happy. Why?
>>682140333
That is not even close to definitive, as low t with low estrogen will not cause breasts to grow.
>>682140379
Because you don't want to make them sad too. And you think your situation is impossible to improve.
Theres this girl who feels the same as I do for her but she won't show it and shes showing it to a huge ass fucking fuckboy. How do I get her to show her feelings
Help me.
>>682139794
You didn't have to share that if you didn't want to. Well, my issue is not being able to find a job that will enable me to be independent. I've applied to several over years but get no callbacks. I need some kind of event in my life to get over this malaise.
>>682138602
Any advice I try to give my girlfriend angers her.
All the advice is very reasonable.
She's 24 without a license so I nagged her for a month till she got it. Fought me everyday about it.
Now she eats nothing but sweets for the past 4 days, I tell her she needs real nutrients. She fights me everyday about it.
How do I get her to listen to reasonable advice?
>>682140059
>>682140247
I've had an over year treatment with Tegretol (I hope the spelling is ok) after visiting doctor. I've also told about this to my current gf (obvious without part with thinking about exgf). Wat do?
>>682140474
Hope you're having a good day Alice!
>>682140540
Hm. Do you have a LinkedIn? Good idea if you don't have a degree.
>>682140545
You can't; why do people think that manipulation will work on someone who doesn't want to change?
Why do you want her to do different things anyway? Does it annoy or harm you, or are you simply trying to change her because it is better for her?
>>682140585
...what are you taking the Tegretol to treat?
>>682140752
Can't complain too much <4
It's much better now that you are here, Anonymous.
>>682139969
>So you fully admit that you are using her to cover your actual problems?
I wouldn't say that. My depression stems from loneliness, inadequacy, and feeling of displacement. I've never fit in anywhere and I've never felt a "connection" to another person. Something about her was different though and she made me feel like I'm not all alone in this world. Like there are other people out there that I can actually talk to instead of feigning conversation.
This whole ordeal has just amplified my depression for a while (although I'm slowly moving towards the original level of depresison). I was just looking for a fast way back, you know.
>Get help before it consumes you.
Haha, could be too late. I've been the same way for 8 years.
>>682138602
Does long distance relationship ever work?
>>682140860
>>682140585
heavy depression.
>>682138963
What's "kys"?
>>682140922
Never too late, Anonymous. You just need to try.
I believe in you, and will cheer you the whole way~!
>>682140930
It did for me <4
>>682139467
As I said, I have created unrealistic fantasies of love. A loved one feels like the only salvation for the pit of isolation I have dug for myself. Also there ARE only 2 options: to have someone or not to have.
>>682141031
kill yoursefl. don't mind that idiot.
Had to kill my dog with my 2 hands 3 days ago, too poor to afford euthanasia and he was sick as fuck, vomiting blood and shitting blood too, having seizures.
How can i forget how he cried? i feel like shit
>>682141015
...Carbamazepine is not a treatment for depression of any kind. It's used for bi-polar and schizophrenia, off label, but not for depression.
Which makes sense, as it is an anti-convulsant.
>>682140860
Trying to change her because it is better for her and would also effect me from a change in her attitude.
Obviously not eating correctly could make her irritable.
>>682141051
No, there are billions of distinctions between to have someone and not to have someone. To have someone (but only on weekends) for example.
You need to change your perspective.
>>682141190
W-what? Why would you use your hands? That's literally the most personal and least effective way to do it....
>>682141304
That's her choice Anonymous; you gotta respect it, and if it is too much, leave. But you can't force her to change herself; only she can do that.
>>682140860
Re: >>682140540
How would a LinkedIn account work for me with or without a degree?
>>682141243
is it possible that my doctor diagnosed shizophrenia and did't tell me? to let me think optimistic?
that would be correct, sometimes my gf says that I beheave like a different person...
>I madly fall in love with him
>Everything is so nice
>He's my only reason to live (as I'm being diagnosed with severe depression and I was hospitalized for suicide attempt)
>He suddenly gets cold, distant, doesn't care about me or if we break up
>Eventually he breaks up and he says : I can only view you as a friend, nothing more
>Breaks my heart into million pieces
>Still love him, he wants me to texts him so he can see I'm doing good
>He's violent and hit me multiple times...
How do I get over him? I just can't view my life without him
>>682141434
Because i tried with a plastic bag, he broke it with his teeth and had to act quickly
>>682141617
For someone as weak as you the only way is too find someone else
>>682138602
How do i motivate myself , besides nofap ?
>>682141549
A LOT of eyeballs on LinkedIn, and a lot of head hunters who get quick paychecks for getting companies to hire you. You can also send out your resume to tons of people rather quickly.
What skills do you have, Anonymous?
>>682141606
If you are over 18, he HAS to tell you.
If not, why are you on 4chan?
>>682141617
....why did your doctor ever allow you to have only one reason to live? It sounds like you need to go back to therapy and tell them about this unhealthy obsession.
Don't let people hit you Anonymiss; you are worth more than that!
>>682141679
Jesus. That's fucking terrible. I'm sorry Anonymous, I'm so so sorry...
>>682141801
Nofap will DECREASE your motivation; fap to increase T levels and increase your motivation.
I've tried to create life since we last met. I found a nice planet to try it on.
The beings I produced turned out malformed. Disgusting and wrong. They seemed to be in a great deal of pain.
I killed them.
Did I do the right thing? Am I justified in taking away the life that I started, or did I act in arrogance?
>>682141889
>>682141606
I'm 26 now. I was 23 when it happened. What do you suggest to do, sir?
>>682141434
Also, it's hard for me to watch her self destructive behavior without trying to help. But I am in a situation where being with her is also a godsend. I have a natural tendacy to try and help people fix their problems, especially people I care about. But it angers her to the point she may leave. And it's challenging for me to stop.
>>682140539
hello.
>>682141434
But I have anyone or have had. I don't even know where to begin since my only reference point is the one in my head which has nothing to do with the reality of things.
>>682141889
How do i try to distract myself anon? Seriously any dog crying reminds me of his last moments, need advice not pity
>>682141889
But it makes me sleepy and not giving a rats ass about anything. Kinda like weed but i do that on the go so i have to deal with shit wether i want or not . Nofap gets me buzzing and energetic . What else ? Give me something cuz one of my kidneys failed a few days go ....
>>682138602
Im with a girl that ive been with for years. I love her and wpuld not want to be without her. But i mess around with both men and woman if its a on the spot decision. I dont know why i do this. Ive seperated myself from people because of it. I work 40 hours a week and i go home and play games all day or spend time with my lady. Because i dont trust myaelf around other men/woman if the situation presented itself apon me. Its almost an addiction feeling. Like its hard saying no.
>>682142053
Not op, but
You can try being more connected to her by complimenting her, call her beautiful and her personality call her beautiful. If this fuxkboy is her boyfriend then obviously it won't work like you expect but do not talk shit about someone she loves, (like her bf)
Im on 4Chan, what the fuck is wrong with me
>>682141617
Not the shrink but seriously interrupt communication with him, you are dragging extra baggage for free, you have to force yourself to move forward
>>682141944
*blinks* Why didn't you try with something smaller, like bacteria? Why create them with pain receptors? It seems like this was unethical from the start.
>>682142026
Madam, please, and I suggest going to your doctor and asking why you are on that medication and saying it is not working and you would like to try something else.
Be your own advocate, Anonymous.
>>682142047
That's very arrogant of you; people may not want nor need your help.
>>682142149
So go to a doctor; tell them about your unrealistic expectations, and ask for help.
>>682142174
*scratches her cheek* The problem is, that's not easy to get over; I'm out of my depth, but let's see if I can extrapolate from the basics of trauma advice.
Normal entertainment is unlikely to be effective; I would try something very immersive. Do you have steam or any sort of gaming system? Turn on white or pink noise, immerse yourself in a video game or a book, one that is orthogonal to what you went through.
That's the basic technique at least, that we use for PTSD. A safe environment that is immersive is better for avoiding such thoughts.
>>682142249
That's not how it works, but okay.
Also, why did your kidney fail?!
>>682142371
How often are you in on the spot decisions?
>>682142510
I feel like I can't live without him... and I'm planning on suicide every second and I cry even on the streets...it's been one month and it's getting worse
>>682142592
You need serious medical attention ASAP. Dial 911.
>>682142670
Why? Why can't I have the right to die ?
>>682142530
I wanted to see if I could create a being similar to myself. It appears I ended up replicating others who were killed by the I.F Subtractor. The were the ones that Adrian had killed.
>>682142530
Stones and sand up in that bitch ... too much citruses and cold feet and a some other bunch of shit.
Anyways give me something that i can do daily and improve my motivation , something that depends solely on me. I like doing shit myself so i dont have to break a bitch.
>>682142530
>>682142026
my apologies for calling you sir, madam. if I put away those meds, what could happen? How could I find anyone apart you to talk to? maybe we could swap emails, maybe you could help me somehow. I have a gf, so don't be afraid of me being annoying or demanding in anyways.
>>682142371
>>682142530
Not often anymore since ive dropped down to one friend. The other two ended up me being in that type of sotuation. I was with a guy a week ago. And befor that maybe a few days. Befor that its been a long while. Maybe six months. Since two years ive cheated on her 8 or 9 times. It makes me have suicidle thoughts sometimes when i think about it. But i wouldnt ofcourse. Too much to live for or whatever.
>>682142828
You should be able to do it.. dont just attention whore here , some people like me have serious problems and you're just a retarded cunt . End yourself and fuck off.
>>682141889
I feel that I am a good writer and have attention to detail, but I don't have many legit opportunities to show them off to people, and have that translate to building other skills. Do you know of any places that are hiring? Would it be better to talk with you more about this on your email for some needed extra help to truly get myself over the hump?
>>682141042
Kind words, don't get a lot of those. Thanks.
>>682142828
Same reason we don't allow people to rob others: the collective decided that was a bad idea.
More than that, you need help because you are in terrible pain to which there are safe and effective treatments; would you avoid getting a broken leg fixed?
Just cuz it's a wet squishy ball of fat that is currently broken doesn't make it any less a serious situation with an obvious path recovery.
>>682142927
Seek medical attention.
>>682142948
Don't put them away; talk to your doctor.
[email protected] to contact me at any time.
>>682143038
Why haven't you gone to a doctor? It could be an adrenal issue.
>>682143106
What serious problems do you have, Anonymous?
>>682138602
why do i have a problem talking to people verbally but typing is fine? why do i feel no empathy and just joy from taking life?
I'm gay and I'm dating with a man, he's so serious but I am loving, I always express my feelings with letters, chocolates... You know such as a Romeo. I'm 26 and he's 30. He's smarter and more rich than me. I'm a lawyer but now I'm unemployed and I don't have so much money to go out with him despite we pay the middle of price of the food, You know... I feel depressed because I don't get a job... I have tried to kill myself, but I am not so brave to do it. I love him and when I say him he always answer with a "Me too"... He acepts is serious and loves me, but it makes me doubt... What can I do?
>>682139270
>7 days a week
>nights off get drunk
Waaat
>>682143147
You could always go into your own business! Write stories and publish them on Amazon! Cracked.com is always hiring if you are funny!
>>682143209
What life have you taken?
>>682143160
My pleasure.
I think I have SPD (schizoid personal disorder) I'm alone, don't have any friends, but I can tell you, I feel more comfortable without any people with me. Even in work, I'm taking the route without any other people with me, just to be alone.
How should I feel about this? Should I talk to a psychologist in my city?
>>682138602
This is kind of a weird one I guess..
I am sexually attracted to women, don't get me wrong, but I really don't want to be in a relationship. My dick and heart says yes, but my brain says it's all a bunch of trouble, waste of time, and not worth it if I want to get anywhere in life. I love living by myself, I even lived by myself away from the city for several months last year. No contact with human beings what so ever, it was wonderful. Now I'm living in a larger city studying. I've got this really cute girl hitting on me.... I mean, wow I would kind of like to. But I really fucking hate interacting with people for longer periods. I guess my question isn't very well formulated, but yea, any idéa what's up?
>>682143176
Any effective treatments? Beside therapy ?
Any medication name ?
>>682143460
Yes. You should talk to a professional.
>>682142530
Is it normal to hate when people care about you? I want to kill myself so badly because I just hate my life, but I can't kill myself because I know how effected people would be if I did it. Why I want to kill myself if people like me you may ask, that is for a combination of reasons that I will not go into detail on. What do I do?
>>682143176
you're a good person. why do you want to help /b/?
>>682138602
Im fucking freaked out at the mere thought of beign in a relationship and ending up like my parents.
What do?
>>682138602
Just fed an akali, how do you not upset your team after feeding?
>>682143038
>>682143176
Adrenelan issues? What is that
>>682138602
Just wanted to say i am huge fan of your work. You're awesome.
i feel trapped inside my own body.
>>682138602
>>682138602
is it right to love someone and expect them to love you as much as you do to her?
I believe dying is the best thing I can expect from life. I have no plans, no aspirations and no skills. Should I get it over with and just kill myself?
>>682143515
What are your symptoms, in detail?
>>682143552
No, that's not normal at all. Go to a doctor ASAP; you have severe major depressive disorder.
>>682143561
I've been here since 2004; I'm not a good person. I'm a bad person who does good things.
>>682143621
...why do you not want to be like your parents?
>>682143633
An akali?
>>682143691
Tell a doctor your symptoms; I'm not sufficiently trained to go into details.
>>682143695
>>682143695
My work? Huh?
>>682143718
Elaborate; tell me more. I can't work with just that!
>>682142530
I have a steam account and i'm on medication for dysthymia, i don't feel suicidal but i feel a painful regret, i have my next shrink session in 2 months so i think i have to wait and try to forgive myself
>>682143512
Go for it, you can always stop if you're not feeling it. You won't lose anything, and relationships aren't that time consuming at the beginning.
>>682143909
you can check mail.
>>682143901
So make plans. What do you want to do? Suppose you had all the money, all the power, all the influence; what would you do with it?
>>682143892
No, that's not right at all. You can't expect anything from others with regards to love; your love doesn't INDUCE love in others.
It's completely valid for it to be unrequited.
>>682143970
What medication? Let me think, what game could I give you....
email me your account name: [email protected]
>>682143909
Why might you suggest adrenal issues? What made you go with that? Also thanks for the help
>>682143909
I will tell you but please do NOT tell me the treatment are SSRI.They suck more than life.
I cry 4 days out of 7, currently under paroxetine, I plan on suicide, I get very anxious and I can't leave the house, I keep on planning to suicide, I cry no matter where I am and I feel a deep sadness, I can't take the pain anymore, I can't see anything but pain, I just want my brain to be off
>>682144143
I have no plans nor skills to carry them out. I will never have that power and influence, and so imagining I have them will be pointless if I try to apply it to real life
>>682143909
Re:>>682143695
I think that they're talking about your work on these threads that you do. Unless you know something we don't, OP Alice?
>>682144261
They can cause rapid hormone changes, which could explain your symptoms. Your doctor could easily diagnose it better than I.
>>682144308
SSRI's are one of many treatments; for someone who has bad side effects from them, I'd recommend SNRI's or tri-tetra cyclics.
Wait, you are UNDER an SSRI and you don't like it yet you keep taking it? Why haven't you talked to your doctor?
>>682144375
Again, I asked you a question. Answer the question as I asked.
i just saw a dude fucking a dead girl in the above thread. This could be helpful
>>682138602
So I'm very happily married. We have sex a lot and are very gappy in our relationship. We have been married a few months and been dating for over 5 years. Before I had sex with her she had fucked one of my friends a couple times. But she has only had sex with my friend and a guy she dated for about 6 years from high school. Anyways we tell each other everything. I sometimes dream of my high school sweetheart or other girls I had fucked and I tell her about it. She knows that I got around a lot growing up. But just last night she apparently had a dream about having a threesome with me and that friend of mine. She said she didn't like it and was confused in the dream... what does that mean though? Should I be worried at all?
>>682144519
Yes, OP's work on these threads.
>>682144519
This isn't work; this is love and cheer. You must be mistaken.
>>682144614
>>682143718
It`s like im in a vehicle; i cant really tell where i am or where im going, but i can see some sort of direction.
...but i dont know whose driving.
>>682144553
I tried MANY SSRI and some SNRI...SNRI made me panic and I ended up in the ER.
I'm afraid of tri-tetra cyclis...I keep taking them because they ''keep'' me alive for a short time...I told my doctor and he told me I'm a cry baby...even though I want to die every second of my life...without antidepressants I would have killed myself already
>>682138602
Are women actually capable of loving men? at all?
>>682138602
Mine is kind of weird.
When I was in the 7th grade(14 yrs old) while I was on a summer vacation I decided to challange myself and see if i can get a girlfriend since all of my friends were doing so (pretty stupid, ikno). So my family and I were at a beautiful greek island and we were there with our neighbours and really close friends. The girl, lets call her Jane, was my "target". Fast forward a bit, we started dating, I proved to myself that I can do it and....I was bored of her. Like, instantly. We were neighbours so she was like constantly at my place and all that. I just snapped af te r I got her and one day I invited 3 girls to watch a movie at home, without Jane knowing... so basically she just randomly showed up home and caught me witj 3 other girls under some blankets cuddling and watching horror movies.....and that was it..... we never talked about that. The same year she enrolled in my class, we were seeing eachother all tje time. Gonna cont in a bit
>>682144553
I want to run away from home if i will not pass to the collage im scared of my dad and i hate everything what is around me i want to be brave its sounds like an prayer or something ... im so scared
>>682144639
Why would you be worried? It's a dream; they don't mean anything. They are part of our simulation software, which we used to use to prepare against fighting tigers and shit. Is she fighting tigers? No? Then it's gonna pattern on what she knows: social situations.
Sometimes, it comes up with crazy situations to try out, and you dream about them, and you wake up like "what the fuck". That's what happened.
>>682144808
Why are you afraid of tetracyclics? Also, fire your doctor and get a new one; he's an asshole.
>>682144895
As a woman, I can confirm, no. We all just love other women and use you guys because dildos and drinks are expensive.
Is this a fucking serious question? What the fuck? Do you think all women pretend or something?
>>682138602
I have had depression for fucking 10 years. Could some medicine actually at least partially treat it?
>>682144639
Oh and she only had fucked those two guysbefore meeting me. We have been faithful with each other from the beginning besides one little messup she did when we first started dating. I was in Afghanistan and she went to a party and an old friend kept bothering her and begging her for his bday kiss. She finally went to kiss him on the cheek and he did the signature turn head to make out and got about a 4 second kiss. She told me a day or two later.
>>682145074
Why would a tetracyclic antidepressant work ? And for anxiety? They keep giving me SSRI's
>>682145032
How old are you again?
>>682145093
Y-yes? If you've had it for ten years, the fuck are you doing not at a doctor by now?
>>682145160
Sounds like the old friend is an asshole.
>>682144672
I'm going to be a therapist/psychologist, any tips?
>>682145074
Ohh okay, I'm usually not jealous. I've just had a weird week.
>>682145216
Tetracyclics are more powerful and less indiscriminate; they tend to cause different side effects.
Tell them SSRIs are clearly having too many side effects and you'd like to try something else.
>>682145246
Pick up a dual major; it don't pay the bills.
>>682144672
I suck at english. I just appreciate what you're doing here.
>>682145218
im 20 and femanon i dont want to live like a lazy cunt with parents im sad ,_,
>>682144143
i'm taking
Alprazolam
Amitriptyline
Perphenazine
Sent an email from [email protected]
>>682144995
Then I got into a pretty dark phase In my life after a family loss, I was literally one step away from jumping off the 10th floor, cutting my wrists, od-ing. I was waking up with the thought of death and going to sleep with it, praying to God that I would die in my sleep....thats the first time ive told anyone so whow.....so umm... I even wrote a suicide note to my family for them to find... cont
>>682138602
Here is one for you OP..
I have 3 finals coming up.. I'm doing well in all the classes, I should be studying, but I'm on /b/ instead...
Although I am an A student (3.8 GPA as of mid-term spring '16). I find school extremely boring and tedious, along with my full time job, and my hometown.
With the amount of cash saved up ($25K), I wake up every morning fantasizing about disappearing for a long time for a real adventure... Every day is a new idea. For example, this morning I woke up with the temptation of knowing that I could be in La Paz tommorow, with a fat wad of cash looking for someone to sell a motorcycle... and the story would start there....
I am known in my family and hometown for traveling to far places by myself with very little luggage.... and since going back to school to get my bachelors.... I have been really depressed even though I am doing well, I have gained about 10lbs...
The idea of living the mainstram conventional life my family wants me (getting married and burying myself in debt on a house to fill with shit that I don't want or need, so that I can live the same exact week over and over for the rest of my life), just makes me depressed. I need adventure, I need travel, I need freedom....
OP, how can I make my parents come to realization that their son doesn't want the "American Dream"?
>>682145074
>Is this a fucking serious question? What the fuck? Do you think all women pretend or something?
That thesis would explain quite a lot of things about male-female behavior, including but not limited to the horrible imbalance in the dating world (just make a list of what's expected of men, then make a list of what's expected of women), the complete lack of attention for mens issues in society (paternity, circumcision, prostate cancer, equal rights in divorce courts), the complete disregard of the dirtiest and deadliest jobs in "gender quota" and "equality" discussions, such things as the historical white feather campaign, the downright joy women appear to gain from male suffering and of course male disposability.
Get mad all you want, the idea that women don't love men is the best explanation for the facts we observe. Unless you have a better one. It's also supported by evolutionary psychology, which states that in all mammals women are pretty much attracted to men as long as they're useful (notice that almost all mammals have a rite of gift giving, and it's pretty much always gifts going from the man to the woman. Especially in chimpanzees and bonobos, our closest relatives in the animal kingdom).
>>682145356
Damn. Therapy is the only thing I actually love doing
>>682145356
Yeah, she doesn't hang out with that guy anymore. We really do have a great relationship.
>>682145356
Side effects? I can't deal with them..also without antidepressants I'd be already dead...so they keep me alive at least but not for some long...and for anxiety? He won't ever prescribe a benzo.
Why is the concept of morality so twofaced
>>682145382
Oh Anonymous. It's my honor, truly.
>>682145467
So why are you saying, run away? Just move out. Everyone does eventually.
>>682145492
>Alprazolam
....they gave you xanax?
>>682145545
...you should really invest that money in a low cost, medium risk mutual fund.
Every generation has to break away from their parents, Anonymous. You make them realize it by LIVING it, and showing them you can. Not with words.
Haven't you watched any 80's films? Jeez.
>>682145547
No, it really wouldn't. It seems you are terrible at dating and socially awkward. Work on that, not concocting terrible theories that don't hold up in even the simplest bar or club.
Protip: The draft is going to include women soon, such jobs are rather small that we've moved away from manufacturing as a culture, parents chose for their kids to get circumcized, etc etc
>>682145611
Ask for beta blockers; they are as effective as benzos and much less addicting.
>>682145817
Because it was invented by humans
>>682143271
No answer for me? :(
>>682145356
>it dont pay the bills
I call BS, my gf just graduated and shes making 50k 2 weeks after graduating
>>682146023
I take 80mg inedral..they only work for physical effects
>>682145356
Re:>>682145246
NOW you tell me...
>>682145915
Yup xanax i had serious problems to sleep, first they gave me klonopin but it didn't help much
>>682146023
So everything manmade is flawed?
I mean if the basis of our understanding how to treat eachother is twofaced, how can we produce anything that isnt flawed? Is the only way to live the life of a stoa?
>>682144995
>>682145509
I managed to pull myself together, I found strength to go on in life, but I was really lonely... I spent many summers alone and I found some relief in fapping. It wasnt long untill I started makibg up scenarios in my head with Jane where were together...and that continued for some time. I caught myself looking at her in class, trying to talk to her and touch her at every opportunity I get. And when she brought up a new bf every week I just kept being sad and lonely...I made subtle hints that I have some feelings towwards her but I got got pushed away immediately. I hurt her after all...
>>682146088
>>682146211
I think she meant the therapist part
>>682138602
Is psychology a real science?
>>682146088
My current job pays five times that, from day one. If 50K is sufficient for you, well....enjoy I guess.
>>682146119
Ask about Atenolol; it's more powerful and selective.
>>682146211
Jesus. That must be intense.
>>682146295
Depends how you look at it; none of it is perfect, if you catch my drift.
>>682146340
It's part of STEM, so yes.
>>682143909
My mom always fought with my dad cause we were poor and im afraid ill end up like them if i enter in any kind of relationship, always fighting over money and basicaly hating each other
>>682138602
HI ALICE <333
>>682138602
Hey man,
I was once diagnosed with ADHD (as a child). I'm about to begin an English degree at university - I'm 23 now - and I would like to ascertain whether the initial diagnoses was false or correct. If I do have ADHD, it might be best for me to medicate and undergo whatever type of therapy there may be, which would give me a better chance of succeeding academically.
Admittedly, I do find it hard to concentrate for extended durations of time, and I find it hard to stop random thoughts occurring in my brain, especially when I'm going to sleep, and I fidget a lot. I also find it hard to visualise things and focus on the image in my head, and my memory is terrible - sometimes I can't remember what I was doing days ago.
I also have some sort of sleep disorder - I jump out of my bed from being fast asleep, and it takes me a while to calm myself. For some reason I feel like I'm in imminent danger when this happens, and I'm covered in sweat and my heart is beating very fast. I don't know how often this happens, if it's every night, once a night or several times a night, as it's easy to forget it ever happened by the morning.
I have suffered from depression before as well, though I would say I've become far more balanced as I've grown older.
What do you think?
>>682145915
>Work on that, not concocting terrible theories that don't hold up in even the simplest bar or club.
Except the very mechanics of dating in a bar or club support my theory.
>Protip: The draft is going to include women soon
Yeah, only one hundred years after women got the vote. In France the gap between universal suffrage and universal conscription (both for men) was what, a few weeks?
>such jobs are rather small that we've moved away from manufacturing as a culture
Uh-huh. Our culture no longer has a need for raw material or garbage disposal.
>such jobs are rather small that we've moved away from manufacturing as a culture
Yet if you choose to get your daughter circumcised, you're going to prison for a long time and you lose custody over your child. Physical integrity is only constitutionally guaranteed if you're a girl. There are like five countries on the entire planet that made male genital mutilation illegal. That's about as many as the ones that made female genital mutilation legal.
I just need a hug
>>682146587
>>682138602
Hey! I live alone in a remote place in the wild (with internet though), am content with working on a book I'm writing and doing my garden, have a minimal wage job on internet I'm happy with, I have no gf, but overall I feel content. I'm not sad like I used to be, a lot less anxious when I meet or see people than I used to be because it's like I've found my place in the world. I'm reading a lot of philosophy and have become pretty religious, I'm not aiming at anything better in life because I'm actually feeling good like that, freed from social pressure and all that. Is it current to see people like me withdraw from "public life"?
>>682146587
Where are you?
The odds are 1/100000, but if you live nearby I'll come give you a hug.
>>682146518
They stayed together for some reason Anonymous; fighting over money troubles is NORMAL.
>>682146576
Sounds like ADHD to me; did you respond well to adderall?
>>682146586
Like I said, you need to work on better theories; they don't hold up.
>>682146587
*wraps her arms around you and rests her head on your shoulders, squeezing firmly but gently, rubbing your back with her palm as she hugs you*
>>682145915
the world is so scaaared ;_;
>>682146696
While that may work in the short term, it will cause mental illness in the long term. I suggest making occasional trips out of your echo chamber to prevent such problems in the future.
>>682146755
Scared of what?
Greetings imperial citizens what's happening on this thread?
One question OP why do you want to help /b/ people?
>>682146865
What kind of mental illness?
>Constantly aware of my own mortality and the futility of existence
>can't even get high to escape it, cause I only get more conscious
>seriously fucking depressing
What do?
>>682138602
Alright, I'll bite.
I tend to be in this state a lot, I'm pretty sure it has a word for that, but the easiest explanation would be - I know I have to do something, or I want to do something, but I just feel pissed that I have to, then I tend to pass the time not doing whatever by playing vidya or something else pointless. Then if I get asked to help with something meanwhile I get pissed. Eventually this leads me to my daily four beers. How the fuck do I get my shit together? I'm a more than ocassional drinker, and feel fine while I have something to do, eg. doing my job at work. It's just that on my free time I feel like wasting my time. What are the steps towards getting my shit together and living up to my full potential?
>>682146968
Malmö här
>>682147001
Schizophrenia.
>>682146983
If I don't do it, no one else will.
>>682146931
Probably heresy. Not gonna lie.
>>682138602
How do I get my wife to give up her pooper?
>>682146651
>>682146723
thank you both very much
>>682138602
I'm gay and I'm dating with a man, he's so serious but I am loving, I always express my feelings with letters, chocolates... You know such as a Romeo. I'm 26 and he's 30.
He's smarter and more rich than me. I'm a lawyer but now I'm unemployed and I don't have so much money to go out with him despite we pay the middle of price of the food, You know...
I feel depressed because I don't get a job... I have tried to kill myself, but I am not so brave to do it. I love him and when I say him he always answer with a "Me too"... He acepts is serious and loves me, but it makes me doubt... What can I do?...
Not sure how to phrase this but here we go:
I'm a student in his third year but i'm on a four year course
At this point i hate my degree and have no motivation what so ever, but i can't switch degrees and at this point i'm in so much debt that i need to finish this so i at least have something to show for it
i have no idea what i want to do in life and feels like i'm just buying time until i find something, but the longer i'm on this course the more hopeless and anxious i feel and the less sleep i get as a result
At this point i don't know where to go or what to do, feel like i have a massive weight on my chest that just won't budge....like building up to a giant sigh but i can't seem to shake it...
What should i do op?
>>682147118
Sounds like intrusive thoughts. Seek CBT from a psychologist, and stop doing drugs; many of them CAUSE this form of disassociation, so it's just making it worse.
>>682147151
Make a schedule and follow it.
>>682147281
....wait, has he said he DOESN'T love you? Maybe he just expresses it in different ways than you. Jesus, just talk to him; this isn't something to kill yourself over.
>>682147306
What degree are you going for? Why can't you switch?
>>682147168
BY THE EMPEROR! Seems like i'll have to wait here until the thread goes 404 to assure that those madmen gets dispersed properly.
>>682147168
>Schizophrenia.
You sure you're for real, doc? I've never read that solitude leads to schizophrenia, rather the other way around. Plus, I'm past the mean average age of onset.
>>682146723
I have only been prescribed Ritalin and Concerta, it's difficult to say whether I reacted well to either, it was so long ago. Is Aderall effective? Do you think medication is the best course of action?
>>682146968
daaaamn i always wanted to went to sweden you have mountains ther?
>>682147168
will you marry me
>>682138602
The girl i have been together with for six years (living together) is ill and we have not had sex in a long long time...she suffers from depression i feel beein drawn in further and further but still i love her and i know she loves me...
why am i still so unhappy?
>>682146968
Övertorneåtrakten?
>>682147159
lund rapportera in
>>682146398
Im just fucking with you, heres an actual thing one can make an analysis of: (morality guy)
My thoughts are biased by my father.
I do hold his word to high. He is quite intelligent and has a quite big understanding of thr things he experienced. But he doesnt understand and seemingly doesnt want to understand stuff that in his world isnt a problem.
And when i talk to him i get pulled in. It costs me a lot of self reflection to get past it.
How do i help him to understand more about human interactions and that his sight on personalitys is very biased, so i dont get fucked by his thoughttrails?
And why am i so much pulled towards things i know are refined tastes (philosophy, art, photography), and why am i asking all of this even though i know the answers, and just want my thoughts reflected by a person who has stated they are something i have no idea of if its is true?
Man im insecure
>>682147576
Let me give you this....just in case...
>>682147472
>>682147306
studying physics, can't switch because i'm too far into my degree and can't get funding for whatever i'd switch to
don't even know what to switch to if i could...
>>682146299
Untill one day I found this beautiful girl, which was actually cool and we shared so many interests. But after so much time spent alone thinking about Jane I can come to terms with myself and say that I have brainwashed myself. Even the thought of her name can give me an erection, thats how bad it was... so once I started dating my new gf, I was pretty distant. I felt like I eas just using her to make jane jealous. But after almost 2 years of dating I can say that i am for the first time in my life in love with her. This braineashed state however riddles me with guilt and everytime I see jane I just get this rush to just go to her and just do her where we're standing, Im just constantly creeping up on her and looking at her nearly every single fucking day....I managed to control myself for some time but I just hate this feeling in me. Jane doesnt deserve this and neither does my girlfriend, but this trauma that my brain went through found relief in the thoughts about having sex with jane-not love-just sex...and I want this to end....I want it badly, I want to stop looking at jsne with this perverted look and I want to not feel like j have cheated on my gf every time I look in her eyes....I would really appreciate your advice, Anon...
>>682146865
of people and everythinggg
>>682146865
Hey psychologist bro, I have a problem.
I had a massive crush on a girl for 9 years, and I was too much of a coward to act on it. I said nothing from 2nd grade all the way through junio year, when my friends finally pushed me into asking her to winter formal. She said yes, but she came up to me, told me she liked someone else, and that she wasn't going with me. I didn't even react, no tears, no anger, nothing. But now I can't think of any women in a romantic fashion. I don't feel sad, but all twisted up and empty inside. What is this?
>tl;dr Why I am so messed up mang
I dont have motivation for anything. I dont want to be indoor all day, but theres nothing out there for me.
I want to make costumes, but Im afraid of being bad at it, and have no motivation or drive to do it.
Its hard to explain.
What do?
Pajala här
>>682147947
>she came up to me
She came up to me the next day.
>>682147517
That sounds fair.
>>682147546
It's well researched, though admittedly in more isolated conditions than yours (such as prisoners in isolation cells). Humans need interaction; we are a group and collective species, Anonymous.
At least visit town or something every once in a while; it's quite important.
>>682147551
Adderall is effective, as is modafinil. Ask your doctor; I'm not one.
In general, medication gets the best reaction.
>>682147607
Because you still need your physical needs met. Is she in therapy?
>>682147810
And why do you dislike it?
>>682147947
That's emotional pain. It takes a while to pass, but it will eventually, though that's no comfort to you now.
*hugs tightly* I'm sorry Anonymous, I'm so so sorry.
Alright all, I need to get out of my shower.
Talk to you tomorrow at 8AM, or email me at [email protected]
With love,
Alice
>>682138602
I sometimes respond to 3 or 4 posts. By that I kill every thread. Like this one for instance. It's dead now, because of me. I'm not depressed about it, I just wanna understand the mechanics how I can trigger all those pussies out there.
There's been a lot of shit in my life in the last year (11 months 2 b more precise):
> Broke up with my girl (caught her ass cheating in last month of relationship)
>Been diagnosed with a form of brain tumor
>Best friend died in car crash
>Got rejected for the job of my dream
>Found a rebound relationship (which broke 3 months later)
>Got demoted on my current job (due to financial crisis in the company)
>Lost 2 more friends in accident
>In April, I managed somehow to get rid of that damn brain tumor
>lost around 30 kg due to stress and new type of food I was taking
I feel kinda reborn now, but also... I feel so fucking cold and empty...
After so many shit I've been through, I hoped that I can actually try to rebuild myself.
I succeeded in physical aspect but emotional aspect is now nothing but ruins with nothing but some kind of mild depression.
Is there any way for me to rebuild the emotional aspect and return to my previous state of optimism, cuz this one is pretty fucking me up and scaring the shit out of me...
>>682148140
>It takes a while to pass, but it will eventually, though that's no comfort to you now.
It's been 6 years...
Hello mr. psychologist!
I have a friend who is a borderline schizophrenic. He's also an acid dealer, but doesn't touch the stuff. However, recently he has started microdosing. Is there any danger in that? He's not full-blown tripping, but obviously it's still affecting his neurochemistry, hopefully for the better. What do you think?
>>682147832
>>682148140
Can you please do last one...
>>682148177
And everyone clapped
I have social anxiety, i really fear talking to strangers and putting myself out there, making new friends.
I took citalopram for like three months and it helped a lot. Im off it now, because i didnt buy a new badge in time.
What else helps?
>>682138602
When I was young my parents were extremely strict! One event has specifically given me issues through life. I had panic attacks a loy up until I moved out. I joined the Marines and before we we to Afghanistan we had a PTSD class in which I realized I had ptsd pretty bad. In Afghanistan I had to pick up body parts and do stuff that I could tell really got to some Marines. It didn't even phase me a little bit. So I've basically realized I was a sociopath, but recently experienced something that I haven't told anyone and was really really strange for me. I haven't cried for ages... I can't remember the last time I cried... but I was talking to my girlfriend whom I feel is the first person I've ever completely let in. I was telling her about a village that we helped a lot and gave to in the end called in an ambush on us which resulted in my friend dying. I was completely fine, not even choking up or anything and suddenly lost it really bad. I started crying like a fucking baby and my girlfriend just held me. I don't even know how it happened. It felt kinda amazing when I finally stopped. Is this going to happen again? Am I starting to feel again? Things are changing and I feel completely out of place, I kinda want to just disappear and work for black water or as a mercenary. What's going on? I feel so uncomfortable, but I just feel things I never had and don't know what I should do.
>>682148140
No.. she refuses because last time she tried she was called manipulative by the therapist. She has a cronicle gut desease aswell that makes everything else just worse... everytime i try talking to her about it she locks me out
>>682148177
Heard the girl? This thread is dead, move along denizens and remember your daily prayers to our beloved Emperor!
>>682146968
do you want to talk?
>>682148583
Pfft. Pagan pussy. Worship a real god.
>>682138602
Just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 1/2 years. Why does it hurt so bad?
We were at the point in the relationship where it was all or nothing. And since she was my first and only girlfriend, I needed to move on. Also I've learned a lot about myselfand I feel that if we stayed together I would only hurt her more later.
Why do I find myself feeling like this was such a bad idea when I know that if I somehow got back together with her I would end up feeling just as I did when I broke up with her.
It doesn't make sense and I'm not really sure how to handle it.
>>682148478
Got social anxiety too,got any tips anon?
>>682148140
Ok, thanks. It's funny, I wrote a peer-reviewed paper on schizophrenia a few years back. It would be funny if you had read it.
>Humans need interaction
Well, that's the point: I'm not sure I do anymore, or at least in very, very low doses, or anonymously. I thought maybe you'd heard something about that. Anyway, thanks for your time and have a good one :-)
>>682148140
>>682147810
It just isn't what i want to do, i can't see myself working in physics and i don't enjoy any aspect of studying it
There are so many things; big and small; that i hate about studying it....too many
at this point i have no motivation other than debt for finishing the course and getting my degree
Me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up about 2 months ago, i had about 14 days of complete misery. Met this girl about a month and a half after it happened. The girl said shes wants to date me and be exclusive to me. I have NO idea whats going on. In your clinical opinion is she just a "rebound"? I think shes really cool and i like hanging out with her, i just dont want to take her on a wild goose chase. I might be overthinking this.
>>682148785
My mind is only for the God Emperor of mankind, what kind of twisted deity are you worshipping?
>>682148306
They say it takes one to get over a relationship half of its duration. I had a gf around 1,5 years ago, and ive just gotten past it. And it just was 6 months long.
Point is you cant put numbers on it.
Only way to get past her is to use your time effectly and shut her out of your life. (No contact, get rid of number, just anything that reminds you of her.)
Also you never were with her, which makes it worse, because all you have is your imagination on how great it would have been, whithout any bad things that popp up from time to time in a relationship.
I hope you do make it.
Why do i hate everything? For example, there's these people i know who always hang out with each other, and i hate their group, and mostly everything about them. By themselves they're very nice people, but i just cant stand them all. Im also very belittling to people. So anon, whats wrong with me? Do i just hate that i dont have what they do?
>>682149398
>I hope you do make it.
Thanks man.
>>682148858
The point is that its worth the time you had. Not even just the good times, the time you developed yourself, understood why you dont fit and who you are.
All of it is needed. For you and your future self. Also it will never stop being something you will remeber without emotion. Be happy it happend.
>>682147700
Inte så farligt långt för en kram.
>>682149856
Thanks, that helps a lot.
But i also feel bad for her... should we stay in a friendship?
I got the feeling she actually hates me
What is love?
Hello psychologist, please help me with something.
I've had a history of cross dressing for erotic purposes only, but lately I've been wearing women's clothes independent of sexual activities. I'm perfectly fine with being male and having a penis, but I really like to wear women's clothing. Does this mean that I have gender dysphoria or do I just have a feminine side I need to express?
>>682151076
Forgot to mention that I'm 20 and feel very guilty about my crossdressing habits.
>>682138602
Why do you type a stutter? Especially on a fucking silent consonant?
>>682138602
Why do people like contributing to those tribute cocking threads?
Why do people like getting photos cocked, why do people like cocking photos? I don't understand it.
>>682138602
Fuck you fucking gook, why dont you finish your studies????
>>682145218
It's >>682145093
I really thought I could be brave and get over it. Guess some shit just sticks
>>682150920
She doesnt hate you, she loves you. That is if you told her its over by telling her instead of fucking someone else.
Break off the contact, do it for her. She deserves to love again, not doing so will hurt her much more and take a lot longer.
>>682151076
Everyone has feminin aspects to themselves. Some more some less. But wearing women clothes can either mean you like the clothes, or you like being the woman and the clothes help you get in the role. What is it?
>>682152887
I'd say that about 2/3 to 3/4 of it is just because I enjoy how the clothes look and make me feel. The rest of it... I'm not sure, honestly. I enjoy how feminine I look and feel in these clothes, but I don't completely lose sight of my masculinity.
