so i just finally got with the girl ive been pursuing for a long

>>677297896
Dude chill, this is more common than you think. It happened the first few time with my gf. Just make sure you tell her it's not because she unattractive and she'll understand. As you get more comfortable with her it'll be less of a problem.

yeah, im just so worried its gonna get awkward. but ill do what you said. she should know that i think shes completely ridiculously beautiful. i couldnt stand the thought of her not thinking i like her. thanks man!

>>677299915
No worries m8, you'll be fine. 3 years later and I instinctively get a boner just from getting into bed with my gf. Try to not think about getting a boner and just get lost in the moment.

thanks guys, as long as it doesnt get awkward because of i think i can pull this through. shes just so important to me and i really hate myself this morning because i feel like i made her feel unwanted and lost her. she gave me no signs of that but its a genuine fear, you know? im sure itll be okay though. just have to shut my brain off in the moment

>>677297896
different dude, same situation. nowadays we're married. don't overreact, no drama, man, accept it, learn to laugh about it.. girls won't get angry about being too hot to handle in the first run.

SYLVIA GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF THE OVEN

theres a bear inside your stomach, the cubs been kicking you for weeks..
and yeah i hope so! im just so angsty about the whole thing. like im really mad at myself. should i try to explain in person next time i see her? probably. id be a weird thing to text

not to say i didnt explain it at all, but i really just need to let her know its not her, let her know i really actually am infatuated. have to do it right

>>677302929
Yeah don't text that shit. Just bring it up to her next time you see her. Do stress that she isn't the problem though. If she cares about you she'll be understanding. How experienced is she sexually, do you know?

>>677297896
Same kinda. My girlfriend was setting up a threesome with a very sexy girl. 8/10 ass 7/10 tits 7/10 face and she was slutty. I was excited as fuck but the other day when we went at it i couldnt perform. Hadnt been with anyone else in a year and a couple months so that could be it. And i couldnt tell if my gf was ok with what i was doing. I get another shot tonight though

>>677297896
grow balls and explain that to her
if she really likes you, you'll be fine

shes really experienced, two years older than me. but shes just really tight and not to be arrogant or whatever but im kind of bigger and even if im just a little bit less than completely up it just wouldnt get in. the worry i guess is that she didnt really like me, she just wanted sex. which i dont think that was the case but if it was i might be screwed now

>>677297896
yeah i am about to do the same. How to play it save? How to be sure you gona please her that she begs for more?

i dont even want to talk about her like that really though.. lol. i mean i guess i like her or whatever

Jesus Christ, no. Do not text her about it. Do not even talk to her about it. There is no way to talk about it without it seeming like it's worrying you, and that's a major turn-off.

You WANT her to have a little bit of doubt that maybe it's her and not you. You want her to have a hint of insecurity. Just hang out as if nothing ever happened (because it didn't, this won't be the first or last un-erectable penis she encounters) and fuck her for real this time.

Nobody really cares if you have trouble getting it up, especially the first time with a new person. It can be weird and uncomfortable, and honestly it is partially her fault for not making you more relaxed. Don't put her on such a pedestal, she doesn't want to be there.

>>677304489
The Truth has been spoken

yeah maybe youre right dude, im totally seeming desperate here. the way i got her was by being a competitive douchebag so being insecure and explaining myself to death now might just dig me into a hole

>>677304929
You don't have to over explain. Just be fucking honest. Don't listen Dennis Reynolds here>>677304489

yeah, just be honest. i definitely dont want her to feel insecure about it at all but i also dont want to put her on a pedestal. i just have to let her know i care about her and think shes hot. get comfortable, and fuck her brains out. thats the only solution

>>677304929
I had the same issue with a new girl who just wanted to fuck. I never mentioned it, it worked great after a couple tries, and we fucked all the time. If she's seen your dick and it's decent sized, and you're not a fucking weirdo, she's found the dick she wants to play with at least for a while. Sometimes they are hard to start--she knows this.

The only reason to say anything about it is if she brings it up asking if it's her. Otherwise there's no reason to tell her it's not her, it will be coming out of left field.

Even if she just wants sex now, that can turn into something more. Currently living with my gf who started the exact same way.

Let her know you think she's hot by blowing your load all over her stupid face.

word

>>677305519
Another thing. There are two extremes that you don't want. You don't want her feeling like you're not attracted to her (which is not even a possibility, she's not fucking retarded, you were trying to sleep with her) and you REALLY don't want her to think she's so far above you that it causes you to physically shut down and be unable to perform--even if it were true.

Girls fill in the blanks with generally positive things, and anything they don't know--even something like why you're not getting hard your first time together--makes you mysterious. It's dumb that it works like that but it does. Never BRING UP something just so you can explain it, unless you want to friendzone yourself.

shut the fuck up and play it cool. solid advice