/b/ros i really need your help. im 22 years old and i was about to have sex for the first time with a girl that i used to b crazy abouwt last year. but wen it got down to it, i couldnt get fully hard and every time i tried to put it in her pussy it went soft. it ended up not doing it. wtf went wrong and how the fuck do i fix it? ps. she is willing t try agaain soon.
>>676395257
Sounds like you're a closet homo. Sorry to hear that.
Stop looking at porn. For real.
>>676395257
it was your first time? were u nervous?
have her suck it first
>>676395791
could that b the problem?
>>676395257
Its called Performance anxiety, its supper common.
Take Viagra 1 hour before
Don't jerk it for 3 days
Don't get drunk.
Call me in the morning
>>676395927
yes i was nervous. and she didnt know it was my first time
>>676395936
she did. that was the only part i actually enjoyed
Take a moment and imagine the conditions in which we evolved. Still cant figure it out? Did a cavemen look at naked women 24/7 and beat his fucking dick 4 times a day?
Ps your girl might be fugly, since my first time was 30 seconds long, she took it as a compliment
>>676396155
Now she does
As she's willing to give you a second chance she doesn't seem to mind
>>676396119
Thanx but i was kinda hoping to be able to do it without a viagra
>>676395257
Do some high-intensity exercise shortly beforehand. I mean crazy amounts of push-ups, weights, a hard run, etc. Give yourself enough time to recover. Your testosterone will be kicking in and your endorphins will also net you rock-hard boner abilities. Start with lots of foreplay, make her beg for it. Get her soaping wet like your nice little OP picture. Tease her with it. It'll take your mind off the stress and you'll feel like a boss.
Tested, tried, proven. Works when plastered drunk, works better when sober.
>>676395257
are you on any sort of anxiety, depression, or adhd medication? or any other psych med?
>>676396155
Have touchy feely session under the covers, until you get hard, and get her to guide you in.
Don't fucking look at your self entering because in your head you'll be like 'omg this is it, I'm actually gonna do it' and that will kill your boner very quick
also this
>>676396119
>>676395257
Be sober, dont jerk it, and foreplay foreplay foreplay...just like when its the same for guys. You need to be "in the mood"
>>676396517
Thanks man il give it a try.
>>676395257
STOP JACKING IT MORON YOU FUCKING WEAK. also stop thinking about yourself, if for a fucking second you thought about her and her intentions maybe you could've got it hard
>>676396480
If you get ED a few times in a row it will destroy your confidence, and they will make you worry about not getting it up again, its a vicious cycle.
If you use Viagra or other non name brands, you get a boner regardless, and you'll build up your confidence that way
its always a good fall back, if you get Ed
>>676396668
nope only weed. and i smoked like 2 hours before
>>676396480
I dont even need viagra and i take it. It shortens refractory period. You can fuck for a good couple hours easy.
Its was just nerves, happens to the best of us, its common.
Stop watching porn and whacking off for a while
>>676395257
This exact thing happened to me.
Do not look at porn. DO NOT MASTURBATE.
Tell her to blow you first.. Not to orgasm, and i guarantee you, you will be diamonds if not gay.
Over time you will not have this issue anymore. It's mostly nerves.
>>676395257
Mental thing. I had the same thing.
Just gotta be calm. I know it's hard (kek) but you just need to not worry about it.
I solved mine by just not jerking off for like 3 weeks. I was hard as a fucking diamond, shoved it in her, blasted cum. Did that 2-3 times, finally lost the nervousness.
I mean, sure. You're a 2-pump chump a few times, but meh. Just explain to her that you're very nervous. As long as she's not a cock-slut she won't care too much and will probably "help" you.
Go forth and bang, my bro.
>>676397150
Weed lowers some peoples sex drives while raising others. Try not smoking at all before.
>>676397197
I get a stuffy head with it, I wake up next day like I have a cold.
do you get that?
>>676395257
Take a cialis, take some l arginine.
>>676396682
>>676397215
>>676396797
Thanks for the advice
>>676396023
yes unfortunately.
give urself at least 3 weeks of not looking at porn or jacking off before you attempt to get with her again.
>>676396119
Call him in the morning for anonymous gay sex
Just relax, it happened to me too. I was anxious as fuck, because it was finally happening, and my dick went limp. Talk with her, just get relaxed, and do it.
had the same problem my first time, and a few after
it's nerves and overexcitement and shit. it goes away as you get more comfortable with sex. don't listen to the porn bullshit, it's bullshit, but don't fap too much if having regular sex. it hurts the mood
>>676396480
Let her rub your asshole.
>>676396480
Absolutely do not take any viagra when its only nerves. It will only make it worse to do it without any potency pills if you cant find the confidence inside you
>>676396480
>>676397065
Eh. If you don't have a medical problem (which I doubt you do) don't bother with the viagara shit. It's just going to destroy your confidence later.
Anxiety over this is not uncommon and it's not a big deal. You'll get over it. Just keep going at it and don't let it bother you. It just means you're nervous about sex, which is pretty much how everyone feels.
>>676395257
Common amongst young males nowadays.
But most people have gone through it. its important to note if the girl likes you she will fully understand, so don't worry about that
As for you dick, don't masturbate to climax for about a week, its fine to tease yourself thinking about her
DO NOT WATCH PORN
Did she know you were a virgin?
And >>676395936
I couldn't get it hard my first time but I had her suck me off again. Once hard, I rushed in there
>>676395257
obviously youre actually homosexual and when confronted with heterosexual sex your body rejected the idea
>>676398026
I Disagree, Viagra defiantly helped me.
Its ok to use, it wont hurt you. it will help you build up your confidence with a new partner until your completely comfortable
>>676398688
Virgin detected
Go to a gay bar
Talk to a male you find handsome
Hookup in the bathroom
If the problem doesn't persist...
You're gay
>>676397343
>>676398041
As a follow-up, had this problem with the first girl I slept. Fucked her 4-5 times and she was a raging slut. I think she liked the innocent part of it.
Had it with my current girlfriend as well and we're engaged. It's totally not a deal breaker to "under-perform". If they're reasonable women they'll understand. Plus, they're still horny anyway. They just want the cock.
WHY ARE YOU PEOPLE REPLYING TO COPYPASTA?
OP did you wear a condom? I cant stay hard with a rubber on.
>>676398668
no she didnt and she still doenst know
>>676399322
She probably does know now with that incident..
If you're looking for relationship with this girl you should be honest and tell her. If not, don't fuck it up the second time OP
Best of /b/oner luck
>tfw high test so can smack off to porn 3 times a day and still get it up for my gf
>>676395257
You're getting too nervous, and it is making your dick go soft.
Gotta find a way to relax. I've had this happen a couple of times.
One way to tackle this problem is getting her to spend the night, or sleep over, and doing lots of foreplay the night before, then in the morning after you sleep, and wake up, use morning wood to your advantage. This makes it easier to follow up again in the future.
>>676395597
>>676398688
True virgins not knowing shit about real sex with another person.
>>676396283
then tell her that. dont be a little bitch about what you like.
>>676401479
lol yea, the first time is ALWAYS an adventure. None of this "i pulled out my diamonds 9 inch dick and thrust my 12 year old self into her virgin pussy with one thrust causing multiple simultaneous orgasms for both of us immediately"
I am 28 and I had a friend who was a Virgin until his wedding night at 22 and i swear to god he texted me on his wedding night with his mind blown at the fact the vagina was in fact down between her legs and not like somewhere just below the belly button. He had no idea.
>>676395257
thats one A+ pussy, sauce?
Definitely nurves happend to me last time I just finger fuck her till she's nearly cumming gets me like rock then I pound away again
>>676395257
It's normal, relax. I bet your heart was beating fast.
You have to relax, foreplay, make out, finger her pussy ...etc. when you're fully hard have her suck you for a bit then go in there.
Also, like you've been told before: STOP JERKING OFF, STOP WATCHING PORN.
Your brain is basically waiting for you to click and see another girl. but this is real life, that's the girl.
so stop porn at least.
