hey /b. i have been dating this guy for a year and a half, and all of a sudden he has lost all interest in sex. he's always saying that he's not in the mood or that he's uncomfortable. what do?
>>675876819
Are you fat? Ugly?
Could he be banging someone on the side?
>>675876819
dump him
>>675876819
Maybe he's depressed
Leave the boy fucking alone. He will fuck you eventually.
>>675876819
Have you gained weight?
Did he just recently start a fulltime job?
How's you oral game?
>>675876819
He's gay
>>675876937
no. most ratings i get are 7/10 to 9/10. he wouldn't cheat. i know he loves me, but he his libido has disappeared. he doesn't even fap anymore.
>>675876819
He's fucking someone else.
End Of Story.
>>675877254
i have lost weight and he is unemployed.
>>675877389
i know he isn't cheating. that isn't the answer.
>>675877523
Was sex always common before? Like, how many times a week did you two pipe?
How many times now?
And, most importantly, how long has this been happening?
For a second I couldn't believe I didn't post this.
Same exact situation.
Boyfriend of a year and a half, he just turned 25, I am 20. We have sex maybe once a week - after the first 7 months or so.
He doesn't like foreplay
He doesn't like oral (on either of us)
He doesn't want to try new things
Neither of us have switched jobs or gained/lost weight
Turns out, his dads side of the family has a history of low testosterone and low sex drive.
Solution for us was Male enhancement pills and many japanese schoolgirl uniforms.
Cheers m8, take it easy.
>>675877793
we used to fuck literally every day. sometimes twice a day. i think out record was five in one day. but now it's once every three weeks tops. now he says he isnt in the mood as much, and he doesnt masturbate anymore either. this has been going on for about three months.
>>675876982
I second this suggestion
>>675878344
Did anything "life changing" happen to him three months ago?
And are you even initiating the sex? Cause if you're waiting for him to do something then that's your problem. And if you two have the same routine sex, then you need to change it up. Do something new, like role-playing or a threesome, or something that'll work for him.
>>675878879
i initiate every single time. i try to at least three to eight times a day.
>>675878879
oh, and nothing life changing happened to him
>>675879291
He could very well be depressed. That is the only thing that comes to mind. Just talk to him and see what's up. And don't just make it about sex either, tell him that he's "changed" or some bullshit.
>>675879206
You tried asking him?
Unlike women, most men do not have a million complicated little excuses and evasions to help them "think around" a problem. Sorry to say it, but this may be what's normal for him, and the burst of lust at the beginning of your relationship was just a response to a fresh piece of ass.
If he does, congrats, you're dating a woman.
>>675879631
nonono. It's about sex. Trying to euphemize it will just complicate matters.
"Anon, you don't seem very interested in sex, is there something wrong? I want your cock inside me like every other day at least".
OP, unemployment is a known libido-killer for ambitious men so there's a good chance he isn't cheating.
>use to be the same with a friend of mine who lost his job, wife begged him for sex but uh-uh, nothing
>>675876819
Probably not the same situation, but I was that guy once. My wife had no idea what was going on. I couldn't tell her that I had finally realized my depraved fetishes and came to a point where I had a burning desire to do them, and if I couldn't do them then I didn't even want to fap or have sex anymore, too frustrating. I turned my wife down for six months, then told her what was going on, she didn't want to be part of it. So I divorce her and found a partner that I can connect with on a sexual level. Maybe he wants something that he's ashamed of telling you and just thinks it's better to abstain instead of face it. Just a possibility
>>675876819
>man
>not intersted in sex
Now tell us the truth
>>675879631
i have already tried that. many times. i will confess that i am not the best girlfriend though. i have bipolar disorder (hence me being hypersexual), and narcissistic personality disorder. I also display some sociopathic tendencies. i try to be good to him but it doesn't always work out. i just wish i could control my anger better. i've never hit him, but i yell at him more than i should. i always apologize after i calm down though. he is the only thing on this earth i care about without a motive.
>>675876819
he's cheating on you, 100% guaranteed
>>675880793
>>675880195
we are extremely open about everything though, even our crazy fetishes. he likes incest role play and i like cutting, branding, and pretending to be a loli. and that is only a taste of all of the crazy shit we used to do.
>>675879959
i am the first girlfriend that he has ever had. we lost our virginity(s) to each other. he still loves being around me, he just has almost no libido. and he has never been employed. ever.
>>675880586
>>>/adv/
Not trying to be a dick, but they will definitely be of more help to you than /b/.
>>675881786
He could be stressed out over something. Usually when I'm stressed I'm not in the mood at all. Like I said before, he could be depressed and he isn't admitting it to you.
Just pay close attention to what he says, and does. If it's different in anyway from before, something is definitely up.
>>675881786
have you asked him what's wrong, bitch?
Post tits.
>>675877621
Men actually tend to get more libidinous when they're cheating. They also tend to smell better, not worse.
>no tits or gtfo within 3 replies
I haven't been here for 3 months, this is the first thread i see
Time to go again
>>675877824
Post tits.
>>675876819
Leave him, I'm sure there's someone else out there that really would satisfy you in more ways than one.
>>675882332
Newfag
>>675882650
what the fuck man, what the fuck...
>>675880506
Exactly, when I was with my ex we fugged multiple times a day.
>>675881786
Have you tried drugging him? Bull viagra makes wonders
I'm going to give you an honest reply because I don't really care about you.
Male libido is linked to success and effort. A man who feels like a failure who accomplishes nothing, is lazy and sad, will not be interested in sex as much as a man actively striving towards success in some way.
Your boyfriend is probably in a slump where he doesn't really give a shit about anything and thinks he just wants to be left alone, when in actuality the best thing for him would be to work on self improvement in some way.
I guarantee if he gets a career or at least gainful labor he will be much more interested in sex.
>>675882506
>>675882247
aren't you a bit young to be on here?
Tighten up granny
>>675876819
sounds like marriage heyooooo check em
>>675876819
Coming from experience, he's depressed. I'm 95% sure on that.
Depression alone can kill the libido, but if he's taking any antidepressants they'll kill it too. I've been on 6 different antidepressants and they all killed my sex drive, but when I was bad enough the depression killed it too.
>>675884070
he seems absolutely fine other than having no libido. he stills loves doing everything else that he's always loved doing
>>675876982
Agree. If he frecuently enter to 4chan he is problably depressed
>>675884672
he is a btard just like us. he is browsing /b right now actually.
>>675877523
Bipolarfag here. I was unemployed for about 18 months, but especially the last 6 or so, my libido was I the tank.
Part of it coincided with going on a mood stabilizer, which has worked wonders for balancing my bipolar (2) disorder. I'm way more stabilized.
But money was exceedingly tight those last months. Stress about not making enough money kills sexusl interest in men even if they were too into it before. I never understood how businessmen with smoking hot wives could be disinterested in sex until now: Something about money/power stress does it.
If he's unemployed, it's likely that he's clinically depressed on top of stressed about money. Unfortunately, it's hard to know how to encourage a man to continue looking for s job, since it can be such a deeply discouraging and depressing process.
You might check and see if there's any free counseling available to you guys. The nice thing is that even if it's shitty counseling, you're likely to recognize it and figure out what to do for yourselves anyway.
Good luck, anons!
>>675884293
Then straight up ask him. While it's great that you care, you should ask him directly and not just speculate with the Internet. Ask him if everything is alright. If you mean it, then assure him that if he's depressed you'll stay with him and help him through it. That sort of thing means a lot.
I've been married for nearly 7 years, and both me and my wife have problems with depression, so I have experience on both sides of this discussion.
marriedfag here. its either bc you got fat or he found some hot young strange or two. Need tits with timestamp to rule out fat part. or he is a faggot
>>675886380
believe me, im not the fat one.
alright /b, i just got him turned on.. i think shits about to go down
I've been turned almost asexual by mood stabilizers. It was really weird at first. My default activity was collecting my cat hentai artists/porn stars, but I noticed I was never actually fapping anymore, or even getting hard.
Now it's more like I have an academic interest in erotica, but I don't (can't) spend all day edging like I used to. When I masturbate, it's to keep things from building up and getting irritable, and it takes effort and concentration to get hard and get off.
The nice trade off is that I don't get all pissy about my wife never being interested in sex, because I'm not either.
>>675887261
Yaaay!
Nice job, femanon! Let us know how it goes!
>>675887432
>collecting my cat hentai artists/porn stars
How the fuck did "favorite" end up autocorrecting to "cat"?! I mean , I'm down with furry hentai, but Foxi Di doesn't fall into any feline category.
(Haha, CATegory)
Should try to keep up thread til she comes back to make her report?