Hey /b/ros. I really would like someone to talk to, I've been a lurker for years but I've always found a place here on /b/ with you guys given my antisocial life. I guess general feels thread.
why are you antisocial
I'm listening /b/ro
>>672888432
tbh I don't think I am usually. I like to be upbeat and positive. Its just the place and people I work with are really stressing me out. I'm not overplaying the fact that they are seriously all douches.
>>672888648
Can you define being stressed out n' shit? Like how hard does this affect you? Should it affect you? Why does it affect you? They're just randoms and you're just there for your paycheck, no?
>>672888606
I just found out I have a 1 year old son while on deployment from a girl I really don't like. I have lost all my friends after leaving home to be in the military, and all the military people I know have the 'hurr durr look how big my dick is' persona. I hate my life.
>mfw joining the marines literally ruined my life
>>672888606
Welcome to the Knights of Astora
>>672888931
It's just everything about it bro. Everything is just a shitshow to try and show off to your superiors who has the biggest dick and who can be the biggest dick to look good for promotions. Nobody is nice to each other. All they preach is equality and we're a family, but family doesn't treat each other this way. I'm really family oriented
>>672889026
From my understanding of life, you are always as happy as you make yourself. Like seriously, why allow they and their behavior affect your mood?
I know it's easy for me to say, and probably harder for you to do, but learn the art of not giving a fuck. They up to some banter and bullshit? Just shrug it off. You can always be happy with yourself, outside of their circlejerk. Right? They're just casuals, why care when you can rise above?
>>672889291
I get the feeling you expect people to be honest, sincere, not selfish and so forth.
Fuck that shit, in business there is no loyality and honesty. You need to put yourself first, become unfazed by their bullshit. Do what you want and progress without paying mind to the others.
>Literally try to get into a position where you no longer care if they lie straight to your face. Assume hypocrisy and keep them to a low standard, because you've seen thier behavior and you know these people aren't worth time and energy. Doing this will take a lot of pressure off of your shoulders.
>>672889459
I usually try that man, but its so hard. Maybe I'm just weak. Or maybe its because the way they act and the things they do literally directly affect my life at work and depresses me. Its not so simple as that i'm that low on the totem pole either, i'm a fucking Sergeant and have Marines under me, its just everyone in general really makes my life hard and I just feel like an hero'ng sometimes man. I really do.
>>672889961
I'll stick to what someone else said on 4chan. If you truly wanted to an hero you would've done it. Deep down something still drives you onwards. :)
Anyway, I believe strongly in you and your ability to turn this around due to the fact that you've noticed the problem and am aware, different from most complainers who don't know why they are miserable.
Do you by chance have access to smartphones and internet etc?
>>672890536
you're right.
and yes I do.
thanks man
>>672890536
Dude that's so true
>>672890717
I'd much recommend that you get into the habit of reading books on improvement. It has helped my life greatly.
And what is so great about smartphones is the possibility for listening to someone reading a book for you! I'd definitely check out the app Audible if you can, 15$ a month and a free new book each month. Soooo many titles can be found there, and mediocre ones on youtube for free as well.
Here are some I recommend that has helped my life a lot:
>How to win Friends and Influence People
>Meditations by Marcus Aurelius (great insight on stoicism)
>The 48 Laws of Power
>>672891262
I forgot to add my reason as to why reading these books. They are basically full of insight in how to act around people, create a happy life for yourself and so forth. See it as tips on how to become the best version of yourself and how to accept reality's harshness and make the best of it.
>>672891523
Hey you seem to have some really good advise, so do you mind if i ask do you have any suggestions/tips on how you can stop yourself from thinking too much about the shit things in life? specifically a bad/difficult social life?
Does one of you guys never felt satisfied with your achievements?
I always have very good grades in everything I do, but I don't even do shit for it. It just feels like everyone wants to gift me those grades. I feel retarded as fuck, myself.
What do?
I wanted to start to study on april, but I feel that I am not worth to be a student. I feel so dumb. A guy as dumb as me shouldn't be a academic
>>672892722
Sure go ahead and ask anything. I'll gladly try and help out where I can.
Anyway, onto your specific problem. Let's be real here, it is retarded to stop yourself from thinking about it your shitty social life. Why? Because then you'll have a shitty social life and you won't even bother giving it a thought. Sounds like a boring way to spend your life ye?
What needs to be done is to have your bad social life turn into a good one.
>Immediately I'll just go ahead and recommend the best book on starting a social life to ever have been written: How to win Friends and influence people. I can't by words describe how the book helped me turn my social life around. It's basically a cheat sheet on how to get along with people
> Watch this video for a quick intro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kuYBNuEs6sA
Anyway! Yea, you need to change your social life to something positive. It's difficult but not impossible in 99.9999% of the cases.
As for other shitty things in life, this doesn't always apply. If you have any more examples I can give you my thoughts on it.
>>672893481
could always kill self?
>>672893899
to much of a sissy for that
>>672893481
>Have a great gift for learning
>Being a little bitch about it and trying to rebel against the social standard of people complimenting you for it.
That's what I can make out from it. As if you didn't really want to admit to being smart and you then try to rationalise that you're stupid.
Just think for a moment. You're given good grades? Is it because you've earned the grade through showing off that you are capable of performing at this level? If so, then you aren't smart. You just probably don't understand the situation you're in to the fullest?
Like man, you've got achievements. That's not many who do, I don't even got anything I am proud to show off because when I was 13 I swept myself into WoW and just now at the age of 18 got out of it. (Still do gaming but it's not my life anymore). At least try to see it from our perspective? Don't look into a mirror at yourself, see how everyone else would look at you? Smart? Successful? Etc? Your whole society doesn't lie, so you probably just need to understand where and who you are.
>>672894041
try painting or making music or playing games or working out or joinign a sports team or reading a book or writign a story or making food or watching a tv series or getting a part time job.
plenty of things out there anon and i don't know what the orignal issue was but i hope im helping
>>672894632
This is also pretty steady advice. It can help satisfy any desires for success and achievement, and also lead to careers or great memories. Good call Anon
>>672894504
>At least try to see it from our perspective?
I try.
Normally I am a pretty shy person, but anyone who gets to know me deeper always said that I am a really smart guy, but somehow I can't accept that. I really don't know why.
I mean yeah, on paper it kinda makes the impression that I might be smart. I just don't feel it.
After about 3-4 years I finally managed to make an appointment at a psychiatrist. I really hope that I can overcome myself to go for it and don't sissy out on that day.
Maybe I just trying to be a rebel, who knows.
>>672893584
thanks
>>672895364
I'm not you and I have no idea how you really are so I can't really say much, or anything, for certain. But I do encourage you to visit that psychiatrist! Like don't chicken out, what have you got to lose from it? Don't like it? Never return and never see him/her again, y'know? At least give it a shot to talk about it with someone who has experience with other individuals with other issues. :)
Much can be solved by talking sincerely to a stranger sometimes.
