How did you get over the love of your life, /b/?
I'm not a 19 y/o edgelord asking you this, I'm 35 with kids and a wife.
Surely some of you have chaded yourself out long enough to score a sweet piece of ass you fell in love with. Most of you probably wound up breaking up with them for reasons directly related to how young and immature you both were.
Have years gone by and you *still* think about her from time to time? I lost mine about 10 years ago and now I hear she's happily married with kids and that infuriates me for some unknown reason, particularly because that was supposed to be our plan. She still occasionally talks to me via email or phone (I haven't changed either in 20 years) so it's kinda akward when we talk. My wife hates this bitch because she knows how bad our breakup has been.
TL;DR - Did you ever really get over the love of your life or did you just learn to live with it?
>>671873234
You will never get over your first true love.
Never.
>>671873512
Then how do you wind up dealing with it?
I thought I was done with this bitch 10 years ago but it still hits me right in the feels when I hear from her every few years.
>>671873234
Mine comes round for sex every now and again. This is enough as I usually remember why we broke up when we talk after.
That is so funny, i was just thinking about it and here is a post about giving up the love of your life.. Somehow I still do not want to give up..
>>671873234
Wait until your midlife crisis.
Currently pining for girl I broke up with,
get this OP, 37years ago.
She was perfect but I wanted more.
>>671873234
>25yo
>young, immature
pick one
>>671873676
It wears of slowly. Each year you will care less.
But it does not help if you keep talking to her either.
>>671873845
You're gonna have to give up sooner or later, because if it didn't already happen it probably never will
>>671873932
you can still be pretty immature and stupid at 25, at least some people i know are like that
>>671873234
>broke up 10 years ago
>i havent changed in 20 years
Troll or retard
>>671873234
>or did you just learn to live with it?
this OP, I'm sorry. It'll get better over time, but it will always hurt. It's not even a rational thing it's just way too deep in your memories. Be proud of the good times, I like dreaming sometimes and pretend we're still together, although this might not be helpful it feels good
>>671874153
Of course I've changed but that's what is so fucking difficult for me to process because I'm a completely different person than I was back in the day but this woman still hits me in the feels every time I think about her
>>671873234 There's a reason you broke up OP. It's easy to fantasize when you're no longer around someone and can keep an image in your head about how you think they are. Especially with nostalgia goggles on.
>>671873923
How old are you bro?
>>671874153
You know one can break up with his gf and still have the same number right?
>retard
>>671873234
>How did you get over the love of your life, /b/?
i didn't. she left 4 years ago, i've fucked/dated since and simply cannot bring myself to care.
i think some/many men only really fall in love once in their lifetimes. i'm older than you op, and before her i didn't even know what love was.
>chugs pint of smirnoff
>>671873923
Well now I don't feel so old being 35 on this bitch anymore.
I suspect something will go down when I do decide to have a midlife crisis.
>>671874423
What happened man?
How long where you two together?
>>671874423
I feel your feels. I got married 5 years ago and I still think about my ex from time to time. I feel guilty because of it and it isn't fair to my wife.
>>671874643
>What happened man?
>How long where you two together?
i fucked up. got really ill and suppose i kinda took it out on her. she held on for a while, then bang, she was really gone. we were together ten years. i'm now an alcoholic heroin addict.
>>671874779
well i'm glad you at least found someone else with whom you feel... at least something. seemingly all, all, all i think about is her.
>chug
>>671873512
Yep. Fuck.
>>671873234
@OP
She learned to live with it.
She's really ok without you.
That's what pisses you off isn't it?
>>671875100
OP here... me and the wife are miserable, we're sort of just together for the sake of being with each other out of convenience so it's not true love like you had.
I also have a problem with the bad shit and I'm currently going through outpatient rehab because of it. So again, I can relate.
>>671875248
Well yeah, wouldn't that piss you off? Why am I still bothered by this shit but she's perfectly okay with it?
>>671873234
I married her.
But let's be honest OP, you'd have hated her if you settled down.
>>671874462
Trust me its not a choice.
Happy married man, good wife. Good relationship.
One morning driving to work she entered my mind. Hadn't thought of her for 20 years.
Midlife is like closing the loop.
I'm heading to the end of my life. Its scary sometimes.
>>671875314
>rehab
i went through that 6 weeks ago. in fact 6 weeks today. managed 2 weeks sober then decided i'd rather die.
>>671875248
not op, and i don't know if he's with me on this... but i'm glad she's gone. not because i wouldn't give absolutely motherfucking anything to have her back, but because if she wants to be gone, then so be it. her happiness is more important than my own. i really do love that girl.
>>671875419
>but she's perfectly okay with it
because you're no great catch
>>671875444
OP here - this is exactly what happened to me last year. I was going through some seriously scary shit and the first thing I thought of that comforted me was my ex, not my wife. It scared the shit out of me. I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt this way.
>>671875425
You still love her?
20 year old college fag here. I spent all of highschool never telling a girl I love them. Now today I'm losing the first woman I truly fell in love with and I chocked and told her. She hasn't really responded and I don't blame her. If I just told her how I felt earlier she would have been with me, now I just got to live with the regret.
>>671875314
Alcohol?
>>671875590
>regret
Do not live with this dude. I'm one of these oldfags here and it will eat you alive inside. Do everything you can *to not* feel regret because it's like a cancer and it spreads over time in your life. Seriously.
>>671875670
Opiates. Not heroin but 100's of pills a month so close enough
>>671873512
Oh yeah dude, tell me about it. I still see dreams of her every night.
>>671875444
man I think about my ex's from time to time and a few that "got away" because I didn't bang everything that move like I should have.
you know what? I don't give a fuck about any of them. None of them did or became anything interesting and I have no regrets, apart from not putting my dick in more of them more often.
>>671873512
I don't know how true this is. Time passes and you just never think about her anymore, especially when you're lucky enough to hook up with another girl who is a much better match for you and you manage to have a great relationship with her. But that takes a while. (like 20 years).
>>671875573
yes, I love my wife. everyday I give her a kiss. she makes me rage a little at time but she is 1000x better than any other bitch I could have had. married since 2004, twins.
>tl;dr I choose right
>>671875707
This.
I watched it happen to a guy I worked for.
He turned onto a real dick to everyone and destroyed his business.
I haven't had a "oneitis" -- a real sexual or romantic obsession -- since I started taking Prozac. And I used to have a new one every few years, always someone unavailable, who I would agonize about constantly.
It's like the neurochemical hole that used to create that obsessive neediness got plugged. Guess it really wasn't "love", just something to obsess about.
>>671873676
stop picking up the phone email whatever
>>671875980
Cool. Me too.
>>671874153
Your reading comprehension is fucking terrible. He said he hasn't changed his email or phone in 20 years you fucking twit
>>671875769
I asked because Feb.11th was 25years for me with alcohol.
>>671875787
>I still see dreams of her every night.
it's not every night for me, but i always go to sleep, then wake, thinking of her. i dreamt of her last night.
closing this thread before i jump off something tall. it really hurts. gonna slam a point of smack and down a pint.
good luck all.
if things get too much, alan watts, a british philosopher, helped me to some extent. loads of his stuff on youtube.
>>671876063
Anti-depressants will fuck up your sex drive. I used to be on all kinds of SSRI's and SNRI's or whatever and they all have sexual side effects. You might want to wean yourself off of them
>>671875939
Well, being the anon I am, It's been enough and I still think about her all the time. Ofc this is a different thing for everybody.
>>671875707
I was fine until the other night she told me that if i just told her that I liked her back when we first started hanging out she wouldn't have left with another man. This whole time I just told myself there was nothing I could have done, well I was wrong. I was afraid to admit to her my feelings early because my previous relationship ended because things moved too fast and I didn't want it to happen again.
It's very sad op. Your story is exactly what i am afraid of. Just broke up with the love of my life, i wasn't perfect and i fucked up a couple of times. We went on and off for a year and a week ago she dropped the bomb that she does not want me anymore. I'm desperate and if she gets married i'm going to kill myself.
>>671876215
My sex drive is OK, it's just not focused on obsessing about unavailable women.
I have minimized my dosage as much as possible, but I will always need some SSRI input to keep my mood from going to an utterly negative place. I did years of therapy and years of 12 step work, but never really felt comfortable in my own skin until I tried SSRI's.
>>671876446
I was told by her only a few days ago that she "constantly thinks about what could have been" even though she just had a kid. I mean seriously, how emotionally manipulative can yo ube?
I finally told her I'm done talking with her after all these years and she told me that she "feels like I'm losing you again" and that she had to stop crying before her husband found out about us talking.
At that very instant, I told her this is why I needed to stop talking with her.
It totally killed me inside but I knew it had to be done.
>>671873234
>How did you get over the love of your life, /b/?
Not.
And someone is gonna have his firstborn cursed to die on their 16th birthday.
>>671876446
yeah and if you'd bought that lottery ticket
or if you'd left 2 minutes later
or whatever
you were a beta pussy. you lose. get over it.
>>671876506
Well I can tell you right now at 35 that you never get over it but you learn to live with it. The main problem I'm having now is that I never had closure on the whole thing. This lack of closure completely fucked me and it doesn't help that I still hear from her from time to time.
I'm heavily involved in other things in life but if this woman showed up to my doorstep today and asked for me to come with her, I'd drop my life and go in an instant. This is how fucking stupid and mental I am about her even after all these years.
>>671876765
I was fucking her, I just didn't tell her how I felt.
If you're involved with active addiction, it will be impossible for you to get over an ex. You need to rid yourself of the obsession of the mind and take care of yourself, once you find happiness and peace, then you will be over. As long as you are placating to your addiction, you will always be obsessed with an ex. You are experiencing euphoric recall over an EX.
I still think about her sometimes, but i don't care anymore.i learned a lot about life with her (even the break up was finally a good thing), but i didn't get news about her since 4 years so she is pretty much a stranger to me
>>671876683
hopefully after shooting up their school or /b/ doesn't know how to raise children
>>671876901
you
get
nothing
>>671876944
this kinda blew my mind. how do you fix euphoric recall?
I sure to god hope this never ever happens to me. I'm currently in a 1,5 year relationship with the girl I consider to be the love of my life and our relationship is going pretty much flawlessly. Never any major fights or anything.
Just the thought of the possibility of this ending someday feels painful. Please let this never happen to me.
>>671877247
What killed it for me was external trauma and pressure from things that happen in life. Job loss, money problems, family problems, etc.
Make sure you two are good problem solvers together and that you don't get frustrated with one another on how to fix lifes problems. You both have to deal with things from now on, you no longer have any individual problems. If you think like that and work together as a team, you will succeed and the relatioinship will flourish.
didn't know men genuinely feel this way, shit
>>671877216
You have to get clean :-(
You have to learn how to operate by partaking in "the next indicated activity" as opposed to partaking in what your addict mind is telling you it wants. It isn't easy at first, but the rewards are great EG not being obsessed with some cum dumpster from 10 years ago, homie. You're younger than most that get a chance to figure this out, rainbows, icecream and babes are in your future.
>>671873234
lol you settled
what a bitch
>>671876988
/b/ doesn't know how to raise children.
They need to know how to get laid first.
>>671877784
/b/ro I hate to break this to you, but life works in such a way where you do have to settle otherwise you'll never be happy. There is no such thing as perfect. The search for perfection always ends in disappointment because it's never found.
>>671877060
Haha ya not anymore
>>671877654
Well, men can't open up like this in real life so we do it on anonymous image boards like I am right now. I haven't told anyone about any of this until now.
>>671877930
How can you settle if you see her in every women..and you of course place your ex high up as some sort of godlike figure. Explain that to me.
>>671877930
been with a pretty ideal girl for the last 3 years. whored around a lot before then. found someone i am happy with now. would never settle with something worse if we broke up.
being single would be better than settling for something you know is inferior
having kids with a woman you don't love is pretty fucking low tier beta
>>671873234
>20 years
>>671873234
>How did you get over the love of your life
still working on it
>>671878194
You need to work on yourself to relieve yourself of this mess bro. You're the problem.
>>671878255
Well because I'm so far down the rabbit hole that getting a divorce and going through a custody battle would destroy everyone involved simply because I settled for a woman I didn't truly love.
She tore my fucking heart out three times.. And eventually crawled back. I took it as my opportunity to make that psychotic bitch cry herself to sleep.
I regret it sometimes but she just didn't give a fuck how I felt when she was using me for attention or tossing me aside when she felt like. I gave that fuckin whore a taste of her own medicine and god DAMN it felt good.
>>671873234
I am a 20 year old and I agree with this>>671873512
guy, I'll never get over her.
Going on a year now. She was 19 and I'm 25. No I haven't got over her, nor will I. Already been with two others girls trying to not think about her as much. Just made me miss her more. Good luck faggots.
>>671878462
yeah you fucked up man. just wait till the kids are done with school and then get divorced and bang young prostitutes
>>671878601
i'm twice your age and i agree too.
true love will absolutely ruin you. it's simultaneously the greatest and the most painful thing you'll ever experience.
I've had to get over 3 "love of my life women" Each one better than the last. When you're with a better woman than the last, you're mind will still fuck with you, you'll still think about your ex and shit, that's life. But obsessing over it and losing the ability to enjoy the present moment and what you currently have is a curse. A curse that can only be broken by personal/spiritual growth. Sorry the answer sucks and isn't fun...
>>671873234
It's been 5 years and I still haven't
>>671873234
>"Love of your life"
Yeah, I got over her.
Know why?
I am not a whiny little bitch that believes in 'soulmate' bullshit designed to sell romance novels.
Did I have a crush on a girl when I was a child?
Sure. More than once.
Then, when we moved on I MOVED ON.
When I got married I put away the past. Once kids came I forgot all that shit.
Know why?
I'm a grown-ass man, that's why.
Stop acting like a 14 year old girl reading an Austen novel and grow the fuck up, already.
>>671878452
After 8 years of relationship i totally forgot how to. I tried talking to other woman as i was an alpha in the past but now i'd be better at picking up women if i pretend to be retarded by drooling and shitting myself. Women are so cold and distant..and i am perceived as some kind of creepy asshole. Fuck my life
>>671878972
>i've never been in love
hush child. 14 girls i've dated, i've loved 1.
>>671876063
That's limerence, fam.
>>671879051
ive been with plenty of women but ive never understood of dating women you know are dumb/whores
not saying theres anything wrong with dumb whores... they are great but its more of a "hey wanna get drinks next friday and let me throat fuck you" instead of a "we should move into together and get a cat"
>>671873512
Aye. Luckily the girl I got with a year after I split with the girl I love has the same name so it doesn't matter if I mumble her name in my sleep
>>671879009
Once you're okay with not picking up women, going home by yourself to wake up early and take care of your business, then you will be drowning in pussy homie. out of an 8 year reletionship it'll take you a year to get you 6 months to a year to get "your game back". focus on yourself and taking care of yourself. Find peace in that, then the rest will come. I know first hand the torment of an EX and this is the only way I found to relieve it. more women will not relieve you at this point.
>>671879278
the fuck are you even talking about? comparing casual sex and love? jesus christ she could lose her tits and cunt in a train explosion and i'd still spend the rest of my life with her and never cheat.
>>671879331
Thats so fucking sad bro. I just had the feeling of throwing up after i read what you said. I'm scared of that shit
>>671873234
You simply get over it. Do something that takes your mind off it. Like alcohol. Or heavy gaming.
I feel in love with a petite brunette that I met while eating at a waffle house. Long story short, we moved in together, then moved away. Sit happens, we break up because different directions in life. Everyday fit 10 solid years, she crossed my mind.
Looked her up. Married to wonderful guy. Dude is a freaking saint and loves her endlessly. Happy for them, and her. She has the family she wanted.
Right when that happened, I met my current. Similar looks, personality, and drive to be the best partner I've ever had. 5 years together now, married last November. I got over her by improving upon her. Couldn't be happier.
>>671873234
Op that's some real normie shit. What brings you to this site? Are you secretly a pedophile?
>>671877654
awesome webm anon. tips fedora from closet since hasn't been able to wear it for about 10 years now since faggots ruined a good thing
>>671879588
or build a business or lift or service the community you live in or educate yourself....pretty much anything but partaking in instant gratification. homie
>>671879421
I live alone i clean i cook i go to work and i work out. I live in the same house we lived together and trust me its like real life hell.
I want to feel something for all of you faggots, but I keep wondering if these "First Loves" were Normalfags.
Were they?
>>671879051
Fuck off, junior.
Here is a little secret for all you maundering morons - love is an act of the will. If it is an 'emotion that washes over you' that is lust or infatuation. A little self-control and it is no different than wanting a chesseburder.
Yeah, I've loved women other than my wife, including my *first* wife, who went from 'I don't feel well' to 'ma'am, it's cancer' to 'I'm so sorry she's gone' in 4 months when she was twenty-two years old.
But I never, ever compare my current wife with my deceased one. And I certainly don't moon over some girl from HS, no matter how hot and heavy it was.
The past is a foreign country and the people in it are strangers.
>>671879859
Remodel or move, anon.
>>671877247
>>671877537
This. And for the love of God, never take her for granted. If you truly love this woman, make sure she knows it every day. I pray you never have to go through this shit either, Anon.
i've never got over her and i never shall. i'm 37/
legit OD'd twice. even have my medical records here which i could timestamp proving it. now my kidneys, liver and intestine are fucked because 200 paracetamol doesn't do you much good even if you do puke after passing out. and i'm still alive, and still in agony. i just want everything to stop forever.
H i love you.
>>671879899
>Fuck off, junior.
i'm 37 and probably twice your size. i've never got over her, never even began to, never shall. i was in my 30's when she left, not school.
>20yearold Medical student
I've known this girl for 7years, she lives about 150miles away from me in the bottom of the country. Last weekend I decided I'd pay her a visit.
Best weekend of my life, we were like a perfect couple, spent all day and night with each other, went on dates and then had sex off and on and hours cuddling.
Told her i love her, she said the same but is afraid the distance wont work out and that shes scared in case I ditch her for someone else.
In the end we've just had a long discussion and she stated that we'll need to meet up for a few more times because shes scared a relationship with me might not work out and we'll stop speaking. I think i've blown it lads.
>>671875590
Don't regret your actions, own them. Guys are told to suppress emotions so many times through life they just do it out of instinct after awhile. But breaking out of that habit is not just healthier emotionally, it's good for your relationships too.
YES, you held back before-there were reasons you did so. Acknowledge them, even if they were dumb, shitty or childish.
YES, there was a time you got all choked up when you told someone you loved them, because it was the first time you'd ever done something like that, and you hadn't practiced it. It was completely awkward, ill timed and kinda cringey, but it was real.
Be real. Girls can see the way you react to things anyway, so just own your emotions and reactions. It makes them think that you're being straight with them, and that makes you seem more decisive, and therefore powerful.
>>671879859
I've been there, in the mess that the last girl left. It wasn't until I cleaned up my act and learned to love myself (through self care) that I found peace. And the peace I've found is far greater than that I ever had in a relationship. In fact, when I got here I realized all the heartache was just a symptom of my obsessive personality and need for instant gratification. I am far better off with out the last one and wouldn't let any one of them in my life at this point. Actual happiness for the first time in my life and it wasn't found in a women,
I know that the pic is tumblr faggot bullshit.. but it is somehow true. Been 4 years since my true love got away.. been sleeping with lot of chicks, cannot stay in relationship for more than 3 months. I do not feel lonely, but when I think of my true love.. It fucking hurts. And she will never know how I feel. Fuck this, I need a drink..
>>671879899
Sorry for your loss but at least she's dead. That counts as a closure and you don't have to see her move on and be happy with someone else while you degrade in your insanity.
What is love?
Baby don't hurt me.
No more.
>>671880195
Don't give up man, if you truly love her you'd do anything to stay with her.
>>671880127
>I'm 37
which means you are physically more than a decade younger than me and mentally younger than my 2nd kid, who is a junior in HS
>probably twice your size
lose some weight, then, lardass
>I OD'ed twice
OOOOOOH! Now I get it.
You are a *certified* dumbass.
>>671873234
i like to dress up as wolvie (my fav x man)
i finally met a girl who thought i was super sexy 10/10 would bang like bam.
she'd come over sometimes while her boyfriend was away after school.
once the door would close she'd almost instantly get naked. most times she'd put on her favorite song and start sucking. then she would cry. her tears and makeup would drip down her face onto my dick. its surprising how cold tears are. eventually i finally asked her what was wrong. in between licks she told me that her favorite song was also her bfs favorite song. so even though she loved hearing it and it totally got her pussy wet, it also made her think about the fact that she was cheating on her boyfriend. i dont think i ever came harder down somebodies throat then right after she told me that. she was beautiful. we dont hang out anymore. wanna get lunch? or just talk? im sad. im ok. im sad.
this was the song:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2dsGeGzxTs
>>671880513
Nice
>>671880343
>I need a drink
iktfb. 1.4 litres of smirnoff, a couple of bags of crack, 3-mg of diaz and .3-1g of smack is a typical day. i wish she'd at least fucking speak to me.
>>671880553
oh stop whinging you prat, everyone is different, hero.
>>671878168
does this make females heartless or does it make men emotional
>be femanon
>not ugly
>breakup w who I thought was the love of my life
>over it within a month
>fast forward 4 yrs
>ex bf dating ex friend
>nobigdeal.jpg
>talks to me when hes upset
>"I miss you" he says 1
>current gf goes apeshit
>deleted
>blocked
she doesn't know he talks to me about things he can't talk to other people about (we were, still are very close- understand each other) little does she know she is making him distance himself from her when he cannot express himself
me, watching this all go down. do not like her at all but she makes him happy so I do not want to interfere but also want him to be happy
>shit
wat do ?
>>671873234
You may not be a 19 year old edge lord, but you're asking 19 (and younger) edge lords their opinion on loves of their lives?
Sounds like your love really dodged a bullet.
uni
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kek.
>>671880379
First girl I loved, lost my virginity to her. She was gorgeous, she was brilliant, we got along great. After 4 months I told her we might want to get married. She wasn't ready and broke it off.
Instead of moping around and letting her live in my head, rent free, I met ANOTHER great girl.
First girl is married, 3 kids, 2 grandkids. I only know because one of my kids knows one of hers.
Good for her!
Listen, what these guys are describing isn't "twue wove", it is *envy*; a sadness that others are happy. That's why OP is furious his ex is happy. Envy is ugly, and corrosive, and the opposite of love.
Don't be like that
>>671880522
> "i guess just act like how we were a couple weeks ago until we see each other again, because i dont want to get myself caught up and away with the fairies to fall flat on my face".
Thats one of the last messages she sent me. I asked if she wanted a relationship and if she'd ever feel 100% sure we'd work out and she just said she needs more time.
Im not the best with women, but she flicks from saying she can see her spending her life with me, to saying shes to scared to commit to a relationship incase it doesnt work out
>>671873512
For me, the best advice i ever got was to cut all ties with said love interest and never look back. I hurts for a year or two, but if you never see her or never hear from her, your memory eventually fades to the point where you start to forget why you liked her so much in the first place. I think OP is shooting himself in the foot by maintaining contact with her. There really isnt a benificial reason to do this since you can realistically get nothing from the relationship since both parties are married and living seperate lives. OP still harboring feelings for her only makes things worse.
>>671880946
>19 (and younger) edge lords
not op.
read the thread. not everyone here is a babby. i'm nearly 40.
ITT 40 year old edgelords
>>671880831
Yes, everyone is different.
This makes it obvious that some people are better than others.
OP needs to put on his grown-up pants and become fully emotionally involved with his actual wife and kids rather than wasting time, energy, and emotions on someone who is long gone.
>>671881367
you sound like a kid.
>too shy
>kv
>when I was 10 I heard my mom say jokingly “anon can only date girls when hes 18”
>I didn’t take that as a joke
>I grow up scared as fuck that if I meet a girl someone will tell my mom and the worst will happen to me
>be 15
>new school year
>kinda qt girl from class show me signs
>no idea how to “stay” with a girl
>one day she show her signs
>I don’t approach
>next day
>I show signs
>she doesn’t do anything
>im mad at me cause I didn’t approach her the day before
>next day she shows signs
>I don’t approach
>im mad at her cause in the before she didn’t do anything
>repeat this shit for like 2 months
>finally I tell her someday that we should “stay” together
>she says she doesn’t want
>get in depression, also I get verbally abused by my mother constantly
>when I reach 16 I decide to live my life lonely
Cont?
>>671881178
Bingo!
well said, anon.
>>671879538
she still has a mouth right
you are the one saying you have dated 14 people you knew were shit compatibility wise
>too shy
>kv at the time
>when I was 10 I heard my mom say jokingly “anon can only date girls when hes 18”
>I didn’t take that as a joke
>I grow up scared as fuck that if I meet a girl someone will tell my mom and the worst will happen to me
>be 15
>new school year
>kinda qt girl from class show me signs
>no idea how to “stay” with a girl
>one day she show her signs
>I don’t approach
>next day
>I show signs
>she doesn’t do anything
>im mad at me cause I didn’t approach her the day before
>next day she shows signs
>I don’t approach
>im mad at her cause in the before she didn’t do anything
>repeat this shit for like 2 months
>finally I tell her someday that we should “stay” together
>she says she doesn’t want
>get in depression, also I get verbally abused by my mother constantly
>when I reach 16 I decide to live my life lonely
Cont?
This is not the shit I wanted to read today.
My ex and I broke up about a month ago, and every day I tell myself, "She's gone, it's time to move on."
And every fucking day she comes back into my head. I just want to stop thinking about her, /b/.
>>671880842
Women are heartless bitches who make us who we are. Congratz, he won't be coming back if you were as i just said women are.
>>671881105
also this:
uni
chan
2
.org/b/res/600135.html#600135
this guy is 36, madly in love, and having a breakdown on a chan. he's drugging and raping kids to get over his ex.
>>671873234
>How did you get over the love of your life, /b/?
When I was younger I experienced a beautiful, vibrant, passionate love the likes of which many men will never know.
And that's how I got over her-- though I still think of her to this day, it isn't painful-- I realized that many, many men will never have what I shared with that girl. The fact that she and that time existed in my life remains, like a gem in a pile of ash.
>>671881141
But i spent 8 years with this woman and we were very close. I know envy is bad but hatred is all you are left with.
>>671881457
yeah go ahead
>>671880842
go ahead and do it slut. bang him and ruin his relationship and then leave him out in the cold while you fuck a chad
>>671880842
females are intimatly closer with thier friends and are willing to open up more. This means, after a bad break up, a woman can usually turn to her friend group for love and support. Men on the other hand, whilst still having meaningful friendships, do not open up emotionally to thier friends, and usually close off their vulnerabilities, and fears. Its usually not until a man gets into a serious relationship with someone of the other sex that they feel comfortable opening up. This means for men that, during a bad break up, they usally lose the one person they confided the most into, and have no where to go for deep emotional support. This leaves men at a disadvantage and causes attachment issues.
>>671881618
well that's the problem, I don't want him to come back. I'm in a happy relationship and as far as I can tell he is too
but I do worry that him and current gf will split up bc he doesn't let things off his chest that he needs to, that's why he talked to me. I haven't initiated a conversation with him in at least 2 years.
I genuinely want him to be happy
>>671873234
After 13 years later married with 1 Baby on the way, I'm still heart broken lost the best girl I could ever come across too, never get over it just dig a hole to fill another one
>>671882016
I don't think you understand what I am trying to say
I do not want him. I have a wonderful boyfriend.
I want him to be happy and I want to keep from interfering in his relationship, but he will text me when he's upset and cannot talk to his gf about it.
ahhh the power of using that slab of meat you call a brain, boys
>>671882078
lol. 90% of females have the most shallow superficial friends and the most meaningful conversation is "hey you didn't like my new photo on (insert social media) site"
after a break up she just goes back to hanging out with whores/acting like a whore where the most meaningful conversation is about which pretty dress to wear and where to get free drinks from/who to fuck
>>671882078
thank you for this explanation, anon. that makes a lot of sense
>>671882428
i think there's an edgy 12yo lurking itt trying to be one of the big boys. note how most people are just chilled.
the brain is made of fat, btw.
also i'm drunk. wanna fuck?
>>671882428
funny thing about our brain, its located in our penis
>a few months after meeting the class girl I kiss a girl just due to peer pressure
>>when I reach 16 I decide to live my life lonely
>thoughts of what happened between me and class girl keeps hammering my head
>tfw I will never be a man
>im not ugly so girls sometimes in random occasions stare at me
>tfw cant do anything
>tfw im a failure
>gets mad at girls show signs to me
>fucking thoughts in my head gets harder and harder
>be 17
>thinking im going crazy
>mom keeps abusing me
>still lonely as fuck, I read to deal with that
>don’t meet any more girls for years
>thoughts of class girl still in my mind
cont?
>>671882428
he wants to fuck you. you will eventually get pissed off enough at his girlfriend (that you already admit you don't like) that you will fuck him just to spite her
go ahead and do it already
the other girl is completely reasonable in telling him not to talk to you. platonic relationships are horseshit
>>671882428
If you don't want him back then just reject him. I bet you are good at that. And let him deal with his shit. And femanon you know the rules.
>tits or gtfo
Timestamp those trampjugs
>>671873512
Pretty much. I'm 33, I've had a bunch of girlfriends, even almost got married once. I still think about my first real girlfriend from when I was 17-20.
I loved that girl and we had a senseless breakup that should never have happened. I still think about what I'd have done differently, about what I'd say to her if I saw her today. I still think about buying things for her when I'm at the store and I see something I know she'd like. I still think about her whenever I play Chrono Trigger (it was her favorite game).
It's never gone away. I don't miss her dearly like Imused to, but I still get nostalgic from time to time.
>>671882709
>>671882809
>autism
>girls show me signs
>everyone is staring at me and i am uncomfortable
>no one will ever understand me
this story sucks
>>671882941
>first real girlfriend from when I was 17-20.
i can't imagine falling in love at that age. i think it'd have killed me. i was 32, but my first gf was... well fuck, actually i was gonna say 14, but i was 5. i spent 8 years with one girl and kind of assumed that because i was very fond of her and that we'd been together so long, that must be what love was.
then 'she' came along.
>OH WOW OK, FUCK ME SIDEWAYS, THAT'S WHAT LOVE IS LIKE
>>671881436
>OP needs to be emotionally involved with his actual family
>you think this sounds like a kid
Uh-huh
>>671882640
they may seem superficial to you, but that still doesnt mean they arent emotionally supportive. They handle break ups much differently than men as they open up to thier friends and family more. Mens first reaction is to shut down and bottle his feelings inward. he usually detaches from hanging out with friends. Like i said, this usally leads to attachment issues and is unhealthy
>>671881775
Just like love, envy is a choice you make. well, until you make it a habit. But just like smoking causes cancer, you must stop before it eats you up.
My ex went to university and left me in a cunty town. Resented her and ended it after six years. She is now a teacher and lives with some fag guy she met at uni. 1 attempted suicide that no one knows was related to not having her and constant depression and anxiety over what could have been.
I've only ever fell in love with a girl online and we both hurt each other so bad we got over each other and now we're friends. It's... weird thinking back on it now. Love is strong but so is pain.
to those of you who KNOW you've been in love as opposed to assuming you probably have been, or question whether you have... have you asked your parents whether they felt something similar? i asked them both... both said no. 22 years they were together. they admitted to me that neither of them had ever been in love. only my dad had, 10 years after my parents divorced.
>>671883333
niceeee
>>671873234
>>671873234
>TL;DR - Did you ever really get over the love of your life or did you just learn to live with it?
As much as possible
happened 3 years ago, 4 actually.
>>671883323
Well, I'd had "girlfriends" at school or during summer camp, but that wasn't anything real. It wasn't until I met my first ex that I really cared about someone.
>tfw she and i designed my house together. everything from carpets to wallpaper to curtains to e-very-thing
>can't move
>can't afford to renovate again
>work from home
>when not too high on heroin
>>671884081
You're in the same situation as i am.
>totally fucked
>>671873234
>make online dating profiles
>find someone who looks like her
>fly out to fuck her
>come back home
>put your efforts into your marriage and children
>accept that you will always miss what you had
>grow from this knowledge because nothing worse for kids than a whiny dad
>accept that your wife will either cheat on you or get fat
>get a fucking hobby
>get a job that let's you travel
>away from hell
>away from hell
>but never away from yourself
>>671884197
just waiting for my parents to die, so i can kill myself without them having to suffer. death doesn't scare me, life is near-unbearable. fucked indeed.
>>671884391
Is it because you're not with the girl you love ?
>>671884391
There is plenty of reasons to live. Lay off drugs and exercise. Find a hobby, do something you like, besides drugs obviosly.
>>671884677
i like to exercise and then go home and do drugs and play video games
>>671882934
now, can somebody please explain ? im very interested in learning something about the way men think
>>671883691
i have. my parents wanted nothing to do with each other when they first got married. my dad was working at an air force base in north dakota and basically had a one niight stand with my mom. And whoops, she got pregnant with my older sister. My dad made sure he got married so that he could take care of my sister. his side of the family refused to go to the wedding as they saw my mother as a tramp. my mother is a fantastic women, but was terribly molested as a child in the 70s and this led to some serious mental health issues like drug addicting, alcoholism and yes, promiscuity. surprisingly enough though, my dad was the one that cheated on her, for nearly two years after they got married. things were rough and they hated each other so much, but as the years progressed they slowly got closer and now, 30 years later, theyre inseperatable. im not a beleiver in love at first sight, i think love is something you have after you progress past the lust stage of a relationship
>>671884647
it's because without her i'm not me.
>>671884677
tried getting sober, exercising, getting pro help, going on dates, fucking girls hotter than her, blah etc. nah it's all about her, has been for a decade. still is as much today as it was when she left in 2012. she hasn't spoken to me since. she's ALL i think about.
i have money btw. a 1yo car, my own house all paid for, fair money coming in, 6ft3, girls like me, not socially anxious... still nah. all about her.
I'm not an anti-feminist and I don't think I'm sexist.
However, I've never seen a girl love, the way guys do. Unconditionally.
Might be me narrow personal view, might be a false perception of reality, but honestly, judging from my experience, my friends' and my acquaintances, it simply is not the same.
I really would like a femanon's view on this.
>>671884865
more than weed? beer?
>>671884996
i wonder whether it's love or just convenience.
but what do i know
>>671884865
Well then good luck in your journey. Or find another girl. There's plenty out there.
>>671873234
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RA7mruIJRqk
>>671885083
>However, I've never seen a girl love, the way guys do. Unconditionally.
that's why men love different than woman
that's why men are so broken up when a relationships over
>>671885031
getting sober is different than getting dry
>>671885233
>There's plenty out there.
but none match her
>>671884956
Some men confuse infatuation and/or lust for love and then confuse nostalgia for love, too.
It is a mess.
>>671885083
>Unconditionally
i think women need to be able to move on for the good of the kid they're invariably left with if things go wrong. makes sense that women would evolve to be capable of truly falling in love more than once.
>>671885320
>getting sober is different than getting dry
not sure i follow
>>671884956
Sorry but it seems like you're short a couple bucks off the total payment needed.
>>671882809
>be 19
>get into work
>tries to socialize without success
>depression gets back again
>I quit work after passing in college
>I get into college
>after a few months even try socializing again
>goes ok
>for like 2 years I can study
>but the thoughts that im a failure for not getting the class girl is still in my head
> there are qt college girls but I have no self steem
>so nothing happens like always
>later on I cant study anymore
>just guilt and shame feelings
>be 23, at the end of 2013 I decide its time for Sudoku since I cant function anymore
>mfw when im just a parasite like my mom used to call me
>didn’t Sudoku
>2014 just cant function yet
>guilt increases
>kinda didn’t pass in any class that year
>at the end of the year I decide its time to look for help
>find a good therapist
>2 months in he helps me evaluate better what happened between me and class girl
>have my ups and downs
>again suicidal ideation, gets close to be kill
>when talking to psychiatrist she tells me I have pure obsessional OCD
>mfw when those thougths hammering my head made sense now
>mfw actually I have a mental disorder
>mfw I didn’t use to be so sad before the class girl
>ok time to fix this shit and my life
>with the help of the psychologist I reevaluate what happened
>after a few months ive my first date
>meet a few more girls
>the last one broke with me cause shes BPD and is bi
>first time I got close to a girl
>got bj but didn’t fuck
>be 25 still virgin
>still struggling with classes
>life is going a lot better than before
>now I can meet girls
>and the class girl is out of my head
Any questions im here
Yep feel you. We loved each other so much (and we probably still do). I was going to move for only two years for work. She ended up breaking up with me because it was too hard to do long distance and she had some other personal stuff going on in her own life. Got emotional ended up meeting someone new 6 months later, got engaged and married (had a wedding ceremony and the whole 9 yards), even went through an abortion with this woman, and at the last second (literally a day after we formally got married) I felt like it was not right for me. ended up leaving and came back home.
Came home, and she wanted to talk about the entire thing. We talked for a little bit, but the entire drama definitely traumatized me. She talked about getting together or having a chance to be together, but I still had this hate and blame for her sort of abandoning me, and at the same time felt like I couldn't be with her because of the immense guilt of leaving my ex-wife and putting someone through so much shit. I do miss her, and feel like I won't ever meet someone like her again in my life, but I try to forget time to time and keep myself super busy.
The only thing that drives me now is my own ambition and dreams. I gave up everything to get to this point. I left job prospects, a potential safe future in my career, and her just to get to this point. I definitely want to pursue something greater in the future. I always remember what I gave up just to be here today. Note: I am 26, so I can't imagine what it would be like if I was ten years older, but yeah I can relate.
>>671885349
that seems more like a human trait
speaking for myself, ive confused many things with love. women aren't like experts at identifying emotions
>>671885496
Not him but that's a AA cult thing they say when you are sober without there help.
>>671885809
>AA cult thing
ah gotya. yeah agnostics anonymous wasn't for me at all.
>>671885631
>because of the immense guilt of leaving my ex-wife
that guilt cost me a potential relationship
>>671885496
Sobriety is different than abstaining from your drug of choice. Sobriety is being comfortable and at peace with who you are. Being dry is being off of drugs or booze. If you have a drunk horse thief and he stops drinking, you still have a horse thief. First you cut out the shit, than you figure out why you were on the shit...
>>671873234
>chaded
>chaded
>chaded
>>671885953
fair enough. but AA didn't work for me mang. seems rather sinister even; "you're going to have this disease forever, no matter what you do"
>>671885031
Then you are obsessed and should seriously seek professional help. I may follow in your footsteps later on but at least now i know what i am going to do if it ever comes to that.
Make her "aware" of you in some way, if you are succesful she may consider talking to you if she ever gave a damn.
My first love was an overweight single mom with a fucked up family and a chronic illness. There isnt a single day that goes by I dont want to go back in time and beat the shit out of my younger self with a metal bat.
There are worse things than "never getting over your first love"
>>671885809
It is loosely AA, but you don't need AA to figure out your underlying issues...although they may be able to help
>>671885083
This is true. Love always seems to be conditional with women. They've always seemed cold to me, how they can seemingly just flip a switch and not love someone anymore. I can't understand that. I don't let people in easily, but when I do, I can't just let them go like it was nothing.
Shit's kinda fucked up, honestly. As a man, nothing will ever hurt you as much as a woman will. You can go to war, get shot, stabbed, blown up, lose limbs, and you fucking deal. The woman you love leaves you? You're fucking destroyed.
>>671886133
>seek professional help.
what, for a fourth time?
>Make her "aware" of you in some way, if you are succesful she may consider talking to you if she ever gave a damn.
nah, she's really gone, and that's the way it has to be. long story, all very tragic, but incidentally, i wouldn't change a thing. i'm ecstatic that it happened at all. 'better to have loved and lost' n all that.
>>671885200
booze, weed, occasionally mushrooms or acid
everything else is pretty shit tier/nigger drug
booze is the most degenerate of the four
>>671873932
24 y/o male here
i'm dumb as fuck
>>671886187
>. As a man, nothing will ever hurt you as much as a woman will
true sadly
>>671886071
You don't have to AA hombre.
and i'm sure it didn't work for you if you didn't work it. I was exposed to these principals outside off AA
>>671886438
>You don't have to AA hombre.
yeah i'm in 4 other groups. NA is better than AA imo. less religious stuff and they allow me to go on about smack addiction as well as alcoholism.
>>671886187
Experienced this personally. Thats why ive given up ever finding someone. I could never fool myself again to think someone would love me as much as I love them.
>>671885205
I dont see why the two cant be mutually exclusive. they would both die for each other, and i seen it on several occasions. i think this crap the love is some sort of butterfly feeling in your stomach is misguided. thats not love, thats lust. lust goes away. now, what you do when you past that point is what really defines whether you love someone or not. and its not the big things, its the little things. My dad gets up every morning at 4:30 am to shovel snow, but he also warms my moms car and clears the snow off it. he's been doing that ever since i can remember. then my mom brings him his breakfast and coffee.
>>671886584
To me AA is synonymous with all 12 step programs, weahter its narcotics, gambling, sex, over eating, vidya games etc etc
>>671884956
As i was the man who suggested you timestamp I will try to explain what's going on in his mind.
She's trying to control him and he's afraid to open up in a conversation because he has him by the balls. He's trapped and sees you as a salvation as men usually fantasize about their previous relationships and place their ex-loved ones in a idyllic all-was-perfect light.
He most likely sees you like a godlike creature who understood him and since he can't have this with his current gf he is drawn to you.
If you care about him, go see him at a coffee and prepare to be a sponge to a weeping man.
If you care about him let him deal with his life as a real man but be prepared to be hated in the future as hate > love most of the times.
Men can't reach out to other men to discuss about their issues so they tend to go for the ex to talk about things because they feel safe and their manhood is protected.
>>671886699
>i think this crap the love is some sort of butterfly feeling in your stomach is misguided. thats not love
yeah no kidding. when you want your partner so much you want to fucking swallow her whole and absorb every atom of her being into your body, and would die the most agonizing, torturous death and do so with a smile simply because it's what she wanted... and you still want, crave, ache for, need more... everything +1... even though it's fucking beautiful, life-changing and simultaneously life-destroying and ego-annihilating... that's love.
well imo anyway.
it was a lot more than just convenience. it's impossible to articulate, it's a feeling like NOTHING else.
>>671884956
Men hate women who bitch about stupid shit
>>671884956
Let's see some more of those beautiful tits.
>>671886993
there are no 'steps' in the other groups i'm in, most aren't structured, just a bunch of dropouts, heartbroken souls and junkies sat in a room trying to help eachother.
>chug
>>671873234
>we have known each other since we were 10 years old
>started fooling around at 17, her bf at that time was a huge dick
>fell in love in each other at 18
>spend 4 beautiful years side by side
>almost a year ago she left me out of nowhere with no reason explained to me, havent seen her since then
shit stings
>>671875419
Because women are heartless creatures who simply respond to their dominator/idol/provider, however their impulses vary which results in them suddenly having different preferences. Aand gone they are.
Seriously fuck women. That is, right in the pussy.
>>671887322
saved that image, entitled "heartbroken.jpg"
>>671874298
this
Well I listened to some anons and a few hours ago told her that I loved her.
>>671884956
>>671885631
By the way i very much like what i see
>>671887749
It doesn't work that way anon
>>671873234
I didn't. She's with the biggest doucheback I know. I have mixed feeling, because on one hand I love her so much, on the other she's so fucking unbelievably stupid to be with him that it's simpy infuriating.
At the same time she made me realize that love is real and that I need her, and that women are just fucking illogical, dumb whores.
>>671887749
What...that has been the complete opposite of what ive been saying man. did you text it. email it, call her? youre op, right?
>>671887322
Why does this pic give me such feels? Why is a broken vending machine so tragic?
>>671887749
>beeep
Wrong. You can't pursue, if she wants back with you she will let you know.
>>671885594
Biggest regret?
>>671876446
Lesson learned: be honest like a fucking real man. Only bitches and cowards lie.
You dont. You just learn to accept living without them. It still hurts though. Good luck op
>>671888103
No haha I'm a different guy
>>671878444
this
and checkd
>>671888172
its a perfect metaphor for when you inevitably become disillusioned and callous about love relationships.
>>671888378
True, idk I wouldn't have done it if it wasn't so soon after my last relationship. Usually I'm honest with my feelings but at the time I was just doubting myself
>>671888544
nevermind then, good luck to you. lol
is this person you told you loved an ex or something?
Divorce your wife, give her money to support the children you had by (your) mistake, tell them you don't love them and you are permanently obsessed with your fantasy of what being with truluvbitch would be like, then spend the rest of your life trying to get truluvbitch back. This can include killing her family, kidnapping her and running off to a hidden rape dungeon far, far away.
You will thank me later!
Didn't work out romantically, relationship ended, we still talk every day.
Literally platonic love, so yeah. Didn't have to get over it.
>>671881618
accurate
>>671888899
>disillusioned and callous
i don't feel that way at all. i still love her as much as ever and i hope to christ i find something similar again... but all i ever think about is her. not disillusioned with love, i love her infinitely.
>>671889332
At least this is what torn me inside out.
Btw almost checkd trips
>>671887045
thank you heaps, but I have asked him if he'd like to meet at dunkins before work and he said he'd have to bring the missus, and that would make it all pointless. let me make this clear: I disliked her before they had anything to do with each other, before I even met HIM. I actually dislike her less now that they are together, but she absolutely hates me (I was his only gf before her, we were together a long time, very close, intimate relationship).
i understand why she would hate me, but it's honestly very immature- He simply is not to that point with her quite yet, but if she doesn't let him talk they will never get to that point, that is why I am so concerned for him.
he is the type who will break it off if he needs to, even though he doesn't want to. if he feels he's not happy with her anymore I know he will end it and then be more depressed.
he deserves to be happy, he is a great person
accept ducc into your life
>>671887045
v sorry about so many words
this is so interesting
>>671888221
Following what was to told me to follow, behaving like i was supposed to behave and i didnt even try to break from this circle. Me being a good moral person, instead of being a person that looks for my best, and not whats expected from me. Getting girls is easier now, but following what i want, or finding out what i want is the hardest, also ive no goals, cant see why im studying, but im still in therapy, its a help for me to do and look for what i want truly for myself
>>671873234
Can't really put it in words right now, but I feel you. I don't know if I still love her in "that" way, but I miss her everyday and occasionally dream of her. Last night it was just sitting in a room and talking and listening to good music. Just like we used to do before we lost contact because I moved away. We were never together, but I loved her. I knew she didn't love me and so I didn't risk our friendship and eventually, I met a girl who should become my girlfriend and is until today, so I got over it. But then we lost contact and after everything went well for a few months, I started to feel a void. Don't missunderstand me, I love my girlfriend and everything is working out fine. It's just like something is missing.
Feels good writing this down now.
>>671873234
You'll never get over it OP. I was 17 and I still am not over it and I'm 24. Everytime I see a picture of her I get reminded. Even when we hang out with each other I don't stop thinking.
>>671890517
i wonder if anyone loved that girl.
damn i'd be one angry motherfucker.
>>671890363
Im still trying to find my way too anon
>>671889928
You do know he's not your responsability. It's ok to not like her, i don't like her from what you describer her to be.
If he reaches out to you, alone, you could talk to him to see what's it all about if not, just go on with your life.
And tbh he's better off w/o that chick who doesn't listen to him, that's like one of the basic things in a relationship. A relationship w/o friendship is doomed to fail.
i've still got the ring she gave me after we were just half a year together, engraved was the date we got together
plus a picture we took at her grandmas at christmas.
been nearly 4 years ago...
>>671888947
Me and her had a fling back in November-December. I started falling in love with her but because my last relationship ended because I moved to fast I was hesitant on showing my true feelings. Well she ended up leaving with some rich fucker from Rhode Island, she texted me two weeks ago and told me if I just told her how I felt she would have chosen me.
>>671873512
I did. Fond memories of youth, but she was a bitch.
>>671890362
>kekd at the webm
I'm good at theory but fucked up badly in my love life, who would have thought eh ?
I lost my wife two days ago.. wish this thread had died before I saw it.. back to crying in the blanket that smells most like her..
>>671883333
Quads tell the truth.
OP, man the fuck up.
>>671873234
FIDO: Fuck It Drive On
Thats the motto OP. You move on, you put it out of your head, because dwelling in the past does you harm, not good. Ive had a few women I loved and lost, it isnt easy, but you just end up forgetting about it and not caring anymore. Then you see them on facebook or something and you think of what could have been, but its all a fantasy, and it would most likely not have ended up the way you think it would. So you put that out of your head too. With all the women Ive loved and lost, I still love them, but I don't really give a shit about it anymore, and I know it didnt work out for a reason so I dont try to go running back. Plus I ihave someone else who I love and loves me, so that helps quite a bit.
>>671890921
What a shamew thing to tell someone. Is she second guessing her choices?
>>671873676
Change your phone number and email and delete facebook.
>>671891433
tldr please
>>671891618
Probably because money cannot buy happiness.
>inb4 richfag doesn't know how to use his dick nor his head
>>671873234
OP you're a foolio. You can move on.
>>671891618
In someways, but she doesn't know what she wants right now. He broke her heart and now she just a mess. Not eating,sleeping, but drinking and smoking all the time. Last night she started to cry and blood just started coming out like crazy.
>>671891899
That's such bullshit though. The times Ive had the most money/been able to take care of myself and buy fun shiit, have been the happiest times. in my life. The worst times are when I was the poorest. People who say money doesnt buy happiness have never had enough money.
>>671885083
Watch this if you're really interested.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J1imXIDBOdo
The gist is that women have much higher standards than guys and that's proved in different ways, even in chimps. Guys find about 50% of women above average and 50% below average, whereas women find about 20% of men above average and 80% below average. The video is really interesting, actually.
>>671892219
So how does it feel to be an empty shell anon?
>and a jew
>>671892223
Thanks, will watch
>>671891839
TL;DR:
>be nigger
>can't read
>>671892459
You're welcome anon. Have fun with it, it changed my perspective on women when I watched it.
>>671892449
Tell me how you would be happier living on the streets rather than a house in the burbs. Tell me how terrible it is to have preferential treatment from everyone, especially women. I'd love to hear how awesome not having status is.
>>671891839
reevaluate
so the girl from that time does not represent the same thing she can be now (at the time she symbolized my failure(for other anons happiness), now she symbolizes that i wasnt prepared for that, now im prepared)
i wish i'd get back with my love of my life, even saw her in a wedding dress once.
>>671892790
>small house
>afford little
>live alone
I'd like to have money to be able to satisfy all my daily needs not to pick up women.
I let my sociopathic traits to handle that as i am good with pretending.
Women do like actors so i give them a fucking movie
>>671892790
It's all about your personality, I'm happy with less and don't need to be surrounded by material thing. Some people need them. As long as I have enough money to go to my bar, smoke a bowl and sleep in a room that I own. I'm happy.
>>671893629
cool story
>>671893997
Yeah so money makes you happy. It doesnt have to be lifestyle of the rich and famous.
I'm involved in an absolutely shitty situation. Started off as just sex, developed into a long term relationship and we got married. She has an undiagnosed personality disorder so there's been issues that I've stood by her for (not to say I don't have my own shortcomings but hers definitely effect our marriage and relationships with others).
She started cheating a month ago, the guy is twice her age and gives her money. I found out, we are deciding to separate, I'm moving out and she's been staying with him because she gets paid basically. Yet she still wants to see me. I want her to get help and am slightly interested in the return of our sex life. But the situation is incredibly unhealthy. I have suspicions she is going to want to live with me again soon. I know I just need to cut her off and move on. But I'm afraid I'm going to be in OP's situation one day where I can't get over her (or who I thought she was I guess, pretending to be).
>>671894221
I'm saying you make yourself happy, money helps, women help, toys help, books help, religion helps. But if you won't let yourself be happy or let yourself compromise then you can't be. Btw I'm not the anon who called the guy a Jew.
>>671894275
She's keeping the bird in hand, just in case the other one flies away. You're the backup plan now. Ditch her fast, if she wants to be a gold digger, make her play without a net. She might even use you to get pregnant or something, imagine the shitstorm then.
>>671873234
She Over Dosed on a train. I went to the funeral and moved on with me life.
>>671873234
Well I am still living with my first love so it's okay.
>>671894481
Money helps the most though, it allows you to put yourself into the right place to be happy. That's all Im saying, I just hate when people say money doesnt buy happiness, because in a capitalist society, it actually does. It doesnt mean everything will be great all the time, but itll be a lot better than if you didnt have money all the time.
>>671873512 lucky me
>>671880336
Honestly I think this is my problem. My wife is terrible for me, we have our moments and know each other so well but we are going to divorce due to her affair (she's still seeing him for the cashflow). I felt good about moving on, her friends took me out, I started packing.. but she keeps showing up here and it screws me up. She wants to hook up. She probably just wants to keep me from finding someone else, stringing me along until she needs something from me later on. I have the same problems you do, I need to do what you've done.
OP here of this megathread. Srsly. No idea it was gonna be still up when I got b ack from the store.
Thank all you anons. It really helped knowing there are other folks who went through the exact same shit as I did. I'm never gonna talk to her again. It's over with.
Thanks /b/ros
I have two. One was when I was 19, in which everything fell about because we were young and dumb and didn't know how to deal with it. The other is my ex wife. We were married for ~6 years when I was in my late 20's and things went cock up due to mostly financial issues. I'm 34 now and I'm unable to and haven't been with anyone since the split.
>tfw I'll most likely be alone for the rest of my life.
>tfw I think about both of them daily and curse myself for fucking up such a good thing twice.
>>671896096
dude just dont fuck her, and dont talk to her, problem solved. Why complicate things
>>671896402
But why curse it? Being alone is great. You can do whatever you want. You know that day your girl leaves and you have the house all to yourself? The day you turn up the porn and beat your dick like it stole something? That's every day when you're single. I think it's wonderful.
Also serious question here - how do I archive this thread once it's gone? Is there a way to save it somehow?
>>671886187
Can't speak for all women but my soon to be ex is like this because she is emotionally retarded. Not to be rude but she just can't be confronted or deal with practically ANYTHING because of it. Happens with her family too. She IS sad and she is hurt and it meant something to her, internally, but she can't acknowledge it and deal because she doesn't know how. So instead she lets it eat away at her inside while on the outside she uses a new guy or money to try to help her forget.
That used to be my biggest fear, if something happens and she would just leave to pretend I never mattered. Now that I know her and we're in that situation, I know it isn't true. She just can't cope. I pity her.
>>671897042
>That used to be my biggest fear, if something happens and she would just leave to pretend I never mattered. Now that I know her and we're in that situation, I know it isn't true. She just can't cope. I pity her.
That goddamn feel bro
>>671897019
uh, right click > save.
except, sometimes it doesn't work. iuno why. moot-tactics to stop people saving stuff i spose.
check it properly saved instead of only saving from the point you entered the thread.
>>671873234
Love is like meth or alcohol. If you keep talking to her that shit will open right back up. I love my wife probably more than my first love and have a better relationship, but until i cut off contact i felt a lot like you.
>>671897459
Got it. Thanks. I was worried it wasn't gonna save it all due to some 4chan server jewery
Imagine her taking a shit - works like a charm.
>>671873234
That's why you shouldn't be friends with your exes.
>>671887749
Well after a long silence and her asking why she now is very nonchalantl and having a normal convo with me. Good bad?
>>671897678
>wasn't gonna save it all due to some 4chan server jewery
yeah this does happen. just open the page and make sure it's all present, sometimes, for reasons i haven't got my head around (some cookie thing?) it doesn't. if you can see this post after saving it, it's saved.
>>671897791
Yeah it does. I had a buddy that used to say that whenever he saw me checking out a chick. Fucking killed it every time.
>>671896865
I'm not gonna pretend that that part isn't great. Doing whatever the fuck I want, when I want is amazing. And now, I'm actually in a situation where I make good money. I just keep ignoring any new opportunities with women because, I guess I'm constantly comparing them to the two that got away. I haven't fucked since the split, about 4 years. I have major issues sexualizing grills and instead focus on their viability as a possible long term thing. Shit sucks.
Left her... 8 years ago because of stupid bullshit. She broke and turned into a whorey burnout. I broke and turned into a love-at-first-sight one night stand artist with insane intimacy issues and moved thousands of miles away. I think about her every single day no matter what's going on in my life or where I am. We get in touch a few times a year just to check in with each other, still insanely in love, but I can tell almost immediately it won't work the way it used to.
I got married at some point, marriage of convenience, but I'll never let myself love her. I've never lied to her, but I've never told her the truth either.
I know who I'll be thinking about as I die, and I know it's my own fault for refusing to let go, but if I can move on it wasn't true love and if it wasn't true love it means I've wasted well over a decade of my life.
I know what I should do. Don't bother telling me.
>>671898235
>I think about her every single day no matter what's going on in my life or where I am.
iktfb.
>>671894638
You're probably right. We kind of talked about that and she would be concerned I couldn't provide well for a baby but he could (even though I doubt he'd want to at 50). I wanted to report their affair to the school they work at because I feel like it puts their students in danger but I decided against it in case they both get fired and he'd probably drop her. I didn't do it because I don't want her to suffer. I'm not vengeful, I don't want her to be homeless or become desperate (sleeping with someone for money is already desperate but at least she's safe).
She came over today because she'd like me to fake a restraining order for her because he's pressuring her to get one against me. She said then he wouldn't be bothering her throughout the day and have no reason to suspect she was with me. Just typing that sounds ridiculous. Fuck.
My solution is not feeling love
>>671898032
>instead focus on their viability as a possible long term thing
That's actually the right way to go. What are you looking to get with some retarded chick with mental issues for a couple years and have it not work out? Of course not. Just do you and if you meet a good one you'll be coming from a non-needy place because you're fine being single. Plus imagine how much money youll save, have you ever met a married man? Holy shit. They work their asses off to support a woman and kids, and theyre left with jack shit at the end of the month. Then they have to put up with those people.
I would say that you should put someone's face in a blender
>>671898406
Yeah man, writing it out puts it all in perspective fast. If you dont make enough money for her, that sucks, but you have to find someone who doesnt feel that way. This is why Im single btw, I was poor for a long time, and all women pulled this shit on me, so now I just see them as whores. Hell, I have a woman now who's in love with me, but since she's higher class I dont make enough for her. It never fucking ends. Anyway, cut her out of your life, she's a parasite.
>>671897259
It makes me sick. I'm not delusional in knowing she feels that way, I've pieced it together over our relationship and the way she'll go into a rage or silent treatment instead of communicating about something, regardless of who is in the right or wrong. She hides it well. And then, whether with me or family, things go back to normal after awhile and nothing is ever really discussed or fixed.
I know it's from her childhood, I know some things are inexcusable but she doesn't have the toolset to make the right choices sometimes. I'd think from her perspective and ask the right questions to where the mask slips and she breaks down for a minute or two, where her actions were out of shame or fear of abandonment. I don't care to fix our marriage, but she pushes everyone away and she will continue to live a miserable life. I want to be her sponsor and help her find her way, already been looking for psychiatrists.
An unfortunate part of this disorder is that there is such a defensive ego built that going to a psychiatrist would require her admitting to needing help and considering a fault. At least she hasn't disagreed outright.
