My girlfriend met a man at work last week, and confessed that she isnt sure about her feelings to him. She said she needs time to think about and is going on holidays with a girlfriend.
I feel helpless ...she never looked unhappy to me.. we are together since 4 years and I even thought about marrying her.
What do I do now?
Yeah dude, things almost never get better after doubts seep in.
The cynical side of me says shes gonna fuck this dude while on "holiday" and if they are sexually compatible, shes moving on. If not, your none the wiser and she can be like "i realized how happy you make me and how much i missed not being by your side".
If i wanted to be positive and say she is just going out with a friend, then she doubts your relationship so much shes willing to let it hang in the balance and basically has ZERO RESPECT for you. She thinks no matter what you'll be waiting with bells on. Fuck that. Thats what we did in high school.
TLDR; shes probably gonna fuck him or someone else, and its over already even if she doesnt.
She is unsure because this new man offers mystery, confidence and excitement
You’ve been together a long time and things might have gotten boring, spice things up and don’t sweat it but rn you should give her space, don’t beg, don’t whine, don’t show insecurity and she will come back like a boomerang for sentimental reasons then once she reaches out you start being spontaneous and playfully tease her and take her out and look good for her and shit like that
Best of luck anon
This information is going to sting my man but you need to be the alpha here and break up with her immediately. There is no coming back from this in a relationship and you are saving yourself grief later on. Plus there's always the chance she regrets the decision and you get to bang her later (cut contact after post breakup bang DO NOT re-initiate relationship). This breaks women.
Break up with her if she doesnt come back crying you move one if she does make her feel bad enough so that she doesnt get her "feelings" confused.
I’ve been through this. Initiate an exit strategy immediately! Call around and find an apartment asap. Pack your shit up. Best is if you were gone before she returns from her „holiday“
get rid of her things are never the same once she consideres breaking up, there is pussy everywhere and one of the worst things you can do to yourself is tie yourself with a woman that isn't even sure about you
OP toss her into the trash and find another one who will suck you off for the next 40 years.
Women don't think logically. Right now she is thinking that this lousy sentence can excuse her of any actions she commits against you and the relationship. Ignore and move on, next thing she might accuse you of rape get pregnant with a stanger and you are fucked with alimoney.
>we are together since 4 years
>I thought about marrying her
Wow, you are a moron. If you want to keep her you will forbid her to go on a holiday without you and you will forbid her to go to work and confront the guy who's been hitting on her. Godforsaken betafaggots.
Obviously does see u as an alpha (20% of males women find attractive) so she found someone that was. U can ether work up to that standerd and start fucking 80% of women out there, cry about being a beta, or cuck up and let her do it because u know she wants to fuck a man not a pussy, and if she's gonna fuck a pussy it's gonna be a nice one in front of the guy she likes not you.
It's not rare for things like this to happen. Hang in there, maybe this other person won't be around for long. If push comes to shove, girls are suckers for beggers. Also, if you guilt her enough, she'll def marry you.
Just hang in there maybe this will all blow over.
All people don't know what they want till they get it. You can see this in children all the time. It sounds like she has a case of this, she is probably gonna go with the other guy because it's human nature. Better to have a backup plan and wait up, a brat drops the old thing for a new one even if the old thing is better.
Think fast, and be a goddamn man OP.
Find the new man, break into his house or approach him somewhere else secluded then beat his head in.
I don't mean fight him either, put a gun in his mouth, beat him so bad that he will be too afraid to go to the cops or tell anyone about it. Make it clear that if he even speaks to your wife that you will bury him in the woods.
And if you're too beta to do that you could always just shot him, shoot her then shoot yourself.
don't tell him to "hang in there" don't tell him to just take the fact that his girlfriend is considering another man, you donut. we all need to encourage him to leave her before she leaves HIM
Don't dump straight away, revenge against the other guy is stupid and a waste of your time, let him know you know about him and tell him to keep quite but that you understand and he should go for it. He'll let you know when it happens and if she denies she ever did anything you'll know how much of a snake she is, prepare your finances for leaving her, if she is living with you get ready to kick her out and change the name of anything you own and temporarily give it to a family member so she cant take it from you. Any malicious things she says about you make sure to record them so that if she goes to the police with false accusations you can have dated record of when they have been made and how they are false. Develop your skills and your own prospects in life, look for another women in the meantime and dump her when you are ready.
Don't listen to some of these very negative fucks, but trust ur gut and dump her like a band aid.
>So, I found who was behind of it...
It’s not going to work my dude.
I was in a similar situation last year. Girl of 4.5 years wanted to go on a break for a month to figure herself out. That month was the absolute worst. After everything I did for her I felt like it wasn’t enough and it was my fault. In the end she broke up with me and it was the most painful thing. But that’s what had to happen.
Once there’s doubt it won’t go away. That trust is shattered and you will never be as happy as you were again. Bite the bullet and break up first. She cheeted and there’s no excuse. Break it off and hang with people that make you feel safe, friends and family. Un-friend her on all social media. Don’t delete anything or trash things, that only makes it worse. Take some time to reflect and when you’re ready move on.
I could have swarn my life was over but it gets better.
Keep ya head high OP.
>not sure about her feelings
>going on "holidays" with a girlfriend
OP you are one dumb nigger. when will guys learn girls other than your mother are only there to use you? I bet Jody is fucking her right now.
this is actually not bad
however, you need to toughen up. Never take anyone for granted, get yourself where you like to see yourself
it can be over, once she told him about him
if she's just that cool and upfront and they are having that an honest relationship, then your post applies exactly tho
>Hmm, I found who was behind of it...
It’s gonna suck but honestly dude just say you want to “take a break” because you’ve got shit you need to figure out.
You go do whatever you want, she’s gonna do what she’s gonna do, and you just don’t come back. Leave it. It’s easier than trying to cling on to something.
It’s gonna start here but even if nothing happens it’ll just build until it happens again and continues on. She wants something else. How do you make a hit hurt less? You lean into it.