How do I distance myself emotionally from women?
I'm sick of meeting a girl I really like, and telling her how pretty she is and charming her up, only to see her smile, and really enjoying talking to her, only for her to turn around and treat me like shit. Like being aloof, talking to other guys in front of me, checking out other guys, avoiding me, taking advantage of me, the list goes on
I'm just sick of it. It really hurts my feelings as gay as that sounds. I either get really mad or really sad. How do I stop this?
Pic related she seems like a girl that would do that to me
The problem is I really enjoy making a girl I like smile. Putting a smile on her face feels really good and it turns me on. Plus I think about how badly I treated my ex and I don't want to do that ever again
And I'm at the point now where I can't even help it. I just say things that are charming to women I like, without me even trying or thinking about it.
Stop giving in when you know you shouldn't you fucking idiot. You aren't getting anything. She's just giving you a tease to make you do shit for her. She wants to control you. There are bitches who enjoy this control.
Spoken from experience. Just break it off.
OP, how hard is it to realize that women are people, too. You can't just charm your way into a relationship. If you try, you're just like those theredpill retards and women hate it unless they're at a club looking to hook up.
It sounds like you're being too nice and nice in a friendly way. If I'm right then you were exactly the same as I was a couple of years ago. I basically just thought of women as if they were the same as my male friends (doing shit, making banter, jokingly being mean and acting confident like I don't give a fuck) and my love life got a lot better. Don't think each girl is unique because they're not, there's lots more like them. Show them that you can do fine on your own and then they'll realise that when you're being nice, it's for a reason.
>The problem is I really enjoy making a girl I like smile
Have you even been far as decided how many even more as to girls there are you could make smile?
> I just say things that are charming to women I like, without me even trying or thinking about it.
Nothing bad about that. Just don't do it to her.
Its not even that tho. I just really enjoy talking to a girl I find attractive. Literally all I want to do is enjoy her presense and talk to her beautiful face. So when she does that to me it really hurts, it makes me feel like shit. At the same time I refuse to be one of those dudes that treats women like shit and plays games. I did it before and it sucks.
Uglyfag here who fucks a lot more girls than I should.
One thing you have to do is remember that girls are stupid as fuck. I know this sounds terrible but it's absolutely true. The way their brains work is very different from ours - for good and bad reasons, and you can't ever assume they are seeing things the way you're seeing them.
Girls like confidence. More than anything. Good looks, money, success, etc - those are all great but confidence trumps everything else. I could go into more how that's biological, reasons for it, etc. Just fucking trust me.
So we've established that girls are dumb and into confident (not necessarily arrogant) guys. The third thing is you need to stop giving a fuck. This is tough but necessary. The more you give a fuck, the more a girl will know you're faking your confidence act. Barring any mental illness, dadraping them, wild insecurities, etc, they do NOT get turned on by a guy who is "too nice" or caters to them. This is how you get cucked, or more familliar, how you get friend-zoned.
There is quite a bit more to it but those three things will help you in the short term. Be friendly, be confident, be funny, don't give a fuck. If they're not into you, fuck em. If you're friend zoned, DO NOT persist. Date someone else.
I don't know you so I can't say with authority, but it sounds like you're being too nice, too giving, and winding up friend zoned or otherwise used from the start. It sucks since you're probably a great guy but a female doesn't see it that way because: they're dogshit stupid. You have to game the system if you want to be more than a cuck.
Good luck, friend.
Similar question to OP...
How do I stop wanting sex? Basically, I just suck at it, and having sex with my girlfriend makes me feel like shit. Still, even while knowing this, it's hard to fight the urges.
Yeah, so, basically I have a high sex drive and want to know how to kill it without drugs with other unwanted side effects or harming my body.
watch the 2 girls 1 cup video, and understand that all women are exactly like those 2.
You gotta jump through all their hoops and play all their bullshit games, just to find out that the bitch shits in a cup?
now ask yourself do you want to be emotionally connected to some bleeding cunt that shits in cups?
You're literally playing games when you do that. You even said that you get off on the idea of making a girl smile. Can't you understand that maybe she doesn't want to be a piece of shit and tell you to fuck off and that you're actually bothering her?
You DON'T have to treat them like shit. But you DO have to stop being so beta towards them. Seriously. That's a big fucking turn off for them, even the fat ones.
Stay friendly but stay aloof. Don't act like the only reason you're there is to see her. Have shit to do, appear busy, have shit going on in your liofe - even just the pretense helps.
It may sounds like a game but it's really just how shit works. Sometimes life isn't what you thought it was.
So, you're trying to force advances on girls that aren't interested in the first place. Then blame it on being friendzoned when they are creeped out by your faggotry.
>How to stop this?
Hang yourself and don't let the noose give your neckbeard rope burn.
You should try falling for intelligent and sweet women. These kind of women like the one in the picture can be easily recognized and should be avoided if you want a relationship (they are perfect for sex). Remember that they have to prove to be worthy of your love as much as you do, so if you start seeing the sign you mentioned, be a man and break it off. Also don't take advise form some of these fags, my pet rock is more intelligent than some of the literal shit that is on here.
How am I playing games? I don't want to be treated like shit, especially from someone I like. I can't stand most people I meet, they annoy me. So its frustrating when I like a girl AND like her personality, only for her to play games and treat me like shit. I just get really mad or sad and I can't help but show it. But the point I'm making is that this can't keep happening to me and I want to change.
I just don't want to play games anymore. Ya I could do the whole indirect,, oh I'm too cool for you, other girls want me, cocky as fuck for no reason, I'm too good for you shit but I'm tired of that. I'm not a kid anymore and I don't want to play games with girls. And granted while women are VERY indirect, they do make it clear if they're uninterested in someone. Those are NOT the women I'm talking about
Well in a perfect world I would find those women everywhere
I guess I keep meeting the wrong women and taking their bullshit to personal. Its just annoying. Also causal sex is totally different, if I don't like a girls personality that won't stop me from fucking her. It just sucks when I do like them as person and want to be around them and talk to them, and its not returned.
If the same thing keeps happening to you, it's because you keep picking the same type of women. It's the same as betas who complain that all women are whores - they keep picking whores.
Fuck it. Just stop giving a fuck about her.
seems to have some kind of a problem about undestanding it.
Women really really love to psychologically hurt men by some suble acts and play at them for her own fun of their charm influence.
You have to be nice and strong at the same time. Nice for giving some sweety acts, strong for showing them that you are the boss. And do that without any pitty for all the acts that she can do, like forcing herself to cry or whatever. If you have to be bad, wait for her that she submit completely herself at you and then return to your sweety state with lovely acts and something else that is good but never doing what she order you to do, or not directly. Unless if it's for sex, in some cases
I'd bet anything you're dating above yourself. Being overly lovey and attached to a girl just drives her away. Play hard to get and act like you don't need her. That is when they will come to you.
>telling her how pretty she is and charming her up
You present yourself like a doormat, and she'll treat you like one.
>I just say things that are charming to women
>You have to be nice and strong at the same time. Nice for giving some sweety acts, strong for showing them that you are the boss. And do that without any pitty for all the acts that she can do, like forcing herself to cry or whatever. If you have to be bad, wait for her that she submit completely herself at you and then return to your sweety state with lovely acts and something else that is good but never doing what she order you to do, or not directly. Unless if it's for sex, in some cases
This nigga gets it
>I'm sick of meeting a girl I really like, and telling her how pretty she is and charming her up, only to see her smile, and really enjoying talking to her, only for her to turn around and treat me like shit. Like being aloof, talking to other guys in front of me, checking out other guys, avoiding me, taking advantage of me, the list goes on
OP, you sound kinda young. A woman you're chatting with doesn't owe you the entirety of your attention. This is a rough thing for most young guys to get over, but you need to get over it sooner rather than later.
Be nice to women because you genuinely like them and think they deserve nice-ness. Go into situations with zero expectations other than to have that friendly chat. Things will get better.
>only for her to turn around and treat me like shit
Literal plot-hole. Women who are charmed by a /b/ro don't snap out of it randomly. If they did, human civilization would end in a generation.
>>684329482 Join a kink sense and go online and read up about dom. You seem like a pent-up dom who doesn't even know it. Start to learn how to deal with loneliness and emptiness. Read books to pass the time so that you're distracted from your strong urges; girls like guys who read books so it's killing two birds with one stone. Good luck.
>>684331018 This anon speaks truth. Play hard to get, especially if you know you're going to see a particular grill again. Cool, collected and providing emotional warmth in cat-treat portions is the best approach in a lot of cases; they'll keep coming back that way. (obviously if fate loves you and drops a DTF sloot on your lap, go for it).
>talking to other guys in front of me
dude, the problem is you. you're an ass who doesn't treat women like people. just pretend they're dudes and talk to them like humans and they will stop thinking you're creepy.
the sooner you realize this the sooner you will get laid.