/b/ me and my girlfriend have started an open relationship i already have my eyes on someone i want to fuck. she however said that the guy she likes is black. should i go through with it ? maybe we can have some sort of rules.
if you are both fucking other people, you may as well be single. you aren't in love. youre just in an unhealthy relationship. you both need each other as a crutch, but want to fuck other people.
Do it. I'm in an open/swinging relationship. Married 20 years. I:
- have fucked hundreds of women
- have done mmf, mff, mffm and group play with up to 10
- fuck my wife 3 times a week
not even the same anon but you're a complete retard if you think an open relationship is a relationship. she's a natural whore but its even worse since she likes to fuck black people.
Its true dumbass. If it was actually "love" thats allowing this to happen why is OP fucking crying that his gf wants to fuck a black guy. OP just wants to make sure he has garunteed pus while he tries to get other women.
Tldr OP is a faggot
leave her and be fwb
did she bring up the idea or did you?
are you ok with her being with other men?
I know a few swingers, and honestly it's usually the girl being a whore, and the guy going with it out of being afraid of being alone. OP is actually just worried that his gf will fuck 10 other dudes while he grinds away trying to get laid by 1 or 2 girls.
I disagree with the fags in this thread that say open relationships can never work, but it's not for you. If you have that much hesitation, it will bother you too much on a subconscious level to ever be comfortable in the relationship.
An open relationship can work, but only if both partners have the rare ability to be entirely trusting and in love with each other, while truly not being bothered on any level by the idea that the other partner is fucking other people. Most people have it too ingrained that sex = emotional intimacy to make that work. You both have to be truly, entirely aware that it doesn't, and trust that the other partner has no competing emotional interests regardless of whose dick they're taking.
>and honestly it's usually the girl being a whore, and the guy going with it out of being afraid of being alone.
sounds like you and your friends are pathetic. or else the people you 'know' are actually just things you read about on 4chinz
she might be a little wide after though OP, maybe ask her to only fuck one hole so you still have one left where you can actually hit the walls
There's no shame in being a willing cuck. Fetishes are nothing to be ashamed of. Some guys just honestly get off by seeing women fuck other dudes.
What is shameful is letting your woman fuck other men even if you're uncomfortable with it, cause you're too scared or subservient to say no.
That moment when you realize your friends aren't hanging out late on Saturday night because they like you but because your girl is openly inviting them to fuck her. Don't forget to make a souvenir t-shirt
go through with it anon, you'll make her so happy
Here's how your "open relationship" is going to go down OP
>you both pursue other people sexually
>you have just as hard a time as you always did
>have to take girls out on "dates" but your dating pool is much smaller because most women won't be a side chick unless you're 6'2" and ripped
>you maybe fuck a few chubby girls
>Your "girlfriend" gets a steady stream of thick pipe running through her vagina on a nightly basis because she can literally pick up her phone, text anyone she knows, and have a guy balls deep in 10 minutes
Your relationship is already over. She's going to fuck other guys anyway so you might as well make your casual sex life easier by not having to explain your "relationship" to potential partners
All Im saying is how much pussy you fuck, or how accepting you are changes nothing about whether or not you are a cuck. Simply put, a cuck is the husband of an adultress.
My wife and I got lucky with our first couple. I got to fuck an Asian and she got to fuck a big black guy.
Then we fucked them and watched them fuck. He is 6'2", 220 pounds, athletic. She is short, Asian and Asian. And hot.
You mean the marriage license, the kids, the retirement, the house...all of it is irrelevant to marriage? The only thing that matters is where the genitals go?
Damn, the stupid burns!
The point is everyone else is attempting substance and you are attempting pedanticness
This is you. No fuck you this is me I'm flying high on my rainbow sled with Hitler like a boss watching you wear your souvenir the shirt from the night your girl had a group session with your cousins
It is very easy to see which posters are amerifags and not.
- [insert non logic reason why open relationship is not ok] [end sentence with cuck]
God Dammit amerifags, I wish I could nuke you. All of you.
lol first image when i searched "cuckette"
That's something at least. But honestly the relationship is dead.
Young people shouldnt bother with open relationship crap. Be close friends, love each other, be single together.
If you wind up together and swinging in the end then great but why chain yourselves to each other in the mean time?
All of that hinges on faithfulness. Sorry, I used to agree with you, but I completely 100% agree with the anti-open relationship people. Women simply have a different view of trust and faithfulness than men. Women look at it more in terms of convenience to themselves, men look at it in terms of convenience to their partner. Open relationships just open a can of worms that you won't be able to close unless the relationship ends
Then you're an outlier. Women really don't handle this stuff well. And btw, the only men that need to brag about how much pussy they get on 4chan are anime pillow hugging kissless virgins
The virgins of /b/ never fail to entertain. If you need:
mental health help
help meeting women
help with anything to do with sex
come let these virgins guide you with what they imagine to be the "Truth" about relationships. After all, Rosie Palm never lies.
you better beg to save atleast 1 hole for you.
You could say you know hundreds. They'd still be outliers. That's not the norm. I personally have been part of the kink scene for many years. I see that situation play itself out as them entering into a polyamorous relationship. They both enter it thinking "oh we're so progressive, we love each other so much." Then the woman just starts rolling in dick, while he just stays home and jacks off, or plays video games. The relationship ends when she decides he no longer provides any use to her. I've seen it happen so many times
To be honest, I find the idea of controlling someone you love to be repulsive. This includes telling them who and what they can fuck. Long as they use protection I could really care less.. The whole possessive-relationship thing is an outdated evolutionary model and we would all be much better off without it.
Notwithstanding, it is very possible to meet someone who is a perfect match for you in every way except sexually. What do you do then - deny the person you love (and yourself!) the sexual gratification you both deserve? Cut them out of your life because you can't pull up your man-panties and see sexuality for what it is? What a load of shit, lol.
Some people really need to live a little.
this. she's get so many more dudes to fuck her than you'll ever fuck other girls. ask her to keep her pussy or ass for you so you still get some enjoyment,. otherwise they'll be balls deep in both holes and you'll be left with nothing.
I thought we were having a good Ole fashioned bigger bash but all these faggot want to talk about their feelings.....
Some people have lived, and know that our generation hasn't somehow transcended millions of years of evolution, and that sometimes these "tired old oppressive patriarchal" traditions are there for a reason
I hear you. The swinger world is a little different - couples usually have rules about who/when/where you go to fuck. Most couple have "reciprocal sex" arrangements, where they must play together or at the same time.
But I've seen lots of relationships go bad. The assumption that an open relationship fails because it is open is suspicious.
was it snug? i've dp'd my girlfriend with toys, and i can feel the toy like it was rubbing on my dick directly. i wouldn't mind it being a dick, knowing that my girls pussy/ass hole were getting drilled between the dicks.
I did, because I was bored and wanted to fuck more girls but also wanted stability of a fun relationship
I just like sex with more than 1 girl, and I got bored of hiding it and cheating all the time
Its not really about applying cliches or stereotypes to the situation. It has nothing to do with 'transcending' anything, insomuch as taking a step back and considering possible alternatives to a rigged system.
But of course, this is /b/, and everything is black and white, right?
I'm curious, what positive reasoning do you see behind this "tradition"?
petite girls still like them. she'll be ruined afterwards OP,
Monogamy is very practical - no diseases, mixed up pregnancies, simplicity, etc.
I have no problem with it except it's fucking dull. So I let my wife fuck other guys and sometimes he and I double fuck her.
Sometimes she holds my balls and kiss me while I fuck another woman from behind. That's my favorite.
Jesus I didn't think this was a cringe thread. What the fuck happened to being a man? If you were a real man your 'wife' wouldn't be fucking every guy she could. As a man fuck side chicks if you want but don't be in an open relationship. Are your kids even yours?
Real men don't let their wives fuck other men!
Real men cheat on their wives!
Real men only raise their own kids!
You're fucked in the head. Real men have sex, please their wives and take care of family and business.
I think he has something here.
Just get a big black dog and get a mechanic shirt for it that has stains all over it and a Dariq or Kobe name tag and watch her get railed.
She'll never know the difference and you can try to stick your pathetic Dick in her friends
Women ultimately see you, the man, as expendable. Sorry, that's the truth. If you enter into a relationship, and there's love, she's looking at all the things you're doing for her. If you aren't providing her with any sort of value, you're out the door. Value can also include "the tingles" or a good sex life. If you aren't providing her, she is going to start looking elsewhere. That's why they always say, whenever a woman says "I love you" always add "right now" at the end of the statement. They have a very resource/economic approach to love and loyalty.
Honestly, OP, this. 100x this. If she was the one that proposed this, she has likely already cheated. If she hasn't cheated yet, you have already lost her emotionally, and it's just a matter of time. Cut her off. Show some respect for yourself.
If the couple decides to.
I don't have a problem with guys who prefer monogamy. It's not a bad thing. But I don't think letting my wife fuck another guy is a bad thing. Sometimes, it's hot. Maybe I'll get in there too!
this. she won't be able to resist. she'll do her ass regardless of any rules
Open relationship is fine, I'm in one myself, BUT this isn't going to work if you don't already have a girl for yourself. If you have trouble meeting women you're in trouble. You will quickly resent the fact that your partner, being a female, can get laid basically at will while you struggle.
So I sure hope you already had your girl in hand or can readily get one of your own.
Nice titties on that heffer, my gf of 2 years wants to do 3soms with girls. Now my question is, do i go out and find the girl or does she? Should they fuck around first and get comfortable or is it all in balls deep from the start. Keep in mind i dont give a fuck if i lose this one so..
I hope you have a blast!
My preference is MFF, but I have had great encounters with MMF. The other guy matters a lot. I have to like him a little bit. If I don't like him, I let her go alone.
To everyone that says there isn't a reason to have an open relationship, you do realize we are the only species of mammal and pretty close to only animal that swears monogamy to someone for life? It is nice to always have someone to do something with, that helps around the house, and that helps raise a kid with you, while neither of you want to just fuck one person for the rest of life. If you truly love sex I'd imagine the swinger life would bolster your bond and coupled satosfaction more. The people spewing shit about "disloyal" and "cuck" are just your typical small-man syndrome fuckers who probably drive big lifted trucks and own 5 AR15s to make up for their inability to satisfy their own self worth much less a woman.
How full is /b/ of self hating virgins? The evidence is clear:
Guys who claim to have sex are routinely dismissed as liars. If you're a virgin who can't laid, it makes sense. Applying your life experience to a situation out of context is a foolish idea because you have no idea about the lives of others. At least you're just a virgin, not a lying virgin?
Q: Who does the /b/ virgin army hate more than guys who get pussy?
A. Guys who give it away. Cuckolds, swingers and people in open relationships are betas who don't know how to manage their relationships. The virgin army simply can't believe that some guys have enough pussy to share. Geez....how much pussy is that?
Tons. If you have a problem with other peoples' active sex lives, it probably just means you don't have sex, you bunch of mean, jealous fuckheads.
Don't fucking wait. If she's game, get in there. Remember part of what helps keep your main partner loyal is the continued perception that you have worth and resources and are desirable to other women. And your own resentments will be greatly reduced by having an outlet of your own.
As for him being black, well, that's always been a popular taboo and it's only gotten more fashionable lately, so it's not really a surprise. Part of the point of the open relationship is exploring and indulging things you would not get to otherwise. Just make sure she's being safe (the pill, not condoms) because niggers are hell-bent on knocking women up, it's a cultural trophy for them, and when you're getting your brains fucked out and you're cumming yourself silly women too want the man to cum inside. If she's on the pill, no worries.
asking her won't matter, he won't ask either.
How many mammals can build buildings? What about leave the atmosphere and return? Or conquer every continent but one? Do you think that single difference may play a part in our astounding success as a species?
>Don't fucking wait. If she's game, get in there. Remember part of what helps keep your main partner loyal is the continued perception that you have worth and resources and are desirable to other women.
THIS. The guys advising you against the open relationship have never had sex and never had a gf. Read the posts. FEAR FEAR FEAR
If you can attract women, go for it. The woman you have now will see the value you bring and treat you better.
Would you help them if they helped you? That's literally the deal in the swinger community. I send my wife to Tim's house and Tim sends Debbie to mine. Maybe on different nights, as Tim and I both like MFF.
>THIS. The guys advising you against the open relationship have never had sex and never had a gf. Read the posts. FEAR FEAR FEAR
I've been married for 10 years and I'm telling him to not do it.
>If you can attract women, go for it. The woman you have now will see the value you bring and treat you better.
That or she's using him as a crutch while she's out looking for a better situation.
Since my wife and I have been married we've seen a bunch of friends relationships fall in the shitter. Out of the 3 that tried an open relationship all three ended in divorce.
In regards to the OP attracting women there's something to that but really only if he were to go out and cheat and not her. If he went out and started deep dicking his secretary or something like that there's a chance his gf would see that she's been treating him like shit and she'll overcompensate to keep him.
Fuck all that.
The nigger things just makes it worse.
Will not end well, trust me. If you really feel for this girl, and if she feels the same..these is no need for that. Buy toys, lube and other ways to spice it up if things getting stale.
I've been married 12 years and open relationship is working juuuuust fine, and has done for 6 of those years. :^) Obv. individual mileage may vary and you can never be certain what another person will do. But it can be done, if you trust, love and respect one another, and remember to COMMUNICATE.
All relationships have trouble, open or not. The trick is not giving up when things get rough, and being careful in your choice of a lifelong partner. Lovers will come and go, the partner is a constant.
>tfw watching porn with my girl
>she picks "ocean man destroys brunette with his huge cock"
once you go black we dont want you back
dump her if you have any standards or self respect
It doesn't seem logical but a friend of my wife found out her husband was fucking a coworker and it worked out like that.
She really was a miserable cunt before hand but afterwards she became like a super wife.
She wasn't horrible looking, but I think she might have thought she couldn't really do better? I honestly can't tell you why it brought them closer together.
Pre-selection. Women are as competitive as men, and it helps you narrow down your choices if you see a man who has already proven to be acceptable to someone else. It also shatters any illusions one might have about being irreplaceable. Humility is a wonderful thing for mellowing people out.
This is why having a wedding band on can often get you as much pussy as taking it off before you head out to cat around.
Something to consider is that using open relationship as a band-aid for an already trouble relationship is likely doomed to failure, just like counseling and having another baby or any of the other stuff people try can be ruinous. My relationship was just fine when we decided to explore having lovers, and so there was no acrimony or resentment to poison the venture.
Obviously it had it's problems and it caused stresses at times, but if you just keep working at it and remember to listen to (and put first) your main partner, you can get through it. Like anything, it gets easier with practice.
oh god I'd forgotten ebaums. help me to forget again
make fun of jesus. but you leave Christmas the fuck out of this
can confirm, wife disrespected me for a whole year while i stood there being beta as fuck. got fed up fucked her friend and told her i wanted a divorce. she begged me to stay. we went through counseling and shes done a 180 going back to someone i can depend on. NEVER be afraid to walk away. it's the only real power you have. people are easy to become complaisant. and its easy to forget the effort and reasons you went after someone when you think they will always be there and that you don't have to put in any work anymore.
is it any surprise the average 4chan poster is this violently insecure
still not realising that love is literally a choice that an adult has to make, and terrified by the prospect that at any moment the girl they somehow tricked into falling for them will wake up and disappear