Lets be honest for a second here..
To all the "long term relationship" anons out there, how many of you just stop having sex after a few years in? And why? Do you do that every time or is it just with one individual?
>how many times you and your lady fuckin these days?
>>691118493
First marriage after 5 years sex a couple of times a year. Second marriage after 10 years sex a couple of time a week, but it's not about the length of the marriage, it is about having a good relationship with your partner. I can't stress this enough. You have to be good together without sex for the sex to be good together.
Been married 11 years. We were both virgins before our wedding night.
We have sex 3-4 times a week. It hasn't gotten dull - if anything, it has gotten more intense in the last couple of years.
>>691119517
This nigger right here has figured it out as well.
About 5 years and we doing it maybe 2 times a week. Neither one of us really have the time since we work opposite shifts, so when we do it, its great.
Honestly after like 6 months I was pretty bored, and after 1 year it's down to like once a month, tops.
And it's not because of her either. I regularly make up excuses to avoid sex, just because it's so fucking boring shagging the same person over and over again. Rather have a wank these days to be honest, and no my girl isn't some fat ass or something.
I like everything else about the relationship, but meh, sexual energy just aint there anymore.
Oh.
I thought for sure some of you would get back to me like, "yeah we're only having sex once a month, if that". Instead, I just learned that I'm 4 years into a relationship (not even married yet) and I'm the only one having that problem I guess.
It just makes me worry, because I've tried talking to him about this but all he tells me is that "its been like this in every relationship hes been in" and that hes been toying with the idea that he's gay because of it.
It used to be so frequent during the honeymoon phase, 5-6x a week. Now it's just once a month if I'm lucky. I try to initiate but he says it's too forward for a woman to do that.
>>691120326
Probably not gay. Might have low testosterone or maybe stress-related. Sometimes people just have differing libidos and you have to work through it.
15 years now. Atleast one a week with random bjs throught the week. It hasn't gotten boring. She is 42 and has gotten more horny the last couple of years.
>>691120211
U wot m8? I've been with my gf for 15 months and we still have sex twice a day or more
>>691118493
Im in a 6 year relationship. Ince every 2 or 3 weeks now. Dont know why. I dont' have the sex drive I used to.
>>691120419
>Probably
Like how sure is that probably? Like 50/50 chance? 80/20?
>Am I fucking a gay man?
Is basically what I'm getting at.
Married for 19 years, we fuck every day, 25 days out the month. You really have to be good at everything to keep a relationship going strong!
Pic related
Been with my fiancée for 8 years now. Started dating her in HS when we were both virgins. Sex has only gotten better in the past couple years. We have sex at least 4 times a week and on the nights we don't she begs to blow me. There is mayb one night a month we don't do something
>>691118493
Been with my wife 7 years.
At least 3 times a week.
Except for period week
>>691120577
Good for you, but get this...not every relationship is the same, nor is every person.
Objectively, I still think she's hot. But I just can't motivate myself to have sex...I don't really know why. Had sex with lots of girls before but the passion just seems to fade the more I do it with the same girl.
>tfw been with gf for a year and still bust a nut deep inside her everyday
feels good brahs
>>691120687
Post more pics plz.
>>691118493
My girl and I used to fuck like rabbits then we started working more so by the one of the day and we eat we end up too tired to get motivated. Seems like we only fuck in the morning once or twice every few weeks.
>>691118493
4 years in to dating. Been with one other this long. At this point sex is rare but lately I've been getting horned up making it happen more, she's seemed to respond well. We used to go out and have some drinks and do an hour of foreplay and fuck hard. These days it's lazy and quick. I like booze because it numbs my 2 pump dick and helps me preform. She doesn't want to do anything fun anymore and if I can get her to hang out she goes to bed really early. A couple times a year a talk her into rolling x and we get intimate and romantic and then fuck the rest of the night but even then she gets tired and leaves me awake and rolling for hours after she's gone to sleep. I look at porn and masturbate. Sometimes I catch her masturbating and try to jump in but she'd rather just do it herself. I'm gonna cheat. I need something fresh and exciting. This relationship is lame sexually buy otherwise it works.
>>691120817
Is it passion or is it just...respecting her more? Not like "omg equal rights whatever the fuck" type of respect. Just like, you're over-familiar and now see her as more of a best friend than a lover?
inb4 your lover should be your best friend. obviously, faguettes. He is, but hopefully you can see how this would happen anyways.
have a relationship for 2 years now and my gf still doesn't want sex...
Been married 11 years and still have sex 2-3 times per week. If you aren't still having tons of sex you're in a shitty relationship.
>>691120687
Did you have kids? Was there a break during that time? Certainly that must have been too stressful to have sex every day..
>>691120924
oh god
>>691121141
2 times a week isn't tons
>>691121336
Tons more than you're having, faggot.
>>691121023
To be honest, I'm not sure. My longest relationship prior to this was only four months (I'm on 2 years with the current girl now) so I've no basis for comparison really, as 4 months in you're obviously still pretty hot for each other.
Everything else in our relationship is as I'd like it. She's a great companion, doesn't make my life difficult, and has stayed with me through some really tough times. I don't want to leave her or anything like that, but our sex life is for sure the nut low.
Been with my wife for 7 years, married for 2.
We have sex at least once a week. Even if the other person isn't particularly in the mood (sometimes me, sometimes her) we do it for each other.
>>691121394
>OP here
>that would be hilarious if you were linking to the me
>>691120924
She cheats bro.... if she stops u from jumping in, mean she doesn't find u sexually attractive... she gives you pity sex... fuck man.... fuck ur life..
>>691118493
>few years
>years
>>691120924
>But otherwise it works?
>She doesn't want to do anything fun anymore and if I can get her to hang out she goes to bed really early
You sure about that bud?
>>691120924
Do you take care of her money wise or something? She don't love you she just uses you
>>691120817
Same boat as you, my gf is 8/10 and the sex is good but I don't want it all the time so I fuck girls on the side to keep the interest going. .
Married... a long time, more than a decade. Here's what I've learned.
Peaks and valleys. This is how our sex lives work. meh times and wow times. Things change over the years but as long as you keep communicating and keep making the effort, your sex life will continue to thrive.
>>691120924
Kek what a fucktard you are
>>691120924
Just anon hero now
>>691118493
4 year relationship.
used to have sex every day for 1-2 years now its probably closer to 3 times a week.
could imagine being older and grumpy and only getting a pity handjob for my birthday once a year.
>>691121641
Doesn't necessarily mean that at all. Rarely have sex with my gf now because I cba, but I've not cheated on her.
ITT the exact opposite of what I was hoping to hear.
fuck my life but more importantly
>>691120924
fuck this guys life even more. They're right anon. It sounds like she's fuckin around.
>>691121927
Getting married next year anon. I will remember this advice
>>691121766
im not 691120924 but also 4 years in, and trust me it still works just fine, only as a everyday-life routine
>>691122140
Shotgun or voluntary?
>>691119517
>You have to be good together without sex for the sex to be good together.
This guy gets it.
The girlfriend and I have been together for a little over four years, getting married this coming December. When we first got together, she wanted to wait a few months to have sex; until after a real connection had been built between us. I liked her a lot, so I agreed; we had a great time getting to know each other initially, took a few little weekend getaways here and there, got into each other's hobbies and pass times a bit, it was excellent. When we did start having sex, it was fantastic.
Now, we have sex a few times per week, usually five or six. Its really good and I think the part the reason its so good is that we had a solid connection, friendship and relationship before sex even started happening.
>>691122078
Guys jerk it cause we are usually always horny. When girls do it instead of fucking their bfs/husbands it's cause they don't want to fuck tou anymore
>>691120924
Leave... there is better out there... If Masturbation is better than Sex then your Sex sucks
>>691121641
Nah, I recognize the times that it happens. It's always a weekend and she's stressed out over something stupid then she says she's going to go take a nap but she kicks the dog out of the bedroom when he follows her because she doesn't want him watching. So I'll wait a bit then walk in and catch her. Sometimes I act like I didn't know what was going on and just go any my business, other times I bust her for it, sometimes I'll hop in bed but if I do that she immediately clams up because she's embarrassed and mad at me for some dumb selfish shit then later that day or the next after she's been acting all weird I finally get her to speak her mind and it turns out that she's built this whole ridiculous thing up in her head that isn't even real and after that things go back to normal for a while. I kinda fucking hate her a lot of the time
>>691122243
Because I want too
>>691122309
>yet OP is a prime example of the exact opposite
>>691122431
Like...for tax reasons or...
>>691118493
Married 2 years, still fuck as often as I'm in the mood. Sex ends up being somewhat infrequent since I prefer oral, but she blows me probably 4-5 times a week. She's never turned me down since the day we met.
>>691122423
Dude you are fucked. Why are you still will her. I hope you are just young and stupid
>>691122078
If she plays w herself and doesn't let u jump in... that's bad shit man... u gotta think what's happening in her mind:
"Oh yeah I'm so fuckign horny, I'm imagining getting it or sucking my co-workers hard cock. Oh fuck... it's him... he wants to jump in... fucking disgusting... not he killed my mood." And then she says "no baby , I just want to play w myself. No dick today please."
Then she goes to work and get plowed by that dick she imagined earlier.
Now would be a good time to bring up u think it would be hot for her to get fucked by other guys imo
>>691120211
Are you me? This explains my situation to a T. Not fat, just fucking bored and would rather fap. There are days where she wants it but honestly, I'm kind of unattracted to her by now. Year and a half. Kill me pls
>>691121841
No I don't. We split bills. Granted, she is financially dependent because we bought a house in her name. If I left and wasn't paying she'd be hurting.
>>691122423
You seriously need to bail. Can you honestly tell me that all these feelings will go away the longer you waste your time with her? It sounds like she's already given up.
>>691118493
Been with my gf for three years. We didn't have sex till eight months in, and since then we've had sex maybe a total of eight or nine times.
Obviously, we're not very sexual people. In fact, I hear these stories about people having sex like once a week or more and I don't fucking get how they do it. That's like way too much for me.
>>691122553
No cause I actually love her. Been together a long time and we both want and have the same goals. Her family is awesome and my family loves her and she will make a great mom one day not to mention she tries almost anything I want sexually because she wants to please me. She calls her period blowjob week for me
>>691122616
3 years*
>>691122678
I'm not the guy you think you were replying to. I'm the guy who cba shagging his gf anymore.
>>691122722
If u leave. U take half the house man. Don't be a fag.
>>691122678
My fucking sides
>>691122873
Well fuck. Where's your fuckign id?
Oh wait...
Replying to the guy who catches his gf masturbating and she doesn't want to sex him
>>691118493
>8 years in
>bang 3-4 times a week
>would be more but we work opposite shifts
Any faggot who says they stopped fucking after X time is a worthless beta that hates himself and his lady and is afraid they won't find another.
You ever stop fucking leave the bitch.
>>691122811
So...you just woke up one day and decided to rock the boat by committing to her on paper and thus changing the entire dynamic of your relationship? Marriage is such a big deal to enter into voluntarily. At this point, we're common law but we'd only get married if I got onto his health insurance or something. The pressure would be overwhelming. Once you get married, people are going to start asking her "so when will we hear the pitter patter of tax dependants?" and you'll just sit there re-adjusting your tie hoping they don't trigger her biological clock.
>>691122691
If the relationship wasn't great in every other way I'd have bailed by now for sure,
together 10 years (since 16). Still fuck 5 or 6 times a week.
Ultra kinky bondage, anal, abuse once a week. Anal whenever she's up for it. Ass eating on days she doesn't feel like sex.
Shit is pretty cash
>>691121544
>Dating for 7 fucking years
>Only been married 2
Please tell me you're joking anon...
Been with my girl for 5.5 years. Have sex everyday when we're together. Both have high sex drives. Just dont be a beta and fuck more often
>>691120419
Wife 1: fun when new, boring as fuck after 4 years; put me off anal bec fucking her was not unlike doing a sweaty fat dude. last time was a rage fuck (for both), best ever.
Wife 2: fun when new, 3 years in might as well been fucking a tree.
I learned I suck at picking women and marriage is death. Good on you anons who make it work, I'm done.
Married 6 years, been with her for 7. Ours slowed down after a few years but mainly because we had kids and we dont have the total free time we used to. Still fuck 2-3 times a week, and even when we dont we usually do something before bed, oral, masterbate together.
>>691121766
From a day to day perspective, yeah. Weekdays we make dinner and watch movies and do the chores. It works. Weekends we do shopping and visit people and get shit done. She just doesn't like to party the way we used to. We're in our mid 30s. I can still out drink and stay up well into the next day better than anybody I know. I can put kids in their 20s to bed easy. So it's not really fair to expect her to keep up, but she does a decent job of it when she tries. But she's just kinda beyond that and wants me to change now too.
>>691123120
Sounds like a land whale. Post pics
>>691123099
Ya we have been together for over 8 years...so I'm in the common law area also. And no getting married isn't rocking the boat for everyone. Some people can handle it and some people can't or don't want to deal with "stress" of having someone ask you when you will start having kids. There are a lot more things to worry about in life then that small shit get a grip
>>691122641
If I were young I'd of left already. I'm not that young and the thought of dating again is not pleasant.
if you fags was gay you could have it everyday
>>691123159
I happens a lot when you meet in school. I've been with my wife for 16 years and have been married for 11.
>>691120924
She'd rather do it herself because you suck at it. Learn how to pleasure her or gtfo
>>691120777
Yes there's children. When 2 ppl like to fuck, tell me what's stressful about that!?
>>691121138
>2 years
>no sex
Quit being a beta nerd and dump this bitch.
>>691123111
Yeah but I live with her and have basically no where to go except my parents place... and she gives me $. Yeah yeah, shitty as fuck reasons but it's JUST a temporary thing, after which I'm paying her back every cent. I just don't want to be in this relationship anymore honestly.
Wut do
>>691123099
Oh and I actually want to have a big family. So I'm not worried about people asking
>>691122893
No I don't. We're not married and the mortgage is hers. My share of the bills is like rent to me. I'd of had to pay it no matter where I went anyway
>>691121138
HOLY FUCK... I missed this post. R u a fucking moron? Haaahahaha
Go get a fucking boyfriend and fuck him/let him fuck you. Cuz u r clearly failing this hetero shit
>>691123576
You're living a miserable life just so you have some money?
Fucking kill yourself already.
>>691123514
I would've just married within 3 or 4 years, honestly.
Then again, marriage is a total assfucking if you're a man in today's society. Literally NO appeal now
>>691123576
Yeah I live with my girlfriend too, although I do have a job and could probably move if I wanted (though then I'd be paying more in rent obviously).
>>691123530
Wtf are you on about? I think you ment to respond to someone else
>>691123464
If you weren't such a faggot you could donate blood or adopt a child, but we can't have it all.
If she's not fucking you, she's fucking someone!
>>691123666
Sorry buddy. U rolled trip 6s
U know what that means? Ur next common law gf will fuck you out of your half of the house.
Pay for half her mortgage. Pay for half her shit. Pay for half her food. Everything.....
Equality bro. Equality.
>>691118493
>October will be 13 years together
Since I moved for work (not sleeping at home) we only have sex about 3-4 times a week
>>691123616
>big family
Dont we all? Problem is, guys and girls handle children differently. Guys can get a divorce from a woman, find another wife, and get joint custody so they can see the kid every other weekend. Women abandon their career goals, their education, and put their entire life on pause for essentially the next 5 years of their lives waiting for the kid to be old enough for daycare so she can get a minimum wage job to support them all. If you get married and then have kids, this entire thread happens. No sex because you're exhausted, and you fight all the time because your patience is non existent by the end of the day. What a racket to get into, voluntarily.
>>691123255
Not really
I've been married almost 18 years and she is hornier than ever. In fact, I am most likely going to fuck her during my lunch break.
>>691123728
Money makes the world go 'round anon.
>>691123768
Yeah, I'd like to have my own place too but I REALLY don't wanna move back in with the rents. Got a job coming up but until, unsure what to do.
>>691123576
>beta
There's nothing you can do.
You're too much of a coward to leave this female.
>>691118493
Married 6 years, together for 8. Sex at least once a week. Pro tip: marry the right girl. If you never get along, the sex won't happen either.
>>691123524
Cute. I'm the one that showed her where her g-spot is and taught her to squirt. Nice try though.
>>691123219
Read as: she just wants me to grow the fuck up but I'm still in my mid 30s.
>>691124021
Huuuuh. Nice. Post more pics plz.
>>691123789
I donate my adopted child's blood, thant you very much
>>691124038
>Money makes the world go 'round anon.
And misery makes it stop.
>>691124178
Kek'd
>>691123576
I tried to sell myself once too. We were on the way to the jewelers to pick out engagement rings when I panicked and said "fuck it, no."
>>691124174
Can't. On my phone. Check out pornhub user "uhshins". That's us.
>>691120326
He is bored of you, give him your ass.
>>691124293
That was the most intelligent thing you could've done dude
>>691120326
So your fat?
together 2.5 years now, getting married next year. when we were first together sex was great, we wernt living together so basically when we met we would have sex, maybe 3/4 times a week.
now living together, both working shifts, big house to sort we both still have high sex drive but are always knackered. its down to maybe 2/3 times a week depending on our days off and usually it feels kinda like going through the motions as it were.
its great when we arnt knackered though as we both enjoy some kinky fun :) this is about once a month.
>>691124020
Oh I'm sorry i forgot you know everything about everyone's relationships thank you of great anon for showing me the ways of a dumb feminist cunt man hater
It's not my fault you have never been around a succefull marriage with people and family who are actually happy
>>691120326
>I try to initiate but he says it's too forward for a woman to do that.
What a faggot. You probably should rape him at this point.
>>691124345
>he thinks i havent tried this before
>>691124038
I'm thinking I'll just move out one day while she's at work, delete her from Skype/Facebook and not tell her where I've gone. She's Thai and I live in Thailand, so it's not like she can just pp round to ask friends or family where I've gone.
I'm far too much of a pussy to actually break up with her face to face. Something has to change though, for sure.
>>691124020
Have you even been reading the thread. Half the people in here are talking about successful marriages at least when it comes to sex you stupid twat
>>691124595
Kind of in the same boat. I need to leave but I COULD break up with her in person, I'd just rather not. Like... I don't even know where I'd go honestly
>>691124121
Do you enjoy the taste of piss? Honest question
>>691124436
Listen you don't have to get defensive just because you're naive enough to think marriage won't somehow suck for you eventually.
I'm just telling you how this is fixing to play out for you. She might not feel this way right now, but chances are the stereotypes might actually be true. People don't pull this shit out of their ass, they experience it first hand and then tell us after their first divorce, "I am never getting married again". That's why most of our parents got divorced and then dated someone common law for a decade without marrying them. This happens all the time. You're part of a minority if your parents actually stayed together long enough for you to feel this way.
I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. Sex is still good, we just have sex and yesterday at night
>>691124552
Well what the hell. Could be stress, but definitely don't rule out cheating/gay. Definitely talk it out with him, but you may have to resort to >>691124519
>>691124156
Why can't I have both? Why should I not still get to have fun the way I like just because I've reached some subjective age limit? I get my shit done and pay my bills and keep everything in track. If now and then I want to stay up late and get drunk and spend time with friends why is that a problem?
>>691120922
Same. Kids, work, and responsibilities stack and my wife and I are just to tired to fuck. Married ten years and we have sex probably 3 times a month.
>>691118493
Took ten years for the sex to drop to twice a week.
But realizing and having the talk sorta reinvigorated the whole shabang.
Made a deal; every second day, clearing calendars. If shits in the way, double efforts up to pause. Even if it's just because I leave for three days on business.
Been fourteen years now, and she's enough for me. Prolly because she loves me more than I love her, and she knows.
>>691124552
Maybe you are just ugly as fuck?
Also. Just had a friend divorce his ugly wife of 25 years and go to fuck Asian boys.
>>691124762
Thing is, as everything else with the relationship is fine, I put off the difficult stuff like this. I've been 'putting it off' for about 12 months of our 2 year relationship. Amazing how the time shoots up.
>>691122274
thanks anon for your wise adive
>>691124121
>Feeling the need to defend yourself against some anonymous faggot
>Being this insecure about his performance
Kek'd
>>691124969
No no, I don't mean it's a problem. I just mean that its a common way to feel once you reach your 30s. You party for basically all of your 20s but you get burnt out doing it so often. It's not surprising that she's just kind of over it by now. Once in a while, that's what everyone does. There is no subjective age limit, there's just a trend to observe.
>>691124552
You should fuck HIM with a strapon
>>691124121
squirt is pee pee.
>>691118493
I'm 44 she's 43 and we've been married over 20 years. We have sex 2+ times a week and it's the best it's ever been.
>>691124121
You showed her good. Now she doesn't want you showing her anything ever again.
>>691124818
If you're implying that all squirt is piss I feel kinda bad for you. The spraying seen in porn is piss. You can feel a real squirt shoot out from inside her vagina, not from the urethra. With your fingers up there you can feel her contract and squirt out a fairly small amount of natural lube. It's nothing like in porn. You've obviously never experienced this.
>>691125449
I did. Once. And that was enough to deduce that it was piss.
>>691118493
Sex everyday
>>691124848
No all you're doing is trying to get someone to not go through with something they are happy doing just because you have seen differently. I'm sorry your life and outlook on marriage is shity because of the things I'm sure you have been through or seen. But let's be honest you literally got on this thread to tell happy people they are fucked and it will all go to shit eventually because that's what your life has been like.
>>691125329
whats the secret?
>>691120211
Checked
>>691125635
Communication and we both work hard to stay fit
Married anon checking in. Together like 15. Married 2. Hardly ever fuck. She cant take birthcontrol and i dont trust rubbers. Tomorrow i get to see a doc about getting neutered. After i det cut and the tests come back ima beat that pussy like it owes me money AND kicked my dog son!
>>691119735
This. Im in the same situation. Sex has been constant for 10 years until we had a babby. Now we have sex about 1-2 times a week. Not complaining though. I just enjoy being with her at all so sex isnt as important as it used to be.
>>691125609
It is physically impossible for piss to spontaneously squirt out from deep inside of the vagina in that manner.
>>691125144
Oh dude, definitely. I thought I was going to do it a year ago. Now basically at two years. It's getting worse; she wants to get married and shit.
We should move on, for both of our sakes man. Obviously this is just a thread on /b/ and I'm just some faggot anon you'll probably never hear from again. But honestly, we should commit to our happiness. I'm never going to be able to tell if you followed through, so I hope you will man. I'm gonna TRY to leave this coming month I guess. Wish me luck.
Recently broken up after 6 years. Sex tailed off to nothing. Mostly due to her crippling workaholism, but then she had a botched episiotomy and hasn't been to a doctor to take a look at it after three years. Because she has no time. Because of the workaholism (>80h a week)
>>691125937
I got a vasectomy after our third kid. I would highly recommend it for anyone sure they don't want anymore kids. Sex is easier, more frequent and just more fun not having to worry about an unwanted pregnancy.
>>691124848
Why are you even here you know b hates feminist cunts such as yourself
>>691125987
I'm just gonna walk out one day while she's at work and tell her over facebook. Feels kinda bad but I need to end it and I can't face the showdown.
>>691119735
Same we have sex at least every other day and have been at it for 5 years. The only time we don't is for a few days around her period obviously. We tried it but the blood was a turn off for me, I'm not as fked up as the rest of /b/
>>691126308
Actually the best way, pack your sht and leave when she's gone so things don't get messy. That is if you are sure it's over.
>>691126308
I gotcha man. I'm joining the Army and she has NO idea. I'm gonna have to improvise lol. As long as you get happy dood
>>691126738
I've been sure it's over (as in - I know I don't want to spend the rest of my life with her) for about a year.
Just hard to do the tough choices. Even though they're the right ones (for her as well as me).
>>691118493
4th year now, we fuck like once a week or so. I'm tired of the relationship. bro I empathize with you >>691120211
Long, long time married anon here.
When first married we couldn't keep our hands off each other (even BEFORE married). We actually worked together and at least twice a week we'd leave work at lunch time and go back to the apartment for a "nooner".
Kids, jobs, financial difficulties all played a part in her losing interest in sex about 8 years in. I played my part in this because I was a beta little shit.
Went though ups and downs but sex never really recovered. It was the usual routine, over in 40 minutes and that included a 30-minute back rub to get her "in the mood".
I cheated and that caused more friction but we worked through it and things got better but I finally came to the realization that she isn't interested in sex and the frustration of expecting a healthy, fulfilling sexual relationship with my wife and not having one is worse than not expecting one.
So, I've stopped trying to have sex with her and get my needs met by a couple of fuck buddies. I think we're in a "don't ask, don't tell" situation since she must realize I haven't asked to have sex with her in about a year.
>>691118493
I'm not attracted to my gf at all. She's probably a 5/10 on her best days, but she has a lot of qualities that are good for me. She spoils me and I like that, and she really loves me, and I like that too, but I'm not the "feeling" type of guy. But I pretend to be. Because she's not considered conventionally beautiful, she actually has a great personality and a great job. We're also older, I'm 40 and she's 37. I don't have to coddle her. And she actually does things for me for a change. Like she paid for a weekend trip we took back in April for my birthday. She can pay half her share of the bills. To be honest bros, I'm 40 years old and I've been with 7s, 8s, and 9s over the years, even a couple of 10s, but after a while there always been the expectation that I have to put in a lot of effort to keep them around and I'm done with that. I was married awhile back and she was a solid 8. She expected a lot and gave back very little. My current gf is more of a way for me to sit back and not have to put forth much effort to keep her around. She's grateful. So that's why I stick with her. But I'm not turned on by her and when we do have sex, I just want to get it over with. I'd much rather live without super hot sex and have a woman who would stick around no matter what than chase after these women.
>>691126212
>b
you must be new here.
2 year relationship just ended with 1 break inbetween.
It always start like this
1. fuck like crazy for hours with only short sessions on a few days
2. She says something hruts or whatever so you have to work on that
3. she needs extra toys to cum
4. you fuck every few days including toys with her given a shit about you 50% of the time now
5. still regular sex but she puts a timelimit on it only once a month or less when you would say sex was great
6. once a week
7. every 2 weeks
8. she says she is not in the mood and you are a sexmaniac
everytime. Need to find a girl with decent genetics
>>691125987
>>691126308
You guys refuse to leave because of...comfort? I had to learn that one the hard way, my first time around in a LTR. 4 years there too, but when he started talking about marriage is when I finally snapped out of it and said "rest of my life with this bullshit? no".
Married for 9 years. Having sex with my wife almost everyday.
10 years and we have sex daily when possible. Guess I just got lucky. Would be lying if I said there weren't dry spells though. Mostly after kids (we have 2). For about two to three months after doctors orders the sex was practically nonexistent.
>>691127164
If you love your wife you need to see a marriage coucellor if you don't you need to see a lawyer.
>>691127164
See, thats my other question for the decades long anons who are saying they fucked all the time before they got married. How long were y'all together before you actually tied the knot? In the first year or so, it's still the honeymoon phase.
>>691127181
sounds like you would benefit from living with your best friend instead.
Srsly get a young male sutdent in a flat with you and become super cool gramps that fucks 20 year old with his younger bro
>>691127413
"Sexmaniac".
It's obvious women and men look at sex differently. Wanting a fulfilling, intimate sexual relationship with a woman means "all you think about is sex".
>>691127572
>bowing
tell us your secret
>>691127476
Basically this is it. On any given day, it's 'easier' to stay with the status quo than it is to change stuff. Because that'd involve her getting upset, me finding a new place to live etc.
But in the long run, things just have to change. No fucking way I can stay all my life like this.
>>691124848
Kek. It's retards like you that shouldn't get married. You are making a good choice.yes your parents and mine got divorced that's because the last generation and this generation don't take that shit seriously. Go look at divorce rates of people who got married in the 30s 40s and 50s
>>691118493
3 years strong I say we still have sex a good 10+ times a week. Helps to have a high libido
>>691127594
fun fact
on average couples take 5 years too long until they see a couples councellor and in conclusion get divorced
the once who needed 10 years have higher suicide rates - the men
>>691127290
I'm not new I have been here for 5 months!!! I am old fag status bitch!
>>691127413
>toys
Crashed and burned right from the get go, huh?
>>691127594
Or you can fuck off and let the man make the best of his situation. If he can keep his home life and still get the sex life that he desires then it's a win-win
>>691127594
>If you love your wife you need to see a marriage coucellor if you don't you need to see a lawyer.
Here's the thing... I begged my wife to go to marriage counseling before I cheated. She refused. I begged her after cheating. She went twice and when the counselor pointed out some of her shortcomings, she refused to return.
She insisted I see a therapist and I did. It wasn't until I pulled divorce papers did she agree to go to marriage counseling again. But she never changed.
Listen all of you ltr fags.
Multiple studies have proven that a mans sex drive fades and his testosterone levels drop the longer he stays monogamous. As for the sex drive, same applies to women. Yes, there are exeptions, but they're quite rare.
>>691127891
Unless either one of us is in our 30s, 40s, or 50s the statistic is useless.
>>691127942
>>691128050
I take testosterone shots though
>>691127644
I was with my wife for 18 months before we got married. I actually told her that I thought we should not see as much of each other as we did because all we did was fuck when we got together.
And yeah, after about a year things changed, Like I said, kids, money issues, etc... I could separate these from intimacy but she never could.
>>691127913
Fun fact your mother waited 5 months to long to abort you
>>691127760
I however think that maybe I was just wrong and horny about her money (was a little sugarmama so I thought fucking her good would pay up). I am looking back now and atm "hunting" I tell women a few fucks in that I am gone if they can't cope with my sexuality. Maybe it is not about perspectives but actual Sexuality? And to thing with "finding" your other half actually applies to 1. She likes you with all the shit (you did not pretend to be someone else) 2. Both your sexualities fit
Just my two cents as a single Psych never married, young and naive
Hai, I am Denny R aka Denfield and I like to fantasize about girls pegging my butt. I am an educated 28 year old Asian male living in London however I am originally from Scotland. I am a math and physics geek with a wild side I desperately want to release. I like to fantasize about having a cute girl fuck me up the asshole. Just the thought of a woman pegging me drive my mind crazy with excitement. By the way, I am still a virgin. Yup, I am almost wizard status here. I don't really know why but I haven't had any luck so far in the love department. I am not attracted to or the least bit interested in Asian women in anyway. I have mommy issues so my dislike of Asian women might have something to do with that. Sadly, I am near the point in accepting the reality I will be a virgin forever. Here I am thinking about how enjoyable it would be getting pegged and yet I have never even kissed a woman. The peg thing is so far away for me. :-(
Pic related: It's me in all my barechestedness glory!
>>691128049
Unfortunately, this. I saw my "parents" (common law) go to counseling too. My mother had this same response and accused the counselor of "choosing sides". In her defense though, her partner (for lack of a better word) kept exaggerating the issues they were having and her response to them. Counselors only see what you want them to see.
>>691127989
yeah
thought I'd be cool with it hearing BRRRRRRRRRRR over two years ain't fun no matter how good she cums from a fucking 9000 vibrator on her clit
>>691128050
can you link some? or are you just blowing smoke up our asses?
>>691128049
Can you honestly say you're happy with how things are? Yes a divorce will cost you money but money is suppose to make you happy. Also depending on where you live you're infidelity may impact a potential divorce settlement. Have you considered she's just waiting for the right time to screw you over?
>>691128320
my mom is so fat she did not even know she was pregnant jokes on you
>>691127685
I don't care for sex that much tbh. I'd rather jerk off.
Used to be multiple times a week, relationship has been off an on for the past year and the sex is only once every month or two if I'm lucky. It's only gotten worse since she started taking anti depressants
>>691128458
I really feel for you, anon. But her asking for toys should've been a gigantic flag that you might not be doing so well on your own.
>>691128040
While there's nothing wrong with an open marriage as long as both parties agree to it, cheating is never ok. The constant lies are soul crushing to both people.
>>691128570
>anti-depressants
ffffffffffuck I really feel for you. That side effect happens to everybody, almost without fail. Even if you asked her to switch meds, the next one would do the same thing.
>>691128535
You're not doing sex right then
>>691128296
Is that what other anons are talking about when they mean "stress"?
Been dating my girlfriend for just over two years. We've had sex maybe twice in 2016.
>>691128908
>>691128498
I'm happy with the way things are, although not happy that I have to cheat. I'd like nothing better than to have a fulfilling, intimate sexual relationship with my wife, but that's not going to happen.
And screw me over? I think not. We really have no assets to speak of, her car is better than mine, she has a lot of family heirlooms that would have to be divided up and I'm the only breadwinner.
No, she doesn't ask because I think she's afraid things will go bad for her. In fact when we discussed divorce she actually said she was going to screw me. When I explained the laws and dividing assets (I was lucky enough to have a paralegal friend who worked for a divorce attorney), she realized she'd only screw herself.
>>691127476
Yeah, I pretty much agree with you, as soon as she wants me to see her parents again, I get antsy every time. Like, I'm not going to know them next year, why bother?
>>691128621
meh no idea, maybe I am shit, but I personally think I am fine no other girl I had had any problems with my size or size. Than again I did give up after not being able to get her to the spot with my hand for 2 hours or my face for 2 after a few months.
>>691128866
Yes. For my wife (and maybe women in general), they can't get into sex due to stress levels. Me (and I would guess most guys) can pretty much get hard in a stiff wind and perform even when stressed.
Oddly enough, most doctors and therapists will tell you sex is a great stress reliever.
>>691128783
Oh, I've done sex right anon. I just don't care to anymore. Sex is overrated at this point in my life because of the expectation that comes along with it.
>>691128775
It's gotten to where I almost feel guilty for wanting to have sex knowing she's just not really going to be into it. I want sex but I really care about her and don't want to leave or cheat on her.
>>691128908
well you maybe had sex twice in 2016
>her?....
>>691127181
I like this, thanks man.
>>691118493
i'm in the 5th year with my gf. There're weeks with 5 times sex and weeks with 1 time. It depends on how much stress we have.
>>691118493
Six years on and we still fuck all the time, we even watch porn together sometimes, it's still mindblowing, dat pussy fine.
I'm 28 btw.
>>691129352
It is a great stress reliver for minor stress not medium or big stuff.
Can get hard but lit. can't cum if I have stress, guess how that went in my relationship
>>691129096
Sounds sad to me dude but if you're happy I guess that's ok. It's just I know a divorce would be a financial hit but then you could find someone with whom you could have the relationship you want.
>>691129117
I would get antsy too. But I got lucky with his parents, they were extremely racist against white people so I didn't have to fuck with the logistics.
>>691129362
Then you haven't done sex right
>>691129182
>with my face
Eating a girl out is extremely difficult, guys. Without proper technique, it's no surprise that it's not working.
>proper technique is subjective to every woman too
It gets confusing as shit.
>>691129416
Pretty certain she hasn't either. We live together and work at the same job and neither of us really have any friends so we always know where the other is.
>>691129619
this anon
also if the hit is harder for her it means you could leave with no loss. I would take it spend money on a good shrink you like to find out what you are looking for and than go out and live life and see if someone walks into yours with those qualities you want/need. ANd if not you had a great life!
>>691129352
That's why the "stress" thing always confused me. If it helps relieve stress, then why would that same stress prevent you from wanting to have sex?
>>691129619
I understand what you are saying but here's the situation... with sex taken off the table, we've become a lot nicer to each other. Fights have decreased, we seem to agree on handling problems (other than the sex problem) better. I wouldn't say we're "only roommates". It's more than that but far from an intimate couple. I don't need another "relationship".
>>691128135
The statistics show that people took marriage a lot more seriously these days. I'm not saying there is never a reason to get divorced cause there are but people these days get divorced left and right. My own father was married 4 times
>>691123207
The mutual masterbation.. I'm a bit jelly. My wife and I have been together 7 years, love to fuck one another, have great kids and life for the most part. But she'd rather let me fuck her rough than let me see her play with herself, wish I could get her to drop the stigma
>>691129375
>feeling guilty
Final nail in the coffin too. Damn, I wish I knew some kind of tip to help here. I used to be on anti-depressants but they just kicked it all into overdrive and I got hospitalized. I guess the only thing I might be able to say is that she's not "not into it". She just "can't" get into it. She probably still wants to make you happy as best she can. Maybe a conversation is still in order...
>>691129792
Get a small bullet vibrator, use it on the pussy, use your tongue around the clit. I find this works very well almost every time.
>>691129938
Ok. I wish you well. Just out of curiosity how old are you anon?
>>691129656
I'm Mexican and her family is racist but I'm also an exMarine and he was in the Army in the 60s so he feels pretty conflicted. One day he hates "that stupid beaner" and another we're talking about what war was like. It's annoying
>>691129897
Think of it like rolling a car. A car will roll just fine, but you have to overcome the inertia. Sex is like that. Sex will be fine as a stress reliever once you get past the stress to get it rolling. My wife just has a high threshold to get over and doesn't bother trying.
>>691130009
Then hopefully, if you were paying attention, you'd see that marriages usually have a 30/70 chance of actually working out. It's not a matter of taking marriage seriously. It's a matter of being old enough to know what you're looking for in a long term partner. And the sad truth is most people in their 20s have no idea what that looks like.
>>691130153
early 60's
>>691130119
or go to a BDSM club and learn it from a lesbian. That's how I did it.. like I said very unlikely it was my skills as all the girls before her did not have a problem cumming at all.
Married almost 20 years. Have sex, on average, every other day or so, which is about what it was when we were younger. There was couple years where it dipped a bit due to crazy schedules and stress, but it's never dropped below about twice a week.
>>691130494
happy for you anon!
Hope I get lucky like you!
>>691130261
I feel for you anon. I really do. I guess it's hard for them to reconcile the two, but its admirable that they're trying in the hopes that you and their daughter will try to make it work for good. Once you break up though, they're going to hate every single thing about you. Rest assured.
>>691130423
I can see why you're staying then. A little late to start over.
>>691130074
Yeah she treats me like gold and she's really good for me in every other way. We've talked about it before and we aren't sure what to do. She has bad anxiety and I think it would be selfish to make her have panic attacks for sex again.
>>691130747
sounds like couples councelling would be beneficial anyway even if it is a clear no at least that would come out of that and you wouldn't have to live with the "but if..."
>>691130747
I can't speak for her medical condition specifically, but I have a dual diagnosis thing going on (epilepsy/bi polar) and surprisingly enough meds for those conditions often work just as well as regular anti-depressants. Without this crazy ass side effect too. Sure theres a period of adjustment but she might try asking her doctor about it. There might be alternatives. Hopefully.
>>691130583
Thanks! Yeah, no complaints here. It's kind of remarkable that after being together this long we still can't keep our hands off each other. I credit part of it to the fact that we opted to not have kids. The rest is just good chemistry between us I guess.
Good luck to you anon!
>>691125635
Plus the 40s libido boost is kicking in for her, when I was early 20s women in their early to mid 40s were my mo... they want to fuck all the time, and old enough to be certified pros at it
This thread makes me sad.
I'm married, first year, after a five year relationship. Our sex life was a constant 'getting lower' type, where we started off good and it has gotten worse and worse over time. Now we are at once every two weeks and it's killing me inside. She doesn't respond to any of my advances, but complains that I'm not doing enough.
>>691131162
>not to have kids
Do you guys ever regret that decision?
>>691131179
And sometimes old enough to have her tubes tied so babies aren't an issue.
>>691131219
>wont respond
>you're not doing enough
The ultimate catch 22. Its easier to accuse the other person of not doing enough than it is to admit that you might be at fault.
>>691131244
Yeah, we both have moments of feeling like we're missing out on something. Then we spend time with couples who have kids, and usually come away saying "Damn, I'm glad we don't have to deal with that crap".
>>691131219
Fuck. Her. Hard.
Don't wait for her to respond, just push forward until she emphatically taps out. I'm not saying rape her while she begs you to stop, but when she says you're 'not doing enough' she means she needs you to press the issue. If you're giving signals and she's ignoring them then asking you to do more, that means you need to escalate until she gives a very firm no.
>>691131758
>that means you need to escalate until she gives a very firm no
That's what I am doing. Laying in bed, sharing a kiss, keep kissing and groping the right parts, but she just says no, rolls over and let me be there by myself. This happens multiple times a week, I actually thing she's just having pity sex with me so I don't blow up the house.
>>691122796
we're not all fatasses that have heart attacks from it...
Married 14 years. Wife blows me most days. Sex twice a week or so. Anal every few weeks.
>>691131219
>but complains that I'm not doing enough.
Then have her define "enough". Have her verbalize what you are not doing. Then do it, consistently. And as you do, have her occasionally acknowledge it.
For example, if you don't do enough non-sexual intimacy (like cuddling), then maybe cuddle and watch a movie together. The next day ask if she liked it. She will probably say yes.
Do this with each of the things she wants you to do. Sometimes this will work it out. But if not, then you have a conversation with her. You ask her "remember when you told me what I needed to do? I've been doing it right along and you actually confirmed many times that I was doing it. now you need to meet my needs."
If she doesn't change you have three options... keep trying, give up and/or leave.
>>691123576
Jesus Christ, that's my shit to a T.
>>691131344
That's also a potential perk. But I made sure not to bag crazy ones too. Any sane woman that age doesn't want any or any more kids, so they do the IUD or the shot. All but two of the 16 women I had short term sex only relationships with wanted me to cum in them. They also appreciate head more than younger girls and will tell you how to get them off harder instead of clamming up like my generation.
>>691132171
I appreciate the advice.
>>691118493
>why?
She got fat.
me: >>691132166
recommend this: >>691131986
If you want sex, let her know. If she doesn't fulfill you, leave her for someone who does. Even if she's not that into it (although if you know what's good for you you will make it good for her) she'll do it to take care of you and keep you around. If she doesn't, she doesn't care enough about you and you should leave here. Communication is important here.
>>691132166
>Wife blows me most days
I don't think most anons would have a problem if this happened to them. But my wife told me I was gross when I asked for a BJ when she wasn't in the mood for sex. Same reaction when I asked for a hand job. Her thinking is that orgasms should be a mutual thing, meaning it should only happen when she is in the mood.
>>691131986
No shit anon, roll her over, pull down her pants, and mount her legs, slide it in her. Unless she fights you off before you penetrate, she's into it. Some women just want to know they're badly desired. I do this to my wife at least once a month, or when she's feeling down. Make her feel irresistible. I'm not advocating rape if she's truly against the sex, but we had a slump for a month or so and I finally figured out it was because she didn't feel sexy, so I let her know how badly I wanted it, we have great sex 3-4 times a week now
>>691131519
Do you think y'all will come to regret it in the future, when you start getting older and you don't have kids to take care of you?
>sometimes i cant decide if i want kids or not
>>691118493
When you hit puberty, and you're young, and your're a teenager, and you're in your 20's, and you're in your 30's, the thought that sex might get played out never enters into your thinking.
Sex gets played out. Whether you're faithful or cheat, whether you're married or single, like anything else, sex gets played out.
And so if your relationship is built on sex, expect it to fail.
>>691132487
>she'll do it to take care of you and keep you around
Spoken like a guy who has never had corpse, starfish or duty sex.
>>691132712
I wish other anons testimonies ITT supported this argument. Either they're lying about being married for 11 some odd years and fucking everyday, or they're doing it right and people like us are fucking it up somehow.
>>691131986
Operative word being EMPHATIC. When she rolls over, spread her with your hand and press into her from behind. Read her reactions, with a bias towards "yes". Women are strongly discouraged from birth to treat sex as a gift given to men who earn it, not something they enjoy and desire. Women who want it rough and forceful are discouraged from being unladylike. They choose frankly aberrant ways of drawing that out of men.
Rape fantasies are so common not because women are predisposed to rape but for the same reason white men become serial killers: their natural desire for forceful, violent activity is subverted by a weak, fearful, euphemistic society that rewards falsehood and self-delusion over personal expression.
I'm not saying 100% this is your woman's actual need or desire. If I met her, maybe I could give you more, but I can give you with certainty this: If you push hard, you may give yourself and her something you want. If you don't, your relationship will fail. It's possible it will fail spectacularly because you push too hard and she loses her shit, but ask yourself this:
Would you rather your relationship end in a hurricane or a drizzle?
>For what it's worth, I gave this post to my wife and she validated my impressions.
>>691132670
ITT anons advocating...rape?...to fix a sexless relationship?
>>691132670
>make her feel irresistible
This is exactly the problem I'm having (OP). He never makes me feel this way anymore. He used to when we first started dating, but now I just feel like a roommate he occasionally cuddles with once in a while. When I try to initiate, it feels like he's just going through the motions but he isn't attracted to me anymore. That's where the fears come in, that hes gay, that I'm ugly, that hes cheating, etc etc.
>>691132999
1st off, Czech'd
2ndly: completely agree, this is the same guy that said flip her over and mount her. The rape thing is very real, don't be a fucking psycho, but being rough is never bad unless she objects. My wife LOVES to be held down, I take my shirt off and use it to pin her to the bed by stretching it across her, or hold her down by her shoulder blades while I go to town and she loves it. After 5 years of marriage I didn't know she liked her hair pulled, especially while she's cumming, until about 2 years ago.. now our sex is seriously fantastic
>>691132999
checked, and verified by another anon as well.
>>691133205
I said not advocating rape... read closer chap...
>>691133455
Nice dubs..
Maybe he feels the same.. i might suggest checking his porn searches? Maybe he's not into you because he's caught up on a fantasy he's too ashamed to talk about. Find out what he's into sexually on his own time and try to recreate it for him. Lots of steps to take before assuming it's an uncontrollable thing
>>691134274
>his porn searches
This is a really complicated situation but basically, it's trap porn and cam sluts (hyper-summarized). You can see where the "gay" concern comes into play, especially if he himself is the one postulating that he might be.
>cam girls
This is probably the most complicated. I'm being a dumb bitch about it but our relationship started off long distance for the first 9 months. Camming was all we had, so in this weird way it feels like cheating. It's a real girl doing that shit, it's not just some paid tanned bleached asshole porn actress. If it were, I wouldn't give a shit. But that's someones real actual daughter, who isn't me, exciting him more than I do. Feels so stupid but I can't shake it.
>>691134765
>You can see where the "gay" concern comes into play, especially if he himself is the one postulating that he might be.
Did I miss that before?
If that's the case, you may want to consider a MMF. There are all sorts of rules and boundaries you need to discuss before getting to that point.
>>691124595
>pussy
accurate description of this tactic.
>>691134765
Sounds far fetched.. but have you tried buying a realistic strap on? Ask if he wants you to peg him, it's not an uncommon desire, or ask if he'd like to bring a man into the bedroom with you, or woman, whatever he wants. I don't personally understand the trap fetish because I love pussy so much, but a few times a year my wife will suck me off and suddenly stimulate my prostate and if it's infrequent, I shyly admit I fucking love it, blow the biggest loads that way
>>691135226
I had posted it near the beginning, I'm not surprised you missed it. But yeah, he is. What's an MMF? Is it that open relationship shit? We haven't really talked about that concept per say, but he makes it really clear every time we get close to it that he's not OK with the idea of fucking other people (for either of us).
>>691135226
Just suggested the mmf below, good idea, it either solidifies that he secretly likes men if he shows more interest in the gentleman, and you can move on, or it at least gets you one eager willing dick while you figure out wtf is going on
>>691135712
Male male female 3some
>>691118493
5 1/2 years. Every other day. Sometimes for hours. Started taking generic viagra to keep up.
She's hot though, not some 'i settled for her because she's the only one who gave me attention' kind that most people are with.
>>691118493
sex 3-4 times every 6 months, the first post is right tho, im pretty sure my relationships dying its 50% because i dont really care.
>>691135417
Thing about pegging is, he just flat out says he's not into butt stuff. But he has brought up that prostrate thing before but when I try to actually do it he stops me mid "session" (if you will) and says he's not into it. Dead in the water. But he says it makes him cum a lot harder too. I don't understand why he won't let me do it. Unless of course, he's actually hiding that he wants a man to do it instead of me.
All of this is conjecture though, I need to have a serious talk with him about this again. But like I said way up there, he just shuts down and says hes done this in every relationship hes ever had and he can't figure out why it happens. Does the prostrate thing really make all that much difference?
>>691135712
If he's unwilling to work on the issue, no matter what his problem is, you should leave. If he won't put in effort, no amount or work you put into it is going to save it, whether he turns out to be gay or whatever
>>691134765
>cam girls
Maybe he misses how it used to turn him on when y'all did stuff like that together? Try surprising him with nude videos and shit like that every now and then. His porn use doesnt mean he wants something else
>>691136308
Well that's the catch. Outside of the bedroom, he's my soulmate. Like that's it, I'm done searching. He's it. And he works with me on so many things and he's even tried to work on this before. But he just kind of stops after a while, hoping I don't notice but I always do. My biggest concern is that a couple more years down the line, he's going to come out as trans or something and I'll already have bought a house, had kids, etc with him. I don't want to be that chick, the one who was so oblivious to the signs that she just walked right into that kind of stupid situation.
ancient fag here
married, divorced, remarried, widowed.
2nd wife totally cash
not pretty, average looks, never hit on by anyone else, totally owned
Raised Catholic school girl
I ruined her, turned her into Subgenius saint
Sex was never a question
I asked, she said yes.
No headaches, no bitching, never too sick despite some heavy duty health issues, right up to the very end
Lost her last year to cancer. Sucks, but hey, I get to do it all over again.
>>691136246
I'm a heavy cummer normally (probably because I'm still so damned attracted to my wife) but when she knows I'm withing 30-45 seconds of cumming she'll put a finger in her mouth and cover it with spit, then force it in my ass after just a couple of gentle tickles and when she does I start to cum.. and I'll pump semen until her mouth is full. She will almost always swallow because she doesn't mnd and knows I like it, but when she does that she literally can't get it down, and I sleep like a fucking cherub on a cloud
>>691136826
Im sorry for your loss.
>>691136246
When you have the conversation with him, do a couple of things.
First, start off with the assumption that he's at least bisexual. Don't ask whether or not he's gay or bi. Start off with something like "I realize you're bisexual. How long do you think you've felt this way?" or "When did you first realize it?" This takes the "if" off the table.
The second thing is NEVER ask a question that can be answered with a yes/no. Too easy for him. Make him talk.
>>691136875
If you had tried to stop her from doing it and she just did it anyway, wouldn't it feel like rape kind of?
>>691136826
Second time was the charm. Sorry for your loss.
>>691137152
I'd try this if I thought he wouldn't laugh at me for assuming hes bi. It's such a strange approach to be honest. I try to talk, he says "he does it all the time lol idk might be gay its been a concern the entire time". I try to switch it up, he shuts me down and says he's not into it. I try to bring up the threesome thing, he says he's done it before with two other girls and it ruined his relationship. I tried anal (but we dont do it often and im not used to it so obviously it hurts at first) and he says he feels too guilty to keep going so we stopped trying. I really do enjoy anal once a rhythm gets established, but obviously its going to sting at first. Even when I tell him to keep going, he still stops. Its such a bizarre approach.
>>691137249
The first time she DIDN'T really ask, just did it as I was already mid cum, not almost finished, like literally two spurts in, and I felt a little violated and weird, but it felt so good I couldn't be mad. She laid between my legs on her back and watched TV with me for an hour or so, then turned around and did it again and that broke the stigma. I don't have her do it all the time, because I still want to enjoy cumming in her without having to be stimulated that way, bUT I love when she does it
>>691137774
I think I'm just going to try this again, it's all I can really do at this point. Anons are right, communication is really important. And we do that with almost everything in our lives, except this one topic.
>>691122796
Do you feel like your relationship is lacking because of it?
>>691137774
Maybe you have to stop being nice and scream at him "I've tried to have a civil conversation about this with you and you keep shutting down. Cut the shit and start talking to me!"
>>691138135
Adding even more pressure into the situation. Sounds like a great plan.
But honestly at this point, what have I got to lose? It sucks to admit it, but I've tried everything and nothing else is working.
>>691137774
When you do get him to fuck you, stimulate your own ass, lube and fingers in, and once you're getting off, ask him to cum in your ass. Anal takes work and patience, we do it about as often as the prostate stimulation, but I love watching her seize in pleasure on the bed after a good drilling and ass fucking. I'm also a pervert so I request pics from her that she provides sparingly to keep me craving, but when I cum in her ass I always take a shot for myself for later when she's working late or something lol
>>691138423
Here's the thing... us guys are pretty thick and sometimes it takes a 2x4 to the side of the head to get us to understand. You've already tried the nice approach, now try the 2x4.
>>691138552
I'll try it, maybe he'll respond differently this time around. Hopefully. Hell i dont know, something has to break. There's always a solution to every problem, and ironically enough, the problem is finding the solution.
>>691138552
Got distracted thinking about her ass and didn't tell full story lol. She always works herself up for me before anal, and watching her play with her asshole not only preps her, but gets me ready to blow so that it's just long enough to pleasure her without hurting. She has some POWERFUL orgasms from it because it's done right.
>>691138889
Can I ask y'all something then? He has a problem lasting a long time. Stupid fuck as I am, I went off birth control a year ago because seriously, if you're only fucking once every two months or so babies aren't really a gigantic concern (and honestly we couldn't afford it). But when I stopped, he says he started worrying more and more about finishing inside me so it makes him finish faster having to keep track of it. There has to be some trick guys use, right? Is that thinking of sports thing actually a thing or is it just some bullshit y'all tell each other?
>>691120211
If you would rather fap than have sex, either deep down youre gay and thats y you have no desire, or the sex just blows, which is still because youre a fgt. accept the truth anon
>>691139084
So after all of the advice and intimate discussions, do we get to see a faceless pic? I'll give an honest evaluation, not rude, but direct. Because if you arent taking care of yourself no amount of smutty talk or action is going to put him back in the mood
>>691118493
Been together 7 years, got a child that is 2½ years.
We have sex every second day when the energy is there for it, it can be up and down, I think the longest dry period was a month. Some times we can go on for 3-4 days in a row, but then we are completely drained of energy again.
>>691139439
(cont forgot to add) this is also around the time we stopped having sex as regularly, too. You'd think it'd be an obvious solution. "oh get back onto BC and he'll start back up again" but it was already spiraling downwards before I stopped. Feels like stopping was just the final nail in the coffin.
>>691139439
I'll say hands down, he's afraid of a kid. Worth it or not, get back on BC, it'll put his mind at ease and that'll help him with the comfort level
>>691139519
>aren't taking care of yourself
You mean am I fat? Haha. That's kind of subjective too. When we first started dating I was a size 10 (hips) and my bra size was 36FF. So well endowed enough. When we moved in together, I went to a size 16 (a fat fuck I know, even though he never said anything). When we moved out to CO, I realized that the sex issue wasn't going away so I basically stopped eating and dropped 20 lbs in a month. I'm hovering around size 12 right now, which is still fat compared to I guess what y'all would be expecting. But I'm still not eating either. So it's not really going away. I thought being thinner would help fix this, but it hasn't really made a difference. I still can't do it though, because now I just feel ugly 100% of the time.
inb4 landwhale. I know. Obviously.
>>691139899
You really think it's that simple? Like its obvious I need to go back on, but an IUD is the only way I'd do it and those things are $500+. They also last up to 10 years, and I'm right around that babymaking window. So it forces us to ask a lot of questions about our future together, which of course stresses us out, and the cycle continues.
>>691140252
Let me be the judge. My wife is a size 14 and I think she's a goddess. You're only as fat as you let yourself be. By that I mean my lady is hefty, not "thick" or "fat" or a "chubber" but she moves like and fucks like any bombshell 18 year old babe. If you are heavy and not putting in the work, that could be your problem. But I'd say as desperate as you sound to be fucked, you're putting in the effort to be attractive
>>691140252
I'm just asking for it now. I have no idea why I even posted that.
>>691121444
10 year marriedfag here
Over the long term it's a give and take. There will be times when you fuck like rabbits, and times when you don't for a month. Times when you're all hot and bothered, and times you just can't be bothered. And that's ok-you're both people, you have moods, and you react to situations in ways that aren't always logical. But for the most part there's always tomorrow, and it's not a problem until it starts getting to one of you and the other one can't (or won't) accommodate.
At some point, the sex just has to be a decision you make to have it. Maybe it's not as "romantic" or "passionate" as it was before, but that doesn't mean it can't still be fun, exciting, and deeply satisfying for the both of you.
>>691139439
Two things.
If he's only having sex once every two months there's no way he'll last inside you (unless he's jerking off with a death grip).
But yeah, worrying about having kids will add stress to the situation.
And lasting longer? I just think of the Red Sox starting their annual losing streak in August and that does it for me.
>>691140457
With all of the other things, I doubt it's 100% of your problem, but to me personally, it'd be about 70% of mine.. we have two great kids, neither are mine biologically, but we both know we don't want more and the chance of having another would turn me right off. She is on the IUD, hasn't had a period in 4 years, and for added security I had a vasectomy, and that makes fucking so much more great because it's 9000% risk free
>>691140847
Lmfao, I'm a Tampa Bay fan.. I just have to imagine any season and I can lose my chub, no matter how sexy my wife is being hahaha
>>691141356
>Tampa Bay Lightning here
Thinking about our last two years would just make him finish even faster. Prince of Wales trophy last year, Vezina for our goalie this year, it's going swell.
>>691141141
Vasectomy. Sigh, if only. Like I said, we have to start asking the "procreation" questions but I'd ask about this if we weren't still unsure about all that.
>>691141609
Unfortunately I'm a Rays fan haha, fuck ya Lightning though!
>>691120211
Kek so you're just going to go on wanking and not enjoying sex forever?
