where can I meet women as an adult. this is a serious thread about adult relationships intended for those who are 25+
anyone who is not 25+ does not have business posting in this thread or giving half-baked advice
>>767416427
1. Bars and clubs
2. Friends and parties
3. Internet.
Sorry, but realistically that's it. In real life, women at the supermarket or the book store don't want sweaty incels flirting obliviously pretending they just want to talk.
>>767416427
If you have money, use a paid online service like match, and really do a good job. Remember that others can only see what you show them, so none of your "muh internal qualities" matter.
Dating sites,
bars,
gyms,
exercise classes,
political / charitable / hobby organizations (try Meetup.com),
through friends,
church (if you're so inclined),
and on the street.
>>767416427
online: Tinder or something similar
irl: friends of friends
>>767416579
seriously I haven't flirted in awhile and the last sexual partners I had started as strangers on the internet and it was all casual so honestly I have no gauge for how "good" or "bad" my flirt game is. but I am going to assume my flirt game is pretty weak since I don't actively pick up women in public like that
>>767416614
I am seriously considering a match site that you have to pay for because something tells me people will take it more seriously? but if I pay for it I will have crossed a certain line of desperation, that's on me no judgement on anyone who pays for these sites
>>767416427
Lounges, karaoke bars, hotel bars, fitness groups, gyms, yoga classes, daycares, PTO/PTA meetings, through several apps
>>767416427
Through female friends.
If you don't have any female friends, then make some.
Don't treat all women as a potential fuck.
Women see men that have no female friends as a huge red flag.
Almost all of my girlfriends I've met through female friends.
>>767416427
Its a rough game these days my man. You have to go out and do shit to meet proper women. Most of the ones you meet online are going to be whores, ex-whores, or have kids.
The bar scene isn't going to be that good either, for the same reasons. Women "just want to have fun", because they are ruled by how you make them feel.
Do what you want, what you enjoy, and you will attract those of similar temperaments. That's how you get a woman; stay active, do shit, go outside, and do what you want. Be open.
>>767416872
Fun facts for you friend; from a 24 y/o guy who had sex for the first time at 14...
Separate "Flirting" with "pulling" they are different things, flirting is a VERY common daily occurrence, you many not realise it but average girls you interact with are flirting with you, you just don't realise it. Flirting can be extremely subtle and is a core mechanic of how humans "raise" themselves in social hierarchies.. before technology electricity etc, survival basically depended on "who you knew" flirting was a way to raise yourself in these social circles. Flirting doesn't even have to be sexual, it just says "I like you as a person forreals"
I'd love to explain it more but im high af and struggling to hit the right keyboard buttons box thingies uhhhh yeah
GOOGLE IT but I swear m8 even walking through thesupermarket (unbeknown to some of the betas posting), there are plenty of places to pull a hottie (low 20s, high teenies to mid 40s, 50s, even 60s if you live in a slutty area lmao
>>767416427
Enroll at a University or community college, even if you have an undergrad/graduate degree. Take 1 class
Thank me later.
Met my wife on eharmony. Been together ten years.
>>767417433
>Women see men that have no female friends as a huge red flag.
I struggle believing this is true, but then again I don't have any female friends to ask. In my experience and from what I understand of history women and men have never made good friends, contact between the sexes should be mostly primal
>>767417551
I'm pretty sure I said this thread was for 25+. I don't care that you had sex as a teen just like me and everyone else I know did
>>767416872
>pay
DONT
pic related is STILL how they treat men on dating sites. You would just get more entitled women with even higher impossible standards
>>767417708
fuck now this is the kind of genius I was looking for..
>>767417747
and advice, my man?
You will never meet a nice girl going around with certain expectations, more than not this will lead you to seeking out fucked up women who are just as desperate as you.
Would you rather meet Britney in a bar smoking cigarettes and getting hammered hoping you will take her home? While her kids are with her divorcee, sure she's going to fuck you cause she s a slut, that's why shes kn her predicament in the first place. Then later she will be calling and texting asking for rides to the gas station or to borrow some money for has or cigarettes.
Or
Would you rather focus on life and randomly run into a cute Amy at a friends party, the power goes out during a rainstorm and you guys laugh and get a little stoned by some candle light later that night. Maybe get a buzz and dare each other to run out into the rain, maybe share a wet kiss while it thunders in the background and your both soaken wet. The next day you both are nervous to see who texts each other first.
Point is, stop trying so hard or you will end up with desperate trash like yourself
I'm in my 30's and I get all kinds of attention in person.
Online women treat me like I'm the fucking leper boy who's profile says he has aids
and yes a large number of times women have been incredibly rude to me online only to try to buy me drinks and fuck me in person
if you don't live near a real city my advice of find a good place and go wont work
>>767417433
What if you have no friends at all?
>>767416427
Leave my ASMR waifu out of this
>>767417963
why do you keep posting this stupid picture?
>>767417945
>Would you rather focus on life and randomly run into a cute Amy at a friends party
what friends? what party? I am adult. These things don't exist very much for people who work jobs full time M-F
>>Point is, stop trying so hard or you will end up with desperate trash like yourself
way ahead of you there
>>767417817
Get a good profile pic, if you’re swinging towards an online pay service. Had a friend who tried, used a shitty photo, got nothing. I was at it a month, dated a few, found one I liked and who I clicked with, and we’re still together and happy. And be honest. Not just with them but with yourself, are you looking for a wife, or a lay?
>>767416427
Well OP I am currently 29 years old, so as a mature adult let me suggest that poopy ding-dong titties fidget spinner dab?
>>767418025
This checks out.
>>767417754
>>Women see men that have no female friends as a huge red flag.
>I struggle believing this is true, but then again I don't have any female friends to ask. In my experience and from what I understand of history women and men have never made good friends, contact between the sexes should be mostly primal
You see, you didn't listen to a thing I said.
You ask for advice, then dismiss it out of hand.
This is why you're alone.
>>767418245
>are you looking for a wife, or a lay?
I've layed my share of whores and I want a cute wife like the cute first gf I had who ruined all other women for me. I want a stable and healthy relationship.
>>767418128
I would like to reiterate that it is still less cancerous than porn threads.
>>767418139
>doesnt make time to be social
>soesnt understand why he can't find a girl
I stand by what I said, that's how it happened for me, that was 5 years ago and now in 29 with a beautiful baby girl.
>>767418025
Then you need to look at yourself and ask why.
If you have severe social difficulty, treat it. Read up on it. Work on it.
But ultimately, if you can't engage with society, then society won't engage with you.
>>767418402
that's great for you but I am being honest. people who work full time don't party on the two days they aren't working, that is stuff we all did in HS and college. Now everyone is with there gf/spouse and children. I missed the boat on that one
>>767418353
im a dude who gets a lot of pussy and I don't think a woman has ever cared or mentioned if I dont
in fact they get jealous of the female friends I do have if it was a phase that my best friend was female
>>767418348
Well done, Sherlock.
>>767418499
I just set up a meeting with a therapist. What more can I do?
>>767418515
good for you. you obviously don't need female friends.
this was aimed at OP who was struggling to meet women.
also, women who are jealous of you having female friends are garbage.
Faggot OP doesn't want advice he wants people to tell him that the rest of the world is just unfair and mean to him.
This is why he is alone, hes a fucking woe is me narcissist.
Also post a pic of yourself op, you are probably just ugly and butt hurt.
OP's girl is fine
I'm not 21 but did you try going to the bar and doing the alcohol?
>>767418600
>I just set up a meeting with a therapist. What more can I do?
That's great, that's a great start.
I would say, think about the stuff that you're really interested in. Movies, books, art, music, sports, whatever.
Then find like-minded people. Either online or at clubs, societies, whatever.
Like, don't fake who you are. If you're 100% into anime, then go with that. There will be other people also into it. And you instantly have shit in common. And they will dig that you dig what they dig.
I met my wife through our shared love of music and books and zombie movies.
>>767418647
>Also post a pic of yourself op, you are probably just ugly and butt hurt.
take your whining to /soc/ where you can see all the troll faces and dickpics you want
a few people have given me decent advice and some have barated me with shitty advice. are you such a cunt that you think YOUR advice is the BEST/ONLY advice? who is the narcissist now?
>>767418385
I found eharmony worked for me. Had another friend who chewed his way through plentyoffish back in the day, and it was just one train wreck after another. Pay the money, set it up, message them in your own time. (We we’re both shift workers at the time, so we’d end up talking at one or two in the morning sometimes because we were both off work) again, as I said, we’ve been together ten years in August. Had a kid together, weathered some tragedy together. Still together, still happy.
>>767418822
>women into anime
either crazies or non-existant
also, nice trips
>>767418822
My issue for the last eight years is substance abuse. I wouldn't be chatting with some random person right now if I wasn't drunk. Even when I'm sober +4 weeks, I hate interacting with anyone in general. I don't have any interests. I don't have any hobbies. Hard to believe, but this is what it's like wen you've relied in chemicals to feel normal for almost a decade. I've completely forgotten how to deal with normalfags.
>>767416872
No- I don't think there is any certain line of depression that you should have with this. It's 2018, online dating has been around for close to 20 years. It is really a good way of meeting up with people.
Don't look at it as a negative thing. Nothing negative about it. I know "back in the day" bullshit people would meet up at bars and college, but plenty of people either didn't meet up, or met up with someone that was probably pretty shitty to begin with .
Try fetlife
>>767419214
I'm sorry to hear that, man. That is tough and I sympathize.
Maybe look at alcohol rehab groups. There will no doubt be many other people going through a similar thing. Ok, it's not a shared interest as such, but it's a point of common experience.
And maybe just try some shit out. Catch a movie. Read a few books. Listen to some new music. Just see if anything takes your fancy.
I wish you luck.
Grocery store.
Not even joking.
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That is all, thank you for your time.
>>767419731
Pelor protect us, you are one creepy motherfucker.
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