Hi, /b/ I'm with gf for 10 years now, we have a little
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Hi, /b/
I'm with gf for 10 years now, we have a little baby and everything is OK, except we don't have sex anymore. She love mes, but she's not into it anymore. I feel pretty bad about it.
I met a girl couple years ago, and we chat daily. She's really smart, very kind and experiences the same situation. She's really into sex and has an immoderate passion for blowjobs.
She's about to move in my town, and since we're both highly frustrated, we plan to meet and she wants to blow me really hard. So we're chatting about this, and I'll get tons of blowjobs, which is what I dream about for years now.
What should I do, /b/ ? Is it OK to do it ?
tl; dr : I don't have sex anymore with gf, nice girls want to blow me really hard, should I let her do so ?
>>712022404
Think of it as... friends with benefits. Then It's ok :>
>>712022617
Yeah, but what about my gf ?
Surprinsingly, I don't feel guilty about it..
>>712022404
If you want to crush her life because of it, go for it.
Just remember once you do it you can't go back.
>>712022404
Yes. Your gf isn't fucking you anymore cause she is getting bigger dick someplace else. Might as well get yours else you are a cuck.
If she was loyal and you guys regularly fucked, then you would be a douche, but she is holding out, so whatever.
>>712023119
Two options: Break up with gf, hope she doesn't go after you with common marriage laws or don't break up with her, hope she never finds out. Either way it sounds like you're pretty fucked.
Secret to happy marriage/relationship: cheat.
>>712022404
If she is not the one for you anymore, you should get a divorce. If the lack of sex isnt worthy of a divorce, then remember how much you would heard her if she would find out. If you really love her you shouldnt. If you dont, then get a divorce
her fault, she doesnt want to have sex with you anymore? shes how old? shes gettin it from someone else, go for it.
>>712023204
Then what sould I do ? Just accept to live without sex ?
I mean, I'm totally OK to be faithful, but my gf doesn't give me sex anymore, so what ? My sex life is over ?
>>712023305
Both cheat or just one person cheat? Why not just have an open relationship?
Talk to her and convince her to have an open relationship.
>>712023262
>Yes. Your gf isn't fucking you anymore cause she is getting bigger dick someplace else. Might as well get yours else you are a cuck.
You sound like an edgy teenager.
>>712022404
Yeah man, just fucking do it, you only get to live once, just remember this... If you fucking hesitate you will fuck things up with your wife... Just do it, have fun, get laid, fuck her well, don't ''act normal'' just live you life how you've been doing it and you should be just fine man, it's all about confidence...
But again OP if you don't acctually give a shit about cheating on your wife since you both love each other and you know you won't regret it or feel bad about it, then do it.
Enjoy life, and also remember not to tell anyone about it, if you can keep it as a secret in between you two, it will last, higher the chances to get caught the more ppl know about your affair.
>>712022404
>Is it OK to do it ?
yes, as long as you spend an equal amount of time with you tongue in her pussy.
>>712023307
>If you really love her you shouldnt. If you dont, then get a divorce
She's the one, we're together for life, I think.
But, if I want to keep her, I have to accept to have no sex anymore ? This is insane..
>>712022404
If you're not happy with you're life, it's time for a change. Simple as that. It will fuck up the kid though
>>712022404
Be honest with your gf and tell her that you're breaking up with her. That's better than cheating on her. You have a legit reason. If my gf withholds sex with me I would break up with her. Its not like shes a virgin or has a medical condition to stop having sex with you.
Continue to financially support your baby though.
>>712022404
No. Here's the thing with committed long term relationship, the sex always dries out after a while. But still, in the name or having an orderly life and because you love her, you should remain faithful; even if that means sex only happens once a month.
I honestly think you should only seriously commit to a relationship once the sex has dried out and you're *still* okay with her being your only partner, still happy about it.
The sex with a new person is much more exciting, but you get desensitized to the fun of having sex with that person after a while and you have to gradually up the kink to continue to enjoy it.
Don't. You will regret it, a stable relationship and scarce sex with someone you love is far better than a fling with a stranger, even if your instinct will be telling you otherwise.
>>712022404
Are you fit fag? cause if your dad boding it up then i can get why. Try making your gf want you again dont pussy out for ez sex with some1 else with a bunch of regret tied to it.
>>712023329
What about what she wants? Run her a bath and take her to bed, eat her out and get her excited for sex. Remember that it works both ways, and perhaps you both need to find that spark again. To start having sex before you demand all the blow jobs...
>>712023473
it's simple really
>you like your girl
>you want sex from your girl
>your girl doesn't want to give you sex
>ergo your girl is making you unhappy
>talk it out and explain you need sex and you can either get it from her or from someone else
>if she wont give it to you or let you fuck someone else then dump her because she isn't what you need.
>>712023654
this
wise words
Why is it that girls always end up denying their husband or long term boyfriend sex?
>>712023671
Best advice here. Worked for me. It kind of gives your life a nice boost to try to impress your own lady. You also start to impress lot of other ladies and it gives nice boost to your confidence. In the end your girl will rip the pants off and suck the tip cause shes afraid some other girl will do that to you first. Its all about psychology man.
>>712023682
>its simple really
easy for you to say ya fuckin virgin
>>712024215
nope married man who gets sex every day. good try tho. not my fault you idiots over complicate the simplest things.
>>712023671
Well, I'm quite attractive, honesgtly, and she still tells me she finds me handsome.
>>712023676
I buy her flowers, offer her massages, cuddling, eating her, anything that can get a woman want some sex. She's sorry about it, but she doesn't want sex anymore.
>>712023637
I don't wanna break up with the mother of my son. She's my partner, and I'd drop the other chick as soon as she starts fucking me again.
>>712022404
you love your girlfriend ?
If yes, why do you settle for a sexless life ? She's having trouble with her libido, and you do nothing about it. And then you'll wonder why she'll cheat on you, and why your marriage fail.
It's not normal, for anyone to have a sexless life. Maybe it's her pill and she should try changing her contraception, maybe she never had fun having sex and you should offer her a hitachi.
Think of your baby, he's going to grow up without one of his parent if you do nothing.
>>712023654
>>712023671
>>712023676
These hold significant merit.
/thread
FUCK HER,JUST DO IT
>>712024215
I fucking agree with him. I get you got a kid and all but if you can't talk your relationship problems out its either not worth being in
or you're a fucking pussy for not telling her shit isn't making you happy.
fucking find a new way to turn her on or find something new
>>712022404
Show your girl the messages and ask if it's ok. If she says it's okay go for it.
Or. Be a fucking man and communicate with the mother of your child and see why the loss of sex? If you have spent 10 years with this girl why waste it for some whore who will ultimately blab shit to spite you when shit doesn't go her way (cuz that's what girls do).
Talk to your girlfriend again, explain to her that sexual intimacy is important for you to keep feeling loved and valued and attractive to her.
Tell her you don't see yourself living the rest of your life this way, and ask her how you can work TOGETHER to improve your sex life. Has she seen a doctor to rule out any medical problems causing this?
If she refuses to work with you on improving and she's happy with the status quo despite you being so unhappy, then fuck it. Do whatever you want, whenever you want. And you'll know you gave it your best shot.
Don't be a little bitch. Leave your girlfriend if you're not satisfied with your relationship, then receive blowjobs. Cheating is nothing more than cowardice.
>>712022404
I had the same problem with my ex gf.
I knew "she was the one", I loved her a lot. I still do, i guess.
But we weren't having sex anymore.
Tried everything, she was not into it anymore, and I couldn't bear pity handjobs.
I met this crazy hot girl, best sex in life. I left my gf for her, she's now my actual gf.
Sexuallly, she enjoys to please me in every way. On that side it's incredible. When she's not in the mood for sex, she blows me like it's her fault, and she's really good at it.
The only problem is that I don't love her the way I loved my old gf.
I have been sad since we broke up, no matter how much sex I'm doing.
So, in the end, maybe just cheating is the solution.
I couldn't cheat on my ex because I loved/respected her too much, and I decided to leave her
>>712022404
Serious Anon here: have you ever veen to a counselor? You know for couples?
I know some people in your position: some stayed together and just masturbate and some divorced..
Sex with my woman has never been an issue but i had massive arguments sometimes and had opportunities on the side...
I didnt go for them and happy i didnt now.
Work on your relationship a bit more..
Don't fall for easy blowjobs if you still love her.
>>712024373
If your attractive in your entire body, then look up ways to try and get her sex drive back. If that doesn't work. welp ask her about having sex with another person. If shes not about that lyfe, then your kinda boned.
>>712024830
Thanks for sharing, dude, and sorry to hear that you're sad about your ex gf.
I don't want to live this, it's the reason why I plan to get only sex with a side fuck. She's also happy with her man, loves him and don't want to break with him.
>>712022404
A part of a successful relationship is sex. If she doesn't want to provide you with sex anymore it's time to move on. Another part is communication, talk to her about it. If she still doesn't want to provide sex let her know you need to move and on move on before you become a cheating faggot. Have some fucking integrity.
If it's just a few jibbers go for it. Be discrete and don't overcompensate by being extra nice to gf. Don't fall in love with the gobbler. Have a limited run in mind. Cover your tracks. If you do it properly you can have your cake and cum on it too.
>>712024843
Well, I never went to a conselor. It might be the solution, actually. I don't know.
I think, like everybody, I'm not in mood for this.
You communicate. Bring up the issue, focus on finding solutions that satisfy both of you. Sometimes things get to an impasse- in this case focus on a smaller issue and use that as a stepping stone to address the bigger one. You likely wont get what you want immediately, but you will get it over time as the other person comes to understand what it is you want.
The whole "yolo/fuck it" attitude is for degenerates unable to comprehend life in a healthy relationship be it with partners or friends is about more than your own selfish self.
>>712025089
This
>>712022404
38yo fag here, with 16 years relationship ongoing.
If she doesn't want anymore to do sex with you, fisically cheating is the way.
Man is different from woman, if your gf doesn't want to understand this statement and she doesn't want to do almost a lazy blowjob in a week it's not your fault.
What do you want to do? Destroy an happy family (apart from the sex)? The best way is to do sex with anyone other, and you shouldn't feel bad about this: you are doing all your best to save your family stability!
Sorry for bad english, I'm not a britfag/murifag
>>712025089
I won't break up with her because of sex. We share a house, a life project, a way of life, and most of all : a child.
>>712025462
Thanks, bro. I feel exactly the same. Thanks for support.
>>712025135
Same anon here:
Always laughed at that idea myself before i did it but having a third person, a professional preferably, can help.
It allowed me to say things i would not have said normally.
Like many anons said, sex is not the most important but still a very important part of a relationship.
Seeing a professional isn't like a silver bullet, you might hear things that you don't wanna hear but you seem at a point where you could call the entire relationship off because of the lack of intimacy.
Maybe try it look up, see if there is someone people recommend?
Getting your cock by some slut in your case is like a band aid metaphorically, with all due respect.
>>712025135
Shitty situation all around. Not enough sex or no sex is a surefire relationship ruiner. I've been there. And am there. The thing with women is they don't realize what actually happens to a man when he hasn't been laid in a while. Sex releases hormones, endorphins, neurotransmitters... without it, men fall into a sort of depression. We try everything we can think of to get sex from our partner because that's the implicit deal about a partnership, sex is only to be between the two partners. Unfortunately if the woman won't put out the man starts to see other women as potential sexual partners. They start to flirt maybe without consciously realizing it, and one thing leads to another and the opportunity presents itself for the man to get laid elsewhere.
>>712025782
Cont'd
And then the man is in your dilemma. Your brain is suddenly lacking all these things that it knows it needs, things that masturbation doesn't release. You desperately need them and you want them so bad you'd consider breaking that deal even if it risks everything you've built. You now have three options. You can spend an indefinite time without sex, feeling neglected, unwanted, and unloved, and even if sex returns it might be too late, the relationship can be damaged beyond repair because even if you get sex, you will remember that time that she withheld it. You can break the deal, get laid, feel better but guilty and hope you won't get caught (but with all likelihood you will, or you'll feel so guilty you fess up or break up with her and blame it on her). Or, you can talk to your partner, try to figure out what you two can do together that will help bring sex back into your lives because despite what she may think she needs it too, or if she isn't willing, you can try to make an arrangement for an open relationship, or get permission to have a fuckbuddy, or something along these lines.
But, tl;dr, you're pretty much screwed. At this point, all outcomes are shit. You'll resent her even if you cheat or get permission to have a fuckbuddy. She'll start to hate you because of the pressure from you wanting sex, or because of you fucking other women. If you decide to not get laid, you'll hate yourself, hate her, and turn into a complete horndog. Your relationship at this point is done. If you can admit that, you can cheat without guilt, or you can tell her that you're going to find sex elsewhere and if she wants to stay with you to raise your child then that's fine but you need to find someone to fulfill your needs.
>>712024200
This.
>>712025462
>it's not your fault.
then whose fault it is if she doesn't desire him anymore ?
Does she have like a duty to be aroused by him ? Arousal doesn't work that way.
It's his duty to make her wants him. And vice versa. Otherwise cheating is bound to happen, and there's one more child who will grow without one of his parent
>>712025772
Man, I know I'm wrong. I'm deeply convinced that such a professional can help us. But I'm quite reserved, and I don't feel like exposing my intimate life to a stranger.
It's stupid, I know it, dude. Maybe one day I'll change my mind.
Anyway, there's something I forgot to mention : my side fuck wants to fulfill all my desires, and do all I ever wanted and my gf refused.
>>712022404
Think about what's most important to you, whether it be your kid, your reputation (lol), or your desires, and protect/go for it. If you want to protect your marriage bring up the topic and discuss whether she can at least please you in some way herself or if she'll let you get an escort with one of those no kissing rules. If you think its time to move on then go ahead
>>712025901
His duty to gain her affection
His duty to get the diamond ring
His duty to look decent, have cash, be well-mannered, flirt with her, arouse her, etc.
His duty to earn money to create a stable environment, so she can breed children
His duty to do everything so that lasts an they won't run into poverty
Her duty: accept all that, cook some food, give head and have sex with him
You know Anon, if it didn't look like that in a real world, I'd say you're right, but since it's the exact opposite, fuck you.
I don't support cheating. Yet I'd say that if you'd employ a worker that gets money, care and all other benefits and after years refuses to work for like an hour a week, the boss has to let that person go.
>>712026463
100% agree with you. Except, I cook at home, I'm the DIY guy, I run a company, etc. She takes care of the house and the baby.
I don't support cheating neither, I'd prefer having happy sex with gf. I'm just tired of being frustrated.
>>712026463
you are projecting very hard and sound bitter as fuck.
I just say that the responsibility of each partner arousal lies on their SO.
He doesn't have to do any of the thing you listed unless you live in like Saudi Arabia or some other place ruled by Dark Ages policies.
>>712022404
OP, it's up to you whether you do it. If you decide to, just remember the following.
>There is a high risk that nice girl will get clingy
>There is a high risk that she will try to sabotage your relationship
>The longer the fun goes on the higher the risk your girlfriend will find out
Would you be okay if you lost your girlfriend? If so, then go for it.
>>712025984
Well you are human... that's all.
And you seem like a decent man: many guys wouldn't think twice.
In the end the ball is on your side; but put it this way: if you at least tried to find a solution, you will have far less remorse if you do leave your gf. If it was just you and her, i would say the same someone told me before: "plenty of fish in the sea!".
But your kid might be worth some extra efforts, something you might have to explain to him/her in the future.
Oh and don't be shy with counselors, they see that kind of shit all too often; and at least your gf won't be caught by surprise and might be more likely to come to terms with a break up once facts are out in the open for all to see.
Good luck to you friend.
>>712025901
IMHO it's not a problem of attraction... a lot of women when the time passes, simply become uninterested about sex.
I don't want say our friend OP gf MUST do a blowjob if she doesn't want; if the OP gf phisycal needs about sex is to do it once at year, what is the correct thing to do?
Destroy a family to be the incorruptible Chuck Norris of the situation?
On the words of OP seems the family is happy: why OP should be destroy the family and grown his son without a father?
Life is not a math test, and sometimes make compromises is the BEST way.
Again, sorry for bad eng!
She already got a kid so her evolutionary desire to seek out sex is gone, it won't come back... You can follow these faggots advise and I've her a bath, surprises, dinner and so on, but guess what? She might fuck you out of pity but a dinner or a bathtub won't make her want to have sex again
She was thirsty and had her glass of water, she won't want your dick anymore
That or you are being cucked, either way I would break up and get bj and tons of sex free of guilt
>>712027017
We stopped having sex years before she got pregnant.
Ask her why you don't have sex anymore.
Then if you are not satisfied with the answer, say how you feel about it and that you consider it something that you need in your relationship.
Then if you want security cheat on her. Don't be stupid about it. Don't allow messages, phone calls from the other girl on weird hours, change the name that shows up on your phone, and most important don't lie that you go out with your buddies or something. Say you met a new girl at work and that you hang out in a large group together.
That way you won't have to lie as much or have inconsistencies on your story. Best case scenario you spark some jealousy in her and she wants to have sex again and then you won't have to see the other girl anymore.
Just fap, find time and do it. Its just a load off. This side chick could fall in love and fuck your relationship up. Be careful of home wreckers.
Everything changes for her when she has you in a secretive position.
Be careful man!
The key to happiness is very simple: Do what you want to do.
>>712026706
38yo illiterate here
the "no sex" situation you are describing, what means in sex frequency term?
>you never do it?
>once at month?
>once a year?
>>712027191
Maybe twice a year.
She gives me head once a week because I feel too frustrated, but clearly it's not something she loves, she does it to calm me down.
>>712026706
Yea, cooking is the thing everyone should be able to do, at least at basic level. Anyway, I was referring to a stereotype.
Dunno if women do that deliberately or they're completely clueless. Like she's got everything she needs so she doesn't give a fuck anymore. She'd say that she needs to feel *whatever* to fuck you, so you try and do that massage thing, cook some shit, or take her somewhere. But the bill you see after makes your head hurt. For hours+ of preparations, you get like an hour or maybe two of sex. You come into a conclusion that if you'd paid some hooker, it'd actually be way, way cheaper and you wouldn't have to do all that shit she deems is necessary. Fucking feminazis and all the progressive society put that bullshit into women head that if she "doesn't feel like it" she doesn't have to have sex with a man. The result? Increasing divorce rate. It's just sad. Plus the fact that if a woman cheats, the man is fucked, because during the divorce she'll take half of his shit. If he cheats, the result is the same. Just looking at that one thing makes me wonder at which point in time "marriage" turned into a "insurance policy" for women, because men gain nothing from it and sure as hell, women started taking advantage of that, rather than being grateful.
>>712027078
>C U C K L O R D
>>712027100
>Ask her why you don't have sex anymore.
I agree 200%
>>712027188
This simple rule seems to regard only dogs, cats and idiots, but also for me is the real key to happiness
>Tinder
>match with a fiftysomething that wants dick and nothing else
>awesome sex, nasty as hell, anal, deepthroat, spanking...
>keep fucking for months, one a week or so
>one day she calls, I drive to her place, a guy about my age is waiting the elevator
>we get out at the same story
>we walk to the same door
>he knocks at her
>"OK, time for a threesome, I guess"
>She opens, get a little unconfortable, make him go "to the kitchen and wait"
>Make me go to her bedroom
>"what the hell is going on?"
>"Sorry Anon, that's my son"
>feel as guilty as horny
>make her scream fucking her ass without lube
>he surely heard that
>>712027078
Chances are he's not yours and people are right girls don't stop having sex. It's unfortunate but necessary evil to accept. My best advice is to get blown from some eager chick she wants you bad. Just keep it a secret. Don't get upset all women cheat so you should too.
You should talk to your girlfriend about your urges. State the fact that is worth breaking up over. If she still refuses to make you happy then she doesn't really love you.
>>712026965
I'm not saying she's not attracted to him. I'm saying she's not aroused, and that he's the one supposed to work on creating that arousal.
Sex makes people happy. Women can be as sexual as men. Just look at the size of the sextoy industry, whose customer are mainly women.
It's ridiculous to think "she's simply becoming uninterested about sex, let's forget about having a fulfilling sex life with her".
A fulfilling sex life is something i wish to people i like. If one of my female friend was telling me her sex life was shit, i would try to give her advice to get it better, because it's something great to have.
So giving up on your wife sex life is like a proof that you don't care that much of her well being.
Not worth it. Never will be worth it. Just stay away op
>>712027428
He's mine, dude, no doubt about that. She doesn't have a side fuck, I know it. Do'nt wanna lose my time trying to convince you, so if you don't believe me, whatever.
>>712024648
/thread
>>712027546
>I love being a cuck!!!!!!
>>712023654
Excellent advice.
>>712027333
So simple and yet people are blind to the truth. Dogs cats?? Let the phrase truly sink into your life then you will understand its meaning
>>712023654
Don't take advice from women or cucks
>>712023654
My instinct doesn't tell me otherwise, I just don't have sex anymore. It's over. Basta.
Once again, I'd really prefer still having sex with gf, and I wouldn't consider the opportunity of this side fuck, but i's over for years now, I tried all that came in my mind, but nothing happened.
>>712023654
>you have to gradually up the kink to continue to enjoy it.
exploring new things isn't necessary the same thing as upping the kink.
You just have to do new things together. How do you explain that for example when a couple get some holiday, in an exotic/remote place without their children they get sexual again ?
You should force her to fuck girls love that
>>712024373
>>712024373
I would seriously consider counselling then. She could have a host of unresolved underlying issues that she doesn't feel she can talk to you about. Maybe after having the kid she became depressed and can't open up about it. Maybe she is ashamed that her vagina isn't quite how it used to be. There are lots of things you need to weigh up to get the full picture.
Don't cheat. It is the easy way out. Relationships don't happen by chance, they require work. There could be things you could be doing differently to make things work better, as could she.
>>712028424
>Don't cheat. It is the easy way out. Relationships don't happen by chance, they require work.
I tried man, I really tried. Believe me, I'm not the "romantic guy", but anyway, I forced myself to try to get her in mood for sex, with attentions, kindness, flowers, massages, etc.
I've been trying for fucking YEARS now. I don't give up before trying, you know ?
>>712027288
Well why don't you stop getting head from her? Maybe she doesn't enjoy sex because she sees it as a tool for making you calm down. You have made her associate sex with making you feel better. Next time she is stressed, get down on all fours and eat her the fuck out, make her relaxed!
The power of association is fucking huge matey. Break out of your current sexual habits and make sex a mutually inclusive activity!
>>712023262
dumbass cuck stop living in your blacked dot com fantasy world. Shows how much you know about the world outside of your bedroom.
>>712023473
How would you honestly feel if she slept with someone else tomorrow?
>>712028812
Idem.
>>712022404
ask your gf if it's okay if you have sex with other women. don't just assume she won't be okay with it. talk it out reasonably with her, ie.
>it's not unreasonable to need/want a sexual component in my life
>i accept and respect that you're not so into sex anymore
>i love you and am committed to our life together
>i met someone who has the same need, so we're going to spend some time together
>she's clean, safe, and sane
>you can meet her if you want, her name's [cocksucker]
like seriously it's not that big a deal unless your gf is a stupid whore. which i'm assuming she's not since it's lasted ten years.
>>712028940
What does Idem mean?
If she's not into it anymore, maybe she's suffering from postpartum? Or maybe depression in general? Why don't you encourage her to see a counselor? Did she change birth controls? If she doesn't feel like she's suffering from depression, encourage her to go to the gym with you to boost endorphins. TALK TO YOUR WOMAN. Seriously, talk to her.
If you cheat on her you have to realize, she is going to hate herself and you. There is no going back after cheating.
You shouldn't even be messaging this chick. Your gf is going to see that a cheating as well. You'll be lucky at this point if she doesn't leave you for that alone.
>>712022404
talk with yout gf about it. if she refuse you a basic need then break up with her.
>>712023682
>>712023682
this this this this this
>>712022404
is your name matt
>>712029010
It means that i agree with your opinion
>>712029039
I can never tell if 4chan encourages cheating for teh lols or if it's really just a bunch of guys who justify cheating. And of course none of them are ok with their lady finding a new sex partner.
>>712024752
this
... good idea about the medical stuff... would never had thought of it.
>>712022404
Do it and keep it secret.
How hard is it?
In the opposite situation here
>25
>gf of 4 years has a decent sexual appetite
>work 60-80 hours every week
>hardly ever in the mood anymore
>despite being still very much at an age when I should be chomping at the bit for sex
What do? Am I too young for testosterone supplements?
>>712022404
>I met a girl couple years ago, and we chat daily. She's really smart, very kind and experiences the same situation. She's really into sex and has an immoderate passion for blowjobs.
So has she given any explanation as to why she ain't into it anymore? I expect you've had that conversation, so maybe the next step would be to suggest that you do something about or you'll have to fulfil your needs elsewhere.
>>712029394
If it's any consolation, my boyfriend has recently had to double his workload and is really not in the mood at all since being so busy. In his case, he's just getting enough rest and water while he's busy but will go back to a normal schedule in a month.
Take time to relax when you can and just be opem and honest with your partner.
>>712024429
what in the world is a hitachi?
>>712029560
I mean, she knows why I'm never in the mood, but I still feel bad that I'm giving her what she wants. I just wish I had more energy.
>>712029588
hitachi magic wand
>>712029644
Yeah, it's rough. You can have a fulfilling relationship without sex. Many times people still like to be reassured that everything is fine, you are stressed, you are still attracted to her, etc.
>>712022404
you got three options here:
- dealing with not having sex
- having sex behind her back, if she ever finds out you may have lost her trust permanently
- talking to her about how serious a problem it is for you. don't frame it as "you're making me do this", frame it as "honey, i don't want to cheat on you, this is really weighing on my happiness, i love you, and i need sex". if you really have put in years of trying hard, then your only risks here are that she won't trust you to stay loyal if she doesn't agree, and that she might take it as a massive hit to your intimacy (what, he's going for other women for a fuck now? what the fuck!). if you pick this road, you will not have any guarantees as to how it would work out, so tread carefully. this is really the only way to get sex with a clean conscience though it seems. you'll have to judge for yourself if she is reasonable enough to understand that a fulfilled sex life is something that you really need, that you really want it to be with her (and that you want her to want it too), but that if she isn't willing to give it to you, then at least it has to be possible in your relationship to honestly talk about it. having put in years of trying to rekindle her libido, she is fully aware of your need for sex, and your commitment to getting it with her, so you wouldn't have to frame it as "her fault" (i don't think doing that is a good move anyway, that's burning bridges either way), and she might be understanding that yeah, you are loyal and putting in your best effort, but it's unbearable for you in the long run.
in the end you got no good moves here. you only got moves that prioritize her happiness without thinking about yours, your happiness hoping it will never affect hers (and if your fuckbuddy blabs, it might well all be down the shitter), or risking the happiness of both of you to deal with a serious problem you have. pick your own adventure.
>>712029692
ah i gotchu fam
>>712022404
If I was you I would definitely do it. I would even go so far to tell her that I have needs and she doesn't fill them out anymore. Sex is a human need and you aren't a Catholic monk for gods sake.
Just make sure you don't leave Any!!! Marks!!!
No hair clips, no hair anywhere, no scratch marks or stains from make up or lipstick.
Even the scent of her smell on your clothes can leave hints of cheating.
Only use safe ways to message like, don't swap photos cause even the girl you are cheating with can turn to a bitch when not handled correctly.
Also: never park your car in front of the cheating site. In backyards or restaurants oder parking lots at best.
Always meet up in another city a few miles away from prevailing to be seen by someone who could maybe tell your wife.
I have the same problem and cheat from time to time, 4 years by now and near got caught. My gf always wants to have Sex but it's never satisfying for me :-/
>>712030313
Then break up.
>>712023654
THIS!
and talk to your gf!
After reading this thread I think you need to try and get to the bottom of why she's gone off it.
As the other anons have pointed out there's clearly an underlying reason as to why she won't have sex anymore.
Sit her down in a relaxed environment, don't be forceful and be patient, let her know she can open up to you and you won't judge her.
I was in a similar situation, talking always helps
>>712023682
Yeah this is the most sound advice in this thread.
>>712023654
THIS, OP.
Don't fuck up your relationship and talk to your partner.
>>712023682
honestly, I gotta back up this anon's opinion as well OP. Communicate with your gf about how much of this is an issue BUT word it in a way that is inquisitive (finding out and creating a space for her to talk about WHY she doesn't seem to have a desire for sex) instead of being accusatory (will make her VERY defensive).
Also, try this advice out. ROMANCE her man. Bring the romance back a bit by bit. Surprise her with cleaning up the house or whatever needs to be done without being asked to. Take her out on dates, bring back the Wooing. Don't fucking cheat like a dick and if you sincerely care for her, then stop bitching about it and put in some goddamn effort to show her that you love her.
If you can say you tried to communicate and put in an honest effort and she won't meet you halfway, then yea mate, shes probably either cheating or the relationship has reached its end.
Best of luck to you.
>>712022404
Women never suck or fuck for free.
If she's willing to blow you she wants something from you and it ain't your personality. She wants access to whatever resources you have, or confirmation that she's hotter than your current gf... but women never, ever EVER suck or fuck just to make a man happy.
That's why your gf "isn't interested" anymore. She doesn't want anything else from you, so she's not gonna give up free pussy or the back of her throat anymore.
Masturbate a lot around your GF. Let her know you still have a robust sex drive. Then, when you "work late" or "go meet Tom to review drawings" she'll know you're gonna go get your balls drained by someone else, she just won't care.
All you have to do at that point is make sure the other chick is a paid professional, or you can afford to give her whatever she wants from you and you're good to go.
But no woman on the planet is gonna give a man a BJ out of the kindness of her heart. None of them. They are all whores, they can't help themselves.
>>712028703
>Next time she is stressed, get down on all fours and eat her the fuck out, make her relaxed!
This is actually what I offer on a regular basis, but she always decline it.
>>712027546
how can you say that for sure?
you said it yourself that she stopped having sex with you years before she got pregnant
did you like bottle your sperm and poured into her vag or something?
>>712022404
if she wanted you she should have put a ring on it. let some other bish suck that rod
>>712022404
i dont understand what youre having trouble with
talk to your gf about sex, see if she wants to make an effort for more.
if yes, give her a chance.
if no, decide if you want sex so bad that youre ready to leave her (not saying this is bad, its your choice)
>is it ok to do it?
if you do it, your wife will be hurt and you will enjoy it but the thrill will die over time. it will end your relationship. those are the dacts. decide for yourself if its okay.
you can figure this out on your own, you arent helpless
If you had the baby not too long ago your gf could have depression... she may think she doesn't look good but it happens really bad for them after having a baby... but you shouldn't be talking about blowjobs with another girl...
>>712023408
>>712028717
But they have a point, no sex is often a sign of cheating. It could be other things, but you can't rule it out, not in 2016.
>>712024373
>I buy her flowers, offer her massages, cuddling, eating her, anything that can get a woman want some sex. She's sorry about it, but she doesn't want sex anymore.
Sounds like libido issues. See someone about it.
>>712024736
>If you have spent 10 years with this girl why waste it for some whore who will ultimately blab shit to spite you when shit doesn't go her way (cuz that's what girls do).
This actually will fucking happen.
>>712022404
GO GET YOUR BLOW OP FFS
>>712023305
OK there Dane Cook
>>712022404
M8 hate to break it to you but she's definitely getting it else where
I just had my 10 year anniversary not to long ago
If I stopped getting it there'd be alarms and red flags going off
On today's episode of "Advice to virgins from virgins"...
>>712023473
If you can even think of fucking somebody else it isn't love. How would you feel if she fucked somebody else? And trust me, if you're a decent human being the constant guilt and paranoia will tear you apart. Have you asked her why you're not fucking? Because she might be going through some shit and she might need your help. If you truly love this girl stop talking to another, the day I got with my bitch was the last day I ever talked to/messaged any other girl, she's my everything, when we stopped having sex for a while I talked to her about it, turned out she felt like shit, we talked through the whole thing and now we're back to fucking every day. Don't be a cunt, either man up and fix your relationship, or end it, you can't fuck this bitch and have everything work out for you.
>>712025901
Unless he got fat, or stopped caring about how he looks it's not his fault either.
>>712026749
>Saudi Arabia
Actually in Saudi Arabia he'd beat her into submission and do whatever he wants to her.
>gf for 10 years
>we have a little baby
so you didn't marry her? go figure why she doesn't care for you. Why bother satisfying a guy who doesn't even want to man up and go beyond mgtow-beta-pussy concept
>>712039111
>Gets into relationship
>entirely wipes out contact with anyone of the opposite gender
either that's some bull, or you and/or your partner are basically why a retarded amount of relationships are one sided.
Just because you talk with someone of the gender you're interested in doesn't mean you want to fuck them or be in a relationship with them. Should a bisexual person just not talk to anyone if they're in a relationship?
>>712024113
Because girls can be happy just being in their partners company, the male and female sex drive is totally different, it never seems to fade for dudes, but girls seem to get over it, it's not spiteful, and to be fair I know a fair few girls who claim they've never cum from sex, so if she gets no pleasure, why would she want to exert all that time and effort sucking cock and all that when she gets nothing from it? I think the issue is most men are shit at sex, selfish in bed, and the whole thing is done when they're done, not when she's done. How used would you feel if you were basically just a flesh light?
>>712027078
Oh
Well OP there two options
>1, Her libido is gone for some reason = see a doctor
>2. She is actually fucking someone on the side
Convince her
Threesome is the way
>>712027303
>But the bill you see after makes your head hurt. For hours+ of preparations, you get like an hour or maybe two of sex. You come into a conclusion that if you'd paid some hooker, it'd actually be way, way cheaper and you wouldn't have to do all that shit she deems is necessary
Life's irony
Free sex is way more expensive then the one you pay for.
>>712022404
Don't do it OP. I did it and it fucked everything up in a major way. Lost my girlfriend because I wanted a good lay. Girl got spiteful and told everything later. Not worth the risk. Don't follow your dick. It's NOT worth it. EVER.
I know you're thinking it'll be just one time, if it is then you will have thoughts and worries about her talking because you did just do it. Try and cut it off and those fears will become worse, or even, reality. It'll never be just one time.
If your gf finds out, it could mean a giant clusterfuck for you and also your kid. Don't fuck up the kid's life too.
You're going to be arguing with yourself about this for a while, be steadfast and don't give in to your excuses and shitty reasoning. It's going to be hard.
Be faithful and do the difficult thing, fix it.
Be a man, not an asshole.
>>712028968
>ask your gf if it's okay if you have sex with other women
>Expect things to go reasonably
A woman who withholds sex for years is not reasonable.
>>712022404
just fuck the other girl and make sure ur gf never finds out. Think of it like this, its not cheating if she never knows about it, she will have her perfect boyfriend and you will have the sex life you want. its a win win. But first talk to her and say you want more sex, ask her why she's distant etc. If you cant fix her then do the above mentioned.
To sum it up OP
>Laid it out plain and simple, I need sex, or this won't work.
>Find out why you get no sex, it's lack of libido, is it something else in your relation or is it another dick, do not rule anything out.
>In the end you might have to make some hard choices,
>But don't just cheat on her, it will affect how your son looks at you you don't want that, give your gf a chance first.
>>712027078
Now I've read that part you should dump the bitch, if it stopped after the baby, I'd understand, but if it happened before that's fucking bad man, I can't believe you've gone so long, I put up with seven months of no sex before I decided my relationship was dead, and I thought that was bad, turned out he cheated on me in the first place, which destroyed his head so he wouldn't have sex with me. He was my first love (well I thought that at the time, it obviously wasn't) but yeah, I was in your position OP, I started messaging this dude, fell for him, ended it with boyfriend because I didn't want to cheat, that's when he fucking confessed he cheated. I know there's so much at stake, but your relationship isn't working anymore.
>>712040072
This anon speaks the truth. Cheating is for lesser men
>>712040072
>using Ian McShane pic
>not writing Be a fucking man not a fucking cocksucker
>>712029169
4chan does everything for the lols, mate, they are all talking about doing things they would hate to be done at them. Pussys
>>712029644
lick her pussy, fag
Have she explicitly said that she doesn't want sex? Either way don't, it will haunt you for the rest of your life.
You have a couple options.
1) break up with her and get bjs
2) accept no sex
3) use your gfs body to pleasure yourself
4) get here interested in sex again
Anything else is a bad choice
>>712022404
You aren't having sex because she isn't into it? Lol.
She is already getting fucked else were, why not you?
>>712028968
This is what I thought reading through the comments. Its a lot better than cheating and having a stressful secret.
Before this you should ask her why she feels no desire for sex anymore. Let her express her feelings and ask if there is anything you can do about it.
It could backfire, but if you time this convo right you should be OK. I.e when nobody is hungry/stressed/etc.
>>712041237
This is perfect for when I'm roleplaying as a guy named Jerry
Fucking let her life's to short
>>712032969
Fucking bullshit, when my car broke down and I couldn't see my girl, she got herself a bike, biked 20 miles to see me everyday, we had nowhere to go, so we'd go for a walk, she'd bring beers, weed and a picnic blanket, she made me my favourite sandwiches and then she'd suck my cock, she would just whip it out and go town, and then we snuggled and she biked home. What did she get from that?
>>712025073
Lol swap then.
Two sexless cunts happy together and you two fuck each others brains out.
same situation here: 33yo 3yo daughter and 2nd will come in june. Almost no sex, or worse, tired, fast unsatisfing sex.
years ago, gone online to find someone to chat and pictureswap. Nearly being caugtht and realize how much might I lost: my family and most of all my daughter. gone depressed and think of suicide but..once again, thinking about leave my daughter without a father stopped me... then i realize the most important think for me is my daughter happiness.
I stopped the extra-hours work on my company, an I've spent extra time with my daughter. The more i stay with her the more happy I am.
then i started playing tennis once a week to reduce my stress and I have to say that sport might be addicting and satisfying almost as sex.
The more I got happy the more my wife started to want sex again.
I know great blowjobs is a big temptation (maybe better than sex) but think about the "after-you-cum".
>>712041555
>What did she get from that?
You answered it yourself m8
>she got herself a bike
Selfish whore
>>712041747
Top fucking kek
>>712041360
This is definitely a good option.
BUT...BUT...your girlfriend may start to make an effort at pleasing you again, but it's going to be fucking weird.
My girlfriend gives me blowjobs and rides my dick like it's a fucking chore and I don't even enjoy it anymore. Having sex with someone is only fun when they want to have sex with you too! If she wasn't pregnant I would have broken up with her already.
I'm only 23 so it's even worse because I'm in my prime age to fuck tons of 18-26 year old sluts, and I feel like I'm missing out. She's the fifth girl I've ever banged and since we've been together I've really progressed and filled out, I get a ton of attention from girls, and plenty of opportunities to cheat - but I don't =\
>>712041842
Jesus christ, what happened to /b/; is this the fucking Dr. Phil show?
/b/ was more fun when it was populated with edgy 16 year olds
>>712025782
OP, show this post to your waif.
And maybe >>712025850
>>712022404
Talk to gf about sexual needs. Tell her something has to happen. Discuss opening relationship, but remain honest and communicate.
If she's into it she might want to know about everything, so tell her. She might give you the green light but not want to know anything about it, thats also ok.
If you two aren't completely honest and communicate well after 10 years and don't feel comfortable talking with her about this, then just cheat because your relationship is shit anyway.
>>712023473
If she is the one for life you would be happy with the sex life bud.
As a dude in a relationship whose had opportunities to cheat and didn't take them, I regret the missed opportunities. Surprisingly, do regret the slip ups. Any one who says cheating is wrong is a pansy ass. Getting is what is wrong. The solution to not getting caught is not getting caught red handed and never admitting it when confronted otherwise. Woman will get suspicious and confront all the time--deny, deny deny.
Also, as a married dude with kids, typical for a woman's sex drive to lower after kids, and leaving your wife for another one who will want a kid and then lose her situation means, paying child support to a woman who hates you. Cheating is the obvious and ideal solution.
>>712030313
Pics of your gf plz.
>>712042073
>>As a dude in a relationship whose had opportunities to cheat and didn't take them, I regret the missed opportunities. Surprisingly, do regret the slip ups.
Should be As a dude in a relationship whose had opportunities to cheat and didn't take them, I regret the missed opportunities. Surprisingly, do [b][u]not [/b][/u]regret the slip ups.
>>712039463
Nah man, not what I'm saying, sorry, didn't make it fully clear, neither of us like the idea of the other messaging somebody all the time, that's how feelings are built, and it's not all no contact, we both communicate with the other gender, we didn't cut off friends, we just don't do one on one time with the opposite gender generally. We spend all of our free time together, neither of us use social networking, and I've never been happier in a relationship. But I mean how would you feel if your bitch was constantly messaging/ hanging around with one dude on his own? That's fucking weird, I just go by how my parents are, I've never seen such a happy couple so truly in love, and I feel like I finally understand how they feel. Besides, I have no interest in the other gender other than fucking, I've found the one, so all my interest has dropped, she's my everything, so you can call us weird, say what you want. I'm happy, and she's that's all I give a fuck about
>>712025901
>then whose fault it is if she doesn't desire him anymore ?
Hers.
Women find men sexually arousing when they want them as a partner, so they fuck them in hopes of sealing the deal.
Once this shit's done, they no longer get aroused by their man, because it's THEIR man, there's no need to keep him to yourself, thus there's no need to have sex with him, no biological need to feel aroused by him.
Welcome to biology, just like women don't understand >>712025782, men need to understand when they won't arouse their partner any more.
This is why the whole "Look fit and get other girls crawling on your dick" thing works, because your GF sees, she know she needs to keep you hers, so all those feelings kick back in.
In short, get a bunch of super hot female friends. Works wonders.
>>712025984
Someone who's been pouring his heart out to strangers for the better part of my life, so we can both lean over a table covered with heart puke and work out what's going on.
The wrong person can be horrible, but when you find the right one, everything is bliss.
Keep in mind, finding "The one" when it comes to shrinks can be far harder than finding "The one" when it comes to GF's.
>>712042044
>>712042321
JUST A REMINDER THAT IF YOU OPEN THE RELATIONSHIP, YOU MIGHT FIND YOUR GIRLFRIEND FUCKING OTHER DUDES TOO. YOU'LL THINK YOU'RE FINE WITH IT, BUT THEN REMEMBER HOW SHE DIDN'T WANT TO FUCK YOU, AND IS OUT FUCKING OTHER GUYS INSTEAD OF YOU. YOU'LL BECOME INSECURE AND ACCUSATORY, YOU'LL CALL HER A SLUT AND A WHORE AND THEN RESENT EACH OTHER BEYOND BELIEF.
SHE WILL THINK SHE DID NOTHING WRONG BECAUSE "IT'S ONLY FAIR" THAT IF YOU FUCK OTHERS THAN SHE CAN TOO.
Good luck.
>>712041859
Fucking lol man, that got me
She got herself the bike though man, she got nothing from me but a load
>>712022404
Talk with your GF about your desires. Be honest that you thought about meeting another woman. As well ask her WHY she doesn't want to sleep with you anymore.
Perhaps your GF will adapt and sleep with you again. Perhaps not. Perhaps you can get permission to get the bodily side of Sexuality from another woman. Some women are fine with it in older years. Love changes.
Do not cheat unless your are fine to lose not only your wife but your child as well.
>>712023329
>Just accept to live without sex ?
You can onanate. She (your wie) can jerk and blow you (think of it like a massage) instead of full sex as well, even when she isn't feeling it atm. Communication is key.
>>712023654
THAT as well.
>>712025575
1st post in thread. Sorry for your problems, dude - I hope you figure them out. But I got mad respect for you because of your priorities. Again, I hope you figure it out. Much love, Anon.
>>712027078
Secretly get a paternity test.
If he's not yours, play it normal while planning a full /b/ tier life ruining revenge plan on her.
>>712032969
Bullshit. I had several ONS so far, and never did I reward the girl with anything. I even split meals most of the time.
And no, I am not bodybuilder chad thundercock.
Just a normal guy who once in a while hits a goldmine.
>>712023119
talk your with your girlfriend retard. if she still doesn't want to fuck with you, break up with her or fuck someone else. she should know that a frustrated man will see someone else.
>>712022404
Som have you made your decision yet?
>>712027512
>So giving up on your wife sex life is like a proof that you don't care that much of her well being.
So like exactly what she's doing as well?
>>712042453
>>712042583
>>712043147
This doesn't work for the simple reason that women are more focused on emotional intelligence than logic and facts.
If you follow through, DO NOT under ANY circumstances make it about getting laid when you talk to her. Make it about how she has been so emotionally unavailable and resentful towards you, and how you really love her support and encouragement, and most of all you love when she is affectionate and loving towards you. When she doesn't act that way, ie - how she has been acting - you feel unloved and insecure, which drove you into the arms of another women.
Alternatively, you can take the "I only cheated with my dick I still love you" approach.
>>712023262
sauce??
or name?
>>712040072
Five years on fixing it though?
Still can't believe OP hasn't seen a Counceler yet, the fag...
>>712043579
This
>>712022404
Do it, OP. For me...
>>712042073
I think if you had cheated you'd regret the cheating too, maybe even more if a good relationship felled apart because of that
>>712034787
Don't offer, just do
>>712022404
Talk to your girl. Tell her that sex is an essentiel part of being an adult and that you need to have it. Wait. If no improvement, talk to her again, and tell her, that you love her and being with her, but if she doesn't put out, you're gonna have to start looking for it elsewhere.
If still no improvement, get the bj.
I would never ever tell your girl about the other girl, though.
>>712022404
First bitch is cheating on you. 2nd bitch is a whore. Fuck them both.
>>712023329
Go to the married red pill subreddit if you want to make things work. That shit works man. My gf of 7 years was holding out, turned out I'd become the beta provider and no longer gave her the tingles. 6 months into my map and I get blowjobs several times a month, on top of the best sex we've had for years. I was considering cheating on her to get my fix, but don't need to now. Seriously, at least look it up.
>>712046670
Don't go in at dread level 10. She'll say fine, then go find Chad Thundercock. See my post about married red pill
>>712047119
>I am okay with dating a total bitch
Okay, then. No problem, I guess. You enjoy becoming a different person for her approval? Good for you.
>>712042583
Maybe he's become fat, unfit and a chump. Lift weights, read self improvement book, become a better man. Do your own thing, she will follow if she likes the new you
>>712040072
this
>>712022404
Have you ever considered she is cheating on you?
>>712047494
It's the complete opposite mate. I stopped giving a fuck about making her happy because everything I tried just dried her pussy even further. I started focusing on making myself happy, doing my own things, seeking my own approval. I lost 30lbs, gained some muscle, started studying, meeting new people. All for ME. She hit me with shit/comfort tests all the time but I learned to swat them off. The way I see it now is that I'm doing my own thing in life, and she wants to join me she can, by only if she is adding value to my life
>>712025520
you are missing the big signs in this thread.
Go and fucking talk to her. tell her you are losing your mind and you are getting fucking paranoid.
You need sex because it is very fucking healthy. she is either not fucking you because she is cheating on you or she has some screws loose and you need to fucking talk to her about it and that its paining you. And what the consequences might be.
>>712047897
anon here, could you describe these tests
>>712048292
Shit tests, or fitness tests are a way for women to test your masculinity. Often they don't even know they're doing it. An example is: I've been posting some edgy stuff on facebook and she didn't like it. It went something like this
>gf- I don't like those things you've been posting on facebook
>me- oh
> I just feel like it doesn't look good for me because I'm associated with you. Blah blah my feelings, what other people think
>me- thank you for your concern
>end of discussion
Instead of getting into a debate over it, trying to justify my actions and getting drawn into her emotions, I just shut her down in one sentence
>>712022404
it is completely OK
I Think
>>712022404
As long as your gf doesn't know you'll be fine ..what she doesn't know doesn't hurt her https://youtu.be/u_z-7xm72eU
>>712022404
OP, your GF is a selfish cunt who doesn't give a shit about your needs. Only her own and maybe the kids. But you don't even rank on her list. Been there. Time for you to drop some rules. Sex occurs weekly..and she makes you believe she wants to even if she really doesn't. If you aren't worth that to her..fucking get out now because this bitch will only get worse over time.
>>712022404
Dont be fucking stupid all your life, think of your kid rather than yourself
Get buff you lazy faggot. Clean up, grow a beard and some tats. She will be swimming in baby making hormones.
It's science.
>>712049855
What this guy said, it worked for me.
This thread is still alive? jesus christ.
>>712029394
Dude, I worked 133 hours last two weeks and I can't get enough pussy. My girls got some pain issues down stairs we are resolving, Doc can't figure it out and I'm real close to fuckikg
Some tinder bitch to keep my sanity l, with gf's permission of course .
>>712022404
remember, males are the more faithful and honourable gender.
So if you while you think about betraying her, she already sucks cum out of another girls asshole
>>712022404
Sex is the glue that holds a relationship together. You two are just friends now, it sucks but I was in the same position. Left her and now have hot girlfriend and feel much happier even if sometimes I do miss my ex a bit.
What are you , Fucking college roommates now...fuck that. Just break up with her even if you are already used to her company. Go have fun, explore your options and find a nympho. They are out there.....
>>712022404
sauce on OPs image?
>>712023262
Assblasted nonBD /b/ros say this isn't true but it is. OP how big is your dick? Once I've gotten girls to cum with deep penetration they almost always come back for more. I've been told clitoral orgasms are nice but deep penetration orgasms are much stronger.
>>712022404
well, this is the first time in like 10 years or more that i reply, but my /b/rothers warned me sometime ago and i didnt listen, i was in a 7 years relatioship with a girl, we loved each other deeply but at some point she lost interest in me sexually, and believe me there's no fixing that (spent unholy amounts of time studying female sexuality later on and it confirmed that).
the advice was: "your girl still wants sex,what she doesnt want is sex with you anymore" if shes gonna cheat its another question thats a lot more complex to argue especially not knowing her, so if you want to get your dick sucked and you dont feel guilty about it, just do it,but be sure to cover your tracks, i wouldnt recommend an affair, hookers are safer and simpler (but know that you might be putting your relationship in a track thats gonna kill it)
