GF had a sex dream with history teacher and it bothers me /b/. What should I do? She also tried to break up with me over it since she felt bad. I have no idea of what to do /b/. It's an LDR of 8 months.
if she wants to break up with you it's because she wants to break up with you, not because she had a dream about someone else. Discuss your feelings and hers openly and you'll find you have an amicable breakup with the minimum amount of heartache, where neither of you hates the other. If you drag it out because you dont want to lose her, she is going to cheat on you and it's going to break your heart.
>>703159821 Listen op I love you and I care about you so I will break it down for you.
"I had a sex dream about another dick" "I will now play the sympathy card to test the waters and see your reaction to me telling you I want other dick" "Tell me im not a bad person so I can trap you and actually fuck someone else then tell you I TOLD YOU IM BAD OMG DON'T ACTUALLY LEAVE ME" Naturally you being an idiot told her "what? A break up over a dream? Don't worry babe I love you and it was just a dream"
When you should have said "listen if you are unhappy sexually and it's something fixable like my weight or technique then im man enough to talk about it, but if you actually desire other people then we nedd to break up right now and good luck to you. If however you are happy sexually and you don't want other people and it really was just a dream then that's fine and I can live with it and you don't have to be ashamed or feel bad. Dreams are dreams. But if you do pull any shit like that in real life I will break up with you and I will take revenge because it would be my right to do so. So in the end I want you and I want to continue but either speak honesl now or watch where you open your legs, your choice."
And then let her pick a choice, if she does cheat beat the living crap out of her and piss on her face then ealk away knowing she was a manipulative whore all along.
>>703160366 No you wouldnt. Why do you think that, cuz you love her? Cuz she loves you? Im not saying she did, but if she wanted to cheat and properly keep it a secret that's an easy task. Be realistic with yourself bro for fucks sake
>>703160891 I actually told her to kill herself and yelled at her. She knows I'm not a cuck. Obviously I apologized since it was kind mean.. But she knows that I don't like cheating and I've told her that a million times. And she WANTS me to leave her because she feels Ashamed. I just don't know how i'd ever get over the dream. Technically it really isn't cheating but yeah idk.
>>703158909 She didn't even fuck him man. She dreamt about it. It does fucking suck thinking about it though, I understand. If she suggested breaking up as the first solution, maybe that's a nice way of telling you that she isn't into you anymore. If you're really mad about this dream then chances are that you think she has a promiscuous personality or past, otherwise you wouldn't worry about her actually fucking him. I would revise over your relationship and see if its actually worth being with her and if you can trust her based off of how she interacts with men. If she seems like she actually would cheat on you based on her past, then I would break up with her and save your time. Also see how she feels about keeping the relationship going. If she thinks the only solution is splitting, then that's what she wants, and you should do so. But if she's trying to apologize and really wants the relationship to continue, then go ahead and try to make it work with her .
>>703158040 >She also tried to break up with me over Don't be fooled, wimens are specialist on creating situations to break with their couple, man up go and tell her you are the one breaking up with her, eve if you don't see eventually will separate from you, take the upper hand, she will be devastated because you where the one who ended the relationship not her, and that's not a good thing on her resume.
>>703160891 You know you were doing so well with this post
Then it got to revenge and talking about beating the woman? Who the fuck cares about revenge, it is so petty and not worth getting the attention of the police over. Telling the officer you beat her because she decided to fuck some other dude, he would look at you like an idiot.
Just leave the bitch if she does something like that, or if you really think you can work it out then that is all on you to work out. Physical harm is never necessary in break ups.
>>703161210 It's a fucking dream. She can't fucking control it, dumbass. Do I secretly wish I could play baseball against the 1990's McDonald's mascot crew? Fuck no, but I had a dream like that. My advice? Insist on breaking up. Insecure fucksticks that can't keep it together over a dream their girl had the pther night don't deserve a girl. Go be lonely
>When you should have said "listen if you are unhappy sexually and it's something fixable like my weight or technique then im man enough to talk about it, but if you actually desire other people then we nedd to break up right now and good luck to you. If however you are happy sexually and you don't want other people and it really was just a dream then that's fine and I can live with it and you don't have to be ashamed or feel bad. Dreams are dreams. But if you do pull any shit like that in real life I will break up with you and I will take revenge because it would be my right to do so. So in the end I want you and I want to continue but either speak honesl now or watch where you open your legs, your choice."
is this a cringe thread now? Fucking hell you beta autist. "I'll change anything about myself to make you happy, just tell me what to do! But I'm also so edgy and beta that I'm gonna layer in a threat and some insults, to defend my ego."
OP, just ask her if she's happy in the relationship, if she says she isnt, ask why not, if the stuff is big stuff then break up and stay friendly, if it's small stuff then either work on it or ignore it depending on the issue. Either way, dont offer to change yourself for her because all that means is she isnt interested in who you are and wants someone else, and for the love of god dont start throwing around "I'll take my revenge and you'd best keep your legs shut you filthy whore" statements or anything if you dont want a massive blowout leading to a bad breakup for both of you.
>>703161391 Fuckboy neo male idiot When a female cheats she is to be crushed like an insect and spat on. I don't know what country you're from or what culture but if my woman cheated I'd break her ribs and toss her in the hospital for it. They only learn when they get that treatment otherwise she will waste another guy's time.
>>703161696 I don't tolerate cheaters either but I find it easier to just cut them out of your life. It seems to hurt them just fine and I don't feel like beating up someone much weaker than me is a worthwhile use of my energy.
>I'M BEING EDGY ON THE INTERNET AND NO ONE CAN STOP ME >I'VE NEVER BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN BUT LOOK AT ME TALK ABOUT WHAT I WOULD DO IN A HYPOTHETICAL SCENARIO WITHIN THE HYPOTHETICAL SCENARIO OF A WOMAN TOUCHING MY PENIS ONE DAY
this IS a cringe thread. When a woman cheats you STOP CARING ABOUT THAT WOMAN, you dont go for revenge, you dont hit anyone, you act like a man and you leave the woman to the choices she's made. She was wrong, you were right and you walk away secure in the knowledge she just fucked up and she's gonna have to live with it, whilst you move on and prove to her how much better you are than her. You never drag yourself down to a woman's level by getting violent over your hurt feelings, that's weak, chick shit you pussy.
>>703161696 >I'll just call him an /r9k/ meme Yeah, go for it man. Hopefully the police are morally inept and won't put you in the locker.
Probably should also look for someone to defend your case too, you know since battery and assault is illegal and such.
I'm also American, I was just raised with good values and taught that you should never resort to violence. Unless you are in danger, then you have every right to defend yourself. That doesn't mean beating people when your feelings are hurt, though.
>>703161693 >totally unwilling to admit to one's own imperfections and sees personal growth as weakness instead of maturity This is how you find a submissive woman who takes the kids and half your shit after she gives up on your 15 year marriage. Have fun with that
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>>703158040 Yeah, bro. No woman has a dream or fantasy about another dude and breaks up with you about it....
unless if she told you about it and you became a really whiny insecure bitch about it (PROTIP: women fucking HATE insecurity). >>703160589 "I'm a bad gf" typically is code for "I cheated and I feel bad".
Honestly bro, I've been in situations where I've dated a girl that wanted to break up over an absolutely nonsensical reason, the truth was that she was cheating but wanted to breakup without the drama of fessing up to it.
This situation doesn't smell right. Young guys are generally oblivious to the way women act when something is up.... but something is very fishy here.
I'm guessing she got some outside dick and feels bad about it.
I think the best solution is that you DO break up and remain friends and fuckbuddies and in the meantime you find a different gf.
>>703162434 She knows I wont stand for that shit. She only wants to breakup cause shes ashamed of the dream. I kind of want to try to make it and work and see how it goes like I'm craving to see if she'll actually cheat.
No you fucking dipshit, personal growth is the entire point of life. But the clue is in the title. PERSONAL growth. YOU decide what needs to improve about yourself, you better yourself, you dont ask someone else what you need to change about yourself to make them happy. Maturity is accepting you cant be what someone else wants you to be if that isnt who you want to be, it's accepting your faults and working on them when YOU YOURSELF recognise them to be faults. If you rely on someone else to tell you what to improve about yourself then you never know when you've completed an improvement, you never know when you should feel better about that aspect of yourself, because you arent the one who defines what the improvement is.
>>703163019 In a healthy relationship it is always good to know if your partner ever starts to think you've let yourself go, or whatever expression you'd like to use.
I agree, you shouldn't let other people change you. But, if you are in a pretty dedicated relationship, you should be able to have those conversations. Being fat isn't exactly a great thing to be, most if give the choice would desire to lose some pounds.
If you're asking on your own whim if there is a problem relating to your body image, and if they say yes then you talk about it like normal adults. If you're willing to work on it then even better, maybe you can do that as a couple since you cannot ever be too healthy.
If she straight up said you're disgusting, you need to lose weight then the relationship is already in the direction heading south. You talk about that stuff, you don't tell people that stuff.
>>703163168 She needed something to start the fire faggot, how old are you? 10? if not I have bad news for you faggot, you're a beta and a cuck.
Op, if she really wants to be with you, she shouldn't even mentioned the break up part, she is resolute to that, and she will get it one way or another, she is only passing the blame to you, she doesn't want to appear as the whore and the bad guy on this drama, don't pay attention to the beta faggots posting on your thread, they're only driving you to be a cringe guy, and you'll regret it later belive me, it takes me two gurls to understand this let my experience help you a little.
>>703163123 >curiosity You are better just saving your time man, if it is a LDR and you have this negative outlook then maybe let it go.
Once you get something in your head, it will stay there like a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you mention a break up or say "Oh I'll break up with you, watch out!" then it is very likely it'll happen anyway subconsciously.
Also telling your SO to kill themselves, even if it was out of anger, is never something you should say. That is something you don't take lightly, and chances are she will remember forever.
Either end it or do some serious maturing and try to mend it back together. Either way you should learn to control your emotions better and do introspection on why you feel the way you do in certain situations. Take steps to reconstruct how you handle that stuff.
>>703158040 Sorry anon, if she has a sex dream and then tries a break up its because she hates your whiny little face. You obviously don't do it for her any more but she's too polite/shy/scared to just outright break up with you. This is called the jealous tactic, she wants to make u disgusted with her so YOU will break up with her.
>>703164323 She tried to outright breakup with me then she gave me this excuse.. maybe what your saying could be true in someway? That it's not actually the reason.. I tried to get her to describe something of the dream to see if she could.. But she said she couldn't. Typically if she remembered I'd assume she thinks about it a lot if she can remember it in detail right?
she definetly wants other dick OP. Sorry to say it, but people get lonely at long distance and girls get lots of attention (assuming she's at least moderately attractive). Her "dream" was probably testing the waters, and she was just trying to let you down easy. Prepare for the worst my friend. But the plus side is since its long distance, not having her around will make it much easier to get over here. If I were you I'd take the alpha appeals and swallow my feelings. Break up with her first and tell her you wanna see girls in your area. That'll either 1. End the relationship like a man. Or 2. Get her jealous to the point where she'll do anything to make it work between you. But I wouldn't count on ldr's man. Best to move on.
>>703166177 "It's just I can't take it. I want to be good to you and yes it was just a dream.. But thinking about it makes me feel terrible." Is what she said to me. I really think it's from guilt honestly. And she can remember the dream apparently but I mean idk..
would be nice to get some at least half decent serious answers. I would almost confidentially say she isn't the type of girl to cheat.
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>>703166484 then she is literally retarded for wanting to end a relationship with someone she likes over a fucking dream. drop that moron. she is either a fucking idiot or she is cheating (she is cheating).
oh wait this is a LDR. that means it doesn't fucking exist. grow up man.
>>703166484 How far away are you guys from each other? How often do you see each other? If she's a virgin I doubt she'll cheat. But she will probably break up with you eventually. I know you don't want to believe that, I get it. But women are low key snakes bro.
>>703166757 It's that she is in her house 24/7 when not in school. Giving school the only time that she could cheat. That's how I fucking know she isn't cheating.. And it's not going to be happening in school with a teacher either.. I'm assuming.
>>703166790 We don't see eachother. We're in highschool, but it's serious as to going to go to college together. We're going to meet next month. After i yelled at her over finding out that she didn't tell me and shit.. She still wants me to meet with her. (Which is a green flag.. Right.) And you're right but this is a serious relationship. And she's 100% a virgin.
Seriously, you think your relationship is exception and unique. It's not. I bet everyone in this thread has gone through similar shit. Listen to our wisdom, it's not worth it. Break it off sooner rather than later. You seem young and inexperienced tbh
>>703166484 Alright dude, you want a serious answer? Here's your serious answer.
1. Dreams are dreams, who gives a fuck jesus christ its not a big deal if you have any iota of security.
2. You're a huge loser for telling a girl to kill herself over a dream. (Refer to 1.)
3. If you are secure as you say, then that means maybe other stuff has been going on to make you think she has been unfaithful.
4. This is not the nail in the coffin of your relationship unless you make it into a big deal, which it is not. (refer to 1.)
5. Get over it dude. Honestly you're relationship probably won't last through college. Who doesn't want to test the waters a little bit in college? Break it off easy and who knows, if its supposed to happen, maybe it will.
>>703166839 let me guess, high school? dude teenage chicks are literally retarded, and you probably are too (no offence man). don't sweat it man. just let it play out. your not fucking her anyway so let her do what she wants. seriously though if your in a LDR with a virgin your just friends. think about it.
>>703167008 Good answer. But realize I wasn't the one who wanted it to end over the dream in the beginning ( I didn't know obviously.) The worst part about it is that she didn't tell me until I kept asking her etc. She just kept saying "I'm not good enough for you." And then she told me.. The only bad part is remembering it imaging it and knowing that she remembers the dream.
>>703167050 It's actually really common.. And we're going to meet.. Next month. It's cringey as fuck I know lmao. And she's REALLY into meeting like a fuck ton. Super excited etc. Just the past few days of her being ashamed about the dream and today finally everything was let out.
>>703166839 How do you know she's in her house? How do you know she's not hanging out with other guys and texting you "just doing homework"? You don't. She's lying to you as to "not get you jealous" because you're CLEARLY insecure after telling us about the stupid dream. In short she's either ugly (dump her) or she's hanging out with other guys and wants a local guy.
>>703167297 Because of the camera. And we're talking with voice 24/7. The possibility of cheating outside of school is VERY VERY VERY unlikely. Like almost impossible unless it's done in school or over text. Which she shows me texts and shit etc. Which is why this cheating bullshit isn't true unless its about her wanting to cheat.. Which she says she doesn't.
>>703167112 dude she cheated on you so hard. do you have any idea how horny teenage chicks are? if she isn't completely ugly there is no way she keeps her virginity past age 17. this is fuking textbook, you need to listen.
its a LDR though so who the fuck cares? you don't fuck, your just friends.
>>703167112 Refer to point 3 then. Other shit has been happening and this stress isn't worth it. Look at point 5.
Also dude trust me you dont want to go to college in a relationship. I did, and ended up cheating on her, still havent told her but we broke up a number of years ago. You're going to want to test the waters yourself. Relax.
>>703167393 She doesn't want to cheat. She wants to fuck her boyfriend, whether that's you or one of her "friends" that are guys at school. Not sayin she has 2 boyfriends, but that she wants a boyfriend she can actually be with.
>>703167625 That's bullshit bruh.. She can't cheat on me whenever she's talking to be 24/7 besides when she's at school.. And then I could most likely make her talk to me while at school if I wanted to.
>>703167604 men can love any girl they find half attractive. don't get too hung up on her.
think this through, even a teenage girl isn't stupid enough to leave a relationship with someone they love over a fucking dream, you get that don't you? she is telling you a lie, she is covering something up, she is guilty. you don't honestly believe this is about a dream do you?
>>703168073 She WANTED to break up with me because she said she didn't think she was good enough for me. Or that I deserve better. Which is all before she told me about the dream.. And the "deserve better" could indicate cheating... But I'd assume I'd be able to tell if she was cheating since she comes home immediately after school at the same time last year and she stays home 24/7.
>>703168025 guilt of her dream? is this a fucking joke? you are in some hard core denial my friend.
she is rationalizing the fact that she, for whatever reason, wants to end the relationship. maybe she will change her mind, maybe not. you need to understand whats going on though. this has nothing to do with some fucking made up dream she can't even remember but somehow feels guilty about.
>>703168229 Dude its texting. I have sent a text message literally inside of a girl. Hell I even caught a fucking pokemon with my dick in a vag back in early july. You're falling into the "deserve better" trap, and quite frankly I am sick of trying to help you. You aren't listening and you're living in a little fantasy world. You have a lot of your life to live. Just move on for the next 4 years and see what happens.
>>703168781 We're going to meet in October. And at this very moment she still wants to. And I'm almost certain she still wants to be in a relationship.. It's just that she feels ashamed that she had a dream about another guy.
>BETA talk with her try to fix what's broken try to understand her feelings try to make her happy tell her that you still love her anyways
>ALPHA cockslap her whore face untile she bleed Fuck her and leave her in your bed Everytime you see her slap her face and then forcefuck Tell her that she can go with anyboy, but she will be your whore forever and when you ask for sex doesnt matter if she have another boy, she must do that, AND SHUT THE FUCK UP
Let's be real, there most likely was no dream. She's just trying to let you down easy. I knoww you want to believe what she's saying but shes giving you signs that you're not picking up on. We've been through this bullshit OP, so be a man and accept what is coming.
>>703168874 >It's just that she feels ashamed that she had a dream about another guy. you need to stop with that bullshit. THERE WAS NO DREAM BRO. man we are trying to help you, 10 people are telling you there is no fucking dream why won't you listen. why did you ask for advice if your just going to completely ignore it?
unless she is absolutely fucking retarded and bases all of her life's decisions on fucking dreams there was no fucking dream man get it though your thick skull.
the dream is TEXT BOOK rationalization, its what people do, especially stupid teen age girls. dude, im fucking serious, you need to listen.
>>703169499 look im just saying htere is no dream im not saying the relationship is a lost cause. this girl is probably like 17 so she might be tripping over the fact that she kissed some dude or that her dad molested her or some other stupid shit that isn't a deal breaker. chicks feel worthless for the stupidest reasons imaginable. odds are she fucked a guy or at least blew him, but if you want you can give her the benefit of doubt.
i would definitely try and find out why " you deserve better" though. odds are if she isn't simply telling you outright she isn't going to, ever. its probably something she is embarrased or ashamed about. (you know, like cheating).
>>703170627 No idea. I'm probably going to talk to her more.. She's sleeping right now. I just want to know if she's bullshitting about the dream. If not I may just stay if I think she's actually feeling really guilty and if she wants to. I don't want to be lonely. Fucking girls doesn't give me satisfaction.
>>703171208 look even if she cheated on you doesn't mean its a lost cause. your just a kid, even if you marry this chick itll be years before you do. by then youll know whether or not she is worth it. just let it play out but don't be played like a fool, dont buy into obvious bullshit like she is leaving you over "dream guilt". if you love her try and hang on. worst case you fail, like i said before, your a dude, you can fall in love with anyone your dick likes. don't worry too much.
>>703158040 >an LDR of 8 months dude. Stop this right now. I've been there and it is not gonna work. Are you even planning to meet at this point? You would meet a total stranger. To be honest, no one deserves to wait that long to get physical. And the physical is a big part of the relationship. Not just penetration itself, but touching the skin, feeling the person close to you etc. Meanwhile you're focusing on her dreams and fantasies? Jesus Christ...Are you happy living half your life? She even tried to break up with you just for that, just cause "she felt bad"? omg....to be honest, you should just break up already.
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