Offtopic. Idc fucktard I lied b. Not the way i usually lie a way that will destroy my entire life and lose all grip to these people i call friends of mine and kills the ability to look into my parents eyes no gf or smth, didnt commit crime its just this lie whut do
>>703109457 That sucks. The best thing you can do is try to get your mind of it. Do shit with your friends. Also dont be scared to talk about shit like this with your friends. Thats something you really need.
>>703109457 kinda similar. >broke up cus we moved to different cities and agreed to not try long distance. >I regret doing it about a month later. >i tell her >she says the relationship was dead for almost a year >feel shit cus i miss her, try to not lose hope but she says it's never gonna work
fucking god guys i can't stop thinking about this girl. but holy fuck, she doesn't even care about me, like 0. i can't just stop thinking about her, this is slowly killing me. only remembering about her is painful.
>>703113426 i wish this girl was a camwhore, but i see her every day. we used to talk and stuff, but then as the big autist i am i just decided she wasn't worth. now i'm paying for it. this is the fucking hell.
>>703107328 It was the same with me, just approaching a month ago, actually. It still hurts, I'm not going to lie. But you become accustomed to it. And then you make peace with it. I was in love with her. I thought about marrying the girl. I'm really not okay, I'm fucked up as hell about it. But you are one resistant mother fucker and your body wants you to continue, so you will find away. Give it two months. You will miss her, but you'll be okay. I believe in you man, we're in this together.
>>703113974 What do you mean take risks? I took a risk and told her all my feelings. It didnt work. This was my first serious and long (3.5) years relationship. I dont have any clue on how this shit works. I just improvise and apparently did it wrong.
>>703114081 You poor poor guy. Even if she didn't love you, she neednt treat you like that. You deserve someone who loves and respects you. You sound like an emotionally intelligent, caring guy. You will be fine - and you'll meet someone. I know this sounds so fucking lame but the motto I've been living by since we broke up is "Stay kind, keep your heart open". I think that way you'll only be on the path to better things.
>>703114225 this sounds super beta, but having someone that cares about you, you can just chill out with and do whatever with and get occasionally lay that doesnt need all the awkward pickups to aquire is super chill. also miss someone i can sleep next to
>>703113242 >i can't stop thinking about this girl. but holy fuck, she doesn't even care about me, like 0. i can't just stop thinking about her, this is slowly killing me. only remembering about her is painful. The anon I quoted below speaks the truth. At first it felt impossible to go on - that I was never breaking through this pain - but as the anon below said...
>>703113603 >Things like this you don't get over,you have to go through.It eases with time.You have to be strong /b/rother.
It will still hit me from time to time and if I don't have my support system around I'm fucked.
>>703114978 It's all this. The screens. The information. The reach ability of everyone. Even the fucking 90's were hella different. You had to be somewhere when asked. Not nearly as many phones. Hardly any social media. It was exponentially better. I have had a child, but it hasn't been the same for this world for a long time.
>>703114912 >cares about you No one really 'cares' about anyone, Anon; we just tolerate each other with incentives. For intimate relationships, the incentive for men is sex; for women, it's being provided for. People are animals, and like animals, we only look out for what's in our immediate best interest.
>>703114978 "Love" is just a cascade of hormones in response to an agreeable external stimuli; there's nothing 'special' about it. Seriously, once you stop giving a flying fuck about women or notions of 'love,' your life will improve and you'll learn the one thing that's most important to a man: >his freedom
Anyway, I've found that one can make the best out of their existence by not getting involved in everyone else's, AND not needing self-validation through approval of other people. That goes especially for women, who tend to be selfish, self-centered, childish, vindictive cunts who usually have the mental capacities.
>>703115306 I know I want to be free more than anything but a the same time, I'm single right now and have been for eternity. I'm now happy and have tried everything to be happy. Except funding someone who I think will make me happy. Like, my family "loves" me but I don't connect with them all in the way I want to. It just doesn't feel right. My brother who is 14 is the one I connect with the best but he's 14 so yeah.
I don't think I'm going to last long. I would like a reason to keep going but I keep swinging between "oh life isnt so bad :) you can do this for 40 more years" and "I just want it all to go away. My existence shouldn't have happened". More so the latter. I'm fucked but I do want to experience " love" before I die
>>703115831 >you don't care about women or having a gf >you must be a virgin! No.
>>703115852 I am right, and you'll see as you get older. Once you stop letting women control you with sex, you'll see just how useless the lot of them really are, and how pointless it is to even bother with a relationship with them. Sex, or lack thereof, is why you feel the way you do right now. Imagine if you didn't care about it or women.
>>703115306 if you cant see more in emotions than chemics im sorry for your loss if it came down to science were nothing and the pain part of anything isnt worth trying these things. If you came to this point, you died maybe not your corpse but what point is out there besides love and being loved im sry for you
>>703115974 Your family doesn't 'love' you; like anything else, they're only maintaining contact as long as they think you can be of any use to them. The minute you get into a bind or something, watch how many actually come to help you, or even check if you're still alive.
You'll be fine once you stop giving a damn about anyone else, especially women and "family." Live for yourself, fuck everyone else.
>>703116166 No, she didn't cheat on me; she was just a cunt. Glad we broke up though; she's now 400 lbs with two kids and a GED.
To be honest rejection is part of why most can't stop thinking of the ex. When you can't have something the desire the need becomes stronger. So in the end we look like a bunch of toddlers sulking in the corner because we want that toy we had and didn't care much for but now it's out of our reach.
>>703116296 No, Im pretty sure they do actually care about me which is why I haven't killed myself yet. I'm now saying they would love me if I killed someone but for the most part, they would be there for me. Maybe I'm wrong but thats what's they have me thinking
>>703116296 Oh I'm sorry, so you're the my highschool girlfriend was a cunt to me because I was an insecure faggot so all woman are cunts guy. Wake up man, you're hiding behind the "love doesn't exist" line because your feelings have gotten hurt, and are now scared to get hurt again. Deep inside you are craving to be loved.
>>703116554 And again, as you get older, you'll see how much your family really 'cares' about you. I say this, as my own family has pretty much moved on without me for one reason or another, which is fine because I don't care about any of them anyway (except for my parents).
Maybe it's because I'm an Atheist and they're all Bible-thumping fanatics, or maybe it's because I'm in my late-20s and have no intention of getting married/having kids. I don't know. But I do know that they only come around to talk to me or my parents when they want something.
>>703116724 My hobbies and interests. I workout, I study, I look forward to my own future without the notion of 'love' or any of crap. I can shut out people just as easily as I can let them in, though I prefer the solitude.
>>703116737 The meaning of life is to give life meaning. Do what you want, not what some broad tells you she wants.
>>703116630 Just, don't think it's bad to try and regain her. And don't be ashamed of using some nifty old persuasion. Use it ever so little, and it slips easily through the cracks. Alpha's have it built-in their brain chambers, you just need to learn it.
>>703116858 >y-you want to be loved! No thanks, a relationship is just a second full-time job, with the only 'payout' being depreciating sex over time. I'd rather have vidya, my hobbies, good food, and financial security/freedom. I don't need anyone for those. >you've been hurt No, I just learn from other people's mistakes.
>>703116944 The meaning you give life is ultimately meaningless because physics dictates you can't create something from nothing. Life has no inherent meaning (therefore =0). The meaning you give it is also meaningless because you come from life (0). Therfore your meaning of life is nothing more than something you convinced yourself is worth living for.
>>703116944 hmm. even looking at the big picture of life where everyone is a slave for the community where you work, just to get enough cash to eat and live, there is some excitement in love. This makes life seem like even less important. creds for not giving a fuck. btw maybe ur gay and the "love" you ignore is just because you havent felt real emotions
>>703117240 I'm not trying to be edgy at all -- to each their own, but some of the things that you're/that guy is saying clearly reflects to someone that has gotten his feelings hurt and is too afraid to commit again.
>>703117391 Life has certain parameters/limitations you have to abide by. Yes, we need money and food to survive, so why waste any of it on another person, especially some cunt who will just jump from one dick to another the minute they have more stuff than you? >maybe you're gay The only thing worse than dealing with a woman, is dealing with a man who thinks he's a woman.
>>703117351 whatever he talks about is right People search for something higher, new level important thing in the world, something that gives them safety, meaning, a place in a world thats more than going to work, get rich and die if this thing is being the best student of the world ok but for the most people you cant find "fulfillment" in maths or smth
>>703117449 It's not. I'm getting at everything is pointless and all boils down to you doing whatever the fuck you want and leaving others to do whatever they want because none of it matters anyhow.
To piss your bed in solitude after your next work out and see if any one cares. They don't. And if they did, you don't care, so whatever does it matter? It doesn't. So whatever you want bud. I'm glad you feel the need to come here and preach that loneliness is the best thing for YOU. Most other humans want, to some extent, some amount of human contact, and most would like some contact from the opposite sex since that is biologically what we are supposed to do
>>703117625 Well, she's supposed to have her own income aswell, and I truly believe there are genuine people out there without the gold digger mindset, and who are too good to cheat. we'll, i guess i can hope. Tbh you sound terribly pessimistic.
>>703117937 It does get mind numbing being totally alone. But if I were without a kid, I'd probably do just that. It's really a question of have you had enough, of all that. I've been in so many relationships, and deep ones. It just isn't what I look for anymore. Not saying I prefer alone, but it's a lot more peaceful sometimes.
>>703118074 Of course, she'll have her own income; the whole "wage gap" thing is bullshit, because women DO less than men, but still get paid regardless, even if they're shit at their jobs. Thing is though, it's about basic instinct and self-interest: why should I spend mine (paycheck), when I could convince him to spend his? And that's why you'll likely end up footing the bill for everything, and her money just goes to gas, a car note, and maybe groceries.
>>703117826 Not at all. It is proven that humans need affection to be truely happy. We are made to procreate, thats human nature, anyone saying that they do not need love or that love does't exist, is either ill or is lieing to himself because he has gotten hurt in the past.
>>703118155 No. what you're saying is fine for your. YOU don't want human connection. Thats fine. Stay away from people or whatever. But I think you are wasting time (personal opinion, not that time has value anyhow) trying to convince others, especially people in this tthread, that human interaction is completely pointless. All things are pointless, sure, but some people crave having the touch of a woman, man, child, or whatever so I suggest you move on, and go be alone.
>>703118435 Not at all. You're autistic since you're unable to define both negatives and positives into a single meaning. You either have a negative POV or a positive POV. People with ASD have repeatedly shown to have difficulty with this.
>>703118525 I'm just here to help OP get over it, and others if they're suffering from the same problem. What you have to understand is, such 'problems' as OP's come from what: dealing with/caring about women. Once you stop doing both, you'll have a lot less problems. I can't tell you how great it is to be able to do what you want, when you want, and not need to tell/inform anyone else about how your day went. The same especially goes for not having to listen to some ravenous cunt prattle on and ON about how her day went.
I got molested when I was a child and have always had a really fucked-up time talking to girls until I went to college. Why? It was a different environment that's literally all it takes go somewhere else you will see the difference.
if in the end this makes me happy, and she has real affection for me, i don't understand why it's a problem. I think its easy to see through a gold digger and a real person. I also had a deal with my gf where i bought and fixed digital and electrical shit, and she would do interior. we always split the bill on the apartment and groceries we both did whenever needed.
my ex was wayy smarter than me. If we both get a job and she gets less wage, i will actually be surprised. I've never worked any near as hard as her.
what you say might be true in avarage, but this is not always the case.
>>703119217 But do you really want to take that risk? The risk so many other men take, and get ROYALLY fucked over by? It's like digging through garbage (most women) to find a steak. Would you still want that steak, even with all the broken glass, syringes, etc in it? Focus on yourself. Women are only out for themselves, and they will use you (a man) as an apparatus.
>be 15 >walk to school with friend >San Jose California >Im white , hes black >he has a blue shirt on >car pulls up and guns him down next to me >Black guy gets out waves gun in my faces and beats the fuck outta me. >Killed one of my first real friends over a shirt colour. >Didnt understand why until a few years later > my friends parents where middle class , no hassle black folk who worked hard and owned there own place. >I hate niggers , But fuck that black boy was one of the realest and most honest people ive ever known.
>tfw first real friend was killed over his shirt colour.
Been trying to hang out with a friend for a couple weeks now. He's always busy, when he's not he says he's about to go to bed and to get at him the next day, when it starts all over again. "Sorry bro I'm going to work." "Can't I'm tired and wanna go to bed."
Thats if I even get a text back. I know noone cares, but whatever, I'm drinking alone in my room and feeling pretty insignificant cause he's really the only friend I have..or had, who knows
>>703119329 >7+ billion magically appeared >and it's not because billions of people have had sex which was brought about by their natural urge to have sex whose urge is cause by hormones who have evolved to make us feel good when have sex so that we keep having sex so that the species continues to exist
>>703119417 In your 27 years you must've been reall unlucky with the chicks you've met. I guess if you are going to the trash looking for steak, you will either find bad steak or no steak at all, but i'm more of a; go to the store and look through the steakes they have and see whatever ones the best. It's a risk where you can either end up like exactly this moment for a couple of months a time, with the upside of possible having years of enjoyment.
At the moment I sleep from 3-4 am to 2-3 pm, get dinner at 5, watch series, play games etc behind my computer screen and rinse and repeat. to me, thats not living life at its fullest
>>703119833 You're probably not a very good friend of his (in his eyes) if you are so low priority. you should tell him, and if he appreciates your friendship he should do somethin to show it. If not, theres better people who would enjoy your company way more.
>>703120003 Never cared for women from the start, and as I've gotten older, I can see I was right not to. They are seriously more trouble than they're worth, and OP will soon start realizing this.
You can live your life to its 'fullest.' I recommend learning about other cultures, taking up a second language, and travelling. Travelling alone is the best, because you can go wherever you want, whenever you want, and don't have to feed anyone but yourself. Take this OC from Korea I took last December when I went for a week's vacation. No gf, no 'family,' none of that; just me and 7 days of whatever the hell I want.
I'll be going to Japan (for the third time) next year, and probably China or Thailand after.
>>703107328 >be me, 13 >find small lump on left arm >growing over the years fast forward >be me, 17 turning 18 in under 4 months >been a dropout for 1year >legal age is 18 >getting ready to work to have lump checked out >lump still growing >MFW don't want to finish college anymore >parents enroll me anyways >3 years later dropped out to grab work opportunity >employer has a million internal issues(not really, but you get the point) >quit job, pursue selling of general merchandise items >solo doing sales, no wingman to brainstorm with >run out of funds to move around >run out of money to put into cycle >run out of leads >run out of ideas >running out of hope >my parents hate me now >they don't know I have a growing lump in my arm >gf can't do much to help >she's all I have now >posting on /b/ to find refuge from this shit >lump still untreated >I have maybe a decade left it was nice knowing /b/.
>>703120326 I like travelling, but would never do it alone. If i travel alone, which i've done on a couple occasions, I will bring my laptop and get stuck at the hotel the entire time. I enjoy company, even If i have to compromise doing shit you never thought about doing yourself. It's how I learn to expand my view of shit. Maybe I didnt think to visit that museum, but she did, and it's now something I enjoy thouroghly.
I see your view on this though, but I kindly disagree. Trips are cool, but theres way cooler to share it with someone.
>>703120831 It's like one of my old professors said: >one of the best ways to travel is to 'get lost' And you can't do that if you're constantly hounded by someone tagging along, slowing you down, with: >my feet hurt >I'm hungry >you said we were going to go over THERE >I don't like this place >I'm cold >BUY ME THIS! I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS, BUT BUY IT ANYWAY! >We're going to have to leave some of YOUR stuff behind and so on.
I agree. I have never really traveled alone I always had a destination to go see that person in that destination or I would travel with them. Having a companion is so much better than travelling alone, I guess. But I guess since we're not together anymore I might just try traveling alone to break out of my shell and become less of an introvert. I'm thinking of traveling to Japan maybe to see what it's like.
>>703107328 But I do know one thing though Bitches, they come they go Saturday through Sunday, Monday Monday through Sunday, yo Maybe I'll love you one day Maybe we'll someday grow 'Til then just sit your drunk ass on that fucking runway, ho
Same happened to me today. A few weeks before I was going to propose too.
She just said our relationship isn't new anymore. It's not exciting to her. After 5 years she just now decided that. Fairly certain she lost feelings for me once I ultimately failed at being accepted to medical school. I applied to so many but I didn't get accepted to a single one, and I think the fact that I couldn't make ends meet really turned her off.
>>703121081 The more i keep this conversation, the more i realize you see every possible negative outcome of every situation. Seeing it that way leaves you with nothing to win, but I see it differently. I've been to several trips, and never had this happen to me. Also getting lost is defo possible with company. With my family they always plan out every single thing we do, when we do it, and then the day is more of a chore than a vacation, but my ex would be like me, go wherever and improvise. I enjoyed it. If she would nag there was possibly a good reason to. If she's cold there is a good chance i am pretty cold aswell. If she's tired that means we had a good walk etc etc. I like exploring but i also enjoy hanging around doing nothing. I am usually looking for solutions for problems that appear, I'm not looking for the problem itself. Which i guess leaves me with a more open mind and see positive outcomes more frequently.
>>703120325 I'm not sure I want to. See whenever someone is upset at me for whatever reason and comes to me about it we work it out, no problem. When I'm upset and go talk to someone about it I'm an asshole and have no reason to be upset.
If I treated people the same way they've been treating me I'd get the shit beat out of me by multiple people. It's like everybody elses feelings are way more important than mine because mine are stupid and have no meaning or some shit.
>>703121200 damn, that sucks balls. hope you win the lottery and can afford any meds and cures (if there are any). Anyways, do some crazy shit. Tick off stuff from your bucket list. You actually have a reason to YOLO
>>703122069 I see things as they actually are, rooted in reality rather than idealism.
What I (and the professor) meant by 'getting lost,' was 'getting off the well-beaten path.' It's better to do that alone than with some nagging 'family' slowing you down, and potentially making you literally lost.
>>703121390 Since you were there for a while you have a lot of work experience. Getting a new one is probably not going to be the biggest issue. Take some time to be alone with your thoughts and then get to work when you are ready. If its your home town you probably have parents or siblings that can help you out if you need.
>>703107328 >go to my local bar >been going for 5 years >a guy there we will call "Alec" >Alec is in his last 60's >He is a tour pilot >hes flown commercial planes 747's etc for 20 years >Hes in the bar with his pilots uniform on >20 year service gold boeing watch >Flight medals and service pins >gold captain stripes on shoulders > ask him how he is. >was his mothers funeral today > "oh fuck, Im sorry I didnt mean to.." >"Its okay anon she had dementia shes better off there in all honest" > 4 hours later > hes sat there on his own sliding left and right on the bar drink in hand.
>come up to him and say , Alec, Are you okay? > "NO im fucking not you cunt!" >"no Alec I didnt mean.." > "I understand how you feel and im sorry , im here" > Alec:" How the fuck would you know how I feel!" >*throws his glass in my face and cuts my face open*
I Lost my mother when I was a teenager I just wanted him to know he didnt need to be alone on that day.
Were cool now he came in the ambulance with me and I told the cops not the book him and explained he was emotionally heated.
>>703122356 "Actually are" is a very stern term to use. It might or it might not happen. I guess when you jump from the edge of the pool there is less chance you end up hurting yourself, but you will never feel the excitement and butterfly belly you get from jumping from the higher diving board. I'll rather take the risk and if i land improperly it hurts for a while, but it was fun while mid air.
>>703122731 sounds like a good experience, but I do not either have the money to travel, and the culture there is wayy different from my regular life. I don't think I would enjoy it. It looks like a cool place to travel, It's just not for me (I think)
>>703123249 Fuck no. When a girl says there's some things that just can't be fixed she's absolutely dead set on breaking up with you the only way that you can salvage this it is if you suggest counseling couples therapy. Because it shows that you are ready to step up so just ask her.
>>703123570 I don't know, I just hate having responsibility towards my company. it's kinda like when you are the guy putting on music in a group of people you either don't know or don't know that well; -will my music be appreciated by everyone? -this song was way better when i heard it at home on my own -should i skip, is this the right kind of music etc etc.
I think too much and I don't like to be the reason someone is not enjoying themselves. you seem like a nice guy though, so nothing against you.
>>703123997 Honestly I usually avoid discussions because I am not generally an intelligent person. I usually have no good arguments and end up just shitting down my own leg with stuff i say. Here i have some time to think before i talk and i probably seem like a much more interesting person than when you meet me. I think I can be good company if you have the same interests, and i think i am generally liked in my group of friends, but thats a different story.
Same here going on two weeks ago now. The thing is it will seam like you're going to be depressed, bitter and deeply sad forever. I find nine times out of 10 I eventually end up looking back on it all and think wtf was I thinking anyway? In time your delusions will fade once your hormones are no longer hijacking your brain. One trick is to make a huge effort to not think about any good memories. Just think of the bad stuff. Sounds counterintuitive I know but swallowing that bitter pill will help you to get over the bitch faster. You also may find there were some red flags there all along that you ignored. It can actually be pretty shocking when the rose colored glasses come off. You'll get through it bro.
This might work if you aren't willing to salvage of sort of relationship with her a friendship I mean. If she fucked you over somehow then of course think this way but if you still want to be friends, if that's even possible, then really just see you gotta move on and try to stay in contact with her
Will my ex and I were best friends before we actually got together and now we've broken up but we still are friends but everytime she talks about going out with some guy whatever it still hurts but I just gotta remember to move on
>>703126042 I don't know which is which, if you are the same person responding to my posts, but as I mentioned earlier, I am in a situation without much cash to spare. I have enough to get by atm, but no chance to even go to my neighboring country. I am currently looking for work, so maybe in the future
>>703126231 They're only remotely feminine toward white men. Not that I'm blaming you or anyone else for it, but it's just a matter of fact. Probably because they (she) know that white men don't need them, so they leave those shitty attitudes and childish mindsets behind, saving them for black men instead.
>>703126389 There's no childish in her. If I had to attribute her good qualities to anything, it's her background. Her parents have stayed together all these years, and they're solid blue collar folks with the work ethic that entails. Me and mine are way bigger "niggers" than her kin. I'm the one with childhood memories of gunshots, assaults, and familial violence.
>>703127095 Hey man I've answered another guy earlier, i am this guy >>703126421 If you follow the replies back you'd know a bit more. As i told the other guy, having visitors would be cool as fuck, Its just scary saying yes to someone you had a couple of words with.
>>703127309 No. That it sometimes true for the person who did the breaking up. The person who got broke up with always feels like shit. That photo represents one of two possible outcomes for the person who did the breaking up.
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