Gf is seriously pissing me off.
>cooking some delicious pasta last night
>walk into the living room, gf is on her phone
>go to give her a kiss
>she tilts the phone down and hides the screen
>ask her what she's doing
>"just messaging a friend"
>"oh, can I see"
>"he just said lol"
>"can I see?"
>"just go make dinner honey"
>"just show me the screen"
>she won't show me
>get up, walk into kitchen, walk back out
>she shows me
>entire conversation was deleted
>she said that kik randomly deletes messages
>tell her that's bullshit
>said it was a glitch with her phone
>take her home, don't even give that bitch dinner
Tired of getting these lying whores in my life. She gets on facebook and starts ranting about how she's tired of people accusing her of lying.
Just don't fucking lie then, damn.
What do /b/? I really like this one and was hoping that I could finally settle down, maybe start a family in a few years, and then this shit happens.
Honestly I'm not even angry anymore, just disappointed. I invested like 7 years of my life into this girl. We were friends, we started dating, approaching 4 years together. Already had plans for our anniversary and everything.
Then this shit happens.
What am i doing wrong /b/?
Just keep your bullshit detector strong, anon.
Not all bitches are lying whores. I would suggest addressing the things about girls that are important to you. If it's a repeat behavior, it sounds like one of the ingredients you like in women might be fucking shit up.
Ignore this cunt
Ignore this cunt
Next time you have the chance try get on her phone/Facebook somehow. You need solid proof that she's cheating. Don't do anything drastic unless you've got proof. And if you don't find anything, don't make a habit out of going through her shit. That'll just make you more paranoid.
Sorry to hear that anon. Hope you find the right one my dude.
Well at least you're not a delusional cuck who makes up excuses for his gf.
Clearly this bitch is being manipulative, trying to play the victim to make you feel guilty even tho she's in the wrong and hiding things from you. Typical woman behavior, stay strong and don't let her guilt trip you
She is the problem, obv., not you.
I totally know that feeling, i nearly broke up with my gf for that reason. Except that i put a keylogger on her phone and caught her redhanded. She was proud to give the other guy big boners and describe how she would eat him if he were there
I can already get on her facebook. She's got it logged on to my computer all the time.
I know she's not cheating on me, but she's hiding something from me. She never lets me look at her phone and she gets nervous if I use it just to check the time. This bothers me because she is always on my phone. She's been like this for a long time, and only with her male friends. If she's messaging a female friend and I'm sitting next to her if I ask her what she's doing she physically shows me without me even having to ask, which leads me to believe that it is specifically her male friends are saying things to her that she doesn't want me to see.
sounds like an ungrateful bitch to me. sucks man
confront her about it, seriously. make it clear that shes being disrespectful or however you wanna word it.
you gotta address the problem. you 2 probably arent gonna work out but its better to clean the slate then let her slowly play you harder and harder till she runs you through the ground.
best wishes man
Seriously. You want to be into your girlfriend's private business at all times? You're a fucking idiot and deserve to be alone. OP doesn't even realize he described himself as a sociopath. Get fucking help.
Get with a girl with a low sex drive who isn't that interested in guys and is organised and has her life together.
Go out with her
she will treat you incredibly and love you deeply
Fap a lot since you don't have sex much
Feel happy content and enjoy life
There u go, everything is great.
you gotta bust the slut and "care less" its a persona, everyone cares. except sociopaths, it just means be a man, stick to your guns, you deserve the best. dont let someone play you.
This exactly. I don't get into her phone without asking, even though I could. I don't get on her facebook, even though i could at this very moment pull up her facebook and read all of her private messages.
I don't do this because I respect her privacy.
But if I ask to see a specific conversation, it makes me believe that she's hiding something. Even more so by the fact that she deleted the conversation before showing me.
Just dump her and get a good girl.
There's a thin line between controlling who she's friends with and not allowing bullshit. I dunno how old you are, but generally if she's just texting some dude all the time, that's not ok. My gf has male friends, she sees them when she gets together with her old group, but she's not messaging them back and forth all day, similarly I have bunch of female friends from high school I see when the old group gets back together a few times a year for various events, but I don't message them back and forth talking about nothing, that is inherently flirtatious and should be put to a stop.
Also if you've been together that long and not living together then just end it already.
I'm not even OP retard. If you really trust the person you love, there would be absolutely no need for secrets. What other reason would she have to be so defensive about a conversation? Unless she's a secret agent or a drug dealer, why? It's obviously not her mother texting her.
Sounds like you've got an orbiter, friend. This is how it starts, she'll be going to work parties with him "just as friends" next.
>You'll never marry and have children, like i have
I'm on your side dude, I think it's fucked up. I dated a guy once when I was 17 who was like this, constantly looking over my shoulder and always paranoid I was cheating and it fucked me up. Any relationship I'm in, I'm always hiding my screens now because being treated like that when you've done nothing wrong makes it feel like every conversation you have is wrong.
Part of the reason I don't do monogamy anymore, I don't even understand how people can be happy when they're always this paranoid.
No, that is not what happened.
I didn't "stomp in and demand to see the text messages". I walked in and she hid the screen from me. I asked what she was doing and she said she was texting her friend Joe. I just asked what they were talking about and she said he just said "lol". I asked if I could see and she deflected, which made me suspicious, so I asked again, and she deflected again. It wasn't until the third time I said that I wanted to see the screen, and she wouldn't show me, so I dropped it.
When i came back, she gladly showed me that the entire conversation had been deleted.
Nigga, 1) your pasta was probably shit
2) "Hey, apropos of nothing except overwhelming jealousy let me see your phone"
>No, it's my phone and my private business, I am a human and have a right to a little privacy.
"Ungrateful lying bitch, you get no dollar store pasta! REEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!"
Does that sound like a normal, well adjusted conversation? Fuck right off with your bullshit paranoia and jealousy.
If she's on kik she's posting nudes. Also stay good OP, the best relationships are the honnest ones. If she was sending text to a friend i could have been for a surprise party, something like that, it happens... But KIk, i wouldnt trust her bs at all
>like I have.
didn't realise it was a competition anon.
don't worry i have a happy and trusting relationship, albeit i do sometimes hear things i'd rather not, period stuff for example, but complete honesty is better than hiding things from eachother.
but i do realise this varies from person to person.
Get rid of her anon. She lied, she was obviously doing something wrong if she wouldn't show you the screen. You can try to fix it saying don't lie, I understand how that stuff works, next time show me if you don't have anything to hide. But more than likely she will cheat again
Try talking to her about potentially opening up your relationship. Have a conversation about clear boundaries, have one of those boundaries be that she lets you know when she's got another person she's interested in getting with.
Or alternatively, try not jumping into anger when she doesn't show you her private conversations. Believe it or not, relationships are built on communication, if you sit down with her and talk about this issue in a calm and collected manner then she'll probably open up about it with you.
True but also i think the more dirext you ask, the more she's likely to get pissed because muh private sexting... If youre too menacing it's just gonna accelerate the separation.
I tried that before I took her home. She just deflected all my questions and said the same thing over and over again.
"if you think I'm lying then just break up with me".
I don't want that. I want to be with her but I need to know that I'm the only man in her life.
i'm going to talk to her more about it today and hopefully make some progress instead of just listening to her yell.
i've had this a few times, once a bitch was flirting with some dude and she lied when it was obvious, and still lied when i stole her phone and showed her. that ended that relationship.
and twice before with the current gf, i kinda ruined surprise presents because i keep obsessively thinking about it, now she just asksxwhat i want, which we both agree is better
Maybe because she's tired of you always looking at her screen?
Do you show her every time you go on /b/? Does she know you have a pissy little thread where you talk shit about her?
If not, then STFU, everyone has secrets, she needs hers.
Well if your girlfriend has kik its obvious she's cheating on you, sit her down lose your shit and demand the truth, don't let anything sit on your mind and let loose on the lying cunt, has she done anything dodgy before?
You misunderstand. i don't actively seek to look at her screen. Usually when I ask what she's doing she says she's texting a friend and she just shows me the conversation without me even asking. The only reason I even asked to see the conversation this time was because she was actively attempting to hide what she was saying from me, which is not like her to do.
Well if she asks what he's doing why not show it? Hey im posting on /b/ to get advices for relationships. Thats all, no need to hide then delete evidences, burry the body and leave the country. She's more paranoid than he is
Nigga, you go up to your girlfriend and creep all up in her bullshit? Really? Does she have to submit a detailed log of all virtual interactions along with a full transcript of all conversations had?
No? That's fucking insane you say? I agree.
A nigga can't take the ten minutes it takes to cook pasta without NEEDING to look at her phone. That's obsessive, it's controlling, and yeah, that bitch needs to set some clear boundaries because OP is about one step from installing hidden cameras and keyloggers to ENSURE she isn't "cheating" on him with some rando Chad on the internet.
You're only paranoid if you're wrong. So you have a lot of time invested. If you feel like you can't trust her, regardless of whether or not she's cheating, you should probably end it. Not end it with a fight over her cheating, but just end it because after 4 years you should be at the point where you don't feel like she is hiding shit and she shouldn't have to feel like she needs to hide shit. Whether or not she is actually cheating is almost immaterial.
Hate to break it to you, but that probably means she isn't interested anymore and just doesn't want to be the one to end things. If she wanted your relationship to work she would be communicating back. It's a two way street. Try having another talk in a few days when things cool down, if it doesn't work then I say give her what she wants, you think she's lying so break up with her.
Nigga, you were cooking pasta.
It takes like ten min. To cook pasta. You can't get out of her business for ten minutes? Literally, you can't leave her alone for ten goddamn minutes?
Shes going to leave you, not because Joe is secretly fucking her on the DL, but because you are controlling and annoying as shit. Of you literally can't leave her alone to her own business for the time it takes to cook pasta she's going to leave your ass.
Also, you drove her home without giving her the dinner you promised, and had a pissy little fight, over goddamn nothing. That is literally one tick on the spectrum away from literally screaming REEEEEEEEEEEEEEE at her and shitting your pants.
I didn't give her dinner because she didn't want it.
Yeah it takes about 10 minutes to cook pasta. i can't walk into the living room while the water is boiling and give my girlfriend a kiss on an otherwise pretty decent day?
7 years, not living together, no marriage talk? If she thinks you're not going to ask, she's going to be looking elsewhere.
If you give her your love, but not marriage, she's going to feel like there's nothing left to work for. Either dump her, or start dropping hints that you're thinking about marriage. But after the kik thing, try to make her feel like she needs to work for it.
what you did wrong is the fact, that you invested 7 fucking years into a cheating whore. like, seriously nigga, you could have gone to university and study for some basic bachelor degree. twice.
No my views on a healthy relationship are not the only valid ones that exist but don't be a delusional cunt and think you aren't an unstable ho, because you're an unstable ho. Also just taking a guess but do you dye your hair autistic red or something close to that?
You don't know if she's cheating yet, but she MIGHT be cheating and she is DEFINITELY LOOKING.
Either dump her ass or lock her in with marriage. But obviously you shouldn't marry someone if you don't trust them. So if she can't earn back your trust, then seriously think about dumping her.
Not unstable, don't dye my hair, fucking hate tumblr. I just like to date more than one person at once because it's nice to have multiple people who love you. I hardly even date guys anymore tbh because most of them act like this and that's off putting as fuck.
if she was talking about his dick to a girl friend she wouldve giggled, shown him the text and they would likely ended up fucking. thats how it should be in a healthy, fun, loving relationship
So you're an attention whore as well as a ho...fucking trainwreck. You literally define unstable and sounds like you blame all your bullshit baggage on other people instead of trying to better yourself...thank fuck my partner isn't a complete retard like you, I feel sorry for the trainwrecks that gravitate towards you though tbh. With shit as bait you're only going to attract flies.
>I just like to date more than one person at once because it's nice to have multiple people who love you
so you are a slut. your parents must be proud
You clearly dont see a difference between loving someone and just going for puss. No wonder, youre just a little slut.
Yeah, she's too much of a coward to break up with you, and she just asked you right there, to your face, to break up with her.
Probably to protect her ego, and establish the narrative that you left her, so she doesn't have anything to feel guilty about.
of course something is up but what would piss me off more is she is insulting your intelligence with her lame excuses and coverup and very disrespectful to do this shit with you in the next room cooking her dinner. Bitch
What makes you think you get more pussy than me, also wondering why you think that eating beaten up boxes of trashy hos like yourself would even be appealing enough for me to have a pissing contest over.
Lol... You aren't serious about this girl. You aren't serious about this girl. You aren't serious about this girl.
OP, You are too young to be serious about this girl. Get the fuck out now before you wind up catching a fuck trophy or two, ending up with a loveless marriage, and 15-18 years worth of child support payments.
I knew absolutely everything when I was 19 as well. You need to realize, you don't know a fucking thing about a fucking thing. Be patient, and do not rush your life.
This. Fuck I thought I had life figured out at 19. You literally become an entirely different person like every 2 years until your mid twenties when it slows down a bit.
Dump her OP ya silly bugguh
kek at the cucks in this thread. When she's your fucking girlfriend, you should be able to know the fuck is she talking about with other guys. Hell my girlfriend gladly shows her convos with guys without me even asking. She leaves her phone with me unlocked but I never snoop like a bitch. Because there's trust. OP is there's no more trust then just break it off because it's not gonna last fam.
If the bitch don't own to deleting and what she delete, leave her.
No excuses, leave her because she is a piece of shit. If you're caught in a lie just fucking own up to it.
If she is woman enough to own up and take responsibility for all of this and what she hid, I would say then she might be worth wasting more of your time on.
But c'mon, if she really thinks you're that stupid... Why would ypu want to be with someone that thinks so little of you?
I think they can work in certain situations. But not really one on one friendships. Friendships as part of a large circle of friends work fine, friendships with other couples work fine. But straight one on one can only lead to issues
>We're both 19
Jeez. You might just be a younger me. Sorry if I sound like an asshole, but please don't expect to be in the same relationship for the rest of your adult life. There is 3 billion other women out there, you're going to want to experience more than just 1. Don't get mad at her, it's natural and it's going to happen to you too. You're going to eventually get wandering eyes, like she already has.
Cut things off now, while they're still amicable. Go out, pound some college pussy. And if it's meant to be, then you and the gf can always get back together after 5 years or so; if you both decide a relationship with each other was the happiest you've been, then it will be even stronger if you get back together. But your priority right now should be to experience the world.
As you become an adult, you become a totally different person, both physically and mentally; don't hold each other back by clinging to childhood relationships. Good luck man.
Anon, is she didnt watn to show you is because she is cheating you. Plz, dont be sad, believe me. Is better now when you can react and tell her to fuck Off before getting married.
Just dont worry bro. Go with some friends to take a beer and enjoy a little. Stop thinking in her shit
Seriously OP, drop her. Don't listen to these fat fucks who've only had imaginary conversations with their stank pillows. Bitches lie, bitches cheat, bitches talk to other guys because they like the attention. Just 1 guys attention isn't enough for bitches. Get a mature bitch. Someone at least 25+. A bitch that knows in a few years she's gonna be 30 and her shitty little games won't fly if she ever wants a husband or kids or to afford a house. If a bitch on her phone all the damn time in general, say "fuck you bitch". If you ain't got the time or patientience for bitches and their shit, and I know I don't, go find a new bitch. You aren't invested nigger. She don't live there. She ain't cosign your fuckin car. Drop that bitch
Tell that bitch wassup, say that you dont want to keep being with her if she is going to be like this. Tell her that if she doesbt quit fucking around its over.
Or just dump her ass right away and this way you get ti make pasta for bitches worth your time.