I miss her so much.. Feels thread?
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I miss her so much.. Feels thread?
>>702843293
No, I just miss her
we never dated but I liked her as a person and she was overall a great person. I miss her too
I lied to her.
I miss her everyday.
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.
And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy;
And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields.
And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief.
Much of your pain is self-chosen.
It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.
Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquillity:
For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen,
And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.
Kahlil Gibran
>>702844183
Damn /b/ro..
>>702844183
why do we lie to ourselves and say everything is ok and we're over it, it always comes back.
I'm in love with my girlfriend's best friend.
Like, a few days ago, I realised I'm actually in love with her.
I've been with my girlfriend for 3 and a half years and I've known her best friend all that time, but something's clicked recently and now I can't shake it.
What do I do
Am I fucked
>>702844463
That's not his newfag
Damn man. Sounds like you fucked up bad. Have you tried...y'know, NOT fucking up? It's not hard especially in relationships which usually have hard set and easy to follow rules.
>>702844984
Tell them both. Chances are you'll turn both of them off but it's unfair to the girlfriend and unhealthy for you in the extreme. I know it sucks but sometimes you gotta bite the bullet and trust me when i say there WILL be others so long as you actively look, the current population and density damn near ensures it.
>>702844465
Because at every persons core is a weak child emotionally vulnerable and ultimately untested. These experiences we have that hurt that child are what make an adult and adult. Yes it is a sad thing but it also makes us stronger as a person which is a good thing.
Eventually you can make mistakes without the hurt and thats where LEARNING from mistakes truly happens, which is a better thing. The lies just help us cope with the change by prolonging the injury.
is it bad that i get angy at people who make feels threads over love problems and not because they're permanantly depressed little shits like me?
This image kept me from killing myself the last couple depressive spirals I've had. I think about it every time I want to commit suicide and I can't do that to my 2 cats. No one cab explain to my 2 cats that I love them so much, I just don't love myself
>>702844183
i mean, that's not a very believable lie. but you gotta do what you gotta do.
>>702846206
That sounds so logical and I'm so unwilling to do it.
Why must we have emotions
>>702846954
Yes. At best its petty. Your pain is as equal in intesity as theirs is despite the problems technically being on different scales as they have as little experience as you have experience with internal turmoil. Everyone deserves help and no one more than the other as we're all suffering.
Get over her you fucking pussy.
You'll know what's pain when you lose your legs to war.
Thank God that you're alive. Thank him everyday and stop obssesing over shit like this.
>>702847316
>Yes. At best its petty.
yeah that's what i thought too.
>>702847143
Its logical cause i've been there and that is the shortest cut you could take and the best option overall as staying in stasis will do nothing but emotionally kill 2 out of the 3 of you.
We have them because without them we'd never do great things like art or science or see the grandeurs of the universe or make wonderful music. Emotions are the workds gift to us and while they may hurt us from time to time its our gift to ourselves and others to experience and use it.
>>702846954
go to a doctor faggot they got pills and sofas
>>702847882
i'm not a big fan of pills.
>>702848034
well then don't complain about being depressed if you don't even try
I can suggest all of you to watch the videos and read the book of Corey Wayne. This man is truely amazing and can pick anyone up in a rough time
Wishing you all lots of love anons, you just gotta do it yourself first
>>702848221
>not taking pills equates to not trying
okay my american friend.
>>702847882
Pills aren't great as most commonly prescribed pills like SSRI's have been around long enough for suspected side effects to be proven side effects. Long term usage of common anti-depressants commonly damage long term and short term memory as well as the ability to deal with emotions which is the opposite of what you want in these cases. Some also fuck up the intestinal flora which is generally bad as well.
>>702845607
fuck man.
Does anyone else like to go on long drives at night and listen to chill music when they're sad or am I just a useless pleb?
>>702844289
Nice
My gf of 2 years is trying to dump me, I'm basically a NEET but i'm doing a college course in a subject i don't have any interest in.
We spoke today, had sex, spoke some more. "We're TOO different", "I don't think you can change" came up a lot.
>pic is messages from earlier.
I miss her
>>702843293
Suffering is the Clinging of Mind.
When your mind clings to things you suffer. Its this clinging that you have to learn to tame.
The thoughts of this girl you liked are doing nothing positive for you, so every time you start to find yourself clinging to those thoughts you have to conciously decide to think of something good in your life, or something positive like a goal you want to achieve.
Picture thoughts of her as clouds passing by in your mind. Its okay that theyre there but you dont need to focus on them bc they hold no value.
-anon
>>702849301
You'll talk tomorrow
DUMP HER NOW
>>702849301
this is breaking my heart
>>702849301
>We're TOO different
>I don't think you can change
meh tier excuses
>>702849301
Sounds like your a codependent emotionally shuttered person and she's an average human. Thats not a good mix anon and she's right about it being a problem and in the long run "fixed" is lots of therapy and possibly a mood stabilizer for you.
Main thing to take away from here is NEVER make someone else your only motivation or reason for emotional stability as its vastly unsustainable and extraordinarily unfair to the other person. You should try and avoid the manipulative behavior to keep her close and talking as well as that generally makes people uncomfortable.
>>702849623
That's funny,
My friend told me to do the same. "dump her before she dumps you, thats how you win"
But no, i want her to stay. It was my birthday the other day, she wrote loads of lovey crap in my card, i keep reading it over and over, haven't cried yet...
Do you guys ever just feel alone? Like, so alone and misunderstood in your problems that it's almost smothering, and you don't bother to tell anyone anymore because even though they ask, they won't understand? I'm just laying here and the dark really does feel like it's trying to smother me, wanted to know if it's just me
She already found another guy (probably didn't cheat yet though), a normie with a job or a good college and a lot of normies friends. He talks to her about his nights at the club and at the movies and his travels, all these things you probably don't (can't) give her. In short, a guy with other motivations.
>>702849301
>is trying to dump me
Unless you're willing to immidiately change things in your life in order to TRY ( try is the keyword here ) to keep her in your lif, it's basically a done deal. Of course that brings forth the question of, do you want her in your life?
In my opinion you don't. Not really. You do want to have female company. But not her in particular. She's just the most convenient one and you're used to her.
Chances are it wont get better either way. Even if you do manage to keep her this time, how long til she starts making ridiculous demands once she figures out she can bait you with the threat of leaving?
>b-b-but anon, she's not like that
They never are.
>>702850082
Have u tried talking to someone whos opinion u value and respect?
Find someone with life experience. They may not "understand" you but they may be able to rationalize your problems better then you can right now.
>>702849847
I don't think it's that bad, plus she's being influenced by her best friend, who just got out of a shitty relationship and has found someone new who makes her happy...
>plus her friends hate me for no good reason
>i can't be problem...can i?
>>702850082
yeah. a lot. i literally broke down the other day and sadly/thankfully there was someone there to see it. i'm not sure how i feel about it. i think i'm better these days but i don't like that there's someone else besides me that knows this side of me.
>>702850082
>Do you guys ever just feel alone? Like, so alone and misunderstood in your problems that it's almost smothering, and you don't bother to tell anyone anymore because even though they ask, they won't understand? I'm just laying here and the dark really does feel like it's trying to smother me, wanted to know if it's just me
No because nobody asks me.
(But they call tell you fell alone.)
>>702850455
That's a good idea anon, maybe I can find someone like that. Always good to talk to people with a bit more experience.
>>702850389
She's already dumped me twice. (but for bullshit reasons that she admitted)
I think the main problem in my relationship is communication on her end..
She doesn't tell me whats wrong until its too late.
found out my gf lied about being raped and abused and lied about me to her parents and myself as well, luckily it wasn't anything serious. Used me for the year we dated, basically told me to fuck off. That's when I told her to kill herself multiple times and then made memes of her and she came to visit me after she saw them. Triggered beyond belief
>>702845607
Fuck, I'm not strong enough for those feels.
>>702850759
>I think the main problem in my relationship is communication on her end..
No. You are the problem because you made "[her your] ONLY motivation". It can't work and she doesn't have to be your guardian.
>>702850587
They probably respect you more because of it. I wouldnt worry about the fact that they saw you break down. Anyone who actually judges you for being human is a piece of shit anyway.
>>702850587
I understand that completely. It's not always bad, but it definitely isn't always good. Lost the one person who I knew could really, really relate and she took all those things with her when she left. Es no bueno.
>>702850937
>made memes if her
what?
>>702847687
Holy fucking shit.
I come on /b/ to kek and troll and hate.... I never expected to come here to be enlightened.
You're doing god's work, anon, you beautiful bastard.
>>702850759
>try to warn anon of impending doom
>turns out impending doom has already come and now he feels comfy with it
welp, i tried.
>>702851108
She was the very first pepe
>>702851108
Never heard of the mystic meme makers?
>>702850937
>made memes of her
do share
>>702845607
im crying
>>702850985
You're right..
>it was my fault.
Whats next?
How do you meet people?
Will i just fuck it up again?
Whats the fucking point..
>>702844183
I've seen this before
>>702850759
No reason is bullshit when it comes to breaking up. Theres literally no reason u can give to someone on the recieving end of a breakup that will make them understand.
If someone is breaking up with you, be a man about it and let them go. Why would you sacrifice your dignity by telling them their reason isnt good enough.
>>702850499
As a person with the outside and unstaked view here you're acting like your stereotypical codependent person right down to casually manipulative behavior. Sadly, yes, you're the problem.
>>702849301
Four months ago I split with my gf of 14 years. Didn't speak for three months, and then she called start of August.
This exact thing. I'm useless without her, but I can't be with her because I only hold her back. We both love each other, but in the wrong ways for the other person.
If you're too different, and you know it, don't hold on for the sake of holding on. It hurts, it hurts so fucking much, but it's better for you both if you don't drag it on to the point you start to resent each other.
I'll send good vibes to you, anon, but it's all down to you what happens. Good luck.
I'll do a green txt if anyone wants me too about how I got friend-zoned
>>702851638
>gf of 14 years
who took the kids?
>>702851658
you're only asking for attention, either do it or don't.
>>702851658
>friend-zoned
You don't get friendzoned, you always friendzone yourself.
>>702851658
>I'll do a green txt if anyone wants me to
nah thanks, i'm good.
>>702844183
She's more than likely lying too
>>702851501
quick question, did you just search for the lst 2 pictures for the sole purpose of posting just now or do were they laying around in your HDD somewhere?
>>702851638
what did you do then?
get back with her? or ignore her?
>>702851501
Meet people through social activities. Talk online or go to clubs or bars or events of any nature and chat them up. Eventually you find people interested in the same things and you as a person. Eventually one of those people will want to date and hopefully you feel the same way.
The main issue is if you go looking you usually don't find them you sort of have to just throw yourself out into open space and it just happens.
>>702851834
>Be me
>Be asked out by a girl I liked
>We go to the movies
>I pay for our tickets
>She leans on me as the movie starts
>Suicide Squad
>As she gets out of my truck, she looks at me
>I look at her and tell her that I love her hair
>She got it done 3 days ago
>She smiles and says thanks anon
>She kisses my cheek through the window
>And tells me that I am a great friend
>I got home
>I lay down to sleep for the night
>She calls me
>Drunk
>Tells me about her life
>About how she's lonely
>Turns out she went to the movies because her bf dumped her
I hate my life
>>702852136
ha
>>702850759
>her communication is poor
>she tells you exactly what's wrong in the message
>you respond with "see you tomorrow charms x"
You completely disregarded what she said, and put it off. I do this all the time, so this is very hypocritical, but that's a shit tier level of communication on your side, not hers.
>>702844183
>filename
nonetheless, i relate too much to this pic
>>702852305
Haha even just dumped she didn't sadfuck you
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=clI-Oswg1ZA
fuck I feel empty inside
>>702852305
Sounds like she opened up to you while getting sauced and you missed out on earning brownie points.
Like the other anon above said, you don't get friendzoned by others you just place yourself in the friendzone through your own actions.
>>702851754
Didn't have any. Always putting it off "until the time is right".
My mum has the dog we bought, though (no pets in London city flats).
>>702852386
>NO IT'S HER FAULT!
>>702847687
Quite possibly the Most beautiful words ever seen on /b/ thanks anon
>>702852386
It's manipulative is what it is. It's forcing her to talk to you later and you get the satisfaction of being guaranteed that moment and thus make yourself feel better at the expense of her.
>>702852605
that's good then. better than having kinds in this situation at least.
best of luck mate.
>>702852386
we're meeting tomorrow, and she was going to bed.
But fucking hell, earlier she said that i'm never open with her, and that i always disregard what she says...
I'm so fucking blind to my own actions
>>702852305
>Ask her why she's drunk
>She tells me that all her bf wanted was to use her body
>Resist the urge to tell her I told you so
>Tell her about my new job
>About how It'll make me move out of state for a while
>She tells me that if I leave her, then she would be lonely
>I ask her what she meant by that
>She just goes silent for a while
>Then she sighs and tells me that she really does love me
>But she wants to be just friends because it would be weird
>I told her to give me a chance
>Told her that I want her to be happy
>that was the moment I fucked up
>She laughs lightly
>"Anon, Thanks... But what about your leg?"
>>>Prosthetic leg
KILL ME!
I was jealous, a hypocrite, uncaring, and selfish. I still am, and I can't help it. She left me, and I was angry but when I realised what kind of person I was, I stopped being angry and regretted how I acted. I have a girlfriend now who I love, but I'll always miss my ex.
I'm making the same mistake again, but I'm already dead inside
>>702852731
for fuck sake, am i really that much of a cunt?
quick bump
>>702852187
I let her go.
I knew I was holding her back, I couldn't be what she wanted, and that despite loving her a lot I'm too autistic/narcissistic to ever think anything is my fault in the moment. It was only the fact that our last conversation (the one four months ago, not the one last month clearing the air) ended with is both angry and hurt and we literally went into radio silence for three months. I could think of how shit I was and how much we clashed when together.
On reflection, I was lucky I held onto her for so long.
>>702852926
did this actually happen?
fuck she deserves the guy she was with
>>702852929
I also missed out liar
>>702853007
well. yeah.
>>702852926
pic of leg with timestamp please
>>702853024
>>702852926
>I tell her that it is fine.
>Tell her that since I had the fitting, I can drive again
>She kinda chokes up
>She asks if I am ok
>She tells me that everyone in town talks about what happened in the accident
>Accident involving oil well
>She says that everyone thought I was drunk
>Tells me that they way I drink, I turn into a different person
>Says that she does not want to be with me, because I push myself too much
>>702853007
No. just lonely and probably a little autistic.
>>702852650
Not sure if agreeing with me that he's the one with the comms issue or not. But the pic is a phrase she said. 2 years and he's only just opened up to her. My case status: rested.
Meme arrows =/= sarcasm shorthand
>>702844037
You still did good anon
Soo, quick question, do you guys know of a good resource for mental health??!?
I'm not doing to good lately, and need some assists.
I've been on these forums before, but nothing lasts.
It's really coming to a head i believe, slowly but surely.
>"Numb" is the word for today kids!!"
>>702852809
That is one silver lining.
Cheers, anon.
>>702853605
psychforums helped me a lot
>>702853007
Kinda sorta yeah. If it makes you feel any better most people that have these types of problems have them stem from issues like depression or anxiety and actually can't help doing so.
I know its gonna sound weird but go to a therapist and just talk. Most happily accept that you come to them with nothing but chatter and worries and that they can help with that. Best case scenario? Zero mental issues and you can change your ways that much easier. Worst case? Probably depression and social anxiety which they can help you with.
>>702853411
>Right now
>She called me
>asks if I want to go hang out with her bitch friend
>I told her sure
>I get there
>Bitch by herself
>Tells me I'm a freak and to leave town
I am sitting here... with my only fifteen personal belongings.
>Leg
>Wallet
>Truck
>10 dollars cash
>Laptop
Who should I leave these too? I have no one anymore
>>702849401
this is surprisingly helpful, anon. i realized about a week or so ago that I am clinging to the idea of her, out of habit at this point, but clinging anyway. she doesnt want a relationship with me, and has moved on. i'm making things hard for her by my unwillingness to let her go.
>>702853605
Scientology is good for that. Go get your e-readings measured.
Hubbard walk with thee, brother anon
Does anyone have the story of the two colleges guys and the girl
>>702853605
Therapists. They literally make their living off of the stuff.
Don't even tell them why you want to talk to them just go in and chat. Most love the challenge of actually figuring someone out as it just comes with the territory.
>>702843293
my life in 2 texts
Anyone else here have aspergers? All my relationships last for about a year until the girlfriend realises that I'm actually pretty shallow and selfish and I find it hard to care about issues they have with me sometimes. I try to change. Feels bad man
>>702853736
I think a therapist is a bit much..
She's my first proper gf, and i don't want to lose her because i made a few small mistakes that i can easily change.
I just didn't know that she had problems with me, It's not like i never asked her if she was okay or anything, I thought she was happy.
i guess she wasn't...
April 27th, An old man in his late 80's gets put into a retirement home by his daughter. The first few days the old man was happy that he finally has people to socialize with. Months upon months go by and his family never visited him. He was being abused by the staff working at the retirement home and on top of his family abandoning him he became very sad and wanted to make a change. One late night the old man wakes up and grabs the small package of food he had stored up. He sneaks out of his room and slowly makes his way down the hallway, then the moment he saw a guard shine her light he ducked and waited till she passed. He eventually made his way out of the home and was in the fog covered yard of the retirement home. It was dark but he started walking until he eventually reached the bottom of a hill, he climbed the hill till he reached an old cottage at the top. The old man rested there for the night and woke up to a fox staring at him motionless. The Fox's bright red fur made the old man feel warm, but soon the old and the fox became friends. The fox always stayed with the old man and brought them small animals to eat. Weeks go by and one day the old man wakes up on a cold, gloomy, rainy day and fox is gone. The old man lights a fire and sits in an old creaky wooden chair hoping fox will return. Days pass and fox returns to the old man, the fox ran up to the old man and tugged at his pant leg. The old man follows fox to the opening of a dark cobblestone tunnel. Fox runs in and the old man follows, a few minutes of walking and the old man is surrounded by complete darkness with no fox in sight. All of a sudden he feels a warm presence in front of him. He sees a bright, warm, white light at the end of the tunnel with fox sitting in front. (Part 1)
(part 2) He walks towards the light looks at fox as fox walks in and follows shortly behind. All of a sudden the old man wakes up in a hospital bed hooked up to IV's and heart rate machines. The nurse in the room greets him apon wakening. The old man looks around for fox which is no where in sight, he starts hesitating, the heart rate monitor goes off with a loud blaring siren, the nurse runs to go get a doctor. The old man stands up out of bed and Being weak he tripped over the IV connected in his arm, he falls to the ground and looks up, fox is sitting calm in front of him, he gets a wrinkled smile on his face with tears of joy flooding his eyes, then the fox puts her paw on him and the says "This is it, this is the way the world works, you cannot go on any longer. Let go."the old man says " I don't want to die, please let me live, I don't want to go!" With tears falling down his wrinkled face, the fox presses her head against the old man's head then pulls away as the doctors rush into the room running straight pass fox as if she wasn't there. The old man turns onto his back and slowly closes his eyes as the sound of the heart rate monitor goes off and the yelling of doctors fade into nothing as he takes his last breath
>>702853819
>>702853411
>>702852926
i don't really have any advice but i just wanted to let you know that i read this.
>>702854646
thats nice
>>702854307
Most people think of therapists as for crazy people.
You can literally just chat with them and they'll help you feel better about your situation. If you feel you need more yoy can go back. They're the proffesional equivalent of a shoulder to cry on and come ready with the exact knowledge and skills needed to help you become mentally healthier. It doesn't have to start or end with a diagnosis just a worry you can't seem to do much about.
They're doctors of the mind and soul and you seem to have an ache that won't go away.
>>702854646
>running straight pass fox
>straight pass fox
>pass
Loved this until that. So many times I see people using pass or passed when they mean past and it grinds my gears
>>702854846
I get where you're coming from, I just don't think that i need one just because my girlfriend left me because i was a cunt, i'm just going to have to use this experience as a "how not to act in a relationship"
>>702854846
LOL
>>702853819
may I ask what happend to your leg?
no matter what as long as you breath, there is hope. impossible is impossible.
you will find an other girl, you will find a way of coping with all this. just keep your head up and show the world you can make it.
>>702850082
I'm with you, completely. Even with my fiance, I felt alone. I just lost her yesterday, which is what ended up drawing me into this thread. Now it's a combination of my loneliness, my boredom, the constant depression, and a sense of grief all balled up in my chest.
i don't understand happy people. how do they do it?
or do they not exist and i'm fooled the masks others like me put on?
i'm not sure which version i prefer. i mean there has to be something else other than this, right? there has to
>>702855743
probably depends on:
>where you were born
and
>how you were raised
after that your stuck with what you've got really
>>dated more than 3 years
>>both go to study abroad
>>try the long distance thing
>>make it like 3 weeks
>>she seems distant the whole time
>>one morning she messages me asking to skype
>>i can feel it coming
>>we break up when we talk on skype later that day
>>the entire time i'm just staring at the hickey's on her neck wanting to die
She couldn't even bother to break up with me, just cheated then dumped me when she felt guilty. I wanted to marry her after we graduated college. No one has even come close to making me feel the same way since, and its been more than 4 years now.
I'm pretty sure I saw pics of my ex somewhere on the internet... I'm not sure if I should tell her or not. She might think I'm just being a jealous creep but I just genuinely still care about her as a person and I would hate it if she was unknowingly seeing a scumbag who would spread her pics behind her back... what should I do? I'm about 50% sure it was her, there was no face.
>>702856243
here's a lesson leaerned for you then. LDR never works. NEVER. i'm always sorry when people learn that the practical way, but hey, at least now you know for future reference.
4 years isn't that long anon. just be open to opurtunities when they present themselves. you don't even have to go looking most of the time.
>>702856363
Throwaway email address, library computer, send link anonymously.
>>702856363
fap and move on, she's your ex for a reason. she hates you and is now with someone that abuses her trust, that's gotta be a win for you.
>>702856243
damn anon im sorry that fucking sucks
>>702856001
>where you were born
mediterranean country. will not elaborate further.
>how you were raised
i got no complaints. my parents did a good job.
>>702856243
that sucks, my friend recently broke up with his gf who moved to america from the uk.
>>702856830
then why aren't you happy?
and why where, i guess i meant, like:
>born into poverty
>born into wealth
>born in a shit country
>>702856548
damn i completely butchered that spelling maybe i should try to sleep.
>>702856830
It's not that you have complaints but that the way you were raised along with your natural proclivities and the influence of the local area makes the human more or less. Whatever your expose was might have set unreasonable goals for what life actually is while your parents may have done the modern age thing of not telling you the bad bits about life or letting you make your own bad decisions and dealing with the fallout of such.
If you're parents never punished you for instance or if they never let you go out and do something stupid or if they told you with actual conviction that you could in fact be anything and you actually believed them and you're part of the 99.99% of human beings not capable of that.
I want to feel, but I can't.
I don't remember what it feels like to be happy, nor do I remember the last time I was truely happy.
The highs just doesn't compare.
Maybe tomorrow. Just maybe.
>>702856562
Thing is there's a good 50% chance it wasn't her. I can't be sure
>>702856675
Not really a wi. We don't hate each other. I wouldn't want anything like that to happen to her regardless of her being my ex
>>702856548
i've been preaching this for 4 years now man, i learned that lesson the hard way. at least it only took me a few weeks for LDR to realize it wasn't gonna work instead of doing it for years and getting fucked over. that's always been my approach anyway with girls, if they're not into me i don't even bother. its just hard when you fuck girls way hotter than your ex and you still feel like an empty trash can on the inside lol.
>>702856785
thanks man
>>702857005
born into middle class. semi-shit tier country.
i don't know why i'm unhappy anon. if i knew that, i wouldn't be whining and bitching about it on an anonymous image board. at least i like to think that i wouldn't.
>>702857220
you're cool anon. and about the empty trash can, i've felt like that for as long as i cn remember and i never had my heart broken. at least yours used to be full. maybe it can be again.
best of luck anon
>>702849301
Here's some more of the convo.
fucking hate myself
how could i let this happen
i think video games did actually ruin me. was way too easy of a past time. didn't socialize as much as i should've as a kid. i feel handicapped.
>>702857207
>>>702856562 (You) #
>Thing is there's a good 50% chance it wasn't her. I can't be sure
If it is her, she'll know who/when. If it isn't, it's spam.
>>702858424
It's not there anymore so I couldn't link it. Best I could do is explain the pic to her
>>702857636
ah the old "tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all"
its true though, i wouldn't trade those good years of memories for anything.
>>702857796
for one, get this in your head: you didn't let anything happen. you made it happen.
let the girl go. it's unhealthy for both of you.
>>702858679
can't i fix it?
>>702858659
>the old "tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all"
the grass is always greener on the side other side of the fence i guess
>>702845607
its like a fucked up episode of FRIENDS.
>>702858882
No.
>>702858882
i don't know man. can you? do even you really want to? do you think it's worth the effort? do you want to risk putting her through the shit she's going through atm once again if you don't succeed?
i'm not asking these to be judgemental. just try to honestly answer these to yourself. i think it might help you decide how to proceed.
>>702858882
>>702859355
tbh, no i don't think you can. you can try anyways though if you really want to.
>>702859355
>can you?
I can try right?
>do i want to?
Yeah, i want to hold onto for a little longer, and prove to myself that i'm not a complete asshole.
>worth?
Yeah, she's amazing and deserves better. But i'm determined to fix it.
>would i risk hurting her again?
yeah. i don't intend for this to happen again.
Can I get any advice please?
I've been liking this girl for about 3 years now, i met her in PE, she is the prettiest most perfect girl in the world, she has guys all over her, i started talking to her and automatically hit it off with same music interest, i ngl, im an ugly kid, but she doesnt seem to care, we start to build a friendship, she dates other guys and i cant look at any other girl, this one is too perfect, i start doing little shit for her, i buy her tx to her favorite band, i take her to an amusment park, i take her to see other concerts, i will at times give her money for no good reason, ill give her like $50-$100 (i know it aint shit but thats a fuckton if you are a broke 16y/o with desires), as bad as it sounds, its not that sad, she probably used me, but it payed off, she would spend nights on the phone with me and we would talk a lot and she would become one of my closest friends and I one of hers, she would tell me shit no one ever knew about her, and i never told her how i felt about her, until one day, i decided fuck it, i sent her the usual message every dumbass sends, of course get shut down, fuck it move on, she starts dating this guy, guy leaves for navy training or some shit like that, she asks me to go to Homecoming with her, fuckyeah.jpg, go to HC with her, it was whatever, at this time i didnt have any classes with her, it helped me move on of her rejection, second semester change some classes, then i have her in 1 class, everyday we talk without stopping, barely pass class i was so distracted from her, finish the rest of Junior year, beginning for Senior year <right now> she breaks it off with her BF of over a year, she calls me, we start talking on phone like we used to, sleep till like 2 on phone with her every night, she tells me how she doesnt have many realy friends but only a small circle of 4 (including myself) she also tells me how she fucked a guy older than her, then how she regrets it since he didnt show any interest after...
>>702843293
She's fucking someone else dude. All of them. She's out right now taking all the dicks that aren't yours and not even thinking about you. At all.
You probably wont ever forget her, guys aren't soulless monsters like women, but you can get over her.
Go and fuck someone else. Anyone. That chubby gamer chick that smells like cheetos or the flat chested nerd at the library, fuck it just bone someone that's not her and let the feels dissolve.
Get over her.
>>702860076
she complains to me about how she doesnt have a BF, it gets kinda akward when she says that, and shes also inviting me to Homecomin this year, i want to be something with her, but i also know that she doesnt want anything with me but to be friends, so fuck it, i cant do anything about it, but im starting to feel depressed from it again, what do /b/ advice plz, BTW I AM 18 NOW so plz dont fucking ban me
>>702859962
>yeah. i don't intend for this to happen again.
what, you mean to say you did intend for it to happen the last 2 times?
jesus fuck man, wake up and look at reality. this isn't an issue that is fixable overnight.
>>702843293
>>702843293
>>702843960
>cue the weeb music
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mAH7CLUmvhE
>>702860076
>>giving a girl straight up cash for no fucking reason
yeah no shit she used you. why do you think she came right back to you right after she broke up with her navy boyfriend?
>her phone is on a table, can see the screen
>decide to text her
>her phone lights up
>contact name for me is "Babe? <3"
>do nothing, remain friends
i'm a cunt.
>be me, 18.
>new Christmas job
>meet him, let's call him Bob.
>blonde curly hair, green eyes and just a little taller than me, about 160cm.
>the way that the light bounced off onto his complexion is angel - like. I'll never forget
>I liked him so much
>he'd drop me off home after shifts together
>gave him chocolates to say thank you.
>he didn't like me back.
>post Christmas, started to get over him
>then he asks me out on a date.
>fucking comes out of nowhere. I accepted
>went to the city to watch the last hobbit movie
>eats out at a ramen place, he makes a rose out of a napkin
>head over heels for this guy
>we held hands during the date - being asian, a really big thing but not really for you white folk.
>we make out in his car.
>parents are sus - they don't like relationships and are pretty strict
>cont.?
>>702860603
idk man, i ddint fel used until later, yeah i know its fucking retarded, but hse never asks for money, i would give it to her to cheer her up n shit, but yrah i know how retarded it sounds
>>702860076
>Slept with a guy already
Yeah shouldn't be whimpering like a little puppy dog after that, if anything you should be pissed that she would do something so stupid. If she isn't willing to have some self control then she isn't worth the time.
Quit with the whiny wall of text, you don't advice over something that should be natural in the first place. If she want to use you as her comfort zone beta orbiter then stop talking to her, or else make yourself clear that you aren't looking for a just friends relationship. I know you're only 18 but fuck off with this kid shit
>>702860476
the other times were for different reasons..
>shit excuse i know, but the first time it was cause she had a panic attack and because i didn't run out to her, (couldn't drive then and its an hour walk) at 1am, apparently i wasn't taking the relationship seriously.
The second time was because i was treating her "like a friend" and not a girlfriend.
And i know it can't be an overnight fix. I just want her to stay with me so i can show her how much i really care.
>>702861115
>I just want her to stay with me to show her that I really care
Maybe the problem is that you really shouldn't care in the first place.
>>702860824
if you and your company alone isn't enough to cheer her up then you're fucked. sorry to be blunt but you seem like you're trying to convince yourself there's a possibility of her falling for you and it looks to be pretty evident that she never will. honestly if you need to prove it to yourself, go for broke. take her to homecoming again. flowers, nice suit, the whole fucking thing. be an amazing date, and take her to a party or something after. make a move. if she rejects you, you'll know for sure and you can move on.
>>702861302
what do you mean?
>>702861072
Aight, thanks, yeah i know i sound like a little bitch, sorry
>>702861352
>>702861352
I asked some friends (girls) about it when she turned for me when she left her BF, they said she might just look to me for comfort, but ty for advice
>>702861373
Drift apart, go your separate ways, grow up. Youngfags always place women on a pedestal when they lack self esteem. Instead of relying on a women to make yourself feel competent, you need to find a way to be competent without a women. She knows you lack this part of yourself just as much as you do.
>>702860076
> i will at times give her money for no good reason
i've incuded a useful illustration filled with great advice
>>702861480
>sorry
Don't be sorry, just keep you head clear and focused. Its the best thing to do.
Tfw I can never relate to these threads because I've never been in love but at this point its too late anyway.
I think i have depression. Im always pissed off or bummed always down pretty much. It started in april when my friend shot herself and was down for awhile still miss her. I got better got new friends. My two best friends both lied to me. One used me to fuck the other cause she caught feelings and the other lied to me so i wouldnt know. Then she realized he only wanted to fuck her. Havnt told anyone how i feel what they did cause he has a girl friend. Those plus family issues tears me apart.
>>702862025
lmao, yeah i know, i deserve this
>>702860824
You're still a child so I can't expect you to see this: you're her emotional cushion. She keeps you on her leash and she keeps you close. Of course she doesn't ASK for money cause she knows you'll just hand it to her without the asking. She won't ask cause that raises suspicion. She does everything she can to keep you at hand so she can depend on you emotionally without the attachment and you PAY HER FOR IT.
Break it off if she doesn't commit and do it cold turkey.
Again because you're you won't get this but there is ALWAYS another "The One" somewhere waiting to be found you just have to find them and you have your whole life to find The One that actually fits.
>>702862339
Emotional stress. Don't worry it'll pass if you pull back from shit that causes it.
>>702862434
Thanks for the advice, ill probably do that after Homecoming honestly, im tired of feeling used and it makes me feel like shit
I told her exactly how I feel about her, and she told me exactly how she feels about me. Now we're friends.
I hate it but I still hang out with her all the time, I tell myself we could be something eventually but I know it won't. I hate thinking about her so much
>>702862742
You are probably right. I just feel like shit because of it all
>>702862742
Same dude that just replied and she wants to call ne about something important
>>702861115
> I just want her to stay with me so i can show her how much i really care.
sounds to me that you pretty much want to masturbate in her face and say "ugh look how wrong you were about me you bitch, look. i do care". if you really did care you would have said "i want to stay with her because i care about her"
>b-b-but anon that's what i meant
no you didn't
just let it go mate. it will be better for you in the long run.
>>702849301
>>702844183
>>702844037
>>702843293
>>702854169
>>702857796
I'm sorry anons, I wish I could say that it gets easier sooner, but it takes a long time to feel better again.
Pic related, sent this to my ex two weeks ago. I really saw a future with her too.
I know this isn't the advice that you guys want, but you have to let go before it starts to feel better.
Dropped the girl after 3.5yrs, 2.5yrs of it spent in romantic relationship. First for everything for both of us. Finally after us being broken up but still best friends for a year she got a boyfriend. Dropped her a week later since I clearly wasn't as important in her life as she was in my life.
Did I do it right? It still hurts a month later. I've gone to some parties with my brother which I've never done, also got drunk for the first time in the last month too. Worst part is she still wants me, I told her I don't miss her and to message me in a month and the 15th can't come soon enough.
I read this shit. It makes me sick. Knock it off.
>>702853819
YOU LOST A LEG AND ARE STILL GOING
BRUH YOU STRONG AS FUCK KEEP IT UP
I'll post 1 more since there are actually people participating in this thread. I'm the study abroad anon.
>>out at the bar one friday night at college
>>see friend's ex, been single ~6 months now
>>i got to just casually say hi, turns into us hanging all night
>>we have so much fucking fun, stealing drinks from the bartenders (crowded college bar) and gossiping like bitches
>>last call is like 30 minutes away
>>she just leans in and kisses me, catching me totally off guard
>>we kiss for a minute, she excuses herself to go to the bathroom, i do the same
>>we meet back up, i go to kiss her again
>>she says "we can't do this here, too many people we know" (remember she dated my friend for years)
>>I go for broke, "well then lets go back to your place"
>>holy shit it worked
>>take uber home, make out the whole drive back
>>get to her house, make drunk grilled cheese
>>start to hook up in her living room, she's an aggressive kisser
>>pulling hair, tearing off clothes
>>i've got my hands in her pants (leather leggings holy shit)
>>so drunk at this point i brown out
>>faint memory of going into bed with her
>>wake up the next day in only underwear in bed w her
>>i feel fucking amazing, she's def the hottest girl i had ever been with at that point in my life
>>she drives me home
>>as i'm getting out of the car she says kinda jokingly "well that was fun" (it was a little awkward the next day due to me being good friends w her ex bf)
>>i reply "we should do that again sometime then"
>>we both kinda awkwardly laugh and she drives away
>>had one other similar encounter with her a couple months later
>>we talk every day, i def want to date her but i seriously doubt she would ever date me
At least I got to see what she was like a couple times and I can notch it on my belt as a fun random hookup instead of the usual crushing heartbreak, but my god I would do just about anything to take that girl out to a nice fucking dinner and impress the shit out of her.
>>702843293
I fucking love feels threads. All the poor dumb cunts pining on about some random cunt who never noticed them/walked away from them
>HURR DURR I'M 13 BUT I'VE FULLY EXPERIENCED LIFE KILL ME NOW
Fucking go outside or something, Jesus, one round of drinks with friends and you'll forget all about it, fuck
>>702863658
related
>>702863658
>>702864283
Why did you break up with her, anon?
>>702863658
actually what. you broke with her, but remained best friends? and then you stopped being best friends with her because she got a boyfriend?
but turns out she still wants you? and you told her to message you in a month and you actually expect her to message you as soon as the month is up?
am i getting all this right?
>>702864283
I am compassionate with her feeling
>>702864559
It's a kinda weird situation, yeah. We were together for two and a half years, high school sweethearts. Suddenly in July last year I suddenly lost my romantic feelings for her. She stayed and "waited" for me. After a year she suddenly found a boyfriend. I didn't feel important to her anymore so I decided to dump her but she still wants me to stay. I can't stop thinking about her but there's no way I'm willing to put time into her if I'm not important in her life like before, I guess.
I fully expect that she'll message me, honestly. If she doesn't though, I won't be messaging her though. I'm not willing to just tell her to stop messaging or whatever but if she puts me in a position where me simply restraining myself from acting will let me, I'll take it.
I put myself in a situation where she was my only person in my life really. I had one other great friend but she messaged me 10 months ago saying to never message her again- she'd gotten into a polyamorous relationship and was moving to Texas from here in Canada. So me losing Chelsea now is pretty rough since I'm basically alone in the world apart from family. Never made friends in high school because I was too busy being in a relationship...
>>702864682
Same.
>>702865231
>>702865231
>Suddenly in July last year I suddenly lost my romantic feelings for her. She stayed and "waited" for me.
To clarify we stayed very close friends in this time, first in each other's lives, still had sex. Just no romantic stuff really. I don't know why I lost those feelings, I just did.
Anyone have that photo of the iMessage that reads
"I wish I could find someone like you"
"I mean.. There's me"
"LOL"
"Haha yeah"
>>702865231
nigger, stop playing hard to get. you obviously still want her despite somehow managing to convince yourself you don't. just go fuck her and make up.
>>702865384
I'm so socially inept.
Every time someone asks for my number I hope they never text me.
I get anxious when just thinking about getting invited somewhere.
In a sense, I want friends, but maybe it's best for me not having any.
>>702865630
hey at least people ask you for your number. that's more than i can say
>>702865761
I force myself to be extroverted but it leaves me feeling like shit and wanting to throw up.
So if you're willing to feel like ass for social interaction then just force it.
>>702865231
Holy shit, dude. She's playing you.
She's trying to make you jealous with him, and it's totally working.
>>702865630
I get that. I got new clothes and a new haircut and I want to go out 'cause this is my weekend, but I have no friends to go out with and even if I did would probably be too scared. I'm super bored, lonely, anxious, and depressed, and this is my average weekend.
Netflix and fapping is getting boring, okcupid is fruitless, and I can't go to a bar alone or I would die. How do you break this cycle?
>>702865553
I mean, I tried to recommit to her once she told me. I sorta knew what was going on, knew it would happen. I talked to her about it and she said it was all good fun, just coffee. By the end of it he had asked her on a date.
I immediately told her I wasn't happy with it, she kinda blew it off. I tried to recommit with her after their coffee thing, she wouldn't accept it though. She's obviously moved on, and clearly I hadn't in reality. I was comfortable having her with me like that.
I figured the best thing from there was to remove her from my life rather than become some orbiter or something. I'm just not sure it's right yet, I guess. It's a lot, I'm pretty introverted and I'm happy just having a person or two. I've lost all my people though so I'm feeling pretty lost and lonely at the moment.
>>702866214
Well, for all the jealousy she's making she's not making a lot of getting back together when I try.
>>702866323
If you muster up enough courage to ask some friends to hang out, hopefully enough of that will become normal and not leaving that disgusting feeling in your stomach.
It hasn't worked for me so far but I'm only one person. My psychiatrist even says I need more friends, more sleep, and to eat more.
I never listen but it's worth a shot.
im a semi decent looking guy that has no fucking confidence any tips?
>>702867110
obtain confidence
>>702867110
Man up.
this was my weekend
>book posh restaurant with gf
>she has just recently come back from ibiza so want to see her and have good night out
>tells me shes excited on friday
>tells me to cancel on saturday and that she wants to go to the pub instead
>when she finishes work on saturday she asks me to come but heavily hints she wants me to go somewhere else
>i stay home, she goes out with work
>get call, meet me in the pub my friends gone home
>go to wetherspoons (pub)
>shes late and drunk
>give her cocaine and take some
>she tells me "everyone in this pub fancies me look how they all stare"
>then spends the next hour and a half ignoring me and talking to 5 groups of guys
>putting her leg on the table and flirting hard
>after ages i tell her i want to go
>she says i should go and get food and she stays there
>tell her thats bullshit and im leaving she ignores me
>leave, cant sleep
>6am she comes on fb
>went to music festival with a group from the pub
>tell her im angry and that i felt like shit
>she apologises and goes to sleep
>cant leave it, tell her i feel like im drifitng away and ask her if she still likes me
>she wakes up and replies maybe its not working
>take it badly, tell her its done then
>sleep
>wake up at 11 feel depressed
>send 8 shitty texts to her instead of going to see her and talk face to face
>block her
>smoke a spliff
>head cleared, maybe i overreacted
>apologise but she wont talk to me
>"its done, i dont want to be harsh but i guess i have to"
havent slept a full night since saturday i fucked it up big time
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-cjpOWyjcU&ab_channel=Sparky
Listen to this. A nice feel good song, anons.
>>702867814
I think this song is much better for the mood
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=coBm1GyUp58
>>702867588
wasn't your fault, man.
imo, she seems like she just wanted benefits from you,
keep this thread alive boys
i'm feeling the feels
>>702867588
I woulda done the same thing.
keep it comin
>>702860785
>>702860785
more
>>702866608
I feel like leaving her was the only choice in the end but it hurts so badly still. In the time before I really cut communication, as much as I was able to, I couldn't do anything. I just wandered around my house, or laid in bed. I did work that was handed to me but couldn't do anything more which is kinda a big deal if you're self employed. Couldn't focus on anything. I'm still feeling that way a bit but now the loneliness is setting in more than anything. I spent so much time with her, hours a day talking via text or in person.
I simply have nobody or anything to fill that time with.
>>702843293
>>702844183
>>702849301
depression anyone?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQEcfpOlb-Y
So me and this girl got into an argument. We texted, and then she asked for some space. We used to snapchat everyday, but for the past two days it's been quiet.
Should I snapchat her, or should I still give her space?
This was a sad death. Imo the saddest death in anime.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vkqiC4KPeDs&vidve=5727&autoplay=1
She's one of the most lovely, caring people I've ever met.
But some days I just dont love her. We've been together for 3 years.
I cheated once. 1 year after it happened the guilt got to me and I told her. She eventually forgave. I really think she'd do anything for me.
I'm such a mediocre person, but for some reason the world decided to grant me a winning lottery ticket in the form of this adorable girl who'd go to the ends of the Earth for me.
Most days I'm ecstatic about the fact that we're together, that she's mine and I'm hers.
Other days I really dont feel anything towards her. She deserves so much better and I wish she knew she deserved so much better.
God I hate myself.
>>702868937
I would have done it, too. She fucked it up, not you.
>>702869627
Meant to include this pic. Idk, just completes what I'm thinking I guess
>>702869450
I'd say don't contact her unless she contacts you. If she really wants you she'll come back. The ball is in her court, don't walk over to her side of the court just to get the ball and serve it again, so to speak.
>>702869801
Well, she didn't really ask for space. But she said she doesn't want to talk about what happened. I said I would let her breathe, because apparently everyone was arguing with her about what I did, which was just me calling her out on how she acted.
>>17539999
Here's the story.
Am I fucking up /b/?
>>702870372
Forgot to add comment, It is worth the read.
>>702869450
space I believe, but do as you please
>>702868340
>>702868937
i know what she did was bad but shes not normally like that. i think she just wanted to socialise after her holiday.. i felt like an idiot and that we should have just had an argument and left it at that.
i just think if i hadnt have sent her loads of texts on sunday she would have felt really bad and come and seen me to apologise. i couldnt stop myself though
>>702870528
I know I should lurk moar, but I forgot how to link from another board .-.
>>>/adv/17539999
>>702870528
>>702870665
I may be wrong here, but it sounds like youre making excuses for her.
>>702867588
naw man she fucked up. it was over regardless of what you did. also, going to talk to her doesnt usually work. its fucked but in this age, texts are the easiest and best way of getting dumped.
source: life experience
>>702870665
I think you just say fuck her and move on
I passed the point of missing her, now I just feel nothing at all, about anything
she's sweet and all, and I was a jackass, I don't knowhow she still tries to be my friend and says she cares about me, even now that I'm being so cold and uninterested
I wish I could at least miss her
I care about him a lot. Too much, I feel like, but he's great. I mean, he's a regular guy overall, he makes stupid jokes and complains about work and has certain subjects he's really knowledgeable on. He treats me so well, though, that it feels strange and wonderful.
I'm afraid that, over time, I'm going to fall in love with him. I don't think I'll ever have the courage to ask him to commit to me in some way, because I'll want him to be with someone who's perfect. I'll always feel an aching kind of guilt when I somehow disappoint him or can't bring myself to talk to him about something.
> date on and off for 3 years
>finally end it she moves away to nyc i stay in college for 1 more year (im a year younger)
>im crushed, only girl ive ever cared for, took my v card
>never see each other, move on... mostly... at least i'm numb
>self sabotage relationships because i feel nothing
>2 years later november 2015
> she texts me
>you r amazing
>i fucked up
>im sorry for how hurt you
>you deserve apology
>i dont deserve you
>"you deserve an apology and all the best i could never give you"
this line absolutely killed me
>>702847355
You faggot and you Jew god is faggot you fucking homosexual, they don't allow queer in the miliatry so i dont know why ,you talking about thearmy you gay man
Anyone else use dry dark humor and ironic sarcasm to hide the fact that they are dead inside? What does it take to feel agian ?
>>702871977
>huge spike of depression. initiial reaction is to curse her to hell
>want to tell her how fucked i am
>want to tell her how i cant seem to feel anymore
>want to tell her ill never forgive her.
>want to tell her she knew what she was doing to me, but did it anyway. didnt care the damage she knew she was doing.
>>702852926
wow... I feel so fuckin bad for the amount of shit Karma is gunna drop on that girl
>>702872327
>dont respond for 2 days, snappy responses were part of what damaged my previous relationships with her.
>decide to ultimately tell her its ok, forgive her, i hold no grudge
>give her the peace of mind she wants
>further damage myself doing so, basically sacrificed my damaged emotions so she could move on.
.in grad school, surrounded by beatiful women. keep to myself getting violent tattoos and probably just seeming like a fucking weirdo
why did she text me again after years of radio silence? was the guilt she felt that extreme? should also mention she told me she loved me then disapeared 2 weeks later from mylife the last time we dated.
>>702871555
>>702871475
>>702870993
cheers lads i need to hear all this cant get her off my mind. Keep dreaming about her and waking up and remembering its over.
i think i am making excuses because i know she can be so grown up but when she drinks she just reverts back to acting like a fucking child. i just need to accept that she wasnt as into it as i was. insomnia not helping much though
>>702872789
gl, anon
>>702860391
MODS PLS FUCK THIS KID
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kuCmEjpY2HY
"You know it's fucked when the pain feels nice'
>>702863726
Hope your friend finds out and fucks you up
>>702861373
I don't know if I am too late or not but I will give you some advice. I have yet to see any other man on here with good advice, everyone seems to be so pussy.
What you are doing wrong is that you are being a little bitch, you don't act like a man, and what she wants biologically is a man who can lead. You're probably boring her too and not being very interesting. Do you ever take her out of her house and let her experience new things? When she tells you emotional problems do you try to fix it? That is a sure fire way to lose her, a man will listen to her problems, acknowledge them and move the fuck on and take action. Instead of telling her "I will change" show her that you will change. When you are always waiting or wanting some kind of approval it makes you an approval seeking bitch and not only do you dry up her vagina with that attitude, you also repel her.
I am telling you, if you change overnight and do not seek for approval, take action and give her experiences that only you can provide(by being original) she will be surprised and she can't give approval, but more importantly she will feel more happy. Don't be discouraged if she doesn't respond well, keep going, even if it takes weeks you need to show that you can do this.
Do you possess any of these qualities? Humor, cooking skill, lots of money, handsome or influential. Focus on one of these at least and perfect it, girls need a man who can take care of them. Well these are the deciding pillars. Make her tummy happy, make her laugh, make her feel wealthy, make her feel lust or make her feel lucky.
Look buddy, girls are fucking stupid, they think too much and if you go down the same hole as them, you won't be a winner. That's why you need to be a man.
Learn from your mistakes but do not admit to them except to yourself, do not act sad, do not cry openly, do not conform to someones standards, be confident and take her on the adventure of a lifetime.
I speak from experience, act now, trust me.
>>702860391
3 years? No chance until you man the fuck up.
If she didn't chase you it's not worth it anyways.
You must ask her out on a date, not as friends.
You must tell her how you feel about her, no bullshit.
>>702866608
Making you jealous doesn't mean that she wants to get back together, dude.
>>702850591
Always.
>>702850082
It happens to me a lot. I learned long ago that it's better for everyone's sake to just suppress what I'm feeling until I can't not baww anymore.
It's not that people don't care but that, like you said, they just don't understand. If good intentions made a difference, my life would be so much easier.
I just wait and wait until it's no longer an option, and I come here to find a baww thread and talk to my /b/rothers. I feel like you anons always understand. If not the details, then the pain. You are my heroes.
>>702864007
Love that game
>>702870528
DON'T RESPOND TO IT, IT'S A SHIT TEST AND IF YOU FAIL YOU LOSE HER.
Acknowledge it in sort of a mocking way like "meh" don't ride the rollercoaster with her. Don't let her steer the drama. Let her know she doesn't control or affect your feelings and that you don't give a fuck about her mind games.
anyone have the greentext where anon's sister learns self defense and kicks anon in the nuts leading to some incest
>>702843293
only last month the police found the two guys who beat my friend to death ( he died 3 years ago ) so i'm not sure what to feel... happy because they finally got caught and jailed or sad because i miss the cunt.
>>702875861
Thanks for the reply, anon.
We talked it out. We're going to stay friends, but keep our distance regarding romantic things in our lives. I pretty much said I don't want to be a beta orbiter cuckold, and she agreed and apologized if it seemed like she was going to lead me on with the whole 'not together, but not broken up thing'.
>>702877324
Noooooooooo!! Do not stay friends, not only will she feel like it's an acceptable thing to do to the next guy but you will also make her see you as an option. You need to completely cut off ties, she will either chase you or let you go, if she chases you it means she saw you as an option while she shops other guys like a break. If she doesn't it is over. Give yourself closure while you still can, if you keep being a friend you will end up miserable. Be a man, there is other girls and a man doesn't need female friends that you have been intimate with, man up and move on.
>>702847010
Hang yourself you colossal faggot
>>702845607
This... this can't be fucking real, are you fucking with me?
I still remember how pitifully she cried when I broke up with her. My little sweetheart. She lay next to me in my bed. Her, half a planet away from home. She could not go anywhere, she couldn't go home, and I couldn't just throw her out in the streets. We lay there together in the abyss of our torment.
She cried uncontrollably, every sob, every whimper, forever boring deeper into my soul. Like the ghostly voice of a child I had just killed. Every moment making me want to escape the room, the house, the country, the planet, the everything.
The root of my anguish being that the girl I broke up with and the girl I fell in love with were the same, but it was the girl she was in between I couldn't stand to be around anymore. It was as if a demon had killed her and invaded her body, to tortured me. In my mind I'm reminded of how she would complain and accuse, the faces she would make when I didn't get everything just right. Yet all I wanted to see was her smile. However I came to realize that it would by my words that the light in her eyes would be snuffed out.
I can still remember how I would meet her half way between the train station and my dorm when we first started dating. The snow would fall from the dark sky, and we'd be so happy when we saw each other. The kisses and the laughter, how she grasped my arm as we walked together, it still torments me to this day. Not a day goes by without thinking about her; without mourning her.
To this day, walking along on a snowy night, it is almost as if I can see her come towards me. And my heart jumps, right before it dies yet again.
>>702869627
I've felt that way before and it really doesn't matter if she deserves something better or if you are not what you think she needs. Just enjoy the ride while it lasts i guess... you never know if you'll ever have it again
>>702852926
She just wants attention without any commitment, don't talk to her ever again, she'll just suck you dry until she finds someone else.
You guys seem to have good advice, so...
>is schizoaffective, bipolar type(basically paranoid schizophrenic with rapid-cycling mood swings)
>has congenital heart problems and only one good kidney due to an ex stabbing me
>medication used to control psychotic symptoms affects health due to kidneys and extremely high blood pressure
I can't make relationships anymore, because when people find out everything, they give up on me. They're afraid to be close to someone they know they're going to lose soon, it seems.. What should I do?
>>702854193
I do anon, do they know you have Aspergers? Maybe explain that you might not understand why they are upset and you care but it's hard to always understand.
>>702860785
Where's the rest, you son of a bitch?
All within the last month
>broke up with the girl i love cause it didnt work out, she refuses to have any contact with me even though shes stil friends wither her abusive ex
>long distance best friend of 5 years completelY fucks me off, is bitchy too me and blocks me on everything with no reasoning
>realise im not doing what i want in college but cant get out of it
>drinking problems and depression come back
Crybaby beta thread where permavirgin faggots cry about their fake depressions and how hard it is to get a girl talk to them because they are a social retard thread? No thanks.
>>702878717
>>702845607
Apparently it's fiction, something doesn't match up with the story when one of the obituaries for anon's GF (supposedly Nicole Carol Miller) state:
>Miller made an impulsive decision to fly to the East Coast to vacation with a friend. The couple toured Manhattan landmarks and New Jersey boardwalks and beaches before boarding separate flights to return home. A thunderstorm on the evening of September 10 forced Miller to re-schedule her flight to the next morning.
If it is true, I hope anon found peace, especially with the 15th anniversary coming around.
I've got a story I need to get off my chest, but don't know who to tell without feeling like a piece of shit.
>be me
>21
>move away from home because I wanted to experience life on my own
>too lazy to talk to my family because it's always the same conversation
>months go by
>mom calls to tell me my dad is in the hospital in a diabetic coma
>ends up passing because of complications
>go home and visit a few days
>come back because I have a job and shit
>next morning I am going through my drawer looking for my work clothes
>I find the first dress socks my dad let me borrow for my 8th grade graduation
>kept those socks all throughout high school and used them every nice occasion I went to
>first dates, school get togethers, job interviews
>realize I never got to thank him enough for everything he did for me
>I end up calling in to work and crying like a baby in my room the whole day
>>702880128
This. Seriously you pussies need to get off my planet.
>>702847010
hang in there bro :)
>>702880128
Neck yourself, Yousef.
>>702845607
She probably banged someone in France anyway.
>>702853549
Thank you, the nickname she gave me will always follow me
>>702880876
Cry more bitch, your tears are delicious.
>>702880586
Sorry for your loss, anon.
I think your father wouldn't pass away with negativity towards you, and I hope you find peace in that.
Fuck. I think I love her
