its going fucking shit. I got the girl i thought i wanted only to realise i didnt want her. Turned out to be super clingy and needy, both traits i thought would be attractive but yea nah, that shits not fun man. SO i left her in june, and now she has a new boyfriend, a guy i went to school with. Well, atleast i know i got there first. Oh, and the fact that her boyfriend will be kissing the same lips that have been wrapped around my meat pipe. lel
Better than another days, I'm sorry for my poor english, I'm living with a Ucranian Girl and a Chinesse girl, The chink bring us his boyfriend, and I'm stoned and drunked while they do every shit in his room, And at least this is better than live with my parents
>>702562136 failed all my exams before summer. I use to work for the petroleum industry and I really miss work. there is no jobs there now but. I was not cut out for the lack of structure studying is. Im thinking of becoming an electrician tho.
Laying in bed, pretending I don't need to get up in 5 hours time for a job I feel useless at, even though I know my job takes a long time to become experienced in, i.e. A lot of men have been there 20+ years
Not too bad, I'm getting sick of how things are right now though. I'm thinking about doing a cross country road trip on my own and going home so I can spend some time with my friends before I join the military. Anyone ever done this before?
>>702563266 No. I don't have to much student debt. so i might start back at it in a year or two. and you uni is not the only way to get a good life. in my country we have a problem with to much education. they cal it "the Masters syndrome" or something ther are more engineers then engineering jobs. and not euf electricians and plumbers and similar. jobs that cant bee outsourced.
>>702560428 It's only the 4th and I'm already down to just $280 for the month. >Still have 10 lbs to go to reach my goal weight. >Have almost memorized all of China's provinces and their capital cities. >It sounds like someone's blasting music outside my window, but I can't find the source. >bored out of my mind most days; thinking about selling plasma so I can buy a PS4 or Xbox One >Kind of regret signing up for this year's JLPT >kind of want to focus on learning Mandarin and Korean instead >Might watch a North Korean film later
>>702563050 its shit because i still like her, but she has a mental illness. I know thats not a reason to leave somebody, but after spending the first 10 years of my life caring for my mentally ill mother and haveing a schizophrenic father, i dont want to end up caring for a partner. Life, man.
>>702563889 It's not that I don't enjoy my job, it's that I feel pressured to be great at it quickly when really the men who pressure me have worked their entire lives in this one place, so naturally they'll be good at it. I'm probably just putting myself down. Thanks for the reply anon
>>702564346 Jesus..you don't want this guy in your group text. calm down dude. whit insecurities like that do you think you'll get true the psych eval to go in to the military. good luck you'll need it.
OP, Things are great here actually. I am 48. Americunt. Married. love my wife. Oldest kid just made Eagle Scout youngest kid is lead TV news guy at his school. I nearly died a few years ago and am happy to be alive. Plus have a good job and a cool boss and am respected and well known in my crappy town for my work. My gaming skills suck as I get older but I really can't complain. Thanks for asking. I hope things are good with you.
48 year old here again. I love coming to 4chan but I worry so much about you younger guys. You are so lucky to be young (trust me you get old fast) So many people have no hope and are so worried but you can change your life. And in fact ONLY you can change your life.
Plus life is short enjoy it and tell your mother you love her!
I feel shitty as fuck... The thing that depresses me most is that my girlfriend is currently in Australia (I live in Germany) and that she will stay there till next February. Than there's the thing that my studies are totally not what I expected. Soon, I think I will begin my 3rd semester of Music Science at an University, but the only reason I continue is that I dont have anything better to do. And lastly, do not have a good band or anything that is good enough to archieve my dream, becoming a professional musician. And everything I do now is drinkin, writing bad songs and doing nothing but drowning in my own self-pity...
Recently (actually earlier today) I cut off all contact with a group of people I've been "friends" with for about 5 years. I decided I needed to end my relationships with them because I felt like I wasn't being respected or treated like a friend. I have a reputation for being a sort of protector of these guys. Through 8th grade until now (I'm a high school senior) I defended these guys from bullies and other assholes looking to pick on them. They're all kinda weak and squeamish. I felt like I was doing the right thing. I also became really attracted to a girl in this group of friends. However she started going out with another guy in this group, who knows I like her. I felt betrayed. It also came to my attention that absolutely none of these people show any interest in me, whatsoever. Any time i talk about myself (which I do very rarely) I get zero response. It's not like they don't talk about themselves either. I enjoy hearing about their lives and what they're doing and how they're feeling. So for these reasons, I've decided to stop talking to them. I feel like a part of me just died. As cheesy as it sounds, I actually loved these guys. i felt like they're the only friends I've ever made, but they don't give a shit about me. I feel heartbroken. Idk what I'm going to do now.
Old guy here again. Anon, don't worry. Friends come and go. You are a senior and your life is about to change in way that you have no idea how severe these changes will be. You need to worry about yourself.
The part you won't like is that it won't last with you & this girl. It never does when your this age, sorry.
You have your whole life ahead of you do something great with it.
The girl I was in love with just fucking confessed to me, I've never before been as happy in this miserable shitfest I call a life as I am right now. We'really actually going out, like, fucking Hell, never thought I'd actally get this far... Quite honestly, I'm feeling like pic related
>>702571639 Thank you for the advice. I know that a relationship between me and this girl wouldn't last, high school relationships come and go like raindrops. What I find more upsetting about this situation is that my friend went behind my back and started seeing her after I confessed to him, in confidence, that I'm really interested in this girl. He and I have known each other for almost 6 years, longer than I've known the rest of the group, and he betrayed me for recondite reasons I'll never know.
>>702573342 Thank you, I've been very excitedly looking at colleges to apply to. It seems like a very intimidating environment no matter where I look at though. Maybe I'm just not socially mature enough for college yet.
>>702560428 >Be me >Be 36 >Good job nice cars big house. >In good shape. Alpha as fuck >Not married cuz why? Fuck >plenty of grills on the regular >Be bored at work one day >Start reading greentext >Think its funny >Read it all teh time >Greentext starts to fuck with >my brain. Want to be greentext >Start becoming aspie >Cant talk to my boss or >coworkers anymore because >now im beta aspie lord >Lost job because cant >communicate properly >Lose house cars grills cuz no >money cuz no job >feelsbadman.wav >pic related >Living on the streets >Meet neckbeard who says he >can help >I believe him >He just treats me like a nigger >He makes me get pegged >by a butch lezbo while he >jacks off in the corner >He makes me rub his balls >and squeeze his fat man tits >while he plays CSGO. >He makes me organize his piss >bottles in order of color from >lightest to darkest >Im ok with it though cuz he >gives me tendies and shelter. I think I have Stockholm Syndrome /b/. I love the fat faggot>>702560428
>>702574685 I think what a lot of people don't understand about advice along the lines of "harden the fuck up" is that nobody's telling you your emotions are invalid, just that indulging your emotions isn't going to solve any problems you might be facing. It's counterproductive. You have to just keep moving forward no matter what, because the rest of the world will move on without you.
>>702574699 I'm not from America so I don't how it is, but college in France was pretty hard for me, as I wasn't used at all to the amount of work and responsibilities I had to put up with. Don't worry though, if you have older siblings, try to take their advice, and fucking stick to it.
>>702575400 My AP french teacher went to college in Tours. He's told us the environment in schools there is much different than in the US, the students work a lot harder. However, the sheer volume of information I get inundated with in college emails and from college tours, and the huge amount of responsibility that comes with living on your own has made me think twice about how I'm going to handle the transition from high school to university.
I had the 'love of my life' when I went in to the US Army. I had it all . She was hot & smart and I went to Army helicopter flight school. but it totally fell apart. I wish someone had told me 'watch out' this might happen.
It has been 30 years and I still get the 'feels' for her.
>>702575695 In high school I didn't do shit, because I wasn't interested at all. I thought college would be so cool because I got to choose what I wanted to study. Turns out i just hated school and education in general, so I dropped off and got the equivalent of an IT degree after a year working in a small company. Felt really good to get out of the school system
>>702570818 I help out in my hs library(junior). Girl I went out with(also helps in library) dumped me, then says she liked me coz she was vulnerable. Then later she says she never liked me. now flirts with other guy, right in front me. not gonna go to the library since last Thursday.
Tldr, I know that feel, bro.
Just hide it in sarcasm when you can. I'm gonna throw myself into my school work, left brain can work when right brain is heart broken.
>>702576012 I thought I loved this girl, but I think I was wrong. She's very attractive, light complexion, REALLY smart, well-spoken, she's got a really interesting life (she always has a story to tell), she gets really anxious over small things and as mean as this sounds I find it really cute. Her family is also really nice. But, she never paid a lick of attention to me. I've known this girl for about 5 years and it's not like we rarely talk or anything. We talk and hang out quite a bit. I just don't think she likes me in the same way I like her, and when I first realized that it kinda hurt. At first I thought maybe i was just bad at displaying affection or something, but when I confessed to my friend how I felt, he said it was obvious whenever I spoke to her. Now I think maybe she was just toying with me, and as attractive as she may be, I'm not going to indulge her if she wants to treat me that way.
I certainly hope that 30 years from now I don't long for a girl who played with my emotions.
>>702576534 I feel the same way about school. But, I also acknowledge that I don't think I'll be happy until I have the career I want (I'd like to be a corporate securities attorney.), and that lifestyle requires a lot of education.
>>702577008 That was exactly my response to this situation. Ever since I was in middle school I've used sadness or anger as motivation to do well in school. It may not be the healthiest thing in the world to bottle your emotions, and that's why I come here, but it's certainly useful.
bad, deciding how to sell those mobile subscriptions to make some money. Need to get out of the gutter. My girlfriend just told me she doesn't think it'll work(after 1 year). i am to selfish in her eyes, altough i dont feel that way and think i do close to best i can. does that sound selfish?
>>702579212 It doesn't sound selfish, have you tried asking her to tell you when you're selfish ? Ask her for a second chance, make sure you can both work it out. I'm sure it'll be fine if you're both honest with each other
>>702579441 we are and she is the best. But she keep telling me things are fine and suddenly she complains about me choosing myself over her. she will come around i guess but she sometimes has these moments where she forgets everything that has happened and decides i'm not good for her anymore
>>702580047 Just have one night with her, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you, that you want to do what pleases her. It's not being a beta or a cuck, it's called being a couple. Just listen to her, tell her to be as honest and direct as possible, and it'll be alright.
>>702580091 I was feeling down 2h ago, i cried my eyes out and now i'm better. What about you ?
>>702580047 That sounds like something my ex used to do. It turns out that she has borderline personality disorder. Psychologists have a term for behavior like that in BPD sufferers- it's called "splitting." Google it, see if you can learn about it and consequently learn how to cope. Maybe she has BPD.
>>702581154 My ex had BPD as well. She would flip the fuck out randomly and break up with me, hit me, all sorts of shit. She almost landed me in jail on more than one occasion. The sex was great, but I figured out that I was just never going to be happy or even safe around her. Fuck that.
>>702581680 Yep. The relationship I had with my ex would alternate between two extremes, very rapidly too. We were either having a great time or she was throwing shit and screaming. Needless to say, the stress exceeded what I was getting out of the relationship and I left. She told me she has BPD after the fact.
>>702581680 Exactly. Mine openly admitted to it, I think somebody fought that battle before me and spared me the convincing. This was only like a month ago and I'm just now starting to feel something resembling missing her... I've never been loved so much (when she was normal, anyway) but it was so emotionally abusive that I know I need to stay the hell away.
>>702581947 To make it simple, the girl I love loves me back, but she also loves her bf, whom she met 2 months before me. Yesterday they fought and told me she was thinking about breaking up with him. They fought today again, and I was comforting her through texts, and then she just sent me "It's gonna be ok, thanks :*" without any other explanation. I'm feeling really blue.
>>702560428 Eh been a shitty year. Broke up with my ex of five years a year ago now cause she's going to dental school and with her anxiety it'd be impossible. I did a lot for the both of us so it kinda sucks.
Then within the past five months both of my grandfathers died. That really sucked cause they were both cool guys even if they were old and ready to go.
Then in between that I turned 25 and didn't really want to.
But I'm rolling with the punches for now before I start throwing my own back at life. We'll see how it goes anon
>>702581947 "Splitting is a very common ego defense mechanism. It can be defined as the division or polarization of beliefs, actions, objects, or persons into good and bad by focusing selectively on their positive or negative attributes."
It's going okay, I guess. I am engaged, but I can't open up to people very easily. I hate it, because I have opened up to people before, and I know what I am capable of, but my anxiety holds me back. I should probably see a therapist. I work in the emergency department of the hospital. I only talk to the other staff in the pharmacy mostly, but I am somewhat open with them. I talk the most with patients. Nobody else really listens to them, and I show them compassion and sympathy, when everyone else is just trying to get their job done quickly and efficiently. They usually seem happy to have someone listen to them when their lives, and bodies are in the dumps. I guess that makes me feel good about myself.
I broke up with my ex two years ago. we would hook up every now and then. things were ok. sex but none of the emotional baggage. then we find out she is pregnant. she had missed a few doses of her birth control (found out later) and i didnt have a condom at that time. I step up. I played with fire and got burned. no big deal. I want to be a father. the problem is we hate each other. fights all the time. no say in anything about the baby. i have to go to court just to get it clear i have rights. we have not talked to each other in a month. im missing out on the pregnancy. we dont want to get married. were not even friends. all my other love interests have left me because the child is on the way. even my friends keep their distance. they feel a child is a death sentence. they look at me as if im already dead socially. I feel so alone.
>>702582482 Selfish fag her dont feel like its your or her fault. She might be scared to lose the one thing and fuck up the other. My girl kept me waiting for a long time, i said i would wait for her eventough she had a boyfriend who cheated on her. She eventually had enough of him had came to me. She always told me she was as happy as she has ever been, and now she tells me about the problems she thinks we have. hope this passes on, kinda need her to continue in life
Pretty shit for me. I'm stuck living with my dad because my dumbass got held back in high school freshman year and senior year is kicking my ass. My dad is a huge alcoholic and since he is disabled we are living off of social security benefits. Well, my dad can't handle money cause all he'll do is use it for alcohol, so I keep it in my bank account. What do I do with it? Buy shit I don't need. We get 729 a month, 300 of which was spent on his alcohol and groceries, over 400 was spent on merchandise and games, and we don't get paid again till next Wednesday and when my drunk dad found out what I had spent it all on he kicked me out so now I'm staying at a park in my car with a quarter tank of gas. I turn 19 in less than 3 weeks and I fucked up so bad and my birthday will be spent in my car most likely. I didn't realize I had fucked up so bad until I realized all our money was gone. It doesn't help that I live in a small ass town where nobody is hiring because everyone already has the few jobs that are never open except for when a blue moon comes and one person leaves or gets fired.
>>702565215 I feel you dude. My jobs alright too but sometimes my boss just drives me crazy. He's got like ocd and tries to micromanage the shit out of everyone. I just try to remember that I have a job and that I'm producing in society while I work towards my dream of opening a brewery one day. It's the little by little shit like that that keeps me going tbqh
>>702582482 Maybe I'm just paranoid (and that's a serious thing to consider), but to me it sounds like you're being exploited for your emotional availability. She doesn't love you. It's best to just cut off contact.
>>702565728 Not the guy you replied to but I know what you mean. Where watching the downfall of the West. I would advise to learn mandarin maybe or try to move to Switzerland. I think they'll be alright and they at least have a great standard of living with pretty conservative ideas for a European country. Just visited and have some family there
>>702583728 Yeah I know it sounds like that, but i'm 100% that it's mutual. We're both closer to each other than with anyone else, and she admitted it after I confessed my love to her. It's complicated, but I know she loves me, it's ok.
>>702583334 I don't want to force them to break up, but I also don't want them to stay together. I try to stay objective to not sound selfish as fuck when I advise her on stuff.
>>702560428 Pretty terrible. Just lost the girl of my dreams due to my fuck ups. Ran out of chances now she has a new bf who she was good friends with since like 8th grade. I wasn't worried about him at all in the relationship nor was he the problem but deep down i sensed they liked each other towards during our breaks. Hurts like hell seeing how i lost her to someone else. Any advice on how i should get through this?
>>702584364 Try to see people, don't stay alone all day, go to bars with friends and hit on girls. Don't go for sex, it won't solve everything. Try to have an intelligent conversation with them, and find an interesting one. Eventually you'll forget about the previous girl and you'll fall in love again.
>>702584639 Honestly out of anyone i been talking to for help this is probably the best so far. Unfortunately i work night shift so i'm all alone at night. Don't have many friends. It's so hard but i'm trying =/
>>702570685 Hey dude at least you're following your dreams. That a lot more than most people can say. What kind of music do you write/are into?
Also, don't worry about the gf. My buddy studied a full semester in Italy and stayed with his chick, didn't cheat either. So it can happen. Otherwise, she's a piece of shit and you'll find someone else. Don't worry man, life has its funny ways of working shit out
I have a 5 year course i am doing, im a bit older than everyone else and have a hard time adjusting to fitting in. My class i have had 3 people that i legit thought i got on with either transfer or not turn up to class. So every week im basicly just wondering which stranger is next on the chopping block of disappointment.
>>702584672 We both tried to see each other as "good friends" (we joke a lot about it, when we get too close we just say "good friends" and laugh it off, even though we both know we're attracted) and it's clear that it doesn't work for any of us. She feels like a piece of shit for kinda cheating on her bf, and because she knows i'm not feeling good about the whole situation.
It's pretty hard for the three of us, her bf is jealous of me and i'm jealous of him. Truth is, he's a bro and if it wasn't for this girl, we could've been friends.
>>702572719 Dude I thought about offing myself too and still do sometimes. But really what you have to do is try to make it more interesting.
Learn something you're passionate about. Try to find out what that is if you don't know. A girl can help sometimes but it's always a gamble too. And finally, if all else fails, travel.
If you can save $50 a week, that'd be like $2600 a year. A friend of mine went to Thailand (from France) for two weeks and spent only $1400 there and he had a crazy great time. And the things you discover about the world and yourself during traveling can be amazing. At the very least live for traveling, that's kind of what I'm doing now and if you can pull it off you'll live a bit longer and enjoy life more, even if you do off yourself in the end. Just try not to anon. The world is your oyster
>>702584824 I know how night shifts can be difficult, but try not to stay at your home too much. Socialize as much as you can, find a club or a hobby and share it with people. Keep trying, and don't forget that you're not alone.
I had a million friends back home, tons of girls, and a pretty well laid out life, but no future.
Now I'm here and I thought it was going to suck. But it's starting to get better. I've got all kinds of girls on the hook, I have made a bunch of guy friends that I can bro out with. I work out a LOT and I'm getting in really good shape.
I'm happier than I thought I would be. I'm enjoying my time down here.
My parents haaaate that I moved, but it's fine. They'll survive.
Plus, when I go home to visit I'm going to Portland and kicking it, but I don't have to live there anymore which is kinda rad.
I really have no idea where to begin. It's like I'm so bored I wanna kill myself. I don't feel sad per se, but empty. It's like the world around me has stopped and I don't know how to break the spell on everyone. I feel like I'm alone in how boring and excessive everything is. Everything is dull and gray.
>>702586681 holy crap why did I omit so many key words. I'll reiterate this.
I have no idea where to begin when describing how I feel. I'm so bored I want to kill myself. I don't feel sad per se, but empty. It's like the world around me has stopped and I don't know how to break the spell on everyone. I feel as though I'm alone in how boring and excessive I find everything to be. Everything is dull and gray.
I fell in love with an online girl I don't know how she looks but at this point it matters littel to me. However she has a boyfriend who yells at her from what she told me and calls her names alot and he once removed me from her friends list anywho i kindad ended up saying i love you to her but she said I couldnt love her because she was taken and out of respect of her boyfriend she shouldnt even be talking to meand that she inever going to be unfaithfull
And me I just feel like shit thinking some shitter is misstreaing her while i get depressed and cry alot.
>>702585952 Go to bars that organize meet-up nights. If you're in a medium city there are tons of it.
Try to find a hobby in a club, or a sport, and get to know the people that practice it with you.
If you work out and you're clean, you're better than 90% of the people on this board, i'm sure you can find someone interesting.
>>702586264 I know it sounds easy to say, but try to work out, it'll start boosting your confidence in some time. I know it's hard to socialize, but i'm sure you're not as terrible as you think. Read, listen to music, work out, cook good food, and meet people that like the same shit as you do. It'll get better.
>>702586315 I feel the same way brother, only do this if you're confident that you won't be sad every two days. If you don't know about her feelings for you, just try to move on. If you know she loves you, try to be there for her when her bf and her fight, get close to her physically, and she might start preferring you. But that's a hard and long way. Good luck anon, I know how you feel.
>>702586974 Thanks man. Means alot. Was hoping to find one of these threads with anons with the same probably. I'm sure she still does love me in some way. But everytime i try talking to her i never get responses anymore. I'm torn between staying hoping for her or just trying to move on. I have no clue what she feels for me anymore. But honestly with everything else going shitty with my life and that to top it off. I would've killed myself already if i didn't want to hurt my family.
>>702586858 Read what I said here >>702586974 It works for a lot of people, try to move yourself and try not to be alone all the time
>>702586879 It's not gonna be easy, but try to move on. Get someone you can see, talk to in person, and be close physically. It'll get better. Also if you don't want her to suffer, try to advise her and stay as objective as possible : make her see how shitty her relationship is, without actually being too intrusive, if you get what I mean.
>>702587407 Dude, ask her honestly, tell her that it's important to you, always be honest. And when you know the answer, just take my advice.
>>702588606 I know it's hard, but trust me. It'll get better in a few weeks/months. It's going to be easier because you're not physically together, but still, it's going to be hard. Just know that you're not alone, and you're stronger than you think.
>>702588779 I'd say you gotta move on. It'll be painful for the first few days or weeks, but you gotta keep on moving and not think about it too much. Find someone else, keep close to your friends, it'll get better.
>>702589105 Yeah, i'm thinking the same thing unfortuantely.. like fuck i hate how i messed up cause i love her more than anything. But yeah thanks for the advice brother i'll just try my best i suppose.
>>702560428 dunno, my car finally broke down after 10 years of service, i have to work 12 hour shifts till thanksgiving(the paychecks are going to be good) and no gf and no social life. fuck being a adult sucks.
>>702589943 Well i don't have many friends at all except online. But yeah i'll always have my family who's been helping out too. I hope these good times come soon. Because being this depressed fucking hurts.
I've been giving people advices for 2h now, on this thread and >>702576248 this one, and now I feel way better. Thank you all for sharing your stories, I'll be around for an hour or so if you still need me. It's been a pleasure, thanks guys.
>>702590501 /b/ is here dude, you've all been here for me tonight, people love you even if you don't know them. Trust me :)
>>702569852 You do realize your generation had literally everything better socially and culturally, right? Women my age are absolute trash and the laws and hiring preferences and work culture are all anti-male. Meanwhile human labor is becoming gradually obsolete and even young people with good educational and work backgrounds have great difficulty getting decent jobs. Meanwhile women ignore 80% of us for their most attractive years and only come back when they want to steal our money afterward. Some days I want to just give up and blow up some buildings. I am increasingly struggling to see any value in this society at all.
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