Okay /b/ros, I need your advice.
For the past year, I've been in a DD/LG relationship with an amazing girl. We hit it off instantly and she's way kinkier than I ever will be.
I hit the lottery with her, she's a solid 8/10 with a 10/10 personality. We had an amazing relationship until about two weeks ago.
We got into a rather big argument and we didn't speak with each other for 3 full days. After 3 days, I contacted her and she told me to "go away". A day has passed, no contact. Another day passes, and I was just getting ready to head to bed when I get a text from her saying "You're doing fine without me."
I said I wasn't, I was completely crashing down without her. And I was.
She told me "if I gave a rats ass, I would've tried to talk to her way earlier". Truth is, I did want to talk to her, but I didn't want to make her even more mad or anything. I didn't want to add fuel to the fire. Granted, that is my fault.
We talked it through, and we're back on speaking terms.
But she's barely talking to me nowadays. She said that she's really busy with trying to get into college and getting a job at the same time, and I know that takes a big amount of time.
Whilst we were talking about the whole argument thing, I asked her if she had any feelings for me. She said yes, but that they're declining.
Now the part that's really confusing is the immediate next message she sent me: "But I also don't want to break your heart into a million pieces"
Did she actually think about breaking up with me? Does she want to break up with me?
There's more to the story. We're talking now, as I said, but not as much. We don't even say good night to each other anymore. As we're in a DD/LG relationship, she doesn't even refer to me as "Daddy" anymore. I feel like I've lost her, and the only thing that's "keeping us afloat" is the fact that we don't want to hurt each other.
What do, /b/?
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She doesn't sound emotionally mature. I've done incest roleplay with my dates in the past, and i am now married to a woman who does incest roleplay with me.
There is a risk that when you date someone into incest roleplay that they are emotionally immature. They want somebody "perfect". A knight in shining armor, who actually treats them like a princess. And if there is any conflict - like all adult relationships actually have, she thinks she hasn't found "the one". And it's just no go from there. She isn't ever going to be as passionate as she was. She isn't ever going to love you as hard. She will not mature as long as you are trying to be together. Maybe she'll never get mature, but you are just enabling her right now.
She's pretty mature, but she has the stages of going into her "little space". That doesn't happen anymore though. Thanks for your input.
I feel like so. I'm ready to just end it all right now, was hoping someone would give me advice to fix this if it's possible at all.
It's possible to be mature in many other ways, and then when it comes to relationships have radically unrealistic and unobtainable standards.
You have broken her image of you as her perfect daddy. You can't reassemble it.
She doesn't care about you. You treated her well but she is too blind to see that. Dude believe me there is no maturity in her or her actions. All woman like this are good for is hurting the men they are with. I have had experience with this. You need to tell her these things and just fuck off out of her life because she doesn't deserve you.
Thanks anon. I am ready to end the relationship, but I'm just afraid that I'll never find someone who shares the same interests as I do. It was a surprise she was kinkier than I was, because I have tons of fetishes. But oh well, guess nobody can know their own future
Don't be. 6 month ago after feeling useless and lonely after this bitch that tore my heart out I literally walked into the most amazing woman I have ever met and she treats me well. ( we had a huge fight over something stupid but we landed up laughing at how dumb it was). You say she is 8/10 which means you at least have to be a 7/10 to 10/10. You will find some one just end it. Hang in there fellow /b/tard :)
Man, lucky you. I felt like that when I met her, but now things turned out like this.. I miss how they were before.
I'll think this through, but I'll most probably end it. Thanks for giving me hope, /b/ro. I really appreciate it