So today I was with a hot and great chick, she wanted to fuck and so did I. I couldn't get it up. I'm 19, what the fuck. I wanna die
>>684702956
Sounds like ED bro. Sorry.
>>684702956
idk im virgin
>>684703079
I'm on medication that can cause this, but it didn't happen with my ex
too much porn and jerking off fag
you have reprogrammed your brain over years and years to respond to a specific set of stimuli to cause you to orgasm, and your dick realized it didnt even need to be hard to do so.
stop jerking off and looking at porn for 3 months and you will be waking up with morning wood again
>>684703224
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH me too.
You were probably nervous, it happens, most of us understand.
First night with an ex he couldn't get hard, I wasn't offended or put off. I knew he was nervous and he also wasnt sober. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. Maybe just tell her you were nervous cause you think she's really hot.
>>684702956
You're gay, bro.
>>684703390
easier said than done.. not OP but I know I need to chill so I can get glorious boners and so that sex will feel good again. but its like idk..almost like I have to do it..it feels like a cigarette I have to do it or I'm irritable. It's pathetic I know and I wish it wasn't like this
>>684703390
thats gay lol
>>684703390
But then I get horrible blue balls
>>684703587
I was, doesn't make me want to die any less and she said she was cool with it
>>684702956
bump
this is my life atm
i think it's bc phimosis tho
>>684702956
I've had it happen with girls who couldn't keep me sexually interested
>>684703323
Easy cure you just got to take a pill to be able to fuck. Maybe after you're more comfortable with a girl you can get away with not taking them. As for me I messed up fucking 3 different super hot models. I just couldnt get it hard and got anxiety that made it worse each time. I started taking them Viagra and my dick game is porn star caliber now.
>>684702956
I'm a virgin but I am quite sure that it is a porn issue. Try to get off of it. Easier said than done, sure. I just jerked off to some about 5 minutes ago. Need to practice what I preach. I have noticed that I do not even want to jerk off when I am not using porn. I basically need it to bust a nut. Hoping to make a switch pretty soon and finally knock that shit off. Do what this guy says >>684703390
>>684702956
It happens OP, don't worry about it.
>>684704448
OP here, still wanna fucking die
>>684703836
Sure it may be embarrassing, but really, it happens and most girls are understanding.
I'm glad she was cool with it. Don't fret too much, and maybe don't jack off much for the next few days, or in general. Idk, I don't have a dick.
If you worry too much, it might increase the chance of it happening again. Just try to relax and forget about it.
>>684702956
Most common cause of suicide in italian men. Being unable to perform can be down to nervousness or performance anxiety or ED but in truth, that is how most people's first time goes.
Nothing to feel bad or worry about. Porn ruins kids expectations of sex to the point where losing your virginity is usually a huge anticlimax. Pleasing a girl or getting her to orgasm on your first try? Vanishingly unlikely.
Don't sweat it, bud. I know it is embarrassing but many if not most people have been there and have an embarassing first time experience.
Happens to most of us once in awhile. Don't let it get you down
>>684704563
femanon here
just for a little reassurance, been with my bf for 6 months, love of my life
literally cannot keep it up, i don't think we've probably had sex to comlpetion the whole time we've been together
... i really need him to get that shit sorted
either way chicks tend to be more understanding than you think. how many times do you think women lose the drive during sex? it's not just men
chill out, if it only happens a few times she probs won't even remember
>>684704722
Not my first time having sex, just my first time with this girl
>>684704563
Sounds like she was into you? Just fuck her next time.
>>684704702
And if it happens again, maybe go down on her and try to make her feel amazing. Read up on good oral sex skills and stuff.
Had the same problem first few times. Its your nerves. Sorry bro it willnt go away until you can relax and enjoy.
>>684705083
I can make almost every girl I'm with cum just through oral, I know my shit. I'm just ashamed of myself and she seemed so disappointed. Fml
>>684702956
Hey OP, this happened to me too. I think it was more due to the fact that we were trying to fuck in the back of my jeep and there wasn't any room to move around. Pretty disappointed. She got angry and wanted me to take her home. So I did and when I got home I got a bad panic attack. Damn. Maybe next time I'll take a Viagra IDK. Was 18 at the time. Now 19.
>>684704817
>this
Just try fapping for more than 30 minutes
I know it is hard not to cum in the first 5 minutes but it is possible
OP here, I know this happens but it doesn't stop me from wanting to fucking crawl in a hole and die
>>684705941
Haha, I usually last about 2 hours so that's not the problem
It happens dude, just relax, hopefully she gives you another crack at it.
>>684706124
not that big of a deal OP
better luck next time don't let it get to you!
>>684706124
OP, you will feel like shit. Your self esteem will hurt. I think it's important to note that eventually you'll get another chance.
>>684706251
Lasting 2 hours becomes a problem, most girls can't take it.
>>684706690
Well it helps that no girl has made me cum, many have tried
I'm also 19, the first time I tried to have sex I had the same issue. The best way for me to get it up is either a blow job or I take my dick and rub it in between her flaps and that usually gets me nice and rock hard.
>>684706812
you must have sex with chicks that suck in bed
>>684702956
Were you drunk?
Are you sexually inexperienced.
I had issue with that when I was younger and hadnt had sex a lot,
Also sometimes if im with a new GF and wanting to fuck the first time, if I psych myself out I can have boner issues.
Relax bro.
>>684707457
blowies are fine but then oncei go to stick it in it goes limp
Well, do you use condoms? Condoms at least with me made me limp noodle
>>684704992
Read about it. Help him out with it, take his mind off it.
If you pressure him, he'll be stuck like that for years.
Tell him to concentrate on the sensations, tease him,,don't expect him to penetrate or ejaculate.
Don't expect him to please you either.
It is a lot in his head, he wants to please you, is thinking way too much and that diverts into fear of not keeping it up, which makes him lose wood.
He needs to stop thinking, including about your pleasure.
Make it touching only for a few weeks, gradually leading up to intercourse without the aim of ejaculation.
Also, make sure he stays away from porn and masturbation 100%.
>>684702956
Happened to me with this super hot chick I lost my virginity to in high school. Couldn't get it up at all, super embarrassed. Luckily she was cool about it, tried again a week later, almost had same problem but got it hard enough to get it in, came in like 2 mins, turns out it was just nerves. Just imagine her farting or something, or just close your eyes and think about not fucking everything up again.
>>684707869
Nope, I just don't feel anything with sex or blow jobs
>>684702956
>>684704235
I have the exact same story.
First time was with a girl who I am really comfortable with. She blew me for 15 mins, I eventually got it up, then lost it while putting on the rubber.
Same deal with my current gf. I always loose it when i put the rubber on.
I am almost positive its a porn issue too, since I have no issue jacking off.I'm considering going to me doc as well.
Shit sucks
>>684708603
Stop fapping dude.
You've fucked your self up with porn and masturbation.
Train your self to feel sex. It takes time. Took me maybe a year of banging the same girl before i could fully feel something.
Read up on some techniques.
I had the same crap, banging away until she was in pain or I was exhausted.
Far worse things came after I finally fixed it, probably unrelated. My life is fucked any way.
>>684708458
you say that like we haven't been down all of those routes
i had a previous partner who sometimes couldn't get it up. i know how to tease, how to talk dirty. the moment anything goes a tiny bit awry he totally loses it
the only time it was ok was when we bought cialis off a dealer. i really think i need him to get viagra from a doc, even just for a little while to like, prove to him that he can sustain it and it's not a big deal
re: porn and masturbation, we basically live together and see each other every day. there's little time for him to get up to much. i don't think it could be more than once or twice a week at most
Some girls don't stink right.
I'm serious. I've only had issues with one chick (I'm over 40 and have had numerous partners). For some reason she just didn't get me hard, despite being extremely attractive (top 3 of my conquests) and quite sexay. I talked to a buddy about it (he's a Dr.) and the only solution we've got is pheromones. I like some hair on my girls, and hair concentrates pheromones. She was shaved and so i didn't get the olfactory cues to want to procreate. She didn't stink right. Tell her to grow some bush, or ask her not to change undies before your next date (if you're that comfortable with her).
>>684708862
Stop porn totally.
Stop fapping.
Just have sex with your girl.
A few months of training like that and you'll be fine man. Don't worry about it at all. Relax and focus on sensations during.
Leave the condom off, stay outside.
Then when you put it on, just let her jerk you while you wear it so you become used to it without the,mental preparation of penetration.
>>684702956
happened to me the first time i tried to have sex with my ex
if you're a virgin it helps to be intimatly connected to the other person, not just the fact that they're hot.
>>684709347
I can already feel the pressure coming through your post.
Ease off him fucker.
All you do is lie back and let your hole gape in the wind.
One thing that helped me was fantasising about fucking her while I was actually fucking her. Like I was building a link in my brain.
Brain is slow to change, takes time.
If you are shouting "fuck me cum in my ass fuck me fuck me" you are adding massive pressure.
When I say trade, I mean zero pressure, leading nowhere, mutual massage and so on. Dead slow, over weeks. Stopping while it is enjoyable, without any attempt at penetration.
>>684709482
Thanks anon! You are completely correct.
I hate to admit it, but porn is a big part of my life. Its fucking insidious
>>684709097
I wish that was it haha, I stopped for over 4 months and still nothing
>>684702956
Start working out, eat better, wear a cock ring.
Been having this problem off and on for the past few months. I'm 24 and my sex drive has tanked since October when me and my family lost our home in a fire. It's not all the time so I know it's really unlikely I have anything physically wrong (I had a physical not that long ago and I'm in great shape) but I have an appointment with my Doc on Wednesday just so I can be sure it's all in my head. From there it's just a matter of remembering that there's really no pressure. Sex is supposed to be fun and not overthought.
I think part of it is I feel nervous with my current gf because I'm much more experience than her. I actually took her virginity. So I think I feel pressure to be amazing because I'm her first impression if that makes sense. We've had great sex and I don't have trouble getting hard, but I lose it during sex sometimes and it's really starting to bother me (hence the Dr. appointment)
Cutting out jerking off and porn would probably really help. I've been looking at too much kinky shit and I should just let my brain reprogram itself.
>>684710172
you sound like a lovely individual.
i'm sure your issues with sexual gratification do not stem from your anus personality.
>>684710373
>sex drive tanked after a major loss
could you be depressed? overly anxious in general? do you have any flashbacks, feel hypervigilant etc?
there could be a medical explanation as to why you're having difficulty now
>>684702956
protip: it actually just happens sometimes, its pretty standard. if it happens like, so much that you can never do it, and your 19, its probably just some psychological stress. Go to a doctor if it keeps happening.
>>684702956
always listen to your dick, son.
>>684709348
He's got a phone and access to a bathroom. He can fap daily or more if he wants (from a logistics standpoint, I mean). Doesn't mean he is, mind you.
To the femanons: Seriously, there's a reason that sex and musk are so prevalent in the animal kingdom. Don't keep your shit so shaved up that you can't tap into that primal shit. Pheromones are powerful on a man's subconscious. Keep it clean and manicured and it may do wonders for your sex life. You ladies are walking around with the world's greatest aphrodisiac and you shave it all off.
>>684710247
Making this consideration helped me dump it when i thought it was my problem:
"so I want to be like this for the rest of my life, or do I value the porn so much that it is worth never having proper sex".
It is a simple equation.
First week is the hardest, after that it becomes steadily easier.
Delete all you have, install a porn blocker and make up a saying that you can repeat to yourself.
It isn't worth it, the porn. It is illusionary bullshit and if it is setting you off track, it had to go.
I used to spend hours a day hunting porn, saving it.
For what, I never looked at it again.
Felt good to delete all that shit.
Stay busy, find new hobbies outside or around other people, away from the computer,
Whenever you feel the urge, exercise. Redirect the energy into good habits.
if you slip up and watch some, it isn't a big deal,,just delete it, and start again.
>>684710854
Yeah I'm sure there's a link that's why I mentioned it. The Dr. appointment is mostly so I can eliminate the idea that there's something physically wrong and it's psychological.
I could definitely be depressed. I considered therapy for awhile but I have what I would describe as low-level depression if that makes sense. Like it's not an all consuming, debilitating thing, but I know I haven't been myself. Definitely much harder to feel things since then. No flashbacks or anything like that. Just sad nostalgia.
>>684710264
Do you have morning wood?
OP Here, I think I might just be a faggot. Off to grindr...
>>684702956
you are a permavirgin, not even your body can help you
>>684710565
>indervidywal
Welcome to Idiocracy.
You should listen instead of thinking you are the best girlfriend in the world.
Ask him if he had this with any of his previous girls.
>>684710373
or maybe the stress of everything is causing a vicious cycle that pretty much kills your cock rocket. i know this can happen if somebody gets stressed out.
>>684704992
How long before you cheat on him?
>>684712100
Pretty likely. It's probably psychological, but I REALLY don't want to take any drugs for mental health. I just don't like that approach. I've always taken pride in my ability to be a logical person and to reason my way through my emotions... but I'm not sure that's working out so well this time.
>>684711072
Shave your girl, compress her pubes, then smoke them as a resin.
Either that, or eat them. Chew well for maximum absorption.
>>684702956
quit fapping faggot
happened to me when i first got would-have-gotten-laid.
stopped fapping and everything was fine
>>684712188
Already happening since the beginning.
Once he can learn to keep it up, maybe I'll think about keeping my legs closed ;-)
>>684702956
stop looking at porn you idiot
>>684712448
Need to stop thinking.
Cocnetrate on the physical sensations.
Imagine and use your penis as you would a finger, feeling around inside her.
Her smell, the sounds,,the body heat, the softness of her thighs.
Become an animal again. Turn your brain off for those times.
When you feel the urge to do something, do it.
Want to stick it in slowly? Do so, feel every segment of her chrysalid.
Want to slap her? Do so.
No thought or hesitation.
Been with mine for 8 years. Have had this problem at least once a year. Worst thing you can do is obsess over it. Forget it happened. Blow her mind next time and she will too.
If it keeps happening...? On your own. See a Doc?
>>684711372
Every once in a while, but not often
>>684702956
Drink less alcohol.
Get in shape. Seriously in shape.
Quit jerking off four times a day.
If you do drugs, stop.
If that doesn't work, find a boyfriend. You're a faggot.
>>684702956
Sorry to hear that OP but it happens to the best of us
>>684713320
If you don't ejaculate for a couple of weeks, morning wood should come regularly.
Make sure you have good quality sleep. Darkness, no noise, enough hours.
Eat healthily, vegetables, meat, nuts, fruit.
Exercise every day. Lower body as well as pushups.
Sunlight every day for half an hour or more.
Brasil nuts and walnuts are good, a handful a day of each or either.
Lifting weights might help. Increases nitric oxide levels, which trigger nighttime and general erections.