Hey /b/ros I just had to give up on another semester of school because of my depression. No therapist has helped at all. what are some solid tips to help get me through this.
My problem was I don't have a car.
Don't go to college without a car.
Any relationship you form in college without a car will fall apart.
They'll get picked up on by some other guy who probably had their parents buy him a car.
Also, do not have relationships in college.
The girls are often sluts, and got good reason too.
There's a strategy called stringing which women like to do at that age. They want to form a circle of admirers as an instinctive survival mechanism. The surrounding munchkin betas are immediately willing to provide her any protection and support. Don't be fooled by muscles either, the guy still hanging around her and not getting any is a beta trying to prove himself.
Get a job first, build a little capital, but supplies to live comfortably while studying. Have a car.
This is where I'm at right now. I'm saving to buy a car and then get back to college. Kinda sucks I'm not blessed with rich parents but, whatever.
Also! Listen to motivational speakers. I personally love Jim Rhon.
O find what really gets me down is a sense of no direction.
Jim Rhon helps me with a sense of direction.
Don't listen to I've One Direction. That's a horrible boy band.
I was in the same position as you OP but I'm going for Chemical Engineering and I think I finally managed to turn things around. This guy gives some good hints and such, and working out definitely helps in liking yourself more which is likely a reason you're so depressed. The best sort of advice I can give though is give yourself purpose. As a man, we thrive when we're given purpose and drive into something meaningful, like careers and studies. Give yourself goals through out the day like hitting the gym, hanging out with your friend, finishing all you can so you can feel accomplished . And give yourself long term goals as well, no matter what you decide to be while you're in college, be the best you can absolutely be at it. These things are the true keys to fighting off that depression for good and being happy.
1. stop using your computer & phone for harmful activities: No games, no random surfing, no 4chan, no reddit, only use it for researching information you definitely need.
You might plan 1 hour of semi-leisure surfing like reading news sites.
2. no porn ever again
3. minimize masturbation
4. regularly work out your muscles
5. regularly do cardio (jogging, cycling, etc.)
6. follow a strict sleeping schedule: Always go to bed at the same time, never oversleep
7. no television
8. read books
9. Plan how you will use your time and stick to it
If you follow all those steps you have become a god among men!
You won't ever even try half of them at once though (-;
> Also, work out.
Psychologist here. I agree with this, but for a slightly different reason. One, exercise is VERY good for your brain's health. Arguably more so than any therapist on earth. Further, which the post above alluded to, exercise will just make you feel better about yourself - more confident, more energy, and a better self image. Exercise does this counter-intuitive thing where it actually helps you have more energy, not less. There's a feedback loop in your brain.. The more idle you are, the more slovenly and gross you feel, so of course you want to do less, like sit at home browsing /b/. If that's all you do, of course you're depressed. The more you're active, the more reinforcing it is, the more you interact with other people, especially friends on a deep, meaningful level, the more you're gong to feel better.
That being said, meds and psychotherapy WILL help if you find the right providers and are stick to it. That's the gold standard for treatment. You just have to remain open minded and persevere to find someone you really click with.
I can't stress social activity enough, either. One psychiatrist once told me, "the best meds in the world won't help at all if you're stuck on a desert island with no friends." Thats so true. If you're able to "force" yourself to e social, even for little bits at a time, once a day at first (just getting a coffee with a coworker, for example), you're going to be in a much better place.
Also if it makes a difference, I've struggled with depression too, and these things have worked for me. Best of luck, OP!!
many people will advise you to kill yourself
but the trick is to kill someone else
its really envigorating and you wont be crybaby no more. just get real fucked instead of this pussy shit , show some dedication to misery
Obligatory stop being a faggot, etc.
For real though, what is most important is to do things. See some neat wood carving? Do some research and buy some tools. Want to build a chainmail vest? Fuck it, look into what would make that possible.
With regards to a person's social preference, their interests will fall somewhere within a spectrum ranging from people centered to technical centered. For example, people who follow the latest celeb gossip would be highly people centered, whereas another person fascinated by the latest developments in science, technology or otherwise would be tech centered.
Generally, males tend to be more tech-centered when it comes to socializing, so no matter if you're an introvert or an extrovert, forcing yourself to explore new things can only benefit you: either on a personal level, or as a conversation/social subject.
You'd actually be surprised at how easy it is to do some really neat stuff. Making a chainmail shirt for example is actually quite easy once you get the hang of it and just mostly requires time.
thats all i needed to hear, literally end yourself you edgy attention seeking kid, you are pathetic and anyone who actually gives you advice is just simply retarded and naive beyond belief
Aww, somewun is a wittle jealous. OP is working on making something with his life, and people are helping him, and you're stuck in your parent's basement at the ripe old age of 34. Sucks to suck.