Most people are so overstimulated and bipolar that they have no idea how to maintain a sturdy relationship over time, and instead opt out to remain a slave to their passions cuz OMG THAT'S LIKE THE HOTTEST THING EVR.
Don't let weight get to you unless it is physically draining. Assuming you work oftenly you can keep busy and shred off the excess weight. Girls feed off of confidence so fake it til you make it.
Not reasonably comfortable, financially but also I don't like people in-general, shit I and others from earlier eras would see as common sense is lost on them. All I see in the world is children up to the age of 40+, pushing limits in society but towards a shitty, meaningless end. Fuck you little bastards and the deliberate retardation of your own offspring that's killing the future of mankind.
Lack of faith in my ability to keep a good conversation, let alone a relationship.
Plus, not that good looking, sweaty and a small dick kinda messes with me - like I feel, a girl getting with me, means she'll give up her chance to get someone better,
Plus, been bullied as a kid, and having a father that downright favourites my brothers gives me a feeling that I'm predestined to be an outcast and a hermit anyway.
>I'm predestined to be a social outcast and a hermit.
Nah. I'm sure there have been some moments in your life where you felt confident and alive. Work on bringing those out more instead of restricting yourself to absolutes like fate.
Man i see things the same as you! I get angry when I hear women saying "oh I want a mature guy" when in fact all of them are kids pretending, for them mature means only having material posestitons. I don't like people, I think the earth would have been better without. All of them are ego driven children who will never learn, never question existence, we are fling on a rock goddammit
Have a wife and a mistress. Don't have time for GFs
Why must one have a gf/bf to be happy or seem normal. Women are fucking insane. Every time I have had a gf I have regretted it.
I am far more content fucking women that just wanna fuck while I do whatever the fuck I want and spend my money on me.
And at this point, I enjoy whiskey and drugs far better than a lunatic of a woman while I pick up sluts every once in a while.
21, male. I was told i look like one of them longhaired thugs from the COPS tv show. Am sad face noaw
I'm 6"5 and ugly as shit
Girls get intimidated around me real fast
>I've never put any effort into it
>I'm pretty unlikeable
>I've spent past several months-years isolating myself from everyone in real life
>I have trouble with making sentences that makes sense -my biology teacher back in high school told me that i'm thinking faster than i'm talking and i should value that gift, but it rather seems as a curse
>I'd feel extremely cringey while trying to ask someone out (did that once, never again.)
>Noone ever approached me (and I'm doing a lot to prevent it, i even walk on the other side of the street if i see someone i know on the same side just so i don't have to talk to them)
>I can't see why anyone would date me, I'm not funny, smart or anyhow interesting
>Even though I used to have some friends they eventually lost interest in me and I was basically kicked out from their groups (not inviting me anywhere, dodging me when they can, etc.)
but i guess i'm fine, i'm already pretty used to being alone, now i just have to convince myself that everything is fine and that i actually don't want anyone in my life even though it would be really nice if i at least had someone to hug and to lie next to them in bed every night
i'm a loner that plays video games all day. also i drink a lot when i am going out. going to a club with less that a bottle of wine and 4 or 5 vodka drinks before seems unreasonable to me.
have had one, single by choice now, does not mean you have to live in celibacy though I do fuck less than when in a relationship.
I am picky about entering relationships though, as people should be.
have you tried putting some effort into balancing the scales to your favor?
working out, changing how you dress etc?
Very few people actually loses the lottery, just like very few hit the jackpot.
might take more for some than others but that is life for you, its like that with every single thing in this world
that they have to cost money is a myth, only the poor quality ones does.
if you are worth your salt then you can make demands from chicks, like them having their life in order and a their own ambitions etc
that way they won't be dependent on you and they won't nag on you for cash, they have their own
if you want to do something together you do it after discussing it like adults and getting it planned properly, you don't just share accounts and get married cause you felt good when you came together...
>you will never get a gf
I dont even want my current gf so good. get rid of her for me
I am gay. I hate this fact and I would love to live a normal life but that's not happening. So my excuse is pussy just don't do it for me, though every once in awhile I bang one of my chick friends and it's okay.
Hmmm dude I am like you but probably older
last friend I had was 11 years ago at tech school and I could tell the moment he realized he was on another level than myself, you gotta be smart to operate in this modern world even if its just being funny which gets you connected with other humans
I don't get why the fuck I am here honestly, I got a big heart and high ambitions but there is nothing to give
im ugly,chubby and only have feelings for legit 10/10
So I'm a virgin but got 2 girl already asked me for sex, one 8/10 and a 10/10, and got 3 other whos just really into me at my school, but I have one testicle due a tumor I had, and since we go to the same place it would be very awkward for people to joke around.
I'm 19 atm and waiting for implant.
What you guys think?
also the 10/10 is my crush
It's hard to explain everything. I have a theory about my life, but sometimes I think this theory might be just schizophrenia.
Anyway I live in a 3rd world country, my family is poor. I've been to a doctor and she gave me prespcriptions and those medications didn't help. I have suffered from severe anxiety since I was born and that led even to some personality disorders.
I tried doing some shit, tried working out and stuff, had two girlfriends, but eventually each one of them dumped me. I am not normal, and I realised I can't be normal. This anxiety, I even can't go to a caffe, I can't hang out in a company where there are more than 3 people.
I got those girls just by pretending to be normal, but they would find out who truly I was very soon. I can't even step in a shopping mall, because of anxiety, I can't normally talk to people, because my face gets red. I even couldn't come to celebrate my gf's birthday party, because when I time to go came, I felt panic, so I phoned her and made up shitty excuse.
I dunno why I am writing this shit, fuck I even can't think in a coherent way. I believe I am mentally ill, and that's because genetics.
you probably are a bit off, but honestly, you should not focus on that, focus on the possibilities you do have and how you can make the best of what you have available, does that make sense?
we are all fucked in some way or another, some if affect more in their day to day lives, you seem to be one of those cases, you are still a member of society and you can still achieve the things you want and need to have a happy life, but maybe not by going down the standard route?
Girls will come to you if you focus on yourself if you give it time, if you focus on yourself you will become a good provider and in the end that will land you a decent chick
I like odd people, they are usually hidden gems that most people have just not realized the value of, if you find a chick like me you've hit the jackpot and believe me, there are some around in the world
>Get my first gf, solid 10/10
>Seems like we're getting along great
>Same taste in TV, music etc.
>Like 2 months into relationship she gives me a hj
>She seemed to like it, and I did too obviously
>3rd month we seem to get really close, she sucks me off every chance she gets
>Just before christmas she was going to visit family in poland so i come over with gift, £50 pandora bracelet
>She got me some pretty cool fallout shit
>I end up fingering her whilst her mum is in the room next door, major rush
>After 20 mins she cums and sucks me off
>I have to go home at like 9 so I leave
>She goes on holiday for a month, we talk for 3 weeks of the holiday
>One time she just stops looking at my messages even though she speaking to my friends and stuff
>End of the week, new years eve, I message her saying happy new year and asking why she wont talk
>In the morning, texts me saying we're through
>Year later and I still can't get over it, get really fucking sad whenever i see a picture of her or friends mention her, can't sleep etc.
>She refuses to tell me why she ended it
Do you guys reckon she fucked some polish kid whilst she was there or some shit? Honestly I have no clue why else she would end it
maybe she just got time to think and figured she wanted something else, maybe she is a pussy and can't tell you because she is weak, who knows.
but you should stop thinking about other people and think more about you, if you achieve great success in your life she might come crawling back realizing her mistake, at that point I doubt you would be interested anymore though
I'm ugly, fam. It's pretty simple. No matter how great your personality is, physical attractiveness matters. Every girl tells me "you'd be a great boyfriend!" and "there's someone out there for me" but they know that's not true.
for sure, think about the things you wanted to do before you met her, you probably have some lost dreams or interests that could be worth bringing back to life, find out what would make you proud to be you then work towards that and allow yourself to appreciate your good sides, many people are very negative towards themselves, be realistic but never give up before trying, you know?
Nah it's the truth, dude. I'm close friends with a lot of girls and no matter how funny or charming you are, you can't make up for physical attraction. You need to hear how girls talk about guys. I've had girls straight up tell me that they wish I was more attractive or that other dudes were more attractive because otherwise they'd be perfect boyfriends.
I'm a pretty likable guy with a lot of friends, and have had a lot of girlfriends in the past, but I believe that I became ugly/unattractive as fuck for some reason. Up until puberty I was looking pretty ok but then I just became potatoe head, always looking like I'm stoned with hanging eyelids.
This always lingers in the back of my head, which put a serious dent in my self esteem and made me stop trying to get girls. I don't even talk to girls even if they're fucking next to me. But being single isn't that bad. I do miss the sex sometimes but the internet is full of glorious hardcore porn to forget about that.
>when i lose weight my confidence will grow.
Biggest lie i ever told myself still no confidence, think i have a small penis and i just cant talk to women i do not know.
And i'm not even that ugly just a loser
when you get to know a girl, say a average looking one, nothing special but nothing hideous either, how long does it take before you for the first time become physical with her?
does not really matter what or how, anything goes really, play fighting, arm around her in the couch, a simple touch on their arm when you deliver the punchline of a joke and laugh etc
how long does it take before you do things like that?
generally, if you take too long then you will become friendzoned by most chicks, because you never expressed interest the right way.
if you do these things you will emotionally connect and chicks are more emotional than men and thus we have it easier as far as finding a good looking partner that is "out of our league"
ever considered that the majority of the issue is that you have started to act differently in what I would assume have been a ever downward spiral?
feel like shit, become more awkward around girls, feel more shit and in turn become more awkward etc
break the cycle bro
Well, what are you're interests? If you make yourself seem more approachable while embracing who you are, you'd be surprised as to how much of a positive impact it'd make to your life
yeah but it takes time, you have to slowly chip away at it, in a sense lying to yourself will actually also work, the whole "if you fake it then after a while it becomes real" is actually true, but not because of any magic trick but because if you do fake it, you will realize that some people don't know the difference and they will treat you differently, this will over time simply teach you that this kind of behavior is better
there are also ways to speed this up, do any activity that you enjoy, a sport if possible as physical health also transfer somewhat to your mental health, to gradually become better at something give you the feeling of mastering said something and it will help build your confidence
have some tits also
My problem is I flat out don't want kids. Never had the inclination, never felt compelled in any way, shape, or form to establish a lineage of any sort. It's not that I hate kids or anything, I just have no desire to have my own. It's weird because I do like kids and several people told me that they thought I'd be a great father.
Sure, I can find chicks to date, possibly bang if I play my cards right, but eventually they end up realizing they can't change my mind on the baby thing and bolt. Or I find someone that also doesn't want kids and for some reason they always end up being some unfeeling fucking sociopath. It's like if a woman is kind, she automatically wants kids. If she doesn't, she's turns out to be a complete self-serving cunt.
At this point, I really just want to go to Amsterdam for a week or two and bang my way through the Red Light District.
you are afraid they will be too much like you and have to deal with the same shit as you did, sounds like a form of insecurity.
also: date infertile chicks who think no one will ever love them because they can't provide their man with a kid
I just don't feel like trying
I'm jaded as fuck
Currently confined to a wheelchair. Learning to walk again, but I've been like this for 5 years. I feel like I'm decent looking. Maybe a 7/10. But what girl in their right mind would approach a guy who is in a wheelchair? If anyone has advice, I'm all ears.
grass is always greener on the other side, so don't bother crossing the fence, I promise you that no grass will ever look greener than the field you just left and can't go back to
I speak from experience.
As deep as this thread is, I feel compelled to say
>NO GETS LEFT BEHIND
girls who want a good provider, if you can become that you can get decent chicks, worst case you might have to wait a bit for them all to get through their party phase and are ready to settle down
how has nobody railed on op for using 'you're' instead of 'your'
fucking b sucks
I'm anti social and keep telling myself I'll never meet the right gril
Yeah, that's what I've heard. Unfortunately I'm 18. So all the girls around me are immature partiers. I've thought about just saying goodbye to my morals and taking advantage of drunk chicks. At least then I might get laid.
no, if your feelings towards her change or she become abusive or whatever else that is entirely different from what you stated then something different would apply.
you said you wanted to fuck other women, if that desire alone is what is bothering you then you will most likely end up regretting throwing your relationship down the drain for it
I'm emotionally connected, as in really close, with 3 different girls and I can tell you it has nothing to do with being physical with them. Yeah being physical with someone, like playful, can help you bond but it doesn't foster a natural, sexual attraction. There is no substitute for primal instincts.
befriend the nerdy chicks that mostly sat alone during school etc
you could also try getting into hobbies that include other people and that are dominated by more quiet people, like for example chess
Excuse? Women are distractions and would only marry me so that I will make all the money. I can get myself off better than they can. Oh and you never said I can't get hookers if I absolutely need sex. Basically I'm happier without a gf.
maybe you are right,anon. i don't know man, some days i cant stand her voice, others can't think my life without her. and i think i felt in love with someone else too but its a bit confus to know at this point.
>you are afraid they will be too much like you
I've never met a woman in my life that was genuinely compassionate and caring while still not wanting kids. The ones that come across that way are either taken or misrepresenting themselves.
I would be ecstatic to find someone that wants to care for me as much as I would for them. Fuck me for wanting an emotional connection with someone, I guess.
you are just refusing to learn how those instincts work, this have nothing to do with emotionally connecting, it have to do with physically connecting, some people seem to think you build up the emotional part and then shift to physical for the sex, not how it works.
if you meet a new chick you should be somewhat physical with her the second, at least third, time you meet her, if not you have massively helped yourself into the friendzone, you are insecure and you move too slow.
it is better to get a clear no from moving too fast after a few weeks and then cut your losses than to spend 6 months stumbling around like a fool before you figure it out
not to mention, the emotional pain you will experience will also be way less as it would not have gotten time to build up as much
I think I'm just waiting. I'm a virgin, but I'm okay with that.
I've never dated a girl but I'm okay with that. Friends of mine that are girls have admitted to having crushes on me at one point but I never got the hint, and I'm okay with that too.
I'm not in a rush. I'm gonna take my time. Get to know a woman before I take that step. I don't want someone that takes my breath away and renders me speechless whenever they're around. I want someone I'm comfortable with, and they're comfortable with me.
I don't want a girlfriend. I don't want romance. I want love. A relationship.
And I'm perfectly happy waiting for that.
I never tried, i've been living for years isolating myself in my bedrom I cant talk to my parents without looking awkard,i dont know But kinda like being alone and play vd gams all day..
you should talk to her about it
a fact: the feeling of falling in love is fleeting and won't last forever, it is natural to in times despise the other, real love is what you have to build together through the good and bad
sounds like you care deeply for her, so I'd talk to her, do some reading first about how love and those emotions work on us physically, it will help make sense of your feelings and might also help her
I live with my parents and am almost 20 years old.
I'm covered in acne from back to head.
I have great difficulty making emotional connections with anyone.
I've got bigger problems.
Do the boxer thing, i rarely ever take my underwear off, ive banged 4 hoes so far, not amazing, but i started at 17 and now im 18. They dont care about your boxers. Go for her m8
just smart enough to know exactly how dumb I am and I want to punch myself over every interaction with other people, I even delete MOST of my posts on this shitty website even though its full of idiots like me
also donald trump is an certifiable grade A moron, in watching his interactions with people over two decades I recognize so many of my own thought patterns beginning with the way he plays off people by repeating their own ideas back to them, the guy has never had an original thought pass through his head but he presses the right buttons and gets the other people talking like some fucking composer, he just throws out the seeds and watches the world move around him because that is the limit of his abilities he does it so well
I was you a few years ago.
Here's what you do:
¤ Find something that motivates you to work out, a girl, a job, a smaller sized shirt or maby a cosplay outfit, if you're into that sort of thing.
¤ Buy some nice running shoes, not from some shitty walmart. Buy it from a real running-shoe shop.
¤ Make a playlist with songs that works well to workout/run along to. Songs you like. Then only listen to them while running, never on any other occation.
Go out and run a 5km trail on a regular basis. Let it take its time, you will walk mostly in the beginning, but try to jog more than walking. The sweating, fresh air and regular showers will clean your acne right off.
About the emotional contact.. just try to do what feels right at the moment. Fuck people in general, make sure the ones You like, likes you. Fuck the rest.
Having tried both I'd say hookers is a sad alternative to the full deal, kinda like playing a demo compared to the full game
the only people I know in real life who have been serious when making the claim you are making are shitty people who in turn attract shitty girls
Trust issues. Not they will cheat on me but will backstab me
to help make you understand if what you are feeling towards a person is desire and lust or if it actually is love.
in general people think that desire is love and I believe this misunderstanding is the cause of a lot of cheating
Ugly = Lower the expecations you have on your own GFs looks.
poor = No real person gives a shit about that as long as you provide for yourself.
High Int = Just don't talk down to people who are less smart. Realise that they most likely are better than you on other fields and you can learn from eachother.
I've got a lot of time this summer so I'll give it a try.
Sadly, this isn't my first time through the process, but I feel like I need to do something or I'll never get anywhere.
As for the emotional contact, I think I've grown far too cynical to actually recover. But I think I have just enough intelligence to blend in and form a decent network.
All in all, I think the most important thing right now would be my health.
it will most likely help a great deal, also, you are probably not too nice, it is most likely some misunderstanding as in you think you are being nice and supportive of their idea but in reality you are perceived as just nodding along to anything she says, etc
just a imagined example btw but I have had a few girls tell me about people who according to themselves were "too nice" and being nice was never part of the problem
>the only people I know in real life who have been serious when making the claim you are making are shitty people who in turn attract shitty girls
nah brother, i'm pretty nice and have great girl friends, i just enjoy paying for sex it´s kinda a fetish.
> inb4 shitty people who in turn attract shitty girls, im not emotionally broken, or socially awkward
Have a friend that was insecure about scaring. He never took his shirt off. Plows more women than ellen degeneras. Do what you want, it isnt taking off every shred of clothes and than being inspected under a magnifying glass. If she doesnt blow you she'd never know.
i was in your shoes years ago, i was a bit overweight, had acne, etc. when i was 21 my dad died and emotionally i had nothing, no friends and i would just spends weekends drinking alone.
turned 23, cleaned myself up a bit and met a girl at a car show. stayed friends for about 6 months and then we went out to my cabin and she wanted to share a bed for the night and the rest is history, were getting married next year. i quit smoking, drinking, and got out of debt since ive been with her
im not the best looking but i gained muscle from work, dress good, and smell good and those 3 things are what she said made her swoon for me. just have to try and things happen, i was literally the classic virgin until i was 24
Its GDP episode 30-something. her names Sarah Ostrander. she went to college but i think she transferred or dropped when everyone found out about the video. this is her only porno i think, otherwise she's only done modeling
I never understood people like you.
I always thought "If I've got the firepower, I can win the fight".
Like Sun Tzu said, "If victory is not guaranteed, do no engage in battle", and seeing as how I'm Quasimodo, I haven't got a chance.
So I never tried.
Just know, if your not stupid and a little handsome, you're set.
I don't desire women.
I know If I would have this animalistic urge to put my dick into a woman and make her pregnant I would already have a girl.
I see other men oogling at women all the time but I don't see what they achieve by doing that. Do they imagine fucking every fine-curved woman they see? I don't understand that.
"just smart enough to know exactly how dumb I am and I want to punch myself over every interaction with other people, I even delete MOST of my posts on this shitty website even though its full of idiots like me
also donald trump is an certifiable grade A moron, in watching his interactions with people over two decades I recognize so many of my own thought patterns beginning with the way he plays off people by repeating their own ideas back to them, the guy has never had an original thought pass through his head but he presses the right buttons and gets the other people talking like some fucking composer, he just throws out the seeds and watches the world move around him because that is the limit of his abilities he does it so well"
you will never have 500k in residual income with multiple top tier fuck budds.
Feel bad bro