>>682820224 I started seeing a woman 3 months ago. Since then, we have fallen in love.
Since falling in love, I have started overthinking things I do around her, and feeling apologetic for them.
I'm not like this outside of our relationship, and she has given me no reason to feel this way, that I am aware of.
I think I have deep feelings of fear of her leaving me for some shortcoming, and I can't take another one of those.
What do I do to stop feeling this way? I'm trying to be conscious about everything I say, but sometimes I slip and say something, like "sorry" for something that I'm not really sorry for. I think it's more that I want to gauge her reaction all of the time to things that I'm unsure of.
This is a weak issue, I know, but any help would be good.
>>682820995 you probably have a gene defect on your y-chromosome. It produces a subgroup of pheromones that attract females that are already in a relationship. You can mask that by spraying yourself with two bottles of axe body spray per day. No married woman will come close to you when you do that.
>>682820224 How do i get over my anxiety. Everytime i go outside i sweat like a maniac and i walk funny because i feel watched and judged. How do i get past this torture? I can't even go on a date without looking like a twitchy wreck. I am the most calm and balanced person while i'm indoors or at home, but when i go in public i die inside.
>>682820444 it depends - the constant refreshing and search for instant gratification laughs and positive emotions - yes, kills attention span and ability to form functional relationships. the casual browsing and having a laugh no.
>>682820529 only child? go to a mixed school? level of intelligence and attractiveness? give me more bro...
>>682820696 whats wrong with being a sex maniac? it it disrupting your life in any way?
>>682821331 the key to this is literally something you find everyday on 4chan, and that is that nobody gives a fuck about you, and you shouldnt give a fuck about anybody else. simple as that. nobody is watching or judging you, because they are too busy worrying about what everyone thinks of them. be who you are. proud and unafraid. if some people dont like that let them, karma will get them back eventually.
>>682821493 I got jumped by my areas "hard cunt" him and 10 of his friends. Put me in the hospital for awhile, didn't go out the first couple of years for fear of seeing them again. Now i think i am just scared to socialize period. I slide my money under the door and tell the pizza guy to leave it at the door, same with groceries and anything else i need..
>>682822019 >>682822227 He's right, it doesn't help. You have to treat the underlying issues, like, do you think too much of how others perceive you? Do you believe you are less than others? Is it just that you don't have social experience? Etc.
>>682820224 How can I possibly improve my life experience (get fit, find a rewarding career, etc.) when I'm constantly aware of my lack of agency (i.e. that free will is an illusion)? I'm essentially watching my life and I feel powerless to make any kind of significant, positive change.
>>682820224 im in a serious relationship and im very happy and in love, but somtimes is till get horny from other girls I meet. Ill regret breaking up with her just to get some ass, but I might get anxious being with her and not getting any other ass. Do i cheat? Do i fap? what do i do
Drugs. RX SSRI + 1 other I take Lexapro & Wellbutrin
I feel like a new fucking person.
I have absolutely NO abnormal anxiety now. I can go right up to any person at any time, or even a group, and just start talking to them with no fear, very little jittery feeling, nothing like this. I feel like I was given a new life to begin again at 35. I had dealt with this for the past 15 years. It slowly grew until last year I finally had enough, and decided that I couldn't overcome it by myself.
>>682822650 Yes, i do overthink everything. No, i don't think that way about myself or others, but i am a bit aware about how i walk. It's nothing wrong about my walk, but i feel like it's forced, it's weird. Like it's not my walk. And the hands...i always have a backpack with me, always empty so i can keep it around me, i don't know what to do with my hands.
Insults bother me a ton. I care a lot what people think cause. I sometimes obsess over insults from the past and can't help but imagining really hurting the person who insulted me or even killing them. I'm afraid that one day I'll hurt someone and end up in jail over some petty insult.
How can I let go of this anger?
I believe I have mild social anxiety and aspergers too if that means anything.
>>682823448 I drank before social encounters religiously before I had enough of that. It's taxing. Then, I just didn't go out anymore. Then the symptoms increased. Then I became depressed. Then I got into bad drugs. Then everything got worse. Then I gave up. Then I did what I should have done all along, and went to get medicated by a doctor.
>>682820224 so i am having a problem taking myself to the next level. i have started two companies by myself, both are still new, and i have a few customers, but they are not profitable yet. i think i set myself for failure on purpose, not sure why, i have big dreams. i see these other "clueless" business men making more money and business than me, i know i can kick their ass, but when push comes to shove, i just dont. I dont know, i am thinking of joining the scientologist or some shit to get business
I tripped acid and ever since I see this man "Sir Lethal" in my head and he talks to me and I think he created the universe as a torture device for me. I get in these weird periods where I feel "connected" to him and everyone seems evil and out to get me. Whats wrong and how do I turn back to normal
>>682820224 OK so I'm married I'm 32 sexlife is weak because my wife has feminine issues causes pain in her overys so I masterbate daily problem is I seem to gravitate twords the 16-20 group but disgusted by anything younger would never do anything in real life should I worry?
I'm never satisfied with anything except for the occasional drive through the night or some of my friendships. I have this insatiable hunger to better myself and the people around me. Unfortunately, it upsets people that I'm constantly trying to change things. It does cause over analysis as well, which can lead to some anxiety and it affects my sleep. Any advice to help me relax a bit?
>>682824463 age old advice. you only get out what you put in. stop avoiding endeavours that could bring a reward because you are afraid you have no control over the outcome ("no free will"). Because if you follow that pattern you will enter a self-fullfilling prophecy.
>>682824582 kinda. But I try to make sense when it sounds serious.
>>682824749 Clarify? You jerk off to pics and vids of that age group? As long as you stay out of illegal zone I see no problem. Don't act on it in real life though.
How can I stop myself from doing nothing at work? All I do is browse FB and /b/ all day. Even though my job has the potential to make me lots of money, I feel no motivation to do it, because it's cold calling and requires lots of prep and to actually think about what I'm talking about, rather than just veg and absorb information.
My co-workers make 250G a year, and I could be too, but all I'm doing is vegging like a fucking moron.
>>682825339 Do they have to be nude for your fapping pleasure?
>>682825479 seek a real life professional. Your course sounds good so far. Usually generic advice like taking care of diet and excercising helps. Meditation and long walks, too.
>>682825640 Just realise why you are "vegging". Do you actually like that job? What would happen if you pulled yourself together and succeeded? Is the prep part the most difficult one? Is that why you avoid it. Then git gud at it.
I'm vegging because I'm lazy. Because I like learning more than doing. I like thinking of new ideas, being creative, etc.
When I do repetitive task work (like in the office) I feel like I'm wasting my time. I enjoy my job, and I like my co-workers, I just don't feel like I'm at my full potential, and to me, the money isn't worth the creative restriction imposed on me.
I've had issues trying to interact with people, trust people and make new friends/chit chat.
I used to be able to and just get by but im sure it has to do with the greentext true story:
>>be me march 2nd this year >>come home from work >>have conversation about work with mom >>mom is a disabled nurse, on all kinds of pain meds with a habit of 3-5 32 oz glasses of 4-5 fingers of vodka w/ ginger ale. (pic related, its an exact copy of the glass) >>conversation gets heated as expected >>she condescends me as per usual, undermining and belittling anything i have to say about anything >>I lose my shit, say stuff I didn't want to >>she fires back with something just as hurtful. >>I call my best friend since elementary school and cry/vent >>anoncalmthefuckdownshesdrunk&loaded.jpg >>I calm down >>hear noise that makes my blood run cold >>sound of a shotgun being loaded, then racked. >>walk into room my mom is loading her 20 ga. shotgun. laying in her lap pointed at the wall. >>mom whats with the shotgun? >> "go away!" >>ask again, she rotates the shotgun to her right side on her lap, barrel now pointed in my direction. >>ask ahain >>"GET THE FUCK OUT!!" >>friend still on phone in pocket >>all a blur, but a got the shotgun out of her hand. She squeezed the trigger during the midst of this and my friend said he heard her pull the tirgger.... I think he was right. >>piece of shit step dad gets in the middle not understanding the whole situation and takes the shotgun. takes her side... >>I call the cops, next 3 days police escort and got all my shit out. >> I moved out and have not spoken to them in 2 months now.
I feel inept to getting into a relationship and I have considered just a FWB who is trustworthy but I dont know whats wrong with me, am I PTSD??
>>682826483 well after a certain age you can't really tell how old they are. Just pretend that some 18 year olds are 16. Imagine the girl in this pic is 17.
>>682826535 That working through that boring part is what brings those other guys those 250g You have to decide if it's worth it to you. but you have to put in grunt work in every job no matter how creative it is.
>>682826824 hey that's a really serious problem. I'm not OP. and can't you give any meaningful advice. Please copy your post verbatim to >>>/adv/ there are more serious people there than me. If you have the means seek professional counsel.
>>682821149 Nah, they're either trolling/not actuallytrained to be a psych. >>682821331 I also have social anxiety, and although it's often recommended that you do more of what makes you anxious in order to grow used to it(liketalking to people, for example), if it's happening every day and the intrusive thoughts have yet to diminish through exposure, discussing the history leading to the onset of said anxiety with an impartial individual (read: not family/friends) can help you get insight and form effective coping tactics. behavioral therapy is the single most effective treatment for agoraphobia. Until then, focus on deep breathing when overwhelmed.
>>682823243 Does asking yourself why that situation made you angry help you at all? Have you tried to view actions/situations from another point of view? maybe if you change your mental focus when encountering those feelings hostility-by switching between thinking about it and not thinking about it you can adjust the input of information and in that way modulate your emotional response. Try to release pent up anger through a hobby or exercise.
>>682823232 I don't normally come out of lurking but holy shit I really can relate to you. I have to look in the reflection of windows to see if I look funny while I walk, if I get a funny look I start to think that It's because I am walking weird or something about me is odd. And of course the hands, wtf do I do with them? I just end up letting them hang there like some sort of monkey.
>>682830033 Exactly. I need to carry something, anything. If i go outside empty handed i start to sweat even more. I usually rip off the small tree branches or pick up a leaf and keep it in my hand. If i hear people laughing i feel like i'm the target of their laughter, even though that's probably not true. Probably.
>>682830849 >>682831005 How do you guys deal with getting hair cuts, I can't fucking deal with having to stare at myself in the mirror, it's so awkward I feel like I look odd just fucking staring around the place.
>>682832681 >>682831866 (You) I am not uncomfortable with how I look, I am pretty attractive and could have a one night stand at any time I'd want to. I can stare at my reflection in my flat for hours, it's fine I like the way I look. But when I'm out and about it becomes an insecurity and that stops me from going out on dates ect.
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