Is anyone else lonely today?
Please respond, don't let this be a 404 FML.
you made me feel a bit better
i think about that sometimes, i don't know what i'd do in the evenings without 4chan...i guess i would live with other people because it would just be too lonely
socializing on the internet is good but it does seem to prevent me from truly addressing my loneliness in a constructive way
anyway thank you anons for being here
I'm sorry OP, I never get lonely. In fact, I managed to get rid of pretty much all of my friends a few years ago and I am now the happiest I have ever been. Most of my mates grew up, got married, moved away, had kids and dropped out of the social circle one by one. The few that were left, some fell out and stopped speaking to each other, it all jut got too much hard work and drama. So I ditched all but one or two.
I have to say I love my own company. I do what I want, when I want to, because I want to do it. I never have to consider anybody else. I never have to organise a number of people. It's utter bliss. Peace and quiet and stress and drama free.
Learn to see the positive side OP. Learn to love your own company. Get drunk and high. Play vidya, music, get lost in a good book. Do whatever the fuck you want to do.
i always feel lonely, mostly during the day
but today is special. i sperged out hard on a girl i like b/c she was telling me about other dudes she was banging and she stopped talking to me
this is good advice, i've been alone so long that i usually do deeply enjoy the solitude
then i reach out and get hurt and i have to withdraw from the socializing neurochemicals and return to my solitude
I'm almost always alone when I'm not at work. And sometimes it gets to me. It has been for the past week or so.
I'm also in need of advice for a bit of a predicament I'm in regarding my loneliness, if anyone cares to hear it.
yeah. lonely here.
diagnosed with disease a year ago.
up until a year ago June, I slayed hordes of vagine and built custom cars.
now can't walk straight, drive or hear well. i'm middle-aged though so I guess I had my fun. waiting to die is bullshit.
So in an effort to combat my loneliness, I've been toying with the idea of making a dating profile. I went on PoF, lurked a bit, searched for people in the area, just to see who I'd be dealing with. And I did this over the past few days, and kept going back to this one girl's profile. Stunning, artistic, overall lovely. Still haven't made the profile.
I did this again last night, and her profile was nowhere to be found. And I dug for it. I even just happened to have it open on my laptop from a few days ago, and upon reloading the page, nothing. So I did what any stoned and drunk aspfag would do in a moment of panic, search for her on facebook using the bits of info I picked up. And I found her. Still no contact, and I feel like I'm in a state of limbo, because I know how weird this potentially looks for me. wat do?
>we all have to take our hits
We do, but don't let them bring you down.
You always have us. The internet hate machine, the horrible anons of /b/ who makes fun of all the painful shit that happen to innocent people. We are your best friends because we will never lie to you and we will always be here for you when you need us.
I had a therapist tell me to do some service work or charity work for others to help with my loneliness. I was really uninterested, but it helped a lot. I started by doing favors for people when they needed help. You can feed the homeless, etc.
Just the act of doing small things for other people started helping me feel more connected and less alone. I would recommend it, in any way you can or in any way that sounds interesting.
Dude stop. Don't do that shit now or ever. Not only will it not get you the girl, it ain't right to be that way. I mean, for your own self esteem. Don't do shit like that, you'll hate yourself for it.
well i'm glad i'm not the only borderline aspfag with substance use issues on here
don't beat yourself up about it, it's a normal thing to do given your attraction to her
i agree with the other anon, follow up with an honest apology and ask if she's interested
could be the start of something beautiful
if not, you'll know she's not chill and you're better off moving on
I had a look on Pof. Everyone on there is either fat, has kids, or looks like a total bunny boiler. I messaged one grill who I liked the look of, she didn't even message me back. Deleted my profile and now I have given up on grills. Been lied to, cheated on and had my heart broken far too many times. I'm not willing to put myself in that position of vulnerability anymore. I just fap these days and crack on with my life. Been 18 months now since I got laid, this is the longest I've been in 17 years of getting laid. It's my 33rd birthday next month, I'm thinking of going fucking a hooker, if only to ensure I don't make 2 years without pussy.
Exactly. Even when we cannot help you any longer, we will at least watch you die without trying to explain it with some bullshit like everyone else would.
We don't need to explain to ourself or each other why that anon decided to kill himself, because we all know why.
Just make sure you're punching your weight on her level. If she seems like she's got a lot going on with her it could and probably will be too much for you to keep up with. This is what causes second guessing and insecurity in the relationship. It's toxic poison that only results in broken hearts, mainly yours, and a collection of empty bottles at the end of the night.
im always lonely my /b/ro. The only time im not lonely or okay with being lonely is when im doing drugs, which i never even have money for because i have other responsibilities before drugs.
Yeah man, listen to this guy. I'm the lonely 32 y/o fag in a few posts above who likes his own company. Some people at work tell me I'm weird for going to the movies or out for a meal alone. I say why should I stay in and not go to the movies or for a meal just because I'm currently single and all my friends have moved on? I can either stay in and be miserable about it, or carry on regardless and enjoy myself. I don't give a fuck what anybody else thinks about it.
Agreed. I've had everything from relationships lasting a couple of years, even living with me, to one night stands, and everything in between. The last couple of hook ups I had I was the other guy in a love triangle. Shit's dramatic and toxic. I decided almost 2 years ago to take some time out and work on me. Best decision I ever made. I've never been one for wanting to get married or have kids, but now feel like I'm out of the pussy trap altogether. The pros just don't outwiehg the cons. I look at all the guys at work, pissed off doing girly shit or kiddie shit while I get to be in my bachelor pad, drinking bourbon, smoking weed and doing coke, playing ps4 and watching movies on my projector. Life is fucking good.
"hey, this might be one of the weirder things to happen to you this week, so I apologise in advance, and completely understand if you outright block me. But if you'd allow me, I'd love to tell you the story of what brings me here today."
If I were to go through with this, how is this for an introduction? I do get a bit longwinded when I type.
Anon from star wars movie here. I'm considering going to concert alone, what do you think? I used to listen punk rock (yeah i know it's shit i don't care), and i've been to few concerts with my long gone frends.
That sounds pretty chill bro. Getting out in nature does wonders for the soul. There aren't many places to go where I am late at night. I'm mostly drunk and stoned so I can't drive out into the countryside.
no offense but it's a little autistic
try this: "i'm sorry for messaging you but i found you on (dating site) and wanted to get to know you. feel free to block me if this is too creepy!"
whatever im an autist too, it's like the blind leading the blind
Yeah I've done this too. The only thing I don't really like doing alone is going out to a club. I'll go to the local pub for a few beers on my own, but I know the regulars to chat to and join in the craic. I've been out to clubs on my own before and always end up getting bored and coming home early. Anything else I enjoy doing just as much alon as with others.
i get to that point, and i do agree that it's superior to the relationship bullshit, but then every two weeks or so i just kind of get bored and buy a bunch of beer at 11 PM and get blasted
i guess it's working for me
would like to not get so bored
Well I like alcohol, and I can socialize better with strangers on it. Even if they are not taking me seriously. Maybe a few beers wil help berore concert. But thanks for your advice /b/rother.
I rarely get bored, so I can't really offer you advice on how to not get bored. I find between movies, series, vidya, internet, books, music, playing guitar/piano/drums, fapping, cooking, eating, getting drunk and high I have plenty to entertain me.
Do you more mean that you get lonely rather than bored? If I want company I tend to either play vidya online or come on here. I do have one friend left who comes over on a Friday night to get drunk and high every week. I find that with a bit of ps4 online and 4chan is enough socialising for me.
I would do that bro. Go for a couple of beers and grab a bite to eat before the cencert. Grab a couple of beers while you're there. Maybe you'll get talking to some people, maybe you won't. But don't act as if the success of your night depends on it. You can still enjoy those beers and the concert by yourself just as much as if you were with friends/a gf.
To be honest this sounds just as bad as the last post. You don't tell them you're sorry for messaging them and saying "feel free to block me if this is too creepy!" is basically telling them to block you because you do actually sound creepy. Playing the beta card usually gets you nowhere.
I was diagnosed with some autoimmune diseases a year ago. my immune system started attacking my inner ears (cochleas), and balance nerves (vestibular nerves).
Also, my immune system started attacking my liver.
Vag slaying days were fun. I've been in love a few times, enjoyed it. fucking a variety of women, after a while, did indeed make me feel empty. if i'm able to recover enough to start dating again, I'd like to find 1 woman for a long term relationship.
I'd like to build another car sometime. I built old cars, 60's Impalas. They can be a pain in the ass. Maybe something newer this time. If again, I recover enough to drive.
I don't know your story as I don't know which posts - if any itt are yours. just keep truckin', keep your head up, and try to smile once in a while boss!
Many thanks guys. I will search for a good show in my city.
>tfw you lurk /r9k/ and fuckers don't give you great advices like /b/
I need to lurk feels threads here more often. And sorry for my english im drunk af right now and not native english speaker.
most evenings alone, have few people who would give up a nut to help me but even they are bored with me. had some "friends" earlier in college but they grew disgusted with me and bailed. 25 and kissless virgin btw, don't even pity myself just too down to start doing anything, waiting for my hour before the boss
those 1960's impalas looked sweet, it's ridiculous how much the model has changed...cars were cooler back then
you too, thanks man, hang in there, better days are always on the horizon
FEELS! WE GOT FEELS! HERE HEY EVERYONE FEELS!
Don't die on my now lonesome thread
I think so, once my senior year of college. then maybe once again during a 4 month relationship at age 24.
it's quite a secure feeling, there's no jealousy
but then you start worrying about the future
and you take a job somewhere else
or she moves away
or things change
i dunno man
Be good guys in rl bros
Help old people, Blind people at the trainstation, smile and so on
Improve yourself, learn new things, travel, become happy
It really helped me to come out of some down years
>met a girl
>we are like bound souls
>things got serious
>we are hanging out everyday
>i think i'm in love
>this goes for a 2 months or so
>she went on a summer camp for one week
>hey anon this is my new boyfriend chad
POF is a pile of wank, just like most other dating sites. They have a list of things you need to tick off before they even want to speak or see you. Like most anon's here are saying. Just focus on yourself, that old adage of if you feel good on the inside you feel good on the outside rings true. However wank it sounds, then out of the blue some ditsy cute girl will catch you're eye.
Two months isn't enough to realize you're in love in my opinion. That's the honeymoon phase that fades eventually. It's after six months, when you actually have to put work into it that you know whether it's worth it or not.
Lonely? Lonlier than I have every been.
I had my birthday 3 days ago. It was the one day of the year I always was made to feel special when my Mum called. Mum died last christmas and Dad died straight after.
Lonely does not cut it.
only one solution : steal chad away from her and show her it's her loss
Kudos to you dude. That sounds pretty secure to me.
Happy belated birthday guy. Found the perfect stripper for ya.
It would b hard to b lonelier than I, op.
Happy Cinco de Mayo!
Anyone else know that feel when you have ways to make yourself happy but it's like someone has just come and drained the happiness out of everything. I'm on discord with 5 friends playing games and pretty much feel like i'm on an island alone.
Yeah In a sense anon. I am too I guess. In a weird way. Its like I have a gf and 2 kids, and I still feel alone. Sometimes I want to be with them or hang out, and they are all cursed with glutton. I send them to a faggot ass private school, they have nice shoes clothes video games etc. gf gets to enjoy nice house and shit, and they never fucking want to go out and do what the fuck I want to do, so I got tired of it. I barely know them anymore. They just live there, Locked in their rooms playing vidya or hanging with their gf doing makeup with their hotass hs friends, and gf wants to chill at bar all the time. I have money for a down payment for a new house in Dallas TX. Far away from LA and cheaper. Im thinking of jumping off and running...
yes. fuck man i am. but somehow loving someone didnt make things easier for me. i cant see my so all that much and we've got our future ahead of us and it seriously worries me so much. i dont want to lose this person because of distance or anything. but i generally worry too much about everything.
if you love someone and they love you back it gives you so much warmth and strenght to keep going with everything. probably saved me from yet another damn down in my life.
I know it's hard but put the hammer down anon. If they are shitheads right now they will probably be shitheads when they grow up. Once they respect you things will get better. Don't be a nigger and leave your family, even though it's so much easier to run. It's just not the right thing.
yeh thanks dude. they are my kids, I love them. But its hard becoming so distant. I dont know what happened to them. Probably my fault, working and shit all the time in diff countries.
Feel for you man but you can't just up and quit, your gf (wife?) would run you dry, especially with the kids. Don't know how US laws work but seek some help or something from an outside party like a lawyer if you're serious.
aw man before you run off at least try to improve their character a bit, teach them a lesson.
I'm imaging tricking them into thinking they're going to some fancy resort but instead you go backwoods camping or some shit. Make them feel their real dependence on you. Don't back down or anything you make them sleep outdoors and without bars for at least one night.
Or maybe your car "breaks down" in the middle of nowhere but luckily you brought along sleeping bags and hotdogs.
This is probably why I shouldn't have kids, I like fuckin around with people too much.
This is /b/, we're all lonely.
Don't worry anon somebody. Somewhere. Loves you or will appreciate you for what you do.
Good luck with love and love anon.
I'm in the second year of college and I'm failing pretty much all of my subjects. I ditched all my friends because they're really obnoxious and I still miss a girl that left me over two years ago.
Do you ever get over someone that you loved more than you've ever loved yourself?
I don't know. I've just been feeling down lately. Don't succeed in high school been failing all or nearly my classes. My mom left my dad and blames the both of us for being tyranic and I feel like it's my fault. Also feel like shit since I used to be DMG and now I'm Gold Nova 2. Been coming more and more to /b/ to feel normal as if I fit in this is my home by now.
>not a newfag
Some poet in my country said that: if you dont at least like yourself you can't love someone else.
And i think it's true cuz i would hate to ruin some girls life by marrying me
I know dude but I just... Im just tired I have to go look at a service call.>>682826813
hey guys. thanks for caring bros. it felt really good to get that off my chest. Sorry i didnt reply, I had one of my employees come and drone on about office drama. I have to let somebody go and then Im going to go for a walk before I go home. Thanks guys really... I love you.
Checked and what country is it anon?
I'm not that poet but I'm curious.
But yeah, I guess that's why I can't get into a stable relationship pfff it's not the fact I'm in high school and high school relationships don't last a week
I love you too anon.
Also old thread you might wanna see
Pizza is love
At a work day spending 1 hour on toilet breaks whilst spending 8hrs a day working.. My boss doesn't give a shit if it's medical I'm not productive enough.
My partner knows about it but still is annoyed because when we go out and there is no restroom near or I take too long in a restroom she gets bored and always nags about it.
I dont have the heart to tell my mother I'll probably die before she does.
I spend most my time at the office because I cba to go home to a nagging wife and I can't stand looking my mother in the eye knowing she doesn't know what I know.
If it can help you guys feeling better, I'll show you a act of kindness by linking you the blog of this pic artist:
have faith bros, I can personaly assure you playing this game named Starbound on multiplayer will help you fight lonelyness.
You cannot truly be in love with someone else until you learn to love yourself. Usually the other person makes it easier for you to love yourself if they truly love you. It goes both ways too.
When Im sad, y eat pizza, but... not the normal way.
First, i put the pizza out of the package. Then, with a spoon, i take out all the cheese and ingredients. When is all out, i put more tomato in the pizza, and a lot of Emmental cheese.
It smell like shit in the oven, but tastes really good.
To eat the pizza, I take out he cheese again, and put it aside. I eat the mass and finally, put the cheese in a burrito.
Give it a try, it will make you happy.
Like who tho? I've been to all the doctors I could... All I can do is wait for a transplant but we all know that's never going to happen with these waiting lists. I'll be dead in 1-2 years. I've written my will already..
This. When I was going through the lowest of my depression it really weighed on my girlfriend. She tried to be there for me but eventually it got to be too much for her. I hated her after she left but eventually I understood why she did it. She was the kindest girl I've ever known too.
Ah okay the Canadian fag here.
I really hope you get better.
Otherwise it'll be a terrible loss.
You know what your story kinda makes me think of? Alex by Mark Kalesniko. It's a comic please do read it OP.
Her name was Dana. The only girl I've ever truly loved and that was over 5 years ago. I think about her everyday, even when I was in relationships after that. She married someone from Wales a year ago. My heart sank when I heard about it. The saying goes if you truly love someone you will do anything to make them happy. That's what I did. I stayed away even though all that I ever wanted was to be close to her. There are plenty of fish in the sea... yeah but there's only one like Dana.
i just do other things and it takes my mind off of it
It's not sad. It makes you think. A lot. All the comix by Mark Kalesniko make you think a lot
haha there's tears in my eyes right now. Not panicking tough.
That is the saying. I'm really sorry that it didn't work out anon. I wish I could help in a better way than writing this reply.
My partner left me for 'not showing enough emotion'. This after my partner got very aggresive with me but I gave it another chance. I learnt my lesson there.
My parents talk to me alot but I cant seem to connect with them. My brother moved out a moth ago and the house has never been this empty. I sleep with his stuffed animal sometimes and pretend he's still here.
Grow up my friend, It's not all about fucking. I fuck a few girls after that but i never loved them. Keep this thread mannerly.
And you sleep with his stuffed animal?
Idk man I guess to each their own when it comes to family.
in my experience the loneliness tends to fade over time, you become stronger and more armored
of course that's just about the time when you think about trying again...and open up again...and get hurt again
Were any of you guys lonely when you were 14?
I am and nobody talks to me. I'm not a goth just somewhat look normal. But I still have no friends. I feel so alone that I come to /b/ everyday to feel at home
Kid, high school is a battleground of fear and loathing. You have to realize that you're not the only one going through it and at that age everybody feels insecure even if they don't show it.
Hell yea this 1000% op. You don't need other people to not be bored, be happy with yourself before you even consider random other fuming people. Do what you want, have a great time doing it, and people will come to you because your so fucking awesome and their lives are boring toxic drama shit.
Honestly don't be afraid of what you're going through don't be afraid to take chances. A lot of people regret not doing more when they were that age. Do what we all wish we could have done.
If you faggots are lonely, go out. Simple as that. go out into a bar, nightclub start talking to random strangers. YOu'll prob. fail cuz you have social anxiety and no self esteem. But that comes after a while. Just do something. Without doing noone will ever do something for you. Doing iompresses people. Doing distracts you form your own personal problems. doing makes oyu happy(if you do things you like) just do things. Doing is happyness in nowadays society. And by doing i dont mean playing pc games. I mean doing a real hobby like cars repairing, building something. doings something real with your bare hands.
Go do sports, sports you like, not for the health benefit, also for fun.... like bicycling? why not go outside bicycling, instead of driving around in GTA V mountains?. Like swimming go swimming.... avoid Gyms, at least for me they are demotivational, no fun in there.
Get rid of videogames, throw away your comp, keep an ultrabook or something for important stuff. Instead of videogames try to discover stuff and sports you like. Start doing things. You have to decide completely. First the hard work then the fun. Preferably the hardwork should be fun.
Oh yea you should use your free time to plan ahead what you want to do, what are you personal ideals? how do you want to change and influence the world? or do you want to help people? Do things you really like. Things that give yourself selfesteem. like charity for example.
Then make time to go out to the bars and chat with random people. People are always more open with a few drinks in them. Being an 8/10 that plays games and is down to earth is like a godsend to most guys. It won't be that hard to find someone and I'm honestly surprised you don't have anyone lined up.
Don't use alcohol for socializing your health and psyche gonna make you regret it sooner or later. Im 23 and had a pancreatitis, no alcohol for the rest of my life. I ended up realizing im a socioal awkward guy when not drunk. YOu should get rid of alcohol, its heatlhy, keeps you smarter and alot of girls like it.
Then eat healthy. Avoid sugar,alcohol, eat only vegetables.
And your IT job, well depends on if you like it or not, but you have computers around you all day and sit in front of TV and PC after work too. YOu need some balance. Don't work outor osmetihng, you need nature and sun in your face. WE are still human beeings, organisms,animals. we need the freedom of nature. go in the woods as often as possible. Enjoy the things around you.
This. I've been drinking for 6 years straight now. I feel like shit now and unlike me five years ago I'm not witty or socially pleasing to be around. I thought it was the solution but it became the silent problem.
I drink like once every two weeks, I find it really helps me unwind, especially if I'm feeling really up tight (that feeling like your mind is on rails)
For some reason vodka fucks with my stomach where gin and whiskey don't, but whatever works m8 just make sure you are getting lots of dat h20
ok thats hard to live with :/ i know an autist aswell who already had a girlfriend though(dunno how strong yours is, but sometimes its even worse if you always think about it). I myself got laid already, but unfortunately never had a girlfriend(beeing 23 yo) why? cuz Trauma, Dominant Mother and shit) I am an emotional cripple that is really scared of girls, i often dissociate when talking to them. Im still fighting. Its a curse i want to fuck girls, and i want to love one and be loved by one. I realized though, by doing things for my own. i'll prob. achieve it faster than desperatly searching for one. Its like i can stare onto a mountain as often as i want which is fun for a while, but i want to climb it. And to climb it i need tools and muscles. so before i climb it i have to get those first.