I am a recovering alcoholic and i recently slipped up. just one night but it was enough for me to send an enraged set of text messages to a girl who rejected me, and now we're not even friends anymore, she's blocked me etc etc
>>682699935 Well, this will either cause people to hate me or give me actual advice. I'll give the 5 second version: Best bro gets gf about 3 weeks ago, I've known her for a while and she has all sorts of mental issues, she gets feelings for me, I basically told her that I like her too, but only as friends and that even if I did like her as more, she's dating my best bro. She broke up with him on Monday, saying she never had feelings for him, and now I'm like "Well, crap." I still wanna be her friend and keep her from becoming an hero, but after the shit she pulled, I don't want to even look at her anymore... what do, guys?
I am pretty sure my life right now is the plot of a rom com. > fall in love for first time > she doesn't love me back and is in a relationship > become really good friends with her boyfriend > later on I get a girlfriend, we date for about three years > girl I was in love with gets engaged during this period > we all become really close friends > girlfriend and I break up in September > following Christmas, girl I was in love with confesses feelings for me > ff to about three weeks ago, she says she's in love with me > mfw she's still engaged and still in love with fiancé as well > mfw I realize I'm still in love with her
So i just heard from the girl i like that she went to a "friend" today and now shes gonna sleep over at his plays and they're in a relationship. Even though this monday she came over here and we kissed and cuddled all day. Damn man. I feel fucked over.
>>682701539 Bro, I have no fucking clue, that shit's never happened to me. Honestly. I'd recommend some sort of large gesture of apology, or just simply tell her in person you're sorry, tell her exactly what happened, and that you didn't mean what you said.
>>682701532 It's a whole lot of fucked up. And she sits there telling me she has these feelings for me, and says that she hates them and wishes she never felt them.. And of course, she has no idea how I feel about her, so she has no idea how much that hurts.
>>682701977 Well, the thing is, we've been able to maintain the friendship without any incidents, and she's been one of my best friends for the past 6 years. Despite how I feel, I'm not going to let it threaten what I already have with her
>>682703305 I will be seeing a regular doc Tommorow to see if I can get sleep drugs and to be put in touch with a shrink or whatever people know but as usual they invert it towards themselves and make it about them it fucks me off but what can I do Also I don't need advice anon people seemed to like it in another feels thread so I thought I'd put it here
Repost from a few minutes ago >meet someone in a steam beg thread a little over a year ago >got to know them really well, turned out to be a great guy >we'd talk everyday, played all sorts of games together >I decided I liked him, and was working up the courage to tell him >"Alright dude, talk to you tomorrow :)" >Last online: 126 days ago
I'll try to keep this post to the point S possible. Bf and I have been together for almost 1.5 years. 4 years ago he was with this girl- the cause of the biggest heartbreak he'll probably ever experience and the person who really "rocked [his] world" , he says -
I've told him the L word a few times, knowing yet always hoping vainly that he'll return the words one day.
I got tired if him bringing up his breakup (she dumped him for a mutual friend of theirs) and the shitty time in his career that was happening at the same time. He brought it up whenever he was feeling really down or stressed. So I asked him to please not bring up that time in his life again unless he has something new/constructive to sat aboot it.
Anyway. I just feel like I'll never reach him. I know he cares about me. But what am I doing wrong? I agree to whatever he wants to do usually, be it a boring movie or something else, and we get along really well. We make each other laugh. He fixes my car, I cook him food. We work well together. I just...
How do you get someone to be in love with you? Falling in love is out of the question at this point.
The gate to work was locked when I got in on Tuesday so, instead of calling anyone (I really don't like being a bother) I just slept in the company car. And, when I asked if my phone was dead, said ya.
I used to call when any little thing came up and now I try never to call for help. I don't mind sleeping in a car, I do it all the time now. I just don't want the minor inconvenience of getting laughed at over the matter.
>>682706063 you can't, he either has to come to terms with the fact that he lost her, or you have to leave him. Don't waste your time with some guy that's too busy sulking over a past relationship to pay attention to his current one.
>>682708371 I know you're just tryna be nice anon and for that i thank you but eat a cock Ive heard that and "you know its not your fault right anon" so many times the last couple of weeks I feel like stabbing someone I know I'll be OK I know its not my fault I'm not a woman I'll get through it
>>682708983 :( I've been trying to not tell myself this. My best friend tells me the same thing. Thanks. I appreciate the opinion of a complete stranger a lot. I want to give us a chance. But with your opinion and that of my best bud's ... I'll keep it in mind. Thank you anon. Wish I could give you a hug instead of cry into my pillow
>>682708694 Well it really is something when a random person on the internet tries more than those who are supposed to care thanks anon and I know I'll get through it although the fact that I spent years burying it with drugs and now have to dredge it all up makes it just that much more difficult
>>682710300 I'm ironically on the other end. I'm in a relationship that's ending while I'm in love with a really nice guy. We cuddled and kissed and he made me feel better in a matter of weeks than anyone truely has. I feel bad that I'm with my boyfriend, and I'm just waiting for a softer time to leave him.
>>682702007 Dude, I'm "that girl" down to the hanging out Monday. Hopelessly in love, waiting to leave the bastard. Talk to me anon, this isn't a happy plain either, but with a big guy to deal with, it's terrifying
>>682710823 There isn't really such a thing as a softer time to break up with someone. It would be best to do it as soon as possible. Then again I've only ever been broken up with and have never done the breaking up with
>>682710782 Did you abandon him though? That's all that matters really that's what's stopping me from telling my only friend the fear of him just leaving because of the stigma of it all and noone has good advice in these situations my good cousins gf was raped and even she can't think of what to say to me
i have some sort of personality disorder where it's fucking impossible for me to be emotionally close to others, i end up sabotaging friendships and moving on, i prefer isolation vastly to the ups and downs of human connection
My ex and I are not together but we're still going to be hanging out cuddling and making out. Catch is she's going to be sort of dating someone on the side (nothing physical) because he makes her happy. She's going through some shit right now, mostly thanks to me
>>682711487 I don't know who you are. I may never see you or cry with you or get drunk with you. But I love you. I hope that you escape this place. I hope that the world turns and that things get better.
>>682712922 I enjoy hanging out at mall of America with friends once in a while. I want to say there are always a few shops that are nice to check out but I can't think of many. Just Godiva (which is, expectedly, expensive AF & there's a cheese shop with really aged cheddar). I'm hoping to do at least 20 myself.
>what do I do Hang out with us, maybe give me your contact info
>killed sex-drive mine don't do that to me, though they make it easier not to fap so much so it's nice. If they weren't so effective, I'd change to some that would help you lose weight; I've gained nearly 20 lbs for unrelated reasons.
>>682713378 Even after I do, he has someone too. Do I continue to make him happy; he's falling for my intelligence, my confidence. I'm more beautiful than she is, more daring and spontaneous. I'm not meaning to cause the other girl harm, but he was my childhood love, we're acting on 10 years of sexual tension and acting like a couple in private without the acts.
>>682713605 Just everything I seen in this world makes me sick. People dont fucking about anything. this world is so full of hate. I'm fucking sick of it. It doesn't matter what the color of your skin is, or whats between your legs. People are just so full of HATE. I cant stand it anymore.
>>682697300 >tfw developed such a feel for a girl that one day my brain went haywire and I became obsessed with the number 1143, I didn't realise what it meant when I first heard it in my head, it was just there suddenly, then some weeks later, some anon suggested in a feels thread that maybe it was there because it sounds like her name.
My dog is dying of cancer. We haven't gotten confirmation from the vets yet but they couldn't find one of her kidneys in the ultrasound, she's got growths in her stomach and near her lungs, she's short of breath, rapidly lost weight, won't eat, what the fuck else is it gonna be?
I don't know what hurts more; that I'm losing another dog to cancer less than 2 years after the last one, or that the last 3 years I spent raising this one - immediately after graduating high school - are going to waste.
>>682713923 Honestly anon, and this is coming from a fellow girl, I think you need to 1. Leave current bf 2. HAve a conversation with the new guy as to what exactly you two are thinking in the long run. And what you're both doing to your current significant others.
He should leave his current gf for you if he wants to be with you. And same for you. Or if you just want to be free, sorta the same thing.
The worst part about my emotional state is that the posts here about love don't resonate with me at all. It's been so long since I've had any kind of infatuation that I've forgotten what it feels like, so these mean nothing to me.
>Be me, 17, visiting family in another country >Arrange a meeting with a childhood friend >Lets call him John >John cannot come, but sister wants to meet me (wanted to ask me questions about John in elementary) >Lets call her Gaby >Fine by me >Meet Gaby (never met her before. about the same age as me. 11/10 qt) >The meeting with John was supposed to be movies then dinner >Do the same with her >Half way through dinner I fall deeply in love >Could tell she like me >To much of a beta fag to ask her for her number >Arrive home feeling dizzy (no drinking) >Turns out I got symptoms for falling in love (insomnia, nausea, headache) >Arrange another meeting with John >Tell him to bring Gaby with him (wanted to be with Gaby more than with him) >Spend day at the beach >Nothing really remarkable happens > Still a beta fag unwilling to move forward with a relationship >Go back to the country I'm currently living in >Pissed of at myself for being beta >Fast forward 2 years >Kinda forgot about Gaby(remembered her but I wasn't in love with her still) >A girlfriend came and went in between >Gaby is traveling without him (I had lost contact with John at this point) >Connecting flight for 8 hours in my country >Contacts me since she knows I live there >Meet up >Nothing fancy, hanging at my place >about 3 minutes into a conversation I fall in love again >Knew I needed to get a way to contact her >1 roommate and his friend randomly show up >Try to kick them out >Doesn't work >Roommate and friend see that she is hot so they stay talking with >The 4 of us talk until she has to leave >So pissed of that roommate fuck me up >2 more years go by >Haven't been able to fall in love since (she was too perfect) >I'm sure I have dreamt of her about 5-10 times (not sexual dreams, just being with her) >See her in people you might know on Facebook >Send her a friend request >IDK how to start a conversation with her without seeming awkward >Don't even know if she remembers me >What to do /b/?
>>682713923 I was in your postion four years ago. I was unhappy in my relationship though. My suggestion is to just jump the gun and tell your boyfriend NOW that you love someone else. It's not fair to him and yourself. Go to the other guy. That's what I did and I'm still with him. And we still love each other.
>>682716000 I personally believe that the Butterfly Effect brings so much more meaning to life. Doesn't matter if you are giving someone a dollar to pay for their coffee, give a homeless guy a sandwich, or helping someone out in a feels thread. The smallest things can have the largest impacts.
>>682716721 You're right. I want him so bad, it drives me crazy. We talk from the moment he opens his eyes until 5am sometimes. He missed his chance with me a long time ago and regretted it. I'm leaving this dude tomorrow, collecting my shit and gtfo. I deserve to be happy too.
>>682718856 I got one anon. You aren't broken. You just lost the light. You are now in a place where you think all there is left is a dark abyss, waiting to suck you in. You are so wrong. You are a strong person. You can get out. You made it this far. You have to push further. You have to draw strength from the pain. You will want to collapse most days. You must power through. You can't let the doubt in, not even once. You can do it. This isn't how your story ends. You. Will. Make it.
>>682706063 You know, anon. I know I do not know shit about life, however, in my little experience I can tell you that most men have the memory of 1 girl, and then most men realize that it is a good memory and look forward. Love, my dear anón, is far from fucking everyday everytime. Love is not made of sex, but work. Work, patience and work and trust, and work and resist the urge to strangle each other and work, helping each other to be the best persons that each of you can be. It is up to him realize where he really wants to be and it us up to you realize if you are working enough to build love or if he is worth the effort.
>>682706063 I'm surprised you told him to not talk about that time in his life with his ex. Obviously he has a lot of unresolved issues about it. Plus since you love him you should happily listen to it since there is a good reason he brought it up.
>>682717379 Anon I had a similar experience with a girl. I made a colossal fuck up in our relationship. Not the kind of fuck up in that you just didn't do a thing the kind of fuck up in which you affect her negatively and make her dislike you. I remember trembling every time I saw a picture of her because it reminded me how much I loved her and how much I fucked up. I persisted. Kept on trying and now she is my gf. When a girl gives you symptoms for falling in love you know she is the right person
>>682710782 I'm not the anon who said he's an ass but I get what hes saying I think. He has a real good front which causes him to look like a great person, but life just destroyed him internally to a point that he such is an ass to himself. Destroys everything that is good for him.
>>682720232 You're the first person in my time on /b/ since my break-up 6 months ago. Me and her still talk, we don't fuck other people, and I'm still trying to improve myself hoping that someday she'll see that. I know that feeling. "The Colossal Fuck-Up." It takes time to accomplish and even more time to demolish. I hope to someday be able to say the same anon, godspeed. Hold her close for me.
>>682721693 Please don't od. Get yourself nodding and share the rest with me!! Seriously though, you fags are not in that bad of positions. You torture yourselves without even trying to. Tell your GP about your mood, you'll get where you need to be soon enough
It was only within my last year of high school that I told the girl I loved, since 3rd fucking grade, that I had feelings for her. She told me shes felt the same way for the past years. We're going to colleges hours away from each other and I feel awful about ruining what I've always dreamed of.
>>682717379 Pretty much in the same situation as you. A girl I love with all my heart lives in another country and the only way I can get the chance to see her in person again is if I talk to her through social media. I know I'm a beta fag but I don't know if she remembers me; plus we have mutual acquaintances and if I seem like a creep I'm sure it will get back to me through those acquaintances.
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