Help. Oldfag here. Tell me to fuck off, I don't care. I'm asking my brothers to make a serious life choice for me.
I've been dating this girl for nearly 8 years now. I might be getting a house with her but I don't want to make a mistake. She is pretty and shit, but she has an attitude about everyting, constantly stressed, and boring. Plus the sex is boring. Do I get a nice house with her and ignore her? Keep trying to salvage this relationship and act like everything is cool beans? Leave and get a shit house and enjoy the single life? The fuck do I do? I don't want a wedding, kids, and shit. I want to live. But I also don't want her to go psycho and kill me.
boring sex?
ignore her. find someone better.
>>675319876
get a house by yourself not together dont make things more complicated by getting her more involved in your life that way
just keep her around until you find something better
Do it, or don't do it, you'll regret both.
>>675320176
The most boring sex. Missionary, doggy, or on her side. Thats it. She asks me to be dominant then immediately asks for me to slow down. She says she wants to have a threesome. Six years ago.
Never buy a home with anyone you don't feel solid about.
Rent, /b/ro.
>>675320358
Exactly. Now do I regret life with her or regret a life alone (after I fuck hundreds of hoes instead of one).
DON'T BUY THE HOUSE WITH HER UNLESS YOU ARE MARRIED!!!!! If you break up, she can change the locks while you are work, get a restraining order against you by lying to the police, and then not let you back in your own house. And, of course you are still on the hook for the mortgage even if she doesn't pay it. Buy the house yourself, and let her move into YOUR place. That way you can kick her to the curb when you realize that life is too short to put up with mediocre sex.
>>675320432
>She says she wants to have a threesome
Warning. Warning.
Abandon ship.
>>675319876
you already know the answer bro.
dump her and move on.
>>675320465
Ive been a house with her for 4 years now. Shit has barely changed.
8 years is a long time... i mean, i barely had anything last for more than 8 minutes.
>>675320860
I feel so whipped now. I've been lying to myself all these years. Holding it in. Now how do I end it without her murdering me?
>>675320834
If you buy it with her on the paperwork, you might as well just give her half now.
>>675319876
If you're posting about your qualms and grievances with this girl, and you haven't even taken the next step yet, then I think you know the answer.
In this situation, nostalgia is your enemy. Don't fall into the trap where you only end up thinking about the good memories when seriously considering a break-up.
>>675321194
I fucked that post up. I've been renting a house with her for 4 years. Now we are looking to buy, but I'm having second thoughts because of how boring she is and will still be.
>>675320666
First off, nice trips. Secondly, since you are basically alone in this world and really the only person you will ever be able to solely rely on for anything, I would much prefer my time to be spent alone than with someone who I didn't want to be with. That's just me, but I think that it's a pretty decent argument as to why you should end it with her.
>>675321462
don't buy a house with someone you don't want to get married to/spend the rest of our life with, especially if you can support yourself
don't be a pussy, break up with her and stop wasting her/your time, zig or zag
>>675321693
Damn, my first trips are 666 and I post about regrets. Well fuck. Time to start house shopping for myself.
>>675322141
look up domestic partnership laws in your state as well (there's another word for this when it's implied vs official I think)
if she moves in with you (in many states) she has claim to the house
/b/ is the last place id go for relationship advice. but what do i know I dont do relationships I just fuck random tinder people lol
>>675319876
11 years soon
Listen mate, this is life. Any bitch that you fuck for 8 years will get boring. Thats just shit is. And no matter how hot you see other girls, just remember that there is somebody out there tired of fucking that. You are probably not 20 any more. Im guessing late 20. This is when house, kids, the other part of your life starts. If you dont marry this girl, you will go out and marry other girl. And the other girl probably wont be abel to cook as good. Or will have other issues. Every bitch has something. Girls your age are looking for something to settle down with. Sure, you will go out and fuck a girl or two, but you will soon relize that every girl just wants a house, kids and all that.
And my bet is if you have been with this bitch for 8 years, there are probably some good things you like about her.
What you are feeling now, is what every guy feels. You are thinking that if you get a house, you wont be abel to fuck other bitches. If you get married, you wont be abel to fuck other bitches. If you get kids, you wont be abel to fuck other bitches. But lets be real here. You havent been alowed to fuck other bitches for 8 years.
And you will regret it. Single life is chill for weekends, rest of the time you will wish you had somebody. So grow some balls, tell your bitch you love her stupid ass and tell her that you should get a house because that will be economicly better for both of you if you are haveing each a place of your own.
Tell her that you are ready for kids, because after 30+ your sperm quality and her egg quality is going down and you dont want to have retarded kids or kids with disabilities.
Get married. Not for you. For her. Chicks love that. And when you buy a ring, 3 months+ salery. Dont go cheap on this one. Bitches love to show off that shit and they want it to be expencive.
>>675322440
The fuck am I doing. Thanks for the light. I don't want to give her shit when she can't even cook dinner or put toilet paper on the holder properly.
>>675320790
>>675319876
Sad to say, this is the answer. 8 years though? Why so long? Comfortable and scared to go outside that comfort zone? Sounds like you're over her, so time to move on before those attachments become stronger.
>>675319876
You've listed all of the reasons you don't like her and all of the things you don't want. You've already made up your own mind /b/ro.
You just need to savagely break her heart so she never wants to speak to you again and move on with your life.
>>675323040
But I don't want to be like you justifying everything. Maybe I'll give a house with her a try. She is paying for most of it anyhow. Shit goes down bad, well then I can try single life.
>>675319876
>oldfag here
yeah, fuck off
>>675319876
Leave her, homie.
I know it's comfortable and safe but you need to challenge yourself.
Prioritize becoming the best version of yourself imaginable.
And a boring/stressed person around you all the time? Why would you want that for yourself?
>>675323683
You are right mate. Every married guy is justifing it.
Dump her, test it for yourself. Then tell me how good single life is when all your friends are married with kids.
>>675323040
Telling him to get married to a woman he's already bored with, give up on his sex life because it will be boring anyway and buy a ring that costs 1/4 of a year's salary that she'll keep in the divorce.
Tits or gtfo bitch.
>>675323552
After our pets died, parents divorced, friends died, etc...we found something in common. Depression, so now that I'm out of mine she is all pissy and shit that she hasnt or cant change? Idk
>>675323994
Grow up.
>>675319876
If you don't want to get married and you don't have kids with her, what the fuck are you doing?
Buying a house is a huge investment and commitment. If the relationship doesn't work out, neither of you are getting out of that house without a lot of time and effort.
If you are really unhappy then you should leave before you end up miserable and locked into a house payment.
If you are only bored but she's great otherwise, then maybe you're the boring one. Try to spice up your love life, tell her your bored and you wanna blow a load on her face or screw her in the changing room of a store or whatever. Go out on interesting dates. If your bored you just might be the boring one...
beware of the grass being greener syndrome. If you been with her 8 years, you are in your mid to late 20s or early 30s. There are reasons women are single at those ages and it not usually a good reason.
So, in short, don't buy a house with her unless you are in it for the long haul and if you are in it for the long haul, make it fun by being the fun one.
>>675322141
>allowing randomized numbers on a website determine your life path
You should just jump off of a bridge, much better for all parties involved.
>>675324154
Honestly, using her. She pays the rent I pay the bills, but lie and say they are expensive.
I am the fun one, she has no friends and pushed mine away. After being shut down every day I can only do so much to please her and myself.
>>675319876
you sound unhappy, go to couples therapy or try to salvage the relationship if it's worth it, if not, break up with her.
>>675323936
Married guy here. 6 years in April. Got a house, toddler and a baby on the way. Job sucks, housework sucks, kid's cool but gets frustrating, wife always nagging and all I ever want is to drink a beer and play some vidya for a couple hours. Single life sounds pretty good but I'm well past the stage where I can do that.
>>675324414
Will do...when I am 80 or have cancer.
>>675323040
This here is knowledge.
I never wanted to get married, I'd fuck anything female that moved.
Now I'm older, married with a baby and a mortgage. Never been happier in my life.
It's true you young fags, you will change, marriage is good for you and a loving family is the best of all.
>>675320432
>says she wants to have a threesome
I don't care what sex she said she preferred, this girl WILL cheat on you; it's absolutely inevitable.
No girl who has ever made this request has ever NOT been a whore
>>675324068
Sounds like a bad place to be. If you're under 30 and it were me, I'd bail.
>>675324482
Yup, bail out time.
So about bailing without her going psycho - how's the job and savings situation? You broke? Shit job? Any prospects for work/living? Opposed to moving to a new city?
>>675319876
Old as fuck and happily married over 17 years (believe it or not).
Please dump her. That sounds awful, man.
>>675319876
She has already given you a pretty good preview of what married life would be like with her. If the sex is boring now, it will stop completely after she gets the ring, her attitude will worsen, and you will be stuck.
Looks like it's time to move on.
>>675324955
I will post this same image one day with an update. Until then, I'll sleep on if I want to continue or not.
>>675324955
Nah, they say that and then never deliver to keep you interested too. Same reason girls make out at bars: attention.
>>675319876
Looks like you've allready made up your mind. You are just here looking for approval because you are not man enought and dont have balls to just do what you wanna do.
such a cunt.
>>675324482
You gotta be a man. You have to stand up for yourself and tell her what you want. Don't be a worm. A relationship is too often a contest of wills. A woman will test you and you have to stand up for yourself.
she'll respect you if you respect yourself. Otherwise, she'll walk all over you.
>>675319876
>she has an attitude about everyting, constantly stressed, and boring. Plus the sex is boring.
How is not dumping that bitch even an option?
Dump that bitch.
>>675319876
No, this is stupid. You're being stupid. Stop being stupid!
>>675323936
>>675324125
Keep posting those pics
>>675325241
And what you've just said runs through my mind every day. Im tired of pleasin someone who cant even try to please me.
>>675322141
Whatever you choose, best of luck to you brother
>>675325598
Have you told her that?
>>675325105
No debt, work for Samsung. Only 23. Life feels boring because everything goes almost too smoothly.
Fellow oldfag here - nothing to add that hasn't already been said. I bailed after 6 years, best decision I ever made.
>>675325741
Yes then I got the stinkeye and a night with the couch. I should have fucked her 12 year old sister when I was 15 and left. Fuck.
>>675326033
How long ago was this? I'm thinking the night on the couch should have been a night packing your shit.
Assuming this isn't bait...
Been attached 5 yrs, married 3, was single before that for a long time. No house or kids yet.
Sometimes I dislike my life. I'm the industrious one in the relationship. She works and makes money, but I do literally everything else, on top of full time grad school. My wife isn't super hot, though she's a total nympho while somehow being pretty conservative in bed (compared to my distorted porn-fuelled idealized fantasy sex life).
But thinking back to the single days, or about my other "options," I have it pretty good now. Maybe being single is better for others, but it was pretty lonely and celibate for me.
Do I sometimes want a real cock whore semen demon who is constantly dragging me into crazy sexual adventures? Sure, but where/when does that end.
I'm in the early stages of this relationship still, so I suppose if it comes to it, I could find some side action and/or blow the whole thing up.
But for now I keep shit in perspective. Nothing in the world is perfect, not even love (fairy tale love is just that, a bullshit fairy tale). So is suggest, OP, doing the same thing I'm doing: Keep shit in perspective and bide your time.
>>675325858
Dude, your 23? Move on brother.
I'm the one of the ones pushing marriage but not anymore.
I never got so much pussy as I did when I was 25 and 26. Hit the gym, stay in shape and work on that game. The panties will be dropping.
Time to move on my young brother.
When you finally dump her, please post her nudes in /s/. I'll be waiting.
trust your gut, you already know what your gonna do but it will be in the moment and not a second later
>>675326859
This. This is the answer.
>>675319876
dont force yourself into a greater commitment if you find her boring, just dump her ass, you know deep insede that you will do it eventually
Leave her. She won't kill you. Tell her that needing to decide on the house I a serious life choice and that lead you to reflect on what you really want to do in life. You two aren't the same people you were. Even though you have been a huge part of each other's lives, at some point it turned into going through the motions. The fire isn't there anymore for you.
>>675319876
You know what to do faggot.
>>675319876
boring sex make it more interesting some sick perverted shit role play, forced sex stuff like that.
been single for a long time sucks balls.
>>675325858
Lol, my roommate works for Qualcomm and sometimes does conference calls from home with Samsung hq in Korea. The Koreans engineers are fucking shit.
(I'm Korean.)
>>675319876
Married a girl a lot like that. Have an amazing kid but she tells me I'm a terrible parent ("Stop trying to cheer him up when he's crying. It's a natural reaction, just let him cry" - her) My son is the best thing in my life and I wil never regret that but living with her is a constant state of her being unhappy and stressed due to her workaholic nature and being chinese and having no sense of what entertainment is. Literally. For her work is her fun time. She has no hobbies.
Try to remember her at her worst, and think of how often she's like that. Now imagine that 24/7.
Is it worth it?
>>675319876
sounds like most women after a while. pretty normal. the sex sluts are out there for sure, but they will be fucking other guys as well. your choice. married fag here.
Do not marry her, or buy anything like a house or a car with both of your names on it. If you want to buy a nice house just have your name on it, you could charge her rent to live there with you but don't make a contract otherwise she turn crazy and you are stuck with her.
Oldfags don't say oldfag
If you have to ask /b/ about salvaging a relationship then you should end it now. Get a ok place for yourself and enjoy your life.
Don't be dumb for the first 6-12 months. You will get lonely since you had a relationship for so long.
Enjoy your hand faggot.
>>675328236
My wife is still awesome in bed after 17 years of marriage but we still try to make life fun and still genuinely enjoy each other's company, so that probably makes us an exception.
Break up dude, fuck the dumb shit life is short
>>675319876
If you were with her 8 years there's a reason I hope, so do it faggot
Don't move in with someone you aren't super into.
If you don't feel excited about making her a permanent part of your life, dump her. 8 years together is too long for you to be having doubts. If the doubts aren't gone after 8 years, they will never be gone.
If the sex is boring, your life will be boring. Good sex is essential. Leave her.
>>675319876
Break it. The personality defines the relationship, and it's not healthy to keep acting like you are when your feelings are not that way. If you stay with her, you'll either break up eventually or you'll regret it on your deathbed. Trust me. Break it.
Reason is I took what I can. Yeah I might regret leaving, yeah I might regret staying but the biggest regret of life would be not enjoying it. I cant enjoy life with someone who doesnt enjoy herself or me. I need to look back at the negatives and the positives and see what is worth more. Obviously im posting here which says something, but I just need a different perspective than the usual civilian saying: oh just marry her, thats the way she goes.
>>675322922
Dubs!!!
>>675320666
Satan, is that you?
There is more to life than just settling down. Id be okay with being a single weirdo occasionally fucking hoes, drugs, and travelling. Rather than slave away for a big house I don't need or kids I never want.
>>675319876
Buy house together.
Relationship fails.
She gets house you helped pay for.
You find shitty house.
or
Start buying your own shitty house now.
Get it paid off.
Have money left over to attract better girl.
Have better sex and more fun.
>>675329530
Eyy! I like your idea. Not OP btw
buy her lottery tickets. this way she wins enough money to buy the house herself. you will feel good about helping her win money. then you can mess up your relationship and force her to kick you so she feels bad .
this way you get to stay with her if you want
feel good no matter what
>>675319876
>I've been dating this girl for nearly 8 years now. I might be getting a house with her but I don't want to make a mistake.
don't have her on title
>cool beans
you ARE an oldfag
>>675319876
>She is pretty and shit
If this is the very single nice think you can say about your gf, FFS, OP, don't buy a house with her !
Anyway, if you just want to "live", and "have no kids, or marry", don't fucking get a house with her, you dumb fuck !
The answer is FUCKING NO !!
How in the world things could turn good ? No fucking way, believe me.
why dont you date a no stress celeb. it would be so chic !you and miss petite could do celeby stuff and be el no stresso
>>675319876
post pic of girl if you want legit advice. also it sounds like you are just going to get divorced in a year if you marry her, doesnt sound like you guys are that good right now
adopt a kid with her and get a colonoscopy at 50
>>675324955
no this is a common bitch tactic to keep you on the hook. they always promise a threesome with another girl in teh future then never deliver, always finding something wrong with every girl
>>675325321
This. My gf just uses it to turn me on/keep me interested. I'm sure when it comes down to it I'm not getting one.
>>675319876
Grow some balls
>OP is a faggot as usual
>>675319876
If you're not happy don't go through with it I have way too many friends who we're great friends and decided to get a house together or get married or have a kid and become adults and everything only to find out that they weren't happy with each other. I know it's going to be tough but I think you should do the right thing cut it off while you can. And besides houses aren't everything. I've lived and big ones and small ones it really doesn't matter so much. The amount of things that you can keep in your house not a good indica tor if you're going to be happy or not
Be straight up with her. Tell her your not happy and if she doesnt make changes you should leave. Its cheaper to break up now than staying.
run bitch
>>675332452
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>>675320736
>>675322440
Yeah you two are probably on your way to common law.
>>675319876
>She is pretty and shit, but she has an attitude about everyting, constantly stressed, and boring. Plus the sex is boring.
The sex thing can be fixed or worked around.
Beauty is irrelevant, cause it will fade in a decade.
But the attitude thing. Dude ... don't do it. Don't lay a foundation for life with such a girl. You know it ain't healthy. You know it will not work out. You FUCKING KNOW!
>>675319876
Dude, bail. If not for you, then for her.
>>675319876
Cheat on her and tell her mom you've always hated her. Leave and burn all bridges. Fuck that. You should have realized who she was 7 years ago and cut it off.
>>675321194
this. I don't know what state you live in, but if it's like mine, buying a house with a woman is just like marrying them
>>675319876
single life is the only answer. also fap fap fap
>>675319876
Look, oldfag to oldfag, leave. You're obviously not that into her. Nut up and find someone else.
>>675319876
If you do you'll watch your relationship die a slow agonizing death, followed by arguments about dividing assets
>>675333318
You'll miss her, but you'll be happier. Definitely better than hating her forever and being unhappy
>>675319876
Flip a coin. Heads you marry her, tails you don't.
If it lands on the one you feel you really don't want, then you just answered your own question and now know your true feelings about it.
>>675319876
Dude - you already know the answer.
Is a nice house more
Important than your happiness?
No fucking way would I buy a house with an angry, unstable woman. You're asking for it.
Pic very related!
>>675319876
dude if you're not sure wether to marry her or not then its already a bad choice ..
>>675334492
This. You're supposed to at least be excited in the beginning, and then let the excitement fade. If you're starting low, where are you going to sink to?
Find someone that isn't boring.
bad sex and craziness are fine, but you can't spend your life with someone boring.
>>675320736
This is exactly what happened to my poor dad.
Just don't fucking do it man.
Relationships with bad sex don't fucking work. Nevermind a fucking house. Easy answer.
Don't fuckin do it, bro.
If you hate it now, you'll hate it later. GG.
>>675319876
bail. bail. get the fuck out. bail. leave. get out. seriously. don't regret your life.
>pic related. regret. disgust.
Break up with the bitch before she actually gets something from killing you. Rent an apartment and find someone you like then settle oldfag
>>675319876
So far you've only had bad things to say about her, aside from her looks.
and looks fade.
Seems to me you've already made up your mind
